Established Family Podcast

Most couples think they're trying to decide the future of their marriage. They're not.

They're trying to make eternal decisions while still operating from a hardened heart, a compromised conscience, and an insincere faith.

That is a dangerous place to be.

In this episode, Derek confronts one of the biggest lies in Christian marriage culture: that being "at an impasse" is simply a season to survive.

Scripture says otherwise.You'll disco...

In Part 2 of The Faithful Spouse, Derek walks through Scripture to show why the fear of God, the peace of God, and an eternal perspective are essential if you are going to remain faithful in your marriage. We discuss why anxiety cannot become the governing system of your thoughts, emotions, and decisions, and what Scripture says about the God of peace being with His people.Whether you're standing for restoration, navigating betraya...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www.EstablishedUniversity.com/host———What happens when a spouse begins to wander?Not just physically… but spiritual...

JORDAN'S BACKKK AFTER MATERNITY LEAVE! ...she's talking about the process of learning to trust me as a husband again.———Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://ww...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:

https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/give

Apply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):

https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/trusted

Host The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:

https://www.EstablishedUniversity.com/host———There is a form of spiritual development that looks like wisdom…

…but ne...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www.EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In Part 2 of “The Immovable Spouse,” Derek exposes some of the deepest re...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www.EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www.EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In this episode of The Established Family Podcast, Derek confronts the exhausting cyc...

Should you judge your spouse?Most marriages are trying to solve outward division without ever addressing the inward condition creating it.Separation, division, and even divorce are not the root problem—they are the fruit of something deeper.There has never been a whole, healed, Spirit-governed husband and wife who produced the fruit of division.If division exists in the marriage, division first existed in the soul.In this epi...

In this episode, we talk about the dangerous spiritual condition of indecision in marriage and why wavering faith keeps so many spouses trapped in cycles of delay, frustration, and false comfort.So many husbands and wives believe they are “just taking their time,” waiting for the right moment, the right response, or the right conditions—but indecision is not wisdom. It is often spiritual blindness, unbelief, and r...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most dangerous things destroying marriages that almost no one is calling by name… dead works.Not just obvious sin.But lifeless patterns.Flesh-driven reactions.Religious routines.Outward godliness without inward transformation.Spiritually empty habits that quietly defile covenant.Many spouses are trying to restore their marriage while still sowing in dead works—while...

Not every voice in your life carries the wisdom of heaven.Day 7 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about wise, godly counsel. In a painful season, many spouses are surrounded by voices, opinions, reactions, and advice. But not every voice heals. Not every voice builds. Not every voice carries truth.Some counsel strengthens covenant.Some counsel quietly harms it.In this teaching, we help you discern the difference and ancho...

Rejection speaks loudly, but it does not tell the truth.Day 6 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is focused on breaking fear and rejection at the root. These things do not just wound emotions. They distort identity, shape reactions, and whisper lies that keep spouses bound in insecurity, striving, and instability.Rejection is not your identity.Fear is not your portion.In today’s teaching, we uproot rejection at its sour...

Complacency in the face of brokenness is disobedience.Day 5 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about recovering godly urgency. Too many spouses grow passive in a season that requires prayer, obedience, rebuilding, and action. Standing is not apathy. Standing is not delay. Standing is movement with God.There is a holy urgency required when something broken needs to be rebuilt.In this teaching, we walk through how to move in...

Strife is more than poor communication. It is a spiritual assignment to dismantle covenant.Day 4 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is focused on upright communication. Many spouses think they only have a communication problem, but underneath contention, accusation, and constant tension there is often a deeper spiritual disorder attacking peace in the home.Godly communication protects covenant.Strife works to tear it down.In ...

Emotions were designed to inform you, not to master you.Day 3 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about standing free in your emotions. Fear, anger, bitterness, and internal unrest can quietly begin governing the way you think, speak, and respond in marriage. But God never designed your emotions to lead your life.The Spirit leads you into freedom.In this teaching, we help you identify what has been ruling you emotionally an...