December 19, 2024 • 10 mins
Selected selections from Season 5 of Emerson Dameron's Medicated Minutes, LA's number-one avant-garde personal development program and the only good podcast. Levity saves lives.
0:00 Intro
0:22 Commit to the Bit
0:49 Sultry Secrets of Pulse-Pounding Passion
1:50 The Experiment Requires That You Continue
2:50 The Love Bomber: A Bite-Sized Erotic Thriller
3:19 The Ambivalent Liminal Rebellion (feat. Ask a Sadist)
4:19 Carnal Candyland: A Bite-Sized Erotic Thriller
4:49 War All the Time
5:19 The Art of Changing the Subject
6:19 Serendipity's Squeeze: A Bite-Sized Erotic Thriller
7:03 The Best of All Possible Eyes Without a Face
8:01 Something New and Familiar All at Once
9:01 Heaving Hearts, Clandestine Clubs, and Deadly Desires
9:31 Embrace Chaos: Self-Love, Sadism, and the Power of Creativity
10:31 Whispers of the Infinite: Uncover Your Core Motivation
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
If you can't forgive but you like the idea of
forgiving, don't forgive but saythat you did Commit to not
forgiving to the point whereyou're okay with lying about it
and saying I forgive you, andthen get credit for forgiveness
for being the grown-up and keepin your back pocket an option to
later on take revenge.
(00:21):
They will not see it coming.
They thought they were forgiven.
Jokes on them, slow burn.
Not a bad idea if you commit toit.
The relationship was, from thebeginning, turbulent and
extremely manipulative.
I could tell she was anglingfor a relationship, a
possibility I was careful to notcommit to but also not
foreclose on.
(00:41):
The sparks and friction fromthe relationship made me a lot
sexier.
I had myriad side pieces duringthat time.
She was very good atpositioning herself as the prize
, triangulating with mutualacquaintances, particularly her
ex-boyfriend, a cartoonishlymorbid bartender who liked to be
seen reading Kal-El back on theclock.
She tried to control me throughsex, sussing out my cakes and
(01:05):
then holding them against me, orinviting moments of
vulnerability and thenexploiting them.
Through that process I learnedto play my cards very close to
my chest and hide my feelings.
That made it very hard for meto effectively flirt.
It sapped me of my mojo.
The sexual gravy train groundto a halt and by that time, for
(01:25):
whatever reason, I actuallywanted to make things work with
her.
Absolutely annihilate youremotions.
Emotions last for 90 secondsuntil you start telling yourself
stories about them.
To hell with that.
Let the critics decide who youare.
Brutally strangle your emotions, kill them dead.
Fill up a littleself-compassion.
You can do that by annihilatingyour own weakness.
(01:45):
Carve the block that is you.
Make a beautiful statue, createyourself.
You are your finest creation.
Creative destruction is how yougot started.
Destructive creation is whatcomes next.
Build supportive relationshipswith other brutal, stone cold
killers.
You'll find them.
At some point your reputationwill precede you.
(02:05):
Sure, you can make that happenby taking action.
Put your name out there, putyour signature out there.
Shake the ground in a way thatonly you can.
Trademark meta-bombs you drop.
You're taking action every day.
You can overcome the matter offrustration, of living in this
world being surrounded by fools,cowards, liars, scum.
(02:27):
Take out the garbage and I likelove bombing because it's one
of the only ways to get throughto me.
Unfortunately, that's kiddingon the square, meaning telling a
joke.
That is also a statement offact.
All of my relationships havebeen dangerously intense.
Yes, I realize that I am thecommon denominator in these.
It's my problem.
I'm working on myself, and byworking on myself I mean I'm
(02:50):
practicing yoga so thateventually I can perform
autofillatio and then I will behappier than I ever imagined
possible.
Dear sadist, I've discovered mypartner watches a lot of porn
and it's making me uncomfortable.
How do I approach thisconversation without shaming
them and find a middle groundthat works for both of us?
First of all, eliminate thepossibility that your partner
(03:12):
wants to be shamed, which is asignificant one.
Since the saturation ofbroadband internet, we've been
deluged with all forms ofpornography, much of it violent
and degrading.
I'm not interested.
By and large, none of it willever come close to the libertine
, decadence, transgression,violence, mutual degradation
(03:34):
that characterize my own sexlife.
Most people who prefer theexperience of jacking it to porn
over actual sexual intimacy,congress other kinds of torture,
are afraid.
They view the Sex Act on somelevel as a performance.
They are afraid ofunderperforming, disappointing
(03:54):
you, letting you down, which inturn indicates a fear.
Her expulsion was something thatneeded to happen for everything
since to have happened, whichmade possible everything that
will and can happen, and also itwas kind of hot.
She got to hand it to Ariel.
That was a dumb move.
It was demonic, ice cold Reallygetting into her shadow,
(04:16):
whether she knows it or not.
And you shall find that there'swork to be done.
Maybe Candy can meet her there.
Maybe give her a call right nowto see if she's in there and
she's lonely.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
And adorable, bold blasts are inspiring.
Exciting, ignite, beautiful,fascinating jumpstart,
breathtaking, intriguingkickstart, dazzling, riveting
launch, gorgeous, temptingquickstart, stunning, thrilling,
speedy swoon, transform,supercharge, swoon worthy
turbocharge.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Smuggle, lust, challenge, begging, discover,
memorability, crave,extraordinary, captivate,
decadent, hack, genius,delirious.
Latest memorableious, latestmemorable fantasy, life-changing
, undeniable, forbidden, magic,unforgettable, irresistible
miracle make that.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Commute your own.
Your job can be boring as hell,it can be soul-sucking, it can
be life negating, it can almostkill you, but you can bring
yourself back to life by takingownership of your car.
Nobody said you had to take thestraightest route, take the
longest route, take the long wayaround.
(05:20):
Take a different long way home.
Take the bus, walk, hitchhike.
Take mass transit of otherkinds.
Petition for a roller coasterto be put in your community as
mass transit.
It's not the most efficient wayto get there but it's pretty
damn exciting.
You sit through a lot of boringwork, a lot of pointless
(05:44):
meetings, a lot of BS.
If you can pack a little bit ofexcitement into that part of
the day that is your own.
You don't get paid forcommuting but you're not really
expected to do anything else.
I like the smell of money.
I don't have to work.
Ava allows me to work.
She insists on paying foreverything and kind of holds it
(06:05):
over my head but says I can makeit up to her by sleeping with
her friends.
Sometimes we do three ways.
I'm sure there are women whoaren't into women, but those
women are mysterious to me.
How could you not be into women.
Have you seen women?
Ava's into women and even ifwomen aren't into women, they're
into Ava.
Sometimes with sex toys orhousehold objects, the sex is
(06:28):
bananas.
Ava puts a lot of pressure onme to do whatever her friends
want.
That's fine.
I hate making decisions.
It's particularly hard todecide between Ava and Clover
when we were interested.
It hopes that it would bereciprocated.
If it's not, not the end of theworld.
You know, you played your hand.
You played well.
Hopefully you can part friends.
(06:50):
Just don't make it weird.
As long as you don't do that,if you just walk away with your
dignity and you will feel likethere's nobody else but there is
.
Just once you get out thereyou'll see there's not one
person, there's a whole lot ofthem.
You are the fetish of at leasta few.
The thing is, if you're as badat picking up on stuff as I can
(07:13):
be and used to really really be,any sort of social acuity that
you see here in front of you islargely attributable to improv
classes that I took in my 20s.
I struggled before that.
I'm not great at picking up onsignals and that meant that
women that I ended up inrelationships with had a lot of
intensity Enough to you know,come after a guy, fairly
(07:36):
aggressively in some cases.
So I was tent about tokidnapping.
You know what I'm talking about.
Kick that cocaine.
It's the only thing crampingyour style, baby.
They've got too much going foryou.
They have stuff going up yournose like that.
I know what's up with that.
Yeah, I'm tired of it.
It was fun 18 months ago backwhen we were kicking it, but I
(07:59):
was kicking it with you andunkicking that cocaine.
I know you're back on it too.
You got to do something aboutthat.
It's going to be real hard toget off it.
Like some other things that arereal hard higher level calculus
that's hard.
Cement things of that nature.
The bottom of the pool you divein the shallow end.
You hit your head.
That's real hard.
Kicking cocaine's not that hard.
The hard part is the first part,kind of like my hard part has
(08:22):
always been the first part.
Starting a new lifestyle, it'slike that.
You got style, you want to getin your life, get in some other
things, get in the program.
No, I'm not talking about12-stepping, I'm not talking
about half-stepping.
Got another kind of program inmind baby, based on Buddhism.
I realized where I screwed up,I realized that I could resolve
(08:44):
to never do the exact same thingagain, that I could honor my
commitment.
I'm just capable of that.
I always have been Honoringyour commitments, and living in
integrities is just a process ofelimination.
Yes, I think you're brilliant,otherwise I wouldn't have said
that I don't want to make yourhead explode.
You're not stupid.
Whatever the opposite of thatis.
If we ever really understandintelligence, you'll be in that
(09:07):
category.
Maybe pass the missile, take abeat, breathe into the
experience of being here and askyourself what am I so afraid of
?
Maybe you're afraid of missingsome essential life experience.
You're afraid you already have,or that it doesn't matter
because nothing does.
Maybe it's nothing.
Maybe you're just a regularnerves McGee.
(09:30):
Or maybe you're afraid of yourown glorious cataclysmic power,
the riotous multitudes youcontain.
You are smart enough to knowhow nearly infinitely ignorant
you are, but you're not toosmart to be hot, and you may
already be a satanic Buddhist.
Nothing is good or bad inisolation, only in context.
(09:53):
The Buddha and the Beastmasterare a good team.
This, right here, is all youget.
Life is for living up downacross, diagonally, sideways,
because nothing matters.
You may already be a SatanicBuddhist.
Springtime rolled around andthe weather was warm and my
heart was broken.
(10:13):
The Comedia was long gone and,frankly, I was thankful for the
Comedia because that proved thatthat relationship really
happened.
She was there on my mattress onthe floor.
She was there, I was there.
It's over now, but it allreally happened.
If you can't forgive but you like the idea of
forgiving, don't forgive but saythat you did Commit to not
forgiving to the point whereyou're okay with lying about it
and saying I forgive you, andthen get credit for forgiveness
for being the grown-up and keepin your back pocket an option to
later on take revenge.
(00:21):
They will not see it coming.
They thought they were forgiven.
Jokes on them, slow burn.
Not a bad idea if you commit toit.
The relationship was, from thebeginning, turbulent and
extremely manipulative.
I could tell she was anglingfor a relationship, a
possibility I was careful to notcommit to but also not
foreclose on.
(00:41):
The sparks and friction fromthe relationship made me a lot
sexier.
I had myriad side pieces duringthat time.
She was very good atpositioning herself as the prize
, triangulating with mutualacquaintances, particularly her
ex-boyfriend, a cartoonishlymorbid bartender who liked to be
seen reading Kal-El back on theclock.
She tried to control me throughsex, sussing out my cakes and
(01:05):
then holding them against me, orinviting moments of
vulnerability and thenexploiting them.
Through that process I learnedto play my cards very close to
my chest and hide my feelings.
That made it very hard for meto effectively flirt.
It sapped me of my mojo.
The sexual gravy train groundto a halt and by that time, for
(01:25):
whatever reason, I actuallywanted to make things work with
her.
Absolutely annihilate youremotions.
Emotions last for 90 secondsuntil you start telling yourself
stories about them.
To hell with that.
Let the critics decide who youare.
Brutally strangle your emotions, kill them dead.
Fill up a littleself-compassion.
You can do that by annihilatingyour own weakness.
(01:45):
Carve the block that is you.
Make a beautiful statue, createyourself.
You are your finest creation.
Creative destruction is how yougot started.
Destructive creation is whatcomes next.
Build supportive relationshipswith other brutal, stone cold
killers.
You'll find them.
At some point your reputationwill precede you.
(02:05):
Sure, you can make that happenby taking action.
Put your name out there, putyour signature out there.
Shake the ground in a way thatonly you can.
Trademark meta-bombs you drop.
You're taking action every day.
You can overcome the matter offrustration, of living in this
world being surrounded by fools,cowards, liars, scum.
(02:27):
Take out the garbage and I likelove bombing because it's one
of the only ways to get throughto me.
Unfortunately, that's kiddingon the square, meaning telling a
joke.
That is also a statement offact.
All of my relationships havebeen dangerously intense.
Yes, I realize that I am thecommon denominator in these.
It's my problem.
I'm working on myself, and byworking on myself I mean I'm
(02:50):
practicing yoga so thateventually I can perform
autofillatio and then I will behappier than I ever imagined
possible.
Dear sadist, I've discovered mypartner watches a lot of porn
and it's making me uncomfortable.
How do I approach thisconversation without shaming
them and find a middle groundthat works for both of us?
First of all, eliminate thepossibility that your partner
(03:12):
wants to be shamed, which is asignificant one.
Since the saturation ofbroadband internet, we've been
deluged with all forms ofpornography, much of it violent
and degrading.
I'm not interested.
By and large, none of it willever come close to the libertine
, decadence, transgression,violence, mutual degradation
(03:34):
that characterize my own sexlife.
Most people who prefer theexperience of jacking it to porn
over actual sexual intimacy,congress other kinds of torture,
are afraid.
They view the Sex Act on somelevel as a performance.
They are afraid ofunderperforming, disappointing
(03:54):
you, letting you down, which inturn indicates a fear.
Her expulsion was something thatneeded to happen for everything
since to have happened, whichmade possible everything that
will and can happen, and also itwas kind of hot.
She got to hand it to Ariel.
That was a dumb move.
It was demonic, ice cold Reallygetting into her shadow,
(04:16):
whether she knows it or not.
And you shall find that there'swork to be done.
Maybe Candy can meet her there.
Maybe give her a call right nowto see if she's in there and
she's lonely.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
And adorable, bold blasts are inspiring.
Exciting, ignite, beautiful,fascinating jumpstart,
breathtaking, intriguingkickstart, dazzling, riveting
launch, gorgeous, temptingquickstart, stunning, thrilling,
speedy swoon, transform,supercharge, swoon worthy
turbocharge.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Smuggle, lust, challenge, begging, discover,
memorability, crave,extraordinary, captivate,
decadent, hack, genius,delirious.
Latest memorableious, latestmemorable fantasy, life-changing
, undeniable, forbidden, magic,unforgettable, irresistible
miracle make that.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Commute your own.
Your job can be boring as hell,it can be soul-sucking, it can
be life negating, it can almostkill you, but you can bring
yourself back to life by takingownership of your car.
Nobody said you had to take thestraightest route, take the
longest route, take the long wayaround.
(05:20):
Take a different long way home.
Take the bus, walk, hitchhike.
Take mass transit of otherkinds.
Petition for a roller coasterto be put in your community as
mass transit.
It's not the most efficient wayto get there but it's pretty
damn exciting.
You sit through a lot of boringwork, a lot of pointless
(05:44):
meetings, a lot of BS.
If you can pack a little bit ofexcitement into that part of
the day that is your own.
You don't get paid forcommuting but you're not really
expected to do anything else.
I like the smell of money.
I don't have to work.
Ava allows me to work.
She insists on paying foreverything and kind of holds it
(06:05):
over my head but says I can makeit up to her by sleeping with
her friends.
Sometimes we do three ways.
I'm sure there are women whoaren't into women, but those
women are mysterious to me.
How could you not be into women.
Have you seen women?
Ava's into women and even ifwomen aren't into women, they're
into Ava.
Sometimes with sex toys orhousehold objects, the sex is
(06:28):
bananas.
Ava puts a lot of pressure onme to do whatever her friends
want.
That's fine.
I hate making decisions.
It's particularly hard todecide between Ava and Clover
when we were interested.
It hopes that it would bereciprocated.
If it's not, not the end of theworld.
You know, you played your hand.
You played well.
Hopefully you can part friends.
(06:50):
Just don't make it weird.
As long as you don't do that,if you just walk away with your
dignity and you will feel likethere's nobody else but there is
.
Just once you get out thereyou'll see there's not one
person, there's a whole lot ofthem.
You are the fetish of at leasta few.
The thing is, if you're as badat picking up on stuff as I can
(07:13):
be and used to really really be,any sort of social acuity that
you see here in front of you islargely attributable to improv
classes that I took in my 20s.
I struggled before that.
I'm not great at picking up onsignals and that meant that
women that I ended up inrelationships with had a lot of
intensity Enough to you know,come after a guy, fairly
(07:36):
aggressively in some cases.
So I was tent about tokidnapping.
You know what I'm talking about.
Kick that cocaine.
It's the only thing crampingyour style, baby.
They've got too much going foryou.
They have stuff going up yournose like that.
I know what's up with that.
Yeah, I'm tired of it.
It was fun 18 months ago backwhen we were kicking it, but I
(07:59):
was kicking it with you andunkicking that cocaine.
I know you're back on it too.
You got to do something aboutthat.
It's going to be real hard toget off it.
Like some other things that arereal hard higher level calculus
that's hard.
Cement things of that nature.
The bottom of the pool you divein the shallow end.
You hit your head.
That's real hard.
Kicking cocaine's not that hard.
The hard part is the first part,kind of like my hard part has
(08:22):
always been the first part.
Starting a new lifestyle, it'slike that.
You got style, you want to getin your life, get in some other
things, get in the program.
No, I'm not talking about12-stepping, I'm not talking
about half-stepping.
Got another kind of program inmind baby, based on Buddhism.
I realized where I screwed up,I realized that I could resolve
(08:44):
to never do the exact same thingagain, that I could honor my
commitment.
I'm just capable of that.
I always have been Honoringyour commitments, and living in
integrities is just a process ofelimination.
Yes, I think you're brilliant,otherwise I wouldn't have said
that I don't want to make yourhead explode.
You're not stupid.
Whatever the opposite of thatis.
If we ever really understandintelligence, you'll be in that
(09:07):
category.
Maybe pass the missile, take abeat, breathe into the
experience of being here and askyourself what am I so afraid of
?
Maybe you're afraid of missingsome essential life experience.
You're afraid you already have,or that it doesn't matter
because nothing does.
Maybe it's nothing.
Maybe you're just a regularnerves McGee.
(09:30):
Or maybe you're afraid of yourown glorious cataclysmic power,
the riotous multitudes youcontain.
You are smart enough to knowhow nearly infinitely ignorant
you are, but you're not toosmart to be hot, and you may
already be a satanic Buddhist.
Nothing is good or bad inisolation, only in context.
(09:53):
The Buddha and the Beastmasterare a good team.
This, right here, is all youget.
Life is for living up downacross, diagonally, sideways,
because nothing matters.
You may already be a SatanicBuddhist.
Springtime rolled around andthe weather was warm and my
heart was broken.
(10:13):
The Comedia was long gone and,frankly, I was thankful for the
Comedia because that proved thatthat relationship really
happened.
She was there on my mattress onthe floor.
She was there, I was there.
It's over now, but it allreally happened.
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