#5. Embodying Your Highest Self: How to Live It Today

What happens when you stop waiting to become your future self and simply embody her right now? Discover the radical power of living as if you're already on the other side of transformation.

Most of us believe identity transformation happens after achievement - once we've lost the weight, gotten the degree, healed from heartbreak, or figured everything out. But what if this approach has it backward? Your identity isn't just a story you tell yourself; it's a frequency you're broadcasting into the world that shapes what comes back to you.

The most profound changes happen not by asking "how do I get there?" but "who am I when I'm already there?" This episode dives deep into the science behind identity as energy, backed by Einstein's E=mc² and Tesla's teachings about frequency. Your thoughts carry electrical signals, your emotions add magnetic resonance, and together they create an electromagnetic blueprint that influences everything around you. When you align your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you create coherence that magnetically draws your desires closer.

Through practical embodiment practices like morning check-ins, visualization, body language resets, and detachment rituals, you'll learn how to make the micro-choices that gradually tune you to your highest self's frequency. This isn't about becoming someone you're not - it's about finally allowing yourself to live as the person you've always known was inside you. The universe meets you where you are, but it also rises to meet you wherever you're brave enough to go. Ready to step into your fullest expression? 

Listen now, and remember: you're not lost, you're on the edge of something real.

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Episode Transcript

Kristin (00:08):
You're listening to Edge of Real, a podcast for
women rediscovering who theyreally are, beyond the rules,
roles, timelines andexpectations.
I'm Kristin and I am so gladyou're here.
Hello, my lovely friends, todaywe are talking about identity,
but not in the way peopleusually talk about it.

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We're going to explorerediscovering our identity as a
frequency, something you canembody right now.
We're going into how youridentity, who you believe you
are in this moment creates thefrequency that shapes your
reality.
When the roles shift and thelife you've built feels too

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small, you are feeling this tugtoward wanting something
different, something more more.
You, Instead of waiting untilyou've lost the weight or gotten
the degree or healed from theheartbreak or figured it all out
, what happens when you live asif you already are on the other

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side of that?
What happens if you live asyour highest self, the you you
know you are meant to be now?
That's what we're exploringtoday.
I have seen time and again thatthe biggest transformations in
women I work with come not fromasking how do I get there, but

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from asking who am I when I'malready there?
For most people, this shift ishuge.
For most people, this shift ishuge when I started walking into

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a room as the version of myselfI wanted to be, not someday,
but now my energy shifted.
I spoke differently.
I took better care with myself.
I imagined my higher self as analter ego.
I visualized her on a regularbasis.
She was me, but braver andbigger, clearer, more grounded.
She carried herself differently.
She spoke with more certainty.
She didn't apologize forexisting.

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I began asking myself whatwould she do?
And then I'd try to makechoices like she would.
At first I felt like I waspretending to be someone else,
but the kind of wild thing isthat over time, she stopped
being this imaginary version ofme and she became me version of

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me and she became me.
Somewhere in this process Irealized that I was treating her
like my best friend.
I respected her, I was cheeringfor her, I was holding her in
high regard and eventually, asshe and I merged more and more,
that's how I began treatingmyself loving myself more,
treating myself better.
I even have a reminder set onmy phone twice a day that says

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embody her.
So here's the invitation Createyour own alter ego, name her if
you want, describe her,visualize her, see her.
How does she stand, walk, holdherself.
Then start making tiny choicesthrough her eyes and then,

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eventually, she won't be youralter ego anymore, she'll just
be you, fully lived, fullyaligned, on her way toward
actualization.
Why does this work?
Everything is energy.
Einstein, tesla, so many otherbrilliant minds, scientists,
mathematicians have taught usthis.
Tesla said and with E equals mcsquared Einstein showed us that

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energy and matter areinterchangeable.
He said everything is energyand that's all there is to it.
Match the frequency of thereality you want, and you cannot
help but get that reality.
So it's not just about thinkingdifferently, it's about
aligning your whole beingtogether.
I mean your thoughts, yes, butalso your feelings and even your

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body.
The brain creates the thought,the heart amplifies it with
feeling and the body acts it outthrough daily choices.
When these three are incoherence, you've got that
alignment and you're no longerjust wishing, you are
broadcasting and somethingsynchronistic happens.

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So what does that mean?
It means that your identityisn't just a story you tell
yourself.
It's a frequency you'rebroadcasting.
Your thoughts carry electricalsignals, your emotions add
magnetic resonance and togetherthey create a signal that tells
the world this is who I am.
This isn't magical thinking.

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It's the process of aligningyour inner state with the
reality that you want to live.
Your inner identity says I'mbehind, I'm invisible, I'm not
ready yet.
That's the frequency you'regoing to send out.
But when you shift into, I amalready her right now.
Your frequency changes and lifebegins to meet you at that

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level.
So we often think that changehas to be massive, overnight
shabam, reinvent yourself, burnit all down and rise from the
ashes like the phoenix goddessyou are.
But in reality, change happensin tiny, ordinary decisions.
We make decisions or choices amillion times a day.

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It's not about becoming someoneelse someday.
It's about choosing to makesmall shifts.
Today.
Ask yourself if I were her, howwould I walk into this room If
I were her?
What would I order at lunch IfI were her?
Would I scroll Instagram for 30minutes or would I call the

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friend I've been thinking about?
Every time you make one ofthese choices, you're tuning
yourself to the frequency ofyour highest identity.
So let's ground this into a fewpractical things that you can
put into action this week.
The first of them the morningcheck-in.
As soon as you wake up, askyourself what would she do first

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, and be sure you do this beforeyou pick up your phone Number.
Two visualization as identityrehearsal.
What does it feel like to beher?
What does it feel like in thathighest self, in the body of
that highest self, in the mindof that highest self?
What does it feel like?
Feel it?

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Visualize yourself from thedestination, not toward the
destination.
Number three body language reset.
Soften your shoulders, liftyour chin, take up space.
Sometimes becoming her startsin your posture.
These are embodiment practices.
What does embody even mean?

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It literally means to takesomething intangible, a thought,
an idea, a feeling, and give ita visible, concrete form.
What better way to put thisinto practice For me, even my
fasting practice and the powerposing that we talked about,
standing like Wonder Woman,these are ways to reset, to

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reclaim the energy and thusembody my highest self.
Number four the best friendfilter.
If you wouldn't say it to yourbest friend, don't say it to
yourself.
It's as simple as that.
Number five micro choices.
We talked about this a littlebit At lunch today.

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Ask yourself if I were alreadyher, what would I order?
How would I sit?
These sound like small things,but it's these tiny shifts that
add up.
Number six an energy reset Afteryou have a difficult
conversation, a draininginteraction.
Stand up, shake out your arms,shake your body and imagine

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physically brushing energy offyour body.
Number seven have an anchorhabit.
This is one small daily ritual.
Maybe it's lighting a candle,journaling, a small walk, maybe
it's putting on a specific song,something that connects you to

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her frequency.
Number eight is a detachmentritual.
Have you ever wanted somethingso bad that you grip it almost
in desperation?
That energy will actually repelwhat you desire.
It's an energetic paradox andwhen you need something, you

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push it away.
When you release it, it comescloser.
And I know this sounds allmystical and wooey, but science
actually does back this up froma psychology and biology
perspective.
When we desperately needsomething, whether it's love,
money, clarity we enter thestate of stress and our body

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releases cortisol and thenervous system tightens and we
become hyper focused on the lackof the thing.
Psychologists call thisattentional narrowing.
We literally see fewerpossibilities because our brain
is stuck in survival mode.
It's a frantic energy and itactually repels opportunities

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and even people.
They can feel the tension fromthe energy you're giving off,
but when we relax, release, letgo, stop gripping so tightly.
Our nervous system shiftstoward regulation.
Our cortisol lowers, oxytocinand dopamine rise and our body

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says rise, and our body saysit's okay to be safe.
We're safe now and in thisstate we're more creative, we're
more magnetic.
We notice solutions and ideasthat we didn't see before.
When you look at this from aphysics standpoint, with the law
of attraction talking aboutfrequency and energy, the law of

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attraction, talking aboutfrequency and energy needing,
sends out the frequency of lack.
I don't have it, I'm afraid itwon't come, something's missing.
That's the signal we'rebroadcasting.
But releasing need flips thesignal.
It says.
I trust it's coming, I alreadyam whole, I can relax into
receiving.

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Physics teaches us that likeattracts like.
That's the law of attraction.
So when your inner frequencyshifts from lack to enough, you
attract experiences that matchthat.
One more Told you I was going togo off on a tangent on this one
.
I just want to make youunderstand that the science

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backs this up.
This isn't just this wooey kindof thing that people talk about
.
This is science-based.
This is all based in reality.
So, from quantum mechanics wetalk about something that's
called the observation effect.
Particles exist in infinitepotential until they are

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observed.
So our focus collapses, thiswave of possibilities, into one
outcome.
We talked about this a coupleepisodes back, and if you
haven't listened to that one yet, I would recommend looking up
the double slit experiment onYouTube for further scientific
explanation on this one, if yourfocus is on not having, you

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collapse reality toward more nothaving.
But when you let go, yourobservation shifts to openness
and then more possibilities canthen take shape and can be
available to collapse into thereality.
So this paradox is not really aparadox at all.
It's biology, it's psychology,it's physics, and they're all

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saying the same thing Clingy,needy energy signals lack
scarcity, while relaxed,trusting energy signals
enoughness and magnetizes whatyou want.
I think we've all experiencedsomething like this happening.
The second we stop obsessingdesperately over something, then

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it comes into our life.
So after that hugely lengthydescription, which I might edit
out, we'll see the practical tipboils down to at the end of the
day, write your desire on paper, fold it, put it in a box or a
jar and tell yourself this isbeing handled.

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My job is to live as if it isalready in place.
So why does this work?
Your subconscious doesn't knowthe difference between
imagination and reality.
If you consistently embody thisidentity, even in small ways,
your brain believes it.
You are literally rewiring youridentity.

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You're not faking it.
You are rehearsing truth andover time that rehearsal becomes
reality.
I mean we have to practiceeverything we do right.
Did you come out of the wombknowing how to walk or read?
No, of course not.
You had to practice.
You had to learn and practice.
Does a surgeon automaticallyknow how to take out a

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gallbladder?
No, they have to practice.
When you see yourself as acertain person for example, I
don't eat sugar, I don't smoke,I'm not a smoker that becomes
your identity.
And this isn't about becomingsomeone you're not.
It's about allowing yourself tofinally live as the person
you've always known was insideyou.

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But I want to be clear aboutsomething Not becoming her right
away doesn't mean you'refailing.
Do not let yourself get caughtin the shame trap.
Sometimes the delay is aboutpreparation.
Sometimes it's about protection.
We all know how strong our egois and we know how protective

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our subconscious is.
We can simply say thank you forwanting to protect me, but I
got this.
And sometimes it's aboutbuilding the identity that can
actually hold what you're askingfor.
Why do most lottery winnerslose their fortunes within years
?
Because their identity hasn'tshifted and the old one doesn't

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yet know how to hold how toallow for that much money.
The concept is called energeticcongruence.
You can't just think abundancewhile feeling unworthy.
Most of my clients come to meknowing that they want more out
of their life, but often thebeginning work is to create the

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foundation to even be able tohold more, to allow themselves
to feel safe with having more,with being more.
So I'd like to leave you with ajournal prompt, something to sit
with this week and journalabout.
Ponder on whatever works foryou.
If my highest self walkedbeside me today, what's the

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first thing she'd ask me to dodifferently?
So here is your reminder, myfriend.
You don't have to wait untileverything is perfect to embody
who you are.
Identity is frequency, and youcan tune into that frequency
right now.
You are not behind.
You're in the perfect place toshift identity and energy into

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alignment.
Walk through life like you aremeant to be there because you
are.
The universe meets you whereyou are, but I like to believe
that it also rises to meet youwherever you're brave enough to
go.
If this episode gave yousomething to think about, share
it with a friend who you thinkmight be interested.

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I'd also love to hear youralter ego story, share her name
or her qualities with me onInstagram, at edurailpodcast, or
if you're navigating a seasonof change and feeling unsure
about who you are without theroles you've always carried, you
don't have to figure it outalone.
Let's talk.

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And remember you're not lost.
You're on the edge of somethingreal, so I look forward to
seeing you next week.
Love you, bye-bye.