She’s renaming the moral and political architecture that protects it.
She dismantles:
Silence as safety
Strength as suppression
Healing as isolation
And replaces them with:
Voice as birthright
Co-regulation as repair
Justice as embodied integrity
“Your voice isn’t too much. It’s exactly what was missing.
And it’s time to speak — even if your voice shakes, even if no one taught you how.”
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“Silence is not just absence. Silence is the mechanism by which trauma survives.”
Ana reframes silence as complicity, disconnection, and a system of harm — not emotional maturity or grace.
“If you were able to talk, you would be able to process what happened to you.”
PTSD isn’t just from pain — it’s from being denied the right to speak about pain.
“When someone has no voice and no movement, we know they have trauma.”
Body shutdown isn’t weakness — it’s survival adaptation.
“Feeling confused all the time is a trauma state.”
When someone rewrites your truth, you lose the ability to trust your instincts.
“Notice how silence was the fertilizer of your trauma and how it was cultivated and passed down.”
Silence isn’t neutral — it’s a behavior passed down like inheritance.
“Spiritual bypassing is not grace. It’s abuse in white gloves.”
Ana critiques how “love and light” language is often used to silence survivors.
“You are dysregulated because you were silenced.”
This quote shifts blame off the survivor and onto the structures that failed them.
Ana outlines a somatic, embodied roadmap:
Safe relational witness
“Someone to say: Your experience was real.”
Co-regulation during grief
“Grief needs to be met in the body, not solved by the mind.”
Time and space to integrate
“The body takes 7x longer than the brain to integrate.”
Loyalty cultures: “Don’t speak. He’s still your father.”
Silencing systems: “Don’t be dramatic. We don’t talk about that here.”
Spiritual industries: “It’s for the higher good. Your trauma is your gift.”
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