April 24, 2024 • 18 mins
I'm recording this impromptu episode from Fiji. We came here expecting a sunny beach adventure filled with surfing, snorkeling, and diving. Instead, it rained 6 out of 7 days and all of our plans were cancelled. In this episode, I share an experience I had here in Fiji and we talk about why swapping our expectations for appreciation can transform our experiences. Join me as I share real-time reflections on handling disappointment, embracing the unexpected, and finding gratitude even when things don't go as planned.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't waste another minute.
No, I won't.
I'm a man on a mission.
I'm a man on a mission.
I don't need no permission.
I'm a man on a mission.
Welcome to Entitled to Nothing.
(00:21):
Where we believe our life isour fault.
My name is Mink and I'mrecording this kind of impromptu
podcast from Fiji specificallybecause we're down here on a
little belief trip and if youwant to know what that is, by
the way, check out the YouTubevideo about our Fiji vacation.
But it's been an interestingtrip because we had this
(00:43):
expectation.
But it's been an interestingtrip because we had this
expectation that we were goingto have this amazing beach
relaxing adventure.
Right, I had planned on surfingand snorkeling, we were even
looking at doing a shark dive.
We had all these things plannedand we got here and it was
pouring down rain day after dayafter day, and and I had this
(01:05):
experience yesterday that Iwanted to share with you guys
because it's a really beautifulreminder of everything that I
talk about.
You know, I say our life is ourfault and that honestly pisses a
lot of people off.
I have this video that I postedand it's like if you don't like
the way that your life is, ifyour relationships, your money,
your health, if whatever it isin your life you're experiencing
(01:29):
, if you don't like it, it'syour fault.
Look in the mirror.
And I constantly, almost everyday, get negative comments from
people saying like yeah, it's myfault, I'm this, or it's my
fault, I'm that or it's my fault.
My wife left me.
And they call me some verychoice words, to be honest with
you, and the truth is, we don'tcontrol what happens outside of
(01:53):
us, but we always control how wereact and respond, and I really
believe that how we respond tolife is way more important than
what happens in life.
I think the way that we reactand respond is going to have a
greater impact on our experienceof life than any external
(02:15):
circumstance.
And so yesterday I was sittingat the restaurant because it was
pouring down rain and I wasjust sitting there reading a
book and relaxing and drinking acoffee, and the manager came up
to me and he goes Anthony, howare you doing?
And I was like honestly, I'mdoing amazing, thank you, how
are you?
And he's like oh, I'm so gladto hear that he goes.
(02:36):
So many of the guests are veryupset.
And I'm like yeah, well, whyare they upset and he's like
because of the weather.
And I was like, well, whatwould they like you to do about
that?
And he's like, apparently theythink I should be able to change
the weather because they'revery upset.
And I told him, I said, youknow, I I honestly I found
myself getting frustrated aswell.
(02:56):
Uh, I flew all the way down hereand I'm spending 1500 plus a
night, food trips, the wholething.
And in my mind mind I had thisidea of this really beautiful,
chill beach vacation and inreality it's been pouring down
rain.
And I said, you know, Idefinitely found myself getting
really frustrated, but I had toput myself in check because my
(03:19):
expectations were one thing, butobviously the reality is
another.
And, and I told him, thespecific thing I said is, you
know, I think in life we have tolearn how to trade our
expectations for appreciation.
And he goes oh my gosh, thatjust gave me goosebumps.
And he literally shows me hisarm and you could see the hair
sticking up and he goes.
(03:39):
I've been working at this resortfor a while and you know, we
have people from all over theworld that come here and so many
of them are so entitled andthey get upset about the
littlest things.
He goes.
I think what you said iscorrect.
I've never heard that saidbefore.
But if we just traded ourexpectations for appreciation,
we'd have a totally differentexperience.
(04:00):
And, uh, the first time I heardthis was from tony robbins.
He's the person that coinedthat phrase.
He said if you trade yourexpectations for appreciation,
you'll have a totally differentworld.
And you know, it's okay to getfrustrated at life.
That's part of the humanexperience.
And, like I said, I found myselfgetting frustrated.
(04:20):
It's like fuck, you know, and Ireally got frustrated after our
shark dive got canceled.
We heard about this shark diveand it's this place here in Fiji
.
I think it's maybe the onlyplace in the world where you can
do this, but they have eightdifferent species of sharks,
including bull sharks and tigersharks, which, if you know
anything about sharks, are twoof the most aggressive sharks
(04:41):
that you can see.
And it's a non caged dive.
You, you literally get yourscuba gear on, you go down to
the bottom of the reef and theyhave a place where they line you
up and they freaking feed thesharks and there's, like they
said, up to like 40 or 50 sharksat a time, but there's eight
different species of sharks, andMike and I are both scuba
(05:01):
certified and I was like, fuckthat, let's do it right.
And it was.
It was gonna be a veryexpensive trip because we had to
drive like two and a half threehours by boat to Get there.
And we're fired up, though,we're ready to go, and it gets
canceled because of the rain.
And after that I found myselfgetting really irritated.
I was like fuck, I came all theway here and it's fucking
(05:21):
raining every fucking day.
And I said it just like that inmy mind.
And then, uh, I allowed myselfto be frustrated for about five
minutes and then I realized Ican do a lot of things, but I
can't change the weather.
And I flew all the way here andI'll be damned if I'm going to
let myself and my experience getdiminished or discouraged by
(05:47):
something outside of me.
And so I reminded myselfAnthony, you just have to trade
your expectations forappreciation.
And then we said, all right,what can we do in the rain?
How can we make the most out ofthis?
So we went swimming, we wentpaddle boarding, we went to the
spa.
Fortunately, the place we'restaying at has a hot tub, a cold
tub, a sauna, a steam room,they got a weight room.
(06:08):
So we just made the most of it.
We ate a lot of delicious food,we hung out, we talked shit.
We had a good time, um, and weabsolutely made the most of this
trip.
I'm so grateful that I came, andyou know what?
What's so crazy about that?
I think you know, sometimeslife gives you obstacles just to
(06:28):
see how you respond.
And we woke up this morning andI looked outside about 3 am
because of the jet lag and I waslike, oh, I can see stars.
I literally ran outside, wentout onto the beach, I looked up
and the whole sky was justfilled with unbelievable stars.
You know, on this small islandin the middle of the South
Pacific, there's nothing around,no light pollution, and I could
(06:52):
see so many stars.
It was so vivid.
I just found myself gettingovercome with gratitude and it
was largely because, even thoughit was been raining and pouring
and there's a lot of thingsthat we could have been
frustrated about, we dideverything we could to make the
most of it.
And you know, in life we couldto make the most of it.
(07:12):
And you know, in life I reallybelieve in the duality of life.
You know the yin and the yang,right so often.
If we only had the experienceof sunny days, we would never
appreciate them, because it'swhat we would always have.
And I think so often in lifewe're looking to always feel a
certain way.
We always want to be happy, wealways want to be confident, we
(07:34):
always want to feel motivated orinspired, we always want things
to go that we want them to go,but there's no growth in that.
You know, all of theperspective or, excuse me, all
of our experience in life comesfrom a perspective.
I've heard it said that there'sno growth without context and
(07:56):
contrast.
Right, we have to have thecontext for what something is A
sunny day, a rainy day, a goodrelationship, a bad relationship
.
We have to have context tounderstand what something is.
And then we need to havepersonal contrast.
We need to have an experienceof a good relationship and also
(08:17):
a shitty one to understand thetrue context of what makes what.
What you know, and as silly as asunny day or rainy day is, it
is the yin and the yang thatmakes us happy, and I was just
having this conversation withMike.
He's packing up his stuff andhe's getting ready to head back
to Arizona.
(08:38):
I'm going to stay here for afew more days by myself and just
totally chill out.
No cameras, no microphones, nohot mics, just some chill time
to really really unplug.
And I mean we've beenunplugging the whole time, but
just a little bit of time bymyself.
I've come to really appreciatethe solo time.
(08:58):
And you know, you know Mike madethis comment.
He's like you know, it reallyis what you say, like you keep
saying our life is our fault andthis trip has been a good
experience of that.
And that story with the managerand people being pissed because
the rain is really a good, it'sa good example of what happens
when we take responsibility forour experience.
(09:20):
And that's what our life is ourfault means.
It means I'm going to takeradical responsibility for my
experience of life, and Istarted entitled to nothing,
because I wholeheartedly believethat we are entitled to nothing
, but also that our life is ourfucking fault.
And I will never allow myselfto be a victim of an external
(09:43):
circumstance.
I will never allow myself to bea victim of a limited thought
or a fear or a doubt or aninsecurity.
I have committed to takingradical responsibility for my
life, and I don't share that toimpress you.
I share that to express to youthat, no matter where you are
(10:04):
right now, you have the capacityto take responsibility for
where you're at, and whetheryou're going through something
that's incredible and you'reliving a dream or you're
currently living a nightmare,we're going to have both of them
and both of them have anopportunity for us to learn and
(10:24):
grow.
In fact, I would say you learnfar more from failure and
heartbreak and setback than youdo success.
I think you learn very fewthings.
In success, you might learn howto do certain things and what
to do, but in failure, inheartbreak, in frustration, we
(10:46):
learn what not to do, and Ithink what not to do is almost
more important than what to do.
But, guys, if there is onething that I could impart on you
, if there is one thing that Icould express to you, it is that
our life is our fault, and whenyou have the courage to take
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responsibility for everything,you become the creator of it.
You know there's a saying thatsays with great power comes
great responsibility, but whatthey never tell you is how to
get great power, and what'sbeautiful about it is it's the
inverse With greatresponsibility comes great power
.
If you want to have power inyour life to do what you want to
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live how you want to createlife on your terms, you have to
have the courage to take radicalresponsibility for everything.
All of the most successfulpeople that you admire got there
in part because they had thecourage to take responsibility
for their results.
(11:52):
Because they had the courage totake responsibility for their
results.
And if you want to have thepower to live life on your terms
, you have to have the courageto take responsibility,
especially for the things thatgo wrong, especially for the
failures and the setbacks.
And by taking responsibility inthe failures, in the heartbreak
and the setback, when you stepaway from it, you have the power
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to learn from it.
You know, most of the time whensomething goes wrong, people
want to push it away, they wantto avoid it and they want to
make excuses and blame othersfor why that happened, and
that's why they never learn thelesson.
Growing up, I was blessed tohave a father who well, how do I
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say this?
I mean, if you've beenlistening to this, you know that
my relationship with my fatherwas very challenged, but I say I
was blessed to have the fatherthat I did, because he was a
living example of what happenswhen you play the victim.
My dad was the victim of everysituation that took place in
life.
Everything was someone else'sfault.
He blamed everybody else forhis failures and his
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shortcomings and he had no powerin his life.
And part of the reason why I'mso fucking adamant about this
idea that our life is our faultis my experience with my father,
and I've lived firsthand theobservation of what happens when
you blame and in my life, whathappens when you take, and in my
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life, what happens when youtake responsibility.
And you know my dad was.
You know he struggled a lot inhis life and he never really
accomplished anything.
He died at 64 years old fromliver failure because he drank
himself to death.
He never traveled, never flewon a plane.
He I supported him for multipleyears.
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He ultimately got a foreclosurenotice and went through
bankruptcy and foreclosure.
I love my dad to death, but hislife was a walking example of
what I never, ever wanted toexperience in my life and I'm so
grateful for that experienceand for the ability to observe
his behavior because it taughtme that the opposite is true if
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you blame, you're never going tohave any power, but if you take
responsibility, you have thepower to create your life.
And and yes, there's going tobe external factors that throw
you off yes, you're going to gethit by life over and over and
over again.
There's going to be all sortsof fucking things that happen
that you have no control over,but we always control how we
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react and respond.
And as I sit here in Fiji andthe sun is finally out after
five days, I just felt like thisexperience that I've had down
here is such a beautifulreminder that we're not in
control of what happens outsideof us, but we're always in
control of how we respond.
And how we respond to life willdetermine our experience of
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life.
It's the internal that createsthe external, not the external
that builds.
So, you know, this is why Ilove traveling.
Travel is one of my favoritethings to do, because I feel
like when we put ourselves outinto the world, we develop new
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perspectives, we see things froma different lens, we have the
opportunity to live our life,and it's only through living a
life that we learn and that wegrow, that we're challenged and
that we're pushed.
You know, so often we stay inour comfort zone and growth
never happens there.
All the growth, all theexperience, all the love and
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beauty and joy typically comesfrom stepping outside of what's
comfortable.
And as we get ready to headback to Arizona and get back
into the day-to-day grind oflife, I think the best thing
that we can remember is to tradeour expectations for how we
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want things to go for anappreciation of the way that
they are.
And if we can just show upevery day and look for what's
right instead of what's wrong,we're going to find more things
to be grateful for, and the morethat we have to be grateful for
, the more that we will createin our lives that bring that
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brings gratitude.
So I appreciate you guysfollowing along in the journey,
I appreciate you listening tothe podcast.
The feedback that I've got isincredible, and the only reason
why I do this is because I haveexperienced both sides of it,
right.
I've experienced the victimhood, the abuse, the addiction, the
pain, and I've also experiencedthe love, the beauty, the joy
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and the success that gives methe capacity to live life on my
terms.
And I've spent 20 years runningheadfirst into failure after
failure, and I've figured outhow to turn my failures into
lessons, and I've used thoselessons to create life on my
terms, and I want the same foryou.
I don't know what yourdefinition of success is or what
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you want in your life, but myguess is you want to live life
on your terms.
I think that's.
The ultimate definition ofsuccess is to live our life on
our terms, with those that welove doing, the things that we
enjoy, and that starts bytrading our expectations for
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appreciation and taking radicalresponsibility for our life.
If you got value from thislittle impromptu episode, all I
would ever ask is share it.
Share it with someone thatneeds to hear it.
Share it with someone that letslife fuck them up a little bit,
then maybe they're a little bittoo influenced or uh, or
frustrated by life.
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Maybe they're one of thosepeople that are always bitching
and complaining about howeverything is happening to them.
Maybe send this to them just asa joke to piss them off, but
maybe maybe the message willconnect with them, and if it
does, then you know that will bea blessing.
But I appreciate you guystuning in.
Stay tuned for more episodeswhen we're back in Arizona.
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I'll talk to you guys soon.
I won't waste another minute.
No, I won't.
I'm a man on a mission.
I'm a man on a mission.
I don't need no permission.
I'm a man on a mission.
Welcome to Entitled to Nothing.
(00:21):
Where we believe our life isour fault.
My name is Mink and I'mrecording this kind of impromptu
podcast from Fiji specificallybecause we're down here on a
little belief trip and if youwant to know what that is, by
the way, check out the YouTubevideo about our Fiji vacation.
But it's been an interestingtrip because we had this
(00:43):
expectation.
But it's been an interestingtrip because we had this
expectation that we were goingto have this amazing beach
relaxing adventure.
Right, I had planned on surfingand snorkeling, we were even
looking at doing a shark dive.
We had all these things plannedand we got here and it was
pouring down rain day after dayafter day, and and I had this
(01:05):
experience yesterday that Iwanted to share with you guys
because it's a really beautifulreminder of everything that I
talk about.
You know, I say our life is ourfault and that honestly pisses a
lot of people off.
I have this video that I postedand it's like if you don't like
the way that your life is, ifyour relationships, your money,
your health, if whatever it isin your life you're experiencing
(01:29):
, if you don't like it, it'syour fault.
Look in the mirror.
And I constantly, almost everyday, get negative comments from
people saying like yeah, it's myfault, I'm this, or it's my
fault, I'm that or it's my fault.
My wife left me.
And they call me some verychoice words, to be honest with
you, and the truth is, we don'tcontrol what happens outside of
(01:53):
us, but we always control how wereact and respond, and I really
believe that how we respond tolife is way more important than
what happens in life.
I think the way that we reactand respond is going to have a
greater impact on our experienceof life than any external
(02:15):
circumstance.
And so yesterday I was sittingat the restaurant because it was
pouring down rain and I wasjust sitting there reading a
book and relaxing and drinking acoffee, and the manager came up
to me and he goes Anthony, howare you doing?
And I was like honestly, I'mdoing amazing, thank you, how
are you?
And he's like oh, I'm so gladto hear that he goes.
(02:36):
So many of the guests are veryupset.
And I'm like yeah, well, whyare they upset and he's like
because of the weather.
And I was like, well, whatwould they like you to do about
that?
And he's like, apparently theythink I should be able to change
the weather because they'revery upset.
And I told him, I said, youknow, I I honestly I found
myself getting frustrated aswell.
(02:56):
Uh, I flew all the way down hereand I'm spending 1500 plus a
night, food trips, the wholething.
And in my mind mind I had thisidea of this really beautiful,
chill beach vacation and inreality it's been pouring down
rain.
And I said, you know, Idefinitely found myself getting
really frustrated, but I had toput myself in check because my
(03:19):
expectations were one thing, butobviously the reality is
another.
And, and I told him, thespecific thing I said is, you
know, I think in life we have tolearn how to trade our
expectations for appreciation.
And he goes oh my gosh, thatjust gave me goosebumps.
And he literally shows me hisarm and you could see the hair
sticking up and he goes.
(03:39):
I've been working at this resortfor a while and you know, we
have people from all over theworld that come here and so many
of them are so entitled andthey get upset about the
littlest things.
He goes.
I think what you said iscorrect.
I've never heard that saidbefore.
But if we just traded ourexpectations for appreciation,
we'd have a totally differentexperience.
(04:00):
And, uh, the first time I heardthis was from tony robbins.
He's the person that coinedthat phrase.
He said if you trade yourexpectations for appreciation,
you'll have a totally differentworld.
And you know, it's okay to getfrustrated at life.
That's part of the humanexperience.
And, like I said, I found myselfgetting frustrated.
(04:20):
It's like fuck, you know, and Ireally got frustrated after our
shark dive got canceled.
We heard about this shark diveand it's this place here in Fiji
.
I think it's maybe the onlyplace in the world where you can
do this, but they have eightdifferent species of sharks,
including bull sharks and tigersharks, which, if you know
anything about sharks, are twoof the most aggressive sharks
(04:41):
that you can see.
And it's a non caged dive.
You, you literally get yourscuba gear on, you go down to
the bottom of the reef and theyhave a place where they line you
up and they freaking feed thesharks and there's, like they
said, up to like 40 or 50 sharksat a time, but there's eight
different species of sharks, andMike and I are both scuba
(05:01):
certified and I was like, fuckthat, let's do it right.
And it was.
It was gonna be a veryexpensive trip because we had to
drive like two and a half threehours by boat to Get there.
And we're fired up, though,we're ready to go, and it gets
canceled because of the rain.
And after that I found myselfgetting really irritated.
I was like fuck, I came all theway here and it's fucking
(05:21):
raining every fucking day.
And I said it just like that inmy mind.
And then, uh, I allowed myselfto be frustrated for about five
minutes and then I realized Ican do a lot of things, but I
can't change the weather.
And I flew all the way here andI'll be damned if I'm going to
let myself and my experience getdiminished or discouraged by
(05:47):
something outside of me.
And so I reminded myselfAnthony, you just have to trade
your expectations forappreciation.
And then we said, all right,what can we do in the rain?
How can we make the most out ofthis?
So we went swimming, we wentpaddle boarding, we went to the
spa.
Fortunately, the place we'restaying at has a hot tub, a cold
tub, a sauna, a steam room,they got a weight room.
(06:08):
So we just made the most of it.
We ate a lot of delicious food,we hung out, we talked shit.
We had a good time, um, and weabsolutely made the most of this
trip.
I'm so grateful that I came, andyou know what?
What's so crazy about that?
I think you know, sometimeslife gives you obstacles just to
(06:28):
see how you respond.
And we woke up this morning andI looked outside about 3 am
because of the jet lag and I waslike, oh, I can see stars.
I literally ran outside, wentout onto the beach, I looked up
and the whole sky was justfilled with unbelievable stars.
You know, on this small islandin the middle of the South
Pacific, there's nothing around,no light pollution, and I could
(06:52):
see so many stars.
It was so vivid.
I just found myself gettingovercome with gratitude and it
was largely because, even thoughit was been raining and pouring
and there's a lot of thingsthat we could have been
frustrated about, we dideverything we could to make the
most of it.
And you know, in life we couldto make the most of it.
(07:12):
And you know, in life I reallybelieve in the duality of life.
You know the yin and the yang,right so often.
If we only had the experienceof sunny days, we would never
appreciate them, because it'swhat we would always have.
And I think so often in lifewe're looking to always feel a
certain way.
We always want to be happy, wealways want to be confident, we
(07:34):
always want to feel motivated orinspired, we always want things
to go that we want them to go,but there's no growth in that.
You know, all of theperspective or, excuse me, all
of our experience in life comesfrom a perspective.
I've heard it said that there'sno growth without context and
(07:56):
contrast.
Right, we have to have thecontext for what something is A
sunny day, a rainy day, a goodrelationship, a bad relationship
.
We have to have context tounderstand what something is.
And then we need to havepersonal contrast.
We need to have an experienceof a good relationship and also
(08:17):
a shitty one to understand thetrue context of what makes what.
What you know, and as silly as asunny day or rainy day is, it
is the yin and the yang thatmakes us happy, and I was just
having this conversation withMike.
He's packing up his stuff andhe's getting ready to head back
to Arizona.
(08:38):
I'm going to stay here for afew more days by myself and just
totally chill out.
No cameras, no microphones, nohot mics, just some chill time
to really really unplug.
And I mean we've beenunplugging the whole time, but
just a little bit of time bymyself.
I've come to really appreciatethe solo time.
(08:58):
And you know, you know Mike madethis comment.
He's like you know, it reallyis what you say, like you keep
saying our life is our fault andthis trip has been a good
experience of that.
And that story with the managerand people being pissed because
the rain is really a good, it'sa good example of what happens
when we take responsibility forour experience.
(09:20):
And that's what our life is ourfault means.
It means I'm going to takeradical responsibility for my
experience of life, and Istarted entitled to nothing,
because I wholeheartedly believethat we are entitled to nothing
, but also that our life is ourfucking fault.
And I will never allow myselfto be a victim of an external
(09:43):
circumstance.
I will never allow myself to bea victim of a limited thought
or a fear or a doubt or aninsecurity.
I have committed to takingradical responsibility for my
life, and I don't share that toimpress you.
I share that to express to youthat, no matter where you are
(10:04):
right now, you have the capacityto take responsibility for
where you're at, and whetheryou're going through something
that's incredible and you'reliving a dream or you're
currently living a nightmare,we're going to have both of them
and both of them have anopportunity for us to learn and
(10:24):
grow.
In fact, I would say you learnfar more from failure and
heartbreak and setback than youdo success.
I think you learn very fewthings.
In success, you might learn howto do certain things and what
to do, but in failure, inheartbreak, in frustration, we
(10:46):
learn what not to do, and Ithink what not to do is almost
more important than what to do.
But, guys, if there is onething that I could impart on you
, if there is one thing that Icould express to you, it is that
our life is our fault, and whenyou have the courage to take
(11:08):
responsibility for everything,you become the creator of it.
You know there's a saying thatsays with great power comes
great responsibility, but whatthey never tell you is how to
get great power, and what'sbeautiful about it is it's the
inverse With greatresponsibility comes great power
.
If you want to have power inyour life to do what you want to
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live how you want to createlife on your terms, you have to
have the courage to take radicalresponsibility for everything.
All of the most successfulpeople that you admire got there
in part because they had thecourage to take responsibility
for their results.
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Because they had the courage totake responsibility for their
results.
And if you want to have thepower to live life on your terms
, you have to have the courageto take responsibility,
especially for the things thatgo wrong, especially for the
failures and the setbacks.
And by taking responsibility inthe failures, in the heartbreak
and the setback, when you stepaway from it, you have the power
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to learn from it.
You know, most of the time whensomething goes wrong, people
want to push it away, they wantto avoid it and they want to
make excuses and blame othersfor why that happened, and
that's why they never learn thelesson.
Growing up, I was blessed tohave a father who well, how do I
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say this?
I mean, if you've beenlistening to this, you know that
my relationship with my fatherwas very challenged, but I say I
was blessed to have the fatherthat I did, because he was a
living example of what happenswhen you play the victim.
My dad was the victim of everysituation that took place in
life.
Everything was someone else'sfault.
He blamed everybody else forhis failures and his
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shortcomings and he had no powerin his life.
And part of the reason why I'mso fucking adamant about this
idea that our life is our faultis my experience with my father,
and I've lived firsthand theobservation of what happens when
you blame and in my life, whathappens when you take, and in my
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life, what happens when youtake responsibility.
And you know my dad was.
You know he struggled a lot inhis life and he never really
accomplished anything.
He died at 64 years old fromliver failure because he drank
himself to death.
He never traveled, never flewon a plane.
He I supported him for multipleyears.
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He ultimately got a foreclosurenotice and went through
bankruptcy and foreclosure.
I love my dad to death, but hislife was a walking example of
what I never, ever wanted toexperience in my life and I'm so
grateful for that experienceand for the ability to observe
his behavior because it taughtme that the opposite is true if
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you blame, you're never going tohave any power, but if you take
responsibility, you have thepower to create your life.
And and yes, there's going tobe external factors that throw
you off yes, you're going to gethit by life over and over and
over again.
There's going to be all sortsof fucking things that happen
that you have no control over,but we always control how we
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react and respond.
And as I sit here in Fiji andthe sun is finally out after
five days, I just felt like thisexperience that I've had down
here is such a beautifulreminder that we're not in
control of what happens outsideof us, but we're always in
control of how we respond.
And how we respond to life willdetermine our experience of
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life.
It's the internal that createsthe external, not the external
that builds.
So, you know, this is why Ilove traveling.
Travel is one of my favoritethings to do, because I feel
like when we put ourselves outinto the world, we develop new
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perspectives, we see things froma different lens, we have the
opportunity to live our life,and it's only through living a
life that we learn and that wegrow, that we're challenged and
that we're pushed.
You know, so often we stay inour comfort zone and growth
never happens there.
All the growth, all theexperience, all the love and
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beauty and joy typically comesfrom stepping outside of what's
comfortable.
And as we get ready to headback to Arizona and get back
into the day-to-day grind oflife, I think the best thing
that we can remember is to tradeour expectations for how we
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want things to go for anappreciation of the way that
they are.
And if we can just show upevery day and look for what's
right instead of what's wrong,we're going to find more things
to be grateful for, and the morethat we have to be grateful for
, the more that we will createin our lives that bring that
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brings gratitude.
So I appreciate you guysfollowing along in the journey,
I appreciate you listening tothe podcast.
The feedback that I've got isincredible, and the only reason
why I do this is because I haveexperienced both sides of it,
right.
I've experienced the victimhood, the abuse, the addiction, the
pain, and I've also experiencedthe love, the beauty, the joy
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and the success that gives methe capacity to live life on my
terms.
And I've spent 20 years runningheadfirst into failure after
failure, and I've figured outhow to turn my failures into
lessons, and I've used thoselessons to create life on my
terms, and I want the same foryou.
I don't know what yourdefinition of success is or what
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you want in your life, but myguess is you want to live life
on your terms.
I think that's.
The ultimate definition ofsuccess is to live our life on
our terms, with those that welove doing, the things that we
enjoy, and that starts bytrading our expectations for
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appreciation and taking radicalresponsibility for our life.
If you got value from thislittle impromptu episode, all I
would ever ask is share it.
Share it with someone thatneeds to hear it.
Share it with someone that letslife fuck them up a little bit,
then maybe they're a little bittoo influenced or uh, or
frustrated by life.
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Maybe they're one of thosepeople that are always bitching
and complaining about howeverything is happening to them.
Maybe send this to them just asa joke to piss them off, but
maybe maybe the message willconnect with them, and if it
does, then you know that will bea blessing.
But I appreciate you guystuning in.
Stay tuned for more episodeswhen we're back in Arizona.
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I'll talk to you guys soon.
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