January 8, 2025 • 36 mins
What if 2025 was the year everything finally changed? No more failed goals, broken dreams, and feeling stuck year after year. Just real, lasting growth. In this episode, we dive deep into how to create lasting change in 2025 and make it your breakthrough year. This episode isn't just about setting goals; it's about fundamentally understanding and shaping who you need to become to achieve these goals. I will walk you through a reflective and actionable plan to help you determine where you are, where you want to go, and most importantly, who you need to become to get there.
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Chapter Markers:
0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for 2025
1:30 - Reflection Process: Understanding Your Current State
2:24 - Embracing the New Year as a Metaphor for Renewal
3:10 - Detailed Guide: Conducting a Personal and Time Audit
4:42 - Analyzing Time and Energy Investments
5:31 - Identifying Energy Drainers and Adders
6:30 - Prioritizing Effective Time Management
7:25 - Conducting a Personal Identity Audit
8:56 - Deep Dive into Personal Beliefs and Values
10:06 - Understanding the Stories We Tell Ourselves
11:31 - Setting a Vision and Concrete Goals for 2025
13:31 - The Wheel of Life Exercise: Visualizing Your Current Life Setup
14:25 - Determining Key Areas for Improvement
16:23 - Setting Actionable, Measurable Goals
19:05 - Defining Clear Personal, Professional, and Experience Goals
22:42 - Who You Need to Become: Identifying Necessary Skills and Traits
24:21 - Building the Skills Needed for Your Goals
26:16 - Cultivating Character Traits for Success
28:18 - Addressing and Reforming Limiting Beliefs
30:13 - Implementing Beliefs that Propel You Forward
32:25 - Conclusion: Harnessing Positive Anchors and Setting Up for Success
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right.
So my question for you is wheredo you want to go in 2025?
What is that compelling visionthat you have that's going to
keep you up late, get you upearly and inspire you to make
changes and to do things thatyou've never done before, that
you really are proud of.
That will help turn 2025 into ayear that you can look back and
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say that was the year, that wasthe moment.
So, to get anywhere you want inlife, you need to know three
things you need to know whereyou are right now.
You need to know where you wantto go, and then the most
important step is knowing whoyou need to become in order to
create the results that you want.
Waste another minute?
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No, I won't.
I'm a man on a mission.
I'm a man on a mission.
I don't need no permission.
I'm a man on a mission.
Welcome to, entitled to Nothing, where we believe our life is
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our fault.
My name is Mink and it's 2025.
I honestly can't believe thatit's 2025.
And with the start of the newyear, there's a lot of new ideas
, new ambitions, new goals, newdreams, and what I wanna talk
about today is how do we make2025 the best year of our life.
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To put it bluntly, how do weunfuck our future and make sure
that we create lasting change in2025?
Every year, at the beginning ofthe year, I take myself through
a reflection process and acreation process and I can tell
you guys, I think going throughthis process and taking bits and
pieces of things that I'velearned throughout the years has
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been directly responsible forhelping me create the results
that I have in my life.
And if you guys have beenlistening, you know the journey,
you know the story, so I won'trepeat it today.
If you don't go back to thefirst episode and listen to, I
Am Entitled to Nothing thenumber one episode we did.
But to be as direct as I canwith you guys, today, what I
want to do is share with you myprocess of reflection and
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creation.
And I want to share it with youbecause I believe, if you do
this, it will help you get clearon what you need to do and,
most importantly, who you needto become to create the best
year of your life.
And that's my goal for you,that's my goal for myself.
I believe the purpose of life isto create life on our terms,
however you define that,whatever that means to you.
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And a new year is a reallybeautiful metaphor for starting
over and for beginning again,and so let's take this
opportunity to make 2025 thebest year of our life, and we do
that by going through athree-step process that I'm
going to take you guys through,and this podcast is going to be
a little bit different than thepast ones.
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This one is really going to bevery instructive.
I'm going to ask you guysquestions, I'm going to give you
guys very specific exercisesand things that you should do,
and I promise you, if you takethe time to do them, it will
have a meaningful impact in yourlife.
It really will.
And again, I credit goingthrough this type of a process
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with creating the life, theresults, the company, the
success that I have.
So, with all that said, let'sdive in.
So, to get anywhere you want inlife, you need to know three
things you need to know whereyou are right now.
You need to know where you wantto go, and then the most
important step is knowing whoyou need to become in order to
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create the results that you want.
And as I reflect back on mylife, I can tell you every major
breakthrough I've had, whetherit's personally or
professionally.
I did that.
I had that breakthrough bygetting a greater clarity on who
I am and who I need to becomeand ultimately, the breakthrough
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that you want in your life thechange of results, environment,
relationship, finances lives onthe other side of identifying
where you are right now, whereyou want to go and then who you
need to become to get there.
And so what we're going to dois we're going to start with a
personal audit and what I thinkI don't remember who said it
there's a famous philosopher,socrates, or something.
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That's like a life unexaminedis a life not worth living.
All of our growth comes inmoments of reflection and an
analysis, and so every year, atthe beginning of the year, I say
Anthony, where are you rightnow?
And I have a couple ofexercises that I go through that
I'm going to walk you through,that help me get clear on really
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what my current state ofaffairs is.
And the first thing I do is atime and an energy audit, and I
would encourage you guys to sitdown and ask yourself these
questions.
The first question is what doyou spend most of your time
doing?
Is it working?
Is it fucking off?
Is it watching TV?
Is it playing video games?
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Give yourself a breakdown ofhow you spend your time, from
the moment you wake up to themoment you go to bed.
Actually write out how manyhours in the day you spend doing
certain things.
How much time do you spend onsocial media?
How are you spending your time?
And then I would say what takesup most of my energy, right?
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Maybe I'm doing things that Ilove to do, but they don't take
up a lot of my energy.
And then maybe there's otherthings that I'm doing, things
that I love to do, but theydon't take up a lot of my energy
.
And then maybe there's otherthings that I'm doing that I
fucking hate and it takes up alot of my energy.
We want to try to figure outwhat are the energy adders and
what are the energy drainers andthen start to change some of
our habits and behaviors.
The third question is kind ofin alignment with the second one
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what do I need to remove, right?
What am I wasting time onthat's not productive, that I
need to remove?
And then, what am I wastingenergy on, or losing energy on,
that I need to remove?
And then, finally, the fourthquestion of the energy audit is
what do you need to add right?
What more time do you need tospend doing certain things?
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Where do you need to spend moretime in your life and where do
you need to spend doing certainthings?
Where do you need to spend moretime in your life and where do
you need to invest more energy?
Right, and if you can get clearand you can ask these four
questions what do you spend mostof your time doing?
What takes up most of your time, or what takes up most of your
energy?
What do you need to add andwhat do you need to remove If
you can get clear on thisprocess, it will help give you a
sense of how you're spendingthe most valuable thing you have
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your time and your attention.
And that right there, my friends, like who we spend, or how we
spend our time, determines whowe become right.
Success in anything is a habit,it's a behavior, it's an
investment of time and energy,and so the first thing I do at
the beginning of every year is Istart with a time and energy
audit and I say, okay, how do Ineed to reorganize my time and
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my energy in the new year sothat I can set myself up for
success.
So I'd highly encourage you tosit down, take 10, 20, 30
minutes, and the more detail andthe more effort you put into
this, the better your resultsare going to be.
Once you're done with that,we're going to do a personal
identity audit.
Now, if you study humanpsychology and behavior, what
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you'll learn is our identity.
Who we believe we are is thesingle most powerful force in
our lives.
It determines how we think, howwe speak and the results that
we get.
Our identity really defines whowe are, and sometimes the
identity that we have had willnot be the identity that we need
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to get where we're going, andone of my favorite quotes is by
Michael Singer.
He says you won't go where youwant to go until you let go of
who you are, and sometimes partsof us need to die so that new
parts of us can be born, and aprocess to do that is this
identity audit.
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And you see, our identity ismade up of a whole number of
factors.
It's the beliefs that we havein our life, the values and the
things that we find mostimportant, the language and the
self-talk that we have, thestories that we're telling
ourselves, the character traitsthat we have, the habits that we
live our life by, the skillsthat we possess, and then our
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overall environment and all ofthose kind of eight ingredients
actually create who you are.
That builds who Anthony is thebeliefs, the values, the
self-talk, the stories that Itell myself, the character
traits, the environment thatcreates who I am.
And I'm going to give you onequestion for each eight
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categories and I want you to sitdown and really think about
this, because if you get clearon your identity, you're going
to start to figure out whoyou've been and it's going to
start to become clear who youmight need to become to create
the next level of life foryourself, to create a better
2025.
Okay, so I'm going to.
I got these questions over here.
I'm going to read them to youbecause they're kind of long.
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So the first one is beliefswhat core values do you hold
about yourself and the world?
Number two, values what do youvalue deeply?
What do you care most about?
What are your guidingprinciples?
Number three is self-talk howdo I speak to myself?
I'm talking about theconversations you have with
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yourself.
How do you talk to yourself?
Is it positive, is it neutralor is it negative?
I'll tell you guys, this wasone of the biggest challenges I
had, because I grew up in anenvironment with so much
negative projection andself-talk.
You've heard me talk about mydad and how he would talk down
to me all the time, so I had theworst negative self-talk and I
would motherfucker myself likeyou wouldn't believe.
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It's actually probably one ofthe biggest obstacles I had to
overcome and I only did it bysaying how is my self-talk, how
do I speak to myself, what typeof things do I say?
And by getting clear on thatand then working on it,
practically changing thelanguage I used with myself, I
changed my identity.
Okay, and if you go throughthis process, this is what's
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going to happen.
The next one is the stories.
What stories do you tellyourself about your life, about
your future, about your past?
You know how many people I meetthat are telling the same story
that they told because theylost their business in 2008 when
the real estate marketcollapsed and they've never been
able to build it back.
Or, more recently, how manypeople tell themselves the
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stories about what happenedduring COVID and how it fucked
up their life and it will neverbe the same.
Your experience of life is thestories you tell yourself.
What stories are you tellingyourself?
And are you telling yourselfstories of one day I'm going to
create this, I'm going to dothat, we're going to build this
or are you telling yourselfstories about how the past
fucked up the future?
The next one is character traits.
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What character traits do youhave in your life right now?
What character traits areholding you back and what
character traits are pulling youforward?
What habits do you have?
How are you spending your time?
What are your regular routines,habits and rituals?
Okay, we talked a little bitabout in the identity audit, but
you can get deeper here in or,excuse me, we talked about it in
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the energy audit.
You can get a little deeperhere in the identity audit.
And then, finally, what skillsdo you currently have that are
allowing you to have the resultsthat you have?
And how's your environment,how's your physical surrounding
in your space?
By bringing awareness to theseareas and saying this is how I
want it or this is how I don'twant it.
This is the way that it is, butthis is the way that I want it
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to be right.
Doing this reflection, examiningyourself and your life is
ultimately the work that youneed to do to create a new
version of yourself, and theonly way you're going to have a
new life is by building a newversion of yourself, by
improving and upgrading who youare.
So you've done the time audit.
Now you've done the identityaudit.
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The last step of reflectionthat I have for you guys is a
really fun exercise, and Iactually created a website for
you.
You can go to anthonyminkcomforward slash 2025, and it will
send you guys to a website.
I didn't actually create thewebsite.
I built the referral link, soyou guys can just go there.
And this is going to be thewheel of life exercise, and
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you're going to score yourselfin eight areas of life.
You're going to give yourself ascore from one to 10 in your
health, your career, yourfinances from one to 10 in your
health, your career, yourfinances, your relationships,
your personal growth, the funand entertainment category of
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your life, your physicalenvironment and then your
religion or spiritual connection.
You're going to rate yourselfone to 10.
And if you go againanthonyminkcom forward, slash
2025, there's an applicationthat you can do for completely
free, where you fill this outand it's going to give you a map
, a graph of your life and itvisualizes the experience of
life you're having right now.
Maybe your relationships are ata five, your personal growth is
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at a three, your health is at asix or whatever it is right.
It's going to visualize it foryou.
And once you have thatvisualization of your life, you
get a unique perspective.
Whatever it is right, it'sgoing to visualize it for you.
And once you have thatvisualization of your life, you
get a unique perspective on wow,my relationships are not where
I want them to be.
That's a really low score.
Or, man, I'm spending a lot oftime and energy on my career.
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I scored an eight in the career, but my self-assessment of
health is I'm a four man.
I need to make some changes.
So you get a visualization.
It's really beautiful.
And then the last step here is,once you have your graph of your
life, your wheel of life, askyourself this question what area
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of my life, if improved, wouldhave the greatest impact on all
the rest?
What area, if improved, wouldhave the greatest impact on all
the rest?
And I can tell you this was aquestion that was a massive
breakthrough for me, becauseI've done this exercise over and
over and over.
And when I looked at it, I'm anentrepreneur, as you guys know,
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very, very motivated to getshit done and create results.
And in the world of business,the scoreboard is typically
monetary gains, it's revenue,it's sales, it's finance.
So I always had a very bigfinancial goal and my rating in
finance was always much lowerthan I was comfortable with it
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being.
And when I asked myself thisquestion which area, if improved
, would have the greatest impacton all the rest?
For me, very clearly, it wasfinance.
And I know it might seem crazy,but I realized if I take care
of that area of my life, if Iput a disproportionate amount of
energy and effort in that areaof my life, it's going to let my
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fun and entertainment be better, I'm going to be able to have
more time for health, I'm goingto be able to invest more into
my health.
It'll improve my career because, as an entrepreneur, finance
and career are directly linked,et cetera, et cetera.
Right, it's a discoveryquestion that for you it might
be holy shit.
My relationships are roughright now.
I need to invest more into mymarriage, and if I invested more
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into this marriage, it wouldgive me so much more energy and
juice and motivation for everyother area, that one area would
bleed and have the biggestimpact on all the rest.
If you do that, if you go toanthonyminkcom forward slash
2025, and you do the wheel oflife, you can visualize it, and
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then you can ask yourself thatquestion and what you're doing.
If you guys want to create amap, right, a map that's going
to take you from where you areto where you want to go, the
first step is getting reallyhonest and clear with where you
are, and I've just given youthree exercises that will do
that in spades, especially ifyou've never done that before,
and I highly encourage you to dothese three exercises.
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And that's going to give you avery clear point on where you
are.
And that leads us to step twowhen do you want to go?
All right, so my question foryou is where do you want to go
in 2025?
What is that compelling visionthat you have that's going to
keep you up late.
Get you up early and inspireyou to make changes and to do
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things that you've never donebefore.
That will pull you forward andhelp you create a life that you
really are proud of.
That will help turn 2025 into ayear that you can look back and
say that was the year, that wasthe moment.
Everything changed that year forme and you set yourself up
forever.
You know I have my life.
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I've had, you know, lots of theups and downs and I've talked
to you guys in the past episodesabout my bankruptcy and my
business failures.
And as I was putting thisepisode together for you guys, I
reflected back on the journeyand it was exactly January 10th
2010 that I filed for bankruptcyand the only way that I was
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able to overcome that failureand be in the position that I'm
in today successful company,tens of millions of dollars in
sales, life on my terms, travelto 40 plus countries.
I live an incredible life and Idon't tell you that to impress
you.
I tell it to you to impressupon you that the only way I
created any of that was byhaving a compelling vision, by
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knowing where I wanted to go.
The clarity of what I wantedgave me a level of certainty and
resolve that I was willing towork through anything and
everything that came up.
So in this second section, Iwant you to dream a little bit,
and I don't know how long thisis going to take you, but I want
you to sit down after you'vedone the reflection and ask
yourself where do you want to go?
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What would make 2025 a momentumyear for you?
What would make it abreakthrough year for you?
The end of this year?
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In 360 some days, wheneveryou're listening to this, you
can say I did something thatwill separate me for the rest of
my life.
And you know, oftentimes thislooks like new year's
resolutions.
The problem with resolutions isthey don't fucking work.
And the data supports it.
If you look at the data, withinfour to to six weeks basically
by February 1st 90% of peoplehave stopped or given up on
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their New Year's resolutions andonly 8% of people actually
complete them at the end of theyear.
So this isn't about setting NewYear's resolutions.
This is about setting a visionfor your life and then adding or
creating three to five very,very clear goals that are
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actionable and specific, andthen giving yourself that
framework I'm going toaccomplish this, this and this
this year and you starting tocreate that destination for
where you want to go by the endof 2025.
And I'll tell you, guys, for me, um, let me share with you what
my goals are.
I have three of them, verysimple.
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You might have more.
When I first started thisprocess, I set personal goals
what do I want in my personallife?
I set professional goals whatdo I want in my business life?
And then I set some experiencegoals, because I fucking love
experiences, you know.
And to go back to thebankruptcy part for a minute,
like that compelling vision forme was all experience.
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At that time, the only thing Iwanted in life was I wanted to
create life on my terms, andwhat that meant was I wanted to
start an online business so Icould move to the beach and
travel.
And this idea.
I woke up every fucking daywith this idea of one day I will
make enough money workingonline to move to the beach.
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All I need is to make a hundreddollars a day and I will sell
everything and I will fuckingmove to the beach.
And that idea, for whateverreason I can't tell you why.
I grew up in the mountains inOregon, but the idea of living
on a tropical beach inspired mein a way that almost nothing
else has in my life.
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And that vision thescreensavers of the beach, the
back of my phone still to thisday is a fucking beach right.
I live my life to experiencethe world.
That is my compelling vision.
That is the thing that lightsme up and motivates me to do
whatever I have to do, to workthrough the pain, the struggle,
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the doubt, the fear, all of it.
It is the compelling visionthat you create for yourself
that, ultimately, will be partof the fuel that pushes you
through the fucking shit thatyou're going to have to work
through to get there.
So I can't overstate theimportance of this, but we also
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want to keep it very simple.
So I would do two things if Iwere you.
I would one create a vision foryour life.
If I were you, I would onecreate a vision for your life.
What is your life going to looklike in one year from now, in
five years from now or 10 yearsfrom now?
And you can write it down oryou can just voice, note it to
yourself, record a video ofyourself, talk to yourself as if
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you're already living it andcreate that vision.
In a year from now, I'm goingto do this and this and this.
My relationship is going to belike this.
My health is going to be likethis.
I'm going to be down thisamount of weight I'm going to
gain this amount of strength.
Create that vision and then settwo, three, four tangible goals
For me.
Here's exactly what they are.
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Number one I'm going to grow mycompany Live Bearded by a
minimum of 50% year over year,both top line and bottom line.
Very clear, very actionable.
I'm in the process of launchinga masterclass and a mentorship
program to help otherentrepreneurs and individuals
grow their business and learnfrom the lessons and mistakes
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I've made, and I will have thatlive by the end of Q1.
Very actionable.
And then three I love tofucking travel, like I told you
guys.
So I'm going to spend part ofmy summer in Europe and then I
want to go back to Australia orAsia for Christmas.
Very clear, very simple.
I know exactly what I want, Iknow exactly why I want it and I
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know that my vision is going topush me when my energy is low,
when I'm doubting myself, whenI'm tired, when I don't want to
do it.
Okay.
So take some time, create thevision for your life and set
three to five actionable goalsand actionable should be from X
to Y, by when?
Or it should have somedeliverable, some type of
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tangible aspect to it.
If it's not measurable, itdoesn't fucking count.
Okay, and this final part, thisstep three, is who do you need
to become right?
Who do you have to be to createlasting change in your life?
Again, I can tell you, all ofthe biggest breakthroughs in my
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life have come on the other sideof getting clear on who I am
and then who I need to be tocreate the results, the life,
the environment, to build thevision that I have for myself.
And so here now we'veidentified a little bit of a gap
.
In the first exercise where areyou?
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You did a reflection, you didan audit that gives you an idea
of where you are.
In the second exercise, youcreated a vision for yourself
and some goals that tells youwhere you want to go.
So now, if you visualize a map,you have a start point and you
have an end point, and now youneed to figure out the route to
get there, and that route isdetermined by who you need to
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become, and I think the best wayto create more success in our
life is really there's threethings that you need to look at,
that you need to reflect on andyou need to improve.
The first one is what skills doyou have, what character traits
do you possess and what beliefsdo you have about your life?
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And, if you'll remember, wetouched on these three things in
the identity audit.
If you extract those out of theidentity audit and then you
look at the habits as well,these three to four elements
have the capacity to change yourlife forever.
So if you get clear on whathabits, rituals and routines you
need, that's kind of a very bigpart of this.
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But ultimately, what you want todo is get clear on what skills
do you need to create theresults that you want.
What skills in yourrelationships, in your health,
in your finances, in your careerthere is tangible hard skills
and soft skills you need toacquire to create the results
that you want.
Because here's the truth, andthis is the cold hard truth If
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you don't have what you want inlife, it's because you're not
the type of person capable ofcreating that result.
You're just simply not goodenough yet.
Yet You're missing some skills.
Okay, and if you get clear onwhat skills you need, in
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whatever area of your life, youlook at your wheel of life and
you say, yep, okay, my career isthe lowest and that will be the
part that has the biggestinfluence on all the rest.
What skills do you need toradically improve your career?
What skills do you need tomassively improve the intimacy
in your relationships?
The skills that you have, hardand soft, are one incredible
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place to start and it's tangible, okay, so get clear on what
skills do you need?
And for me, I think the softskills are critical, right,
because I don't know what yourhard skills need to be.
I don't know what you're at,where you're at in your health,
your career, your finances, yourrelationships.
I don't know your situation,but all of us need certain soft
skills if we want to be verysuccessful.
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We all need some emotionalintelligence.
We need to know what drives us,what motivates us right.
We need to have the ability tothink critically, to process
information, to problem solve.
We need to have great levels ofcommunication, right, being
able to communicate our thoughts, our ideas and our
relationships right.
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These are all skills that weall need.
So I'd get really clear on theskills that you need.
Number two the character traits,right.
Who you are, your character,the way that you show up in the
world, that is going todetermine the reality that you
create.
Right, if you say I need todevelop these skills and you
need to have more discipline ormore time management or more
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consistency in your life inorder to do that and you don't
do it, you're never going tocreate the skills.
So the idea here is the skills,the character traits and the
beliefs compound on each otherto create a very winnable
roadmap for you to createsuccess.
So you know what skills youneed, what character traits do
you need to possess, and I wouldsuggest that the biggest
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character trait that we all needin our life is more discipline,
more focus, more consistency.
I think that if we have a hungerto learn, to grow, you know, I
have this amazing assistant andshe said to me one day she said,
anthony, I think I figured itout.
I figured out what makes youunique.
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I figured out what yoursuperpower is, and I was like,
okay, this is going to beinteresting.
You know, I don't really, Idon't really think I have any
quote superpower, and she's likeyou are perpetually
dissatisfied, but in a way thatgives you a hunger to always get
better.
It's not a negative, it'sactually a positive.
You know, and I heard TonyRobbins said, the only thing
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that separates any of us is thehunger, the drive that we have.
It's not really a teachablequality, but if you can develop
a hunger to learn, to grow, toimprove, to get better, if you
can have that character trait,if you can build a growth
mindset man, that charactertrait will take you wherever you
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want to go.
So I'd get clear on what aresome of the character traits
that you have right now.
Maybe you procrastinate a lot,and that's a shitty character
trait that's holding you back.
It's a really bad habit andit's something that you need to
stop.
So you might want to identifysome that you need to get rid of
, some that you need to create.
That will ultimately help youget where you're going.
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And then the third step is whatbeliefs do you have about
yourself and your life?
And ultimately, I think all ofthe success that we have in life
is built on the foundation ofbelief.
Right, you are who you believeyou are.
You earn exactly as much as youbelieve you deserve to earn.
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You have the types ofrelationships and the types of
experiences that you believe youdeserve, and so I think for me
and I've shared this in pastepisodes as well it's like the
biggest mistake I've ever made.
That's actually an episode.
I think it's like number four,number five.
If you struggle with belief,please go listen to that episode
.
It's titled the Biggest MistakeI've Ever Made, and that
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mistake is not believing inmyself.
And that mistake is notbelieving in myself.
I didn't realize that all ofthe most successful athletes,
entrepreneurs and people whohave accomplished anything, they
did it because they had afoundational belief that it was
possible, and then they justoutworked their self-doubt.
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So I would say the third stephere in this becoming who you
need to be, is getting clear onwhat limiting beliefs you've had
and what beliefs you need tobuild or adopt.
And a belief is something thatyou adopt as true.
It's something that you see asfact.
It's not this esoteric crazything.
It's like do you fuckingbelieve that or not?
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Is that true?
Yes or no?
Yes, okay, you believe it.
Super simple.
So what do you need to believeabout yourself?
What needs to be true about youin order for you to get the
result that you want?
And my guess is you need tobuild some beliefs for you to
get the result that you want.
And my guess is you need tobuild some beliefs.
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I'm going to share with you afew of the beliefs that I have
installed into my psyche, that Ichoose as truths in my life.
And you guys have heard thefirst one my life is my fault.
I am entitled to nothing.
I choose this as fact in mylife.
It's a belief because it makesme take radical responsibility
and I believe that throughresponsibility I can have power.
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Okay, another belief I have islife is always happening for me,
not to me.
You've heard this one before aswell.
What does that mean?
That means that every situation, every circumstance, no matter
how good, bad, ugly, painful,there's something happening
there for me to learn and grow.
I believe whatever I canconceive I can achieve.
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Okay, I believe that I amunstoppable when I take massive
action and I believe in myself.
Right, I've created thesebeliefs and you're hearing me
say belief a lot, but it's likeI believe if I take massive
action and believe in what I'mdoing, I can create it.
Right, discipline is a bridge.
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That's a belief I've installedinto my life.
If I don't have the results Iwant, something is missing.
Part of that.
Something is probably adiscipline or a consistency.
If I install that in thatcharacter trait, in that area of
my life.
Now I have a bridge to get fromwhere I am to where I want to
go Skills, character, traits andbeliefs, and then, ultimately,
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the habits that you form.
That is going to have thebiggest impact on who you are,
and who you are is always goingto determine what you experience
.
We don't get the life that wewant.
We get who we are, and myprayer for all of us in 2025 is
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we get really clear on where weare and who we've been, we get
really clear on where we want togo and then we build a plan to
become who we need to be, andthat starts with habits, skills,
character traits and beliefs.
My final thought is this Chasethe man, not the money.
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Chase the man, not the applause.
Chase the man that you need tobe, not the destination that you
want.
When you're constantly chasingthe man that you need to be and
become, the results will takecare of themselves.
Be and become.
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The results will take care ofthemselves.
The man that loves to run willrun farther than the man that
loves the destination.
The man that works on himself,that is always learning and
growing, that is reflecting andstriving, that is trying to
better his best and commits toconstant and never-ending
improvement, that man can createwhatever he wants.
And that is the commitment thatI've made in my life.
That is the journey that I'm on.
It's the journey of constantand never-ending improvement.
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It's treating every day as dayone and doing everything that I
can to create the best versionof myself, because that's how I
create the best version of life.
One simple story to end with youguys, I think, as you approach
the new year right, there's bothpositive and negative anchors.
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We need to get clear on whatthose are, and I remember the
very first time I actuallylearned this lesson.
I was on a sailing trip inCroatia.
It was this really amazingsailing trip and I was woken up
in the middle of the night itwas like 3 am by this loud thud
up on the bow of the boat, andso I got up, I put my shorts on
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and I went outside to see whatthe hell hit the boat.
And it was the captain, and shewas actually on the bow of the
boat and she was resetting theanchor.
And I was like, hey, why areyou resetting the anchor at
three in the morning?
Like what are you doing?
She's like well, I had to comeup and check it.
The winds are pushing us aroundand I just wanted to reset it
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to make sure that we don't hitthe rocks.
I was like, interesting, shehad to reset the anchor to make
sure that we don't hit the rocks.
Obviously, that's probably agood thing when you're sailing
on a boat.
And then me being me, I was likeI feel like there's a lesson in
here and I was like oftentimeswe think of anchors as negative,
as something that pulls us downor holds us back.
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But what if we can havepositive anchors in our life
that keep us from banging intothe rocks, that keep us from the
negative habits, the negativebeliefs, the negative shit that
has held us back?
And I don't know what that isfor you, but I would highly
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highly recommend thinking aboutwhat some negative anchors have
been and maybe what somepositive anchors have been, and
then being really intentionalabout creating positive ones.
I can tell you I have one mainpositive anchor that I rely on
to keep me from fucking up mylife, and it is my daily morning
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routine and it's super, fuckingsimple.
I do a gratitude and avisualization every morning.
I read and study and I work outand, without overcomplicating
it.
I know, if I do those threethings every fucking day, that
is a very strong positive anchor.
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That is reinforcing thediscipline, the character traits
, the beliefs and the habitsthat I need to be successful in
my life.
And so, in closing, go, do thefucking exercise, do all of it,
take the time, take a half a day, whatever it does.
Take the fucking time to dothis shit.
I promise you it will help you,okay.
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And then, once you're done,identify a couple of behaviors
that you can use as a positiveanchor to keep you from banging
against the rocks and to keepyou away from the temptation of
the short-term pleasures and theinstant gratifications that
we've probably both becomeaccustomed to.
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With all that said, my prayeris that you have an incredible
2025.
My prayer is that this is thebest fucking year of your life,
and that happens because you satdown and did the work to make
it possible.
I'll see you guys on the nextepisode.
All right.
So my question for you is wheredo you want to go in 2025?
What is that compelling visionthat you have that's going to
keep you up late, get you upearly and inspire you to make
changes and to do things thatyou've never done before, that
you really are proud of.
That will help turn 2025 into ayear that you can look back and
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say that was the year, that wasthe moment.
So, to get anywhere you want inlife, you need to know three
things you need to know whereyou are right now.
You need to know where you wantto go, and then the most
important step is knowing whoyou need to become in order to
create the results that you want.
Waste another minute?
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No, I won't.
I'm a man on a mission.
I'm a man on a mission.
I don't need no permission.
I'm a man on a mission.
Welcome to, entitled to Nothing, where we believe our life is
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our fault.
My name is Mink and it's 2025.
I honestly can't believe thatit's 2025.
And with the start of the newyear, there's a lot of new ideas
, new ambitions, new goals, newdreams, and what I wanna talk
about today is how do we make2025 the best year of our life.
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To put it bluntly, how do weunfuck our future and make sure
that we create lasting change in2025?
Every year, at the beginning ofthe year, I take myself through
a reflection process and acreation process and I can tell
you guys, I think going throughthis process and taking bits and
pieces of things that I'velearned throughout the years has
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been directly responsible forhelping me create the results
that I have in my life.
And if you guys have beenlistening, you know the journey,
you know the story, so I won'trepeat it today.
If you don't go back to thefirst episode and listen to, I
Am Entitled to Nothing thenumber one episode we did.
But to be as direct as I canwith you guys, today, what I
want to do is share with you myprocess of reflection and
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creation.
And I want to share it with youbecause I believe, if you do
this, it will help you get clearon what you need to do and,
most importantly, who you needto become to create the best
year of your life.
And that's my goal for you,that's my goal for myself.
I believe the purpose of life isto create life on our terms,
however you define that,whatever that means to you.
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And a new year is a reallybeautiful metaphor for starting
over and for beginning again,and so let's take this
opportunity to make 2025 thebest year of our life, and we do
that by going through athree-step process that I'm
going to take you guys through,and this podcast is going to be
a little bit different than thepast ones.
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This one is really going to bevery instructive.
I'm going to ask you guysquestions, I'm going to give you
guys very specific exercisesand things that you should do,
and I promise you, if you takethe time to do them, it will
have a meaningful impact in yourlife.
It really will.
And again, I credit goingthrough this type of a process
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with creating the life, theresults, the company, the
success that I have.
So, with all that said, let'sdive in.
So, to get anywhere you want inlife, you need to know three
things you need to know whereyou are right now.
You need to know where you wantto go, and then the most
important step is knowing whoyou need to become in order to
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create the results that you want.
And as I reflect back on mylife, I can tell you every major
breakthrough I've had, whetherit's personally or
professionally.
I did that.
I had that breakthrough bygetting a greater clarity on who
I am and who I need to becomeand ultimately, the breakthrough
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that you want in your life thechange of results, environment,
relationship, finances lives onthe other side of identifying
where you are right now, whereyou want to go and then who you
need to become to get there.
And so what we're going to dois we're going to start with a
personal audit and what I thinkI don't remember who said it
there's a famous philosopher,socrates, or something.
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That's like a life unexaminedis a life not worth living.
All of our growth comes inmoments of reflection and an
analysis, and so every year, atthe beginning of the year, I say
Anthony, where are you rightnow?
And I have a couple ofexercises that I go through that
I'm going to walk you through,that help me get clear on really
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what my current state ofaffairs is.
And the first thing I do is atime and an energy audit, and I
would encourage you guys to sitdown and ask yourself these
questions.
The first question is what doyou spend most of your time
doing?
Is it working?
Is it fucking off?
Is it watching TV?
Is it playing video games?
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Give yourself a breakdown ofhow you spend your time, from
the moment you wake up to themoment you go to bed.
Actually write out how manyhours in the day you spend doing
certain things.
How much time do you spend onsocial media?
How are you spending your time?
And then I would say what takesup most of my energy, right?
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Maybe I'm doing things that Ilove to do, but they don't take
up a lot of my energy.
And then maybe there's otherthings that I'm doing, things
that I love to do, but theydon't take up a lot of my energy
.
And then maybe there's otherthings that I'm doing that I
fucking hate and it takes up alot of my energy.
We want to try to figure outwhat are the energy adders and
what are the energy drainers andthen start to change some of
our habits and behaviors.
The third question is kind ofin alignment with the second one
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what do I need to remove, right?
What am I wasting time onthat's not productive, that I
need to remove?
And then, what am I wastingenergy on, or losing energy on,
that I need to remove?
And then, finally, the fourthquestion of the energy audit is
what do you need to add right?
What more time do you need tospend doing certain things?
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Where do you need to spend moretime in your life and where do
you need to spend doing certainthings?
Where do you need to spend moretime in your life and where do
you need to invest more energy?
Right, and if you can get clearand you can ask these four
questions what do you spend mostof your time doing?
What takes up most of your time, or what takes up most of your
energy?
What do you need to add andwhat do you need to remove If
you can get clear on thisprocess, it will help give you a
sense of how you're spendingthe most valuable thing you have
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your time and your attention.
And that right there, my friends, like who we spend, or how we
spend our time, determines whowe become right.
Success in anything is a habit,it's a behavior, it's an
investment of time and energy,and so the first thing I do at
the beginning of every year is Istart with a time and energy
audit and I say, okay, how do Ineed to reorganize my time and
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my energy in the new year sothat I can set myself up for
success.
So I'd highly encourage you tosit down, take 10, 20, 30
minutes, and the more detail andthe more effort you put into
this, the better your resultsare going to be.
Once you're done with that,we're going to do a personal
identity audit.
Now, if you study humanpsychology and behavior, what
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you'll learn is our identity.
Who we believe we are is thesingle most powerful force in
our lives.
It determines how we think, howwe speak and the results that
we get.
Our identity really defines whowe are, and sometimes the
identity that we have had willnot be the identity that we need
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to get where we're going, andone of my favorite quotes is by
Michael Singer.
He says you won't go where youwant to go until you let go of
who you are, and sometimes partsof us need to die so that new
parts of us can be born, and aprocess to do that is this
identity audit.
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And you see, our identity ismade up of a whole number of
factors.
It's the beliefs that we havein our life, the values and the
things that we find mostimportant, the language and the
self-talk that we have, thestories that we're telling
ourselves, the character traitsthat we have, the habits that we
live our life by, the skillsthat we possess, and then our
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overall environment and all ofthose kind of eight ingredients
actually create who you are.
That builds who Anthony is thebeliefs, the values, the
self-talk, the stories that Itell myself, the character
traits, the environment thatcreates who I am.
And I'm going to give you onequestion for each eight
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categories and I want you to sitdown and really think about
this, because if you get clearon your identity, you're going
to start to figure out whoyou've been and it's going to
start to become clear who youmight need to become to create
the next level of life foryourself, to create a better
2025.
Okay, so I'm going to.
I got these questions over here.
I'm going to read them to youbecause they're kind of long.
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So the first one is beliefswhat core values do you hold
about yourself and the world?
Number two, values what do youvalue deeply?
What do you care most about?
What are your guidingprinciples?
Number three is self-talk howdo I speak to myself?
I'm talking about theconversations you have with
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yourself.
How do you talk to yourself?
Is it positive, is it neutralor is it negative?
I'll tell you guys, this wasone of the biggest challenges I
had, because I grew up in anenvironment with so much
negative projection andself-talk.
You've heard me talk about mydad and how he would talk down
to me all the time, so I had theworst negative self-talk and I
would motherfucker myself likeyou wouldn't believe.
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It's actually probably one ofthe biggest obstacles I had to
overcome and I only did it bysaying how is my self-talk, how
do I speak to myself, what typeof things do I say?
And by getting clear on thatand then working on it,
practically changing thelanguage I used with myself, I
changed my identity.
Okay, and if you go throughthis process, this is what's
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going to happen.
The next one is the stories.
What stories do you tellyourself about your life, about
your future, about your past?
You know how many people I meetthat are telling the same story
that they told because theylost their business in 2008 when
the real estate marketcollapsed and they've never been
able to build it back.
Or, more recently, how manypeople tell themselves the
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stories about what happenedduring COVID and how it fucked
up their life and it will neverbe the same.
Your experience of life is thestories you tell yourself.
What stories are you tellingyourself?
And are you telling yourselfstories of one day I'm going to
create this, I'm going to dothat, we're going to build this
or are you telling yourselfstories about how the past
fucked up the future?
The next one is character traits.
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What character traits do youhave in your life right now?
What character traits areholding you back and what
character traits are pulling youforward?
What habits do you have?
How are you spending your time?
What are your regular routines,habits and rituals?
Okay, we talked a little bitabout in the identity audit, but
you can get deeper here in or,excuse me, we talked about it in
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the energy audit.
You can get a little deeperhere in the identity audit.
And then, finally, what skillsdo you currently have that are
allowing you to have the resultsthat you have?
And how's your environment,how's your physical surrounding
in your space?
By bringing awareness to theseareas and saying this is how I
want it or this is how I don'twant it.
This is the way that it is, butthis is the way that I want it
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to be right.
Doing this reflection, examiningyourself and your life is
ultimately the work that youneed to do to create a new
version of yourself, and theonly way you're going to have a
new life is by building a newversion of yourself, by
improving and upgrading who youare.
So you've done the time audit.
Now you've done the identityaudit.
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The last step of reflectionthat I have for you guys is a
really fun exercise, and Iactually created a website for
you.
You can go to anthonyminkcomforward slash 2025, and it will
send you guys to a website.
I didn't actually create thewebsite.
I built the referral link, soyou guys can just go there.
And this is going to be thewheel of life exercise, and
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you're going to score yourselfin eight areas of life.
You're going to give yourself ascore from one to 10 in your
health, your career, yourfinances from one to 10 in your
health, your career, yourfinances, your relationships,
your personal growth, the funand entertainment category of
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your life, your physicalenvironment and then your
religion or spiritual connection.
You're going to rate yourselfone to 10.
And if you go againanthonyminkcom forward, slash
2025, there's an applicationthat you can do for completely
free, where you fill this outand it's going to give you a map
, a graph of your life and itvisualizes the experience of
life you're having right now.
Maybe your relationships are ata five, your personal growth is
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at a three, your health is at asix or whatever it is right.
It's going to visualize it foryou.
And once you have thatvisualization of your life, you
get a unique perspective.
Whatever it is right, it'sgoing to visualize it for you.
And once you have thatvisualization of your life, you
get a unique perspective on wow,my relationships are not where
I want them to be.
That's a really low score.
Or, man, I'm spending a lot oftime and energy on my career.
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I scored an eight in the career, but my self-assessment of
health is I'm a four man.
I need to make some changes.
So you get a visualization.
It's really beautiful.
And then the last step here is,once you have your graph of your
life, your wheel of life, askyourself this question what area
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of my life, if improved, wouldhave the greatest impact on all
the rest?
What area, if improved, wouldhave the greatest impact on all
the rest?
And I can tell you this was aquestion that was a massive
breakthrough for me, becauseI've done this exercise over and
over and over.
And when I looked at it, I'm anentrepreneur, as you guys know,
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very, very motivated to getshit done and create results.
And in the world of business,the scoreboard is typically
monetary gains, it's revenue,it's sales, it's finance.
So I always had a very bigfinancial goal and my rating in
finance was always much lowerthan I was comfortable with it
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being.
And when I asked myself thisquestion which area, if improved
, would have the greatest impacton all the rest?
For me, very clearly, it wasfinance.
And I know it might seem crazy,but I realized if I take care
of that area of my life, if Iput a disproportionate amount of
energy and effort in that areaof my life, it's going to let my
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fun and entertainment be better, I'm going to be able to have
more time for health, I'm goingto be able to invest more into
my health.
It'll improve my career because, as an entrepreneur, finance
and career are directly linked,et cetera, et cetera.
Right, it's a discoveryquestion that for you it might
be holy shit.
My relationships are roughright now.
I need to invest more into mymarriage, and if I invested more
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into this marriage, it wouldgive me so much more energy and
juice and motivation for everyother area, that one area would
bleed and have the biggestimpact on all the rest.
If you do that, if you go toanthonyminkcom forward slash
2025, and you do the wheel oflife, you can visualize it, and
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then you can ask yourself thatquestion and what you're doing.
If you guys want to create amap, right, a map that's going
to take you from where you areto where you want to go, the
first step is getting reallyhonest and clear with where you
are, and I've just given youthree exercises that will do
that in spades, especially ifyou've never done that before,
and I highly encourage you to dothese three exercises.
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And that's going to give you avery clear point on where you
are.
And that leads us to step twowhen do you want to go?
All right, so my question foryou is where do you want to go
in 2025?
What is that compelling visionthat you have that's going to
keep you up late.
Get you up early and inspireyou to make changes and to do
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things that you've never donebefore.
That will pull you forward andhelp you create a life that you
really are proud of.
That will help turn 2025 into ayear that you can look back and
say that was the year, that wasthe moment.
Everything changed that year forme and you set yourself up
forever.
You know I have my life.
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I've had, you know, lots of theups and downs and I've talked
to you guys in the past episodesabout my bankruptcy and my
business failures.
And as I was putting thisepisode together for you guys, I
reflected back on the journeyand it was exactly January 10th
2010 that I filed for bankruptcyand the only way that I was
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able to overcome that failureand be in the position that I'm
in today successful company,tens of millions of dollars in
sales, life on my terms, travelto 40 plus countries.
I live an incredible life and Idon't tell you that to impress
you.
I tell it to you to impressupon you that the only way I
created any of that was byhaving a compelling vision, by
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knowing where I wanted to go.
The clarity of what I wantedgave me a level of certainty and
resolve that I was willing towork through anything and
everything that came up.
So in this second section, Iwant you to dream a little bit,
and I don't know how long thisis going to take you, but I want
you to sit down after you'vedone the reflection and ask
yourself where do you want to go?
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What would make 2025 a momentumyear for you?
What would make it abreakthrough year for you?
The end of this year?
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In 360 some days, wheneveryou're listening to this, you
can say I did something thatwill separate me for the rest of
my life.
And you know, oftentimes thislooks like new year's
resolutions.
The problem with resolutions isthey don't fucking work.
And the data supports it.
If you look at the data, withinfour to to six weeks basically
by February 1st 90% of peoplehave stopped or given up on
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their New Year's resolutions andonly 8% of people actually
complete them at the end of theyear.
So this isn't about setting NewYear's resolutions.
This is about setting a visionfor your life and then adding or
creating three to five very,very clear goals that are
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actionable and specific, andthen giving yourself that
framework I'm going toaccomplish this, this and this
this year and you starting tocreate that destination for
where you want to go by the endof 2025.
And I'll tell you, guys, for me, um, let me share with you what
my goals are.
I have three of them, verysimple.
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You might have more.
When I first started thisprocess, I set personal goals
what do I want in my personallife?
I set professional goals whatdo I want in my business life?
And then I set some experiencegoals, because I fucking love
experiences, you know.
And to go back to thebankruptcy part for a minute,
like that compelling vision forme was all experience.
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At that time, the only thing Iwanted in life was I wanted to
create life on my terms, andwhat that meant was I wanted to
start an online business so Icould move to the beach and
travel.
And this idea.
I woke up every fucking daywith this idea of one day I will
make enough money workingonline to move to the beach.
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All I need is to make a hundreddollars a day and I will sell
everything and I will fuckingmove to the beach.
And that idea, for whateverreason I can't tell you why.
I grew up in the mountains inOregon, but the idea of living
on a tropical beach inspired mein a way that almost nothing
else has in my life.
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And that vision thescreensavers of the beach, the
back of my phone still to thisday is a fucking beach right.
I live my life to experiencethe world.
That is my compelling vision.
That is the thing that lightsme up and motivates me to do
whatever I have to do, to workthrough the pain, the struggle,
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the doubt, the fear, all of it.
It is the compelling visionthat you create for yourself
that, ultimately, will be partof the fuel that pushes you
through the fucking shit thatyou're going to have to work
through to get there.
So I can't overstate theimportance of this, but we also
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want to keep it very simple.
So I would do two things if Iwere you.
I would one create a vision foryour life.
If I were you, I would onecreate a vision for your life.
What is your life going to looklike in one year from now, in
five years from now or 10 yearsfrom now?
And you can write it down oryou can just voice, note it to
yourself, record a video ofyourself, talk to yourself as if
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you're already living it andcreate that vision.
In a year from now, I'm goingto do this and this and this.
My relationship is going to belike this.
My health is going to be likethis.
I'm going to be down thisamount of weight I'm going to
gain this amount of strength.
Create that vision and then settwo, three, four tangible goals
For me.
Here's exactly what they are.
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Number one I'm going to grow mycompany Live Bearded by a
minimum of 50% year over year,both top line and bottom line.
Very clear, very actionable.
I'm in the process of launchinga masterclass and a mentorship
program to help otherentrepreneurs and individuals
grow their business and learnfrom the lessons and mistakes
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I've made, and I will have thatlive by the end of Q1.
Very actionable.
And then three I love tofucking travel, like I told you
guys.
So I'm going to spend part ofmy summer in Europe and then I
want to go back to Australia orAsia for Christmas.
Very clear, very simple.
I know exactly what I want, Iknow exactly why I want it and I
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know that my vision is going topush me when my energy is low,
when I'm doubting myself, whenI'm tired, when I don't want to
do it.
Okay.
So take some time, create thevision for your life and set
three to five actionable goalsand actionable should be from X
to Y, by when?
Or it should have somedeliverable, some type of
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tangible aspect to it.
If it's not measurable, itdoesn't fucking count.
Okay, and this final part, thisstep three, is who do you need
to become right?
Who do you have to be to createlasting change in your life?
Again, I can tell you, all ofthe biggest breakthroughs in my
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life have come on the other sideof getting clear on who I am
and then who I need to be tocreate the results, the life,
the environment, to build thevision that I have for myself.
And so here now we'veidentified a little bit of a gap
.
In the first exercise where areyou?
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You did a reflection, you didan audit that gives you an idea
of where you are.
In the second exercise, youcreated a vision for yourself
and some goals that tells youwhere you want to go.
So now, if you visualize a map,you have a start point and you
have an end point, and now youneed to figure out the route to
get there, and that route isdetermined by who you need to
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become, and I think the best wayto create more success in our
life is really there's threethings that you need to look at,
that you need to reflect on andyou need to improve.
The first one is what skills doyou have, what character traits
do you possess and what beliefsdo you have about your life?
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And, if you'll remember, wetouched on these three things in
the identity audit.
If you extract those out of theidentity audit and then you
look at the habits as well,these three to four elements
have the capacity to change yourlife forever.
So if you get clear on whathabits, rituals and routines you
need, that's kind of a very bigpart of this.
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But ultimately, what you want todo is get clear on what skills
do you need to create theresults that you want.
What skills in yourrelationships, in your health,
in your finances, in your careerthere is tangible hard skills
and soft skills you need toacquire to create the results
that you want.
Because here's the truth, andthis is the cold hard truth If
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you don't have what you want inlife, it's because you're not
the type of person capable ofcreating that result.
You're just simply not goodenough yet.
Yet You're missing some skills.
Okay, and if you get clear onwhat skills you need, in
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whatever area of your life, youlook at your wheel of life and
you say, yep, okay, my career isthe lowest and that will be the
part that has the biggestinfluence on all the rest.
What skills do you need toradically improve your career?
What skills do you need tomassively improve the intimacy
in your relationships?
The skills that you have, hardand soft, are one incredible
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place to start and it's tangible, okay, so get clear on what
skills do you need?
And for me, I think the softskills are critical, right,
because I don't know what yourhard skills need to be.
I don't know what you're at,where you're at in your health,
your career, your finances, yourrelationships.
I don't know your situation,but all of us need certain soft
skills if we want to be verysuccessful.
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We all need some emotionalintelligence.
We need to know what drives us,what motivates us right.
We need to have the ability tothink critically, to process
information, to problem solve.
We need to have great levels ofcommunication, right, being
able to communicate our thoughts, our ideas and our
relationships right.
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These are all skills that weall need.
So I'd get really clear on theskills that you need.
Number two the character traits,right.
Who you are, your character,the way that you show up in the
world, that is going todetermine the reality that you
create.
Right, if you say I need todevelop these skills and you
need to have more discipline ormore time management or more
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consistency in your life inorder to do that and you don't
do it, you're never going tocreate the skills.
So the idea here is the skills,the character traits and the
beliefs compound on each otherto create a very winnable
roadmap for you to createsuccess.
So you know what skills youneed, what character traits do
you need to possess, and I wouldsuggest that the biggest
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character trait that we all needin our life is more discipline,
more focus, more consistency.
I think that if we have a hungerto learn, to grow, you know, I
have this amazing assistant andshe said to me one day she said,
anthony, I think I figured itout.
I figured out what makes youunique.
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I figured out what yoursuperpower is, and I was like,
okay, this is going to beinteresting.
You know, I don't really, Idon't really think I have any
quote superpower, and she's likeyou are perpetually
dissatisfied, but in a way thatgives you a hunger to always get
better.
It's not a negative, it'sactually a positive.
You know, and I heard TonyRobbins said, the only thing
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that separates any of us is thehunger, the drive that we have.
It's not really a teachablequality, but if you can develop
a hunger to learn, to grow, toimprove, to get better, if you
can have that character trait,if you can build a growth
mindset man, that charactertrait will take you wherever you
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want to go.
So I'd get clear on what aresome of the character traits
that you have right now.
Maybe you procrastinate a lot,and that's a shitty character
trait that's holding you back.
It's a really bad habit andit's something that you need to
stop.
So you might want to identifysome that you need to get rid of
, some that you need to create.
That will ultimately help youget where you're going.
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And then the third step is whatbeliefs do you have about
yourself and your life?
And ultimately, I think all ofthe success that we have in life
is built on the foundation ofbelief.
Right, you are who you believeyou are.
You earn exactly as much as youbelieve you deserve to earn.
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You have the types ofrelationships and the types of
experiences that you believe youdeserve, and so I think for me
and I've shared this in pastepisodes as well it's like the
biggest mistake I've ever made.
That's actually an episode.
I think it's like number four,number five.
If you struggle with belief,please go listen to that episode
.
It's titled the Biggest MistakeI've Ever Made, and that
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mistake is not believing inmyself.
And that mistake is notbelieving in myself.
I didn't realize that all ofthe most successful athletes,
entrepreneurs and people whohave accomplished anything, they
did it because they had afoundational belief that it was
possible, and then they justoutworked their self-doubt.
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So I would say the third stephere in this becoming who you
need to be, is getting clear onwhat limiting beliefs you've had
and what beliefs you need tobuild or adopt.
And a belief is something thatyou adopt as true.
It's something that you see asfact.
It's not this esoteric crazything.
It's like do you fuckingbelieve that or not?
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Is that true?
Yes or no?
Yes, okay, you believe it.
Super simple.
So what do you need to believeabout yourself?
What needs to be true about youin order for you to get the
result that you want?
And my guess is you need tobuild some beliefs for you to
get the result that you want.
And my guess is you need tobuild some beliefs.
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I'm going to share with you afew of the beliefs that I have
installed into my psyche, that Ichoose as truths in my life.
And you guys have heard thefirst one my life is my fault.
I am entitled to nothing.
I choose this as fact in mylife.
It's a belief because it makesme take radical responsibility
and I believe that throughresponsibility I can have power.
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Okay, another belief I have islife is always happening for me,
not to me.
You've heard this one before aswell.
What does that mean?
That means that every situation, every circumstance, no matter
how good, bad, ugly, painful,there's something happening
there for me to learn and grow.
I believe whatever I canconceive I can achieve.
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Okay, I believe that I amunstoppable when I take massive
action and I believe in myself.
Right, I've created thesebeliefs and you're hearing me
say belief a lot, but it's likeI believe if I take massive
action and believe in what I'mdoing, I can create it.
Right, discipline is a bridge.
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That's a belief I've installedinto my life.
If I don't have the results Iwant, something is missing.
Part of that.
Something is probably adiscipline or a consistency.
If I install that in thatcharacter trait, in that area of
my life.
Now I have a bridge to get fromwhere I am to where I want to
go Skills, character, traits andbeliefs, and then, ultimately,
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the habits that you form.
That is going to have thebiggest impact on who you are,
and who you are is always goingto determine what you experience
.
We don't get the life that wewant.
We get who we are, and myprayer for all of us in 2025 is
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we get really clear on where weare and who we've been, we get
really clear on where we want togo and then we build a plan to
become who we need to be, andthat starts with habits, skills,
character traits and beliefs.
My final thought is this Chasethe man, not the money.
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Chase the man, not the applause.
Chase the man that you need tobe, not the destination that you
want.
When you're constantly chasingthe man that you need to be and
become, the results will takecare of themselves.
Be and become.
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The results will take care ofthemselves.
The man that loves to run willrun farther than the man that
loves the destination.
The man that works on himself,that is always learning and
growing, that is reflecting andstriving, that is trying to
better his best and commits toconstant and never-ending
improvement, that man can createwhatever he wants.
And that is the commitment thatI've made in my life.
That is the journey that I'm on.
It's the journey of constantand never-ending improvement.
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It's treating every day as dayone and doing everything that I
can to create the best versionof myself, because that's how I
create the best version of life.
One simple story to end with youguys, I think, as you approach
the new year right, there's bothpositive and negative anchors.
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We need to get clear on whatthose are, and I remember the
very first time I actuallylearned this lesson.
I was on a sailing trip inCroatia.
It was this really amazingsailing trip and I was woken up
in the middle of the night itwas like 3 am by this loud thud
up on the bow of the boat, andso I got up, I put my shorts on
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and I went outside to see whatthe hell hit the boat.
And it was the captain, and shewas actually on the bow of the
boat and she was resetting theanchor.
And I was like, hey, why areyou resetting the anchor at
three in the morning?
Like what are you doing?
She's like well, I had to comeup and check it.
The winds are pushing us aroundand I just wanted to reset it
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to make sure that we don't hitthe rocks.
I was like, interesting, shehad to reset the anchor to make
sure that we don't hit the rocks.
Obviously, that's probably agood thing when you're sailing
on a boat.
And then me being me, I was likeI feel like there's a lesson in
here and I was like oftentimeswe think of anchors as negative,
as something that pulls us downor holds us back.
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But what if we can havepositive anchors in our life
that keep us from banging intothe rocks, that keep us from the
negative habits, the negativebeliefs, the negative shit that
has held us back?
And I don't know what that isfor you, but I would highly
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highly recommend thinking aboutwhat some negative anchors have
been and maybe what somepositive anchors have been, and
then being really intentionalabout creating positive ones.
I can tell you I have one mainpositive anchor that I rely on
to keep me from fucking up mylife, and it is my daily morning
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routine and it's super, fuckingsimple.
I do a gratitude and avisualization every morning.
I read and study and I work outand, without overcomplicating
it.
I know, if I do those threethings every fucking day, that
is a very strong positive anchor.
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That is reinforcing thediscipline, the character traits
, the beliefs and the habitsthat I need to be successful in
my life.
And so, in closing, go, do thefucking exercise, do all of it,
take the time, take a half a day, whatever it does.
Take the fucking time to dothis shit.
I promise you it will help you,okay.
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And then, once you're done,identify a couple of behaviors
that you can use as a positiveanchor to keep you from banging
against the rocks and to keepyou away from the temptation of
the short-term pleasures and theinstant gratifications that
we've probably both becomeaccustomed to.
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With all that said, my prayeris that you have an incredible
2025.
My prayer is that this is thebest fucking year of your life,
and that happens because you satdown and did the work to make
it possible.
I'll see you guys on the nextepisode.
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