September 12, 2023 • 34 mins
Are you feeling the seasonal shift? Do the autumn leaves ignite a sense of nostalgia or do you long for the summer’s radiant sun and clear blue skies? This episode's intro is about embracing the change in seasons, especially after a sweltering, smoke-filled summer. We plunge headfirst into our love for the 'spooky season' and the thrill it injects into the atmosphere. From inflatables that scream Halloween to more discreet decor that subtly sets the ambiance, we explore it all. We also touch upon our unwavering affection for the Christmas season, discussing how its magic makes it our personal favorite.
Transitioning from the change in seasons, we plunge into an entirely different yet equally intense change - wedding preparations. We take you through the emotional roller-coaster that is wedding planning, starting with the nerve-racking quest for the perfect wedding dress. We also tackle the unique predicament of managing an uneven number of groomsmen in your wedding party. From detailing strategies for coordinating photos to sharing our personal experiences, we cover all the bases to ensure your big day goes off without a hitch.
As your wedding day approaches, you may be wondering how to keep your guests entertained in the interstice between the ceremony and reception. Fear not, we’ve got you covered. This episode navigates through an array of pre-reception activities, from orchestrating an exciting scavenger hunt to curating a list of intriguing local sights. Stay tuned as we delve into how technology can elevate these plans, ensuring your guests have a memorable experience at your wedding. With a blend of engaging discussions and practical advice, this episode promises to leave you with fresh ideas and insights.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi Hi.
So, we are in September, brooke, we have moved into September
and I love this question becausethere's got to be like a
terminology for this and itdepends on what time of the year
you ask a question and, basedon when you ask it, you might
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get a different answer from thesame person who thinks they have
that stuck opinion.
So question where am I goingwith this?
This sounds confusing.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah, it was like what question are you talking
about?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Yeah, a lot of dremel here.
So the question being are youready for, and love, autumn, or
do you want to hang on to Summera bit?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh, come on.
Oh, I know your answer.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
I know your answer and I know a lot of people have
just straight up yeah, autumn,no doubt, like Autumn, is their
favorite time of the year.
But there's some people inbetween where, if you ask them,
if I ask that question earlyJune, after a cold May and a
cold winter, their answer may bedifferent.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I definitely find that You're like no, I don't
even want to think about Autumn.
I'm ready for Sunshine PartySummer, like here we go.
But you ask it after a reallyhumid summer, really rainy, and
really the first part of summerwas smoky, not something that we
thought we would have to dealwith.
But now you ask that questionand people are, like you know,
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screw Summer.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
How long did that smoke thing span?
Like I don't think I whenyou're living in it you don't
realize how long it's been goingfor.
But like if you had to put likea, was it like smoky for a
month?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
It wasn't smoky for the entire month.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
OK.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
There were portions of June that we just had
multiple times where it was justlike smoky day.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
There was a single week in June and I want to say
it was the first week of June orlike the middle, somewhere
between like the first and theeighth, because I remember Kelly
and I, for anniversary, went toBlock Island and that weekend
was the tail end of that.
We were concerned that we wouldstill see some smoke in Block
Island and we really didn'tRight.
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So that was the tail end ofthat.
But that week beforehand it wasI will never forget midday and
the light coming through thewindow was like I have no other
way to describe it other thanlike it looked like a street
light, like an orange old bulbstreet light was just in my
house.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It was such a weird color.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
No, it was super eerie.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Yeah, it was eerie and it smelled and it really did
.
You went outside and you werelike I'm not sure if I should be
breathing this.
Like it's you know this can'tbe good.
Like, if I can smell it, itmeans that they're you know I'm
breathing it.
So yeah, so ultimately thequestion summer or autumn?
We have no doubt, brooke, thatyou are spooky.
I mean, literally August 31st,your polls are out.
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Like who's ready for spookyseason.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Hell yeah, love it.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, did you get any decorations?
I saw you post the other daytoo about you were like maybe
this is a little over the top,and it's when you go to walk
into Home Depot or Lowe's andthey got the giant inflatables.
Yes, yes, Are you about them?
You about the inflatables.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
No, no, I'm not.
I've never really neither of myparents.
Neither house was like aninflatable house, but I think
it's cute.
I don't hate on it.
It's just not really my thing.
I like when my version ofspooky is like almost your
normal decor, with just a touchof creep.
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So like having the big blow upin the front.
It's like very kiddish kind of.
I like when people are like ooh, that's kind of spooky.
Yeah, have you ever seen thefigurines that they make out of
the chicken wire?
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I can't like picture it in my head.
I mean, I'm sure I have, but Ican't picture it.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
They basically take chicken wire and they make it
look like a human and they makeit look like a woman in a dress
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Oh, I think they have it.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, and it's so funny because you can't really
see it until you move in theyard a little bit.
And if you walk around it youcan totally see the outline of
it, but otherwise, if you werejust standing there or like took
a picture, you would never beable to see it.
That's kind of the stuff thatI'm like like when it takes a
second for it to hit, like thoseare my favorite types of
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decorations.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Hey, and you are the person I'm going to go to with
questions for decorations,because you've got that on the
lock.
So especially your custom onesLove it.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Oh yeah, the eyeballs on the plants always makes my
day when I see those pop up inthe stories.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
So my bride this weekend is like a Halloween
enthusiast and she was like I'vebeen seeing all your DIYs, girl
.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
No, I love it.
She actually.
It was so funny.
I walked in and the balloonsaid till death, do us party.
And they had a skeleton balloontoo.
So I know she's like, you know,she's like a little creepy.
So I had her dress hanging andthen in the mirror it was
reflecting the skeleton.
I was like oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Love it, yeah, love it, yeah.
So you're, yeah, you get ampedup about that.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm team Autumn you know, I'm team Spooky Season
Because right after that comescold season and there's
something about like as much asI love Halloween, christmas is
like that's the top for me.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
That's the top time of the year.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
I love it so much.
It's not even really about likeyeah, when I was a kid I was
like gifts.
Now it's kind of I feel likethe whole world kind of.
Well, not the whole world, butat least in my general vicinity
around Christmas.
Yeah, I feel like everybody isa little bit more loving, a
little bit more giving a little.
You know, it's just.
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There's the spirit of theseason and I feel like it's a
good vibe.
Yeah, the lights and all ofthat.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I go just as hard for Christmas, if not harder than
Halloween.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
That's awesome.
Yeah, there's an exciting time,pretty much like for me, once
we hit like mid-October through,you know, january.
Just like it's just a straight,like just a good time.
I just love that, love thatwhole time period.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
So you're going to have to buy some more decor now
that you have that big old room.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I know we were just talking about that yesterday.
What do you?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
guys do.
How do you set up for Halloween?
I don't think we've everdiscussed that.
You've seen all of my shitbecause it's been up for like
two months.
I know.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
So we have, like we have a bunch of stuff especially
and it's a lot of it's similar,because it's stuff that Kelly
decorated with years ago andthen we just, you know, take it
out and she'll do some slightadjustments here and there in
the house, but she's definitelygot all that stuff.
I mean it's.
We usually decorate forHalloween like in our house,
probably like a week or twobefore Halloween.
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It's up for a least I know why.
It's such a short amount of timeand I don't really know why,
other than Waste of time, I know.
I don't know we have.
I'm trying to think, if we havelike, so we have autumn
decorations.
I'm trying to think, if we have, we do, we have.
We have like, you know, likeswitching out the pillows and
certain things like that, thethrow pillows and there's a few
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other things that it thatadjusts, but the hollow, the
Halloween stuff is, I don't wantto say it's minimal, but it's
definitely a little bit moreminimal than the, obviously,
though, like the holidayChristmas decorations that we
have, that that's a full-out.
Like you know, the mantlechanges.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
You're gonna get a big tree this year.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I know I got a.
Literally as we're saying this,I'm like crap.
I should be putting away likeJust a little piece of money
just for this tree that we gottabuy and, honestly, only a few
weeks, so it's not that long.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
What um right?
Do you go real or do you gofake?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
We go fake.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Okay, we go easier.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, it's just it's.
I Like I know the.
You know a lot of people haveto, but we I didn't grow up I
didn't grow up with thetradition of going to cut a tree
, so like I understand thatthat's got nostalgia for people
that do that and they.
Yeah but it's such a pain inthe ass.
Like yeah it's a fire hazardlike that's, it's a big fire
hazard, that's my big thing.
(08:05):
Absolutely.
I don't have to think aboutthat.
No, I'm good with the tree,that we got it worked.
It holds, the decorations looksgood.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Then you get a little scented.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
You know the pine sense.
That was really cool.
Kelly found that a few yearsago.
They're like little tiny sticksand you hide them in the tree
and you walk by and it smellslike pine tree.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Great, I have those two.
Hey, listen, I bought.
When we first moved into thishouse I was like, oh my god,
like cut the ideal sailings andI bought a nine footer and Since
then I have bought differenttrees because it just felt like
it was taking up so much of myhouse.
So if you end up looking for anine footer, I might have one
available for you, that's reallygood to know give it to you at
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a discount because you're notusing it.
Yeah, I mean, we Usually I'llput it up in, like the loft now,
because it's the highest pointand it's not taking up all of
our space, but like then theloft is like unusable.
So yeah, so once we're donewith like putting and you know
I'm gonna be putting up ourdecorations on November 1st- so,
you'll have some time.
If I'm not using it, I'lldefinitely let you know.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Yeah, just let me know You're actively listening
to a bartering conversation here.
Fantastic, yeah, cuz.
We haven't even.
Yeah, it's Cuz we're not.
Let me say this very carefullywe're not done with that room
done.
Being like you know, is there tome.
In my eyes, is there gonna be aperfect day where it's like we
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did everything in this room,it's perfect and now we can sit?
And it's like no, because bythe time I'm sure we actually
finish Whatever thing.
That we're saying that we'regonna finish, something else is
gonna need adjustment or change.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So every project has a little project that follows
every single one, always, always, yeah.
So there's.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
There's a lot of, though, I mean.
So it's basically complete,like it's a livable space.
It's got just about everythingthat we need in there.
Um, just a few small things,like you know.
We want to hang up the TV onthe wall.
We haven't done that yet.
We got to do back splash.
That's the probably the nextbig one, and then the bathroom
in that room there's a bathroomaround the corner that has to be
finished.
That's the big one, thebathroom.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
So I bet it's gonna feel so cozy around Christmas
for you.
Oh, I'm so excited in that newroom with your fireplace.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Yeah, so we didn't, are you gonna?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
host like a Christmas party for your families and
stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm sure we'll do something.
Yeah, that's for sure.
And uh, yeah, we're superexcited.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I love it.
Well, whenever you do end updecorating, I want to see.
I want to see what you gotgoing on, you know obviously I'm
gonna share this with you.
I know you'll appreciate it, sowe'll just have you yeah, and
then Me yeah, okay it'll be anevent.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
It'll be fantastic.
Okay, perfect and the other Bigreason that I love.
So two reasons, two reasonsthat I love this the change into
the seasons.
A I'm not a Autumn fanatic, butwhat I am is a I like I
appreciate the change of seasons.
I look forward to the nextthing.
So I'm just about there now.
I'm like alright, I'm prettylike humidied out.
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I'm looking for a nice cool,dry day.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I'm ready to try this last week.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I know it's been brutal, brutal humidity this
year and I'll transition to that, but I love.
Then we head into the you knowas you just grab the holidays
and all the.
You.
I love that stuff with thecheery vibe and such.
But the dirty side of me,weather forecasting in the
summer, is boring.
It's the same thing I don't evenlook at the models every day.
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I just, you know, I do somebasic looks.
It gets exciting once we hitlike mid to the end of October.
That's when I start lookingdaily, twice a day.
There's a total routine.
With my cup of coffee in themorning, I'm getting amped up.
I'm looking for.
You know what I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
So that's right, I'm looking for something exciting
in that model.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
So last year was abysmal.
It was horrible, horrible year.
I just I and that was last yearmight've been the first year
that I think I stopped actuallylooking daily at at weather
models as part of my routine andI was like this is just trashed
Every day's trash.
We had no snow last year andlet me take that back.
There was a single snowstormthat barely put down five inches
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of snow and it was the one.
Trip Kelly and I were not here.
We left and I was like I justlaughed.
I was like that's that figures,but it's fine.
But you know, moving on andthen and then remember saying
out loud so I apologize toeverybody, it's my fault saying
well, at least I'm ready to lookforward to this summer.
And then June came and was justtrash.
Again, it was just trash, so ohso it's your fault.
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It's always my fault.
I just I put it out into theatmosphere and to the world and
it listens.
So I should be careful withthat.
So let's talk about questions.
Let's talk about questions.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
From the people.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
So we've been asking for questions for a little bit
and we are going to do alightning round of three
questions today.
We're going to answer three ofyour questions.
So if you have questions aboutyour wedding that you know you
are trying to figure out, ifyou're trying to figure out the
logistics, if you have, like anemotional question, if you have
a wedding, anything aboutweddings, I've got my new
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co-host here with me.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Fuzzy co-host.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
That's right.
So I've written down three ofyour questions in my notes to
address them today, and ifyou're ready, let's give it a go
.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Let's give it a go.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
All right, let's hope I can read.
Woo, I haven't been sleepingvery well so I'm like a little
delirious.
Hi, brooke and Chris, quickwedding question for you.
I have major wedding dressregret.
My wedding is in a few weeksand I'm so nervous about my
photos and what my dress willlook like.
How do I work through this?
Is this normal wedding jittersfrom the pressure of finding the
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perfect dress for the perfectday?
Thanks, so.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yes.
So I actually struggled withthis like a lot.
I struggled with this so muchthat I would know Good a
personal story.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Let's hear it.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I looked for a dress that was.
I wanted it to be different,like I wanted it to be sounds,
so I wanted it to be different.
I wanted it to be different thanwhat I normally would wear.
I wanted for people to be kindof like surprised in what they
saw me in on the day.
I didn't want them to.
I didn't want to wear whatpeople expected me to wear, and
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so I went to a shop and I foundsomething that I felt like it
fit me really well and I feltlike it was something that
people would not expect of me,and especially not during a
freezing October wedding, whichI'm so stupid for.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
That's stupid.
It's just a risk that somepeople forget about that.
It can happen.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
A pretty severe risk.
It can happen.
It can happen, yeah with an alloutdoor wedding.
It was a pretty severe risk onmy end, but I felt like I fell
in love with this dress andwhatever.
What I didn't realize is thatwhen they were, when I was
trying on the dress, the reasonthat I felt that it fit me so
well was actually because of theclips that they put in the back
and not necessarily it wasn'tthe way it would look when it
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was tailored and I didn'tunderstand that, because it had
two straps in the back and thenbasically what they do is
they'll tie a string around thestraps to pull it in and to
really like kind of like suck inlike your areas.
And when I got the dress andthere was no string pulling it
and I could have had somebody,but I wanted an open back dress,
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that's what I wanted.
And I got that dress tailored.
Even after I was like, forwhatever reason, I got it in the
mail and I was like I can fixthis, like I can do this.
So I went and I had it tailoredand then I bought sleeves for
it because I wasn't happy withthe way it was tailored and then
I tried to buy different likeunder, like the undergarments
for it, and nothing was makingit look the way that it looked
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in the store, and I was besidemyself.
I was like what did I do?
Why did I do this?
Why do I keep spending money onaccessories that don't even go
with this dress to try to makeit work Like I'm Queen DIY, but
like a wedding dress is like youknow, it's a little much.
That's a little much.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You've got the experience which would be really
specific.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
So, after literal months of me being like I don't
know how to make this work, Ifinally made an appointment with
a local shop a few local shopsactually.
I went to secondhand shops.
I went to Covet Bridal, whichis it's Everdine Bridal's sister
store, but it's all of theirfloor models.
So I went to go look at otherdresses because I was just like
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I don't.
I literally don't know what todo, and it made me feel so much
better to be trying on otherdresses.
I will say if you're lookingfor your dress and you're just
starting, don't have theemotional reaction of, okay, I
love this dress and now I needto buy it.
You need to go home, you needto think about it, you need to
sit on it.
I thought I sat on it for along enough.
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I didn't.
And even my second dress, whichwas beautiful, walking away from
my wedding day I understand thewedding dress regret, because I
do have some.
Even with the wedding dress thatI picked the second time, I
felt like I spent more moneythan I would have if I had just
ordered the original dress thatI really, really wanted from the
beginning, instead of trying tosave money.
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So what I'll say is if you thinkyou might have wedding dress
regret after the day, I wouldurge you to splurge on the dress
that you really really actuallywant, even if it's gonna be a
$5,000 dress.
It is the one day that you getto dress up and do this thing
Like this, is the one time, andno one's telling you that you
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can't buy a dress and then gomodel it in a field somewhere.
But if you don't think thatthat dress is going to be
something that you're happy withliterally forever, then, yeah,
you need to go get a differentdress and you can try to find a
secondhand dress.
You can try to find a dressthat has been, you know, a floor
model.
There are a lot of differentoptions.
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But if you think at this point,with your wedding being a few
weeks away, that you're gonnahave wedding dress regret, then
you need to go and explore otheroptions, and there are tailors
that can take care of it very,very quickly.
You might be paying a prettypenny for it, but I would.
I would urge you to do thatrather than get your photos back
and have serious regret.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Yeah, that's.
There's the way that I wouldshape this too.
Is there's already a millionthings to be potentially
stressing about on a wedding day?
There's just so many.
There's so many pieces to theday that that Need so much help
in different areas.
One of them you can control.
So if you're unhappy with it,you know whatever it is, you
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know and you're dwelling on it,you should probably take trying
to care of that.
Yeah, cuz you can.
That's the point, is the booksaying.
Is that you have that option?
Is it potentially gonna costyou?
Yeah, but Not knowing anything.
Or I shouldn't say not knowinganything, but not being the one
here who should have a strongopinion about, specifically, the
wedding dress, I can tell youhow important it is to make sure
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that you're happy with whateverit is that you're doing on the
day and if you can control it,take Control, they control the
situation.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Do you see my zoo right now?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
I do, I love it.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
So all my animals are just walking through.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
I love it too, because they're just like
they're just walking indifferent directions, just kind
of don't mind me the street yeah.
All three gremlin, cricket andBrooke.
I know to answer the second.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I am part of the zoo.
Oh, no, no, I'm part of the zoo, no, but to answer your second
question, I do think, though,that it is normal to have the
wedding day jitters there's.
There's so much pressure on youto look your best, feel your
best, do your best, be your bestfor the wedding day.
People put the pressure onthemselves to lose weight, they
put them the pressure onthemselves to do all of the DIYs
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in the world or, you know, tohave the nicest gifts for their
bridesmaids and Groomsmen, andall of that.
So it is normal to have thosewedding day jitters about your
dress and wanting to look reallygood, but If you're stressing
about it to the point where youyou already feel as though
you're going to have regret,that's different.
So I don't know.
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I think, also, you could go toone of those stores and you
could try on a few dresses andbe like you know what?
I don't look as good in thesedresses as the one that I have
at home, and I think, like, ifthat is what you need, to kind
of seal the deal for the dressthat you've already bought, it's
not a.
It's not wasting anybody's timeto go try on more dresses.
This is literally the one timethat you get to wear this
beautiful Dress that suits youexactly the way that it needs to
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.
It describes you as a bride.
You want to feel as comfortableas possible in it.
Go, try a different dress.
That's, that's my.
It's good to face.
It's good to face.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Go, try different dress, take advantage of it.
So if you're dwelling on it.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
What do I want to say if you're dwelling on it go, go
, attack that that's right, andif you need a list of places to
go, you can always reach out tome.
I have a full list ofsecondhand shops, floor model
shops, things like that, becauseI was looking at every single
one.
I'm happy to share.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
You heard it here.
Brooks, happy to share, I'mhappy to share.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
I want you to feel good in your dress.
I do.
I have a little bit of weddingdress regret and it's it's.
I was looking at this gorgeousdress.
It was like I think it was like55, that 55,000.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Oh my god, wow Whoa no.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
No, no, no, no, no.
Yeah, it was a diamond studdeddress, no um it was 500.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Yeah, I mean about your Bitcoin ventures here.
I need to know.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Yeah, it was like 5500 and I was like no way, like
not for one day, and I honestlylike, looking back, I I feel
like I looked great.
I'm not Super regretful, but ifI could do it over again, I
would have just bit the bulletand bought that dress, because I
ended up spending Just as muchin the other dresses anyway.
So, okay, next one.
That's here.
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I I broken, chris, help, hi, hi, help.
Two of my groomsmen have.
Two of the groomsmen in ourwedding have dropped out.
I'm a perfectionist and washoping for even numbers.
Do we add more guys?
Do we add our dads?
What do we do?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
help, well, First off , I've done so.
Take it with a grain of salt.
I've done plenty of weddings atthis point with an uneven
number and there's.
I almost Enjoy the challengeBecause there's different things
that you can do with an unevennumber versus the standard.
(22:27):
You know, even number on bothsides and that's just kind of
you know.
Is it nice and looks good?
Absolutely.
But what you can take advantageof when you have uneven numbers
is staggering and those.
I love those photos more andmore every time I take them.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
I like to do that even with the even numbers.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Yeah, exactly, I think.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
I think that looks better as a wedding party photo.
Then girls on one side and onecolor and the guys on one side
and one color, because a lot ofthe time where you're shooting
it might look a little uneven ifthe guys are in a really dark
color and the girls are reallylight color.
I don't know something abouttaking them and doing like every
other color is really nice oneof the challenges, too, is that
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you have to have.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You don't have to, but it's.
It's.
It's more noticeable toprobably us, but it's very
noticeable to me.
I noticed it sometimes afterthe fact that I'm like shit Is
that if the, if the ground isnot perfectly even and the, and
most of the time we're dealingwith locations that have these
nice little rolling I sayrolling hills it doesn't have to
be a lot, it could be a gentlehill and I'm looking for a spot
(23:26):
in the shade.
I'm looking for a spot that haseven lighting.
Pending the time.
Usually when we do this, youknow, let's just say it's
between the months of May andOctober.
You know, wedding party photos,generally speaking, are gonna
be somewhere between Two o'clockand five o'clock.
I mean that's no matter whichway you spin it, it's usually in
that range somewhere.
So this what I'm getting at theSun is out, the Sun is not on
(23:48):
the horizon, the Sun is high, soI need to find a good shady
spot, with the Sun potentiallyangled or behind, and I also
need it to be even ground, and Ialso need there to be not that
many distractions in thebackground, and there's a lot of
like Things to put together.
So, on this note of having thequestion being what do I do?
I'm concerned about not havingan even number.
(24:11):
I, chris vote is screw it.
Don't just add people.
To add people, do not thatpoint.
You're going away from thewhole theme of this podcast,
which is not that that mattersto your wedding day.
But you know, realism,everything is BS.
The concept is these are thepeople that you invited for a
reason.
So yeah, there are other peoplethat you feel are Up to those
(24:34):
standards and I always saystandards what are that
important in your life?
And they just you.
You didn't want to make youknow feelings uncomfortable.
You can go ahead and add whoyou think is appropriate, but
don't just add to add for anumber, that's a.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
But I do think though let's hear.
If there was anybody to add,the dads is a good idea.
Dads aren't going to bedropping out of your life the
way that a random friend thatyou are like, hey, can you just
fill this in?
I think I agree with you 100%.
Don't just add to add.
Your dads already have a prettybig role in this wedding day
and so you don't have to do thatAgain.
(25:11):
You can let go of theexpectation of having all of
your girls on one side, all ofthe guys on one side or all of
the colors on one side, and youcan let go of that expectation
and just do the stagger photo,which I always think looks
better.
Anyway, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
I think that looks awesome.
I enjoy it more.
Every time I shoot with it I'mlike, oh, I should have just did
this.
This looks great.
They look Because on top of ittoo, you can get everybody in
the frame a little bit betterinstead of just wide Right.
Yeah, Love it.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
I think if you are going to add anybody, if you are
a perfectionist to the max andyou need to do it, if you need
to do it because your brain justtells you I have five and he
needs five, then okay, I wouldgo, definitely with dads or a
family member, even like acousin or something like that.
But don't just add because youfeel like you have to If you
want to.
(26:00):
That's different.
Don't add because you feel likeyou need your photos to look
perfect, because, again, nothingis perfect.
Everything is fine.
I just had a wedding where agroomsman dropped out and it was
totally fine, totally fine.
Yeah, nobody, I don't want to.
Nobody missed them.
I don't know.
I didn't really hear about iton the day, but yeah, everything
(26:22):
was fine.
It's a rude mystery guy, yeah,so don't add just to add.
If you do have to add, addpeople who are actually
important to you and not just arandom friend to fill in the
group.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Easy as that.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Done, okay, lightning , lightning, all right.
Last one.
Hi, brooke and Chris, I have aquick question for you.
We're planning on having ourceremony and reception at two
different locations, with one totwo hours in between for photos
, but I'm worried about ourguests.
What will our guests do duringphoto time to ensure they don't
show up to the venue early?
Thanks, okay, I have a fewideas for this One.
(26:59):
It's so easy to tell yourguests to go to a bar, but
they're starting the drinkinglike very, very early and you
would hope that they would besuper respectful about drinking
before they even get to yourreception.
But some people aren't.
So I was thinking when I readthis.
I don't know if people do this,why not set up a wedding day
(27:21):
scavenger hunt?
Speaker 1 (27:23):
That would be fun, right, that could be cool.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
For your guests and you could have, like different
clues or whatever in differentplaces.
Let's say that there's a parkclose by to your venue or
something.
They could all be there.
You could have signs withrefreshments or something like
that where they can stop andactually like almost like play a
game together.
Let's go find this thing.
Then, when you get to the venue, whoever has a specific thing
(27:47):
wins a prize or something likethat, so that it keeps everybody
engaged.
Now, this is also verydependent on how many guests you
have coming.
I think that there could be anoption.
You could either visit this baror this spot for some quick
bites or something like thatbefore our reception, because
you probably don't want them tobe eating too much before they
(28:08):
get to your cocktail, or two,because they're going to be
eating during cocktail, or allof that.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
It could be a simple prize too.
It could be like everybody getsa slice of cake and then you,
the winner, gets like a veryspecial slice of cake that
literally the venue could justput like some syrup, whipped
cream and like a few things andjust write on it like winner or
something.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Or something just fun , or you could have like let's
say that you have 10 tables andyou have 10, you know, winning
cards.
Now each of those people get totake home your centerpiece.
You know like if you were gonnado something like, or the
florals from your centerpiece,or something like that or a
$55,000 wedding dress.
That could be the price to takethe dress right off the bride
and you win this right off myback.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah, so I think that that could be cool.
I would say that if you, ifyou're still in the early stages
of your planning, instead ofdoing the one to two hour
Complete gap, what you couldalso do at your venue, if they
allow it, is you could do anextended cocktail hour.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Yeah, you're doing yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
So you're doing basically all of your guests are
going straight to the cocktailhour and you get to do your
photos, but you still get toenjoy a little bit more at the
end.
So let's say that you wanted todo An hour and 30 minutes of
cocktail hour by the end of thatthat hour, which is usually
what I see.
I mean, usually what I need inbetween is an hour, and we
usually will split it up betweenfamily photos, bridal party
(29:33):
photos and then your portraits,because at the at the latter end
of the night, I usually takeyou out for some more portraits
as well.
But if you wanted to join forabout 30 minutes or I don't have
you ever seen a two hour longcocktail hour.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
Not two hours hour and a half.
I haven't seen two Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
I haven't seen two.
But if you're thinking you needthat full two hours, then maybe
you could just have your guestsstop somewhere for only a half
an hour.
So maybe, if you have, if youneed the full two hours, what
I'm trying to say I'm trying tomake this as not confusing as
possible is you can send your,you can tell your guests, you
can visit this bar on the way,or something like that, to grab
(30:10):
a quick drink.
You have a half hour, or youhave a half hour travel time too
.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Yeah, there's that there's, there's that, or I like
the idea to have, just simply,it's almost like Like on our,
our conference page, and mysticfor lens and light.
We have the you know, explore,mystic, and here are the yes
that you can do here, thedirections, and you know.
This is what this place is likeand instead of just providing
the link you could on yourwedding website, just take the
time and you don't even taketime just use chat, gpt.
(30:38):
It's super easy and just saywrite this in a casual, you know
fun way and just explainingwhat this is, and it Done pops
it out right.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
So, like or like, take the scenic route to our
venue.
Yep, you know like, and youcould kind of like have them
stop at different places alongthe way, depending on where
you're getting married,obviously and then, if they
don't want to do that, they cango to a bar or I've once been a
guest.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
It was years ago, but the bunch of us it was a
co-workers in a wedding inWisconsin and we went to a
bowling alley.
Like we had enough time to playa game of polling that is so
fun, yeah, you dressed up a tire, which was really funny,
because it's not.
You know, you're not gonna getdirty playing, you know doing
bowling, so it was just, we just, or sweaty shoes.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, yeah, it's fine .
Yeah, no, I think that's great.
There are a lot of differentoptions, but I don't.
I don't think you need tonecessarily worry about your
guests being Bored or anythinglike that.
Their adults, they can takecare of themselves.
I think if you wanted to providesome Ideas of where you could
stop.
You could definitely put on,even have like an extra card to
put in your invitations.
(31:38):
Like you know, there will be agap between the ceremony and
reception.
You're welcome to go to thisplace, this place, this place of
this.
I think that the the scavengerhunt would be cool.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
I like the scavenger.
Yeah, I know now.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
I'm thinking like if you had let's say that you had
ten different tables and you youhad ten different locations
that people could go to, rightand like if let's say that, like
a group of you know Workfriends, go to one specific bar
and they say we're from exwedding.
They told us.
(32:12):
And then you left somethinglike a little card at the bar to
give to them, so they won thatone and then if somebody and if
somebody doesn't go to one ofthe locations, who cares?
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Okay, not a big deal.
You get to go home with theflowers, right?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
But don't stress it because I feel like a lot of
people, a lot of guests anyway,they they understand, they know
the bride and the groom aretrying to take care of a lot on
the wedding day and if they'vebeen to any weddings at all they
know like the day doesn'trevolve around them.
It's nice if they are takeninto consideration, but you know
a wedding day is long foreverybody and it's okay, like
(32:46):
get your photos.
Don't feel stressed, you're allgood, your guests are humans
and their adults and they'llfigure it out.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
That's it.
They're adults, they can figureit out.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
So I love these lightning rounds I want to do so
many more of these.
So keep sending your questions,because I, I do, I like these.
I'd like to almost have like aregular Podcast episode and then
one with these lightning roundquestions so that you guys can
answer or you guys can askwhatever you want and we can
answer them very quickly for you.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
Yeah, these are fun like you're fun all about.
I mean, obviously I'm all aboutthe lightning.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
All right, that's all I got that's it, bro.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
All right, I'll talk to you next time next week.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Oh wait, if you if you liked this, you can rate,
review and subscribe.
If you didn't like it, youdon't have to bother, no worries
.
That's keep on moving.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Easy as that.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
Okay, have a good week.
Bye guys, bye you.
Hi Hi.
So, we are in September, brooke, we have moved into September
and I love this question becausethere's got to be like a
terminology for this and itdepends on what time of the year
you ask a question and, basedon when you ask it, you might
(00:20):
get a different answer from thesame person who thinks they have
that stuck opinion.
So question where am I goingwith this?
This sounds confusing.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah, it was like what question are you talking
about?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Yeah, a lot of dremel here.
So the question being are youready for, and love, autumn, or
do you want to hang on to Summera bit?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh, come on.
Oh, I know your answer.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
I know your answer and I know a lot of people have
just straight up yeah, autumn,no doubt, like Autumn, is their
favorite time of the year.
But there's some people inbetween where, if you ask them,
if I ask that question earlyJune, after a cold May and a
cold winter, their answer may bedifferent.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I definitely find that You're like no, I don't
even want to think about Autumn.
I'm ready for Sunshine PartySummer, like here we go.
But you ask it after a reallyhumid summer, really rainy, and
really the first part of summerwas smoky, not something that we
thought we would have to dealwith.
But now you ask that questionand people are, like you know,
(01:26):
screw Summer.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
How long did that smoke thing span?
Like I don't think I whenyou're living in it you don't
realize how long it's been goingfor.
But like if you had to put likea, was it like smoky for a
month?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
It wasn't smoky for the entire month.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
OK.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
There were portions of June that we just had
multiple times where it was justlike smoky day.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
There was a single week in June and I want to say
it was the first week of June orlike the middle, somewhere
between like the first and theeighth, because I remember Kelly
and I, for anniversary, went toBlock Island and that weekend
was the tail end of that.
We were concerned that we wouldstill see some smoke in Block
Island and we really didn'tRight.
(02:09):
So that was the tail end ofthat.
But that week beforehand it wasI will never forget midday and
the light coming through thewindow was like I have no other
way to describe it other thanlike it looked like a street
light, like an orange old bulbstreet light was just in my
house.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It was such a weird color.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
No, it was super eerie.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Yeah, it was eerie and it smelled and it really did
.
You went outside and you werelike I'm not sure if I should be
breathing this.
Like it's you know this can'tbe good.
Like, if I can smell it, itmeans that they're you know I'm
breathing it.
So yeah, so ultimately thequestion summer or autumn?
We have no doubt, brooke, thatyou are spooky.
I mean, literally August 31st,your polls are out.
(02:55):
Like who's ready for spookyseason.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Hell yeah, love it.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, did you get any decorations?
I saw you post the other daytoo about you were like maybe
this is a little over the top,and it's when you go to walk
into Home Depot or Lowe's andthey got the giant inflatables.
Yes, yes, Are you about them?
You about the inflatables.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
No, no, I'm not.
I've never really neither of myparents.
Neither house was like aninflatable house, but I think
it's cute.
I don't hate on it.
It's just not really my thing.
I like when my version ofspooky is like almost your
normal decor, with just a touchof creep.
(03:34):
So like having the big blow upin the front.
It's like very kiddish kind of.
I like when people are like ooh, that's kind of spooky.
Yeah, have you ever seen thefigurines that they make out of
the chicken wire?
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I can't like picture it in my head.
I mean, I'm sure I have, but Ican't picture it.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
They basically take chicken wire and they make it
look like a human and they makeit look like a woman in a dress
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Oh, I think they have it.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, and it's so funny because you can't really
see it until you move in theyard a little bit.
And if you walk around it youcan totally see the outline of
it, but otherwise, if you werejust standing there or like took
a picture, you would never beable to see it.
That's kind of the stuff thatI'm like like when it takes a
second for it to hit, like thoseare my favorite types of
(04:26):
decorations.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Hey, and you are the person I'm going to go to with
questions for decorations,because you've got that on the
lock.
So especially your custom onesLove it.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Oh yeah, the eyeballs on the plants always makes my
day when I see those pop up inthe stories.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
So my bride this weekend is like a Halloween
enthusiast and she was like I'vebeen seeing all your DIYs, girl
.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
No, I love it.
She actually.
It was so funny.
I walked in and the balloonsaid till death, do us party.
And they had a skeleton balloontoo.
So I know she's like, you know,she's like a little creepy.
So I had her dress hanging andthen in the mirror it was
reflecting the skeleton.
I was like oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Love it, yeah, love it, yeah.
So you're, yeah, you get ampedup about that.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm team Autumn you know, I'm team Spooky Season
Because right after that comescold season and there's
something about like as much asI love Halloween, christmas is
like that's the top for me.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
That's the top time of the year.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
I love it so much.
It's not even really about likeyeah, when I was a kid I was
like gifts.
Now it's kind of I feel likethe whole world kind of.
Well, not the whole world, butat least in my general vicinity
around Christmas.
Yeah, I feel like everybody isa little bit more loving, a
little bit more giving a little.
You know, it's just.
(05:47):
There's the spirit of theseason and I feel like it's a
good vibe.
Yeah, the lights and all ofthat.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I go just as hard for Christmas, if not harder than
Halloween.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
That's awesome.
Yeah, there's an exciting time,pretty much like for me, once
we hit like mid-October through,you know, january.
Just like it's just a straight,like just a good time.
I just love that, love thatwhole time period.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
So you're going to have to buy some more decor now
that you have that big old room.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I know we were just talking about that yesterday.
What do you?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
guys do.
How do you set up for Halloween?
I don't think we've everdiscussed that.
You've seen all of my shitbecause it's been up for like
two months.
I know.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
So we have, like we have a bunch of stuff especially
and it's a lot of it's similar,because it's stuff that Kelly
decorated with years ago andthen we just, you know, take it
out and she'll do some slightadjustments here and there in
the house, but she's definitelygot all that stuff.
I mean it's.
We usually decorate forHalloween like in our house,
probably like a week or twobefore Halloween.
(06:48):
It's up for a least I know why.
It's such a short amount of timeand I don't really know why,
other than Waste of time, I know.
I don't know we have.
I'm trying to think, if we havelike, so we have autumn
decorations.
I'm trying to think, if we have, we do, we have.
We have like, you know, likeswitching out the pillows and
certain things like that, thethrow pillows and there's a few
(07:10):
other things that it thatadjusts, but the hollow, the
Halloween stuff is, I don't wantto say it's minimal, but it's
definitely a little bit moreminimal than the, obviously,
though, like the holidayChristmas decorations that we
have, that that's a full-out.
Like you know, the mantlechanges.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
You're gonna get a big tree this year.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I know I got a.
Literally as we're saying this,I'm like crap.
I should be putting away likeJust a little piece of money
just for this tree that we gottabuy and, honestly, only a few
weeks, so it's not that long.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
What um right?
Do you go real or do you gofake?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
We go fake.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Okay, we go easier.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, it's just it's.
I Like I know the.
You know a lot of people haveto, but we I didn't grow up I
didn't grow up with thetradition of going to cut a tree
, so like I understand thatthat's got nostalgia for people
that do that and they.
Yeah but it's such a pain inthe ass.
Like yeah it's a fire hazardlike that's, it's a big fire
hazard, that's my big thing.
(08:05):
Absolutely.
I don't have to think aboutthat.
No, I'm good with the tree,that we got it worked.
It holds, the decorations looksgood.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Then you get a little scented.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
You know the pine sense.
That was really cool.
Kelly found that a few yearsago.
They're like little tiny sticksand you hide them in the tree
and you walk by and it smellslike pine tree.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Great, I have those two.
Hey, listen, I bought.
When we first moved into thishouse I was like, oh my god,
like cut the ideal sailings andI bought a nine footer and Since
then I have bought differenttrees because it just felt like
it was taking up so much of myhouse.
So if you end up looking for anine footer, I might have one
available for you, that's reallygood to know give it to you at
(08:41):
a discount because you're notusing it.
Yeah, I mean, we Usually I'llput it up in, like the loft now,
because it's the highest pointand it's not taking up all of
our space, but like then theloft is like unusable.
So yeah, so once we're donewith like putting and you know
I'm gonna be putting up ourdecorations on November 1st- so,
you'll have some time.
If I'm not using it, I'lldefinitely let you know.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Yeah, just let me know You're actively listening
to a bartering conversation here.
Fantastic, yeah, cuz.
We haven't even.
Yeah, it's Cuz we're not.
Let me say this very carefullywe're not done with that room
done.
Being like you know, is there tome.
In my eyes, is there gonna be aperfect day where it's like we
(09:23):
did everything in this room,it's perfect and now we can sit?
And it's like no, because bythe time I'm sure we actually
finish Whatever thing.
That we're saying that we'regonna finish, something else is
gonna need adjustment or change.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So every project has a little project that follows
every single one, always, always, yeah.
So there's.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
There's a lot of, though, I mean.
So it's basically complete,like it's a livable space.
It's got just about everythingthat we need in there.
Um, just a few small things,like you know.
We want to hang up the TV onthe wall.
We haven't done that yet.
We got to do back splash.
That's the probably the nextbig one, and then the bathroom
in that room there's a bathroomaround the corner that has to be
finished.
That's the big one, thebathroom.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
So I bet it's gonna feel so cozy around Christmas
for you.
Oh, I'm so excited in that newroom with your fireplace.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Yeah, so we didn't, are you gonna?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
host like a Christmas party for your families and
stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm sure we'll do something.
Yeah, that's for sure.
And uh, yeah, we're superexcited.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I love it.
Well, whenever you do end updecorating, I want to see.
I want to see what you gotgoing on, you know obviously I'm
gonna share this with you.
I know you'll appreciate it, sowe'll just have you yeah, and
then Me yeah, okay it'll be anevent.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
It'll be fantastic.
Okay, perfect and the other Bigreason that I love.
So two reasons, two reasonsthat I love this the change into
the seasons.
A I'm not a Autumn fanatic, butwhat I am is a I like I
appreciate the change of seasons.
I look forward to the nextthing.
So I'm just about there now.
I'm like alright, I'm prettylike humidied out.
(10:53):
I'm looking for a nice cool,dry day.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I'm ready to try this last week.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I know it's been brutal, brutal humidity this
year and I'll transition to that, but I love.
Then we head into the you knowas you just grab the holidays
and all the.
You.
I love that stuff with thecheery vibe and such.
But the dirty side of me,weather forecasting in the
summer, is boring.
It's the same thing I don't evenlook at the models every day.
(11:19):
I just, you know, I do somebasic looks.
It gets exciting once we hitlike mid to the end of October.
That's when I start lookingdaily, twice a day.
There's a total routine.
With my cup of coffee in themorning, I'm getting amped up.
I'm looking for.
You know what I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
So that's right, I'm looking for something exciting
in that model.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
So last year was abysmal.
It was horrible, horrible year.
I just I and that was last yearmight've been the first year
that I think I stopped actuallylooking daily at at weather
models as part of my routine andI was like this is just trashed
Every day's trash.
We had no snow last year andlet me take that back.
There was a single snowstormthat barely put down five inches
(12:02):
of snow and it was the one.
Trip Kelly and I were not here.
We left and I was like I justlaughed.
I was like that's that figures,but it's fine.
But you know, moving on andthen and then remember saying
out loud so I apologize toeverybody, it's my fault saying
well, at least I'm ready to lookforward to this summer.
And then June came and was justtrash.
Again, it was just trash, so ohso it's your fault.
(12:25):
It's always my fault.
I just I put it out into theatmosphere and to the world and
it listens.
So I should be careful withthat.
So let's talk about questions.
Let's talk about questions.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
From the people.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
So we've been asking for questions for a little bit
and we are going to do alightning round of three
questions today.
We're going to answer three ofyour questions.
So if you have questions aboutyour wedding that you know you
are trying to figure out, ifyou're trying to figure out the
logistics, if you have, like anemotional question, if you have
a wedding, anything aboutweddings, I've got my new
(13:07):
co-host here with me.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Fuzzy co-host.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
That's right.
So I've written down three ofyour questions in my notes to
address them today, and ifyou're ready, let's give it a go
.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Let's give it a go.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
All right, let's hope I can read.
Woo, I haven't been sleepingvery well so I'm like a little
delirious.
Hi, brooke and Chris, quickwedding question for you.
I have major wedding dressregret.
My wedding is in a few weeksand I'm so nervous about my
photos and what my dress willlook like.
How do I work through this?
Is this normal wedding jittersfrom the pressure of finding the
(13:41):
perfect dress for the perfectday?
Thanks, so.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yes.
So I actually struggled withthis like a lot.
I struggled with this so muchthat I would know Good a
personal story.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Let's hear it.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I looked for a dress that was.
I wanted it to be different,like I wanted it to be sounds,
so I wanted it to be different.
I wanted it to be different thanwhat I normally would wear.
I wanted for people to be kindof like surprised in what they
saw me in on the day.
I didn't want them to.
I didn't want to wear whatpeople expected me to wear, and
(14:20):
so I went to a shop and I foundsomething that I felt like it
fit me really well and I feltlike it was something that
people would not expect of me,and especially not during a
freezing October wedding, whichI'm so stupid for.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
That's stupid.
It's just a risk that somepeople forget about that.
It can happen.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
A pretty severe risk.
It can happen.
It can happen, yeah with an alloutdoor wedding.
It was a pretty severe risk onmy end, but I felt like I fell
in love with this dress andwhatever.
What I didn't realize is thatwhen they were, when I was
trying on the dress, the reasonthat I felt that it fit me so
well was actually because of theclips that they put in the back
and not necessarily it wasn'tthe way it would look when it
(15:05):
was tailored and I didn'tunderstand that, because it had
two straps in the back and thenbasically what they do is
they'll tie a string around thestraps to pull it in and to
really like kind of like suck inlike your areas.
And when I got the dress andthere was no string pulling it
and I could have had somebody,but I wanted an open back dress,
(15:27):
that's what I wanted.
And I got that dress tailored.
Even after I was like, forwhatever reason, I got it in the
mail and I was like I can fixthis, like I can do this.
So I went and I had it tailoredand then I bought sleeves for
it because I wasn't happy withthe way it was tailored and then
I tried to buy different likeunder, like the undergarments
for it, and nothing was makingit look the way that it looked
(15:50):
in the store, and I was besidemyself.
I was like what did I do?
Why did I do this?
Why do I keep spending money onaccessories that don't even go
with this dress to try to makeit work Like I'm Queen DIY, but
like a wedding dress is like youknow, it's a little much.
That's a little much.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You've got the experience which would be really
specific.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
So, after literal months of me being like I don't
know how to make this work, Ifinally made an appointment with
a local shop a few local shopsactually.
I went to secondhand shops.
I went to Covet Bridal, whichis it's Everdine Bridal's sister
store, but it's all of theirfloor models.
So I went to go look at otherdresses because I was just like
(16:36):
I don't.
I literally don't know what todo, and it made me feel so much
better to be trying on otherdresses.
I will say if you're lookingfor your dress and you're just
starting, don't have theemotional reaction of, okay, I
love this dress and now I needto buy it.
You need to go home, you needto think about it, you need to
sit on it.
I thought I sat on it for along enough.
(16:57):
I didn't.
And even my second dress, whichwas beautiful, walking away from
my wedding day I understand thewedding dress regret, because I
do have some.
Even with the wedding dress thatI picked the second time, I
felt like I spent more moneythan I would have if I had just
ordered the original dress thatI really, really wanted from the
beginning, instead of trying tosave money.
(17:20):
So what I'll say is if you thinkyou might have wedding dress
regret after the day, I wouldurge you to splurge on the dress
that you really really actuallywant, even if it's gonna be a
$5,000 dress.
It is the one day that you getto dress up and do this thing
Like this, is the one time, andno one's telling you that you
(17:41):
can't buy a dress and then gomodel it in a field somewhere.
But if you don't think thatthat dress is going to be
something that you're happy withliterally forever, then, yeah,
you need to go get a differentdress and you can try to find a
secondhand dress.
You can try to find a dressthat has been, you know, a floor
model.
There are a lot of differentoptions.
(18:01):
But if you think at this point,with your wedding being a few
weeks away, that you're gonnahave wedding dress regret, then
you need to go and explore otheroptions, and there are tailors
that can take care of it very,very quickly.
You might be paying a prettypenny for it, but I would.
I would urge you to do thatrather than get your photos back
and have serious regret.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Yeah, that's.
There's the way that I wouldshape this too.
Is there's already a millionthings to be potentially
stressing about on a wedding day?
There's just so many.
There's so many pieces to theday that that Need so much help
in different areas.
One of them you can control.
So if you're unhappy with it,you know whatever it is, you
(18:42):
know and you're dwelling on it,you should probably take trying
to care of that.
Yeah, cuz you can.
That's the point, is the booksaying.
Is that you have that option?
Is it potentially gonna costyou?
Yeah, but Not knowing anything.
Or I shouldn't say not knowinganything, but not being the one
here who should have a strongopinion about, specifically, the
wedding dress, I can tell youhow important it is to make sure
(19:06):
that you're happy with whateverit is that you're doing on the
day and if you can control it,take Control, they control the
situation.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Do you see my zoo right now?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
I do, I love it.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
So all my animals are just walking through.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
I love it too, because they're just like
they're just walking indifferent directions, just kind
of don't mind me the street yeah.
All three gremlin, cricket andBrooke.
I know to answer the second.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I am part of the zoo.
Oh, no, no, I'm part of the zoo, no, but to answer your second
question, I do think, though,that it is normal to have the
wedding day jitters there's.
There's so much pressure on youto look your best, feel your
best, do your best, be your bestfor the wedding day.
People put the pressure onthemselves to lose weight, they
put them the pressure onthemselves to do all of the DIYs
(19:50):
in the world or, you know, tohave the nicest gifts for their
bridesmaids and Groomsmen, andall of that.
So it is normal to have thosewedding day jitters about your
dress and wanting to look reallygood, but If you're stressing
about it to the point where youyou already feel as though
you're going to have regret,that's different.
So I don't know.
(20:11):
I think, also, you could go toone of those stores and you
could try on a few dresses andbe like you know what?
I don't look as good in thesedresses as the one that I have
at home, and I think, like, ifthat is what you need, to kind
of seal the deal for the dressthat you've already bought, it's
not a.
It's not wasting anybody's timeto go try on more dresses.
This is literally the one timethat you get to wear this
beautiful Dress that suits youexactly the way that it needs to
(20:35):
.
It describes you as a bride.
You want to feel as comfortableas possible in it.
Go, try a different dress.
That's, that's my.
It's good to face.
It's good to face.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Go, try different dress, take advantage of it.
So if you're dwelling on it.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
What do I want to say if you're dwelling on it go, go
, attack that that's right, andif you need a list of places to
go, you can always reach out tome.
I have a full list ofsecondhand shops, floor model
shops, things like that, becauseI was looking at every single
one.
I'm happy to share.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
You heard it here.
Brooks, happy to share, I'mhappy to share.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
I want you to feel good in your dress.
I do.
I have a little bit of weddingdress regret and it's it's.
I was looking at this gorgeousdress.
It was like I think it was like55, that 55,000.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Oh my god, wow Whoa no.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
No, no, no, no, no.
Yeah, it was a diamond studdeddress, no um it was 500.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Yeah, I mean about your Bitcoin ventures here.
I need to know.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Yeah, it was like 5500 and I was like no way, like
not for one day, and I honestlylike, looking back, I I feel
like I looked great.
I'm not Super regretful, but ifI could do it over again, I
would have just bit the bulletand bought that dress, because I
ended up spending Just as muchin the other dresses anyway.
So, okay, next one.
That's here.
(21:54):
I I broken, chris, help, hi, hi, help.
Two of my groomsmen have.
Two of the groomsmen in ourwedding have dropped out.
I'm a perfectionist and washoping for even numbers.
Do we add more guys?
Do we add our dads?
What do we do?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
help, well, First off , I've done so.
Take it with a grain of salt.
I've done plenty of weddings atthis point with an uneven
number and there's.
I almost Enjoy the challengeBecause there's different things
that you can do with an unevennumber versus the standard.
(22:27):
You know, even number on bothsides and that's just kind of
you know.
Is it nice and looks good?
Absolutely.
But what you can take advantageof when you have uneven numbers
is staggering and those.
I love those photos more andmore every time I take them.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
I like to do that even with the even numbers.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Yeah, exactly, I think.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
I think that looks better as a wedding party photo.
Then girls on one side and onecolor and the guys on one side
and one color, because a lot ofthe time where you're shooting
it might look a little uneven ifthe guys are in a really dark
color and the girls are reallylight color.
I don't know something abouttaking them and doing like every
other color is really nice oneof the challenges, too, is that
(23:03):
you have to have.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You don't have to, but it's.
It's.
It's more noticeable toprobably us, but it's very
noticeable to me.
I noticed it sometimes afterthe fact that I'm like shit Is
that if the, if the ground isnot perfectly even and the, and
most of the time we're dealingwith locations that have these
nice little rolling I sayrolling hills it doesn't have to
be a lot, it could be a gentlehill and I'm looking for a spot
(23:26):
in the shade.
I'm looking for a spot that haseven lighting.
Pending the time.
Usually when we do this, youknow, let's just say it's
between the months of May andOctober.
You know, wedding party photos,generally speaking, are gonna
be somewhere between Two o'clockand five o'clock.
I mean that's no matter whichway you spin it, it's usually in
that range somewhere.
So this what I'm getting at theSun is out, the Sun is not on
(23:48):
the horizon, the Sun is high, soI need to find a good shady
spot, with the Sun potentiallyangled or behind, and I also
need it to be even ground, and Ialso need there to be not that
many distractions in thebackground, and there's a lot of
like Things to put together.
So, on this note of having thequestion being what do I do?
I'm concerned about not havingan even number.
(24:11):
I, chris vote is screw it.
Don't just add people.
To add people, do not thatpoint.
You're going away from thewhole theme of this podcast,
which is not that that mattersto your wedding day.
But you know, realism,everything is BS.
The concept is these are thepeople that you invited for a
reason.
So yeah, there are other peoplethat you feel are Up to those
(24:34):
standards and I always saystandards what are that
important in your life?
And they just you.
You didn't want to make youknow feelings uncomfortable.
You can go ahead and add whoyou think is appropriate, but
don't just add to add for anumber, that's a.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
But I do think though let's hear.
If there was anybody to add,the dads is a good idea.
Dads aren't going to bedropping out of your life the
way that a random friend thatyou are like, hey, can you just
fill this in?
I think I agree with you 100%.
Don't just add to add.
Your dads already have a prettybig role in this wedding day
and so you don't have to do thatAgain.
(25:11):
You can let go of theexpectation of having all of
your girls on one side, all ofthe guys on one side or all of
the colors on one side, and youcan let go of that expectation
and just do the stagger photo,which I always think looks
better.
Anyway, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
I think that looks awesome.
I enjoy it more.
Every time I shoot with it I'mlike, oh, I should have just did
this.
This looks great.
They look Because on top of ittoo, you can get everybody in
the frame a little bit betterinstead of just wide Right.
Yeah, Love it.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
I think if you are going to add anybody, if you are
a perfectionist to the max andyou need to do it, if you need
to do it because your brain justtells you I have five and he
needs five, then okay, I wouldgo, definitely with dads or a
family member, even like acousin or something like that.
But don't just add because youfeel like you have to If you
want to.
(26:00):
That's different.
Don't add because you feel likeyou need your photos to look
perfect, because, again, nothingis perfect.
Everything is fine.
I just had a wedding where agroomsman dropped out and it was
totally fine, totally fine.
Yeah, nobody, I don't want to.
Nobody missed them.
I don't know.
I didn't really hear about iton the day, but yeah, everything
(26:22):
was fine.
It's a rude mystery guy, yeah,so don't add just to add.
If you do have to add, addpeople who are actually
important to you and not just arandom friend to fill in the
group.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Easy as that.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Done, okay, lightning , lightning, all right.
Last one.
Hi, brooke and Chris, I have aquick question for you.
We're planning on having ourceremony and reception at two
different locations, with one totwo hours in between for photos
, but I'm worried about ourguests.
What will our guests do duringphoto time to ensure they don't
show up to the venue early?
Thanks, okay, I have a fewideas for this One.
(26:59):
It's so easy to tell yourguests to go to a bar, but
they're starting the drinkinglike very, very early and you
would hope that they would besuper respectful about drinking
before they even get to yourreception.
But some people aren't.
So I was thinking when I readthis.
I don't know if people do this,why not set up a wedding day
(27:21):
scavenger hunt?
Speaker 1 (27:23):
That would be fun, right, that could be cool.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
For your guests and you could have, like different
clues or whatever in differentplaces.
Let's say that there's a parkclose by to your venue or
something.
They could all be there.
You could have signs withrefreshments or something like
that where they can stop andactually like almost like play a
game together.
Let's go find this thing.
Then, when you get to the venue, whoever has a specific thing
(27:47):
wins a prize or something likethat, so that it keeps everybody
engaged.
Now, this is also verydependent on how many guests you
have coming.
I think that there could be anoption.
You could either visit this baror this spot for some quick
bites or something like thatbefore our reception, because
you probably don't want them tobe eating too much before they
(28:08):
get to your cocktail, or two,because they're going to be
eating during cocktail, or allof that.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
It could be a simple prize too.
It could be like everybody getsa slice of cake and then you,
the winner, gets like a veryspecial slice of cake that
literally the venue could justput like some syrup, whipped
cream and like a few things andjust write on it like winner or
something.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Or something just fun , or you could have like let's
say that you have 10 tables andyou have 10, you know, winning
cards.
Now each of those people get totake home your centerpiece.
You know like if you were gonnado something like, or the
florals from your centerpiece,or something like that or a
$55,000 wedding dress.
That could be the price to takethe dress right off the bride
and you win this right off myback.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah, so I think that that could be cool.
I would say that if you, ifyou're still in the early stages
of your planning, instead ofdoing the one to two hour
Complete gap, what you couldalso do at your venue, if they
allow it, is you could do anextended cocktail hour.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Yeah, you're doing yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
So you're doing basically all of your guests are
going straight to the cocktailhour and you get to do your
photos, but you still get toenjoy a little bit more at the
end.
So let's say that you wanted todo An hour and 30 minutes of
cocktail hour by the end of thatthat hour, which is usually
what I see.
I mean, usually what I need inbetween is an hour, and we
usually will split it up betweenfamily photos, bridal party
(29:33):
photos and then your portraits,because at the at the latter end
of the night, I usually takeyou out for some more portraits
as well.
But if you wanted to join forabout 30 minutes or I don't have
you ever seen a two hour longcocktail hour.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
Not two hours hour and a half.
I haven't seen two Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
I haven't seen two.
But if you're thinking you needthat full two hours, then maybe
you could just have your guestsstop somewhere for only a half
an hour.
So maybe, if you have, if youneed the full two hours, what
I'm trying to say I'm trying tomake this as not confusing as
possible is you can send your,you can tell your guests, you
can visit this bar on the way,or something like that, to grab
(30:10):
a quick drink.
You have a half hour, or youhave a half hour travel time too
.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Yeah, there's that there's, there's that, or I like
the idea to have, just simply,it's almost like Like on our,
our conference page, and mysticfor lens and light.
We have the you know, explore,mystic, and here are the yes
that you can do here, thedirections, and you know.
This is what this place is likeand instead of just providing
the link you could on yourwedding website, just take the
time and you don't even taketime just use chat, gpt.
(30:38):
It's super easy and just saywrite this in a casual, you know
fun way and just explainingwhat this is, and it Done pops
it out right.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
So, like or like, take the scenic route to our
venue.
Yep, you know like, and youcould kind of like have them
stop at different places alongthe way, depending on where
you're getting married,obviously and then, if they
don't want to do that, they cango to a bar or I've once been a
guest.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
It was years ago, but the bunch of us it was a
co-workers in a wedding inWisconsin and we went to a
bowling alley.
Like we had enough time to playa game of polling that is so
fun, yeah, you dressed up a tire, which was really funny,
because it's not.
You know, you're not gonna getdirty playing, you know doing
bowling, so it was just, we just, or sweaty shoes.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, yeah, it's fine .
Yeah, no, I think that's great.
There are a lot of differentoptions, but I don't.
I don't think you need tonecessarily worry about your
guests being Bored or anythinglike that.
Their adults, they can takecare of themselves.
I think if you wanted to providesome Ideas of where you could
stop.
You could definitely put on,even have like an extra card to
put in your invitations.
(31:38):
Like you know, there will be agap between the ceremony and
reception.
You're welcome to go to thisplace, this place, this place of
this.
I think that the the scavengerhunt would be cool.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
I like the scavenger.
Yeah, I know now.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
I'm thinking like if you had let's say that you had
ten different tables and you youhad ten different locations
that people could go to, rightand like if let's say that, like
a group of you know Workfriends, go to one specific bar
and they say we're from exwedding.
They told us.
(32:12):
And then you left somethinglike a little card at the bar to
give to them, so they won thatone and then if somebody and if
somebody doesn't go to one ofthe locations, who cares?
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Okay, not a big deal.
You get to go home with theflowers, right?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
But don't stress it because I feel like a lot of
people, a lot of guests anyway,they they understand, they know
the bride and the groom aretrying to take care of a lot on
the wedding day and if they'vebeen to any weddings at all they
know like the day doesn'trevolve around them.
It's nice if they are takeninto consideration, but you know
a wedding day is long foreverybody and it's okay, like
(32:46):
get your photos.
Don't feel stressed, you're allgood, your guests are humans
and their adults and they'llfigure it out.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
That's it.
They're adults, they can figureit out.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
So I love these lightning rounds I want to do so
many more of these.
So keep sending your questions,because I, I do, I like these.
I'd like to almost have like aregular Podcast episode and then
one with these lightning roundquestions so that you guys can
answer or you guys can askwhatever you want and we can
answer them very quickly for you.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
Yeah, these are fun like you're fun all about.
I mean, obviously I'm all aboutthe lightning.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
All right, that's all I got that's it, bro.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
All right, I'll talk to you next time next week.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Oh wait, if you if you liked this, you can rate,
review and subscribe.
If you didn't like it, youdon't have to bother, no worries
.
That's keep on moving.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Easy as that.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
Okay, have a good week.
Bye guys, bye you.
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