How to Parent Well After Arguing in Front of Kids with Dr. Laura Spiller

Ever found yourself arguing in front of kids - and then spiraling about whether you’ve just done irreversible damage? You're not alone. 

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Laura Spiller, clinical psychologist and expert in emotionally focused therapy, to unpack what to do after arguing in front of kids, how to repair with your child, and why your response after the conflict matters just as much - if not more - than the argument itself.

We get into the research, the long term effects of parents fighting, and how you can use these tough moments as teachable ones - without oversharing or sweeping it under the rug.

We also talk about what happens when parents arguing in front of child repeatedly, and the subtle but serious effects of yelling at spouse in front of child - something that happens more often than we’d like to admit.

In this episode, we cover:

• What actually happens to a child emotionally and psychologically when they witness arguing in front of kids - and what to do about it
• Why “just move on” isn’t the best strategy, and how it can intensify the long term effects of parents fighting
• A step-by-step breakdown of how to talk to your kids after parents are arguing in front of kids, including what to say and what not to say
• What makes yelling at spouse in front of child so distressing - and how to help your child feel secure again
• The surprising way these difficult moments can actually build emotional resilience in your child (when handled the right way)

Listen now to learn what to say, when to say it, and how to parent well even after arguing in front of kids.

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