The 'Tradwife' Illusion: How a Viral Trend Masks a Global Power Play

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Season 10, Episode 6

In our 6th episode of season 10, we focus on the trending tradwife movement and how it is framed as some unique trend when in reality it is part of the global authoritarian push to remove autonomy from half of the planet. It regresses civil rights to a time when Women no longer had rights and were treated as property, similar to how slavery was in our recent past:

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Episode Transcript

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Welcome to the Deep dive. We're your shortcut to being
genuinely well informed. We take a stack of sources,
articles, research our own notes, and we pull out the most
crucial bits, the insights you need today.
We're plunging into something that you know, at first glance
seems pretty straightforward, like a personal lifestyle
choice. I returned to simpler times,
maybe. But, well, our main source for

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this deep dive says there's a lot more going on beneath the
surface. We're talking about the trad
wife phenomenon. Our central piece is an article
called The Trad Wife Illusion, How a viral trend masks a global
power play. It's from Educate the Planet.
You might remember them as Educate the Resistance, and it
doesn't pull any punches right from the start.
Its core message, which we're going to really unpack here, is

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this. Beneath the vintage aprons and
curated kick insurance lies a strategy to distract, divide and
consolidate power while everydaywomen bear the cost.
Well, OK, so that statement alone really frames what we're
doing today. Is this just, you know, a nice
domestic aesthetic, personal preference?
Or is it tangled up with something much bigger or
something more strategic, even global?

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OK, let's let's really get into this.
Yeah. And what's truly fascinating
here, and what that article immediately makes you think
about is how something that feels so personal, so intimate,
like a lifestyle choice, how that can actually resonate with
these huge, wide reaching geopolitical implications.
The whole idea of the article points to this larger global
picture, right, Where, you know,all the progress we've made on

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gender equality over decades is suddenly facing these these
challenges from like a return ofreally traditional, sometimes
pretty rigid norms. It's a it's a strong reminder,
isn't it, that in our world today, things are rarely just
simple or innocent. Not like they might look online
anyway. We really have to look past the
nice pictures, the the romanticized stuff to try and

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grasp the deeper things, the intentions that might be driving
these trends. It makes you ask why now?
Why is this specific thing popping up again, and who might
actually be benefiting from it? That's exactly where we need to
start understanding what the trad wife movement looks like on
the surface versus what the article suggests is really going
on underneath. So let's begin with the, you

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know, the public face of it, trad wife.
It's short for traditional life,obviously.
And at its core, it promotes this lifestyle where women
actively embrace, even idealize these very traditional roles.
Homemaker caregiver is often framed almost nostalgically like
a return to a better time, a time when a woman's quote,

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natural and fulfilling purpose was supposedly found in the
home. You know, cooking, cleaning,
raising kids, making the home this perfect nurturing space.
The language used often talks about finding peace,
authenticity, real satisfaction in doing these specific things,
positioning it as like the opposite of the stressful modern
career focused life. And this isn't some tiny corner
of the Internet. The article is clear.

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This thing has gone viral big time mostly because of social
media, right TikTok, Instagram, they amplify everything.
Think about it. You scroll through your feed,
you probably seen content from influencers like Este Williams
or Hannah Neilman. They're huge.
They've become these really prominent figures, carefully
creating and sharing these images that just romanticize
every little bit of domestic life and traditional family

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setups. Those visuals are key.
Totally. You see these perfectly clean,
often vintage looking homes, right?
Tables piled high with amazing home cooks, food, kids playing
happily outside. It all looks so effortlessly
perfect, like a movie set almost.
So for lots of people seeing this, it probably just looks
like a personal thing, an aesthetic choice.

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Maybe they're looking for calm, rejecting the chaos of modern
life. Or maybe it feels like a
spiritual path. It looks like a haven.
Exactly a personal haven. But the big question the article
throws out right away when the one we need to keep asking is
can something that looks so nice, so personal, actually be
part of something way more complex, Something strategic?
And that is precisely the turning point where the article

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really shifts our view from thatappealing surface, the pretty
pictures, to the potentially, well, unsettling substance
underneath. It argues pretty strongly that
this movement is more than a nostalgic return to the past.
From this critical perspective, it's shown not as just, you
know, something that bubbled up organically, culturally, but

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maybe as a deliberate tool, a tool that actually reinforces
these old, outdated power dynamics and crucially,
undermines the progress we fought so hard for on gender
equality. Right undermining progress.
Think about what that means by glorifying a time when women had
fewer rights and choices. This whole ideology, whatever
the intentions of the individuals involved,

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fundamentally risks taking society backward.
We're not just talking about someone liking baking bread or
gardening here. We're talking about implicitly
endorsing, maybe even subtly pushing for a social structure
where women's roles were historically, legally,
culturally just smaller. Yeah, dependent, economically,
often no control over their own bodies, not really present in
public life. Exactly.

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Which brings up this absolutely vital question for everyone,
really. When does a personal lifestyle
choice cross the line and become, maybe without even
realizing it, a political statement or, going further, a
strategic tool in someone else'slarger game plan?
The article strongly suggests it's the latter.
It suggests A calculated move that goes way beyond individual

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kitchens and into, well, geopolitics.
OK, now this is where the article gets really interesting,
because it pulls us out of the realm of just personal choices
and pretty kitchens and drops right into the middle of
geopolitics power structures. It makes a bold claim a pretty
unsettling 1 frankly. Says the rise of the trad wife
movement coincides with a globalsurge in authoritarian and

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oligarchic power structures. Coincides.
That's a strong word. It is, and the article doesn't
just say they're happening at the same time.
It argues there's a direct strategic link.
It puts forward this idea that leaders and ideologies that
promote traditional gender rolesoften seek to consolidate power
by limiting women's autonomy andreinforcing patriarchal systems.

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And it doesn't hold back. It underlines this by stating
this alignment is not coincidental.
It's framing this as a deliberate strategy.
Not just happening in parallel, but connective.
Connective. Think of it maybe like a
magician's trick misdirection. Our attention is totally focused
on one hand, the one you know, folding laundry perfectly,
baking beautiful bread, making the home look amazing on

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Instagram with nice music. The curated perfection.
Right. We're absorbed by the look, the
personal stories, the apparent innocence of the choice.
But while we're watching that hand, the article suggests the
other hand is doing the real work, quietly shifting the
actual foundations of power, societal control.
So the trad wife narrative becomes a distraction.
Exactly. A carefully constructed

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diversion, according to this view.
A smokescreen designed to be so appealing, so seemingly
harmless, that it pulls our collective focus away from the
deeper systemic changes happening in the background.
Changes that affect how we're governed, what rights we have,
our economic reality, everyone'sreality.
Wow, that's that's a powerful way to frame how culture can be

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used for political goals. Yes, and the article goes into
more detail on this strategy of distraction.
It explains how the trad wife narrative serves as a
distraction from pressing issues, and it lists them very
specifically big systemic problems, economic inequality,
political corruption, and the erosion of democratic
institutions. Huge issues, the kind that needs

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serious public attention. Absolutely.
These things demand widespread focus, critical thinking,
informed debate, and really importantly, collective action
from people who are paying attention.
But if you shift the public conversation onto what the
article calls a manufactured culture war over gender roles,
you know, arguments about how women should dress or spend
their time or what their naturalplace is, then attention gets

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pulled away from the bigger problem.
Precisely. It draws people into these very
personal, often really emotionaldebates about home life and
social roles, instead of lookingcritically at how the government
is working, or how the economy might be rigged to benefit only
a few, or how basic democratic freedoms might be quietly
disappearing. It's like a divide and conquer

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tactic. That's exactly the mechanism
described. It's incredibly effective
because it plays on existing cultural anxieties and
divisions, and it makes them worse.
When people are busy fighting these internal cultural battles,
especially ones about really personal stuff like family
gender fulfillment, it becomes much harder for them to unite
against the systemic problems that actually affect everyone.

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Right drains energy, breaks downsolidarity.
It makes it tough to build the broad coalition's you need for
real change. So who wins in this scenario?
Who benefits from diverting everyone's attention?
The article is very clear. This strategy benefits those in
power by keeping the populace divided and distracted,
preventing collective action that could challenge the status

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quo. So it keeps things as they are,
protecting those already in charge.
Connect that to the bigger picture, and it's undeniably
about control. Consolidating power?
Look, limiting people's autonomy, especially woman's
autonomy. That's a classic move in the
authoritarian playbook, historically speaking.
From restricting education to limiting public roles.
Right controlling woman's roles often goes hand in hand with or

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comes before wider crackdowns oncivil liberties.
What's maybe sophisticated or insidious here is using these
seemingly nice, attractive cultural trends, like the trad
wife thing, to achieve that control, because it normalizes,
it even romanticizes the very restrictions it wants to impose.
That's subtle. It is.
It's a subtle but really effective way to consolidate

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power, hiding a political agendabehind this appealing mask of
tradition and personal happiness.
OK, so that brings us to a really vital point.
If this is a strategic power play, what does it actually mean
for everyday women, particularlythose who aren't, you know,
curating a perfect domestic lifefor social media?
The article makes a powerful shift here, challenging that

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glossy image and bringing us back down to earth, back to
lived reality. It points out a stark truth, one
that often gets ignored. For many working class women,
the trad wife ideal is not a choice but a consequence of
economic necessity. That's absolutely critical to
understand. It's not about choice for
everyone, no. For these women, it's not about

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wanting a specific look or finding fulfillment solely at
home. It's often about pure survival.
They might be forced into situations where one parent has
to stay home because childcare costs are just cripplingly high.
Or there just aren't affordable options available.
Right, or wages are so low that working outside the home barely
covers the cost of doing so, Like transport and childcare.
The choice to stay home becomes something forced on them by

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outside pressures, not somethingthey freely chose.
So the dream becomes a trap, almost.
And this is where the psychological pressure really
ramps up, because the glorification of domestic life
presented so beautifully by these influencers, it overlooks
the realities faced by those whocannot afford to stay at home.
Imagine the intense pressure, the guilt this creates.

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If the main story being told, amplified through these perfect
social media feeds, says that real happiness for women is only
found at home, what does that doto the feelings of inadequacy
and guilt among women who must work to support their families?
It's a terrible bind. It's a.
Cruel double bind. You have the economic need to
work, often in tough jobs, and at the same time you face this

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social pressure, this implied judgement for not living up to
some idealized, often impossibledomestic standard.
That's more than just financial stress.
That's a deep psychological manipulation.
Yeah, can really erode yourself worth, create huge internal
conflict and all the while the article suggests external forces
are because this narrative keepspeople divided and distracted.

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And this connects directly to another really critical point
that article raises the commodification of struggle.
It argues that the trad wife movement often commodifies the
very struggles it purports to address.
Commodifies struggle. What does that mean exactly?
Think about how insidious that is.
The real economic pressures, thedifficult decisions families
face about work and home life, the genuine challenges.

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These aren't just problems anymore.
They've become content. Right, packaged up.
Exactly repackaged, cleaned up, sanitized, and then sold back to
us as this desirable romantic lifestyle.
As the article says, influencersprofit from promoting a
lifestyle that many cannot afford.
This builds up what it calls a false narrative that this way of
life is attainable for all. Like a fantasy.

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A beautifully curated fantasy, yeah.
Completely detached from the reality of trying to budget for
groceries, finding decent childcare, or just making ends
meet when wages aren't keeping up.
The narrative kind of suggests, oh, if you just organized your
pantry better, or baked more, orsimply chose this life, your
problems would disappear. When in reality, for so many

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people, those problems are systemic, they're huge, and
they're not going away because you bought a new apron.
So this. Commercial aspect, it does more
than just sell an illusion. Oh, definitely.
According to the article, it further entrenches class
divisions and perpetuates unrealistic expectations.
It basically sets up this two tier system.

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You have people with existing financial privilege who might
actually have the genuine choiceto pursue this lifestyle if they
want to, but then you have the vast majority people without
that safety net who might be pushed into similar situations
purely out of necessity. And then made to feel bad if
their reality doesn't look like the influencer version.
Precisely made to feel inadequate, it creates this gap,

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this resentment, misunderstanding between women
from different economic backgrounds, which again serves
to divide people. So it really makes you ask that
crucial question, when a trend, no matter how innocent it seems
at first, gets monetized and pushed commercially, does its
original appeal get totally swamped by an agenda that's more
about profit than about genuine choice or people's well-being?

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The article makes a very strong case that yeah, with the trad
wife movement, this isn't reallyabout empowering women with
broad choices. It's more about creating a
market around a very specific, quite limiting ideal.
An ideal that mostly benefits the influencers at the top and
on a bigger scale, those who gain from a distracted and
divided population. OK, so if we take the articles
argument seriously that this movement is a strategic play to

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distract, divide and consolidatepower, what's the way forward?
What do we do? Well, the article doesn't just
leave us hanging. It offers a clear, proactive
path. It stresses that to combat the
divisive and distracting narratives, it is essential to
focus on education, solidarity and collective action.
Education, solidarity, collective action, those are
powerful ideas. They are, and they're not just

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abstract concepts. They mean a fundamental shift in
how we engage with these kinds of subtle cultural trends.
It's a call to move past just scrolling and passively
consuming and into active informed participation.
Getting involved? Exactly.
The article points to broader solutions too, suggesting that
movements that promote gender equality, workers rights, and

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democratic governance offer pathways to empower individuals
and communities. It's about seeing the
connections right, recognizing that limiting women's autonomy,
for instance, is often tied up with bigger attempts to limit
all freedoms, to shut down dissent, to undermine democracy
itself. They're interconnected issues.
Deeply so By actively supportingand getting involved in

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movements that fight for these broader human and civil rights,
we can start tackling the underlying systemic pressures,
the things that might make someone feel pushed towards or
vulnerable to the trad wife ideal in the first place.
And build resilience against that underlying authoritarian
agenda. Yes, building a society where
real, informed choice is the standard, not just a luxury for

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a few. And this is exactly where that
critical thinking has to meet collective action.
The article isn't just theoretical.
It points to concrete examples, real organizations, initiatives
already working on this. It specifically mentions groups
like the Global Fund for Women and the International Women's
Health Coalition. Right.
Groups doing actual work. Yeah, these groups aren't just

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talking. They're out there on the front
lines, working hard to dismantlepatriarchal systems and promote
policies that support gender equality.
Their work is crucial because they tackle the systemic stuff,
the legal barriers, the economicinequality, the social norms
that limit women's choices. They're pushing back against the
very structures the trad wife movement, intentionally or not,

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ends up reinforcing. So it's about supporting that
groundwork. It is, and the emphasis is on
grassroots impact, the idea thatreal power comes from people
being informed and engaged. The article really stresses that
supporting these organizations and participating in grassroots
movements can help shift the focus from divisive cultural
debates to substantive issues that affect people's lives.

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That feels key moving away from the online arguments.
Exactly. Instead of getting endlessly
stuck in those arguments about gender roles, which as we've
discussed, can be a deliberate distraction, we can consciously
choose to put our energy, our resources, our time into things
that make a real, tangible difference.
Understanding the why behind these trends, the deeper

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strategies, lets us effectively support the how the practical
steps towards a fairer society. It's about moving from just
consuming narratives to activelyhelping shape a future where
freedom and autonomy grow, not shrink, counteracting that power
consolidation we talked about with genuine collective
strength. OK, so this is where we bring it
right back to you. Listening right now.
What can you do? The article gives us clear,

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actionable steps, something you can do today, and it starts
wisely, with the most powerful tool we have, knowledge.
It strongly urges us begin by educating yourself and others
about the origins and implications of the trad wife
movement. And look, this isn't about
judging anyone's personal choices.
It's really about understanding the bigger picture, the history,

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the potential strategies behind what looks like just a harmless
trend seeing beneath the surface.
Context is everything. It really is, and part of that
immediate action is actively sharing resources, resources
that highlight the historical context of gender roles and the
importance of gender equality. Knowledge is power, right?
And if we can contextualize these discussions, it helps
expose the underlying agendas, makes it harder for manipulative

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narratives to stick. And beyond just learning, the
article crucially suggests we engage in conversations that
challenge traditional narrativesand promote inclusive
perspectives. That means speaking up, asking
questions, being part of the dialogue online, in person, in a
way that builds understanding, finds common ground instead of

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just deepening the divides. Constructive conversation.
Yes, and if you're looking for apowerful, concise message to
share, something that captures the spirit of genuine
empowerment, the article offers this great line.
True empowerment comes from choice, not conformity.
Let's build a world where all women have the freedom to define
their own paths. That's a fantastic quote.

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Really sums it up, doesn't it? It's a powerful principle to
guide. Us.
It really does, and it perfectlyreinforces the So what?
Of everything we've talked aboutin this deep dive, the core
message is crystal clear. Knowledge isn't just abstract
power. It's fundamental.
It's essential for keeping democratic institutions healthy
and protecting individual freedoms, being critically aware
of these seemingly harmless cultural trends.

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It's absolutely crucial today with so much information
swirling around. It's not about telling people
how to live. Not at all.
It's about understanding the subtle forces, often hidden,
that might be shaping those perceived choices, and making
sure those choices are truly free, truly informed, not just a
side effect of some larger manipulative power play designed

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to reduce autonomy. Right, and this all leads to a
bigger vision, doesn't it? About actively building the
world you want to live in, not just passively accepting 1
dictated by others, especially by forces trying to grab power
and limit freedom, both yours and everyone else's.
And the source article offers ways to engage further.
It does. The article we've been
discussing is from Educate the Planet, formerly Educate the

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Resistance. They're actively committed to
providing tools for this kind of.
Critical thinking and collectiveaction.
You can find them online. They have a blue ski profile,
it's Balonzi dot app profile, Educate the Planet dot B ski dot
social and even more. You can explore their free
global civic education resources.
They're openly available on [e-mail]/freeciviseducation.

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Wow, OK, so concrete resources people can check out.
Absolutely real pathways to learn more, get more involved,
and support the kind of work that genuinely promotes freedom,
critical thinking and collectiveempowerment.
Maybe the biggest thing to take away from all this is that real
freedom. It isn't found and rigidly
sticking to prescribed roles or old expectations.

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It's found in the informed liberty we have to define our
own paths, and, crucially, the liberty to challenge any
narrative, any movement that tries to take that fundamental
choice away from anyone for any reason.
That's a powerful final thought.What an incredibly important and
frankly eye opening deep dive this has been.
We started by looking at the charming surface of the trad

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wife movement, but quickly peel back those layers thanks to our
source article. We saw how it can be viewed as a
sophisticated strategy for distraction, for division, for
consolidating power. We explored the real world
impact, especially how this idealized image can clash
harshly with the economic realities faced by many working
class women, creating pressure and unrealistic expectations.

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Yeah, the disconnect is stark. And maybe most crucially, we
covered the article. Strong counter narrative, the
call for education, for solidarity, for collective
action as the way to build genuine empowerment and protect
democratic values against these kinds of divisive tactics.
It's a call to awareness and action.
It really is. So we genuinely hope you

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continue these vital conversations, share these
insights with people in your life and your communities, and
do check out the resources from Educate the Planet, formally
Educate the Resistance. Their mission to foster
collective action, to empower through knowledge.
It really aligns with what we try to do here on the Deep Dive.
Thank you so much for joining uson this essential exploration
today.