August 22, 2023 • 54 mins
Ever thought about the potential risks that could lurk in that fun DIY project you're tackling at home? It's surprising what you learn when your basement renovation goes from simple to safety-first; we'll share our firsthand experiences in this episode. You'll enjoy the creativity as we talk about crafting our modish tick-tock floating candles and a spooky ghost mannequin. The fun doesn't stop at DIY!
Life is a balancing act, and when you're juggling DIY projects, fitness objectives, and life's never-ending tasks, you'd be amazed how a little self-accountability can go a long way. Listen in, as we share our insights on identifying progress-hindering habits, smart planning, and the art of achieving goals while not forgetting self-care. It's about making every moment, every day count, no matter how jam-packed it may be!
Now, for all you wedding planners and brides-to-be, how prepared are you for a rainy wedding day? We're talking about staying up-to-date with forecasts, having a rock-solid backup plan, and the Instagram feature 'Channels' that could revolutionize your wedding planning. We'll also share some photography tips for capturing those perfect cloudy-day shots. From our experiences, rainy weddings can be magical, so grab your umbrella and let's make the best of those wedding-day showers.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, hello, hey, good morning, Good morning how
are you, Brooke?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I am feeling good.
I am really relieved todaybecause we started our basement
renovation last week.
And when I went downstairs tohelp Chad do the dry lock,
because I don't know, you'replanning on redoing your
(00:25):
basement at some point, rightyeah?
That's a disaster.
Most basements are when youstart right.
So the first step to doing yourbasement, I guess, is to put
some dry lock on the walls justto make sure that the moisture
doesn't sink in.
I've drylocked one other timebefore I was wearing a mask.
(00:47):
But I was wearing a maskbecause what they had put over
our old foundation was basically, without getting too into it, I
should have been wearing a mask, but I totally forgot.
So did Chad, and halfwaythrough I'm getting kind of
lightheaded.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Is this safe to breathe in?
You don't think about it untilyou start, and then, all of a
sudden you're like, oh, this isan enclosed room, until you
start to feel like shit.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
So I'm like maybe and I did I preemptively took the
cat's litter boxes upstairsbecause they're little bodies, I
don't know, for some reason Ialways feel like the human body
can handle so much more than ananimal.
So I took their litter boxesupstairs and so we're painting
it and I start to feel superlightheaded and my throat starts
to be like you know, and I waslike maybe I should read the can
(01:42):
.
So I open up the windows, Iread the can.
It's like these vapors areharmful and all of that.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So I'm like Chad time to wrap it up.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
We had a little bit too much exposure, but we got
most of it done.
So I think there are a fewcorners and whatever that we
need to go back over, but nowthat we know to open the windows
it won't be a problem.
But I'm not going to lie.
When I went to sleep last nightI was kind of like am I going
to pass away?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Because I just felt so like.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I would think at this point you would have already
had symptoms more than what youhad it felt insane.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
It felt like I was like OK and I'm not usually the
one to wrap it up Like usually,I'm like OK, let's just get
through it though, and likewhatever.
I was like OK, Chad, please canyou close the paint cans I'm
going to go lay down.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I was going to say you are, in my world, the DIY
queen, so I know for a fact thatyou are not the one wrapping it
up.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
You're like, let's go , let's go, let's do this.
No, but last night we were bothso stupid, so you know.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah, it's easy.
You work upstairs in the houseand it's not that big a deal,
and then you realize that thebasement is a underground
enclosed space and you got to beyeah.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So all the windows are open, it's airing out, it's
all good and we're almost done.
So step one is completed.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Man, you guys are incredible.
You two are incredible with thework that you're doing in your
house, isn't it?
Thank you, thank you, we'renuts, I'm nuts.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Chad just is along for the ride.
I'm the one like let's do it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
You also have been doing.
I love the Well.
First of all, I love thefloating candles.
I know that's probably verypopular, would be my guess.
People see that like oh.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I thought that that tick tock was really like, okay,
the eyeball tick tock that wewere talking about last week in
our fluffiest episode of theworld that has two million views
on it.
And that's just on Instagram.
On on tick tock, it has 800,000views and it's like can we port
those views over into our?
(03:44):
Podcasts yeah, I would love tomonetization for this.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
So two million?
No, it's amazing, but I totallythought.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, those were just four dollar eyeballs that I
made from the store.
And then you have like thepeople people have started to
comment on like Instagram nowtoo.
We were talking about the meancomments.
Last week Somebody commentedlike why are all these stupid
Americans like making thingsthat they'll never like, that
are just going to go in thelandfill?
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I'm like, oh my God, it's like, it's nice Again.
I will always think you'venothing else to do.
Yeah, I'm just a stupidAmerican.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Well, so I really thought the floating candles
were going to be like like Idon't know, to that stature I
really thought that that wasgoing to be cool, but I guess
people didn't like those as muchas the eyeballs, so I just did.
You see, the one that I postedthis morning.
I have not Dude, it's likephantom ghosts.
But you basically use Mod Podgeand you use cheesecloth, like
(04:47):
you know the runners at everysingle wedding ever, including
my own, so I'm not throwingshade.
You use cheesecloth and youkind of like Mod Podge it to the
mannequin and then after themannequin, is all dry.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I saw the mannequin but I couldn't.
I had to.
Whatever I was doing, I was aconversation or something and I
didn't have to finish it.
So now I need to go back andwatch.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
So after it's all dry you can gently peel it and it
kind of holds the shape of theface.
But then you have like all ofthe fabric like laying.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It's so cool.
It's like a subtle.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
it's like somebody would just think that it's like
a ball of cheesecloth, just likefloating, but then, like, if
you catch it just the right way,it's got like this, like really
cool see-through face.
It's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Wow, yeah, for there is a part of my brain that when
you envision, like all theingredients that made Chris,
that is not in there, it was noteven a part of it.
Like when I see, when I see youand others and individuals
doing these DIY ones, they're socreative and everybody's
creative, everybody just has totap into it.
(05:49):
Yeah, anybody could do it.
People are like, oh my.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
God, I'm like, literally, if you just went on
Amazon and found the samematerials like and also like I
did see, I don't want to takefull credit.
I did see something verysimilar on a Martha Stewart
Halloween post, but I think shekept the mannequin heads inside
of it, so they kept their shapeeven more.
This is a little more spookybecause you almost can't see the
face until you can, and then,when you can, it's like oh,
(06:15):
that's so creepy.
So, creepy, I'm so pumped Ihave all of these.
I know I have all of these likeHalloween decorations, just like
ready to go downstairs and like.
I can just imagine like when Iactually start to like, do like
the Halloween install right, mywhole house is going to be like
filled with like these creepy Idon't know like.
And it's even cooler because Idid it myself.
(06:36):
I think that everything thatyou do, any project, any
decorate, decorations,decorations, anything that you
do yourself, it's like there'sthis little sense of like, pride
, Like yeah, I only paid liketotal $5 to make that, because I
envision when, especially whenthey're, when they're together
in the room.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
So all the different pieces come together and you've
got this beautiful masterpieceof this creepy, spooky
decorative room.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
And you had your hands and every piece of it.
Yup.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
And you were like I'm going to ask oh my God, like I
didn't see that at the partystore.
I didn't see that Halloween.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And you're like nope.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
And you're like nope, I made it Just a birthday home.
I made it.
That's, yeah, that's, that'sepic.
So all right, so you've got apotential career in.
So there's a lot of you know,like wedding event planners and
things like that set up the roomfor this.
You should be doing the spookystuff.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Everybody's telling me to do it.
Party planning and all of thatkind of stuff.
It's just, I mean, I would loveto, I would love to.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I would go to guess at that volume.
You'd need some form of a team.
You'd need somebody you cantrust that can also make the
things, because that would be alot of things to make.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
That's true, but I think party planning in general
is just like, for whateverreason, I like I see something,
like I see something onPinterest and I'm like I can do
that for a cheaper than that,you know, and I just I have this
like in my brain like you don'tneed to pay full price for
pretty much anything.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
What a cool passion.
Yeah, I love that, I love that.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I'm going to do the next episode of extreme
cheapskates.
That's what it feels like whenI'm talking about this, but I
you know the following you wouldhave from that.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
There's so many DIYers out there that oh my God,
that are inspired by DIYers.
So that's.
That's I mean the whole show of.
Oh my God, what was the?
It was in the 2000s, thepopular show with people who
broke down the homes in Waco,texas I can't think of the name
and they've got the line andMagnellia home.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yes, yes, like that concept.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And that concept of visually watching something be
created is really cool.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So I'm like the decor version of like.
Have you ever met a girl thatlike goes thrift shopping and
she's you compliment her, Idon't know her jacket and she's
like, thanks, five bucks.
You know I'm not.
My decor is like the like, theequivalent of like.
People walk in and they're like, wow, how much was that?
And I'm like $2.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Hey, I told you the pottery barn find you have Dude.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Oh my.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
God, anyone listening out there, you think you know
you need that kind of buy thatpottery barn table because it's
I don't.
I'm not going to say they don'thave nice things.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah, we're not shitting on pottery barn.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
No, no, no, no no, no , but if you're at Brooks level,
how much did you pay for that?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
So we went to this thrift store and we found I yeah
, well.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I have, yeah, start from birth.
I'm getting too excited.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And then we went to the thrift store and I saw this
like metal table and it was justlike a sofa table and it was
actually they were.
They had buckets justcollecting the water that was
falling through the ceiling ontop of the table, like they.
It's.
It's a really, really oldthrift store.
It's one of my favorites, butit does have some stuff you know
.
So it had all these bucketsfull of water that was dripping
(09:48):
from the ceiling.
And I looked at Chad and I waslike do you think that's on sale
?
And he was like everything hereis on sale and I was like, okay
, can we figure?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
it out, I haven't even met him yet, and I still
envision him saying it yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
And he I said, okay, can you ask how much they would
be willing to let that go for?
And he was like, how much areyou willing to pay for it?
And I said max 50 bucks.
Like I don't know, it'scatching water, like I don't
know, but it's a fully metaltable.
It's not like there was any.
You know there would be nodamage from the water.
And so he went over to this guyand he was, you know, chatting
it up with him a little bit andhe was like, yeah, we were
(10:22):
thinking maybe $40 for the table.
And the guy was like, perfect.
And he was like I don't knowhow much he would pay for it.
So we were like, wow, awesome, Iget it home, I'm cleaning it up
.
I'm, like you know, trying toclean it as best I can before I
take this thing into my house.
And and that's one thing that Iwill say, by the way, is that
when I'm thrifting, I rarelyrarely if people listen to this
and they're like, ew, you know,rarely will I take something
(10:43):
home that is upholstered.
I will almost never do itunless I'm planning on
repulstering it.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
That's a special beast that you have somebody
who's a professional, which I doknow.
A couple of accounts online tothat are local to Connecticut
that do specifically upholstery,you know.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
But they'll have that piece of furniture.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
They'll have that piece of furniture for weeks
just to get through it all.
So yeah, that's not a lot, it'sa lot of blisters.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It's a lot of staples , it's a lot, but I do it.
It's just, you know you have tohave NYC it the need it all.
Upholstery from a thrift storeis kind of gross sometimes.
So anyway, I'm getting it homeand I'm cleaning it and I like
look underneath, and while I'mlike trying to like scrub
underneath it, I'm like, oh,Chad, and he's like what?
And I'm like it's from fuckingpottery barn.
He's like no way.
(11:29):
So we didn't even know.
And then we looked it up and itwas $900 originally on pottery
barn.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh my God, you paid 40.
, $40.
, $40.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
And then I was like- Less than one.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
18th the price.
That's insane.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I know Chad was like I don't know if that guy was
supposed to sell it.
It wasn't the owner of thethrift store Like we know the
owner, we go in enough so he waslike I don't really know if
that guy was supposed to sell itfor $40.
I'm like that sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
It's mine now.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
It's in our house, so I mean.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
I'm sure they don't care.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I'm sure they got it for free, Like in a state sale
or something you know.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So yeah, so if you are Do you approve of state
sales?
Second question they have.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
I have been to two and each time I felt like it was
very like you know the game andMario Party, where they're
doing kind of like the grab bagthing.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Oh, you're reaching back into my brain here and all
the characters run over and theywiggle until like their bag is
almost full.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
That's how I feel like a state sales are.
It's kind of.
It's the ones that I've been toanyway.
We're a little bit unruly, butI think after the pandemic and
like the social distancingaspect of all of it, I have seen
some state sale marketers.
I guess post Like now they'llgive you a number when you go to
the door, so there's X amountof people allowed inside at a
(12:47):
time.
So it's not as like grab bag,it's more like you get to
actually look through and thenwhen you leave they let somebody
else in.
So I would be interested ingoing to one, but usually a
state sales happen on Saturdaysand Sundays, and that's when I'm
at weddings.
So, yeah, so to answer yourquestions, I have, but not as
much as I just can go on mylunch break to a thrift shop in
(13:09):
the middle of the day.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Okay, I'm not in podcast, so it should.
Just, I should be able to justbridge them and it should be a
piece of cake, so they're likethe same session, if you will.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Okay, so let me ask you have you been keeping up
with your healthier lifestyle?
How has it been going?
Speaker 1 (13:28):
You're another weekend, so it's been going good
as a general whole.
There was only one day that Ididn't stick to my kind of like
exercise routine.
And it's not every day, it'snot an everyday thing and I'm
very like, I'm in the mentalityabsolutely of it needs to become
(13:50):
a lifestyle and not a dislikelike rigid thing and if you miss
it, panic, because if you dothat you're going to burn out
and then you're not going towant to do it, which I've done
before.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
If you hold yourself to it and you're like I have to
do it every single day, then theone day that you have a break,
then the next day you're like Ireally don't want to go back to
this Exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, because you're like that one day break was
really nice, it felt really niceto sit on my couch, exactly so
what I do try to do is just makemyself accountable.
And if I have zero excuse orsomething in life is totally out
of the way or I didn't planaccordingly, that happens.
But I should try, should bealways attempting to get there,
(14:32):
just knowing that it's okay if Imiss it.
So it's that fine line.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's like the alcoholics anonymous, like one
day at a time, like it's likeokay if you fall off today,
tomorrow you can start again, noproblem.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Yep, and I want to be able to look back over the
whole, like I want to look at amonth and see majority of the
time I stuck to it and that it'sokay to just, you know, miss a
few days and that's okay.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It'll also be really nice, I think, if you were to,
every day that you do miss, youput like a little X on your
calendar so that you can see outof the rest.
You can see exactly and wherethey fell.
So if you notice that, like onFridays you have three out of
four Xs, you know it's like okay, maybe Friday does deserve to
be my quote unquote cheat day.
Like that's the day that I seethat I'm struggling to do this.
(15:18):
So let me take the pressure offof myself to even have a Friday
schedule and I'll let myself bea couch potato so that on
Saturday I can pick it rightback up.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Yeah, that's actually really good advice.
The more like eye openingadvice that I got was from my
business coach when talkingabout it, and it was right
before I started and it was likeI, when I get super stressed
out, I've got all thesedifferent jobs going on, is when
my exercise falls off and then.
I get more stressed out if Idon't, because I feel good after
(15:49):
I run or do lifting or whatever.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
And you feel guilty.
You're like I should have rantoday.
It would have made me feelbetter.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah, yeah, and it's like this would have helped me
feel better anyway Like so whydidn't I do it?
And she had told me she waslike you know, so all right, so
how do you plan your day if youcan't get the exercise in?
You know?
I told her how I do it and youknow, put things in my calendar
and I have schedule.
And she went deeper to say doyou have a?
Do you like write it down?
Do you have an online schedule?
(16:16):
And I was like, well, a littlebit of both.
So I do.
The online one is.
I have a calendar.
I put everything in, but then Iwrite some things down.
And she was like okay, so whatdo you put in the calendar?
And I was like my, you know,work felt like a silly question
my appointments with clients.
And she started filling theblanks.
She was like do you put ahaircut in there?
And I was like yeah, because ifI don't put it in there, I'll
(16:37):
definitely miss my haircut.
And she was like do you putexercise in there?
And I was like nope.
She was like, okay, so do youwant to try putting exercise in
your calendar?
And as silly as that feels, youknow and you probably will
stick to it and I was likeyou're right, yeah, yeah, so,
and that's what I do.
So now I put it in my calendarand it helps so.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
There you go.
You're feeling good, though,and Kelly's still on it too.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Oh yeah, like the best way to describe it is
steady.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's the best way I feel is that I'm.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I just feel I don't have a.
You still get tired.
Life happens.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
It's not like you're just like but it's not the
intense crash that you used tohave no God no.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Where it's that like oh my God, I need a cup of
coffee.
Oh my God, at the end of theday I'm so stressed out, I need
just a glass of wine, just tolike calm down.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
It sounds like me.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I mean it's so, but I've done it, it's so common
yeah.
And there's still times whereit's like you know, last week
was one of them where it waslike you know, I'm just going to
have a glass tonight, likescrew it, this is a good time to
do it, and that's okay.
It's just, it's that, it's thattrend, and you want to look
forward in the calendar and see,like you said, with the X's,
(17:49):
less X's, and it's like how do Imake that happen?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Do an X for the days that you miss your workout.
Do a W for the days that youhave a glass of wine.
Like all of your bad habits arelike these little coded things
on your calendar.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
I know I need a whole yep and then just get literally
like the Dewey Decimal Systemon my calendar, just a mosh posh
of things.
So what?
So?
What are?
What are some things thatBrooke is working on besides the
Halloween party?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Being happy?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
So I don't know, I'm really trying, like I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
I do this thing where I throw myself into whatever
I'm doing and it I don't.
I don't.
It's perfect for work On awedding day.
It's 100% the wedding.
I am a robot.
I do not exist outside of yourwedding.
In that moment Basement,renovation, gung-ho I have all
of my focus.
It's funny because I in thepast years I have felt so guilty
(18:47):
about sharing what I'm doing inmy personal life on Instagram,
facebook, all of those thingswhen I had clients who are
waiting on their photos, becauseI would get clients that would
and they would be very nice.
I've never had somebody be likerude about it, but it's almost
like this thing, right, ifyou're bride is waiting on her
photos and you're posting all ofthese house projects, diys,
(19:12):
like all of this stuff, andthey're like they just keep like
liking your and they mightreally actually be doing it
because they enjoy seeing you dothat.
But in my brain what I did waslike, oh, they're doing that to
remind me like we're stillwaiting, we're still waiting.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I've done that too.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
You know what I'm saying.
So it really I know what.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I was saying, yeah, it feels like a subtle push for
like AMs here.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Hi, what are you doing, though?
Yeah, like, why aren't youworking on our photos?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
It's a concept of you know.
I'm sorry, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, it's okay.
I had somebody actually like Iposted something and some, and a
groom of mine and he's very,very nice again, but he was like
, hey, where the fuck are ourphotos?
I was like-.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Straight to the point .
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I'm well within my delivery time, but it made me
feel so weird, like, okay, yousee that I'm doing other things
and not dedicating my time 100%to what I owe you.
So this year it's so funnybecause I feel, listen, I still
got the anxiety all right, butlike I feel so much better about
being able to be like no, youknow what I deserve to live too,
(20:12):
and if I feel like taking mylunch break and going to a
thrift shop, I'm not gonna tryto pretend like I'm not doing
that, like I'm a human.
I'm a human Like you get topost all of your things with
your kids or your family orwhatever, and I don't get to do
that because you're waiting onwedding photos.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Yeah, you know, and nobody said anything to make me
feel like that.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
It's literally just within myself, so I'm able to do
the thing of like throwingmyself into multiple projects at
a time.
So you know, the Halloweendecor, the basement, I've got
the wedding editing going strong, so it just feels like a really
, really nice balance and that'skind of what I was hoping for
(20:56):
for this season, so I'm feelingreally good about it.
I know that.
I took a little bit of a hit onmy income this year because I
wanted to scale it back to onlythe projects that I was so, so,
so excited to work on.
So, yeah, feeling pretty decent.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
That's good.
Yeah, thanks.
Yeah, you, I mean you did.
You.
You made an active decision topull back so that you could
improve your self quality, whichis that's.
It's not easy to do, and mypeople are finding me, you know
and it's cool because I have theopportunity to almost.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Like you know, we've talked about the, the gifts that
I give after weddings and stufflike that but within this time
of me being able to actuallylike sit and breathe, like I
just tried.
I don't know if you ever heardof it the Polaroid Emulsion.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Emulsion Transfer no actually I have to send you a
picture.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
It is so freaking cool.
Basically, if you soak aPolaroid in hot water, the back,
the front and the back come offof it and the ink is left, and
so you can put it on watercolorpaper.
I'll have to send you a picture.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, so I'm able to just with these like random
things that are to creation, butI'm able to take my photos and
do something even cooler for theclients that like are patient
enough to wait for me.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
They are patient enough to like not look at my
crafts and be like hey, what thefuck are you doing?
You know, and also so we weregoing to talk today about
something and I wanted to askyou.
I pretty much already know theanswer, but you don't watch Nine
of Day Fiance.
I do you.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Brooke, that is my all time fit.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
No, I do not, I do not watch that, okay, so you
know where I stand on.
Speaker 1 (22:37):
There is a oh, we're talking about before the
ingredients that make up peopleand they are like oh, I'm so
cool and the ingredients thatmake up Chris.
There was a reality TV showthing, I don't know why, in my
head and it was like Nope, weare, we do not enjoy that.
So I was.
I felt like a weirdo in highschool because I felt like the
only person not watching.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
So everybody's like.
Everybody's like.
Um, what it was it like?
The fist pumping from JerseyShore?
Yes, what the fuck is that?
Speaker 1 (23:06):
I was straight up, as I'll describe, from a comedian
I can't remember her name, Ithink it's Eliza something I was
like yeah, that was me, becauseI was the like borderline
boomer going like.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Why are you guys doing that?
Speaker 1 (23:18):
music on MTV.
What is this crap?
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, that was so funny, so um, this, it just goes
right into what we were goingto talk about today.
Um, on 90 day fiance this is aspoiler for anybody who watches,
I'm pretty sure this one is 90day UK.
There's like a lot of differentspin offs, but 90 day UK Um,
katie and Alejandro, it's likeit was almost like one of those
things where it's like how manysigns do you need to not get
(23:44):
married?
You know so interesting.
So okay, but like, listen, sothere was like I don't know if
it was producer driven, butthere was a lot of drama, um,
starting their story andbasically it was like just heaps
of shit was just being thrownat them from all different
angles, like the families werebeing rude.
There was something about agenetic test that like didn't
(24:05):
get done.
But then they went to the UKand then it did get done and it
was fine, and so they got theclearance to get married.
Basically, um, katie lives inthe UK and Alejandro lives in
Mexico and she was flying toMexico to get married and all of
these road like, like roadbumps were in the way.
And then it gets to theirwedding day and it's like his
aunt was doing her makeup andshe was like no, no, no, I can't
(24:28):
move my face, like, and I shecan't even speak Spanish, so she
doesn't know how to say this toher grooms aunt.
It's like, okay, that wasreally awkward.
And then the?
Um, the ceremony happened andit started to like not down, for
it started to like hurricane,like, and their whole thing was
like under a pavilion, butoutside.
(24:49):
And listen, I'm not saying thata hurricane is a reason not to
get married.
I'm not saying that that's asign if that's happening to you,
but it was so funny, like theway that they recorded it and
being a wedding photographer oflike oh my God, the way they
recorded it was like they'rethey're going up to do their
vows and the the hurricane islike, like there's like thunder
and like and the rain is likeand like the wind is blowing and
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all of the guests are like,they're like, they're like and
getting out of their seats andlike like piling into this
little corner and the pavilionand Katie and Alejandro are just
like, okay, like what do we do?
Cause they're sitting in frontof the person who's performing
the ceremony and it's like kindof stopping, like it's
devastating wins.
So then they're like oh ha ha,you know, rain is good luck on
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the wedding day.
And then the power goes out,all of the guests and then the
vendors leave all of the foodand the alcohol left, like
because they were all gettingrained on.
So it was like what do you do?
So when I was watching this, Iwas like how many signs.
And just again, spoiler, if youdon't follow the 90 day
franchise or if you do 30seconds.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
We'll give you a second.
We'll give you a pause.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Katie has already posted that the marriage didn't
work out.
I don't know what that wasabout, I don't know, but it was
like going into watching thatepisode I already knew that they
were broken up.
So seeing the wedding andhaving it be like the downpour
and then the power out and thenthe vendors leave and then the
guests are all wet and screamingin the corner, it was like how
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many things do you need to belike?
Okay, maybe we'll give this alittle more time, you know?
Speaker 1 (26:31):
If I was the photographer at that event and
my head, I'm laughing a littlebit I would be taking pictures
of all of this.
I'd be photographing everybodyrun away.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Oh, it was hilarious.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
If I was the groom, you know it's one of those
things that I mean what a story?
What a wedding story?
Is it the wedding that youwanted?
No, but it's a wedding that nota lot of people get, so I think
I would be.
It's either yeah, it's eithergoing to end your relationship
if you've heard that upset oryou're going to laugh about it
years later.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
It was so funny I would be dying.
Oh my gosh, the whole episode.
I was just like haha, what didthey do.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I think I'm going to call this off Like what are they
doing.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
That's stressful, but that's still a little funny.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Tiny bit.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
It is funny.
So I thought today we might beable to talk about like prepping
for your wedding in the case ofa serious weather event or rain
in general, and I thought itcould go right into your weather
watch and you could tell peoplelike if you're getting married,
(27:29):
follow me on Instagram.
I will give you the update forConnecticut because I tell my
client.
For anybody who doesn't know, Itell my clients to follow Chris
like as another photographer.
I'm like you should follow myfriend.
He's going to tell you whatyour wedding weather weekend
will look like.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
I love that, thank you, and it's just so funny.
So Instagram's new featurechannels is exactly what I was
looking for, without evenrealizing it, which is
incredible.
The channels is a.
It's basically like a.
It's just a closed group butyou can't like.
People can't post in it.
They can just like stuff youknow and do emojis and answer
(28:09):
polls.
So it's not this like just youknow chatterbox of a million
different things that peoplewould leave and not want to see
it.
So I Whoever's running it, ifyou do it carefully, so I'm not
posting in it every single day,five times a day, because that
would be annoying.
So I'm usually.
I love it, I love it.
I literally get.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I get your message and it's not like, but it's not
like a like an annoying groupchat where, like, everybody can
be like hey, thanks, chris, youknow.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
You're just like boom , yeah, just like you give the
update and it's like that's itAll.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Right, bye, you know I'm like okay, now I know what
to expect.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Yep, that's, that's yeah, so I love that feature.
So that's.
It's been really good.
And the I have the only time.
I should say carefully, theonly time that I've posted
multiple times is during anevent, that's it.
So if there's somethingactually worthwhile posting a
few times, updates, we've hadshelter take shelter.
(28:59):
Yeah, if you've seen multipletimes, probably this year, like
hey, reminder, if you're under atornado warning, you know Don't
go.
Wow, we're under a tornadowarning and then run to the
window and look outside not thegreatest idea If you don't know
where it is relatively, if youdon't know how to look at radar
and look at how Velocity workson it, you should just get to
the center part of your house orin a basement and just wait it
out, because it happens, fasthappens.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I wish I could tell my dad that, because that's his
entire life Was like oh, there'sa storm coming.
He would literally put a like achair on the back porch, like
bring it on, bring it on bringit on it, I can handle it.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I can handle it.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Yeah, actually there was like a I think there was
like a hurricane watch inFlorida.
That was like they were sayingit was gonna be Devastating and
my dad was like you know what?
I think it's time for a trip toFlorida.
He went to his condo to waitout the storm, that he was safe
in Connecticut and he was like,yeah, I'll see you guys later.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I need to see this.
Yeah, that's the thrill seeker.
Yeah, that's people love thatWell if you're, I love the
channel.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's, it'sworked out really well.
So, yeah, and as of thismorning, we had some pretty
intense rainfall once again.
I loved it.
The amount of the amount ofrainstorms this summer in in New
(30:16):
England that are not, like youknow, oh man, a rainy day like
like One to four inches of rainin a single event.
We've had this now multipletimes, which is it's kind of
crazy considering and it's it'sso Contrasting to last year
where we had none, zero rain.
Like I mowed my lawn like atotal of four times last year
(30:38):
and this year I was pretty dryhuh, it was because if you look
at my, you probably the samething.
My engagement photo is likemid-summer and then the grass is
.
It was brown, I think it wasdead.
I had to go in and do a lot ofwork to like just like I don't
want to make it look fake, butyou had to like lift it a little
bit, like, give it just a rightcolor, so it's not just no, I
(31:00):
totally forgot oh grass it was.
Yeah, our backyard was.
I just remember looking at itgoing like, well, that's, it's
dead, it's all dead, the grassis gone.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
So I'm looking at the backyard right now.
It's so lush and green.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
It's so lush.
That's what happens when itrains endlessly.
So, on that note, good year totalk about this, because if
you're If you're a weddingphotographer or if you're a
couple concerned about this,this is the year, the reminder
of man.
Shit happens like it might rainon your wedding day.
Yeah, talk about how to dealwith it.
So I, you started thisconversation.
(31:33):
I remember what you asked mespecifically, but on my suit box
here talking about whethergetting pumped, throwing my
hands up right now, I don'tremember, I don't remember.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
But I just want to start the conversation off by
saying you know, katie andAlejandro's wedding day?
I'm not.
I'm not saying that if it rainson your wedding day, if it's
like a torrential downpour, I'mnot saying that's a sign.
I'm just saying you know, ifAll of those things happen and I
already knew that they hadn'tworked it out, you know.
So, like watching the episode,I was like well, there's your
(32:02):
sign you know.
But but If you are planning yourwedding day and you see that
rain is in the forecast, I wantto make it very, very clear some
of my favorite wedding photosever are the rainy ones.
It's so romantic, it is so.
It's such a, it's almost like afor an event that For the most
(32:24):
part, doesn't feel, especiallywith a ton of guests right, it
doesn't feel super, superintimate for some reason.
When it's rainy on your weddingday it makes it like so quiet
and like Soothing.
Do you feel that like the vibeof like when you go in and
you're in the getting readyprocess and it's just like, yeah
, there are some tension,there's some nerves.
(32:45):
You were really hoping it wasn'tgonna be a rainy wedding day.
Nobody hopes for rain on theirwedding day but it's almost got
this like calming effect oneverybody in your party and also
, if anything else is goingwrong, it's like I Feel like
people aren't as like, let's say, you know, your, your
mother-in-law would have yourfuture mother-in-law would have
(33:06):
been really annoying and just.
But now she sees it's rainingand she's like maybe I'll just,
you know, let the day run, youknow, just because it's like
this thing is already happeningthat nobody really wanted to
happen, so let's let it be asgood as it humanly possibly can
be.
I'm not gonna stress the brideand the groom out anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
You described that so well.
So for the introverts Listeningto this, we know we've.
We know this all too well.
I've said so many times on adark, cloudy, rainy day, when
you're especially if you're like, a little tired, maybe you had
a busy week it doesn't soundquiet in your house.
(33:44):
It feels quiet and it's like sorelaxing.
It's just like, oh, this is it.
And then it's just so funny tooseeing people that come from
places that don't have days likethis in New England, california
, a lot of times, like Texas,they just deal with like
extremes and Come up here.
And I saw a post recently fromone of our speakers at Lens and
(34:04):
Light, who just moved toPhiladelphia, posted that you
know, back in the Northeast andthey had a full cloudy, rainy
day and was like I forgot howmuch I liked this and it was
like, yeah, I thrive in thesesituations this morning, when it
was so gloomy, I was like yeah,I don't want to leave my bed.
(34:25):
Oh no, it's horrible, believeyou, but I will let me take.
I leave my bed.
I saw how much rain was fallingand I was like oh my god.
So it was not quiet in ourhouse, but I was running to the
rain gauge looking at how oh mygod but After the the general
excitement comes down, none ofthe lights are on the house and
it's like it's so dark and Ilike.
Acknowledged how dark it was inthe house and it was like this
(34:46):
is I have to almost turn thelight on, but I'm not going to.
I'm just gonna figure this outbecause it was.
But yeah, it's, it's so, andthen I'll pull up a chair with a
cup of coffee on a day likethat.
And I was like this is 10 outof 10.
Right now, this is perfect.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yep, this is zone.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
So you All this exciting talk about this,
bringing it back to the weddingworld in your description of
getting ready and that vibe andit feels more chill and quiet,
which I think a lot of Brides,grooms, would hope for, and kind
of strive for that vibe.
Yeah, that's it's.
(35:23):
It's a blessing in disguise.
Yeah, definitely.
Yeah, no, worries it definitelyhas its downfalls.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Obviously, if you were hoping for an outdoor
ceremony and it's justDownpouring and it's like, I do
understand the pent up stressthat you can definitely feel in
your chest.
But I think it's like one ofthose things where if you can
take it and make it like amindful moment of like, okay, if
this is the worst thing thathappens today, like We'll be
(35:52):
good.
You know, if this is the worstof our day is that we have to
deal with some water will befine.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Bring up a good point too.
Now I'm like my brain's wheelsare turning on doing like a Like
a social.
Either it's a blog or socialpost, something that has a
little bit traction.
But I would like to be morethan just me.
It would be multiplephotographers like let's
showcase for a while the bestwork in the rain.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
So to post?
This morning I was looking onyour page and I on our on our
Podcast page I try to not postanybody's faces as far as our
client photos.
So I was looking through all ofyour work because I was gonna
take a screenshot of one of yourphotos of, you know, a rainy
day, and I was looking throughall of it and I was like, first
(36:37):
of all, beautiful.
I love the clear umbrellas, Ilove the.
The rainy days are gorgeous.
I just didn't pick your photosbecause I all I could see was
faces and I just wanted to makesure that it was okay with your
clients.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
But Terrible photos, just terrible.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
No, no, no, but I was looking through and like I was
like, oh my gosh, what abeautiful, like, what an awesome
vibe and I've definitely had itwhere like the rain feels and
looks kind of like glitter andthe photos and it's just like
it's almost like this dewy.
Oh my god, what's her name?
Sophie, sophie, sophie, sophie,sophie, richie, sophia Richie.
(37:13):
She just got married and shehad a dew drop veil that looked
like it had little waterdroplets on it and I was like
dude people are paying thousandsof dollars to make it look like
it rained on their wedding day.
Like if you could just kind oflike well almost almost change
your wedding vision to if itrains, you know like how is that
(37:33):
gonna change the vibe of theday?
And kind of, almost we'retrying to get you to prep to be
able to switch your mindset of,oh my god, it's gonna rain on my
wedding day it's such a bomber,you know and kind of switch it
and turn it into Well, how coolwould it be if my photos turned
out something like this, or ifthe guests had like a drizzly
(37:55):
Entrance under these clearumbrellas or you know.
So just try to turn it in a waywhere it works for you and it
works for your wedding in thevibe.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
So do you have any?
I can totally start if you want, but do you have any
recommendations on how somebodymight be able to take advantage
of that both in like a Way ofpreparation or just changing the
mindset completely?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Yeah, I actually would love to talk about this.
So I've got like.
I got like a more technicalanswer to that and then a more
In-depth answer to that.
That kind of revolves aroundmindset.
Okay, give me both, which?
Okay?
So I'm gonna start withtechnical, easy One to
comprehend.
Make sure so this is for thecouple, that's for both the
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couple and the photographer.
Depends on who we're talking to, but make sure that Either or
has those clear umbrellas.
There's not a lot of things Iwould tell people.
You know like you absolutelyneed this, that's one I would
say have in your back pocket.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
That's you carry them with you.
I do, I do well, okay, yeahthey're, my they're.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
I got them in their truck and they just sit in there
all year until I if I need tomove them out For a second, but
generally they're there thewhole time.
Last year there were a fewweddings that on the morning of
I was panicking because I waslike they're not in there and it
was, and then I made sure tolike run and throw them in there
and they were the only daysthat year that there was even
like a chance of shower, yeah,and it was like a perfectly
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clear day for each of them.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
So it was like I feel like if I bring them, I won't
need them you know that's yeah,guaranteed, but but this year
not the case.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
So no, that's a like.
What's the word I want to use?
A no, no debate, no debate inmy mind.
You either need to make surethat, if your photographer
doesn't have them, that you havethem, because if it is gonna
rain, the clear umbrellas makefor such beautiful photos and
your photographers.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
Your photographer is not required to carry.
No, I just like, as a general,I have them.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
Chris has them.
I feel like we're both.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Yeah, we're both very prepared.
But also, if you're looking fora very, very cheap set, you can
go on Amazon, and I think I gotmy set of 10 for $88 or
something.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
It was definitely 100 for a lot of umbrellas in the
last four years.
So it's that's yeah, that's ano debate.
For me, that's, that's a hard.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
I'm glad we got that.
So that's the technical answer.
So umbrellas the, the mindsetone, though what you described
is so key and it's hard notgonna sit here and preach and
say, on your wedding day, makesure you change your mindset.
It's really hard to do.
You want to go into a weddingday and you just envision, as
(40:37):
most people do this, you know,walking around Gracefully
outside and your beautiful dressand it's.
You know, birds are chirping,little slight breeze.
Like you, you want that perfectsunny day and you've got these
photos with a nice glow behindyou On your hair and it just
looks wonderful.
That's what we envision,because it's less of a hassle.
You want a sunny day, that'sthe, that's the natural mindset
(41:01):
of everybody.
But but when it does look likeit's gonna rain or be cloudy,
you know panic sets in and it'sreally hard to get out of that
and it's so hard for us on thephotographer side to convince
it's gonna be okay.
Yeah, we internally potentiallywish because just simply because
it's Easier, which is not it's.
(41:22):
That's not an acceptable answer, but it is what it is.
It's a little easier to dealwith a non rainy day because now
I have spots picked out at thelocation.
Good to go like.
I don't, I don't have thisoutside variable to worry about.
Right, the hardest days of theones where it is gonna rain or
is it not gonna, that's that'sthe one that's like I almost
would wish it.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Just just do it Just figure it out so that I can do
my job, please, yes.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
But but when I, on the photographer side, get over
real quick Okay, this isn'tabout me not making it easier,
let's do something really funwith this and cool and it you
going into that mindset as thebride or groom that you know
this is gonna be okay.
I'm just gonna embrace this andmy photographer knows what
they're doing and we're justgonna, you know, if, obviously,
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if you want to, before theceremony, make sure your hair
stays intact and all of thosethings and that's important to
you.
You know we can.
We'll work around that and andmake it work, but at some point
you're probably just gonna wantto let loose and just kind of
open up, and that is totally amindset thing.
It applies to so many differentthings in life.
Like the mindset is everything.
(42:27):
If you continue to say out loudto yourself this sucks, this
sucks.
Well, yeah, it's probably gonnasuck, it's probably you're not
gonna have a good time If yousay out loud to yourself this is
okay, we're gonna get somephotos that not a lot of people
have the opportunity to get.
On our wedding day, you knowTotally different.
You're gonna go into it so muchhappier and you're gonna look
happier in your photos too.
(42:47):
So definitely.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
That's like one of the biggest things that I see is
that, like when I can tell whenmy clients are stressed Because
of the looks on their faces,like I could tell I it just it
creates a whole different.
If you feel Anxiety, if youfeel regret, if you feel any of
those things, like it willtransfer to your photos.
So if you can, just if you'regonna have a rainy wedding day
(43:12):
and you weren't expecting it,and if you can just take a
second in the morning and justkind of think to yourself, like
if this is the worst part of theday, it'll be fine.
Yep, like it'll be okay, it'sjust a little water not a big
deal.
And what I would even encouragepeople to do is, when you're
thinking about having a oh, whatare you thinking about?
Talking to a photographer, whynot ask for some rainy galleries
(43:34):
?
Why not?
Let's just see what your, whatyour work looked like on that
day, so that you have a reallygood representation and you can
see.
I mean, I tell all of my clients, you know, I've got those
umbrellas ready, I'm ready to golike don't worry about it, not
a big deal.
But I think until people haveseen the rainy, the rainy day
photos with those cute, clearumbrellas and they can actually
get it up, a really good feeland taste for the vibe of what
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their photos might look like.
I think once they see thosephotos, they're like, okay, yeah
, no problem, we're all good.
But if you don't ask and youdon't know what to expect out of
your rainy wedding day andyou're like, well, I had this
very specific, very sunny, very,you know, breezy Idea in my
mind of what this wedding daywas gonna be, of course your
expectations are gonna be alittle bit like I Don't know
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what to expect from this.
So I think, talking to yourphotographer, do you think that
that's a good idea too, talkingand asking for a rainy gallery,
just so that they can see.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
I think you should ask anything that comes to mind
that you're.
Whatever your fears are, youshould be asking that because
you don't want to wait till thelast minute.
So if you're concerned aboutrain or you just simply want to
see it either way, that's acompletely fair question to see
a rainy day.
And now I'm thinking to myselfokay, what would early Chris do,
who didn't have thatopportunity yet, to shoot a
wedding in the rain?
Like, and you're like, oh, Ihaven't done that yet, which you
(44:52):
know, that's just an experiencething, right, god?
Now I'm in my head thinkinglike is there a way to set up a
flexible style shoot that's fora rainy day?
That would be really cool.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
It would be.
Just put a hose in yeah,Somebody standing to the side
with their thumb over the hoseso that it looks like a big
rainy.
All I would need is a cloudyday.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
You know it just can't be clear, can't be sunny.
There's a way we could do this,but if there was a way you
could do and it doesn't have tobe a full, you know, tabletop
with all the trimmings, you know, I'm just looking for a bride
and groom, or groom and groom,bride and bride Shoot, to do
something in that resembles arainy day.
That's something that's alittle hard to find.
(45:36):
Now I'm thinking about it, so Iknow they've happened, but I
don't see it often.
So right, that would be cool.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
So the other thing that I was thinking about was
talking about I mean, I know itsounds stupid to say it out loud
, but because you know you planfor every part of your day,
right, but having a backup plan,having a, a choosing a venue
that has and you're, this iscoming from a chick All right,
who planned my entire?
(46:03):
all right, who planned my entirewedding day outside under fairy
lights?
Basically, like I didn't.
It's not that I didn't have abackup option when we originally
started to plan our wedding.
Our backup option was we'regoing to finish the basement and
if we have to pull a reallylong table into the basement,
we're going to make it look howwe want it to look and that will
be our rain plan.
(46:24):
And then Chad broke hiscollarbone so we didn't get to.
We didn't really get to finishour backup plan.
So you're, you're hearing advicefrom a chick whose backup plan
was literally pile those 35people into the living room and
hope for the best, like that was.
But it didn't really matter tome because my venue was my home
(46:47):
and it felt like no matter wherethis wedding takes place on
this property, even if it is inmy living room and people are
cramped, that is going to beokay to me.
So, choosing a venue that has avery, very ideal backup plan
for you.
You know, planning for alloutside is all fun and games
(47:09):
until your almost husband breakshis collarbone.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
Yeah, that's, didn't know that Okay.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
Yeah, he went on a mountain biking trip like two
months before our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Wow, small little thing.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
And he called me on the first run and was like, yeah
, I went off a jump way too high.
It was like nice, um, like very, and I and I knew too, I
planned a day to go to the beachbecause I was, I knew I would
just be like worried all day.
Like he's like he did thisthing and he's like I've been
mountain biking since I was akid and I'm like, okay, but
we've been dating for six yearsand like I've never seen you do
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it.
So like so I planned the wholeday to not have to think about
him on the bike.
And then he called me on thefirst run and was like I'm going
to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
So, basically, having choosing a venue not only for
their outdoor plan outdoor plansare great, outdoor ceremonies
are awesome, but make sure thatyou're comfortable with what
that rain plan would also looklike.
And if it means that you haveto spend more money on your
venue I mean, we say this allthe time your venue is the vibe
of your photos.
So if, if, worst case scenario,we have to pile into your venue
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, make sure that as you'retouring these venues, you ask
what is the rain plan?
And you look at that space andgo, okay, is there enough light?
Do I like the background?
What does it look like?
Because I can almost guaranteeyou that if you have a, if
you're planning on having anoutdoor ceremony at a place that
only has a, you know, um andit's going to sound bad for me
(48:40):
to say this, but generallybanquet halls are not the best,
um, they don't have the bestlighting.
That's not like high ceilings.
I've seen ones that are theexception and not the rule, but
let's say that it was, like youknow, kind of an ugly banquet
hall and they're like that's therain plan, but it doesn't
usually rain in September, orwhatever.
They want to feed you to get itbooked Right.
(49:02):
If you hear yeah, it doesn'tusually rain, it's like it's
like it's going to rain wheneverit wants to, Whenever it wants
to.
That's correct.
Yeah so there's no amount ofwork that your florist can do on
in certain banquet halls orcertain rooms that's going to
make it look ideally what youwould want it to look like for
your ceremony.
So just remembering your venueis the vibe and and planning for
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the rainy day is actuallysmarter than planning for the
outdoor day.
I almost do this thing whereit's like expect nothing and
then you won't be disappointed.
You know, like plan for therain, it's, it's going to happen
, and then when it's a sunny day, you're like wow, this is
amazing.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
This is amazing.
Your wedding book, if I recall,like what we're.
We were talking about theweather before your wedding,
like two weeks beforehand.
I remember yeah, remembertalking about this and going
like I.
I recall the concern wasactually like super cold.
I think that's what it was likea cold outbreak.
That was that I kept seeing inthe models and was like I don't
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think you have to worry aboutrain, you got to worry about it
being chilly and you have toworry about your guests freezing
.
It was chilly, but it wasn't ascold as it could have been.
I think is what it ended upbeing.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
No, and and I'll say, you know, in the world of
things happen as they happen,and just you just have to kind
of go with it.
Speaker 1 (50:25):
You go with it.
Speaker 2 (50:25):
What's that?
We had a.
We had a pretty cold day.
We did for for our entire ourwedding setup was everybody
outside the whole night.
It was in the end of October.
We knew it was probably goingto be cold, but we didn't know
it was going to be as cold as itwas.
It ended up getting down to, Ithink, in the or I want to say
(50:47):
in the late 40s during thenighttime portion, but the day
itself was like a high of like63.
Speaker 1 (50:55):
So when you're used it is.
Speaker 2 (50:57):
but when you're used to the summer and, like you know
, I'm in a backless dress, I waslike I'm freezing dude.
So we ended up getting like hothands for everybody.
We ordered blankets, thingslike that.
So it it worked out.
But we did have complaints.
Speaker 1 (51:10):
We had complaints about how cold it was and it's
like sorry, full, separateconversation that there's always
going to be complaints,potentially so, and then you
guys kind of or rainy or cold orhot, it doesn't matter, it
doesn't matter, then don't come,yeah, so you know, but we had
our wedding day and it wasreasonably cold, and then the
very next day it was sunny and75.
Speaker 2 (51:30):
And I was like I remember really really nice.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
Yeah, yeah, you were the peak.
Yeah, you were the peak.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
So the cleanup crew the cleanup crew, me, Chad well,
hardly me, I was out ofcommission Chad and I think just
Chad he got a really nice dayto clean up, but our wedding day
was like really, really cold,and it's just.
It is what it is.
It's the day and you make themost of it and if you have to
wrap yourself in a blanket.
You have to wrap yourself in ablanket, you have to be
(51:56):
underneath an umbrella, noproblem, you know, your
photographer most likely isprepared, your venue most likely
is prepared, unless you'regetting married at your house,
like we were, but making themost of whatever situation
weather wise is like.
Also, I love an overcastsession.
(52:16):
Oh yeah, people are like I justwant a sunny and I'm like, okay
, I get it, I totally get it.
You want the flares, you wantthe sun, you want all of that.
But the lighting in an overcastsession is like perfect.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
It's so funny too with overcast sessions because
the style of my photography I'venoticed changes pending, which
it should, but I definitely leaninto different.
I mean even the lenses that Iuse, pending whether it's
overcast or sunny.
I notice going through myphotos that I definitely use, I
(52:55):
lean into one versus the otherwhen those weather variables are
in there.
So when it's overcast I tend todo a lot more wide shots.
That's what I just captured.
And when it's sunny and I wantthe flares, I tend to get a
little bit closer and there's norhyme or reason other than it
Super interesting.
What feels right in the moment.
Yeah, and I'm always happy withthe photos.
(53:16):
I'm really good with what weget.
I always provide a variety.
I always provide shots or allclose ups, but I just tend to
look at my favorites from thoseand it's always the cloudy,
overcast ones.
You can get some really good,you know, couples, separated
pretty far from the camera,black and white, even outdoors,
(53:38):
because sometimes the black andwhite during a sunny day with
foliage is a lot of things goingon.
Yeah, it's like all it's allover.
I always tend to love those.
I'm just going into talkingabout photos now.
So you are correct from aovercast is underrated, but I
will say that I think a lot ofpeople are catching on to it,
because I have had a lot ofconversations in the past year
(54:00):
with couples who go like, oh,isn't a cloudy day better?
Well, hello, hey, good morning, Good morning how
are you, Brooke?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I am feeling good.
I am really relieved todaybecause we started our basement
renovation last week.
And when I went downstairs tohelp Chad do the dry lock,
because I don't know, you'replanning on redoing your
(00:25):
basement at some point, rightyeah?
That's a disaster.
Most basements are when youstart right.
So the first step to doing yourbasement, I guess, is to put
some dry lock on the walls justto make sure that the moisture
doesn't sink in.
I've drylocked one other timebefore I was wearing a mask.
(00:47):
But I was wearing a maskbecause what they had put over
our old foundation was basically, without getting too into it, I
should have been wearing a mask, but I totally forgot.
So did Chad, and halfwaythrough I'm getting kind of
lightheaded.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Is this safe to breathe in?
You don't think about it untilyou start, and then, all of a
sudden you're like, oh, this isan enclosed room, until you
start to feel like shit.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
So I'm like maybe and I did I preemptively took the
cat's litter boxes upstairsbecause they're little bodies, I
don't know, for some reason Ialways feel like the human body
can handle so much more than ananimal.
So I took their litter boxesupstairs and so we're painting
it and I start to feel superlightheaded and my throat starts
to be like you know, and I waslike maybe I should read the can
(01:42):
.
So I open up the windows, Iread the can.
It's like these vapors areharmful and all of that.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So I'm like Chad time to wrap it up.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
We had a little bit too much exposure, but we got
most of it done.
So I think there are a fewcorners and whatever that we
need to go back over, but nowthat we know to open the windows
it won't be a problem.
But I'm not going to lie.
When I went to sleep last nightI was kind of like am I going
to pass away?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Because I just felt so like.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I would think at this point you would have already
had symptoms more than what youhad it felt insane.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
It felt like I was like OK and I'm not usually the
one to wrap it up Like usually,I'm like OK, let's just get
through it though, and likewhatever.
I was like OK, Chad, please canyou close the paint cans I'm
going to go lay down.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I was going to say you are, in my world, the DIY
queen, so I know for a fact thatyou are not the one wrapping it
up.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
You're like, let's go , let's go, let's do this.
No, but last night we were bothso stupid, so you know.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah, it's easy.
You work upstairs in the houseand it's not that big a deal,
and then you realize that thebasement is a underground
enclosed space and you got to beyeah.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So all the windows are open, it's airing out, it's
all good and we're almost done.
So step one is completed.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Man, you guys are incredible.
You two are incredible with thework that you're doing in your
house, isn't it?
Thank you, thank you, we'renuts, I'm nuts.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Chad just is along for the ride.
I'm the one like let's do it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
You also have been doing.
I love the Well.
First of all, I love thefloating candles.
I know that's probably verypopular, would be my guess.
People see that like oh.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I thought that that tick tock was really like, okay,
the eyeball tick tock that wewere talking about last week in
our fluffiest episode of theworld that has two million views
on it.
And that's just on Instagram.
On on tick tock, it has 800,000views and it's like can we port
those views over into our?
(03:44):
Podcasts yeah, I would love tomonetization for this.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
So two million?
No, it's amazing, but I totallythought.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, those were just four dollar eyeballs that I
made from the store.
And then you have like thepeople people have started to
comment on like Instagram nowtoo.
We were talking about the meancomments.
Last week Somebody commentedlike why are all these stupid
Americans like making thingsthat they'll never like, that
are just going to go in thelandfill?
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I'm like, oh my God, it's like, it's nice Again.
I will always think you'venothing else to do.
Yeah, I'm just a stupidAmerican.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Well, so I really thought the floating candles
were going to be like like Idon't know, to that stature I
really thought that that wasgoing to be cool, but I guess
people didn't like those as muchas the eyeballs, so I just did.
You see, the one that I postedthis morning.
I have not Dude, it's likephantom ghosts.
But you basically use Mod Podgeand you use cheesecloth, like
(04:47):
you know the runners at everysingle wedding ever, including
my own, so I'm not throwingshade.
You use cheesecloth and youkind of like Mod Podge it to the
mannequin and then after themannequin, is all dry.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I saw the mannequin but I couldn't.
I had to.
Whatever I was doing, I was aconversation or something and I
didn't have to finish it.
So now I need to go back andwatch.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
So after it's all dry you can gently peel it and it
kind of holds the shape of theface.
But then you have like all ofthe fabric like laying.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It's so cool.
It's like a subtle.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
it's like somebody would just think that it's like
a ball of cheesecloth, just likefloating, but then, like, if
you catch it just the right way,it's got like this, like really
cool see-through face.
It's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Wow, yeah, for there is a part of my brain that when
you envision, like all theingredients that made Chris,
that is not in there, it was noteven a part of it.
Like when I see, when I see youand others and individuals
doing these DIY ones, they're socreative and everybody's
creative, everybody just has totap into it.
(05:49):
Yeah, anybody could do it.
People are like, oh my.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
God, I'm like, literally, if you just went on
Amazon and found the samematerials like and also like I
did see, I don't want to takefull credit.
I did see something verysimilar on a Martha Stewart
Halloween post, but I think shekept the mannequin heads inside
of it, so they kept their shapeeven more.
This is a little more spookybecause you almost can't see the
face until you can, and then,when you can, it's like oh,
(06:15):
that's so creepy.
So, creepy, I'm so pumped Ihave all of these.
I know I have all of these likeHalloween decorations, just like
ready to go downstairs and like.
I can just imagine like when Iactually start to like, do like
the Halloween install right, mywhole house is going to be like
filled with like these creepy Idon't know like.
And it's even cooler because Idid it myself.
(06:36):
I think that everything thatyou do, any project, any
decorate, decorations,decorations, anything that you
do yourself, it's like there'sthis little sense of like, pride
, Like yeah, I only paid liketotal $5 to make that, because I
envision when, especially whenthey're, when they're together
in the room.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
So all the different pieces come together and you've
got this beautiful masterpieceof this creepy, spooky
decorative room.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
And you had your hands and every piece of it.
Yup.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
And you were like I'm going to ask oh my God, like I
didn't see that at the partystore.
I didn't see that Halloween.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And you're like nope.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
And you're like nope, I made it Just a birthday home.
I made it.
That's, yeah, that's, that'sepic.
So all right, so you've got apotential career in.
So there's a lot of you know,like wedding event planners and
things like that set up the roomfor this.
You should be doing the spookystuff.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Everybody's telling me to do it.
Party planning and all of thatkind of stuff.
It's just, I mean, I would loveto, I would love to.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I would go to guess at that volume.
You'd need some form of a team.
You'd need somebody you cantrust that can also make the
things, because that would be alot of things to make.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
That's true, but I think party planning in general
is just like, for whateverreason, I like I see something,
like I see something onPinterest and I'm like I can do
that for a cheaper than that,you know, and I just I have this
like in my brain like you don'tneed to pay full price for
pretty much anything.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
What a cool passion.
Yeah, I love that, I love that.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I'm going to do the next episode of extreme
cheapskates.
That's what it feels like whenI'm talking about this, but I
you know the following you wouldhave from that.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
There's so many DIYers out there that oh my God,
that are inspired by DIYers.
So that's.
That's I mean the whole show of.
Oh my God, what was the?
It was in the 2000s, thepopular show with people who
broke down the homes in Waco,texas I can't think of the name
and they've got the line andMagnellia home.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yes, yes, like that concept.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And that concept of visually watching something be
created is really cool.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So I'm like the decor version of like.
Have you ever met a girl thatlike goes thrift shopping and
she's you compliment her, Idon't know her jacket and she's
like, thanks, five bucks.
You know I'm not.
My decor is like the like, theequivalent of like.
People walk in and they're like, wow, how much was that?
And I'm like $2.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Hey, I told you the pottery barn find you have Dude.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Oh my.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
God, anyone listening out there, you think you know
you need that kind of buy thatpottery barn table because it's
I don't.
I'm not going to say they don'thave nice things.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah, we're not shitting on pottery barn.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
No, no, no, no no, no , but if you're at Brooks level,
how much did you pay for that?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
So we went to this thrift store and we found I yeah
, well.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I have, yeah, start from birth.
I'm getting too excited.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And then we went to the thrift store and I saw this
like metal table and it was justlike a sofa table and it was
actually they were.
They had buckets justcollecting the water that was
falling through the ceiling ontop of the table, like they.
It's.
It's a really, really oldthrift store.
It's one of my favorites, butit does have some stuff you know
.
So it had all these bucketsfull of water that was dripping
(09:48):
from the ceiling.
And I looked at Chad and I waslike do you think that's on sale
?
And he was like everything hereis on sale and I was like, okay
, can we figure?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
it out, I haven't even met him yet, and I still
envision him saying it yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
And he I said, okay, can you ask how much they would
be willing to let that go for?
And he was like, how much areyou willing to pay for it?
And I said max 50 bucks.
Like I don't know, it'scatching water, like I don't
know, but it's a fully metaltable.
It's not like there was any.
You know there would be nodamage from the water.
And so he went over to this guyand he was, you know, chatting
it up with him a little bit andhe was like, yeah, we were
(10:22):
thinking maybe $40 for the table.
And the guy was like, perfect.
And he was like I don't knowhow much he would pay for it.
So we were like, wow, awesome, Iget it home, I'm cleaning it up
.
I'm, like you know, trying toclean it as best I can before I
take this thing into my house.
And and that's one thing that Iwill say, by the way, is that
when I'm thrifting, I rarelyrarely if people listen to this
and they're like, ew, you know,rarely will I take something
(10:43):
home that is upholstered.
I will almost never do itunless I'm planning on
repulstering it.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
That's a special beast that you have somebody
who's a professional, which I doknow.
A couple of accounts online tothat are local to Connecticut
that do specifically upholstery,you know.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
But they'll have that piece of furniture.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
They'll have that piece of furniture for weeks
just to get through it all.
So yeah, that's not a lot, it'sa lot of blisters.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It's a lot of staples , it's a lot, but I do it.
It's just, you know you have tohave NYC it the need it all.
Upholstery from a thrift storeis kind of gross sometimes.
So anyway, I'm getting it homeand I'm cleaning it and I like
look underneath, and while I'mlike trying to like scrub
underneath it, I'm like, oh,Chad, and he's like what?
And I'm like it's from fuckingpottery barn.
He's like no way.
(11:29):
So we didn't even know.
And then we looked it up and itwas $900 originally on pottery
barn.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh my God, you paid 40.
, $40.
, $40.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
And then I was like- Less than one.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
18th the price.
That's insane.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I know Chad was like I don't know if that guy was
supposed to sell it.
It wasn't the owner of thethrift store Like we know the
owner, we go in enough so he waslike I don't really know if
that guy was supposed to sell itfor $40.
I'm like that sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
It's mine now.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
It's in our house, so I mean.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
I'm sure they don't care.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I'm sure they got it for free, Like in a state sale
or something you know.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So yeah, so if you are Do you approve of state
sales?
Second question they have.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
I have been to two and each time I felt like it was
very like you know the game andMario Party, where they're
doing kind of like the grab bagthing.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Oh, you're reaching back into my brain here and all
the characters run over and theywiggle until like their bag is
almost full.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
That's how I feel like a state sales are.
It's kind of.
It's the ones that I've been toanyway.
We're a little bit unruly, butI think after the pandemic and
like the social distancingaspect of all of it, I have seen
some state sale marketers.
I guess post Like now they'llgive you a number when you go to
the door, so there's X amountof people allowed inside at a
(12:47):
time.
So it's not as like grab bag,it's more like you get to
actually look through and thenwhen you leave they let somebody
else in.
So I would be interested ingoing to one, but usually a
state sales happen on Saturdaysand Sundays, and that's when I'm
at weddings.
So, yeah, so to answer yourquestions, I have, but not as
much as I just can go on mylunch break to a thrift shop in
(13:09):
the middle of the day.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Okay, I'm not in podcast, so it should.
Just, I should be able to justbridge them and it should be a
piece of cake, so they're likethe same session, if you will.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Okay, so let me ask you have you been keeping up
with your healthier lifestyle?
How has it been going?
Speaker 1 (13:28):
You're another weekend, so it's been going good
as a general whole.
There was only one day that Ididn't stick to my kind of like
exercise routine.
And it's not every day, it'snot an everyday thing and I'm
very like, I'm in the mentalityabsolutely of it needs to become
(13:50):
a lifestyle and not a dislikelike rigid thing and if you miss
it, panic, because if you dothat you're going to burn out
and then you're not going towant to do it, which I've done
before.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
If you hold yourself to it and you're like I have to
do it every single day, then theone day that you have a break,
then the next day you're like Ireally don't want to go back to
this Exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, because you're like that one day break was
really nice, it felt really niceto sit on my couch, exactly so
what I do try to do is just makemyself accountable.
And if I have zero excuse orsomething in life is totally out
of the way or I didn't planaccordingly, that happens.
But I should try, should bealways attempting to get there,
(14:32):
just knowing that it's okay if Imiss it.
So it's that fine line.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's like the alcoholics anonymous, like one
day at a time, like it's likeokay if you fall off today,
tomorrow you can start again, noproblem.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Yep, and I want to be able to look back over the
whole, like I want to look at amonth and see majority of the
time I stuck to it and that it'sokay to just, you know, miss a
few days and that's okay.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It'll also be really nice, I think, if you were to,
every day that you do miss, youput like a little X on your
calendar so that you can see outof the rest.
You can see exactly and wherethey fell.
So if you notice that, like onFridays you have three out of
four Xs, you know it's like okay, maybe Friday does deserve to
be my quote unquote cheat day.
Like that's the day that I seethat I'm struggling to do this.
(15:18):
So let me take the pressure offof myself to even have a Friday
schedule and I'll let myself bea couch potato so that on
Saturday I can pick it rightback up.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Yeah, that's actually really good advice.
The more like eye openingadvice that I got was from my
business coach when talkingabout it, and it was right
before I started and it was likeI, when I get super stressed
out, I've got all thesedifferent jobs going on, is when
my exercise falls off and then.
I get more stressed out if Idon't, because I feel good after
(15:49):
I run or do lifting or whatever.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
And you feel guilty.
You're like I should have rantoday.
It would have made me feelbetter.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah, yeah, and it's like this would have helped me
feel better anyway Like so whydidn't I do it?
And she had told me she waslike you know, so all right, so
how do you plan your day if youcan't get the exercise in?
You know?
I told her how I do it and youknow, put things in my calendar
and I have schedule.
And she went deeper to say doyou have a?
Do you like write it down?
Do you have an online schedule?
(16:16):
And I was like, well, a littlebit of both.
So I do.
The online one is.
I have a calendar.
I put everything in, but then Iwrite some things down.
And she was like okay, so whatdo you put in the calendar?
And I was like my, you know,work felt like a silly question
my appointments with clients.
And she started filling theblanks.
She was like do you put ahaircut in there?
And I was like yeah, because ifI don't put it in there, I'll
(16:37):
definitely miss my haircut.
And she was like do you putexercise in there?
And I was like nope.
She was like, okay, so do youwant to try putting exercise in
your calendar?
And as silly as that feels, youknow and you probably will
stick to it and I was likeyou're right, yeah, yeah, so,
and that's what I do.
So now I put it in my calendarand it helps so.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
There you go.
You're feeling good, though,and Kelly's still on it too.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Oh yeah, like the best way to describe it is
steady.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's the best way I feel is that I'm.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I just feel I don't have a.
You still get tired.
Life happens.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
It's not like you're just like but it's not the
intense crash that you used tohave no God no.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Where it's that like oh my God, I need a cup of
coffee.
Oh my God, at the end of theday I'm so stressed out, I need
just a glass of wine, just tolike calm down.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
It sounds like me.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I mean it's so, but I've done it, it's so common
yeah.
And there's still times whereit's like you know, last week
was one of them where it waslike you know, I'm just going to
have a glass tonight, likescrew it, this is a good time to
do it, and that's okay.
It's just, it's that, it's thattrend, and you want to look
forward in the calendar and see,like you said, with the X's,
(17:49):
less X's, and it's like how do Imake that happen?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Do an X for the days that you miss your workout.
Do a W for the days that youhave a glass of wine.
Like all of your bad habits arelike these little coded things
on your calendar.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
I know I need a whole yep and then just get literally
like the Dewey Decimal Systemon my calendar, just a mosh posh
of things.
So what?
So?
What are?
What are some things thatBrooke is working on besides the
Halloween party?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Being happy?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
So I don't know, I'm really trying, like I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
I do this thing where I throw myself into whatever
I'm doing and it I don't.
I don't.
It's perfect for work On awedding day.
It's 100% the wedding.
I am a robot.
I do not exist outside of yourwedding.
In that moment Basement,renovation, gung-ho I have all
of my focus.
It's funny because I in thepast years I have felt so guilty
(18:47):
about sharing what I'm doing inmy personal life on Instagram,
facebook, all of those thingswhen I had clients who are
waiting on their photos, becauseI would get clients that would
and they would be very nice.
I've never had somebody be likerude about it, but it's almost
like this thing, right, ifyou're bride is waiting on her
photos and you're posting all ofthese house projects, diys,
(19:12):
like all of this stuff, andthey're like they just keep like
liking your and they mightreally actually be doing it
because they enjoy seeing you dothat.
But in my brain what I did waslike, oh, they're doing that to
remind me like we're stillwaiting, we're still waiting.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I've done that too.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
You know what I'm saying.
So it really I know what.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I was saying, yeah, it feels like a subtle push for
like AMs here.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Hi, what are you doing, though?
Yeah, like, why aren't youworking on our photos?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
It's a concept of you know.
I'm sorry, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, it's okay.
I had somebody actually like Iposted something and some, and a
groom of mine and he's very,very nice again, but he was like
, hey, where the fuck are ourphotos?
I was like-.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Straight to the point .
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I'm well within my delivery time, but it made me
feel so weird, like, okay, yousee that I'm doing other things
and not dedicating my time 100%to what I owe you.
So this year it's so funnybecause I feel, listen, I still
got the anxiety all right, butlike I feel so much better about
being able to be like no, youknow what I deserve to live too,
(20:12):
and if I feel like taking mylunch break and going to a
thrift shop, I'm not gonna tryto pretend like I'm not doing
that, like I'm a human.
I'm a human Like you get topost all of your things with
your kids or your family orwhatever, and I don't get to do
that because you're waiting onwedding photos.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Yeah, you know, and nobody said anything to make me
feel like that.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
It's literally just within myself, so I'm able to do
the thing of like throwingmyself into multiple projects at
a time.
So you know, the Halloweendecor, the basement, I've got
the wedding editing going strong, so it just feels like a really
, really nice balance and that'skind of what I was hoping for
(20:56):
for this season, so I'm feelingreally good about it.
I know that.
I took a little bit of a hit onmy income this year because I
wanted to scale it back to onlythe projects that I was so, so,
so excited to work on.
So, yeah, feeling pretty decent.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
That's good.
Yeah, thanks.
Yeah, you, I mean you did.
You.
You made an active decision topull back so that you could
improve your self quality, whichis that's.
It's not easy to do, and mypeople are finding me, you know
and it's cool because I have theopportunity to almost.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Like you know, we've talked about the, the gifts that
I give after weddings and stufflike that but within this time
of me being able to actuallylike sit and breathe, like I
just tried.
I don't know if you ever heardof it the Polaroid Emulsion.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Emulsion Transfer no actually I have to send you a
picture.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
It is so freaking cool.
Basically, if you soak aPolaroid in hot water, the back,
the front and the back come offof it and the ink is left, and
so you can put it on watercolorpaper.
I'll have to send you a picture.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, so I'm able to just with these like random
things that are to creation, butI'm able to take my photos and
do something even cooler for theclients that like are patient
enough to wait for me.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
They are patient enough to like not look at my
crafts and be like hey, what thefuck are you doing?
You know, and also so we weregoing to talk today about
something and I wanted to askyou.
I pretty much already know theanswer, but you don't watch Nine
of Day Fiance.
I do you.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Brooke, that is my all time fit.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
No, I do not, I do not watch that, okay, so you
know where I stand on.
Speaker 1 (22:37):
There is a oh, we're talking about before the
ingredients that make up peopleand they are like oh, I'm so
cool and the ingredients thatmake up Chris.
There was a reality TV showthing, I don't know why, in my
head and it was like Nope, weare, we do not enjoy that.
So I was.
I felt like a weirdo in highschool because I felt like the
only person not watching.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
So everybody's like.
Everybody's like.
Um, what it was it like?
The fist pumping from JerseyShore?
Yes, what the fuck is that?
Speaker 1 (23:06):
I was straight up, as I'll describe, from a comedian
I can't remember her name, Ithink it's Eliza something I was
like yeah, that was me, becauseI was the like borderline
boomer going like.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Why are you guys doing that?
Speaker 1 (23:18):
music on MTV.
What is this crap?
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, that was so funny, so um, this, it just goes
right into what we were goingto talk about today.
Um, on 90 day fiance this is aspoiler for anybody who watches,
I'm pretty sure this one is 90day UK.
There's like a lot of differentspin offs, but 90 day UK Um,
katie and Alejandro, it's likeit was almost like one of those
things where it's like how manysigns do you need to not get
(23:44):
married?
You know so interesting.
So okay, but like, listen, sothere was like I don't know if
it was producer driven, butthere was a lot of drama, um,
starting their story andbasically it was like just heaps
of shit was just being thrownat them from all different
angles, like the families werebeing rude.
There was something about agenetic test that like didn't
(24:05):
get done.
But then they went to the UKand then it did get done and it
was fine, and so they got theclearance to get married.
Basically, um, katie lives inthe UK and Alejandro lives in
Mexico and she was flying toMexico to get married and all of
these road like, like roadbumps were in the way.
And then it gets to theirwedding day and it's like his
aunt was doing her makeup andshe was like no, no, no, I can't
(24:28):
move my face, like, and I shecan't even speak Spanish, so she
doesn't know how to say this toher grooms aunt.
It's like, okay, that wasreally awkward.
And then the?
Um, the ceremony happened andit started to like not down, for
it started to like hurricane,like, and their whole thing was
like under a pavilion, butoutside.
(24:49):
And listen, I'm not saying thata hurricane is a reason not to
get married.
I'm not saying that that's asign if that's happening to you,
but it was so funny, like theway that they recorded it and
being a wedding photographer oflike oh my God, the way they
recorded it was like they'rethey're going up to do their
vows and the the hurricane islike, like there's like thunder
and like and the rain is likeand like the wind is blowing and
(25:13):
all of the guests are like,they're like, they're like and
getting out of their seats andlike like piling into this
little corner and the pavilionand Katie and Alejandro are just
like, okay, like what do we do?
Cause they're sitting in frontof the person who's performing
the ceremony and it's like kindof stopping, like it's
devastating wins.
So then they're like oh ha ha,you know, rain is good luck on
(25:36):
the wedding day.
And then the power goes out,all of the guests and then the
vendors leave all of the foodand the alcohol left, like
because they were all gettingrained on.
So it was like what do you do?
So when I was watching this, Iwas like how many signs.
And just again, spoiler, if youdon't follow the 90 day
franchise or if you do 30seconds.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
We'll give you a second.
We'll give you a pause.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Katie has already posted that the marriage didn't
work out.
I don't know what that wasabout, I don't know, but it was
like going into watching thatepisode I already knew that they
were broken up.
So seeing the wedding andhaving it be like the downpour
and then the power out and thenthe vendors leave and then the
guests are all wet and screamingin the corner, it was like how
(26:24):
many things do you need to belike?
Okay, maybe we'll give this alittle more time, you know?
Speaker 1 (26:31):
If I was the photographer at that event and
my head, I'm laughing a littlebit I would be taking pictures
of all of this.
I'd be photographing everybodyrun away.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Oh, it was hilarious.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
If I was the groom, you know it's one of those
things that I mean what a story?
What a wedding story?
Is it the wedding that youwanted?
No, but it's a wedding that nota lot of people get, so I think
I would be.
It's either yeah, it's eithergoing to end your relationship
if you've heard that upset oryou're going to laugh about it
years later.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
It was so funny I would be dying.
Oh my gosh, the whole episode.
I was just like haha, what didthey do.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I think I'm going to call this off Like what are they
doing.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
That's stressful, but that's still a little funny.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Tiny bit.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
It is funny.
So I thought today we might beable to talk about like prepping
for your wedding in the case ofa serious weather event or rain
in general, and I thought itcould go right into your weather
watch and you could tell peoplelike if you're getting married,
(27:29):
follow me on Instagram.
I will give you the update forConnecticut because I tell my
client.
For anybody who doesn't know, Itell my clients to follow Chris
like as another photographer.
I'm like you should follow myfriend.
He's going to tell you whatyour wedding weather weekend
will look like.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
I love that, thank you, and it's just so funny.
So Instagram's new featurechannels is exactly what I was
looking for, without evenrealizing it, which is
incredible.
The channels is a.
It's basically like a.
It's just a closed group butyou can't like.
People can't post in it.
They can just like stuff youknow and do emojis and answer
(28:09):
polls.
So it's not this like just youknow chatterbox of a million
different things that peoplewould leave and not want to see
it.
So I Whoever's running it, ifyou do it carefully, so I'm not
posting in it every single day,five times a day, because that
would be annoying.
So I'm usually.
I love it, I love it.
I literally get.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I get your message and it's not like, but it's not
like a like an annoying groupchat where, like, everybody can
be like hey, thanks, chris, youknow.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
You're just like boom , yeah, just like you give the
update and it's like that's itAll.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Right, bye, you know I'm like okay, now I know what
to expect.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Yep, that's, that's yeah, so I love that feature.
So that's.
It's been really good.
And the I have the only time.
I should say carefully, theonly time that I've posted
multiple times is during anevent, that's it.
So if there's somethingactually worthwhile posting a
few times, updates, we've hadshelter take shelter.
(28:59):
Yeah, if you've seen multipletimes, probably this year, like
hey, reminder, if you're under atornado warning, you know Don't
go.
Wow, we're under a tornadowarning and then run to the
window and look outside not thegreatest idea If you don't know
where it is relatively, if youdon't know how to look at radar
and look at how Velocity workson it, you should just get to
the center part of your house orin a basement and just wait it
out, because it happens, fasthappens.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I wish I could tell my dad that, because that's his
entire life Was like oh, there'sa storm coming.
He would literally put a like achair on the back porch, like
bring it on, bring it on bringit on it, I can handle it.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I can handle it.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Yeah, actually there was like a I think there was
like a hurricane watch inFlorida.
That was like they were sayingit was gonna be Devastating and
my dad was like you know what?
I think it's time for a trip toFlorida.
He went to his condo to waitout the storm, that he was safe
in Connecticut and he was like,yeah, I'll see you guys later.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I need to see this.
Yeah, that's the thrill seeker.
Yeah, that's people love thatWell if you're, I love the
channel.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's, it'sworked out really well.
So, yeah, and as of thismorning, we had some pretty
intense rainfall once again.
I loved it.
The amount of the amount ofrainstorms this summer in in New
(30:16):
England that are not, like youknow, oh man, a rainy day like
like One to four inches of rainin a single event.
We've had this now multipletimes, which is it's kind of
crazy considering and it's it'sso Contrasting to last year
where we had none, zero rain.
Like I mowed my lawn like atotal of four times last year
(30:38):
and this year I was pretty dryhuh, it was because if you look
at my, you probably the samething.
My engagement photo is likemid-summer and then the grass is
.
It was brown, I think it wasdead.
I had to go in and do a lot ofwork to like just like I don't
want to make it look fake, butyou had to like lift it a little
bit, like, give it just a rightcolor, so it's not just no, I
(31:00):
totally forgot oh grass it was.
Yeah, our backyard was.
I just remember looking at itgoing like, well, that's, it's
dead, it's all dead, the grassis gone.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
So I'm looking at the backyard right now.
It's so lush and green.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
It's so lush.
That's what happens when itrains endlessly.
So, on that note, good year totalk about this, because if
you're If you're a weddingphotographer or if you're a
couple concerned about this,this is the year, the reminder
of man.
Shit happens like it might rainon your wedding day.
Yeah, talk about how to dealwith it.
So I, you started thisconversation.
(31:33):
I remember what you asked mespecifically, but on my suit box
here talking about whethergetting pumped, throwing my
hands up right now, I don'tremember, I don't remember.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
But I just want to start the conversation off by
saying you know, katie andAlejandro's wedding day?
I'm not.
I'm not saying that if it rainson your wedding day, if it's
like a torrential downpour, I'mnot saying that's a sign.
I'm just saying you know, ifAll of those things happen and I
already knew that they hadn'tworked it out, you know.
So, like watching the episode,I was like well, there's your
(32:02):
sign you know.
But but If you are planning yourwedding day and you see that
rain is in the forecast, I wantto make it very, very clear some
of my favorite wedding photosever are the rainy ones.
It's so romantic, it is so.
It's such a, it's almost like afor an event that For the most
(32:24):
part, doesn't feel, especiallywith a ton of guests right, it
doesn't feel super, superintimate for some reason.
When it's rainy on your weddingday it makes it like so quiet
and like Soothing.
Do you feel that like the vibeof like when you go in and
you're in the getting readyprocess and it's just like, yeah
, there are some tension,there's some nerves.
(32:45):
You were really hoping it wasn'tgonna be a rainy wedding day.
Nobody hopes for rain on theirwedding day but it's almost got
this like calming effect oneverybody in your party and also
, if anything else is goingwrong, it's like I Feel like
people aren't as like, let's say, you know, your, your
mother-in-law would have yourfuture mother-in-law would have
(33:06):
been really annoying and just.
But now she sees it's rainingand she's like maybe I'll just,
you know, let the day run, youknow, just because it's like
this thing is already happeningthat nobody really wanted to
happen, so let's let it be asgood as it humanly possibly can
be.
I'm not gonna stress the brideand the groom out anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
You described that so well.
So for the introverts Listeningto this, we know we've.
We know this all too well.
I've said so many times on adark, cloudy, rainy day, when
you're especially if you're like, a little tired, maybe you had
a busy week it doesn't soundquiet in your house.
(33:44):
It feels quiet and it's like sorelaxing.
It's just like, oh, this is it.
And then it's just so funny tooseeing people that come from
places that don't have days likethis in New England, california
, a lot of times, like Texas,they just deal with like
extremes and Come up here.
And I saw a post recently fromone of our speakers at Lens and
(34:04):
Light, who just moved toPhiladelphia, posted that you
know, back in the Northeast andthey had a full cloudy, rainy
day and was like I forgot howmuch I liked this and it was
like, yeah, I thrive in thesesituations this morning, when it
was so gloomy, I was like yeah,I don't want to leave my bed.
(34:25):
Oh no, it's horrible, believeyou, but I will let me take.
I leave my bed.
I saw how much rain was fallingand I was like oh my god.
So it was not quiet in ourhouse, but I was running to the
rain gauge looking at how oh mygod but After the the general
excitement comes down, none ofthe lights are on the house and
it's like it's so dark and Ilike.
Acknowledged how dark it was inthe house and it was like this
(34:46):
is I have to almost turn thelight on, but I'm not going to.
I'm just gonna figure this outbecause it was.
But yeah, it's, it's so, andthen I'll pull up a chair with a
cup of coffee on a day likethat.
And I was like this is 10 outof 10.
Right now, this is perfect.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yep, this is zone.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
So you All this exciting talk about this,
bringing it back to the weddingworld in your description of
getting ready and that vibe andit feels more chill and quiet,
which I think a lot of Brides,grooms, would hope for, and kind
of strive for that vibe.
Yeah, that's it's.
(35:23):
It's a blessing in disguise.
Yeah, definitely.
Yeah, no, worries it definitelyhas its downfalls.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Obviously, if you were hoping for an outdoor
ceremony and it's justDownpouring and it's like, I do
understand the pent up stressthat you can definitely feel in
your chest.
But I think it's like one ofthose things where if you can
take it and make it like amindful moment of like, okay, if
this is the worst thing thathappens today, like We'll be
(35:52):
good.
You know, if this is the worstof our day is that we have to
deal with some water will befine.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Bring up a good point too.
Now I'm like my brain's wheelsare turning on doing like a Like
a social.
Either it's a blog or socialpost, something that has a
little bit traction.
But I would like to be morethan just me.
It would be multiplephotographers like let's
showcase for a while the bestwork in the rain.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
So to post?
This morning I was looking onyour page and I on our on our
Podcast page I try to not postanybody's faces as far as our
client photos.
So I was looking through all ofyour work because I was gonna
take a screenshot of one of yourphotos of, you know, a rainy
day, and I was looking throughall of it and I was like, first
(36:37):
of all, beautiful.
I love the clear umbrellas, Ilove the.
The rainy days are gorgeous.
I just didn't pick your photosbecause I all I could see was
faces and I just wanted to makesure that it was okay with your
clients.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
But Terrible photos, just terrible.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
No, no, no, but I was looking through and like I was
like, oh my gosh, what abeautiful, like, what an awesome
vibe and I've definitely had itwhere like the rain feels and
looks kind of like glitter andthe photos and it's just like
it's almost like this dewy.
Oh my god, what's her name?
Sophie, sophie, sophie, sophie,sophie, richie, sophia Richie.
(37:13):
She just got married and shehad a dew drop veil that looked
like it had little waterdroplets on it and I was like
dude people are paying thousandsof dollars to make it look like
it rained on their wedding day.
Like if you could just kind oflike well almost almost change
your wedding vision to if itrains, you know like how is that
(37:33):
gonna change the vibe of theday?
And kind of, almost we'retrying to get you to prep to be
able to switch your mindset of,oh my god, it's gonna rain on my
wedding day it's such a bomber,you know and kind of switch it
and turn it into Well, how coolwould it be if my photos turned
out something like this, or ifthe guests had like a drizzly
(37:55):
Entrance under these clearumbrellas or you know.
So just try to turn it in a waywhere it works for you and it
works for your wedding in thevibe.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
So do you have any?
I can totally start if you want, but do you have any
recommendations on how somebodymight be able to take advantage
of that both in like a Way ofpreparation or just changing the
mindset completely?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Yeah, I actually would love to talk about this.
So I've got like.
I got like a more technicalanswer to that and then a more
In-depth answer to that.
That kind of revolves aroundmindset.
Okay, give me both, which?
Okay?
So I'm gonna start withtechnical, easy One to
comprehend.
Make sure so this is for thecouple, that's for both the
(38:42):
couple and the photographer.
Depends on who we're talking to, but make sure that Either or
has those clear umbrellas.
There's not a lot of things Iwould tell people.
You know like you absolutelyneed this, that's one I would
say have in your back pocket.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
That's you carry them with you.
I do, I do well, okay, yeahthey're, my they're.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
I got them in their truck and they just sit in there
all year until I if I need tomove them out For a second, but
generally they're there thewhole time.
Last year there were a fewweddings that on the morning of
I was panicking because I waslike they're not in there and it
was, and then I made sure tolike run and throw them in there
and they were the only daysthat year that there was even
like a chance of shower, yeah,and it was like a perfectly
(39:21):
clear day for each of them.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
So it was like I feel like if I bring them, I won't
need them you know that's yeah,guaranteed, but but this year
not the case.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
So no, that's a like.
What's the word I want to use?
A no, no debate, no debate inmy mind.
You either need to make surethat, if your photographer
doesn't have them, that you havethem, because if it is gonna
rain, the clear umbrellas makefor such beautiful photos and
your photographers.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
Your photographer is not required to carry.
No, I just like, as a general,I have them.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
Chris has them.
I feel like we're both.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Yeah, we're both very prepared.
But also, if you're looking fora very, very cheap set, you can
go on Amazon, and I think I gotmy set of 10 for $88 or
something.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
It was definitely 100 for a lot of umbrellas in the
last four years.
So it's that's yeah, that's ano debate.
For me, that's, that's a hard.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
I'm glad we got that.
So that's the technical answer.
So umbrellas the, the mindsetone, though what you described
is so key and it's hard notgonna sit here and preach and
say, on your wedding day, makesure you change your mindset.
It's really hard to do.
You want to go into a weddingday and you just envision, as
(40:37):
most people do this, you know,walking around Gracefully
outside and your beautiful dressand it's.
You know, birds are chirping,little slight breeze.
Like you, you want that perfectsunny day and you've got these
photos with a nice glow behindyou On your hair and it just
looks wonderful.
That's what we envision,because it's less of a hassle.
You want a sunny day, that'sthe, that's the natural mindset
(41:01):
of everybody.
But but when it does look likeit's gonna rain or be cloudy,
you know panic sets in and it'sreally hard to get out of that
and it's so hard for us on thephotographer side to convince
it's gonna be okay.
Yeah, we internally potentiallywish because just simply because
it's Easier, which is not it's.
(41:22):
That's not an acceptable answer, but it is what it is.
It's a little easier to dealwith a non rainy day because now
I have spots picked out at thelocation.
Good to go like.
I don't, I don't have thisoutside variable to worry about.
Right, the hardest days of theones where it is gonna rain or
is it not gonna, that's that'sthe one that's like I almost
would wish it.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Just just do it Just figure it out so that I can do
my job, please, yes.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
But but when I, on the photographer side, get over
real quick Okay, this isn'tabout me not making it easier,
let's do something really funwith this and cool and it you
going into that mindset as thebride or groom that you know
this is gonna be okay.
I'm just gonna embrace this andmy photographer knows what
they're doing and we're justgonna, you know, if, obviously,
(42:07):
if you want to, before theceremony, make sure your hair
stays intact and all of thosethings and that's important to
you.
You know we can.
We'll work around that and andmake it work, but at some point
you're probably just gonna wantto let loose and just kind of
open up, and that is totally amindset thing.
It applies to so many differentthings in life.
Like the mindset is everything.
(42:27):
If you continue to say out loudto yourself this sucks, this
sucks.
Well, yeah, it's probably gonnasuck, it's probably you're not
gonna have a good time If yousay out loud to yourself this is
okay, we're gonna get somephotos that not a lot of people
have the opportunity to get.
On our wedding day, you knowTotally different.
You're gonna go into it so muchhappier and you're gonna look
happier in your photos too.
(42:47):
So definitely.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
That's like one of the biggest things that I see is
that, like when I can tell whenmy clients are stressed Because
of the looks on their faces,like I could tell I it just it
creates a whole different.
If you feel Anxiety, if youfeel regret, if you feel any of
those things, like it willtransfer to your photos.
So if you can, just if you'regonna have a rainy wedding day
(43:12):
and you weren't expecting it,and if you can just take a
second in the morning and justkind of think to yourself, like
if this is the worst part of theday, it'll be fine.
Yep, like it'll be okay, it'sjust a little water not a big
deal.
And what I would even encouragepeople to do is, when you're
thinking about having a oh, whatare you thinking about?
Talking to a photographer, whynot ask for some rainy galleries
(43:34):
?
Why not?
Let's just see what your, whatyour work looked like on that
day, so that you have a reallygood representation and you can
see.
I mean, I tell all of my clients, you know, I've got those
umbrellas ready, I'm ready to golike don't worry about it, not
a big deal.
But I think until people haveseen the rainy, the rainy day
photos with those cute, clearumbrellas and they can actually
get it up, a really good feeland taste for the vibe of what
(43:56):
their photos might look like.
I think once they see thosephotos, they're like, okay, yeah
, no problem, we're all good.
But if you don't ask and youdon't know what to expect out of
your rainy wedding day andyou're like, well, I had this
very specific, very sunny, very,you know, breezy Idea in my
mind of what this wedding daywas gonna be, of course your
expectations are gonna be alittle bit like I Don't know
(44:18):
what to expect from this.
So I think, talking to yourphotographer, do you think that
that's a good idea too, talkingand asking for a rainy gallery,
just so that they can see.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
I think you should ask anything that comes to mind
that you're.
Whatever your fears are, youshould be asking that because
you don't want to wait till thelast minute.
So if you're concerned aboutrain or you just simply want to
see it either way, that's acompletely fair question to see
a rainy day.
And now I'm thinking to myselfokay, what would early Chris do,
who didn't have thatopportunity yet, to shoot a
wedding in the rain?
Like, and you're like, oh, Ihaven't done that yet, which you
(44:52):
know, that's just an experiencething, right, god?
Now I'm in my head thinkinglike is there a way to set up a
flexible style shoot that's fora rainy day?
That would be really cool.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
It would be.
Just put a hose in yeah,Somebody standing to the side
with their thumb over the hoseso that it looks like a big
rainy.
All I would need is a cloudyday.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
You know it just can't be clear, can't be sunny.
There's a way we could do this,but if there was a way you
could do and it doesn't have tobe a full, you know, tabletop
with all the trimmings, you know, I'm just looking for a bride
and groom, or groom and groom,bride and bride Shoot, to do
something in that resembles arainy day.
That's something that's alittle hard to find.
(45:36):
Now I'm thinking about it, so Iknow they've happened, but I
don't see it often.
So right, that would be cool.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
So the other thing that I was thinking about was
talking about I mean, I know itsounds stupid to say it out loud
, but because you know you planfor every part of your day,
right, but having a backup plan,having a, a choosing a venue
that has and you're, this iscoming from a chick All right,
who planned my entire?
(46:03):
all right, who planned my entirewedding day outside under fairy
lights?
Basically, like I didn't.
It's not that I didn't have abackup option when we originally
started to plan our wedding.
Our backup option was we'regoing to finish the basement and
if we have to pull a reallylong table into the basement,
we're going to make it look howwe want it to look and that will
be our rain plan.
(46:24):
And then Chad broke hiscollarbone so we didn't get to.
We didn't really get to finishour backup plan.
So you're, you're hearing advicefrom a chick whose backup plan
was literally pile those 35people into the living room and
hope for the best, like that was.
But it didn't really matter tome because my venue was my home
(46:47):
and it felt like no matter wherethis wedding takes place on
this property, even if it is inmy living room and people are
cramped, that is going to beokay to me.
So, choosing a venue that has avery, very ideal backup plan
for you.
You know, planning for alloutside is all fun and games
(47:09):
until your almost husband breakshis collarbone.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
Yeah, that's, didn't know that Okay.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
Yeah, he went on a mountain biking trip like two
months before our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Wow, small little thing.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
And he called me on the first run and was like, yeah
, I went off a jump way too high.
It was like nice, um, like very, and I and I knew too, I
planned a day to go to the beachbecause I was, I knew I would
just be like worried all day.
Like he's like he did thisthing and he's like I've been
mountain biking since I was akid and I'm like, okay, but
we've been dating for six yearsand like I've never seen you do
(47:45):
it.
So like so I planned the wholeday to not have to think about
him on the bike.
And then he called me on thefirst run and was like I'm going
to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
So, basically, having choosing a venue not only for
their outdoor plan outdoor plansare great, outdoor ceremonies
are awesome, but make sure thatyou're comfortable with what
that rain plan would also looklike.
And if it means that you haveto spend more money on your
venue I mean, we say this allthe time your venue is the vibe
of your photos.
So if, if, worst case scenario,we have to pile into your venue
(48:19):
, make sure that as you'retouring these venues, you ask
what is the rain plan?
And you look at that space andgo, okay, is there enough light?
Do I like the background?
What does it look like?
Because I can almost guaranteeyou that if you have a, if
you're planning on having anoutdoor ceremony at a place that
only has a, you know, um andit's going to sound bad for me
(48:40):
to say this, but generallybanquet halls are not the best,
um, they don't have the bestlighting.
That's not like high ceilings.
I've seen ones that are theexception and not the rule, but
let's say that it was, like youknow, kind of an ugly banquet
hall and they're like that's therain plan, but it doesn't
usually rain in September, orwhatever.
They want to feed you to get itbooked Right.
(49:02):
If you hear yeah, it doesn'tusually rain, it's like it's
like it's going to rain wheneverit wants to, Whenever it wants
to.
That's correct.
Yeah so there's no amount ofwork that your florist can do on
in certain banquet halls orcertain rooms that's going to
make it look ideally what youwould want it to look like for
your ceremony.
So just remembering your venueis the vibe and and planning for
(49:25):
the rainy day is actuallysmarter than planning for the
outdoor day.
I almost do this thing whereit's like expect nothing and
then you won't be disappointed.
You know, like plan for therain, it's, it's going to happen
, and then when it's a sunny day, you're like wow, this is
amazing.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
This is amazing.
Your wedding book, if I recall,like what we're.
We were talking about theweather before your wedding,
like two weeks beforehand.
I remember yeah, remembertalking about this and going
like I.
I recall the concern wasactually like super cold.
I think that's what it was likea cold outbreak.
That was that I kept seeing inthe models and was like I don't
(50:04):
think you have to worry aboutrain, you got to worry about it
being chilly and you have toworry about your guests freezing
.
It was chilly, but it wasn't ascold as it could have been.
I think is what it ended upbeing.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
No, and and I'll say, you know, in the world of
things happen as they happen,and just you just have to kind
of go with it.
Speaker 1 (50:25):
You go with it.
Speaker 2 (50:25):
What's that?
We had a.
We had a pretty cold day.
We did for for our entire ourwedding setup was everybody
outside the whole night.
It was in the end of October.
We knew it was probably goingto be cold, but we didn't know
it was going to be as cold as itwas.
It ended up getting down to, Ithink, in the or I want to say
(50:47):
in the late 40s during thenighttime portion, but the day
itself was like a high of like63.
Speaker 1 (50:55):
So when you're used it is.
Speaker 2 (50:57):
but when you're used to the summer and, like you know
, I'm in a backless dress, I waslike I'm freezing dude.
So we ended up getting like hothands for everybody.
We ordered blankets, thingslike that.
So it it worked out.
But we did have complaints.
Speaker 1 (51:10):
We had complaints about how cold it was and it's
like sorry, full, separateconversation that there's always
going to be complaints,potentially so, and then you
guys kind of or rainy or cold orhot, it doesn't matter, it
doesn't matter, then don't come,yeah, so you know, but we had
our wedding day and it wasreasonably cold, and then the
very next day it was sunny and75.
Speaker 2 (51:30):
And I was like I remember really really nice.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
Yeah, yeah, you were the peak.
Yeah, you were the peak.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
So the cleanup crew the cleanup crew, me, Chad well,
hardly me, I was out ofcommission Chad and I think just
Chad he got a really nice dayto clean up, but our wedding day
was like really, really cold,and it's just.
It is what it is.
It's the day and you make themost of it and if you have to
wrap yourself in a blanket.
You have to wrap yourself in ablanket, you have to be
(51:56):
underneath an umbrella, noproblem, you know, your
photographer most likely isprepared, your venue most likely
is prepared, unless you'regetting married at your house,
like we were, but making themost of whatever situation
weather wise is like.
Also, I love an overcastsession.
(52:16):
Oh yeah, people are like I justwant a sunny and I'm like, okay
, I get it, I totally get it.
You want the flares, you wantthe sun, you want all of that.
But the lighting in an overcastsession is like perfect.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
It's so funny too with overcast sessions because
the style of my photography I'venoticed changes pending, which
it should, but I definitely leaninto different.
I mean even the lenses that Iuse, pending whether it's
overcast or sunny.
I notice going through myphotos that I definitely use, I
(52:55):
lean into one versus the otherwhen those weather variables are
in there.
So when it's overcast I tend todo a lot more wide shots.
That's what I just captured.
And when it's sunny and I wantthe flares, I tend to get a
little bit closer and there's norhyme or reason other than it
Super interesting.
What feels right in the moment.
Yeah, and I'm always happy withthe photos.
(53:16):
I'm really good with what weget.
I always provide a variety.
I always provide shots or allclose ups, but I just tend to
look at my favorites from thoseand it's always the cloudy,
overcast ones.
You can get some really good,you know, couples, separated
pretty far from the camera,black and white, even outdoors,
(53:38):
because sometimes the black andwhite during a sunny day with
foliage is a lot of things goingon.
Yeah, it's like all it's allover.
I always tend to love those.
I'm just going into talkingabout photos now.
So you are correct from aovercast is underrated, but I
will say that I think a lot ofpeople are catching on to it,
because I have had a lot ofconversations in the past year
(54:00):
with couples who go like, oh,isn't a cloudy day better?
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