August 15, 2023 • 51 mins
Ever felt the sheer exhilaration of a runner's high, that state of bliss when you push your body beyond its limits and feel like you can conquer the world? Or perhaps you've been on the receiving end of an unsolicited, cruel remark on social media and wondered how to react. Either way, this episode has a wealth of insights for you.
Embark on a journey with us as we navigate the maze of health and fitness. We explore our routines, sharing inspiration and how it's transformed our outlook towards fitness. We also delve into the challenges that crop up unexpectedly, like falling ill, and how we bounce back. Furthermore, we discuss our foray into holistic living through clean eating, dabbling in portion control, and even swapping our regular cocktails with mocktails, especially during high-stress events like weddings.
But it's not all sunshine and roses in the world of social media. We've had our fair share of battles with Internet trolls and negativity, a bitter yet inevitable part of the digital landscape. So, we thought, why not share our strategies? We delve into our experiences, discussing ways to interpret and respond to negative comments tactfully, and how we overcome the paralyzing impostor syndrome. We believe in fostering a positive, supportive online community, and we hope this episode empowers you to do the same. So, grab your headphones, and let's get cracking!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
health health.
We started it would have beenfunnier if you said hell, hell.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Well, what the hell?
We are chatting about health,not hell, and Brooke and I were
just chatting regarding Kellyand I have moved into a new
realm of exercise.
I'm always like in my mid 30snow and I'm I've, you know, I
feel like I've done this so manytimes and it's like what's
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different this time, andespecially as, as we continue to
get older, think people thinkthe same thing.
Oh God, another, anotherexercise health preach here we
go, like there's already a tonof those on Instagram and such
so.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yes, but I think it's more encouraging when you see
somebody that you know.
So right before we started therecording this podcast, we were
talking about health and Chriswas saying that him and his wife
have been trying to, I guess,implement some healthier
routines.
So it's, you know, I see yourposts and I'm like wow, I'm such
(01:04):
a piece of shit, it's justsitting at home.
So it's more encouraging whenyou see somebody that you know
able to do it and keep up withit and stuff and also Taylor
Taylor's posts.
I've been like okay.
Yeah, taylor is definitely theoriginal inspiration there, so I
know I want to shout her outreally quick.
I want to shout out her new.
What is it?
T Rose fit Yep, Is that what itis?
(01:26):
That's it.
T Rose underscore fit.
So this was a bride of mine,it's a friend of Chris's, a
friend of mine too, butbasically I've been seeing that
she has, I think, started abusiness.
Do you know more about that?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, so she's certified.
She finished her certificationin Taylor.
If you're listening, correct meif I'm wrong, but it's
nutritional coaching.
There's different levels of,you know, nutritional coaching
and there's who's describingthis to me.
There's like a nutritionist,which is, you know, someone who
goes to school for a few yearsbut that's going to be more
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tailored to, like, people withdiabetes and things with really
really particular you know,medical, attached diets and such
that you that have veryspecific requirements.
And then there was one moreabove that, I think, and I can't
remember what it was, butanyway, one of what she can,
what she's assisting with, is wehit this realm of just, you
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know, we're just chugging alongwith our life and feel like
we're just getting.
We just go through these wavesof like trying to exercise a
little bit and then just likefall off the horse and it's, you
know.
And there's always the excusewell, it's, you know, it's
October for me.
Kelly knows I won't do that thisyear, I promise Kelly.
It's like October 1.
And all of a sudden around thehouse is like bowls of candy
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everywhere and I'm like, well,we got to be prepared.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yeah, are you kidding me?
Candy is baked goods Likethat's what Halloween in the
Halloween just rolls right intoThanksgiving, rolls right into
Christmas and then a New Year'sresolution.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, Like the months October, November, December,
which is a quarter of the year,is just this consistent eating
frenzy?
I feel like it.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
I mean just get out your fat pants.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
That's it Seriously so.
That's.
That's not the reason why westarted doing this, but it's a
it's just a culmination of likeGod always feel like we fall off
the horse, whether it's likeit's always an excuse like, well
, it was the holidays, well, wegot sick, which is, I mean, you
do get sick.
And then that's usually whatalmost always cut me off of any
like pattern I had any likeconsistency was I was sick for
three weeks, four weeks, becauseof a cough.
(03:30):
That's exactly what happenedthis year and you're just not
motivated, you feel terribleuntil the cough goes away and
then all of a sudden you're,you've built new habits that are
not good, and then you justkind of float along Do you find
that when you're sick you eatworse too.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I mean, I definitely you're on the couch, you're
getting better, but I feel likeusually when I'm sick I like
don't, I don't want anything.
That's like bad for me.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, no, yeah, I would agree with that.
Like less, yeah, way less, andit's usually, you know,
relatively healthy things.
It's like like you just said,it's like soup, crackers, things
like that.
Where it's not, it's notterrible, it's just, it's just
fine.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So it's really just the eggs like the exercise
routine that you lose yourselfin when you're sick.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Which which then directly connects to what I
decide to eat.
Because I will always find thatwhenever I have a consistent
schedule of exercise, I'm moreinclined to make better choices,
because I know that if I haveto exercise the next day or that
day, if I eat something that'sreally, you know, heavy, fatty,
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or something that's just goingto be like sitting my stomach,
fried food, fried food going out, anything like that I'm not
going to feel well exercising.
I'm going to feel like crap.
So I want to avoid that.
So I will pick something whereI know I won't feel like crap
and then so you know, it's thecycle and then you continue to
feel better.
So this was definitely the mostamount of the most consistent
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I've seen.
Kelly went into this hard.
She went, you know, she wentinto it and she's seen her
workout with Taylor.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I'm like go girls, I love it.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Yeah, she's super impressive.
I mean so much so.
Or I reflected on myself andwas like wow, I'm a piece of
shit.
I'm just like I need to getmyself off the couch and she's
just crushing it Now.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm looking at both of you going, wow, I'm a piece
of shit.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It's just a cycle of people going well, so in a good
way it's, it's.
It's always that wall.
You hit though like wow, let mereflect on myself.
And yeah, she, I just saw Kellywas just consistent, just so
consistent and like reallydedicated.
And then I, over just four orfive weeks, I watched her
ability to handle stress change.
I watched her just like overalldemeanor, her just not that it
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was bad, but it's just like justin general, everything seemed
more good, way that I'll usethis word again steady.
It's just like a steady feelingversus like crashy, like you
know, really excited and reallylike oh man, this is like I'm so
tired, just like so I'm goingto.
What do I do when I'm reallytired or I'm exhausted from a
day?
I'm going to have a glass ofwine or something because I
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deserve it at the end of the day.
And you're not, you're not over,you're not quite crazy, and
it's just.
It's so easy to fall on thislike daily habit and all of a
sudden it's like one month ayear, two years and especially,
as my doctor put it, you know,when you're in your, when you're
in your 30s, usually you'relike you're cruising right,
you're on like cruise control oflife, or like you know you're
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working, you're generally, youknow, a lot of people are
relatively healthy and just kindof just going day to day and
then that's.
Those are the crucial yearsthat you make your habits, that
you really get into your habitsthat follow you into your 40s
and 50s and 60s.
I don't know, not to make itsound scary but, it's okay.
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So this is, this is it today,and yeah, so I jumped on board
with this and it's no, it's nota crazy fad, it's just it's just
literally tracking.
The hardest part is trackingwhat you eat and you have to
commit to it in the beginning,especially in the beginning.
Just, the overall goal in mymind is eventually I'll I'll get
really good at knowing what'swhat and then just kind of not
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have to track every single thingevery single day, or I will, I
don't know, but I'm going to gowith later in life that the you
know distractions and stuff thatprobably wouldn't happen as
much, but at that point I wouldhave built so many good habits
that it would be okay to do that.
So right now I do trackeverything that I eat, which
I've done more multiple times.
I just never stopped because Ididn't have a coach to help me
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with it.
So I was just read so havingTaylor was a huge help Just gave
me a full you know plan andsaid this is where you should
stay within and is that tailoredspecifically to you.
Ha, that's.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I know, I know she's got it, she's got it right.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Tailored nutrition, so it is.
So, yeah, it's based on yourage, weight, you know, male or
female, all those things areslightly adjust where you are
and where you are in thatcounter.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
So now she giving you like a workout thing too, or
she strictly nutrition, and thenyou're.
I think you said you run right.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
No, yeah, so I do a bunch of different things.
So, okay, she gives there'sguidance on fitness.
So the actual exercise partit's, you know, at a minimum
10,000 steps a day, like that'swhere you should be, just just
like a basic.
I'm in trouble.
It's actually.
What's so funny is it sounds soridiculous, but it adds up as
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you walk around during the day,just like in your house.
And then if I, if I'm not doinga lot of walking for the most
part of the day cause of them onmy computer a lot, I mean it's
like a 20 minute walk, 30 minutewalk at the most, and if I cut
out time that I'm looking at myphone from that, like it's an
easy confined time, I candefinitely do so it's a it's,
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and then all of a sudden youjust look at it over a week and
then a few weeks and so forth, Ican tell you from just my diet
change, which is there's nothingcrazy, it's whole foods.
I'm just eating like, not a lotof processed things.
I'm eating more protein thannot for my specific plan and
there's, but there's still, youknow, healthy carbs in there.
(09:18):
Just, everyone's afraid of thatword carbs, but it's just.
You know it's like oats, beans,legumes, bread, whatever you
know.
Wherever.
You can get the most of yourfoods from whole fruit,
vegetables.
It's pretty straightforward.
And then you want to make themost of your calories, so you
don't want to.
You have something like reallyrich.
(09:38):
You know you're wasting.
You're getting calories butyou're not getting the
appropriate nutrients likeprotein and your carbs and your
fats.
You need all the Right, so youjust Sorry.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So do you have a schedule change with the diet
too?
Like, do you wear normal people?
Normal people, no, there's nonormal.
But where people would usuallyeat breakfast, lunch, dinner,
have you changed that to havelike snacks in between where
you're kind of grazing a littlebit, or yeah?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So okay, so for my specific plan.
So part of all of this is justso instead of just like talking
numbers and such actual likemotivation to do this.
June was one of the hardestmonths that I think I've ever
encountered in my career andthere's no direct particular
reason other than I took on alot of work.
There was a lot of fewstressors in there.
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It was the peak of, I'll say my, the busiest part of my
schedule as far as weddings gothis year.
So it was June and October andall of that, combined with bad
eating habits that were justhabits from the months prior,
just all came together and I wasjust having.
I didn't really have anenormous amount.
(10:49):
I have anxiety, just like a lotof people do, but based on the
stressors of the day and soforth, but I was getting them
noticeably more than I had I wasjust getting Like panic attacks
or just anxiety in general.
There was a few panic attacks inthere that were all of it
coming together and I was like Ithink if I overextended myself,
(11:09):
this is too much.
But I knew I wanted to do allthe things.
I felt good about it, but Ijust felt panic attacks without
knowing why.
And then what do you do?
As I said to you, you're likethis is when really bad habits
start and you're like I need abeer.
This is stressful and you thinkit's very innocent.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
No, but it's an escape.
When you keep doing it, it's anescape.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
That's what you're looking at and what happens is
you start feeling out of controlBecause you're really starting
to depend on, depend on outsidethings substances, food to make
you feel better, when reallyyou're not attacking the
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underlying problem.
And the underlying problem is Afirst of all, I've got to get
those things in order and figureout a way to manage all of my
jobs, but then, secondly, I'mnot working at my peak
performance for all of thesethings that I've added to my
life, because I'm not giving mybody the right fuel.
I'm eating crap and it'sspiking my sugar and making my
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sugar drop, and I don't evenhave diabetes.
But you know those things arehappening because you can feel
it.
And then I wake up and need fivecups of coffee and then
convince myself I need morecoffee.
And then you get the jittersand then that's all part of it.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, it's funny because I do the same thing.
The only it sounded like you,farted.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
I was just gonna say that's when I've been really
awkward.
All I did was move my chair.
So it is on video.
Oh no, you can see me literallymove the chair.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Woo, okay, Just in my headphones it definitely
sounded like a full lot of fart.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
It's because I wasn't like a really deep, serious
conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Those footy- Like we have someone interviewing on
here, or something.
No, that was hilarious.
No, but it's funny how you saythat, because I do the same
thing and I have those panicattacks and, like you said, I'm
not at my peak, but for me it'salmost like I'm willing to let
everything else in my life comeafter my work.
You know what I'm saying mypeak during those times where
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I'm really struggling.
That goes to my clients andthen the brunt of the panic
attacks, the anxiety, the crying, the shitty eating, that all
happens on my own time.
So it doesn't necessarilyaffect my work, it affects my
daily life, because I don't knowabout you, but when I walk into
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a wedding it's like I'm a robot.
There's nothing else in my lifematters.
My phone is on an airplane,basically, and I just am like
okay, just got to get throughthis day and in the best way
possible, but then when I comehome I absolutely crash.
So I was going to ask you doyou see a difference in your
performance at weddings?
In a physical sense, I know,mentally you give everything
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that you have.
You're all there for everysingle wedding.
You're not lacking.
But in your body, do you feelbetter Even the day after?
You know how normally we havewedding hangovers even though we
didn't drink, but we'redehydrated and sore.
Do you feel physically better?
Or have you not had a weddingyet to see the difference?
Speaker 2 (14:18):
I've only assisted a wedding since I've taken on this
new diet, and on top of that itwas only a few days in.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
How much time have you been doing this so far?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
So it's interesting, there's kind of two parts to
this.
Kelly started it almost twomonths ago and we started we
changed our whole, like dinner,like what we cook and everything
.
And it's nothing crazy.
Like I said, it's literallyjust a highly focused on getting
a lot of things that arenatural.
So it's just like fish, youknow, chicken, whatever, but
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there's not a lot of.
We're not using an enormousamount of oil.
We're not doing these crazyheavy butter half and half
recipes.
It's just very particular withlike a grain and a veggie.
It's really one of those threethat were rotating.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Just clean eating yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
It's very, it's very clean eating.
I can definitely say that.
So I wasn't eating the rightportions, though.
I was just having whatever wemade.
So because I had no, no, I hadno baseline.
So, okay, well, that was.
We started that like almost twomonths ago, but for me
particularly, it's only beenabout, I mean, a week and a half
since I started this.
(15:27):
So, oh, it's more minimal.
Yeah, so for me, and my cutoff,yeah, yeah, this is not a three
month project, we're talking so, but it's okay, because I can
tell you how much better I feelafter, say, 10 days, so 10 solid
days of this, and then awedding was in between that.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
And you were assisting the wedding, did you
wake up sore the next day?
I just had a wedding onSaturday and, dude, I woke up on
Sunday like something's got tochange because I do not like it.
It wasn't even I had like aheadache because I obviously was
dehydrated.
It was a really hot day andwhatever.
But the running around, thesquatting, like I don't think
people understand how much likea 10 hour day actually takes a
(16:06):
toll on you.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know.
And so the next day I wake upand I'm just like I'm dead, like
Chad he's like he's always likeI didn't plan anything for
today because I didn't know howyou would be.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
That's actually kind of sad, but it's.
I don't know if there's goingto be any way to like avoid that
.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I.
So there were some interestingvariables where I didn't prepare
correctly, as much so I wasactually starving and at the
wedding I was, my stomach is.
Kelly was eating itselfactively and I was like, oh my
God, it's only 730.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
That's the worst feeling.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
But it's because I had I actually increased my
calories, so then what I waseating, so I'm actually doing
more portions during the daywith more calories at the end of
the day.
And it hit me on that day thatthe day at that wedding, I was
like, wow, I was like I feellike I ate a huge breakfast and
still had stuff and I'm stillstarving.
So the other variable would bethe wedding was really late, so
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it was a 230 for me.
I left at midnight and it wasin Terry Terry town, new York,
so two hours away roughly fromRocky Hill, and yeah, the next
day I was dead.
So but but this is the onething I can say so far on this,
because it is a pretty rapidchange over just simply 10 days
(17:30):
is a, just to just to try it.
Over the past like month and ahalf, two months, our alcohol
consumption has comedramatically down.
We're way down.
So we're, on average, probablyone drink Kelly's, but Kelly's
had, since Father's Day, I think, maybe two drinks.
So yeah, which is that was June.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Is she a wine girl?
Kelly looks like a white wine,like Prosecco girl.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
She loves white wine and Prosecco, so you nailed it
so we can do red wine.
We love red wine and you know.
But she's digging the mocktails.
They're actually really good.
That's the thing it's likemocktails are actually.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So the thing about cocktails is like I don't even
really care if they have alcoholin them, I don't care if I feel
them or anything, it just feelskind of fun to like have a
mocktail.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yep.
So you know you're spot on andit's just so funny, it's a.
I think you don't realize howmuch of a social thing it is
until you pull, take a step backand then pull that whole
concept out and you're like, oh,like, do I really like this?
Do?
I do, I drink like that's whatit is, that's what it is yeah,
(18:35):
so we, so I've I really pulledback to alongside during that,
during that time period.
So over the past two months,I've probably had, like, maybe,
like we'll say, six, six drinksOver the past six, seven, eight
weeks.
It's really not, it's prettygood.
Um, yeah, I compare, relativelyspeaking.
Like I said, we weren't goingcrazy, but it was like a drink
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every other night, like just beyeah, sometimes.
And then in the winter it waslike a glass of wine every day
which seems and could becompletely harmless.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Um, Well, I think for red wine, it's like supposed to
be good for you, but I don't.
They've I don't know, butoutweighs the bad.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I think that's it.
So recently, this and this isall anybody listening, it was
just opinion.
You know it's that's definitelysomething you want to talk with
your doctor with, but my doctorhad told me that like yeah you
know there's that the red winedaily is good for your heart and
so forth, and yeah, there arehealth benefits.
But they've recently evenpulled back on that study and
said like yeah, actually alcoholis, I mean, it is poison, like
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it's it's poison.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
So, and it literally is your, you know your.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
You are slowly damaging your liver, so it's a
and that's your liver's job.
But every day, though, that'sthe, that's the question every
day, what does that do?
And it's and unfortunately,it's all about genetics too.
Like some people can handle it,some people are going to be.
I mean, there was I just saw avideo with a lady who was she
looks like she's a hundred yearsold and she's being interviewed
and it was going around YouTubeand tic-tac and such, and they
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were asking her what's thesecret to longevity?
And she said she's had a DrPepper every day.
Like, yeah, and have you seen?
Speaker 1 (20:07):
that one.
I've seen that too, and I waslike what?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
And she said her doctor said it was going to kill
her and she was like you knowwhat?
They died before me.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I was like my God, yeah, that's pretty crazy yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So genetics is part of it, absolutely, but as a
general whole, you know it's, Ican definitely all I can say, so
I'll I'll step off the, thewhatever it is the platform here
talking about this.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
As a general, this is not a medical podcast.
No, it is not.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
This is just so far what I can tell you how I feel,
and it is steady, that is theword.
I don't have any more crashes.
I'm able to handle stress alittle bit better.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
And panic attacks in the last week and a half.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
None, none, none, no.
That's.
That was not normal for me, andwhat did that look like for you
when you had them?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Like what did it?
Was it abnormal for you to begetting that many panic attacks?
And like what did that looklike?
Were you like shaky, sweaty,like kind of like just reeling
in your own brain?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Cause when I have panic attacks.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
I feel like my brain is like, oh my God, you're going
to do me, oh my God.
And it's just like telling mein my head and I'm like, am I
okay?
I like to feel all right.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
It's, it's scary.
When I that's, it is, it's alittle scary.
I had it was like stress beingburied so much, so fast, that I
would instantly get a headachein the front part of my head and
it would just it would justlike explode.
I was just sitting there andthen it would just like I can
just feel my whole everythingjust getting very uncomfortable
(21:42):
very quick and it was like whatis this?
And it was just like I don'tknow how to make this go away.
And it was just.
It happened a few times in avery short period of time, like,
let's just say, two weeks,happened like four times and it
was like this isn't normal forme, this is not okay.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
So that sounds like my normal actually.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Different levels, different levels, but it's for
me.
I'm generally a very, you know,tight be lose my coffee keys
everywhere I go, just like so.
For whatever your norm is,that's like, you know, when it
jumps off the room it's scarybecause it was like why is this
happening all of a sudden, andit was like, oh, so I need to
(22:21):
take control.
If there's anything I can takecontrol of first, it's okay.
I've got all of these differentjobs, all of these different
responsibilities have taken on.
It's a lot of work, you know,and I haven't changed any of my
habits from from before.
So of course I'm going to bestressed out.
I have to change something toto fit in all this stuff.
So what's one thing that youknow you can start with?
(22:42):
Well, your diet and exercise,that's.
We've proven, pretty proventhat if you really focus in on
those, you're going to feelbetter, or at least partially.
So that's where I started and Ifeel great.
So I probably will not stop, atleast for now.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
So I'm glad for you, I'm happy for you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
I'm happy for you and Kelly.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
I feel like, you know , I don't know a couple that can
do that together is solid.
You know me, chad works out.
Like every night he's like youwant to, you want to work out?
I'm like, no, sorry, I'll be onthe couch.
But usually but usually it'sbecause I'm like I'm editing
well into the night, like Ibasically plant myself on the
couch and I'm just workingforever.
(23:26):
So like when he asks me to takea break, usually I'm like sorry
, I can't, you know, but Ishould.
Yeah, I do, I should.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So it's it.
It's incredible how much it's.
You know it's the runner's high, that's like a good way to
describe it after you do a fullexercise and sucks and then, but
then you feel so much better.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
I've never had that either.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
I hear people talking about runner's runner.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Have you ever had it?
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Put so much a like, a like, a runner's high where I'm
like, oh my God, it's not thislike proliferating like there it
is.
It's like that, it's just moreover after I'm done with the run
and I've cooled off and my faceis not like a cherry anymore.
Um, I you know.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
I feel so funny that happens to you, because it
happens to me too.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
I've heard that the runner's high isn't really like
a high at all, but it's likewhen you get to a point in your
run where you are Like it'salmost like it doesn't hurt
anymore, you just keep going and.
I've never had that.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
It doesn't happen to me every time, but sometimes
usually about for me it's like ahalf mile and it's like in my
warm-up, still like I'm halfmile in.
And if I'm listening to musicand a good song comes on, it's
just like, just like I'm, I'm,I'm still warming up and they're
like you need to, you know, getget there a little slower.
And I'm like, nope, I'm readynow, and then I can just, you
know, I got a burst of energy.
That's that would be theclosest I've had to that.
(24:47):
I would love to know otherpeople that share that or about
any other description of arunner's high.
Maybe that's a question Do youhave a runner's high?
That's what we should beputting out there.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Yeah, and I also think that maybe I'm doing it to
myself Well, because when I runI don't like running on the
treadmill, I just don't.
I feel like it's boring.
But then when I run outside andI have like music in my
headphones, I feel like I cannever turn it up fully because
I'm a woman and I'm afraid I'mgoing to get snatched, so like
you know, it's like I have to beaware of my surroundings so I
(25:16):
can never just like.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
You are in those woods.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
You are, yeah, yeah, no, but even in like even in,
like cities and stuff like thathappens to you know, so it's.
I don't know.
It's just kind of scary becauseI feel like I just need to be
aware of my surroundings at alltimes so like to let myself just
like fully get like deeplyimmersed into my run, like I
know.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I feel like I'm so paranoid.
And that's like one of myfavorite things too when it
comes to exercise Like I love.
I love running with no purpose,just like some music on and
it's.
I don't need to do full sprintsor anything, I just do a light
jog.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Can you hold on one second?
My mom is calling One second.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
I love this.
Oh, I can do this too.
I can work.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Hi, mom, you're on my podcast right now.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
I'm on your what.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
My podcast.
Can I call you back?
Yeah, okay, love you.
She didn't even say bye, shewas like nope.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
I'm out of here.
She was like, yeah, all thepodcasts.
That was funny.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
I thought she was going to do something funny, but
she was just like, okay, bye,without even saying goodbye.
Yeah, no, we should definitelyfigure out what, like, the
actual definition of a runner'shigh is, because I've always
I've envied the people who coulddo that and get to that point
of like, okay, I've been running, and now it doesn't hurt
anymore, because when I run, boydoes it hurt like constantly.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So let's see.
Well, we don't even have towait, let's just see.
Let's just see what health linesays.
A runner's high is a brief,deeply relaxing state of
euphoria.
In this case it occurs afterintense or lengthy exercise.
They report feeling lessanxiety and pain immediately
after the run.
See, I don't really get it.
I don't know if I get it afterthe run.
(27:02):
I just, I mean, I, like I said,after I come down from the run
and like maybe even after myshower, like I feel so much
better.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Yeah, you just feel good to know that you did
something Like you just feel, no, I actually really do feel
better, like I physically, likeI physically am like, wow, I
feel great.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Maybe that's it, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Hmm, well, if anybody knows like let us know, I guess
.
Let us know, this is not amedical podcast, so can we talk
about?
Can we talk about the?
Speaker 2 (27:37):
cover of our podcast via Albu Mark.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Work.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
It's just going to be the simple.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
We're going to have stethoscopes around our necks.
Can we talk about somethingthat's been bothering me?
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, we can, let's chat.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Okay.
So I made this video the otherday.
That was just like googly eyesof my plants.
It was Halloween stuff and I'mstarting my Halloween DIYs
because I'm excited for it, andmaybe it's just me escaping my
issues and hyper-focusing onHalloween, but that's what I'm
doing currently.
So I posted that video and Iposted it on my Instagram and my
(28:15):
TikTok and then which, like Idon't TikTok, I don't know
anything about TikTok, I just,when I make a video, I just put
it on both platforms.
See where it goes.
That one ended up taking off tothe point where, like, more
people started to go to myprofile and they saw this video
of me bringing cricket into myhouse.
You've seen it?
(28:35):
I have.
Okay, people are so goddamn mean, like, they're so rude, like
most of the comments.
Most of the comments werereally nice.
Most of the comments were likeoh my God, your dog is the dog
from up.
You can't prove it.
Like you can't tell meotherwise.
You know.
(28:57):
Most of them were like, reallylike, I love this video.
And then you have these peoplecoming out of the woodworks to
be like, wow, what a piece ofshit for introducing her cat
that way to her dog.
Like how traumatic for thekitten and whatever.
And I'm like, oh well, sorry,like I was just like I don't
(29:20):
know.
I tried to explain like in afew comments, like well, cricket
came from a house with big dogsand Nelly is so gentle with
gremlin, like yeah, she wasexcited, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Like I even had somebody like comment on it and
was like I love Goldens and all,but this Golden is seriously
lacking training which, like All, right, so, okay, yeah, the
this is always a fun topic andthe internet and social media,
which we have talked about justnot you and me, but just like in
(29:53):
general, how many conversationshas the word social media come
up with is just such a grossplace, sometimes full of the
individuals that hide behindtheir keyboard and love to just
share their excuse, my language,the fucking opinion, and can
make other people they don'trealize what they can do to
other people by saying that,because there are real people on
(30:14):
the other side of your comments.
So, yeah, and I just the firstthing I always think to myself
is wow, like you took the timeto take a second and actually
respond with somethingincredibly negative towards
somebody else's video Like howmiserable are you.
I think that's, yeah, that's I.
(30:35):
Just.
You have nothing else going on,and that's number one, that's
just, that's fine.
But there are people who loveto troll as well.
No, they say terrible thingsand that's I mean.
That's a known thing.
But regardless, regardless, ifand you and I have talked about
this If anytime you put anythingout in public, there's going to
(30:58):
be people who are going to justshare their negativity and
place it onto you because oftheir A own insecurities and B
they're just not nice people.
Yeah, there's that too.
So, and the good news is, ifyou are putting content out to
the world and hey, it's notFirst of all, I love your video
(31:20):
is just simply you introducingyour cat to your dog, which is
in your home, and it's LikeAgain, I Sorry, I didn't do it
the way you wanted me to.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Nobody has any other context.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Well, that's the thing.
Everybody thinks.
They have such a strong opinionand their way is the right way.
So, instead of just trying tounderstand that, hey, it doesn't
matter what you say becauseyou're hiding behind a keyboard,
if you're the person puttingout the content in case you're
in Brooke and it's getting thatmuch attention and it's going
we'll say, quote, unquote, viralthen that's great and you just
(31:56):
have to know that the more.
When you start getting negativecomments like that, what that
means is you're just hitting.
You're hitting a lot of peoplewhere I think I described it in
the dice example, where if youroll, if you don't want a one on
a dice, and you're rolling it200,000 times, you're going to
get a lot of ones.
Yeah, you're going to get a lotof ones.
And if you only focus on theones, you're going to be like,
(32:17):
wow, that sucks, I got that.
Did you see how many ones I gotin those 200,000 rolls?
And it's like well, yeah, yourolled the dice 200,000 times.
There's only so many options.
It's kind of like people outthere.
There's only so many nicepeople that are willing to share
some good comments and realizethat it's just a friendly home
video of you with your dog andyour new kitten, instead of just
(32:40):
blasting you with just terriblethings to say.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
I could understand if somebody commented on it and
was like, oh my God, this is socute, but maybe if you don't
know that your dog's temperamentis like this or something like
that, you might want tointroduce them a different way.
I get it.
I don't know, and not everybodydoes everything the right way.
It just made me feel so weird,to the point where I'm having
(33:05):
companies reach out to me tryingto license that video so that
they could sell it to othercompanies and stuff, and I'm
like, but the more people whowatch it, it just makes me feel
like I've gotten enough commentstelling me that I'm such an
irresponsible piece of shit forintroducing them that way and I
(33:26):
didn't even do anything.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I literally brought her in Also.
You're never going to meetthese people.
You're never going to meetthese people.
What are they going to do?
Speaker 1 (33:31):
But it just makes me feel so I get it.
I get it.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
You're never going to please everybody, no matter
what you post.
It doesn't matter what contentyou post.
I've seen the endless videosonline of like I'm going to post
.
Here's my bottle of my waterbottle.
Here's a bottle.
Here's a photo of my waterbottle on this desk.
Tell me, I'll just wait for amillion comments and see why I'm
a piece of shit because I didthis.
Yeah, so it's going to happen.
It's going to happen.
(33:57):
That's it.
That's the world we live in.
So the easier that you can kindof just I don't even know, I'm
not saying words the easier.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
The easier way to do that.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yes, thank you.
The easier way to handle thiswould be to just know that if
you're putting stuff out there,it's going to happen, yeah, and
just have an auto response, oran auto response but a message
at the top, like Parker here,because I don't like a
(34:31):
disclaimer.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
No, it's okay, Like a disclaimer, you know.
Like it's like at the very time, you know I wish so.
I didn't even know, like thisis how little I knew about
tiktok.
Okay, like my Thing.
I don't even know what viralmeans, but like it's, it's
popping off, okay, and I like Idon't know anything about
anything.
So when those messages werecoming through at first I was
like I Don't even know how todelete these comments.
(34:53):
I literally don't know anything.
So I was trying to figure itout and I'm like, okay, there's
just like comment after commenton how I'm such a piece of shit.
And then like, but like it's sostupid Because right next to it
I have a video of themsnuggling.
And I'm like, okay, can youjust just look at the rest and I
get it Like you might not wantto introduce a kitten to I don't
(35:17):
know a ratwiler or a Germanshepherd or a bigger breed, just
a bigger breed in general.
I'm not saying because they'remean or whatever, just a bigger
breed.
Even a golden retriever.
Who's never seen a kitten,right?
Who's never seen a cat?
Look at my other videos, likeNelly, since she was a puppy,
has I don't know.
I mean, I'm just going on arant here, but it's just like
(35:41):
Just keep your shit to yourself,like who cares, you know.
And then it got me into thiswhole like we were talking a
little bit about the impostersyndrome before we started today
and this isn't really likeimposter syndrome, but it's more
the thing of like Well, whywould anybody want to put out
(36:01):
content like that?
Like at all, this is like thecutest video Literally ever.
It's like it's like A goldenretriever meeting a kitten and
being so excited and like that'sbeing neck, like, met with
negativity, like I would havenever thought.
I would have never thought so.
Now I'm just like it's makingme almost like everything that I
(36:23):
post.
I'm like should I even do that?
You know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I Understand, understand that thought process
of you.
Know now you're gonna questionevery single thing that you pose
with your animals because, butit, if it gets to that point,
then maybe it's time for a break.
If you're like I, the stress istoo much, maybe just pull back
from posting content for like acouple weeks.
Yeah, you know, let just sit onthat for a moment or Really
(36:52):
dive into the fact that that wasjust a video that really went.
You know, took off.
So you're gonna have thenegative comments most of the
time.
Videos don't just go viral,even for the biggest accounts in
the world.
They don't just go by, you know, they're gonna hit their fan
base.
So, yeah, you're gonna hit yourfans with that, people that
love to see you share your dog,cats and Quick.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Yet I've gotten a lot of positive ones, like I don't
want to.
You know, it's just like everyonce in a while it's like Like
someone commented on it was likethis is the perfect video to
show you what not to do.
It was like, oh my god, everytime I had one of those come in,
I was just like, oh, I'm such apiece of shit, like you know.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
But After a while.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
I feel like you know people going to my profile and
actually following me and seeing, like the friendship that
Nellie and Cricket have, I thinkthey understood more.
Like I don't know, I was alsoholding her and protecting her.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
It's not like I just like opened the bag and was like
cricket jump out, like Nobodyhad any context other than and
they go hold differentConversation on that if you
don't have a lot of context withjust short snippet videos, then
you can make all theseassumptions and that's a whole
problem in on itself.
But yeah, you'd, if you're gonnaput that content, you just have
(38:13):
to know that that's a risk andonce you start really
Understanding that there's gonnabe people like that always, you
just kind of shake it off yeah,just move on.
And also these people, evenwith you know, comments of like
you know that most people werefine with that, but even at the
end of the day, you know who,who are these people and like,
(38:37):
does it matter?
Yeah, like you know it doesn'tmean the negative comments, like
it really you're not gonna seethem.
You're not gonna see them andthat's Unless.
Unless you're building like areally tight community that
you're, you're trying to foster,then being, you know, getting
affected by the negativecomments is just it's tough.
(38:57):
I know it's tough because Iknow it's easier said than done.
Just to me tell you, you knowit's it's, it's not a big deal,
but when you're constantlyreading those comments, it's, it
is.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
I'm something that's so fucking stressful.
Well, like and and like, Ithink I'm just used to like you
know, we take pretty pictures,we post pretty pictures of
weddings and whatever, and youwould have to be like the
biggest dick in the world to belike, oh my god, look at that
bride, you know, and like makenegative comments.
So like that generally doesn'thappen.
When I post like my Actual work, it's like it's kind of weird.
(39:30):
Like when I was in my early 20s, I used to be like, oh yeah,
like if I, just, if I just havelike one thing go viral, maybe
I'll be like a worldwidephotographer and whatever.
And then, as it started to likeyou know, my stuff started to
like gain traction, I'd likekind of pulled back and was like
no, that doesn't actually soundlike it would be like good for
me.
For Me, the one who has fouranxiety attacks a week that
(39:53):
doesn't sound like it would bein my best interest.
And now I post the literallythe cutest video in the world
and I'm getting this like hateand I'm just like, have you ever
had like I Don't even reallywant to say like haters?
Like I don't even think that'swhat it is.
I think it's literally justpeople trying to like educate
(40:13):
other people on like, yeah, youshouldn't do this with a kitten
and a dog I Guess this issituational.
But like, have you ever hadlike comments, like Public
comments, on your stuff, whereyou're like, ooh, I don't really
know if I want that to likelive there?
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Yeah, I'm trying to think of a good example.
And we got called out for oneof the Lens and Light workshops
in one of the comments andsomeone made a sarcastic,
sarcastic comment that weweren't diverse enough.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Oh, really yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
So, and it wasn't even a this was the first.
Again, this is the.
No one has any context.
That was the first time I hadput something together like that
, so it was just a collaborationof photographers that had a
specific skill set that I metwith and Felt that they would be
good instructors.
Yeah there was no, there was nomalicious intent in there.
(41:13):
But when you read only thecomment yeah, and you look at
what I was Advertising, it couldlook bad.
Right, but what did you do, didyou?
Speaker 1 (41:23):
delete it.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
No, I just commented back and just said you know,
come, come check it out foryourself, something like that.
I don't know, I don't evenremember what I said.
I don't remember what I said,but I just it irked me for
obviously a second, then I gotnervous and then it was like oh,
another good thing to remembertoo is that People's attention
spans are really short, likereally short, and we are shown
(41:47):
with so much content every day,like an infathomable amounts of
content that right.
No one will harp on a singletopic for that long anyway.
No.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
No, and the people who commented on like the video
negatively like I could tell itwas like they Like it came up on
their for you page, theywatched it.
They were like, oh fuck thisgirl, they've left a comment.
And then they just keptscrolling because even when I
commented back like oh no, it'sokay.
You know, I figured that it wasalright in this specific
situation, because she came froma house with big dogs and
whatever they never saidanything back, they never
(42:24):
replied or anything.
So it's just like they justwanted to leave the video and I
just wanted to leave it and Ijust wanted to leave it and they
just wanted to leave thenegativity and then, like, keep
moving with their day and likein my brain it was like, oh, but
this is gonna live here for alittle bit.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
You know yeah.
Speaker 1 (42:39):
I don't know that's tough.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
It's annoying that that there's so much.
There's so much negativity withwhat social media could be and
how much it can affect anindividual person, but this is
just a great lesson and what youwrite actually does matter.
So yeah it's.
It's a good idea to.
We get lost in the virtualworld.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
People get lost doesn't it feel so weird?
It feel like even us just likedoing this and looking at a
computer and like talking.
Overweigh forever yeah becausewe realized that we could do
this and it actually soundedbetter doing this than when we
were in person.
So, like why would we meet, youknow?
But like it's just like that,that social interaction piece,
(43:29):
that like Like who I don't know?
I just I'm just like annoyedbecause it's like who Is
literally whatever, whatever, itdoesn't matter anyway, people
are so negative.
It's just it's.
And it's funny because, like, Igenerally tend to lean on like
the pessimistic side and so likeposting like a cute video and
(43:51):
then like seeing the commentsand being like what the fuck?
You know, I'm just trying tobring joy here.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Like are you?
Serious, you know yeah, yeah,that's so.
It's a good reminder.
Oh, it's what you, yeah, whichis like I If you are in a
business and you're postingstuff and or you're working
towards a goal and you startgetting negative comments, it
means that you are starting toreach the people, that's that
was what I was told so and thatwas really good advice Well.
Speaker 1 (44:19):
I think I would.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
You are only getting Positive comments.
Maybe you're not pushing hardenough, which sounds silly,
because no one wants negativecomments, but it means you're.
You're getting yourself outthere, just which is a good
thing.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
It is good, it's just scary.
I know, just scary, but anyway,I have a DIY one that's going
viral that has no negativecomments besides like oh, you
could have made these glow inthe dark.
Which is like, yeah, my momtold me that too, thank you.
You know what is it?
It's the googly-eyed one.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Oh is it?
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Yes, it's going nuts and I actually just did a like a
floating candle DIY.
So your recommendation of liketaking a break for a little bit
I probably won't do that, butCuz it's like, it's like popping
off on Instagram take advantageof it.
I know, I know I'm trying tosit through the discomfort, but
(45:14):
like I'm not gonna lie, everyonce in a while I like look
through the comments, I'm like,oh, are people talking shit?
Speaker 2 (45:19):
you know but now I know how to lead it, so I just
delete them.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
I'm like deleted you know, yeah, I don't really have
anything else today.
I just have been kind of, IGuess, since that I'm like
trying to up my confidencewithin my social media presence
because I just Like even talkingto these licensing companies
(45:42):
and stuff I was just saying tomy best friend she was like,
yeah, the thing is, is like youbeing so concerned about the
negative comments Like Ipersonally wouldn't do it
because I feel like it's justgonna eat at you, you know?
Yeah, so I don't really know.
And do you know anything aboutlicensing a video?
I posted an Instagram yesterday.
Nobody responded.
I'm like I need to know if I,how do I do this?
Speaker 2 (46:06):
Licensing a video.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Yeah like they want to license my video, for a Few
companies reached out to me andthey want to license my video
for 50% of any proceeds madefrom that video.
Which like fine, because I'mnot making any money on it
otherwise.
But at the same time I'mbasically signing away my rights
(46:28):
to the video, like I still ownit, but they own the rights to
be able to sell it anddistribute it.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
And I need to talk to a.
It sounds like you need to talkto a professional.
Oh, I know it's the worst,because if you're actually
concerned, then no one's gonnabe able to answer that better
than a lawyer.
Speaker 1 (46:45):
So yeah, listen, I went to the reddit lawyers and I
was looking at what they saidand they said don't do it.
So yeah, I don't know, do you?
Have anything else this is likea super short episode it is.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
It's a very short episode.
Um, I Really I'm gonna put alittle marker here, so we just
take a sec.
I Didn't realize this button.
By the way, this mark flipbutton is very helpful because
Search through.
So I don't know if you havethat on your screen, I Don't
have.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
Oh yeah, mark clip.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yep, so if you click that, it just makes a mark, so
that I.
Can look back and see that'swhere we're like I cut.
So I clicked that right whenyour mom was on the phone, just
in case we were Keep it she'slike oh bye peace.
Yeah, I don't other than that.
(47:42):
I mean haters on the internet,that's.
I think we got it covered.
That was that's.
That's pretty much it.
Yeah, that's okay.
Um, it's okay to have a shortepisode, because we have today's
that'll go and then this willgo the next week.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
So Okay, yeah, I don't really have anything else.
Speaker 2 (47:58):
I don't either.
Maybe it's part of August.
August is a very like.
Speaker 1 (48:03):
August is like a slow , hazy month.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
It's a great way to describe it slow, easy, yeah,
it's like in the middle.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
It's like towards the end of this, the summer, but I
feel like September really rampsup because people get excited
for fall, but August is justkind of sleepy.
You know, it's kind of how Ifeel right now.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
So I know I told you about my energy level has been
like steady, but it doesn't meanthat I still don't get.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
I'm like so you're still gonna fall asleep on the
other end of the computer?
Speaker 2 (48:27):
the other than the computer.
I mean, this is the wrong thing, oh.
Speaker 1 (48:32):
Your phone.
That's a couch hey, look at you.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
So if I sit right there that's a very dangerous,
because the Sun 2 light comesthrough just a little bit right
there.
Speaker 1 (48:44):
It's just a nice warm nap.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Oh, and the best is in this spot, right here,
february, because right now,because right there's there's a
building out the windows rightnow it's huge high windows in
December, in January the Sunstays behind the building,
unfortunately, so it's prettylike it's not dark in here, but
it's not bright light, right.
And then February, when the Sunjust gets high enough, it
(49:06):
starts peeking over thatbuilding and it's like midwinter
cold.
You're tired and it's likewindows, it's like it's really
so warm.
I've joked and said I'm gonnaget a lawn chair and just park
up right here and just likestart my tan.
I think you could.
It feels like you could becauseit's just it's so warm, but
right now it can be almost hot.
Ac is cranking here, so well.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
Anyway, I don't know what else to say.
Wow, I have, I've started up myHalloween DIYs.
So if you want to look at those, you can look at.
I am Brooke Brady on Instagramand tiktok.
I am really, really, reallygetting into the Halloween
spirit this year.
I just posted one aboutfloating candles.
I have my googly eyes.
(49:50):
I have a lot of DIYs preppedand prepared and I'm excited to
share.
So I am Brooke Brady onInstagram and tiktok.
Speaker 2 (50:01):
Perfect.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
You got anything you want to promote?
Speaker 2 (50:04):
No, I'm not, you know .
Speaker 1 (50:05):
I'm gonna leave this one all on you today's your
Usually it's like, and I'm likeit is yeah, yeah no, we got
yours, we got, we got to talkabout your DIYs.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
So your question, that game.
Speaker 1 (50:16):
I'm just hoping the Dollar Tree is gonna sponsor me
one day.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
You never, never seen , you know, never say never.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
I'm doing like daily trips of the Dollar Tree.
Yeah, you should, they shouldbe supporting you.
Speaker 2 (50:27):
you're supporting them, so true, true, that,
alright.
Speaker 1 (50:31):
Well, I guess I will talk to you Next week sounds
good.
Speaker 2 (50:36):
We'll be recording sweet Bye, bye.
health health.
We started it would have beenfunnier if you said hell, hell.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Well, what the hell?
We are chatting about health,not hell, and Brooke and I were
just chatting regarding Kellyand I have moved into a new
realm of exercise.
I'm always like in my mid 30snow and I'm I've, you know, I
feel like I've done this so manytimes and it's like what's
(00:28):
different this time, andespecially as, as we continue to
get older, think people thinkthe same thing.
Oh God, another, anotherexercise health preach here we
go, like there's already a tonof those on Instagram and such
so.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yes, but I think it's more encouraging when you see
somebody that you know.
So right before we started therecording this podcast, we were
talking about health and Chriswas saying that him and his wife
have been trying to, I guess,implement some healthier
routines.
So it's, you know, I see yourposts and I'm like wow, I'm such
(01:04):
a piece of shit, it's justsitting at home.
So it's more encouraging whenyou see somebody that you know
able to do it and keep up withit and stuff and also Taylor
Taylor's posts.
I've been like okay.
Yeah, taylor is definitely theoriginal inspiration there, so I
know I want to shout her outreally quick.
I want to shout out her new.
What is it?
T Rose fit Yep, Is that what itis?
(01:26):
That's it.
T Rose underscore fit.
So this was a bride of mine,it's a friend of Chris's, a
friend of mine too, butbasically I've been seeing that
she has, I think, started abusiness.
Do you know more about that?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, so she's certified.
She finished her certificationin Taylor.
If you're listening, correct meif I'm wrong, but it's
nutritional coaching.
There's different levels of,you know, nutritional coaching
and there's who's describingthis to me.
There's like a nutritionist,which is, you know, someone who
goes to school for a few yearsbut that's going to be more
(02:00):
tailored to, like, people withdiabetes and things with really
really particular you know,medical, attached diets and such
that you that have veryspecific requirements.
And then there was one moreabove that, I think, and I can't
remember what it was, butanyway, one of what she can,
what she's assisting with, is wehit this realm of just, you
(02:25):
know, we're just chugging alongwith our life and feel like
we're just getting.
We just go through these wavesof like trying to exercise a
little bit and then just likefall off the horse and it's, you
know.
And there's always the excusewell, it's, you know, it's
October for me.
Kelly knows I won't do that thisyear, I promise Kelly.
It's like October 1.
And all of a sudden around thehouse is like bowls of candy
(02:46):
everywhere and I'm like, well,we got to be prepared.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yeah, are you kidding me?
Candy is baked goods Likethat's what Halloween in the
Halloween just rolls right intoThanksgiving, rolls right into
Christmas and then a New Year'sresolution.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, Like the months October, November, December,
which is a quarter of the year,is just this consistent eating
frenzy?
I feel like it.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
I mean just get out your fat pants.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
That's it Seriously so.
That's.
That's not the reason why westarted doing this, but it's a
it's just a culmination of likeGod always feel like we fall off
the horse, whether it's likeit's always an excuse like, well
, it was the holidays, well, wegot sick, which is, I mean, you
do get sick.
And then that's usually whatalmost always cut me off of any
like pattern I had any likeconsistency was I was sick for
three weeks, four weeks, becauseof a cough.
(03:30):
That's exactly what happenedthis year and you're just not
motivated, you feel terribleuntil the cough goes away and
then all of a sudden you're,you've built new habits that are
not good, and then you justkind of float along Do you find
that when you're sick you eatworse too.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I mean, I definitely you're on the couch, you're
getting better, but I feel likeusually when I'm sick I like
don't, I don't want anything.
That's like bad for me.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, no, yeah, I would agree with that.
Like less, yeah, way less, andit's usually, you know,
relatively healthy things.
It's like like you just said,it's like soup, crackers, things
like that.
Where it's not, it's notterrible, it's just, it's just
fine.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So it's really just the eggs like the exercise
routine that you lose yourselfin when you're sick.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Which which then directly connects to what I
decide to eat.
Because I will always find thatwhenever I have a consistent
schedule of exercise, I'm moreinclined to make better choices,
because I know that if I haveto exercise the next day or that
day, if I eat something that'sreally, you know, heavy, fatty,
(04:36):
or something that's just goingto be like sitting my stomach,
fried food, fried food going out, anything like that I'm not
going to feel well exercising.
I'm going to feel like crap.
So I want to avoid that.
So I will pick something whereI know I won't feel like crap
and then so you know, it's thecycle and then you continue to
feel better.
So this was definitely the mostamount of the most consistent
(05:01):
I've seen.
Kelly went into this hard.
She went, you know, she wentinto it and she's seen her
workout with Taylor.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I'm like go girls, I love it.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Yeah, she's super impressive.
I mean so much so.
Or I reflected on myself andwas like wow, I'm a piece of
shit.
I'm just like I need to getmyself off the couch and she's
just crushing it Now.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm looking at both of you going, wow, I'm a piece
of shit.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It's just a cycle of people going well, so in a good
way it's, it's.
It's always that wall.
You hit though like wow, let mereflect on myself.
And yeah, she, I just saw Kellywas just consistent, just so
consistent and like reallydedicated.
And then I, over just four orfive weeks, I watched her
ability to handle stress change.
I watched her just like overalldemeanor, her just not that it
(05:45):
was bad, but it's just like justin general, everything seemed
more good, way that I'll usethis word again steady.
It's just like a steady feelingversus like crashy, like you
know, really excited and reallylike oh man, this is like I'm so
tired, just like so I'm goingto.
What do I do when I'm reallytired or I'm exhausted from a
day?
I'm going to have a glass ofwine or something because I
(06:07):
deserve it at the end of the day.
And you're not, you're not over,you're not quite crazy, and
it's just.
It's so easy to fall on thislike daily habit and all of a
sudden it's like one month ayear, two years and especially,
as my doctor put it, you know,when you're in your, when you're
in your 30s, usually you'relike you're cruising right,
you're on like cruise control oflife, or like you know you're
(06:29):
working, you're generally, youknow, a lot of people are
relatively healthy and just kindof just going day to day and
then that's.
Those are the crucial yearsthat you make your habits, that
you really get into your habitsthat follow you into your 40s
and 50s and 60s.
I don't know, not to make itsound scary but, it's okay.
(06:51):
So this is, this is it today,and yeah, so I jumped on board
with this and it's no, it's nota crazy fad, it's just it's just
literally tracking.
The hardest part is trackingwhat you eat and you have to
commit to it in the beginning,especially in the beginning.
Just, the overall goal in mymind is eventually I'll I'll get
really good at knowing what'swhat and then just kind of not
(07:14):
have to track every single thingevery single day, or I will, I
don't know, but I'm going to gowith later in life that the you
know distractions and stuff thatprobably wouldn't happen as
much, but at that point I wouldhave built so many good habits
that it would be okay to do that.
So right now I do trackeverything that I eat, which
I've done more multiple times.
I just never stopped because Ididn't have a coach to help me
(07:37):
with it.
So I was just read so havingTaylor was a huge help Just gave
me a full you know plan andsaid this is where you should
stay within and is that tailoredspecifically to you.
Ha, that's.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I know, I know she's got it, she's got it right.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Tailored nutrition, so it is.
So, yeah, it's based on yourage, weight, you know, male or
female, all those things areslightly adjust where you are
and where you are in thatcounter.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
So now she giving you like a workout thing too, or
she strictly nutrition, and thenyou're.
I think you said you run right.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
No, yeah, so I do a bunch of different things.
So, okay, she gives there'sguidance on fitness.
So the actual exercise partit's, you know, at a minimum
10,000 steps a day, like that'swhere you should be, just just
like a basic.
I'm in trouble.
It's actually.
What's so funny is it sounds soridiculous, but it adds up as
(08:35):
you walk around during the day,just like in your house.
And then if I, if I'm not doinga lot of walking for the most
part of the day cause of them onmy computer a lot, I mean it's
like a 20 minute walk, 30 minutewalk at the most, and if I cut
out time that I'm looking at myphone from that, like it's an
easy confined time, I candefinitely do so it's a it's,
(08:57):
and then all of a sudden youjust look at it over a week and
then a few weeks and so forth, Ican tell you from just my diet
change, which is there's nothingcrazy, it's whole foods.
I'm just eating like, not a lotof processed things.
I'm eating more protein thannot for my specific plan and
there's, but there's still, youknow, healthy carbs in there.
(09:18):
Just, everyone's afraid of thatword carbs, but it's just.
You know it's like oats, beans,legumes, bread, whatever you
know.
Wherever.
You can get the most of yourfoods from whole fruit,
vegetables.
It's pretty straightforward.
And then you want to make themost of your calories, so you
don't want to.
You have something like reallyrich.
(09:38):
You know you're wasting.
You're getting calories butyou're not getting the
appropriate nutrients likeprotein and your carbs and your
fats.
You need all the Right, so youjust Sorry.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So do you have a schedule change with the diet
too?
Like, do you wear normal people?
Normal people, no, there's nonormal.
But where people would usuallyeat breakfast, lunch, dinner,
have you changed that to havelike snacks in between where
you're kind of grazing a littlebit, or yeah?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So okay, so for my specific plan.
So part of all of this is justso instead of just like talking
numbers and such actual likemotivation to do this.
June was one of the hardestmonths that I think I've ever
encountered in my career andthere's no direct particular
reason other than I took on alot of work.
There was a lot of fewstressors in there.
(10:27):
It was the peak of, I'll say my, the busiest part of my
schedule as far as weddings gothis year.
So it was June and October andall of that, combined with bad
eating habits that were justhabits from the months prior,
just all came together and I wasjust having.
I didn't really have anenormous amount.
(10:49):
I have anxiety, just like a lotof people do, but based on the
stressors of the day and soforth, but I was getting them
noticeably more than I had I wasjust getting Like panic attacks
or just anxiety in general.
There was a few panic attacks inthere that were all of it
coming together and I was like Ithink if I overextended myself,
(11:09):
this is too much.
But I knew I wanted to do allthe things.
I felt good about it, but Ijust felt panic attacks without
knowing why.
And then what do you do?
As I said to you, you're likethis is when really bad habits
start and you're like I need abeer.
This is stressful and you thinkit's very innocent.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
No, but it's an escape.
When you keep doing it, it's anescape.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
That's what you're looking at and what happens is
you start feeling out of controlBecause you're really starting
to depend on, depend on outsidethings substances, food to make
you feel better, when reallyyou're not attacking the
(11:56):
underlying problem.
And the underlying problem is Afirst of all, I've got to get
those things in order and figureout a way to manage all of my
jobs, but then, secondly, I'mnot working at my peak
performance for all of thesethings that I've added to my
life, because I'm not giving mybody the right fuel.
I'm eating crap and it'sspiking my sugar and making my
(12:17):
sugar drop, and I don't evenhave diabetes.
But you know those things arehappening because you can feel
it.
And then I wake up and need fivecups of coffee and then
convince myself I need morecoffee.
And then you get the jittersand then that's all part of it.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, it's funny because I do the same thing.
The only it sounded like you,farted.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
I was just gonna say that's when I've been really
awkward.
All I did was move my chair.
So it is on video.
Oh no, you can see me literallymove the chair.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Woo, okay, Just in my headphones it definitely
sounded like a full lot of fart.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
It's because I wasn't like a really deep, serious
conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Those footy- Like we have someone interviewing on
here, or something.
No, that was hilarious.
No, but it's funny how you saythat, because I do the same
thing and I have those panicattacks and, like you said, I'm
not at my peak, but for me it'salmost like I'm willing to let
everything else in my life comeafter my work.
You know what I'm saying mypeak during those times where
(13:15):
I'm really struggling.
That goes to my clients andthen the brunt of the panic
attacks, the anxiety, the crying, the shitty eating, that all
happens on my own time.
So it doesn't necessarilyaffect my work, it affects my
daily life, because I don't knowabout you, but when I walk into
(13:35):
a wedding it's like I'm a robot.
There's nothing else in my lifematters.
My phone is on an airplane,basically, and I just am like
okay, just got to get throughthis day and in the best way
possible, but then when I comehome I absolutely crash.
So I was going to ask you doyou see a difference in your
performance at weddings?
In a physical sense, I know,mentally you give everything
(13:58):
that you have.
You're all there for everysingle wedding.
You're not lacking.
But in your body, do you feelbetter Even the day after?
You know how normally we havewedding hangovers even though we
didn't drink, but we'redehydrated and sore.
Do you feel physically better?
Or have you not had a weddingyet to see the difference?
Speaker 2 (14:18):
I've only assisted a wedding since I've taken on this
new diet, and on top of that itwas only a few days in.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
How much time have you been doing this so far?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
So it's interesting, there's kind of two parts to
this.
Kelly started it almost twomonths ago and we started we
changed our whole, like dinner,like what we cook and everything
.
And it's nothing crazy.
Like I said, it's literallyjust a highly focused on getting
a lot of things that arenatural.
So it's just like fish, youknow, chicken, whatever, but
(14:53):
there's not a lot of.
We're not using an enormousamount of oil.
We're not doing these crazyheavy butter half and half
recipes.
It's just very particular withlike a grain and a veggie.
It's really one of those threethat were rotating.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Just clean eating yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
It's very, it's very clean eating.
I can definitely say that.
So I wasn't eating the rightportions, though.
I was just having whatever wemade.
So because I had no, no, I hadno baseline.
So, okay, well, that was.
We started that like almost twomonths ago, but for me
particularly, it's only beenabout, I mean, a week and a half
since I started this.
(15:27):
So, oh, it's more minimal.
Yeah, so for me, and my cutoff,yeah, yeah, this is not a three
month project, we're talking so, but it's okay, because I can
tell you how much better I feelafter, say, 10 days, so 10 solid
days of this, and then awedding was in between that.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
And you were assisting the wedding, did you
wake up sore the next day?
I just had a wedding onSaturday and, dude, I woke up on
Sunday like something's got tochange because I do not like it.
It wasn't even I had like aheadache because I obviously was
dehydrated.
It was a really hot day andwhatever.
But the running around, thesquatting, like I don't think
people understand how much likea 10 hour day actually takes a
(16:06):
toll on you.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know.
And so the next day I wake upand I'm just like I'm dead, like
Chad he's like he's always likeI didn't plan anything for
today because I didn't know howyou would be.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
That's actually kind of sad, but it's.
I don't know if there's goingto be any way to like avoid that
.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I.
So there were some interestingvariables where I didn't prepare
correctly, as much so I wasactually starving and at the
wedding I was, my stomach is.
Kelly was eating itselfactively and I was like, oh my
God, it's only 730.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
That's the worst feeling.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
But it's because I had I actually increased my
calories, so then what I waseating, so I'm actually doing
more portions during the daywith more calories at the end of
the day.
And it hit me on that day thatthe day at that wedding, I was
like, wow, I was like I feellike I ate a huge breakfast and
still had stuff and I'm stillstarving.
So the other variable would bethe wedding was really late, so
(17:06):
it was a 230 for me.
I left at midnight and it wasin Terry Terry town, new York,
so two hours away roughly fromRocky Hill, and yeah, the next
day I was dead.
So but but this is the onething I can say so far on this,
because it is a pretty rapidchange over just simply 10 days
(17:30):
is a, just to just to try it.
Over the past like month and ahalf, two months, our alcohol
consumption has comedramatically down.
We're way down.
So we're, on average, probablyone drink Kelly's, but Kelly's
had, since Father's Day, I think, maybe two drinks.
So yeah, which is that was June.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Is she a wine girl?
Kelly looks like a white wine,like Prosecco girl.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
She loves white wine and Prosecco, so you nailed it
so we can do red wine.
We love red wine and you know.
But she's digging the mocktails.
They're actually really good.
That's the thing it's likemocktails are actually.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So the thing about cocktails is like I don't even
really care if they have alcoholin them, I don't care if I feel
them or anything, it just feelskind of fun to like have a
mocktail.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yep.
So you know you're spot on andit's just so funny, it's a.
I think you don't realize howmuch of a social thing it is
until you pull, take a step backand then pull that whole
concept out and you're like, oh,like, do I really like this?
Do?
I do, I drink like that's whatit is, that's what it is yeah,
(18:35):
so we, so I've I really pulledback to alongside during that,
during that time period.
So over the past two months,I've probably had, like, maybe,
like we'll say, six, six drinksOver the past six, seven, eight
weeks.
It's really not, it's prettygood.
Um, yeah, I compare, relativelyspeaking.
Like I said, we weren't goingcrazy, but it was like a drink
(18:55):
every other night, like just beyeah, sometimes.
And then in the winter it waslike a glass of wine every day
which seems and could becompletely harmless.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Um, Well, I think for red wine, it's like supposed to
be good for you, but I don't.
They've I don't know, butoutweighs the bad.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I think that's it.
So recently, this and this isall anybody listening, it was
just opinion.
You know it's that's definitelysomething you want to talk with
your doctor with, but my doctorhad told me that like yeah you
know there's that the red winedaily is good for your heart and
so forth, and yeah, there arehealth benefits.
But they've recently evenpulled back on that study and
said like yeah, actually alcoholis, I mean, it is poison, like
(19:33):
it's it's poison.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
So, and it literally is your, you know your.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
You are slowly damaging your liver, so it's a
and that's your liver's job.
But every day, though, that'sthe, that's the question every
day, what does that do?
And it's and unfortunately,it's all about genetics too.
Like some people can handle it,some people are going to be.
I mean, there was I just saw avideo with a lady who was she
looks like she's a hundred yearsold and she's being interviewed
and it was going around YouTubeand tic-tac and such, and they
(20:00):
were asking her what's thesecret to longevity?
And she said she's had a DrPepper every day.
Like, yeah, and have you seen?
Speaker 1 (20:07):
that one.
I've seen that too, and I waslike what?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
And she said her doctor said it was going to kill
her and she was like you knowwhat?
They died before me.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I was like my God, yeah, that's pretty crazy yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So genetics is part of it, absolutely, but as a
general whole, you know it's, Ican definitely all I can say, so
I'll I'll step off the, thewhatever it is the platform here
talking about this.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
As a general, this is not a medical podcast.
No, it is not.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
This is just so far what I can tell you how I feel,
and it is steady, that is theword.
I don't have any more crashes.
I'm able to handle stress alittle bit better.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
And panic attacks in the last week and a half.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
None, none, none, no.
That's.
That was not normal for me, andwhat did that look like for you
when you had them?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Like what did it?
Was it abnormal for you to begetting that many panic attacks?
And like what did that looklike?
Were you like shaky, sweaty,like kind of like just reeling
in your own brain?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Cause when I have panic attacks.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
I feel like my brain is like, oh my God, you're going
to do me, oh my God.
And it's just like telling mein my head and I'm like, am I
okay?
I like to feel all right.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
It's, it's scary.
When I that's, it is, it's alittle scary.
I had it was like stress beingburied so much, so fast, that I
would instantly get a headachein the front part of my head and
it would just it would justlike explode.
I was just sitting there andthen it would just like I can
just feel my whole everythingjust getting very uncomfortable
(21:42):
very quick and it was like whatis this?
And it was just like I don'tknow how to make this go away.
And it was just.
It happened a few times in avery short period of time, like,
let's just say, two weeks,happened like four times and it
was like this isn't normal forme, this is not okay.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
So that sounds like my normal actually.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Different levels, different levels, but it's for
me.
I'm generally a very, you know,tight be lose my coffee keys
everywhere I go, just like so.
For whatever your norm is,that's like, you know, when it
jumps off the room it's scarybecause it was like why is this
happening all of a sudden, andit was like, oh, so I need to
(22:21):
take control.
If there's anything I can takecontrol of first, it's okay.
I've got all of these differentjobs, all of these different
responsibilities have taken on.
It's a lot of work, you know,and I haven't changed any of my
habits from from before.
So of course I'm going to bestressed out.
I have to change something toto fit in all this stuff.
So what's one thing that youknow you can start with?
(22:42):
Well, your diet and exercise,that's.
We've proven, pretty proventhat if you really focus in on
those, you're going to feelbetter, or at least partially.
So that's where I started and Ifeel great.
So I probably will not stop, atleast for now.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
So I'm glad for you, I'm happy for you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
I'm happy for you and Kelly.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
I feel like, you know , I don't know a couple that can
do that together is solid.
You know me, chad works out.
Like every night he's like youwant to, you want to work out?
I'm like, no, sorry, I'll be onthe couch.
But usually but usually it'sbecause I'm like I'm editing
well into the night, like Ibasically plant myself on the
couch and I'm just workingforever.
(23:26):
So like when he asks me to takea break, usually I'm like sorry
, I can't, you know, but Ishould.
Yeah, I do, I should.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So it's it.
It's incredible how much it's.
You know it's the runner's high, that's like a good way to
describe it after you do a fullexercise and sucks and then, but
then you feel so much better.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
I've never had that either.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
I hear people talking about runner's runner.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Have you ever had it?
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Put so much a like, a like, a runner's high where I'm
like, oh my God, it's not thislike proliferating like there it
is.
It's like that, it's just moreover after I'm done with the run
and I've cooled off and my faceis not like a cherry anymore.
Um, I you know.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
I feel so funny that happens to you, because it
happens to me too.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
I've heard that the runner's high isn't really like
a high at all, but it's likewhen you get to a point in your
run where you are Like it'salmost like it doesn't hurt
anymore, you just keep going and.
I've never had that.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
It doesn't happen to me every time, but sometimes
usually about for me it's like ahalf mile and it's like in my
warm-up, still like I'm halfmile in.
And if I'm listening to musicand a good song comes on, it's
just like, just like I'm, I'm,I'm still warming up and they're
like you need to, you know, getget there a little slower.
And I'm like, nope, I'm readynow, and then I can just, you
know, I got a burst of energy.
That's that would be theclosest I've had to that.
(24:47):
I would love to know otherpeople that share that or about
any other description of arunner's high.
Maybe that's a question Do youhave a runner's high?
That's what we should beputting out there.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Yeah, and I also think that maybe I'm doing it to
myself Well, because when I runI don't like running on the
treadmill, I just don't.
I feel like it's boring.
But then when I run outside andI have like music in my
headphones, I feel like I cannever turn it up fully because
I'm a woman and I'm afraid I'mgoing to get snatched, so like
you know, it's like I have to beaware of my surroundings so I
(25:16):
can never just like.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
You are in those woods.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
You are, yeah, yeah, no, but even in like even in,
like cities and stuff like thathappens to you know, so it's.
I don't know.
It's just kind of scary becauseI feel like I just need to be
aware of my surroundings at alltimes so like to let myself just
like fully get like deeplyimmersed into my run, like I
know.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I feel like I'm so paranoid.
And that's like one of myfavorite things too when it
comes to exercise Like I love.
I love running with no purpose,just like some music on and
it's.
I don't need to do full sprintsor anything, I just do a light
jog.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Can you hold on one second?
My mom is calling One second.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
I love this.
Oh, I can do this too.
I can work.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Hi, mom, you're on my podcast right now.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
I'm on your what.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
My podcast.
Can I call you back?
Yeah, okay, love you.
She didn't even say bye, shewas like nope.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
I'm out of here.
She was like, yeah, all thepodcasts.
That was funny.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
I thought she was going to do something funny, but
she was just like, okay, bye,without even saying goodbye.
Yeah, no, we should definitelyfigure out what, like, the
actual definition of a runner'shigh is, because I've always
I've envied the people who coulddo that and get to that point
of like, okay, I've been running, and now it doesn't hurt
anymore, because when I run, boydoes it hurt like constantly.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So let's see.
Well, we don't even have towait, let's just see.
Let's just see what health linesays.
A runner's high is a brief,deeply relaxing state of
euphoria.
In this case it occurs afterintense or lengthy exercise.
They report feeling lessanxiety and pain immediately
after the run.
See, I don't really get it.
I don't know if I get it afterthe run.
(27:02):
I just, I mean, I, like I said,after I come down from the run
and like maybe even after myshower, like I feel so much
better.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Yeah, you just feel good to know that you did
something Like you just feel, no, I actually really do feel
better, like I physically, likeI physically am like, wow, I
feel great.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Maybe that's it, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Hmm, well, if anybody knows like let us know, I guess
.
Let us know, this is not amedical podcast, so can we talk
about?
Can we talk about the?
Speaker 2 (27:37):
cover of our podcast via Albu Mark.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Work.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
It's just going to be the simple.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
We're going to have stethoscopes around our necks.
Can we talk about somethingthat's been bothering me?
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, we can, let's chat.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Okay.
So I made this video the otherday.
That was just like googly eyesof my plants.
It was Halloween stuff and I'mstarting my Halloween DIYs
because I'm excited for it, andmaybe it's just me escaping my
issues and hyper-focusing onHalloween, but that's what I'm
doing currently.
So I posted that video and Iposted it on my Instagram and my
(28:15):
TikTok and then which, like Idon't TikTok, I don't know
anything about TikTok, I just,when I make a video, I just put
it on both platforms.
See where it goes.
That one ended up taking off tothe point where, like, more
people started to go to myprofile and they saw this video
of me bringing cricket into myhouse.
You've seen it?
(28:35):
I have.
Okay, people are so goddamn mean, like, they're so rude, like
most of the comments.
Most of the comments werereally nice.
Most of the comments were likeoh my God, your dog is the dog
from up.
You can't prove it.
Like you can't tell meotherwise.
You know.
(28:57):
Most of them were like, reallylike, I love this video.
And then you have these peoplecoming out of the woodworks to
be like, wow, what a piece ofshit for introducing her cat
that way to her dog.
Like how traumatic for thekitten and whatever.
And I'm like, oh well, sorry,like I was just like I don't
(29:20):
know.
I tried to explain like in afew comments, like well, cricket
came from a house with big dogsand Nelly is so gentle with
gremlin, like yeah, she wasexcited, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Like I even had somebody like comment on it and
was like I love Goldens and all,but this Golden is seriously
lacking training which, like All, right, so, okay, yeah, the
this is always a fun topic andthe internet and social media,
which we have talked about justnot you and me, but just like in
(29:53):
general, how many conversationshas the word social media come
up with is just such a grossplace, sometimes full of the
individuals that hide behindtheir keyboard and love to just
share their excuse, my language,the fucking opinion, and can
make other people they don'trealize what they can do to
other people by saying that,because there are real people on
(30:14):
the other side of your comments.
So, yeah, and I just the firstthing I always think to myself
is wow, like you took the timeto take a second and actually
respond with somethingincredibly negative towards
somebody else's video Like howmiserable are you.
I think that's, yeah, that's I.
(30:35):
Just.
You have nothing else going on,and that's number one, that's
just, that's fine.
But there are people who loveto troll as well.
No, they say terrible thingsand that's I mean.
That's a known thing.
But regardless, regardless, ifand you and I have talked about
this If anytime you put anythingout in public, there's going to
(30:58):
be people who are going to justshare their negativity and
place it onto you because oftheir A own insecurities and B
they're just not nice people.
Yeah, there's that too.
So, and the good news is, ifyou are putting content out to
the world and hey, it's notFirst of all, I love your video
(31:20):
is just simply you introducingyour cat to your dog, which is
in your home, and it's LikeAgain, I Sorry, I didn't do it
the way you wanted me to.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Nobody has any other context.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Well, that's the thing.
Everybody thinks.
They have such a strong opinionand their way is the right way.
So, instead of just trying tounderstand that, hey, it doesn't
matter what you say becauseyou're hiding behind a keyboard,
if you're the person puttingout the content in case you're
in Brooke and it's getting thatmuch attention and it's going
we'll say, quote, unquote, viralthen that's great and you just
(31:56):
have to know that the more.
When you start getting negativecomments like that, what that
means is you're just hitting.
You're hitting a lot of peoplewhere I think I described it in
the dice example, where if youroll, if you don't want a one on
a dice, and you're rolling it200,000 times, you're going to
get a lot of ones.
Yeah, you're going to get a lotof ones.
And if you only focus on theones, you're going to be like,
(32:17):
wow, that sucks, I got that.
Did you see how many ones I gotin those 200,000 rolls?
And it's like well, yeah, yourolled the dice 200,000 times.
There's only so many options.
It's kind of like people outthere.
There's only so many nicepeople that are willing to share
some good comments and realizethat it's just a friendly home
video of you with your dog andyour new kitten, instead of just
(32:40):
blasting you with just terriblethings to say.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
I could understand if somebody commented on it and
was like, oh my God, this is socute, but maybe if you don't
know that your dog's temperamentis like this or something like
that, you might want tointroduce them a different way.
I get it.
I don't know, and not everybodydoes everything the right way.
It just made me feel so weird,to the point where I'm having
(33:05):
companies reach out to me tryingto license that video so that
they could sell it to othercompanies and stuff, and I'm
like, but the more people whowatch it, it just makes me feel
like I've gotten enough commentstelling me that I'm such an
irresponsible piece of shit forintroducing them that way and I
(33:26):
didn't even do anything.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I literally brought her in Also.
You're never going to meetthese people.
You're never going to meetthese people.
What are they going to do?
Speaker 1 (33:31):
But it just makes me feel so I get it.
I get it.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
You're never going to please everybody, no matter
what you post.
It doesn't matter what contentyou post.
I've seen the endless videosonline of like I'm going to post
.
Here's my bottle of my waterbottle.
Here's a bottle.
Here's a photo of my waterbottle on this desk.
Tell me, I'll just wait for amillion comments and see why I'm
a piece of shit because I didthis.
Yeah, so it's going to happen.
It's going to happen.
(33:57):
That's it.
That's the world we live in.
So the easier that you can kindof just I don't even know, I'm
not saying words the easier.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
The easier way to do that.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yes, thank you.
The easier way to handle thiswould be to just know that if
you're putting stuff out there,it's going to happen, yeah, and
just have an auto response, oran auto response but a message
at the top, like Parker here,because I don't like a
(34:31):
disclaimer.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
No, it's okay, Like a disclaimer, you know.
Like it's like at the very time, you know I wish so.
I didn't even know, like thisis how little I knew about
tiktok.
Okay, like my Thing.
I don't even know what viralmeans, but like it's, it's
popping off, okay, and I like Idon't know anything about
anything.
So when those messages werecoming through at first I was
like I Don't even know how todelete these comments.
(34:53):
I literally don't know anything.
So I was trying to figure itout and I'm like, okay, there's
just like comment after commenton how I'm such a piece of shit.
And then like, but like it's sostupid Because right next to it
I have a video of themsnuggling.
And I'm like, okay, can youjust just look at the rest and I
get it Like you might not wantto introduce a kitten to I don't
(35:17):
know a ratwiler or a Germanshepherd or a bigger breed, just
a bigger breed in general.
I'm not saying because they'remean or whatever, just a bigger
breed.
Even a golden retriever.
Who's never seen a kitten,right?
Who's never seen a cat?
Look at my other videos, likeNelly, since she was a puppy,
has I don't know.
I mean, I'm just going on arant here, but it's just like
(35:41):
Just keep your shit to yourself,like who cares, you know.
And then it got me into thiswhole like we were talking a
little bit about the impostersyndrome before we started today
and this isn't really likeimposter syndrome, but it's more
the thing of like Well, whywould anybody want to put out
(36:01):
content like that?
Like at all, this is like thecutest video Literally ever.
It's like it's like A goldenretriever meeting a kitten and
being so excited and like that'sbeing neck, like, met with
negativity, like I would havenever thought.
I would have never thought so.
Now I'm just like it's makingme almost like everything that I
(36:23):
post.
I'm like should I even do that?
You know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I Understand, understand that thought process
of you.
Know now you're gonna questionevery single thing that you pose
with your animals because, butit, if it gets to that point,
then maybe it's time for a break.
If you're like I, the stress istoo much, maybe just pull back
from posting content for like acouple weeks.
Yeah, you know, let just sit onthat for a moment or Really
(36:52):
dive into the fact that that wasjust a video that really went.
You know, took off.
So you're gonna have thenegative comments most of the
time.
Videos don't just go viral,even for the biggest accounts in
the world.
They don't just go by, you know, they're gonna hit their fan
base.
So, yeah, you're gonna hit yourfans with that, people that
love to see you share your dog,cats and Quick.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Yet I've gotten a lot of positive ones, like I don't
want to.
You know, it's just like everyonce in a while it's like Like
someone commented on it was likethis is the perfect video to
show you what not to do.
It was like, oh my god, everytime I had one of those come in,
I was just like, oh, I'm such apiece of shit, like you know.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
But After a while.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
I feel like you know people going to my profile and
actually following me and seeing, like the friendship that
Nellie and Cricket have, I thinkthey understood more.
Like I don't know, I was alsoholding her and protecting her.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
It's not like I just like opened the bag and was like
cricket jump out, like Nobodyhad any context other than and
they go hold differentConversation on that if you
don't have a lot of context withjust short snippet videos, then
you can make all theseassumptions and that's a whole
problem in on itself.
But yeah, you'd, if you're gonnaput that content, you just have
(38:13):
to know that that's a risk andonce you start really
Understanding that there's gonnabe people like that always, you
just kind of shake it off yeah,just move on.
And also these people, evenwith you know, comments of like
you know that most people werefine with that, but even at the
end of the day, you know who,who are these people and like,
(38:37):
does it matter?
Yeah, like you know it doesn'tmean the negative comments, like
it really you're not gonna seethem.
You're not gonna see them andthat's Unless.
Unless you're building like areally tight community that
you're, you're trying to foster,then being, you know, getting
affected by the negativecomments is just it's tough.
(38:57):
I know it's tough because Iknow it's easier said than done.
Just to me tell you, you knowit's it's, it's not a big deal,
but when you're constantlyreading those comments, it's, it
is.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
I'm something that's so fucking stressful.
Well, like and and like, Ithink I'm just used to like you
know, we take pretty pictures,we post pretty pictures of
weddings and whatever, and youwould have to be like the
biggest dick in the world to belike, oh my god, look at that
bride, you know, and like makenegative comments.
So like that generally doesn'thappen.
When I post like my Actual work, it's like it's kind of weird.
(39:30):
Like when I was in my early 20s, I used to be like, oh yeah,
like if I, just, if I just havelike one thing go viral, maybe
I'll be like a worldwidephotographer and whatever.
And then, as it started to likeyou know, my stuff started to
like gain traction, I'd likekind of pulled back and was like
no, that doesn't actually soundlike it would be like good for
me.
For Me, the one who has fouranxiety attacks a week that
(39:53):
doesn't sound like it would bein my best interest.
And now I post the literallythe cutest video in the world
and I'm getting this like hateand I'm just like, have you ever
had like I Don't even reallywant to say like haters?
Like I don't even think that'swhat it is.
I think it's literally justpeople trying to like educate
(40:13):
other people on like, yeah, youshouldn't do this with a kitten
and a dog I Guess this issituational.
But like, have you ever hadlike comments, like Public
comments, on your stuff, whereyou're like, ooh, I don't really
know if I want that to likelive there?
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Yeah, I'm trying to think of a good example.
And we got called out for oneof the Lens and Light workshops
in one of the comments andsomeone made a sarcastic,
sarcastic comment that weweren't diverse enough.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Oh, really yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
So, and it wasn't even a this was the first.
Again, this is the.
No one has any context.
That was the first time I hadput something together like that
, so it was just a collaborationof photographers that had a
specific skill set that I metwith and Felt that they would be
good instructors.
Yeah there was no, there was nomalicious intent in there.
(41:13):
But when you read only thecomment yeah, and you look at
what I was Advertising, it couldlook bad.
Right, but what did you do, didyou?
Speaker 1 (41:23):
delete it.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
No, I just commented back and just said you know,
come, come check it out foryourself, something like that.
I don't know, I don't evenremember what I said.
I don't remember what I said,but I just it irked me for
obviously a second, then I gotnervous and then it was like oh,
another good thing to remembertoo is that People's attention
spans are really short, likereally short, and we are shown
(41:47):
with so much content every day,like an infathomable amounts of
content that right.
No one will harp on a singletopic for that long anyway.
No.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
No, and the people who commented on like the video
negatively like I could tell itwas like they Like it came up on
their for you page, theywatched it.
They were like, oh fuck thisgirl, they've left a comment.
And then they just keptscrolling because even when I
commented back like oh no, it'sokay.
You know, I figured that it wasalright in this specific
situation, because she came froma house with big dogs and
whatever they never saidanything back, they never
(42:24):
replied or anything.
So it's just like they justwanted to leave the video and I
just wanted to leave it and Ijust wanted to leave it and they
just wanted to leave thenegativity and then, like, keep
moving with their day and likein my brain it was like, oh, but
this is gonna live here for alittle bit.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
You know yeah.
Speaker 1 (42:39):
I don't know that's tough.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
It's annoying that that there's so much.
There's so much negativity withwhat social media could be and
how much it can affect anindividual person, but this is
just a great lesson and what youwrite actually does matter.
So yeah it's.
It's a good idea to.
We get lost in the virtualworld.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
People get lost doesn't it feel so weird?
It feel like even us just likedoing this and looking at a
computer and like talking.
Overweigh forever yeah becausewe realized that we could do
this and it actually soundedbetter doing this than when we
were in person.
So, like why would we meet, youknow?
But like it's just like that,that social interaction piece,
(43:29):
that like Like who I don't know?
I just I'm just like annoyedbecause it's like who Is
literally whatever, whatever, itdoesn't matter anyway, people
are so negative.
It's just it's.
And it's funny because, like, Igenerally tend to lean on like
the pessimistic side and so likeposting like a cute video and
(43:51):
then like seeing the commentsand being like what the fuck?
You know, I'm just trying tobring joy here.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Like are you?
Serious, you know yeah, yeah,that's so.
It's a good reminder.
Oh, it's what you, yeah, whichis like I If you are in a
business and you're postingstuff and or you're working
towards a goal and you startgetting negative comments, it
means that you are starting toreach the people, that's that
was what I was told so and thatwas really good advice Well.
Speaker 1 (44:19):
I think I would.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
You are only getting Positive comments.
Maybe you're not pushing hardenough, which sounds silly,
because no one wants negativecomments, but it means you're.
You're getting yourself outthere, just which is a good
thing.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
It is good, it's just scary.
I know, just scary, but anyway,I have a DIY one that's going
viral that has no negativecomments besides like oh, you
could have made these glow inthe dark.
Which is like, yeah, my momtold me that too, thank you.
You know what is it?
It's the googly-eyed one.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Oh is it?
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Yes, it's going nuts and I actually just did a like a
floating candle DIY.
So your recommendation of liketaking a break for a little bit
I probably won't do that, butCuz it's like, it's like popping
off on Instagram take advantageof it.
I know, I know I'm trying tosit through the discomfort, but
(45:14):
like I'm not gonna lie, everyonce in a while I like look
through the comments, I'm like,oh, are people talking shit?
Speaker 2 (45:19):
you know but now I know how to lead it, so I just
delete them.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
I'm like deleted you know, yeah, I don't really have
anything else today.
I just have been kind of, IGuess, since that I'm like
trying to up my confidencewithin my social media presence
because I just Like even talkingto these licensing companies
(45:42):
and stuff I was just saying tomy best friend she was like,
yeah, the thing is, is like youbeing so concerned about the
negative comments Like Ipersonally wouldn't do it
because I feel like it's justgonna eat at you, you know?
Yeah, so I don't really know.
And do you know anything aboutlicensing a video?
I posted an Instagram yesterday.
Nobody responded.
I'm like I need to know if I,how do I do this?
Speaker 2 (46:06):
Licensing a video.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Yeah like they want to license my video, for a Few
companies reached out to me andthey want to license my video
for 50% of any proceeds madefrom that video.
Which like fine, because I'mnot making any money on it
otherwise.
But at the same time I'mbasically signing away my rights
(46:28):
to the video, like I still ownit, but they own the rights to
be able to sell it anddistribute it.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
And I need to talk to a.
It sounds like you need to talkto a professional.
Oh, I know it's the worst,because if you're actually
concerned, then no one's gonnabe able to answer that better
than a lawyer.
Speaker 1 (46:45):
So yeah, listen, I went to the reddit lawyers and I
was looking at what they saidand they said don't do it.
So yeah, I don't know, do you?
Have anything else this is likea super short episode it is.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
It's a very short episode.
Um, I Really I'm gonna put alittle marker here, so we just
take a sec.
I Didn't realize this button.
By the way, this mark flipbutton is very helpful because
Search through.
So I don't know if you havethat on your screen, I Don't
have.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
Oh yeah, mark clip.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yep, so if you click that, it just makes a mark, so
that I.
Can look back and see that'swhere we're like I cut.
So I clicked that right whenyour mom was on the phone, just
in case we were Keep it she'slike oh bye peace.
Yeah, I don't other than that.
(47:42):
I mean haters on the internet,that's.
I think we got it covered.
That was that's.
That's pretty much it.
Yeah, that's okay.
Um, it's okay to have a shortepisode, because we have today's
that'll go and then this willgo the next week.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
So Okay, yeah, I don't really have anything else.
Speaker 2 (47:58):
I don't either.
Maybe it's part of August.
August is a very like.
Speaker 1 (48:03):
August is like a slow , hazy month.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
It's a great way to describe it slow, easy, yeah,
it's like in the middle.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
It's like towards the end of this, the summer, but I
feel like September really rampsup because people get excited
for fall, but August is justkind of sleepy.
You know, it's kind of how Ifeel right now.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
So I know I told you about my energy level has been
like steady, but it doesn't meanthat I still don't get.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
I'm like so you're still gonna fall asleep on the
other end of the computer?
Speaker 2 (48:27):
the other than the computer.
I mean, this is the wrong thing, oh.
Speaker 1 (48:32):
Your phone.
That's a couch hey, look at you.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
So if I sit right there that's a very dangerous,
because the Sun 2 light comesthrough just a little bit right
there.
Speaker 1 (48:44):
It's just a nice warm nap.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Oh, and the best is in this spot, right here,
february, because right now,because right there's there's a
building out the windows rightnow it's huge high windows in
December, in January the Sunstays behind the building,
unfortunately, so it's prettylike it's not dark in here, but
it's not bright light, right.
And then February, when the Sunjust gets high enough, it
(49:06):
starts peeking over thatbuilding and it's like midwinter
cold.
You're tired and it's likewindows, it's like it's really
so warm.
I've joked and said I'm gonnaget a lawn chair and just park
up right here and just likestart my tan.
I think you could.
It feels like you could becauseit's just it's so warm, but
right now it can be almost hot.
Ac is cranking here, so well.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
Anyway, I don't know what else to say.
Wow, I have, I've started up myHalloween DIYs.
So if you want to look at those, you can look at.
I am Brooke Brady on Instagramand tiktok.
I am really, really, reallygetting into the Halloween
spirit this year.
I just posted one aboutfloating candles.
I have my googly eyes.
(49:50):
I have a lot of DIYs preppedand prepared and I'm excited to
share.
So I am Brooke Brady onInstagram and tiktok.
Speaker 2 (50:01):
Perfect.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
You got anything you want to promote?
Speaker 2 (50:04):
No, I'm not, you know .
Speaker 1 (50:05):
I'm gonna leave this one all on you today's your
Usually it's like, and I'm likeit is yeah, yeah no, we got
yours, we got, we got to talkabout your DIYs.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
So your question, that game.
Speaker 1 (50:16):
I'm just hoping the Dollar Tree is gonna sponsor me
one day.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
You never, never seen , you know, never say never.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
I'm doing like daily trips of the Dollar Tree.
Yeah, you should, they shouldbe supporting you.
Speaker 2 (50:27):
you're supporting them, so true, true, that,
alright.
Speaker 1 (50:31):
Well, I guess I will talk to you Next week sounds
good.
Speaker 2 (50:36):
We'll be recording sweet Bye, bye.
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