April 25, 2025 • 27 mins
A powerful spiritual connection unfolds as a mother communicates from beyond with her characteristic no-nonsense personality and fierce love. This evidential mediumship reading reveals how our departed loved ones continue to guide our purpose and spiritual journey long after they've crossed over.
The reading centers around Laurie, whose mother passed after a stroke and prolonged illness. Through detailed and accurate descriptions of her personality—described lovingly as "a pain in the ass" who was fiercely protective of her children—the medium establishes a clear connection that provides validation and comfort. We discover how this hardworking woman ran a restaurant seven days a week while still finding time to serve her community by bringing food to funerals, opening on holidays for the elderly, and feeding the homeless.
What makes this episode particularly meaningful is the mother's emphasis on purpose as her greatest gift to her daughter. She acknowledges Laurie's extraordinary ability to identify people who need help even when they don't know how to ask for it—a trait that has defined her professional life and now guides her spiritual practice. The mother offers practical advice for integrating mediumship abilities into daily interactions, suggesting simple techniques that can transform ordinary encounters into profound healing experiences.
Perhaps most touching is the mother's reflection on her own life of service. Despite never taking vacations or breaks for herself, she expresses no regrets, saying she would make the same choices again seeing the difference she made in people's lives. This powerful testimony reminds us that our purpose often extends beyond our physical existence, continuing to inspire and guide those we leave behind.
Whether you're curious about mediumship, seeking comfort after loss, or exploring your own spiritual gifts, this episode offers profound insights into how love transcends physical boundaries and how our unique purpose can serve humanity in remarkable ways.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello there, welcome to empower your soul.
I'm actually here today withthe amazing Lori, who's actually
a little bit of my mentee rightnow for this metaphysical
mediumship work.
Thanks for being here, lori.
I'm so excited, goodness, I'mso excited too.
So this is going to be reallyfun, because I have not actually
(00:23):
read, lori, have I from anevidential mediumship
perspective?
No, you haven't, but I'm, butI'm teaching you.
So now I gotta, I gotta, showyou to you that I'm, I don't,
I'm horrible at this.
So, fingers crossed, the deadpeople are going to play nice
with me today.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Oh they will, I'm sure they will.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
They better be lining up oh my goodness, and as I'm
doing this, I'm just starting tosweat right now.
So this is going to be reallyinteresting in terms of the
energy that comes through.
So let's see, lori, I'm goingto let spirit kind of lead it
today and see who wants to comethrough today and I have to tell
you, like, right off the bat,what I'm feeling come through is
(01:04):
I'm feeling mom is, mom hasdeparted.
Is that, is that correct?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
OK, I was just recording another one of these
right before this and I felt amom come through and she is a
tough ticket.
Your mom like she is OK, yepSee, and I.
She's like I think she askedfor her mom and I was like, well
, this is a hot ticket.
I feel like she's got a bigpersonality.
I feel like she's I'm gonna sayit a little bit of a bully, but
(01:32):
not in a bad way.
I just feel like she's solid inwho she is, what she wants to
do, what she knows, what shewants for people and she's not
swayed easily by anybody else.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Agreed, okay, perfect .
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Yep Nailed it and I do feel like she passes of an
illness and I do feel like it'sa rather long illness.
Is that correct?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Um, do you want me to tell you exactly if it's um
happy to cause?
It's kind of a yes, no answer.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Okay, so she would have had a chronic illness then.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
She had out of nowhere.
She was in great health andthen, out of nowhere, had a
stroke.
Nobody saw it coming, and thenshe lived two more years
miserably and then died aftertwo years.
If she had it her way she wouldhave gone with the first stroke
because it really did her in sobecause that's what.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
so I wasn't necessarily feeling stroke yet,
but I was feeling it was anillness and it felt like it was
very prolonged.
So so that makes sense to me.
I know that you're her primarycaregiver, is that correct?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yes, she, she lived as independently as she could
and then I organized differentpeople to come in against her
joy.
So people would come in andlike hang out with her and she
was like this is garbage, like Idefinitely don't want it.
But my sister and I did a lot.
But I would come from New Yorkquite frequently to bug her
(03:03):
quite frequently to bug her.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Okay, I mean yeah, okay, so let me ask her to to
give me some more, some morethings for you about her.
She's a very discerning woman,very critical, and you've
already kind of alluded to thatand what you've said.
So I do want to validate that.
But she is just, I can just sayit, nothing's good enough for
her her whole life.
Um, she's such a pain in theass, ass, like I have to call
(03:24):
her a pain in the ass becauseshe is a pain in the ass.
But she does fiercely love youand your sister like fiercely
loves you, and I know, if I wantto joke about like if anyone
messed with you, she wouldeither come running as mama bear
or she would like call in thefavors and like call in people
to like help out.
Like she just feels like no onemesses with my kids.
(03:47):
The only one that's allowed tomess with my kids is me.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
That's it.
Yep, that's perfect.
I love it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Um, and she's just somebody who thinks the world of
you and as I'm, as I'm kind of,and I know that you think the
world of her too, and I knowthat you love her, despite all
of these amazing personalitytraits and I don't even want to
call them flaws, because I feellike she wouldn't have survived
her life without these attitudes, beliefs, perspectives, because
(04:16):
it was not easy, she did nothave an easy life and those
allowed her to navigate andmanage through these very
difficult life circumstances andbe able to become exactly who
she'd become.
And then you pick up all ofthose amazing things from her.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense, definitely.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
And your sister and I like here's the thing about you
, Laurie, and I know a littlebit about you, but I feel like
you can kind of be a steamrollersometimes, Like you won't.
You won't let anybody do thingsthat you feel is incorrect and
ethical with either yourpatients.
I'm going to go with yourstudents, Cause I know you were
a former teacher as well.
Yep, Steamroller, you wouldjust know.
(04:55):
Absolutely not.
Whereas I feel like your sisteris a little more delicate.
I feel like she plays the.
I feel like she is a littlemore conscious of how people
feel.
I feel like she's the.
I feel like she is a littlemore conscious of how people
feel.
I feel like she's more of aconsensus builder.
Would you understand that or no?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's tough.
I actually have two sisters andit's hard to picture them.
They're both.
They're very different, um onedistant right.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
One feels like one feels very distant, whether it's
geographically or emotionally.
She feels like she just doeswhat she wants and she doesn't
care.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Okay, I can accept that that's the oldest.
The three of us live close toeach other, but the oldest one
is very independent in her world.
The middle one can be pretty.
She's not a soft light, she's,she's, she's a scorpio, like
she's interesting through andthrough, like she's tough.
(05:51):
Um, yeah, everybody's emotions,though.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
That one yeah, everyone yeah, and so like I
think she's really tough on thesurface, but I think underneath
she's she's like butter.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yes, she is very sensitive.
You're right, she comes outsuper strong, but very, very
sensitive, sensitive.
Like you say something and shetakes it way wrong and you're
like what I asked you to passthe butter?
Like how did that?
How did that hurt?
Yeah, Interesting.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, yeah, and so, and, as we're talking about you
and your sisters, your mom'sjust like it was a circus.
Nicole, it was a circus.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Oh, I can only imagine.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I can't with her.
She's amazing.
She's such an amazing soul, solet me see where else she wants
to go today.
She's always been a really,really hard worker and I believe
that was instilled in all ofyou.
Yes, she takes a lot of pridein her work and what she does,
and not only just the work.
The value that is derived fromher work is the way that I want
to put it.
So like, whatever happens as aresult of what she does or how
(06:57):
she helps people or changespeople, there's something.
That's what drives her, that'swhat motivates her.
Is that correct?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
100%.
She owned a restaurant, workedseven days a week but we also
went to more funerals Like shewould bring food to like all
funerals.
We opened up the restaurant onChristmas because elderly had
nowhere else to go, andThanksgiving we fed the homeless
Like we were always.
She was giving, giving, workedher ass off, but also did what
(07:23):
she could to help the communitybig time.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
And what is so funny when you say that is is that I
can hear her say I wish I'd donemore, because this is who she
is and she can see she's likemaking me tear up right now.
Hmm this relates to you, so letme see if I can get this out
(07:48):
eloquently.
She wishes she did more becauseshe helped the people who asked
for help, but she was too busyto help the people who didn't
know how to ask.
And so there's something aboutlike the homeless people, or
like donating to people whodidn't feel like they could step
foot in the restaurant, becauseI'm seeing like homeless people
on the side of the road andshe's like I should have handed
out meals.
I should have done this.
(08:09):
I should have done that.
I should have donated toshelters or cooked food for
shelters.
Like I just see and this is herheart right, this is how it's,
not she actually regrets it, butshe the impact she could have
made could have been bigger, butI know she was also, I'm going
to say, making ends meet interms of front right.
(08:30):
Like it doesn't feel like shehas a lot of extra money.
She certainly has for time.
Yeah, yeah, but this is you,yeah, so this and it's no
accident that she starts talkingabout I want to help the people
who aren't asking for help,because there's something about
you in that, and when I'm sayingthat, I'm seeing the energy
split between you and her, andshe's talking about you and how
(08:53):
you want to help the people whodon't have the money, the
resources to ask for help andthose who don't even know that
they need the help yet, becauseyou have this endless love for
people and wanting them to betheir best selves.
And I know this about you.
But she's reminding me thisabout you that you just have you
(09:15):
wear your heart on your sleeve.
You will bend over backwardsfor whoever needs help, whether
they've asked for it or not.
Yeah, and I also make.
She makes me feel that you canlook at a person and know
whether they need help or not,and so she's relating it to the
(09:41):
school, she's relating it thatyou worked in.
She's relating it to, like,homeless people, like she's
relating it to you just beingable to look around, see that
someone needs help and you walkup to them and say what do you?
What do you need?
How are you.
Is there anything I can helpyou with?
And that's your job.
Like that is your role in thislifetime.
(10:02):
Because, as you say, that she'sshowing me, it's like you pick
them off off the ground, likeyou pick them up, you make them
feel seen, you make them feelvalidated, you make them see
that someone loves them andcherishes them and watches over
them and you really give themthe gift of God and angels here
on earth, because that's who youare.
(10:23):
And so this journey that isunfolding for you, and so this
journey that is unfolding foryou, this is what you'll be
doing.
That's incredible.
This is it because you, you'realready so good at what you do,
like in a regular career job,right.
Like you already help people inyour everyday career job and
(10:44):
you have, over the course ofyour career in different, many
different jobs, right, because,if you don't mind me saying,
like Lori, you like you work.
You worked in, you know, ininner city school, right, and
now you're working in a medicalfacility.
You help people clearly needhelp and don't always know to
ask for help, yeah, but I thinkthe difference is so.
(11:05):
I think that was easier to seein the school.
They had to be there to bethere right, and now, now, here
in the medical facility, they'rewalking in because they
obviously need help.
But here's the thing I see youwalking around, like where you
live, and seeing people that arejust walking on the street and
you walking up to them andsaying I, I hey, this person's
with you.
(11:25):
I can see that you're reallylost in sadness.
Your father's with you, this isa sign from him.
It's a blue Jay, right, like,and I see you walking up to
people and doing that andnormally I would say, lori, it's
totally fucking unethical.
But I'm going to tell you, butyou are going to know, and I
know that when you do that, itwon't come from your ego, it
(11:51):
will come from your heart andyour soul, and that's why it
will be ethical for you to dothat.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Is your father on the other side as well?
No, but there it makes sensethat there's a man coming in
strong.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
There's two options.
Very good, cause I'm seeing herbring in a man, so let me see.
He feels a little younger to methan your mom, cause I feel
like your mom was older when shepassed, but I do, so let me see
.
Can you?
Can you give me some moreinformation?
He's brilliant.
He's such a smart man.
He's very book smart or likenumbers smart.
(12:26):
I don't know if he has the bestsocial skills or like numbers
smart.
I don't know if he has the bestsocial skills.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I think it might be her lifelong boyfriend, who
would be the same age, nevergraduated school, opened his own
business and was an incrediblysuccessful construction worker
in town and was a huge part ofmy life, then that would make
sense.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Okay, and that's why I'm reading it as dad, because
it would be her significantother and he was very much a dad
figure.
Yeah, yeah, okay thateverything you said checks,
checks it, because I just seehe's really really smart, he's
brilliant, but he's not.
He doesn't talk like, hedoesn't talk about it, he just
goes and heads down, does hisjob.
Um it, did he have arthritis orissues with his hands as well,
(13:13):
or would that be?
That's not your mom.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
My mom had arthritis in the hands.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Okay, interesting Cause I'm feeling that I wonder
if she's coming in with him orif she's just let me ask her
what?
Um, there's a reason she justbrought me back to her, so let
me figure that one out.
There's a reason she justbrought me back to her, so let
me figure that one out.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
She wants to be the star.
She is.
That is this mom.
Yeah, she's like hold up.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
He's here.
But back to me, yeah, that'sprobably it, because I'm I'm
feeling it, so she's, she'smentioning, so she must be
mentioning that she's not aloneon the other side.
And then would she have asister that's on the other side
as well?
I'm hearing aunt.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
She does have a sister that I did not ever meet.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Okay, yep, okay, so she's calling out your aunt as
well.
And I feel like your aunt livedin more of more of a rural area
or like like horses orsomething like that.
They're just.
I see I see more rolling hillsand like horses with her.
So I'm not sure what that is.
I accept it a gift for you and,and I'm hearing her say it's
(14:18):
the gift of purpose.
Oh, wow, and and the purpose?
I know I'm like what the giftof purpose, mom?
Really?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
my ability is if we're going to do gifts here,
I've got a list, yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Hang the bills would be great.
Give me.
Give me that lottery numberswould be an amazing gift.
New car, yep Long list.
But it's the purpose.
It's knowing exactly what youneed to do and knowing how to
get there, because what you'regoing to do is help so many
people along the way and that isgoing to be the thing that
lights you up and keeps yougoing and that's going to pay
(14:52):
the bill.
So it is actually going to helpyou get a new car and pay the
bill.
So it is actually going to helpyou pay the bill.
I'm going to ask her to helpsend you some very rich clients.
Yes, Come and book you over andover again.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yes, thank you.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
But she's highlighting that and I've said
this to you before and mom isreiterating it there's nothing
that you can't do with this work.
What you do is going to be veryspecial, very unique to you and
your purpose and your soul andwhat you're here to do, and that
the sky is the limit in termsof you and your possibilities
and everything that you want canabsolutely come true.
(15:28):
You need to.
I think you do this to anextent already, but let uh.
Okay, she's highlighting waysthat you can expand your
practice and mediumship.
All right, your practice andmediumship can expand by, as
(15:50):
you're talking to clients,seeing if anyone's there, and
you don't have to tell yourclients but be like who's coming
in with who's coming in withthis client today?
Who's who's watching over thisclient today?
Okay, and asking like hey, whatcan you tell me about my client
?
What can you tell me about this?
So it almost was like startincorporating what you know
already into your day-to-day andlike really integrating it.
(16:14):
I love that, yes, cause it canbe.
It can be like right before youwalk in a room, just taking a
deep breath and being like okay,so what?
So you can do it two ways.
You can either ask, ask if anyof their departed loved ones
want to step forward with today,with the healing, whatever
you're going to do with them.
And then, number two, you canask, you can use your I'm going
(16:35):
to say more psychic energy totap into your client before you
walk in the room and saying what, what's the thing that I need
to know?
What's maybe, if they'renervous, what is the thing I can
do to help keep them safe ormake them feel more calm?
What's something that wouldmake them smile or brighten them
up?
I used I used to do this in thecorporate world because, believe
it or not, I'm very sociallyawkward outside of this work.
(16:58):
I'm very socially awkward, likeI went to a dinner last night
and I was just like I don't know.
And I've known these people for30 years, 20, 30 years and I'm
just like, but I'm not the sameperson I used to be.
So I like to tap into spirit.
I'm like what should I talkabout?
What should I talk about?
Oh, tell me about yourretirement, right.
About?
(17:19):
Should I talk about?
Oh, tell me about yourretirement, right?
That's hysterical.
So.
So I use it to for the introvertin me to adapt and be more
comfortable around socialsituations.
So you can do it for yourself,your clients, you can tap, tap
into their departed loved ones.
That's awesome.
And as you start going furtherinto this and I'm you're gonna
have to decide how far you wantto take this.
(17:40):
This is up to you.
But as you start going furtherand further into this work, you
might start seeing what I seewhen I was working in the
corporate world and is thisperson a safe space to talk to
about?
Hey, your mom's with you, your,your grandmother's with you,
and they, they would show it tome in the stoplights red, yellow
, green.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Oh wow, that's awesome.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I would sit down with somebody in a conference room
on the 44th floor in Boston,both of us in suits, and I would
sit down and be like.
I was like what's that tattooin your wrist?
She's like that's from my mom.
I was like, yeah, I'm a mediumand they're like what so?
So I feel like you're going tobe able to start doing that
(18:23):
eventually.
And tapping in and being like,is it okay to say something, yes
or no?
And like, very precariously,right, like in whatever way
feels comfortable for you.
If, whether it feelscomfortable at all, we're not
comfortable, but you can alwaysbe like flip a card, be like,
hey, if you're interested inthis.
Like, yeah, I'm feeling youhave a lot of loved ones around
(18:45):
you, so you might.
I'm just going to toss it outthere.
But I think eventually you'llget to that space and, honestly,
I think that your drive to helppeople is going to is going to
override yeah, say your desireto like be PC with some of this
stuff.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Yeah, yeah, well, I already do to some extent.
Not the mediumship, it doesn'tcome through.
But I always ask about who theyare, who's in their family,
what's and some reason.
It always they'll tell me aboutsomebody who's passed and I
always every time ask do youfeel their presence?
Do you get their signs?
And then I go right intotelling them how to ask for
(19:22):
signs, like that happens all thetime.
So once I can get those hits,that won't be a hard thing.
I'll know when to say something, when not to.
Oh, that's amazing.
Yes, so that's really cool.
I love that.
Oh, that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
So that's really cool .
I love that.
So it's taking that one stepfurther, which I think would be
no problem for you.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Do you have any questions for mom?
Um, no, I do not, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
I love it.
But I know you talk to her allthe time, I know you're
constantly inviting her in, Iknow that she helps you with
your mediumship work and I knowshe like stands there very
discerningly because she is apain in the ass and I love, I
love her energy, love her energy.
So I see her like with her armscrossed, like sitting there
like making sure and she's thetaskmaster, and I don't like and
she must've been like this inthe restaurant too, because I
(20:09):
see she's telling everybody elsewhat to do Yep, like not only
that, because she's equating itto the restaurant again, like
with the restaurant she'd belike you need to add more salt,
you need to add more spice.
And I feel like she kind ofdoes that energetically with
people like Nope, you need to.
That needs to be a little bitlouder, that needs to be a
little bit softer.
You need to.
You need to make sure you bringthis in.
I love that, that's great.
(20:30):
So she really is, um, likesuper mom is, cause I see her
put on like the Superman caperight now.
So like she really is likesuper mom taking care of you
from the other side.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Oh, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
She wants to thank you for being such an amazing
daughter.
Um, she can't stop talkingabout how brilliant you are and
how like smart you are and howyou're able to really synthesize
and pull together things thatdon't necessarily make sense
together, and.
But you can see the patternsand you can see how things work
together, even if it's not in atextbook anywhere, so you're
recognizing the patterns, whichis really really good.
(21:06):
And I have to say she never gotto do what she wanted here in
the physical world.
She never got to take herbreaks, vacations.
She hid behind work.
Yes, yeah, she is sitting on thebeach on the other side, like I
(21:28):
see her with an umbrella, thosechairs that have like the big I
don't know what they're called.
They're like wooden but theyhave the big piece of cloth that
hangs down.
It's like a little hammock, butit's not right.
She's got one of those.
She's got like a giant um, Idon't know pina colada or like a
strawberry daiquiri in her hand, with a little umbrella in it
and it's.
And she's at the beach withlike a big hat on and she is
(21:51):
loving it on the other side andshe's saying there's a lot of
people that would have regrettedliving the way that she did,
with nonstop work, nonstophelping people, not taking care
of herself, not taking vacationsfor herself.
She would not have had it anyother way, she would not have
chosen any differently, becauseshe can see the change she made
(22:16):
and the people that she helped,and if she had the choice, she
would do it all over again, wow.
So that's, that's a message foryou.
Thank you, you're a workhorsetoo.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
A little bit, yeah, a little bit.
But I know how to vacation.
That's the one way.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Good Right, because you need to, you need to refresh
your energy.
But she, but I see you like opt.
I'm going to say I see youopting almost out of retirement
and helping people instead.
That is your retirement is likedoing things fully for you and
helping people.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
I would love that.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Yeah, it'd be incredible Yep, absolutely Well.
I'm going to leave you with herlove.
Lori, thank you so much forbeing here and trusting me with
with your amazing mom here onthe other side.
I'm sure this is not the lasttime I will hear from her.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, you can kick her away.
I lend her out to people too,like if anybody ever needs her.
You know I'm always like,listen, yeah, you can take my
mom for a few days, she'll helpyou out.
So yeah, anytime you need her.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
Take her take her.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Yeah, she'll help you , she's got a lot of power over
there.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
So anytime, all right .
I wish you're amazing.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
I appreciate you being here today.
Thank you so much.
That was amazing.
You're the best, thank you.
Hello there, welcome to empower your soul.
I'm actually here today withthe amazing Lori, who's actually
a little bit of my mentee rightnow for this metaphysical
mediumship work.
Thanks for being here, lori.
I'm so excited, goodness, I'mso excited too.
So this is going to be reallyfun, because I have not actually
(00:23):
read, lori, have I from anevidential mediumship
perspective?
No, you haven't, but I'm, butI'm teaching you.
So now I gotta, I gotta, showyou to you that I'm, I don't,
I'm horrible at this.
So, fingers crossed, the deadpeople are going to play nice
with me today.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Oh they will, I'm sure they will.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
They better be lining up oh my goodness, and as I'm
doing this, I'm just starting tosweat right now.
So this is going to be reallyinteresting in terms of the
energy that comes through.
So let's see, lori, I'm goingto let spirit kind of lead it
today and see who wants to comethrough today and I have to tell
you, like, right off the bat,what I'm feeling come through is
(01:04):
I'm feeling mom is, mom hasdeparted.
Is that, is that correct?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
OK, I was just recording another one of these
right before this and I felt amom come through and she is a
tough ticket.
Your mom like she is OK, yepSee, and I.
She's like I think she askedfor her mom and I was like, well
, this is a hot ticket.
I feel like she's got a bigpersonality.
I feel like she's I'm gonna sayit a little bit of a bully, but
(01:32):
not in a bad way.
I just feel like she's solid inwho she is, what she wants to
do, what she knows, what shewants for people and she's not
swayed easily by anybody else.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Agreed, okay, perfect .
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Yep Nailed it and I do feel like she passes of an
illness and I do feel like it'sa rather long illness.
Is that correct?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Um, do you want me to tell you exactly if it's um
happy to cause?
It's kind of a yes, no answer.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Okay, so she would have had a chronic illness then.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
She had out of nowhere.
She was in great health andthen, out of nowhere, had a
stroke.
Nobody saw it coming, and thenshe lived two more years
miserably and then died aftertwo years.
If she had it her way she wouldhave gone with the first stroke
because it really did her in sobecause that's what.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
so I wasn't necessarily feeling stroke yet,
but I was feeling it was anillness and it felt like it was
very prolonged.
So so that makes sense to me.
I know that you're her primarycaregiver, is that correct?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yes, she, she lived as independently as she could
and then I organized differentpeople to come in against her
joy.
So people would come in andlike hang out with her and she
was like this is garbage, like Idefinitely don't want it.
But my sister and I did a lot.
But I would come from New Yorkquite frequently to bug her
(03:03):
quite frequently to bug her.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Okay, I mean yeah, okay, so let me ask her to to
give me some more, some morethings for you about her.
She's a very discerning woman,very critical, and you've
already kind of alluded to thatand what you've said.
So I do want to validate that.
But she is just, I can just sayit, nothing's good enough for
her her whole life.
Um, she's such a pain in theass, ass, like I have to call
(03:24):
her a pain in the ass becauseshe is a pain in the ass.
But she does fiercely love youand your sister like fiercely
loves you, and I know, if I wantto joke about like if anyone
messed with you, she wouldeither come running as mama bear
or she would like call in thefavors and like call in people
to like help out.
Like she just feels like no onemesses with my kids.
(03:47):
The only one that's allowed tomess with my kids is me.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
That's it.
Yep, that's perfect.
I love it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Um, and she's just somebody who thinks the world of
you and as I'm, as I'm kind of,and I know that you think the
world of her too, and I knowthat you love her, despite all
of these amazing personalitytraits and I don't even want to
call them flaws, because I feellike she wouldn't have survived
her life without these attitudes, beliefs, perspectives, because
(04:16):
it was not easy, she did nothave an easy life and those
allowed her to navigate andmanage through these very
difficult life circumstances andbe able to become exactly who
she'd become.
And then you pick up all ofthose amazing things from her.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense, definitely.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
And your sister and I like here's the thing about you
, Laurie, and I know a littlebit about you, but I feel like
you can kind of be a steamrollersometimes, Like you won't.
You won't let anybody do thingsthat you feel is incorrect and
ethical with either yourpatients.
I'm going to go with yourstudents, Cause I know you were
a former teacher as well.
Yep, Steamroller, you wouldjust know.
(04:55):
Absolutely not.
Whereas I feel like your sisteris a little more delicate.
I feel like she plays the.
I feel like she is a littlemore conscious of how people
feel.
I feel like she's the.
I feel like she is a littlemore conscious of how people
feel.
I feel like she's more of aconsensus builder.
Would you understand that or no?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's tough.
I actually have two sisters andit's hard to picture them.
They're both.
They're very different, um onedistant right.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
One feels like one feels very distant, whether it's
geographically or emotionally.
She feels like she just doeswhat she wants and she doesn't
care.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Okay, I can accept that that's the oldest.
The three of us live close toeach other, but the oldest one
is very independent in her world.
The middle one can be pretty.
She's not a soft light, she's,she's, she's a scorpio, like
she's interesting through andthrough, like she's tough.
(05:51):
Um, yeah, everybody's emotions,though.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
That one yeah, everyone yeah, and so like I
think she's really tough on thesurface, but I think underneath
she's she's like butter.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yes, she is very sensitive.
You're right, she comes outsuper strong, but very, very
sensitive, sensitive.
Like you say something and shetakes it way wrong and you're
like what I asked you to passthe butter?
Like how did that?
How did that hurt?
Yeah, Interesting.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, yeah, and so, and, as we're talking about you
and your sisters, your mom'sjust like it was a circus.
Nicole, it was a circus.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Oh, I can only imagine.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I can't with her.
She's amazing.
She's such an amazing soul, solet me see where else she wants
to go today.
She's always been a really,really hard worker and I believe
that was instilled in all ofyou.
Yes, she takes a lot of pridein her work and what she does,
and not only just the work.
The value that is derived fromher work is the way that I want
to put it.
So like, whatever happens as aresult of what she does or how
(06:57):
she helps people or changespeople, there's something.
That's what drives her, that'swhat motivates her.
Is that correct?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
100%.
She owned a restaurant, workedseven days a week but we also
went to more funerals Like shewould bring food to like all
funerals.
We opened up the restaurant onChristmas because elderly had
nowhere else to go, andThanksgiving we fed the homeless
Like we were always.
She was giving, giving, workedher ass off, but also did what
(07:23):
she could to help the communitybig time.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
And what is so funny when you say that is is that I
can hear her say I wish I'd donemore, because this is who she
is and she can see she's likemaking me tear up right now.
Hmm this relates to you, so letme see if I can get this out
(07:48):
eloquently.
She wishes she did more becauseshe helped the people who asked
for help, but she was too busyto help the people who didn't
know how to ask.
And so there's something aboutlike the homeless people, or
like donating to people whodidn't feel like they could step
foot in the restaurant, becauseI'm seeing like homeless people
on the side of the road andshe's like I should have handed
out meals.
I should have done this.
(08:09):
I should have done that.
I should have donated toshelters or cooked food for
shelters.
Like I just see and this is herheart right, this is how it's,
not she actually regrets it, butshe the impact she could have
made could have been bigger, butI know she was also, I'm going
to say, making ends meet interms of front right.
(08:30):
Like it doesn't feel like shehas a lot of extra money.
She certainly has for time.
Yeah, yeah, but this is you,yeah, so this and it's no
accident that she starts talkingabout I want to help the people
who aren't asking for help,because there's something about
you in that, and when I'm sayingthat, I'm seeing the energy
split between you and her, andshe's talking about you and how
(08:53):
you want to help the people whodon't have the money, the
resources to ask for help andthose who don't even know that
they need the help yet, becauseyou have this endless love for
people and wanting them to betheir best selves.
And I know this about you.
But she's reminding me thisabout you that you just have you
(09:15):
wear your heart on your sleeve.
You will bend over backwardsfor whoever needs help, whether
they've asked for it or not.
Yeah, and I also make.
She makes me feel that you canlook at a person and know
whether they need help or not,and so she's relating it to the
(09:41):
school, she's relating it thatyou worked in.
She's relating it to, like,homeless people, like she's
relating it to you just beingable to look around, see that
someone needs help and you walkup to them and say what do you?
What do you need?
How are you.
Is there anything I can helpyou with?
And that's your job.
Like that is your role in thislifetime.
(10:02):
Because, as you say, that she'sshowing me, it's like you pick
them off off the ground, likeyou pick them up, you make them
feel seen, you make them feelvalidated, you make them see
that someone loves them andcherishes them and watches over
them and you really give themthe gift of God and angels here
on earth, because that's who youare.
(10:23):
And so this journey that isunfolding for you, and so this
journey that is unfolding foryou, this is what you'll be
doing.
That's incredible.
This is it because you, you'realready so good at what you do,
like in a regular career job,right.
Like you already help people inyour everyday career job and
(10:44):
you have, over the course ofyour career in different, many
different jobs, right, because,if you don't mind me saying,
like Lori, you like you work.
You worked in, you know, ininner city school, right, and
now you're working in a medicalfacility.
You help people clearly needhelp and don't always know to
ask for help, yeah, but I thinkthe difference is so.
(11:05):
I think that was easier to seein the school.
They had to be there to bethere right, and now, now, here
in the medical facility, they'rewalking in because they
obviously need help.
But here's the thing I see youwalking around, like where you
live, and seeing people that arejust walking on the street and
you walking up to them andsaying I, I hey, this person's
with you.
(11:25):
I can see that you're reallylost in sadness.
Your father's with you, this isa sign from him.
It's a blue Jay, right, like,and I see you walking up to
people and doing that andnormally I would say, lori, it's
totally fucking unethical.
But I'm going to tell you, butyou are going to know, and I
know that when you do that, itwon't come from your ego, it
(11:51):
will come from your heart andyour soul, and that's why it
will be ethical for you to dothat.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Is your father on the other side as well?
No, but there it makes sensethat there's a man coming in
strong.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
There's two options.
Very good, cause I'm seeing herbring in a man, so let me see.
He feels a little younger to methan your mom, cause I feel
like your mom was older when shepassed, but I do, so let me see
.
Can you?
Can you give me some moreinformation?
He's brilliant.
He's such a smart man.
He's very book smart or likenumbers smart.
(12:26):
I don't know if he has the bestsocial skills or like numbers
smart.
I don't know if he has the bestsocial skills.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I think it might be her lifelong boyfriend, who
would be the same age, nevergraduated school, opened his own
business and was an incrediblysuccessful construction worker
in town and was a huge part ofmy life, then that would make
sense.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Okay, and that's why I'm reading it as dad, because
it would be her significantother and he was very much a dad
figure.
Yeah, yeah, okay thateverything you said checks,
checks it, because I just seehe's really really smart, he's
brilliant, but he's not.
He doesn't talk like, hedoesn't talk about it, he just
goes and heads down, does hisjob.
Um it, did he have arthritis orissues with his hands as well,
(13:13):
or would that be?
That's not your mom.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
My mom had arthritis in the hands.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Okay, interesting Cause I'm feeling that I wonder
if she's coming in with him orif she's just let me ask her
what?
Um, there's a reason she justbrought me back to her, so let
me figure that one out.
There's a reason she justbrought me back to her, so let
me figure that one out.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
She wants to be the star.
She is.
That is this mom.
Yeah, she's like hold up.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
He's here.
But back to me, yeah, that'sprobably it, because I'm I'm
feeling it, so she's, she'smentioning, so she must be
mentioning that she's not aloneon the other side.
And then would she have asister that's on the other side
as well?
I'm hearing aunt.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
She does have a sister that I did not ever meet.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Okay, yep, okay, so she's calling out your aunt as
well.
And I feel like your aunt livedin more of more of a rural area
or like like horses orsomething like that.
They're just.
I see I see more rolling hillsand like horses with her.
So I'm not sure what that is.
I accept it a gift for you and,and I'm hearing her say it's
(14:18):
the gift of purpose.
Oh, wow, and and the purpose?
I know I'm like what the giftof purpose, mom?
Really?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
my ability is if we're going to do gifts here,
I've got a list, yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Hang the bills would be great.
Give me.
Give me that lottery numberswould be an amazing gift.
New car, yep Long list.
But it's the purpose.
It's knowing exactly what youneed to do and knowing how to
get there, because what you'regoing to do is help so many
people along the way and that isgoing to be the thing that
lights you up and keeps yougoing and that's going to pay
(14:52):
the bill.
So it is actually going to helpyou get a new car and pay the
bill.
So it is actually going to helpyou pay the bill.
I'm going to ask her to helpsend you some very rich clients.
Yes, Come and book you over andover again.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yes, thank you.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
But she's highlighting that and I've said
this to you before and mom isreiterating it there's nothing
that you can't do with this work.
What you do is going to be veryspecial, very unique to you and
your purpose and your soul andwhat you're here to do, and that
the sky is the limit in termsof you and your possibilities
and everything that you want canabsolutely come true.
(15:28):
You need to.
I think you do this to anextent already, but let uh.
Okay, she's highlighting waysthat you can expand your
practice and mediumship.
All right, your practice andmediumship can expand by, as
(15:50):
you're talking to clients,seeing if anyone's there, and
you don't have to tell yourclients but be like who's coming
in with who's coming in withthis client today?
Who's who's watching over thisclient today?
Okay, and asking like hey, whatcan you tell me about my client
?
What can you tell me about this?
So it almost was like startincorporating what you know
already into your day-to-day andlike really integrating it.
(16:14):
I love that, yes, cause it canbe.
It can be like right before youwalk in a room, just taking a
deep breath and being like okay,so what?
So you can do it two ways.
You can either ask, ask if anyof their departed loved ones
want to step forward with today,with the healing, whatever
you're going to do with them.
And then, number two, you canask, you can use your I'm going
(16:35):
to say more psychic energy totap into your client before you
walk in the room and saying what, what's the thing that I need
to know?
What's maybe, if they'renervous, what is the thing I can
do to help keep them safe ormake them feel more calm?
What's something that wouldmake them smile or brighten them
up?
I used I used to do this in thecorporate world because, believe
it or not, I'm very sociallyawkward outside of this work.
(16:58):
I'm very socially awkward, likeI went to a dinner last night
and I was just like I don't know.
And I've known these people for30 years, 20, 30 years and I'm
just like, but I'm not the sameperson I used to be.
So I like to tap into spirit.
I'm like what should I talkabout?
What should I talk about?
Oh, tell me about yourretirement, right.
About?
(17:19):
Should I talk about?
Oh, tell me about yourretirement, right?
That's hysterical.
So.
So I use it to for the introvertin me to adapt and be more
comfortable around socialsituations.
So you can do it for yourself,your clients, you can tap, tap
into their departed loved ones.
That's awesome.
And as you start going furtherinto this and I'm you're gonna
have to decide how far you wantto take this.
(17:40):
This is up to you.
But as you start going furtherand further into this work, you
might start seeing what I seewhen I was working in the
corporate world and is thisperson a safe space to talk to
about?
Hey, your mom's with you, your,your grandmother's with you,
and they, they would show it tome in the stoplights red, yellow
, green.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Oh wow, that's awesome.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I would sit down with somebody in a conference room
on the 44th floor in Boston,both of us in suits, and I would
sit down and be like.
I was like what's that tattooin your wrist?
She's like that's from my mom.
I was like, yeah, I'm a mediumand they're like what so?
So I feel like you're going tobe able to start doing that
(18:23):
eventually.
And tapping in and being like,is it okay to say something, yes
or no?
And like, very precariously,right, like in whatever way
feels comfortable for you.
If, whether it feelscomfortable at all, we're not
comfortable, but you can alwaysbe like flip a card, be like,
hey, if you're interested inthis.
Like, yeah, I'm feeling youhave a lot of loved ones around
(18:45):
you, so you might.
I'm just going to toss it outthere.
But I think eventually you'llget to that space and, honestly,
I think that your drive to helppeople is going to is going to
override yeah, say your desireto like be PC with some of this
stuff.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Yeah, yeah, well, I already do to some extent.
Not the mediumship, it doesn'tcome through.
But I always ask about who theyare, who's in their family,
what's and some reason.
It always they'll tell me aboutsomebody who's passed and I
always every time ask do youfeel their presence?
Do you get their signs?
And then I go right intotelling them how to ask for
(19:22):
signs, like that happens all thetime.
So once I can get those hits,that won't be a hard thing.
I'll know when to say something, when not to.
Oh, that's amazing.
Yes, so that's really cool.
I love that.
Oh, that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
So that's really cool .
I love that.
So it's taking that one stepfurther, which I think would be
no problem for you.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Do you have any questions for mom?
Um, no, I do not, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
I love it.
But I know you talk to her allthe time, I know you're
constantly inviting her in, Iknow that she helps you with
your mediumship work and I knowshe like stands there very
discerningly because she is apain in the ass and I love, I
love her energy, love her energy.
So I see her like with her armscrossed, like sitting there
like making sure and she's thetaskmaster, and I don't like and
she must've been like this inthe restaurant too, because I
(20:09):
see she's telling everybody elsewhat to do Yep, like not only
that, because she's equating itto the restaurant again, like
with the restaurant she'd belike you need to add more salt,
you need to add more spice.
And I feel like she kind ofdoes that energetically with
people like Nope, you need to.
That needs to be a little bitlouder, that needs to be a
little bit softer.
You need to.
You need to make sure you bringthis in.
I love that, that's great.
(20:30):
So she really is, um, likesuper mom is, cause I see her
put on like the Superman caperight now.
So like she really is likesuper mom taking care of you
from the other side.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Oh, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
She wants to thank you for being such an amazing
daughter.
Um, she can't stop talkingabout how brilliant you are and
how like smart you are and howyou're able to really synthesize
and pull together things thatdon't necessarily make sense
together, and.
But you can see the patternsand you can see how things work
together, even if it's not in atextbook anywhere, so you're
recognizing the patterns, whichis really really good.
(21:06):
And I have to say she never gotto do what she wanted here in
the physical world.
She never got to take herbreaks, vacations.
She hid behind work.
Yes, yeah, she is sitting on thebeach on the other side, like I
(21:28):
see her with an umbrella, thosechairs that have like the big I
don't know what they're called.
They're like wooden but theyhave the big piece of cloth that
hangs down.
It's like a little hammock, butit's not right.
She's got one of those.
She's got like a giant um, Idon't know pina colada or like a
strawberry daiquiri in her hand, with a little umbrella in it
and it's.
And she's at the beach withlike a big hat on and she is
(21:51):
loving it on the other side andshe's saying there's a lot of
people that would have regrettedliving the way that she did,
with nonstop work, nonstophelping people, not taking care
of herself, not taking vacationsfor herself.
She would not have had it anyother way, she would not have
chosen any differently, becauseshe can see the change she made
(22:16):
and the people that she helped,and if she had the choice, she
would do it all over again, wow.
So that's, that's a message foryou.
Thank you, you're a workhorsetoo.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
A little bit, yeah, a little bit.
But I know how to vacation.
That's the one way.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Good Right, because you need to, you need to refresh
your energy.
But she, but I see you like opt.
I'm going to say I see youopting almost out of retirement
and helping people instead.
That is your retirement is likedoing things fully for you and
helping people.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
I would love that.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Yeah, it'd be incredible Yep, absolutely Well.
I'm going to leave you with herlove.
Lori, thank you so much forbeing here and trusting me with
with your amazing mom here onthe other side.
I'm sure this is not the lasttime I will hear from her.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, you can kick her away.
I lend her out to people too,like if anybody ever needs her.
You know I'm always like,listen, yeah, you can take my
mom for a few days, she'll helpyou out.
So yeah, anytime you need her.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
Take her take her.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Yeah, she'll help you , she's got a lot of power over
there.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
So anytime, all right .
I wish you're amazing.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
I appreciate you being here today.
Thank you so much.
That was amazing.
You're the best, thank you.
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