Every mom can relate to the idea of the mental load — that endless to-do list that we carry around in our heads every day. Whether that mental load is shared with a partner or not plays a huge role in how well we can navigate it.
In this episode, host Siobhan Bingham welcomes relationship coach Matt Marquez for a conversation about the mental load and the critical role of partnership in managing daily parenting responsibilities. Matt offers his perspective as a coach, but because he’s also a dad, he shares personal experiences, too.
From the importance of self-awareness to communication to small, sustainable actions, listeners will gain practical strategies for easing the mental load, improving relationship dynamics, and creating a collaborative, empathetic approach to family life. Matt has some surprising insights that might just change how you approach getting support from your partner.
Matt Marquez is the founder of Grow More Joy Relationship Coaching, and his mission is to help you build the marriage of your dreams.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to navigate parenting and partnership
- Strategies for self-care and effective communication
- How to understand the mental load from a dad's perspective
- How to overcome guilt and prioritize your needs so you can be a better mom and partner
Resources from this episode:
- Matt’s Get Your Partner to Open Up guide
- Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode
“If you think about all the things you can do as a parent, it's endless. It's literally endless. You could always be doing more. And if you're always thinking, “I should be doing more, I should be doing this other thing,” you will always feel guilty any time you choose to do something for yourself because you are — I'm doing air quotes — ‘neglecting’ your responsibility.” — Matt Marquez
“When I'm constantly on, constantly going, constantly doing all of the things that I could do as mom, then I'm not getting enough Siobhan time. And then I'm not getting enough mental stimulation to be able to go back into reading Robert Munch a bunch of times. I need to be able to have times to get that stimulation in other ways, and so being able to explain that to [my partner] without feeling guilty has helped, but also him being able to see how it's affected me has helped too.” — Siobhan Bingham
Connect with Matt Marquez:
- Facebook: @growingmorejoy
- Instagram: @growingmorejoy
- Website: growmorejoy.com
- Watch Matt’s free workshop, Get Your Partner to Help Around the House (Without Starting a Fight)
Connect with Siobhan:
- Tired of being tired? Go from “Too Tired” to “Ready for Anything” with Siobhan’s 21 Energy Hacks
- Ready to reclaim your energy and wellness, Mama? DM Siobhan on Instagram for details about her coaching services.
- Instagram: @everwellcoaching
About Siobhan:
Siobhan Bingham coaches working moms to boost energy to be more present with their kids. Through her ALIGN framework she offers personalized strategies for managing exhaustion and finding a daily rhythm that is mad
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