March 13, 2025 • 24 mins
Episode 132 - Finding Your Bold and Confident Voice
In this episode of the Faith and Family Filmmakers podcast, Jaclyn welcomes back Julia Langley for part two of their interview. Julia introduces her community, Bold and Confident Voices, which aims to elevate people's confidence and vocal abilities through group training sessions and self-paced courses. Julia also shares her personal journey of overcoming a severe accident and PTSD, and how it led her to expand her coaching to a global scale. The discussion highlights the importance of confident communication in various aspects of life, from job interviews to pitching, and emphasizes the value of perseverance and faith in achieving one's goals.
- Welcome and Introduction
- Bold and Confident Voices
- Weekly Vocal Training Sessions
- New Course for Speakers
- Importance of Confidence in Communication
- Personal Transformation Stories
- Confidence when Pitching
- Julia's Life-Changing Accident
- Expanding Beyond Vocal Technique
- Choosing Your Words
- Keep Moving Forward
- Find Julia's New Course for Speakers
Bio:
Julia Langley helps ambitious performers learn how to use their voice more boldly and confidently. With over 15 years as a featured singer for Cirque du Soleil she has performed on stages in over 20 different countries and all 50 States.
In 2019, she was hit by a jeep while riding her bicycle leaving her with injuries that changed her life forever. Four surgeries later and a diagnosis of PTSD, Julia started from ground zero, and with courage and resilience got her life back on track. She believes she was given a second chance and has dedicated herself to empower others to share their story and truly be the force they were born to be in this world.
Julia’s Online Community: https://www.skool.com/bold-and-confident-voices-9012/about
Julia on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com
Julia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cirquesingerjules/
Julia on Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/cirquesingerjules
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Jaclyn (00:00):
Welcome to the Faith and Family Filmmakers podcast.
My name is Jaclyn, and todayI'm with Julia Langley for part two of our interview.
And at the end of the last interview,we were actually talking about a community that she has built, and I wanna learn more about that and the different things that she does.
So let's dive in.
So Julia, can you tell me more aboutthis community that you have on school?
(00:23):
Remind me again what it's called.
Julia (00:24):
It's called Bold and Confident Voices.
Yes, and I, you know what?
I love it.
It's kind.
Kind of like my, my baby here becauseit's been something I I'd wanted to do for a long time to really bring people together and to give them the opportunity to participate in all kinds of things that will really take their voice, not just their voice, but their whole persona and their confidence to another level.
(00:50):
And, um, and so it's here.
Finally, I'm so excited about it.
Um, I do have a free membership wherepeople can jump in, but we also have a pro level that they can jump in in as well.
And the pro level actually givesaccess to some really cool stuff.
So, for example, $12 a week.
Okay.
It's really what it boils down to, right?
(01:12):
$12 a week gives you access toevery single week we do a 30 minute group vocal training.
Session.
Right?
And so you come in and Ido the vocal exercises.
We talk about why that exerciseis important, why you need to do it, how you do it correctly.
We do put people on the hotseat so they get the chance to actually execute and practice this.
(01:36):
And I'll give a tip.
So, and this is once a week, so, and Ihave two different times that I do it So I actually really do it twice a week.
So I have two different timesthat I do it because I have clients in England that jump in.
So we
do a time zone earlier in the day and thenwe do one in the evening for people who work and, and wanna participate as well.
(01:59):
So that's just one example ofwhat I offer in my pro community.
But um, I'm also.
So gonna be dropping very soon,a new course for speakers.
It's like a 30 day self-pacedcourse, and, um, that means you can do it in your own time.
But I will guide you, you'll, you'llreceive, uh, videos in the modules that you need and can guide you through the process of really taking your voice, transforming your voice.
(02:30):
In 30 days.
So I have one for speakers and thenI'll have one coming out for singers.
So it's a different track.
Similar in some ways, in a lotof ways, but it's really focused specifically on what your goals are.
And what your needs are.
So this is just a few of the thingsthat are in the community, but we, we also do some networking events in there.
(02:53):
So it's a great community to bringpeople together, especially people who wanna speak, who have a message to give to the world or a song for the world.
And they wanna share with their voice,but they might have fear or they might.
Feel like no one cares what theyhave to say, and I hear it so much.
(03:13):
Well, why would anyone listen to me?
Jaclyn (03:16):
Right.
Julia (03:17):
Yeah,
well, you, you know, youhave a message to share.
You have a light to shine, and thatis what this community is for, is to provide a platform for people to get comfortable doing that so they can go out and share their message outside.
Jaclyn (03:31):
That's amazing.
That's so beneficial, so helpful.
Uh, especially like, is this thekind of thing that people would be able to benefit from for when they go to live networking events, like learning how to speak to people
Julia (03:46):
100%.
Uh, and I'm so glad that you brought thatup because often one of the things I hear is people think that this is for, just for people who wanna take the stage all.
Jaclyn (03:57):
like TED Talks or
something?
Julia (03:59):
like TED talks, we need our voice to communicate.
Every single day.
So a business person going to anetworking event, and I'm the first, one that, had to learn this going to a networking event, you know, I have, I'm outgoing, but I, I have a side to me, like I can get shy sometimes.
And so I had to learn the skills.
(04:20):
Necessary to say, hi, my name's Julia.
It's hard to walk up.
Sometimes you're a group of peopleand just say, hi, I'm Julia, and, uh, you know, so learning how to ingratiate yourself into a conversation and, and be welcoming, but, You know, be productive with others.
Someone looking for a job interview.
(04:42):
Like I had someone come to me andsay, you know, I've got this job.
It's a really huge raise for me.
Can you help me?
It was a high level management position.
I said, yes.
we actually did this, uh, one-on-one.
So they actually came to me as aprivate client and we worked, and I got a call when they came out of the interview and they said, the first five questions they asked They had answers for every single one of them.
(05:06):
They just
rattled it out.
Not only did that happen, but thenext day they received a bonus and, um, accolades from the CEO of the company because the interview was great
Jaclyn (05:19):
That's a great testimony.
Julia (05:20):
amazing.
I was so excited.
Well, they had to pull it offand they had to study, so I,
you know, I'm gonna put credit where
Jaclyn (05:26):
They put the work in,
Julia (05:28):
They put the work in, But I gave them the guidance that they needed really to make the difference in how they communicated it, because he had the knowledge up here, but he wasn't really, it wasn't connecting with the words that he was saying, you know, the knowledge that he had.
So he really wasn't doing himself.
Proper justice until helearned, oh, I need to say it.
(05:49):
If I say it in this way, then itcomes across a little bit different.
So that's just one example,uh, of many, you know, but
Jaclyn (05:59):
I could imagine it would, it would also be really beneficial for people that need to pitch, which happens all the time in this industry.
Julia (06:06):
all the time.
Jaclyn (06:06):
You know, pitching, I swear.
I think that is the thing that it's likeyou can do all of these other things really, really well, but if you don't know how to pitch, nothing's going
Julia (06:18):
No, it's not.
Exactly.
And that is I mean these differentthings that we're talking about, they're their own special thing,
Jaclyn (06:26):
Mm-hmm.
Julia (06:27):
for lack of a better word.
So there are techniques thatyou use in a job interview.
A sales pitch type situation or atleast whether it's sales or not, you're trying to bring someone over.
Persuasive speaking is reallywhat that's considered.
But let's be honest, all of ourspeaking's really persuasive speaking because you are always selling yourself.
(06:52):
Okay.
Every single day that you walkout of your house, how you present yourself is how you come across to others and how they view you.
And if you wanna come across asbeing confident and knowing what you're doing and people have this sense of trust in you, you have to be able to communicate that,
Jaclyn (07:10):
Yeah.
Yeah, I was, actually going to saythat when you said if you wanna come across as confident, and I was thinking, yeah, and the value of that is that people will want to trust you or they feel like they can trust you because they can see that confidence and I. They feel like that means
something.
It's not.
It's not an arrogance.
(07:31):
It's a confidence.
And I know for myself, when I'vewalked in confidence, people trust me, they give me responsibility and then they walk away believing I can do
Julia (07:41):
And they believe that's right.
Jaclyn (07:42):
the confidence is so important.
Julia (07:45):
It really is because you can be the most knowledgeable person in the world, but if, you aren't communicating that in a confident way, and it, and lack of confidence, and I always talk about this can come out in one of two ways.
It either comes out as being powerlessand weak or comes out as being.
Arrogant and know it all egotistical.
(08:06):
So you've got two ways.
The confidence is that balancebetween the two actually.
So knowing it all isnot confidence either.
You know, that's actually asurefire sign that you're insecure.
To be quite honest with you.
So learning how to havethat balance between feeling very secure in who you are.
(08:26):
And sometimes you're gonna have peoplesay, oh, they think they know everything.
You have to stand in your strength.
Trusting in yourself and yourbelief and knowing that in staying calm, you know, there, there's a lot of things that go into it, but confidence really is everything.
It, it shows up in everything thatwe do and especially, especially if you're trying to accomplish something by using your voice.
Jaclyn (08:54):
Absolutely
Julia (08:54):
have to use the right words, use the right tone.
You know, it's a known factthat people that speak with a deeper voice make more money.
Jaclyn (09:02):
interesting.
Well, then I guess I will lower my voice.
I do have a low voice, I think.
Um,
Julia (09:10):
You do?
Jaclyn (09:12):
I'm an alto, sometimes a tenor.
Julia (09:15):
Well you do, but you have a very calm tone.
And, and I would put it in themid to low category, right?
Um, but it's an absolute fact.
This is, just research.
This isn't me talking, this isresearch done that people that speak in a lower tone make more money.
Why?
It's the trust factor thatwe were just talking about.
People trust it 'cause it seems calmer.
(09:37):
More together.
Right.
Whether it is or not, butperception is very important.
So especially,
you know, when you're out there tryingto, uh, sell your, screenplay, you're trying to get someone to invest in you.
They're not gonna do it.
If they don't trust you,
Jaclyn (09:52):
Well, yeah.
I mean, think of all of thatmoney that you're asking for.
They better trust you with it.
Julia (09:57):
they better trust
Jaclyn (09:58):
I love that you got into mentoring, like.
It's interesting listening toyour story in the first episode.
You know, you, you grew up, uh, youknow, on stage and singing and all of that, and then you took a business class and then you got back into singing and now you're into mentoring.
And I love that.
And so I think sometimes thathappens just because, you know, people have the experience and then they realize like, Hey, I know stuff that I can help people with.
(10:23):
But was there somethingelse, a moment for you that.
Kind of sparked this idea thatyou wanted to now mentor and help other people to learn some of the things that you had to learn.
Julia (10:34):
Yes.
Well, when I was not on the rowwith Sir when I was off, I had a voice coaching studio and um, I had people who were learning how to sing.
It was mostly focused on singers.
And, uh, really teaching voicetechnique and how to be a great singer.
I started seeing more thanjust voice training happening.
(10:56):
I started seeing actually transformationsin everything, the way they looked, the way they carried themselves.
The way they spoke.
I did say one time I feel like I'mmore of a therapist than I am a voice
coach, because, you know, I wouldget the freakout calls on, a Saturday night, you know, where she having a meltdown, about having to do.
(11:23):
Something on stage, or if they missedif I had to be outta town and they missed a vocal lesson, you would think I was, I was doing brain surgery.
I was like, I'm not a surgeon,like I'm a voice coach.
we can't, you have to be here.
So I would have to do remotesessions with people just to calm them down enough because of the stage fright that comes with it.
(11:44):
And that's not me.
There's no.
This is a real paralyzing thing.
The fear of being on public speakingand is right up there with spiders.
It's the number one fear in the world.
So this was a real thing.
So moving forward with that,I saw this transformation.
Happening and I was like, there'ssomething, there's something to this.
So it it, instead of voice coaching,it started becoming more like
(12:07):
but in 2019, I hadsomething life changing.
I got hit by a car whileI was riding my bicycle.
And instantly my life was different.
You know, I'm riding high, I'm likeboating and going out with my friends when I'm in South Florida and like living this.
Tropical lifestyle, right?
It's the top of my game,and it's changed like that.
Jaclyn (12:32):
Right.
Julia (12:33):
you know, I had five broken bones and a spinal cord injury, and I mean, I couldn't even open a Tupperware.
My hands were so badly mangledand damaged, and I'm a, classical piano player too, on top of that.
So like, it was my hands, I couldn't.
Move them.
And I also had the neck injurythat wouldn't allow me to do anything with my arms.
I I was this close to being paralyzed.
(12:55):
I had four surgeries afterthat, one a year for four years.
I had five broken bones.
And I, about four months after myaccident, the, um, nightmares started.
So that's when I got diagnosed with, uh,PTSD, and that is its own a, aside from the physical injuries that I suffered, that might be the hardest part of it because it was a complete readjustment.
Jaclyn (13:20):
Right.
Julia (13:21):
know what a panic attack was before then.
I didn't know why I wasn't sleeping.
Like there was all kindsof things, you know.
Um.
I remember doing a tour after I wasdiagnosed with this once, and they picked me up and moved me around and it was like being thrown through the air.
I remember flight being flying throughthe air after getting hit, and I had a, I had panic attack, like, you can't, so things like this.
(13:47):
So there were a lot ofchanges that I had to make.
We went right out of that into.
The pandemic.
So I was convalescing and then nowall of a sudden I get my yellow slip from Cirque de Soleil that says, Hey everyone, 4,000 people
out of a job just like that.
Jaclyn (14:05):
Yeah.
Julia (14:05):
Entertainment's the first to go and the last to come back, you know, in a situation like that.
So you know, it was hard times, butI. In my usual fashion, I was like, okay, what am I gonna do with this?
So the first thing I did was I camehome to spend time with my parents, and thank goodness that I did, because my father passed in 2021.
(14:28):
So I got to spend that timewith him going to breakfast, you know, doing silly things.
Not only that, I got time to rethinkwhere I wanted to go with my business.
And that was when the expansion started.
So I really decided that what I was doingwas bigger than just vocal technique.
(14:50):
It was life changing.
And this was about performers.
This is about business people.
This is about people who needto be louder than their kids, so their kids listen to 'em.
Jaclyn (15:03):
Yes.
Julia (15:04):
Yeah.
This is about people who wanna audition.
This is about a relationshipthat needs better communication.
Jaclyn (15:12):
So representing your yourself every day.
Julia (15:16):
That's exactly right.
Every single day and I said, okay, soI'm just going to expand instead of, I usually don't use the word pivot.
We were talking about thisother, I use the word expansion.
I like expansion.
Because, well it had, that has beenreally my, more true for me because I'm still true to my roots here, you know?
(15:39):
But it's just finding new anddifferent ways to, to surf.
So at that was that point, Iwas like, I wanna go global.
This is gonna be a global experienceand so we're still, I wanna do that and I go out there and I'm still doing it.
'cause I just got back from Englanda couple of weeks ago curating a
(16:01):
new.
Jaclyn (16:02):
on Facebook, I was watching that.
I saw the videos you posted.
Julia (16:06):
Yeah, uh, yeah, where I did two music workshops and then we are curating a big gala Next year we're actually gonna take people with us and they can participate in all this.
So this is a new event that's coming
up.
But yeah, uh, you know, thatwas my goal is that I wanted, I just The Sky's the, the limit.
And I think that that's the biggestthing is that I want people to know that if you want something, you can do it.
(16:35):
You can do this.
You just gotta find the inspirationwithin here or out, wherever you need to find it and move on It
Jaclyn (16:45):
And I think that that's part of the fullness of life that the Bible talks about.
Like there's, you know,
Julia (16:50):
so true.
Jaclyn (16:51):
Jesus came to give us life and life to the full.
And you know, talking about language.
You say you don't usepivot, you use expanded.
And I stopped using the word busy.
I say full, uh, because.
A lot
of the work that I do, and Imean, I stopped this years ago, even when I was an at-home mom.
Like there was so much thatI was doing, but all of it.
(17:13):
I didn't wanna give up any of it, right?
So there was none ofit that was busy work.
It was all just, it was allwork that was leading me in the direction that I wanted to go.
And so then I thought, you know what?
I have a full life.
It's not just my calendar that's full.
Like I have fulfillment inside.
I, I love what I do.
Like I really loved being a mom, liketaking care of kids in the home and.
(17:38):
So I love what you're saying,like with choosing your words that really do actually represent how you feel or how you view something.
And then also, again,like choosing those words
for how to represent yourself,
you know, how, how do youwant to be seen in the world?
Like you said, even, how doyou want your kids to see you?
How do you want your spouse to see you?
Like it can be something thatimmediate in your life, but it could go all the way to pitching to investors or a job interview or.
(18:06):
You know, all of the different thingsthat you talked about that's so amazing and I think so valuable.
I think that there was a time beforetelevision and probably even before radio where books were so, so common.
I don't think people read like.
We used to, I know, I, Ifall into that category.
I am one of those people.
(18:27):
I would much rather, you know,watch a video than read even if it takes the same amount of time.
Julia (18:33):
Right.
No.
It's just easier.
Let's put it just easier,
Jaclyn (18:37):
easier,
but the thing is that thelanguage skills are very
different.
When, when you think about the booksthat were written back then, like the language skills of people at that time were so much stronger.
They represented themselves with so muchmore, uh, intentionality than today.
And so I love like that you'vecome up with a way to help people to understand and figure out like, who do you want to be?
(19:05):
And then let's help you represent that.
Julia (19:08):
It's a choice we have.
We have choices every day.
So what are we gonna choose?
we gonna choose to be negative?
Are we gonna choose to look atthis like a, just a challenge?
And are we gonna choose tosay, Hey, I'm being tested.
Are we gonna choose to go?
Well, all of this always happens to me.
What are you gonna do today?
You know, and, and it'sjust, it's not easy.
(19:29):
I think that that's the thing Iwanna say is that being a better version of yourself is, it's hard and it requires a lot of, sometimes.
Accepting some things that you don'twanna hear about or you, you really don't wanna turn that, that critical eye on yourself and say, okay, I lost my temper.
(19:50):
I shouldn't have done that.
Okay, let's try to do better next time.
Or, you know, let's notget emotional over this.
Or let's take three breathsbefore we respond, or whatever that might be, you know?
But we do have a choice in things.
And of course, I pray aboutthis kinda stuff all the time.
You know, every day I read mydevotional and then, I could write a whole paragraph on my devotional every single day and how that applies to what's going on in my life.
(20:18):
You know, it's, whether it be aboutcharity resilience or love, or the fruits of the spirit, whatever it may be, I could write a book on it, you know, each day.
So it's always, um.
It's a work in progress, but youwill look back six months, 12 months and go, I'm so different than who I was then, and you didn't even know you were making that progress.
(20:44):
It's just the effort thatyou do to move forward.
There's a phrase that I like to use.
I always say the famous show, bizline, fake it till you make it.
I say, faith it till you make it.
Jaclyn (20:56):
Oh, faith it.
I love it.
Julia (20:58):
words are
important because you wanna bethe best version of yourself.
You wanna be the bestcommunicator you can be.
You wanna be all that.
You have to have faith that it canhappen and that it will happen, and that you're not alone, that God's got your back, and that he's looking out for you
and you just gotta keep moving forward.
(21:19):
And in the first episode, we talkeda little bit about this, about.
Just do it
Jaclyn (21:26):
Right.
Yes.
Julia (21:27):
and then listen and then tweak
Jaclyn (21:30):
Yeah.
Julia (21:30):
and do some more, you know?
And pretty soon you'll find outthat you're way further down the road than you thought you were.
Jaclyn (21:37):
Yes.
Even if you can only make small changeseach day, those, all of those changes or all of the effort, I guess I should say, rather than changes effort, all of the effort that you put in, even if it's a small amount, it all adds up.
It's, all moving forward.
It's moving in thatdirection that you wanna go.
If you think I don't have more than justthis small amount of time or effort to put into something, and so then I'm not gonna bother, I'm gonna wait until I actually have the time to do it.
(22:06):
Then it's gonna take youa lot longer to get there.
Julia (22:10):
Right, and I'm not suggesting throwing caution to the wind and being putting up substan.
I, that's not the kind of thing thatI'm talking about here, but I am talking about start because no matter how perfect you think it is, when you start and you can, redo and redo and redo and go.
This is perfect.
(22:30):
You start, you're gonna find out twoor three weeks down the road that there's something needs to be changed.
That something needs to be tweaked.
And six months down the road,you're gonna find out something else that you're gonna have.
Tweak that a little bit, right?
Because that's what growth is.
So just understand thatyou do the best you can.
You put it up there and thenknow that it's going to morph, it's going to design it.
(22:56):
Self, that that's how creativity,I mean, that's how it works if you give it room to work like that.
So it's, it's, yeah, it's doing yourabsolute best in that moment, putting it out there and being flexible enough to see the changes that need to be made as they come and then go woo along with it.
Jaclyn (23:17):
I love it.
So good.
Thank you so much forbeing on our podcast.
I've really enjoyed our conversations, andI just wanna also let people know that you can find Julia Langley's curriculum on faf association.com, and also, as she mentioned, you can look for her in school.
Julia (23:35):
That's right.
Bold and confident voices.
Jaclyn (23:37):
Oh, perfect.
Bold and confident voices.
So good.
Well, thank you so much.
Have a great day.
Julia (23:42):
Thank you.
Welcome to the Faith and Family Filmmakers podcast.
My name is Jaclyn, and todayI'm with Julia Langley for part two of our interview.
And at the end of the last interview,we were actually talking about a community that she has built, and I wanna learn more about that and the different things that she does.
So let's dive in.
So Julia, can you tell me more aboutthis community that you have on school?
(00:23):
Remind me again what it's called.
Julia (00:24):
It's called Bold and Confident Voices.
Yes, and I, you know what?
I love it.
It's kind.
Kind of like my, my baby here becauseit's been something I I'd wanted to do for a long time to really bring people together and to give them the opportunity to participate in all kinds of things that will really take their voice, not just their voice, but their whole persona and their confidence to another level.
(00:50):
And, um, and so it's here.
Finally, I'm so excited about it.
Um, I do have a free membership wherepeople can jump in, but we also have a pro level that they can jump in in as well.
And the pro level actually givesaccess to some really cool stuff.
So, for example, $12 a week.
Okay.
It's really what it boils down to, right?
(01:12):
$12 a week gives you access toevery single week we do a 30 minute group vocal training.
Session.
Right?
And so you come in and Ido the vocal exercises.
We talk about why that exerciseis important, why you need to do it, how you do it correctly.
We do put people on the hotseat so they get the chance to actually execute and practice this.
(01:36):
And I'll give a tip.
So, and this is once a week, so, and Ihave two different times that I do it So I actually really do it twice a week.
So I have two different timesthat I do it because I have clients in England that jump in.
So we
do a time zone earlier in the day and thenwe do one in the evening for people who work and, and wanna participate as well.
(01:59):
So that's just one example ofwhat I offer in my pro community.
But um, I'm also.
So gonna be dropping very soon,a new course for speakers.
It's like a 30 day self-pacedcourse, and, um, that means you can do it in your own time.
But I will guide you, you'll, you'llreceive, uh, videos in the modules that you need and can guide you through the process of really taking your voice, transforming your voice.
(02:30):
In 30 days.
So I have one for speakers and thenI'll have one coming out for singers.
So it's a different track.
Similar in some ways, in a lotof ways, but it's really focused specifically on what your goals are.
And what your needs are.
So this is just a few of the thingsthat are in the community, but we, we also do some networking events in there.
(02:53):
So it's a great community to bringpeople together, especially people who wanna speak, who have a message to give to the world or a song for the world.
And they wanna share with their voice,but they might have fear or they might.
Feel like no one cares what theyhave to say, and I hear it so much.
(03:13):
Well, why would anyone listen to me?
Jaclyn (03:16):
Right.
Julia (03:17):
Yeah,
well, you, you know, youhave a message to share.
You have a light to shine, and thatis what this community is for, is to provide a platform for people to get comfortable doing that so they can go out and share their message outside.
Jaclyn (03:31):
That's amazing.
That's so beneficial, so helpful.
Uh, especially like, is this thekind of thing that people would be able to benefit from for when they go to live networking events, like learning how to speak to people
Julia (03:46):
100%.
Uh, and I'm so glad that you brought thatup because often one of the things I hear is people think that this is for, just for people who wanna take the stage all.
Jaclyn (03:57):
like TED Talks or
something?
Julia (03:59):
like TED talks, we need our voice to communicate.
Every single day.
So a business person going to anetworking event, and I'm the first, one that, had to learn this going to a networking event, you know, I have, I'm outgoing, but I, I have a side to me, like I can get shy sometimes.
And so I had to learn the skills.
(04:20):
Necessary to say, hi, my name's Julia.
It's hard to walk up.
Sometimes you're a group of peopleand just say, hi, I'm Julia, and, uh, you know, so learning how to ingratiate yourself into a conversation and, and be welcoming, but, You know, be productive with others.
Someone looking for a job interview.
(04:42):
Like I had someone come to me andsay, you know, I've got this job.
It's a really huge raise for me.
Can you help me?
It was a high level management position.
I said, yes.
we actually did this, uh, one-on-one.
So they actually came to me as aprivate client and we worked, and I got a call when they came out of the interview and they said, the first five questions they asked They had answers for every single one of them.
(05:06):
They just
rattled it out.
Not only did that happen, but thenext day they received a bonus and, um, accolades from the CEO of the company because the interview was great
Jaclyn (05:19):
That's a great testimony.
Julia (05:20):
amazing.
I was so excited.
Well, they had to pull it offand they had to study, so I,
you know, I'm gonna put credit where
Jaclyn (05:26):
They put the work in,
Julia (05:28):
They put the work in, But I gave them the guidance that they needed really to make the difference in how they communicated it, because he had the knowledge up here, but he wasn't really, it wasn't connecting with the words that he was saying, you know, the knowledge that he had.
So he really wasn't doing himself.
Proper justice until helearned, oh, I need to say it.
(05:49):
If I say it in this way, then itcomes across a little bit different.
So that's just one example,uh, of many, you know, but
Jaclyn (05:59):
I could imagine it would, it would also be really beneficial for people that need to pitch, which happens all the time in this industry.
Julia (06:06):
all the time.
Jaclyn (06:06):
You know, pitching, I swear.
I think that is the thing that it's likeyou can do all of these other things really, really well, but if you don't know how to pitch, nothing's going
Julia (06:18):
No, it's not.
Exactly.
And that is I mean these differentthings that we're talking about, they're their own special thing,
Jaclyn (06:26):
Mm-hmm.
Julia (06:27):
for lack of a better word.
So there are techniques thatyou use in a job interview.
A sales pitch type situation or atleast whether it's sales or not, you're trying to bring someone over.
Persuasive speaking is reallywhat that's considered.
But let's be honest, all of ourspeaking's really persuasive speaking because you are always selling yourself.
(06:52):
Okay.
Every single day that you walkout of your house, how you present yourself is how you come across to others and how they view you.
And if you wanna come across asbeing confident and knowing what you're doing and people have this sense of trust in you, you have to be able to communicate that,
Jaclyn (07:10):
Yeah.
Yeah, I was, actually going to saythat when you said if you wanna come across as confident, and I was thinking, yeah, and the value of that is that people will want to trust you or they feel like they can trust you because they can see that confidence and I. They feel like that means
something.
It's not.
It's not an arrogance.
(07:31):
It's a confidence.
And I know for myself, when I'vewalked in confidence, people trust me, they give me responsibility and then they walk away believing I can do
Julia (07:41):
And they believe that's right.
Jaclyn (07:42):
the confidence is so important.
Julia (07:45):
It really is because you can be the most knowledgeable person in the world, but if, you aren't communicating that in a confident way, and it, and lack of confidence, and I always talk about this can come out in one of two ways.
It either comes out as being powerlessand weak or comes out as being.
Arrogant and know it all egotistical.
(08:06):
So you've got two ways.
The confidence is that balancebetween the two actually.
So knowing it all isnot confidence either.
You know, that's actually asurefire sign that you're insecure.
To be quite honest with you.
So learning how to havethat balance between feeling very secure in who you are.
(08:26):
And sometimes you're gonna have peoplesay, oh, they think they know everything.
You have to stand in your strength.
Trusting in yourself and yourbelief and knowing that in staying calm, you know, there, there's a lot of things that go into it, but confidence really is everything.
It, it shows up in everything thatwe do and especially, especially if you're trying to accomplish something by using your voice.
Jaclyn (08:54):
Absolutely
Julia (08:54):
have to use the right words, use the right tone.
You know, it's a known factthat people that speak with a deeper voice make more money.
Jaclyn (09:02):
interesting.
Well, then I guess I will lower my voice.
I do have a low voice, I think.
Um,
Julia (09:10):
You do?
Jaclyn (09:12):
I'm an alto, sometimes a tenor.
Julia (09:15):
Well you do, but you have a very calm tone.
And, and I would put it in themid to low category, right?
Um, but it's an absolute fact.
This is, just research.
This isn't me talking, this isresearch done that people that speak in a lower tone make more money.
Why?
It's the trust factor thatwe were just talking about.
People trust it 'cause it seems calmer.
(09:37):
More together.
Right.
Whether it is or not, butperception is very important.
So especially,
you know, when you're out there tryingto, uh, sell your, screenplay, you're trying to get someone to invest in you.
They're not gonna do it.
If they don't trust you,
Jaclyn (09:52):
Well, yeah.
I mean, think of all of thatmoney that you're asking for.
They better trust you with it.
Julia (09:57):
they better trust
Jaclyn (09:58):
I love that you got into mentoring, like.
It's interesting listening toyour story in the first episode.
You know, you, you grew up, uh, youknow, on stage and singing and all of that, and then you took a business class and then you got back into singing and now you're into mentoring.
And I love that.
And so I think sometimes thathappens just because, you know, people have the experience and then they realize like, Hey, I know stuff that I can help people with.
(10:23):
But was there somethingelse, a moment for you that.
Kind of sparked this idea thatyou wanted to now mentor and help other people to learn some of the things that you had to learn.
Julia (10:34):
Yes.
Well, when I was not on the rowwith Sir when I was off, I had a voice coaching studio and um, I had people who were learning how to sing.
It was mostly focused on singers.
And, uh, really teaching voicetechnique and how to be a great singer.
I started seeing more thanjust voice training happening.
(10:56):
I started seeing actually transformationsin everything, the way they looked, the way they carried themselves.
The way they spoke.
I did say one time I feel like I'mmore of a therapist than I am a voice
coach, because, you know, I wouldget the freakout calls on, a Saturday night, you know, where she having a meltdown, about having to do.
(11:23):
Something on stage, or if they missedif I had to be outta town and they missed a vocal lesson, you would think I was, I was doing brain surgery.
I was like, I'm not a surgeon,like I'm a voice coach.
we can't, you have to be here.
So I would have to do remotesessions with people just to calm them down enough because of the stage fright that comes with it.
(11:44):
And that's not me.
There's no.
This is a real paralyzing thing.
The fear of being on public speakingand is right up there with spiders.
It's the number one fear in the world.
So this was a real thing.
So moving forward with that,I saw this transformation.
Happening and I was like, there'ssomething, there's something to this.
So it it, instead of voice coaching,it started becoming more like
(12:07):
but in 2019, I hadsomething life changing.
I got hit by a car whileI was riding my bicycle.
And instantly my life was different.
You know, I'm riding high, I'm likeboating and going out with my friends when I'm in South Florida and like living this.
Tropical lifestyle, right?
It's the top of my game,and it's changed like that.
Jaclyn (12:32):
Right.
Julia (12:33):
you know, I had five broken bones and a spinal cord injury, and I mean, I couldn't even open a Tupperware.
My hands were so badly mangledand damaged, and I'm a, classical piano player too, on top of that.
So like, it was my hands, I couldn't.
Move them.
And I also had the neck injurythat wouldn't allow me to do anything with my arms.
I I was this close to being paralyzed.
(12:55):
I had four surgeries afterthat, one a year for four years.
I had five broken bones.
And I, about four months after myaccident, the, um, nightmares started.
So that's when I got diagnosed with, uh,PTSD, and that is its own a, aside from the physical injuries that I suffered, that might be the hardest part of it because it was a complete readjustment.
Jaclyn (13:20):
Right.
Julia (13:21):
know what a panic attack was before then.
I didn't know why I wasn't sleeping.
Like there was all kindsof things, you know.
Um.
I remember doing a tour after I wasdiagnosed with this once, and they picked me up and moved me around and it was like being thrown through the air.
I remember flight being flying throughthe air after getting hit, and I had a, I had panic attack, like, you can't, so things like this.
(13:47):
So there were a lot ofchanges that I had to make.
We went right out of that into.
The pandemic.
So I was convalescing and then nowall of a sudden I get my yellow slip from Cirque de Soleil that says, Hey everyone, 4,000 people
out of a job just like that.
Jaclyn (14:05):
Yeah.
Julia (14:05):
Entertainment's the first to go and the last to come back, you know, in a situation like that.
So you know, it was hard times, butI. In my usual fashion, I was like, okay, what am I gonna do with this?
So the first thing I did was I camehome to spend time with my parents, and thank goodness that I did, because my father passed in 2021.
(14:28):
So I got to spend that timewith him going to breakfast, you know, doing silly things.
Not only that, I got time to rethinkwhere I wanted to go with my business.
And that was when the expansion started.
So I really decided that what I was doingwas bigger than just vocal technique.
(14:50):
It was life changing.
And this was about performers.
This is about business people.
This is about people who needto be louder than their kids, so their kids listen to 'em.
Jaclyn (15:03):
Yes.
Julia (15:04):
Yeah.
This is about people who wanna audition.
This is about a relationshipthat needs better communication.
Jaclyn (15:12):
So representing your yourself every day.
Julia (15:16):
That's exactly right.
Every single day and I said, okay, soI'm just going to expand instead of, I usually don't use the word pivot.
We were talking about thisother, I use the word expansion.
I like expansion.
Because, well it had, that has beenreally my, more true for me because I'm still true to my roots here, you know?
(15:39):
But it's just finding new anddifferent ways to, to surf.
So at that was that point, Iwas like, I wanna go global.
This is gonna be a global experienceand so we're still, I wanna do that and I go out there and I'm still doing it.
'cause I just got back from Englanda couple of weeks ago curating a
(16:01):
new.
Jaclyn (16:02):
on Facebook, I was watching that.
I saw the videos you posted.
Julia (16:06):
Yeah, uh, yeah, where I did two music workshops and then we are curating a big gala Next year we're actually gonna take people with us and they can participate in all this.
So this is a new event that's coming
up.
But yeah, uh, you know, thatwas my goal is that I wanted, I just The Sky's the, the limit.
And I think that that's the biggestthing is that I want people to know that if you want something, you can do it.
(16:35):
You can do this.
You just gotta find the inspirationwithin here or out, wherever you need to find it and move on It
Jaclyn (16:45):
And I think that that's part of the fullness of life that the Bible talks about.
Like there's, you know,
Julia (16:50):
so true.
Jaclyn (16:51):
Jesus came to give us life and life to the full.
And you know, talking about language.
You say you don't usepivot, you use expanded.
And I stopped using the word busy.
I say full, uh, because.
A lot
of the work that I do, and Imean, I stopped this years ago, even when I was an at-home mom.
Like there was so much thatI was doing, but all of it.
(17:13):
I didn't wanna give up any of it, right?
So there was none ofit that was busy work.
It was all just, it was allwork that was leading me in the direction that I wanted to go.
And so then I thought, you know what?
I have a full life.
It's not just my calendar that's full.
Like I have fulfillment inside.
I, I love what I do.
Like I really loved being a mom, liketaking care of kids in the home and.
(17:38):
So I love what you're saying,like with choosing your words that really do actually represent how you feel or how you view something.
And then also, again,like choosing those words
for how to represent yourself,
you know, how, how do youwant to be seen in the world?
Like you said, even, how doyou want your kids to see you?
How do you want your spouse to see you?
Like it can be something thatimmediate in your life, but it could go all the way to pitching to investors or a job interview or.
(18:06):
You know, all of the different thingsthat you talked about that's so amazing and I think so valuable.
I think that there was a time beforetelevision and probably even before radio where books were so, so common.
I don't think people read like.
We used to, I know, I, Ifall into that category.
I am one of those people.
(18:27):
I would much rather, you know,watch a video than read even if it takes the same amount of time.
Julia (18:33):
Right.
No.
It's just easier.
Let's put it just easier,
Jaclyn (18:37):
easier,
but the thing is that thelanguage skills are very
different.
When, when you think about the booksthat were written back then, like the language skills of people at that time were so much stronger.
They represented themselves with so muchmore, uh, intentionality than today.
And so I love like that you'vecome up with a way to help people to understand and figure out like, who do you want to be?
(19:05):
And then let's help you represent that.
Julia (19:08):
It's a choice we have.
We have choices every day.
So what are we gonna choose?
we gonna choose to be negative?
Are we gonna choose to look atthis like a, just a challenge?
And are we gonna choose tosay, Hey, I'm being tested.
Are we gonna choose to go?
Well, all of this always happens to me.
What are you gonna do today?
You know, and, and it'sjust, it's not easy.
(19:29):
I think that that's the thing Iwanna say is that being a better version of yourself is, it's hard and it requires a lot of, sometimes.
Accepting some things that you don'twanna hear about or you, you really don't wanna turn that, that critical eye on yourself and say, okay, I lost my temper.
(19:50):
I shouldn't have done that.
Okay, let's try to do better next time.
Or, you know, let's notget emotional over this.
Or let's take three breathsbefore we respond, or whatever that might be, you know?
But we do have a choice in things.
And of course, I pray aboutthis kinda stuff all the time.
You know, every day I read mydevotional and then, I could write a whole paragraph on my devotional every single day and how that applies to what's going on in my life.
(20:18):
You know, it's, whether it be aboutcharity resilience or love, or the fruits of the spirit, whatever it may be, I could write a book on it, you know, each day.
So it's always, um.
It's a work in progress, but youwill look back six months, 12 months and go, I'm so different than who I was then, and you didn't even know you were making that progress.
(20:44):
It's just the effort thatyou do to move forward.
There's a phrase that I like to use.
I always say the famous show, bizline, fake it till you make it.
I say, faith it till you make it.
Jaclyn (20:56):
Oh, faith it.
I love it.
Julia (20:58):
words are
important because you wanna bethe best version of yourself.
You wanna be the bestcommunicator you can be.
You wanna be all that.
You have to have faith that it canhappen and that it will happen, and that you're not alone, that God's got your back, and that he's looking out for you
and you just gotta keep moving forward.
(21:19):
And in the first episode, we talkeda little bit about this, about.
Just do it
Jaclyn (21:26):
Right.
Yes.
Julia (21:27):
and then listen and then tweak
Jaclyn (21:30):
Yeah.
Julia (21:30):
and do some more, you know?
And pretty soon you'll find outthat you're way further down the road than you thought you were.
Jaclyn (21:37):
Yes.
Even if you can only make small changeseach day, those, all of those changes or all of the effort, I guess I should say, rather than changes effort, all of the effort that you put in, even if it's a small amount, it all adds up.
It's, all moving forward.
It's moving in thatdirection that you wanna go.
If you think I don't have more than justthis small amount of time or effort to put into something, and so then I'm not gonna bother, I'm gonna wait until I actually have the time to do it.
(22:06):
Then it's gonna take youa lot longer to get there.
Julia (22:10):
Right, and I'm not suggesting throwing caution to the wind and being putting up substan.
I, that's not the kind of thing thatI'm talking about here, but I am talking about start because no matter how perfect you think it is, when you start and you can, redo and redo and redo and go.
This is perfect.
(22:30):
You start, you're gonna find out twoor three weeks down the road that there's something needs to be changed.
That something needs to be tweaked.
And six months down the road,you're gonna find out something else that you're gonna have.
Tweak that a little bit, right?
Because that's what growth is.
So just understand thatyou do the best you can.
You put it up there and thenknow that it's going to morph, it's going to design it.
(22:56):
Self, that that's how creativity,I mean, that's how it works if you give it room to work like that.
So it's, it's, yeah, it's doing yourabsolute best in that moment, putting it out there and being flexible enough to see the changes that need to be made as they come and then go woo along with it.
Jaclyn (23:17):
I love it.
So good.
Thank you so much forbeing on our podcast.
I've really enjoyed our conversations, andI just wanna also let people know that you can find Julia Langley's curriculum on faf association.com, and also, as she mentioned, you can look for her in school.
Julia (23:35):
That's right.
Bold and confident voices.
Jaclyn (23:37):
Oh, perfect.
Bold and confident voices.
So good.
Well, thank you so much.
Have a great day.
Julia (23:42):
Thank you.
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