Equilibrium Echoes

In this episode of Equilibrium Echoes, host Alyssa Decker sits down with emotional resilience coach Fleur Sclarandis  for a powerful, heart-opening conversation about what it really means to be emotionally resilient. Together, they unpack the myths (spoiler: it's not about being stoic or emotionally bulletproof), and dive into the messy-but-beautiful reality of sitting with big feelings, embracing vulnerability, and building t...

In this heartfelt conversation, Alyssa Decker and Shaté Hayes dive into the emotional and practical realities of workplace transitions and career changes. Together, they unpack the stories we tell ourselves about our professional identities—and how those stories can either keep us stuck or set us free.

They explore the quiet (and sometimes not-so-quiet) fears that stop people from leaving unfulfilling jobs, even when every part of t...

In this episode, Alyssa sits down with Kate Kripke, licensed clinical social worker and expert in maternal mental health, for a powerful and grounded conversation about something so many moms quietly worry about:

“Am I passing my anxiety on to my kids?”

Together, they unpack the invisible ways anxiety shows up in motherhood—from perfectionism and overthinking to emotional reactivity and control—and how those ...

In this episode, Alyssa dives into the messy middle of apologies—why we overdo them, when they’re not really helping, and how old conditioning can make us think saying "sorry" is the same as being kind. (Spoiler: it’s not.)

She unpacks how manipulative or performative apologies can actually erode real accountability and leave us tangled in guilt loops we don’t belong in. Instead, she offers honest, empowering ways to commu...

In this episode, Alyssa Decker breaks down what it really takes to stay calm when everything feels like it’s on fire—inside and out. She explores the connection between emotional regulation and conflict, shedding light on how our nervous system reacts under stress and how to identify our personal conflict responses. Alyssa shares practical grounding techniques, explains why even our inner critic is just trying to help (in a messy, ...

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a high-conflict relationship, you’re not imagining it — and you’re not alone.
 In this episode, I’m breaking down the emotional reactivity loop that keeps you stuck, plus four common communication traps that can pull you in deeper: defensiveness, blame-shifting, guilt hooks, and the silent treatment.

More importantly, I’ll share real-world strategies you can start using right away to stay calm, hol...

In this conversation, Alyssa Decker discusses the complexities of high conflict relationships, focusing on the emotional dynamics and communication traps that often arise. She emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to reclaim personal power and establish healthy boundaries. The session includes practical strategies for navigating conflicts and avoiding common pitfalls, encouraging participants to engage less and ...

In this conversation, Alyssa Decker discusses the importance of setting boundaries in personal and professional relationships. She emphasizes the need to overcome fear and guilt associated with boundary setting, framing boundaries as essential filters for healthy relationships. The discussion includes practical strategies for enforcing boundaries, addressing common fears, and the significance of self-care in maintaining personal we...

In this conversation - an excerpt from the Speak Your Truth Challenge, Alyssa Decker, a relationship conflict coach, shares her insights on overcoming the fear of speaking up in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own efforts in improving relationships and the necessity of self-empowerment. Alyssa discusses the internal barriers that prevent individuals from expressing their needs and feelings, hi...

S3, Ep7 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and Shiloh Minor delve into the complex topic of happiness in relationships. They explore the distinction between fleeting happiness and deeper contentment, emphasizing the importance of personal responsibility in cultivating happiness. Shiloh shares insights on recognizing contributions in relationships, the impact of negative narratives, and the necessity of non-verbal communication. ...

S3, Ep6 - In this episode of Equilibrium Echoes, host Alyssa Decker and energy healer Vanessa Dawn explore the intricate relationship between emotions and the body. They discuss how trapped emotions can manifest physically, the importance of recognizing and processing these emotions, and practical steps for listeners to connect with their bodies and release stored emotions. Vanessa shares her personal journey into energy healing, c...

S3, Ep5 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and Andi Hess delve into the complexities of self-sabotage, exploring its roots in the subconscious mind and the protective mechanisms that drive it. They discuss the role of hypnosis in understanding and overcoming self-sabotage, emphasizing the importance of visualization and reparenting one's inner child. The conversation highlights how individuals can access their true desires ...

S2, Ep4 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and Tina Djuretic explore the cycles of relationships, particularly focusing on the impact of childhood trauma and generational patterns. Tina shares her personal journey through abusive relationships and the insights she gained about herself and her family dynamics. The discussion delves into the importance of understanding one's past to break free from toxic cycles and the role o...

S3, Ep3 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and JD explore the significance of storytelling in emotional health and the importance of connection in our lives. JD shares his journey in founding a mental health ecosystem and emphasizes the power of sharing personal stories as a means of healing. They discuss the challenges of meaningful communication in the age of social media, the impact of negative reactions, and the necessity of...

S3, Ep2 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and Rebecca Thomas explore the multifaceted concept of emotional intelligence, discussing its significance in personal relationships and self-awareness. They delve into the challenges individuals face in recognizing and expressing their emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for empowerment rather than taking on the emotional burdens of others. Through practical ex...

S3, Ep1 - In this episode of Equilibrium Echoes, host Alyssa Decker speaks with Michelle Blais, an expert on anxiety in children and founder of the Raising Resilience Program. They discuss the intertwined nature of anxiety and resilience in children, exploring how anxiety manifests differently in kids compared to adults, the importance of building resilience, and practical strategies for parents to help their children navigate anxi...

S2, Ep18 - In this episode, Alyssa Decker and Angel Luk discuss the intricate relationship between nutrition and mental wellness. They explore how emotional eating manifests, the societal role of food in celebrations, and the impact of childhood messages on adult eating habits. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, practical meal planning, and creative solutions for busy parents. Angel shares insights on recogn...

S2, Ep17 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker and Elizabeth Soto-Bias explore the importance of detaching from other people's opinions, especially in the context of personal challenges like divorce. They discuss how societal expectations and personal beliefs can impact mental health and relationships, and emphasize the need for self-acceptance and understanding one's own value. The conversation also touches on the concep...

S2, Ep16 - In this episode of Equilibrium Echoes, host Alyssa Decker and guest Mia Hanks delve into the complexities of narcissism and narcissistic abuse. Mia shares her personal journey of surviving a 29-year marriage to a covert narcissist, highlighting the subtle red flags, the impact of gaslighting on identity, and the challenges of leaving such a relationship. They discuss the importance of recognizing the signs of narcissism,...