October 7, 2025 • 19 mins
We explore how self-trust erodes through small betrayals, then rebuild it through nervous system regulation, compassionate reframes, and seven practical steps that create proof you can rely on yourself.
• how self-trust erodes through people-pleasing and overthinking
• signals of lost self-trust such as overexplaining and decision paralysis
• energy, alignment, and why doubt repels what you want
• fear as self-protection and walking with it anyway
• regulating the nervous system to access intuition
• seven steps to rebuild self-trust with micropromises and action
• journal prompts to anchor insight into daily life
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Kristin (00:07):
You're listening to Edge of Real, a podcast for
women rediscovering who theyreally are, beyond rules, roles,
timelines, and expectations.
I'm Kristin, and I am so gladyou're here.
Before I go into today'sepisode, I would like to welcome
all of our new listeners.
We are becoming a strongcommunity of women, of people,
(00:31):
and I want to thank each of youand let you know how much I
appreciate you.
So thank you for being here.
Today we are talking about oneof the most powerful and most
challenging aspects ofself-growth: trusting yourself
again.
Working through this challengeis probably the place that I see
the most transformation in thewomen I coach.
(00:54):
So when was the last time youtruly trusted yourself?
Without second guessing andwithout pulling everyone else
first.
You know the feeling whenyou've asked everyone else for
advice, yet deep down youalready knew what you wanted to
do.
Yeah, that's the little voicewe've all learned to doubt.
(01:14):
And self-trust just erodes overtime, especially for women in
midlife.
It is so easy to lose it afteryears of caretaking and
people-pleasing and adapting toothers' needs.
We start to confuse keepingeveryone else comfortable with
being safe ourselves.
(01:36):
And then one day you realize Ihave stopped believing my own
voice.
So today I want to talk aboutwhat it means to trust yourself
again, not just in big lifedecisions, but in the everyday
moments that shape how you liveand create and manifest the next
version of yourself.
So let this episode serve as aturning point where you start to
(02:00):
deeply trust yourself againafter years of outsourcing that
trust to roles and relationshipsand external validation.
Let's let this moment be thefoundation for growth and
expansion and manifestation andliving authentically as
yourself.
So, how do we lose self-trust?
(02:21):
Well, you know, it generallydoesn't happen all at once.
It's in those tiny momentswhere we override ourselves.
It can happen so gradually thatwe don't even realize it until
we're standing in the grocerystore aisle and can't even
decide what kind of cheese youlike the most, hypothetically
speaking, of course.
(02:41):
That decision paralysis can bea telltale sign that you no
longer trust yourself.
And when we can't make thatsimple decision that has
absolutely nothing riding on it,or when we say yes to something
we don't want to do, when weignore the nudge that something
feels off, when we keep quiet toavoid conflict or to avoid
(03:03):
being called too much.
It's subtle, but over time, itteaches our system a very
dangerous message.
I can't be trusted to handlewhat happens if I honor my
truth.
And that's when we startoutsourcing our power.
We look for validation in otherpeople's opinions, approval,
(03:24):
permissions.
We live from our head insteadof our heart or our intuition.
We ask everyone else what weshould do because we've
forgotten how to listen to thatdeeper knowing that is inside
us.
So how do we know that we'reout of alignment with
self-trust?
It's when you start apologizingfor existing.
(03:45):
It's when you overexplain yourdecisions or feel compelled to
overexplain your decisions.
It's when you have that needfor constant reassurance before
and often after you make achoice.
Feeling paralyzed by choices,even the small ones.
Finding yourself comparing orshrinking next to others.
(04:07):
But it's important that we seethese as signals, not failures.
They are your system asking,can I count on me again?
So just like everything else,self-trust is energy, and energy
doesn't lie.
When you trust yourself, yourenergy says, I'm safe, I'm
ready, I'm capable.
(04:28):
When you doubt yourself, yourenergy says, I'm not sure I can
handle what's coming.
And the universe will alwaysrespond to your most consistent
signal.
So if you are manifestingsomething new, a relationship, a
dream job, more money, but yousecretly doubt your ability to
(04:48):
hold it, the energy of thatdoubt pushes it away.
It's the same law we've talkedabout before.
The energy you live in is theenergy you attract.
So self-trust is of utmostimportance when you are
manifesting, because if youtrust yourself and you trust
that you are co-creating withthe universe or God or a spirit
(05:10):
or higher power or whatever itis you believe in, then you are
more likely to be in alignmentand to call in whatever it is
that you desire.
So ask yourself (05:20):
do I have confidence that I can, or do I
have confidence that I can't?
That small reframe alone canshift things.
One of the most healing thingsyou can do for yourself is to
validate the parts of you thatyou're trying to change instead
of judging them.
(05:41):
The version of you whoprocrastinated, she probably did
that because she was scared.
The one who stayed quiet, shewas probably protecting peace.
The one who sabotagedopportunities, she was trying to
keep you safe fromdisappointment or so-called
failure.
Self-sabotage is reallyself-protection in disguise.
(06:04):
And this is never about makingexcuses.
You can say, I see why you didthat, but I'm ready to move
differently now.
And that's what self-trustsounds like.
(06:24):
I recently heard someone say,validate the negative, but
choose the positive.
Now let's talk about fear,because this is where a lot of
us get stuck.
We subconsciously think, I'llwait until I'm not scared
anymore, and then I'll do it.
But if we don't do somethingabout it, does fear ever fully
(06:47):
go away?
So here's the question I usewith myself.
Will I be any less afraid inthe future?
Six months from now, a year?
Am I willing to never do thisif that fear never goes away?
And if the answer is no, thenwhy not face it now?
You learn to say, I'm scaredand I'm still safe.
(07:11):
I'm scared and I'm stillcapable.
Because every time you actthrough your fear, you prove to
your nervous system and yoursubconscious and yourself that
you can trust yourself to handleit.
And that is how confidence isbuilt, not by never feeling
(07:32):
fear, but by walking with it andcontinuing on anyway.
So let's bring this down to thebody for a moment, because as
with everything, in my opinion,self-trust isn't just mindset
work, it's also nervous systemwork.
When you have spent yearssecond-guessing and overthinking
(07:52):
or people-pleasing, your bodyhas learned that safety comes
from control.
But true self-trust is builtwhen your body starts to feel
safe without control.
So here are a few things that Ipractice.
I ground before I decide.
I might take a few breaths.
I let my body settle before Ianswer anything big.
(08:16):
Maybe I say, I'm safe to choosewhat's right for me.
And then from that calm,regulated place, I'll ask myself
the question or decision pointagain.
So this gives me a minute toreset, but it also allows me to
act from a place that is nottrying to just stay comfortable
(08:36):
because I have decided that I'mbolder than that.
I don't want to just staycomfortable all the time.
I mean, what fun is that?
Another thing that I do toground in my body is just
through movement.
You can literally shake fearout to discharge the nervous
energy, go for a walk, do someyoga, whatever it is that you
(09:00):
like to do when you move yourbody.
And the last thing, and I knowI mentioned this in every
episode, but meditation.
I believe in it 100%.
And it allows me to really comeinto my body and be in the
present moment and just regulateeverything: mind, body, soul.
(09:23):
So when your body feels safe,your intuition gets louder.
And when you act on intuition,you reinforce safety.
So this is that feedback loopof self-trust.
You feel safe, your intuitiongets louder.
You act on that intuition andyou reinforce that you're safe.
So I have seven steps to startrebuilding the self-trust.
(09:49):
Number one, keep micropromisesto yourself.
Start with small commitmentsand follow through.
It can be making yourself gofor a walk when you told
yourself you would, even if youdon't feel like it.
These little promises kept toyourself start to add up, just
like the little betrayals ofourselves did too.
(10:11):
So I used to tell myself that Iwanted to work to banish the
negative self-talk.
I was harder on myself than Iwould ever be on anyone else.
And I needed and wanted tochange that.
But at the time, I didn't trustthat I would actually follow
through.
I'd been wanting to change thatabout myself for years and
(10:34):
hadn't followed through so far.
So the evidence was definitelythere that I couldn't trust
myself to actually followthrough and show up for myself
in this way.
So when I was consciouslylearning to trust myself again,
I would promise myself thatevery time I said something
negative about myself, I wouldstop and say literally the
(10:56):
opposite of that.
And I did this consistently.
It worked in a variety of ways,obviously.
But it definitely helped me totrust myself again because I
followed through on somethingthat was a real challenge for me
initially.
By the way, it did get easierand much less frequent.
Number two, ask yourselfpowerful questions.
(11:18):
I have a few of them here.
What would the version of mewho trusts herself do right now?
So think of someone you trustimplicitly, someone you know
will always follow through ontheir word to you, someone who
will always show up for you,someone who has your back no
matter what.
What would she do?
(11:38):
Because once you get there,that will be you.
And I assure you, it ispossible to get there to that
level of trust in yourself.
Another one you can askyourself, who do I need to be in
order to trust myself?
And what must I believe aboutmyself in order to be this
person, the one who trustsherself?
(12:00):
So this can help you one, getclear on who you want to embody,
and two, challenge any falsethoughts.
You can also ask yourself, whowould I be if I did this?
And who would I be if I didn'tdo this?
And this can help you stay inalignment and thus more able to
(12:21):
trust yourself because you feelthis.
Number three, notice your innerdialogue.
Replace can I with how can I.
So when we engage our thinkingbrain, our prefrontal cortex,
your subconscious tries tointerject.
And your subconscious takes inway more information than your
(12:44):
conscious mind and would verymuch like to just go back to
what is comfortable and what itfeels safe with.
So asking yourself a howquestion allows your oh so eager
to be involved subconscious tosay, ooh, let's see here.
Let's look for evidence of howrather than evidence of why to
(13:04):
stay stuck in the same oldpatterns.
Number four, act on tuition.
Build proof that you can relyon your inner voice.
Notice every time you listen toyour intuition and make sure
you thank yourself for it.
This builds more and more proofto yourself and your mind that
you listen to yourself.
Thus, you will listen toyourself more.
(13:27):
And eventually you will easilybe able to differentiate between
what is a response patternversus acting from your true
self.
Number five, validate yourself.
You don't need permission tofeel certain.
Anytime I find myself fallingback into the pattern of making
(13:47):
myself small, I ask myself, isthis something I do?
If my answer is yes, then I doit.
And this can be, for me, assimple as saying certain things
or saying things in a certainway in a text.
I have a very expressive way oftalking in my text.
And every time I have thethought that maybe it's too much
(14:10):
and try to edit myself, Ithink, no, this is how I talk,
and I'm going to be myself.
And I have built the self-trustto know that I'm comfortable
with who I am.
I refuse to ask myself to beless than I am.
Number six, reframe fear andself-sabotage.
(14:31):
Let it mean that you'regrowing, not failing.
And what if your fear orself-sabotaging behavior was
reframed as self-love?
What if we see it as you lovingyourself and trying to protect
yourself?
We can say, thank you forloving me so much that you want
to protect me.
But I got this now.
(14:53):
And number seven, take inspiredaction.
After every insight, make amove, even a small one.
So to this point, you havechallenged your inability to
trust yourself and you want toget out of that pattern.
You have determined who youwant to be and challenged the
(15:13):
mindset of, well, that's justwho I am.
You have thought of the actionsyou would do as the embodiment
of that self.
So now you can reverseengineer.
Okay, this is the person Iwould like to be.
So what does this person do inthis case?
And what are some of the thingsyou can do today that are more
(15:35):
like what that person would do?
And then, as we've mentioned,the more you do it, trust
yourself, the more you arebuilding proof that this is who
you are.
And that is how self-trustbecomes a muscle again.
So when you trust yourself,life feels different.
Decisions get easier,relationships get healthier,
(15:58):
manifestations arrive fasterbecause your energy is clear.
It's not about becomingfearless, it's about knowing
that whatever comes, you've gotyou.
And that is the power ofalignment.
That's what it feels like to beyour true self, your real self.
So this time I want to leaveyou with a few journal prompts
(16:20):
to explore, in addition to theseveral questions that I've
already posed in thisdiscussion.
Where in your life are youstill outsourcing your trust?
What's one small promise youcan keep to yourself today?
And how would you act if youfully believed your intuition
(16:41):
was always right?
If this episode resonated withyou, please share it with a
friend.
Also, feel free to leave me areview on Apple Podcasts or
Spotify to help me reach morewomen who could use this kind of
message and support.
It is time to rebuild thatfoundation of self-trust in your
own life.
Not just in theory, but rightnow in real time.
(17:03):
Work through the patterns thatkeep you second-guessing.
Take aligned action and buildthe confidence to trust yourself
again fully.
Because you deserve to live alife that feels like you can
trust yourself to handleanything.
And until next time, I want youto know that I believe in you.
Now it's time to believe inyourself and trust that you have
(17:27):
got this.
You are a badass and you canhandle anything.
Thank you so much for beinghere with me today.
And remember, you're not lost.
You're on the edge of somethingreal.
Love you.
Bye-bye.
If what we talked about todayfeels close to home, if you're
(17:48):
tired of dimming yourself down,second guessing every decision,
or feeling like you've losttrack of who you really are, I
want you to know you don't haveto figure it out alone.
This is exactly the work I dowith women in my one-to-one
coaching experience.
Together, we talk throughwhat's keeping you stuck,
reconnect you with the truestversion of yourself, and create
(18:09):
simple, empowering steps thathelp you move forward with
clarity, confidence, and a clearpath.
Knowing the steps is one thing,but actually walking them out
is another.
That's where coaching becomesso powerful.
I'll be there to help you stayaccountable, to support you when
old habits try to pull you backand to keep you moving forward
(18:29):
even when the path feels boggy.
Sometimes we all need a guide,someone who can hold the mirror,
remind us who we are, and walkalongside us until we're steady
in that truth ourselves.
If you've been listening andthinking, yes, that is what I
need, I'd love to invite you tobook a free discovery call with
(18:50):
me through the link in the shownotes.
I'd love to meet you and walkthis path of rediscovery with
you.
Because the edge isn't the end,it's the becoming
You're listening to Edge of Real, a podcast for
women rediscovering who theyreally are, beyond rules, roles,
timelines, and expectations.
I'm Kristin, and I am so gladyou're here.
Before I go into today'sepisode, I would like to welcome
all of our new listeners.
We are becoming a strongcommunity of women, of people,
(00:31):
and I want to thank each of youand let you know how much I
appreciate you.
So thank you for being here.
Today we are talking about oneof the most powerful and most
challenging aspects ofself-growth: trusting yourself
again.
Working through this challengeis probably the place that I see
the most transformation in thewomen I coach.
(00:54):
So when was the last time youtruly trusted yourself?
Without second guessing andwithout pulling everyone else
first.
You know the feeling whenyou've asked everyone else for
advice, yet deep down youalready knew what you wanted to
do.
Yeah, that's the little voicewe've all learned to doubt.
(01:14):
And self-trust just erodes overtime, especially for women in
midlife.
It is so easy to lose it afteryears of caretaking and
people-pleasing and adapting toothers' needs.
We start to confuse keepingeveryone else comfortable with
being safe ourselves.
(01:36):
And then one day you realize Ihave stopped believing my own
voice.
So today I want to talk aboutwhat it means to trust yourself
again, not just in big lifedecisions, but in the everyday
moments that shape how you liveand create and manifest the next
version of yourself.
So let this episode serve as aturning point where you start to
(02:00):
deeply trust yourself againafter years of outsourcing that
trust to roles and relationshipsand external validation.
Let's let this moment be thefoundation for growth and
expansion and manifestation andliving authentically as
yourself.
So, how do we lose self-trust?
(02:21):
Well, you know, it generallydoesn't happen all at once.
It's in those tiny momentswhere we override ourselves.
It can happen so gradually thatwe don't even realize it until
we're standing in the grocerystore aisle and can't even
decide what kind of cheese youlike the most, hypothetically
speaking, of course.
(02:41):
That decision paralysis can bea telltale sign that you no
longer trust yourself.
And when we can't make thatsimple decision that has
absolutely nothing riding on it,or when we say yes to something
we don't want to do, when weignore the nudge that something
feels off, when we keep quiet toavoid conflict or to avoid
(03:03):
being called too much.
It's subtle, but over time, itteaches our system a very
dangerous message.
I can't be trusted to handlewhat happens if I honor my
truth.
And that's when we startoutsourcing our power.
We look for validation in otherpeople's opinions, approval,
(03:24):
permissions.
We live from our head insteadof our heart or our intuition.
We ask everyone else what weshould do because we've
forgotten how to listen to thatdeeper knowing that is inside
us.
So how do we know that we'reout of alignment with
self-trust?
It's when you start apologizingfor existing.
(03:45):
It's when you overexplain yourdecisions or feel compelled to
overexplain your decisions.
It's when you have that needfor constant reassurance before
and often after you make achoice.
Feeling paralyzed by choices,even the small ones.
Finding yourself comparing orshrinking next to others.
(04:07):
But it's important that we seethese as signals, not failures.
They are your system asking,can I count on me again?
So just like everything else,self-trust is energy, and energy
doesn't lie.
When you trust yourself, yourenergy says, I'm safe, I'm
ready, I'm capable.
(04:28):
When you doubt yourself, yourenergy says, I'm not sure I can
handle what's coming.
And the universe will alwaysrespond to your most consistent
signal.
So if you are manifestingsomething new, a relationship, a
dream job, more money, but yousecretly doubt your ability to
(04:48):
hold it, the energy of thatdoubt pushes it away.
It's the same law we've talkedabout before.
The energy you live in is theenergy you attract.
So self-trust is of utmostimportance when you are
manifesting, because if youtrust yourself and you trust
that you are co-creating withthe universe or God or a spirit
(05:10):
or higher power or whatever itis you believe in, then you are
more likely to be in alignmentand to call in whatever it is
that you desire.
So ask yourself (05:20):
do I have confidence that I can, or do I
have confidence that I can't?
That small reframe alone canshift things.
One of the most healing thingsyou can do for yourself is to
validate the parts of you thatyou're trying to change instead
of judging them.
(05:41):
The version of you whoprocrastinated, she probably did
that because she was scared.
The one who stayed quiet, shewas probably protecting peace.
The one who sabotagedopportunities, she was trying to
keep you safe fromdisappointment or so-called
failure.
Self-sabotage is reallyself-protection in disguise.
(06:04):
And this is never about makingexcuses.
You can say, I see why you didthat, but I'm ready to move
differently now.
And that's what self-trustsounds like.
(06:24):
I recently heard someone say,validate the negative, but
choose the positive.
Now let's talk about fear,because this is where a lot of
us get stuck.
We subconsciously think, I'llwait until I'm not scared
anymore, and then I'll do it.
But if we don't do somethingabout it, does fear ever fully
(06:47):
go away?
So here's the question I usewith myself.
Will I be any less afraid inthe future?
Six months from now, a year?
Am I willing to never do thisif that fear never goes away?
And if the answer is no, thenwhy not face it now?
You learn to say, I'm scaredand I'm still safe.
(07:11):
I'm scared and I'm stillcapable.
Because every time you actthrough your fear, you prove to
your nervous system and yoursubconscious and yourself that
you can trust yourself to handleit.
And that is how confidence isbuilt, not by never feeling
(07:32):
fear, but by walking with it andcontinuing on anyway.
So let's bring this down to thebody for a moment, because as
with everything, in my opinion,self-trust isn't just mindset
work, it's also nervous systemwork.
When you have spent yearssecond-guessing and overthinking
(07:52):
or people-pleasing, your bodyhas learned that safety comes
from control.
But true self-trust is builtwhen your body starts to feel
safe without control.
So here are a few things that Ipractice.
I ground before I decide.
I might take a few breaths.
I let my body settle before Ianswer anything big.
(08:16):
Maybe I say, I'm safe to choosewhat's right for me.
And then from that calm,regulated place, I'll ask myself
the question or decision pointagain.
So this gives me a minute toreset, but it also allows me to
act from a place that is nottrying to just stay comfortable
(08:36):
because I have decided that I'mbolder than that.
I don't want to just staycomfortable all the time.
I mean, what fun is that?
Another thing that I do toground in my body is just
through movement.
You can literally shake fearout to discharge the nervous
energy, go for a walk, do someyoga, whatever it is that you
(09:00):
like to do when you move yourbody.
And the last thing, and I knowI mentioned this in every
episode, but meditation.
I believe in it 100%.
And it allows me to really comeinto my body and be in the
present moment and just regulateeverything: mind, body, soul.
(09:23):
So when your body feels safe,your intuition gets louder.
And when you act on intuition,you reinforce safety.
So this is that feedback loopof self-trust.
You feel safe, your intuitiongets louder.
You act on that intuition andyou reinforce that you're safe.
So I have seven steps to startrebuilding the self-trust.
(09:49):
Number one, keep micropromisesto yourself.
Start with small commitmentsand follow through.
It can be making yourself gofor a walk when you told
yourself you would, even if youdon't feel like it.
These little promises kept toyourself start to add up, just
like the little betrayals ofourselves did too.
(10:11):
So I used to tell myself that Iwanted to work to banish the
negative self-talk.
I was harder on myself than Iwould ever be on anyone else.
And I needed and wanted tochange that.
But at the time, I didn't trustthat I would actually follow
through.
I'd been wanting to change thatabout myself for years and
(10:34):
hadn't followed through so far.
So the evidence was definitelythere that I couldn't trust
myself to actually followthrough and show up for myself
in this way.
So when I was consciouslylearning to trust myself again,
I would promise myself thatevery time I said something
negative about myself, I wouldstop and say literally the
(10:56):
opposite of that.
And I did this consistently.
It worked in a variety of ways,obviously.
But it definitely helped me totrust myself again because I
followed through on somethingthat was a real challenge for me
initially.
By the way, it did get easierand much less frequent.
Number two, ask yourselfpowerful questions.
(11:18):
I have a few of them here.
What would the version of mewho trusts herself do right now?
So think of someone you trustimplicitly, someone you know
will always follow through ontheir word to you, someone who
will always show up for you,someone who has your back no
matter what.
What would she do?
(11:38):
Because once you get there,that will be you.
And I assure you, it ispossible to get there to that
level of trust in yourself.
Another one you can askyourself, who do I need to be in
order to trust myself?
And what must I believe aboutmyself in order to be this
person, the one who trustsherself?
(12:00):
So this can help you one, getclear on who you want to embody,
and two, challenge any falsethoughts.
You can also ask yourself, whowould I be if I did this?
And who would I be if I didn'tdo this?
And this can help you stay inalignment and thus more able to
(12:21):
trust yourself because you feelthis.
Number three, notice your innerdialogue.
Replace can I with how can I.
So when we engage our thinkingbrain, our prefrontal cortex,
your subconscious tries tointerject.
And your subconscious takes inway more information than your
(12:44):
conscious mind and would verymuch like to just go back to
what is comfortable and what itfeels safe with.
So asking yourself a howquestion allows your oh so eager
to be involved subconscious tosay, ooh, let's see here.
Let's look for evidence of howrather than evidence of why to
(13:04):
stay stuck in the same oldpatterns.
Number four, act on tuition.
Build proof that you can relyon your inner voice.
Notice every time you listen toyour intuition and make sure
you thank yourself for it.
This builds more and more proofto yourself and your mind that
you listen to yourself.
Thus, you will listen toyourself more.
(13:27):
And eventually you will easilybe able to differentiate between
what is a response patternversus acting from your true
self.
Number five, validate yourself.
You don't need permission tofeel certain.
Anytime I find myself fallingback into the pattern of making
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myself small, I ask myself, isthis something I do?
If my answer is yes, then I doit.
And this can be, for me, assimple as saying certain things
or saying things in a certainway in a text.
I have a very expressive way oftalking in my text.
And every time I have thethought that maybe it's too much
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and try to edit myself, Ithink, no, this is how I talk,
and I'm going to be myself.
And I have built the self-trustto know that I'm comfortable
with who I am.
I refuse to ask myself to beless than I am.
Number six, reframe fear andself-sabotage.
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Let it mean that you'regrowing, not failing.
And what if your fear orself-sabotaging behavior was
reframed as self-love?
What if we see it as you lovingyourself and trying to protect
yourself?
We can say, thank you forloving me so much that you want
to protect me.
But I got this now.
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And number seven, take inspiredaction.
After every insight, make amove, even a small one.
So to this point, you havechallenged your inability to
trust yourself and you want toget out of that pattern.
You have determined who youwant to be and challenged the
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mindset of, well, that's justwho I am.
You have thought of the actionsyou would do as the embodiment
of that self.
So now you can reverseengineer.
Okay, this is the person Iwould like to be.
So what does this person do inthis case?
And what are some of the thingsyou can do today that are more
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like what that person would do?
And then, as we've mentioned,the more you do it, trust
yourself, the more you arebuilding proof that this is who
you are.
And that is how self-trustbecomes a muscle again.
So when you trust yourself,life feels different.
Decisions get easier,relationships get healthier,
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manifestations arrive fasterbecause your energy is clear.
It's not about becomingfearless, it's about knowing
that whatever comes, you've gotyou.
And that is the power ofalignment.
That's what it feels like to beyour true self, your real self.
So this time I want to leaveyou with a few journal prompts
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to explore, in addition to theseveral questions that I've
already posed in thisdiscussion.
Where in your life are youstill outsourcing your trust?
What's one small promise youcan keep to yourself today?
And how would you act if youfully believed your intuition
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was always right?
If this episode resonated withyou, please share it with a
friend.
Also, feel free to leave me areview on Apple Podcasts or
Spotify to help me reach morewomen who could use this kind of
message and support.
It is time to rebuild thatfoundation of self-trust in your
own life.
Not just in theory, but rightnow in real time.
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Work through the patterns thatkeep you second-guessing.
Take aligned action and buildthe confidence to trust yourself
again fully.
Because you deserve to live alife that feels like you can
trust yourself to handleanything.
And until next time, I want youto know that I believe in you.
Now it's time to believe inyourself and trust that you have
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got this.
You are a badass and you canhandle anything.
Thank you so much for beinghere with me today.
And remember, you're not lost.
You're on the edge of somethingreal.
Love you.
Bye-bye.
If what we talked about todayfeels close to home, if you're
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tired of dimming yourself down,second guessing every decision,
or feeling like you've losttrack of who you really are, I
want you to know you don't haveto figure it out alone.
This is exactly the work I dowith women in my one-to-one
coaching experience.
Together, we talk throughwhat's keeping you stuck,
reconnect you with the truestversion of yourself, and create
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simple, empowering steps thathelp you move forward with
clarity, confidence, and a clearpath.
Knowing the steps is one thing,but actually walking them out
is another.
That's where coaching becomesso powerful.
I'll be there to help you stayaccountable, to support you when
old habits try to pull you backand to keep you moving forward
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even when the path feels boggy.
Sometimes we all need a guide,someone who can hold the mirror,
remind us who we are, and walkalongside us until we're steady
in that truth ourselves.
If you've been listening andthinking, yes, that is what I
need, I'd love to invite you tobook a free discovery call with
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me through the link in the shownotes.
I'd love to meet you and walkthis path of rediscovery with
you.
Because the edge isn't the end,it's the becoming
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