If you have an anxious attachment style, you likely spend your time trying to people please, take care of the people around you, and in general try to win the love and connection you so desperately crave. But, you may worry that those you love don’t care about you as much as you care about them. You worry that eventually, they may reject you or even abandon you and this leaves you feeling anxious and unable to fully trust the people you care about.
In this episode, we explore how this attachment style develops and explore how high demand religion may have influenced the ways your parents showed up emotionally in their relationships with you and your siblings. We address fears you may have about your own parenting and your relationships with your own kids. And a few steps you can take to begin healing this part of yourself so that you can feel safe and secure in your favorite relationships.
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RESOURCES:
Addah, Ogue and Lemay, Edward. “Romantic Surveillance and Secret Assessments: Responsiveness Monitoring Born from Insecurity in Relationships”. University of Maryland. 2014.
Catlett, Joyce. M.A. “Anxious Attachment: Understanding Insecure Anxious Attachment”. PsychAlive.com
Child Development Institute. “The Power of Attunement”.
Firestone, Lisa. Ph.D. “How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Parenting”. PsychAlive.com
Gibson, Thais. “The Anxious Attachment’s Top 5 Triggers”. July 3, 2021. The Personal Development School. YouTube.
Ludden, David. Ph.D. “How Early Childhood Shapes Your Relationship with God: Attachment Style and Religious Belief.” June 17, 2021. PsychologyToday.com
Morton, Katie. “The 4 Main Attachment Styles in Relationships- Plus Attachment Theory”. December 13, 2022. YouTube.
Sage, Kimberly. Ph.D. “Healing Anxious Attachment Style”. November 10, 2021. YouTube.
The Attachment Project. “Self Regulation Strategies for Anxious Attachment Triggers”. July 23, 2021. The Attachment Project.com
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