Why Singlehood is Important and Should Not Be Rushed (Not What You Might Think)

We often hear that being single is a time for investing in our hobbies and building our professional lives. We also hear that it’s a time for actively preparing ourselves to be in a relationship. This episode strays away from these messages to bring up a much more hidden meaning to singlehood: it is a time for taking a magnifying glass to our current experience of love and our perception of it. When we are alone, we are simply being given an opportunity to purify our intentions for love from everything that was never love to begin with. Singlehood is a time for shedding the layers of our persona that were never ours: the trauma response we inherited, the fear of abandonment, the crippling insecurity, the belief that we can only have what we grew up seeing. When we take the time to address these layers, our self-trust grows. Naturally, our perception of love shifts, too. It becomes lighter and we start to view a potential romantic partner for who they really are, as opposed to who we want them to be in order to avoid suffering. Tune in to find out how we can do this work, and listen until the end to hear what I believe is the most important product of singlehood for both the individual and the relationship they will one day have.

Link to podcast episode mentioned:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2aw59y4oiMmPRhQfgnCMWL?si=b5da03def58d44ce