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February 26, 2024 25 mins

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Dive deep into the captivating journey of Miss Reesa, a brave woman who faced heartbreak and deception and came out stronger through resilience and faith. This inspiring episode delves into her popular 52-part TikTok series, 'Who TF Did I Marry?', sharing valuable lessons from her transformative journey. Learn about her harrowing encounter with a pathological liar, the heartache it caused, and invaluable life lessons that emerged from it.

Miss Risa shows how to turn a painful past into an empowering story that inspires millions on social media platforms. We delve into the importance of personal boundaries, seeking comfort in solitude, and avoiding the perils of rushing divine timing. With insightful discussions on how to recognize and respect our intuition, listeners can gain a deep understanding of personal resilience, the strength in vulnerability, and the essence of transformative personal growth.

Alongside excellent advice and supportive comments, this episode is sprinkled with light-hearted moments, including sparkling, non-alcoholic toasts, and the story behind Whole Foods candles.

Prepare for an inspiring discussion that will leave you filled with hope, encouraged to stand up for your beliefs, and convinced of the transformative power of personal growth.

The Intricacies of Deception: Exploring Miss Recy's TikTok Series

In this revealing episode, we navigate the treacherous landscape of deception in relationships, exploring the fine line between intuition and paranoia. Delving into the heart of spiritual instincts, we unpack the intense emotions that arise when something is off in a relationship.

We analyze Reesa popular 52-part TikTok series 'Who TF Did I Marry', where she courageously shares her disconcerting experiences with dishonesty and betrayal. Unfolding the key differences between pathological, compulsive, and habitual liars, we underscore the complex challenge of identifying manipulative behaviors in relationships.

The discussion introduces the term 'hobo sexual' and highlights the risks of manipulative behaviors designed to exploit relationships for personal gain, offering advice on spotting red flags. Applauding Miss Reesa bravery, the episode calls for support for her courageous revelation.

Rounding off, the episode brings a touch of buoyancy with a virtual toast, recommendations for non-alcoholic drinks, promoting chemical-free lifestyle products, and an invitation to join the Substack community for more insightful content. Click, subscribe, join us on a journey of awareness and learning.

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(00:00):
Is cheers to her. So we're going to pop this non-alcoholic beverage to Miss Risa.
She don't know me, but cheers. Cheers to the girls weekend.
If you have not seen all 52 parts of Risa Tessa's, Risa TC's,
Miss Risa's TikToks entitled, Who TF Did I Marry? It is okay.

(00:24):
There's no spoilers in this video, but I took out almost every lesson you can
learn from her 52 part series about how she dated, got engaged to,
and married a compulsive, actually no, a pathological liar.
Before we get into the video, if you are not already, please thumbs up this

(00:45):
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(01:05):
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Visit my website, subscribe to the podcast, subscribe to this,
and thumbs up this video so that it helps me out.
Today's video is brought to you by actually Whole Foods candles.
Candles which I could not believe.
I was like wow y'all have really good scented candles with a 40 hour burning

(01:28):
time and also it smells really good and there are no chemicals in this.
This is the Palo Santo and Rosewood candle and I think this is soy as well but
it's brought to you by this candle and today I am sipping on non-alcoholic wine and this is by Toast.
I have their sparkling white tea, cranberry, and ginger.

(01:51):
So we're going to be trying this. Contains no alcohol. I'm really excited to
try it. And let's get into some things.
The first lesson from Miss Tisa's self-entitled Who TF Did I Marry?
About her marrying a pathological liar.
Well, her dating, becoming engaged to, marrying, and divorcing a pathological liar.
One, God can and will always turn something something around to his glory.

(02:19):
And I'm saying that to say she is not the only one I've said this about,
the only one here on YouTube I've said about, but I'm not sure if you all are
familiar with a woman who got pregnant by the random man from Atlanta.
Her name is Morgan. I had to,
I had followed her like way before like all the fame or anything and just watched her glow up.

(02:39):
And at the end of the day, and I told my friends, I was like,
she's going to get the last laugh.
She is going to get the last laugh. Miss Risa is the same way.
She is going to get the last laugh.
Although this was not God's plan for her.
And I know you might be listening to this and like, how do you know what God's
plan for her or was not planned for her?
Because if you listen to the entire series, you will know distinctly that it's not God's plan for her.

(03:03):
And how you also know that you're starting to get into things that is not God's,
that is not God's plan for you is to know that if it goes against his will,
if it goes against his rules, his laws, his will, then it is not God's plan.
But at the end of the day, no matter how big of a hole you dig yourself into,
how far you stray from the love of God, God can and will always turn it around.

(03:28):
Okay, let's not, let's not, let's not, let's not, let's not,
let's not, let's not. my gosh.
Not me shaking this. I literally told y'all I was sparkling, didn't I?
Okay. We're going to let that, we're going to let that sit for a second.
So yes, that is the lesson. God will always turn something around for his glory.
And at the end of the day, after everything she has went through,

(03:49):
after all the tears she has cried,
after whatever she's been through, through this horrible story,
marrying this horrible man, she in the midst of three days, y'all,
was able to two games, 2.3 and counting million followers on TikTok,
as well as get gifted the same BMW that the guy lied about getting to her.

(04:10):
She's now able to go to London and Paris. She said that was her dream.
She's always wanted to go.
In a matter of three days, y'all, this woman has not only built an entire platform
and empire, a social media empire with one platform.
Now she can diversify. Now she can take off and do whatever.
She got the car of her dreams. She got the travel. She's She's about to go to

(04:31):
the place that she's wanted to go the most of her dreams and God knows whatever else.
So that is encouragement for you. If you feel like you've gone too far,
you have not gone, you cannot stray further from the love of God ever.
God will always turn it around and you will have your full circle moment.
Stay in there and always move with grace and humility and you will see how your life ends up.

(04:56):
Number two lesson to learn from this is I've said this time and time again,
and I will keep saying it until I am like, I don't know, until the end of my last breath.
Please do not move your boundaries for any man.
I'm going to say it again. Do not move your boundaries for any man,

(05:17):
really for anybody, but in this case, for any man.
Reason being, when you start moving your boundaries for a man,
you start showing a man that That you not only are moving your self-respect
to fit his mode and what he wants to do, but now you've opened yourself up for attack.
For attack. Attack by the enemy, which is subsequently, in this case,

(05:39):
coming from a man that was not hers.
And she had mentioned this within two weeks of knowing him, right? She had moved in.
Well, no, even worse. He moved in with her.
And she mentioned this. This is one of the only times she's mentioned a friend
in the series. she said to her friend, hey, and mind you, this is during the vid times.

(05:59):
I don't even know if I could say the word, but this is during those times that we had, right?
Where everything was on the news. We didn't know what was what.
We didn't know if people's limbs was going to fall off. We didn't know if it
was airborne. We didn't know really what was going on for real.
And so everything was shutting down and she met this man.
And within two weeks of knowing him, allowed him to move in end with her.

(06:21):
And she mentioned it to her friend and she said verbatim, I do not want to be alone.
Her friend then said, but you don't believe in that.
So lesson two is do not ever move your boundaries or shift your values around a man.
Because just like there are men, I truly believe there's somebody for everyone.

(06:45):
Just like there are men and women okay with playing house, there are are men
not okay with playing house?
There's really no need to shift your boundaries because you will find someone
who agrees with what you want to do or who not only agrees with what you want
to do, but will respect it, right?
And this is leading into our next lesson because she said, I do not want to be alone.

(07:10):
Lesson three is to find solitude with being alone. It is okay to be be alone.
And I know that women and like, we are taught subconsciously,
unsubconsciously. We've been groomed since we were little girls to have a certain
trajectory of where our life is supposed to go.

(07:31):
And not only does society bully us to think, hey, we're going to be alone forever
if we have certain boundaries, right?
Like in the last lesson, oh, you have this boundary.
I've I've literally had a man tell me straight up, Scout's honor,
I told him I don't date men who smoke weed.
Do you know this man told me, good luck finding a man because everyone smokes.

(07:54):
Is that so? You mean everyone in your circle, everyone in your reality?
Because that's what you do. That's not everyone.
Imagine if I were to listen to every man that gets upset that he does not measure
up to my standard and scare me.
One thing, and we're going to get into the fear situation and everything,

(08:15):
but people like to pry and to prey on your fear.
And her fear in that That case was to end up alone. And it also was to get married.
Leading into our next lesson, do not rush God.
In her part 16 interlude, she had taught, and I love the interlude because she

(08:37):
said it so beautifully. I think I, okay.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry, baby. In her part 16 interlude, she talked about how she
knew why all this happened. and all this happened because she was so ready to be married.
She was so tired of asking God for her partner.

(08:58):
And she felt like God was not listening, right? She felt like God wasn't there.
She was so tired of waiting that she was just like, okay, hopefully I'm going
to get this, get this man.
And we'll, God will figure it out. I'm just going to keep praying for him basically
to change or just think that he is going to be okay.
This has to be my person because I'm tired of waiting. Do not rush God.

(09:21):
God's timing is God's timing. When you take things into your own hands, this is what happens.
It's safe to say this is what happens, right?
So think about a time where you, it doesn't even have to be about a man.
Like really these lessons are just lessons of life.
But in this scenario, in this series, it has to do with a man.

(09:44):
And one thing I will say, These lessons have to do with everything about life
But who you marry Who you become one with.
Who you become one with. We're going to take marriage off the table because
you become one by having a covenant.
And how you have a covenant is by sleeping with somebody. So let's start there.
Who you become one with will show you the path of life or the path of death.

(10:07):
And by not waiting on God and taking matters into your own hand,
you're stepping outside of his will.
And outside of his will doesn't mean you're outside of his protection per se,
but there is always a lesson to be learned.
Yes, she was protected from things unseen. We don't know.
We still don't know why this man was losing all that weight.

(10:28):
We're going to have to get into that on the clock app on the live.
So make sure y'all tune into my lives every Thursday at 7 p.m.
We don't know what she was being protected from unseen, but we do know that
she had to bear the burden of not listening to God, not following what he had
planned for her, and also shortening on her boundaries and her her values.

(10:49):
You don't have to be Christian to know that you shouldn't be moving your boundaries
and pushing your values and what you care about to fit the mold of somebody else.
Moving on to the next lesson. The next lesson is your intuition is never wrong.
Your intuition is never wrong.
And I know I'm going to say it and it might hurt some feelings.

(11:10):
When the girlie say, I don't feel butterflies around him.
Those butterflies, I don't know who marketed butterflies to be like a good thing around somebody.
And I recently met a girl, a girly here, and she had told me like,
I don't feel like I feel butterflies around him.
And I just, I love it. I didn't feel butterflies with my ex.
And I'm like, that is your body warning you.

(11:32):
That something is not right. Something is not right. Something is wrong.
And I heard a pastor say one time, he was like, when you know that something
is wrong and you feel that something is wrong, don't stick around to find out
what it is. It don't matter.
Why does it matter? It's not right.
And that is the lesson in this. Your intuition is never wrong.
When you get that feeling like something is not, I don't know what it is.

(11:55):
I can't put my finger on this. My body is is telling me.
Like my being, my soul, my body, I'm experiencing, especially when you start
experiencing physical symptoms.
You ever been around somebody and your stomach is upset?
You don't know what, your stomach is upset around this person.
Your body is trying to get out and trying to make sure that you feel this physically,

(12:18):
that something is not right.
Just like when we're sick, I will give you the same analogy. When we're sick, right?
For instance, I have eczema. Most Most Americans have eczema.
God, we don't know why we got it, but whatever. Most Americans have eczema.
And so what doctors do here is they give you a topical cream to put right here on your eczema.
Totally forgetting about the fact that something is wrong in my body.

(12:40):
They're just trying to fix what's happened physically, right?
Okay, I feel queasy around this person. I'm just going to take some medicine
and maybe it's just not even that.
No, your body is, there's a symptom going on. going deep down inside,
your body is screaming, this is not it.
I should not be going here. You should not be enrolling in this college.

(13:01):
You should not be dating this man.
You should not be sleeping over here. You should not be investing your money
in this. You should not be saying yes to this job.
There are things that happen in the spiritual realm that we cannot see,
but we get warning signs from our bodies.
We get warning signs from all over y'all.
This is so important Because I feel like some women, when everything hits the

(13:23):
fan, they say, you know what? I knew it. Like, I was feeling so weird.
And then I say, so why'd you continue to do X, Y, and Z? Why'd you continue
to go? Because I really didn't know why.
It don't matter why. Run first and ask questions later.
Just like when you hear them sounds, them bop, bop, bop sounds,
what do you do? You run first and you ask questions later.

(13:47):
The next lesson that we can learn from Who TF Did I Marry?
From Miss Recy's self-entitled 52-part series on TikTok is we learned the difference
between a pathological liar, a compulsive liar, and a habitual liar.
Did we ever sit to think about these? Because I know I did, and I just know

(14:07):
like, okay, just me and he just got a lying issue.
But I never set to really think about the difference between the three.
And in this series, we learned the difference between two, pathological and
compulsive, but I had to take a step further in my research and doing this blog,
podcast episode, and YouTube video for y'all. What about a habitual?
So let's get into these three things. One, a pathological liar and the guy that

(14:32):
she married, dated, and divorced.
A pathological liar is a person who lies in order to manipulate somebody.
They kind of get like on high or get turned on off of the excitement and and
manipulating people, and having very intricate lies.
Like, pathological liars will lie to no ends about anything,

(14:55):
anyone, go get proof, falsify documents, have fake phone calls.
I mean, this man was pulling out the bag of tricks, y'all.
This man was not sparing any expense for his lies.
That is a pathological liar. Now,
on the other hand, a compulsive liar is often a liar who will,

(15:18):
and going back to a pathological liar,
pathological liars usually exude these behaviors in childhood as well,
but it is not really considered a mental disorder.
However, it is usually in conjunction with other disorders. orders.
Moving on to compulsive liar. Compulsive liars usually happen in childhood too,

(15:40):
but these types of liars, it could happen in childhood and adolescence when
people are either like not heard, shut down from giving their opinion,
and they also lie just to lie.
So these people are typically not manipulative. They just lie for no reason.
And compulsive liars, if you confront them about lying,
they more than likely outside of pathological liars are going to say yeah I

(16:04):
lied about that like they don't mind agreeing or fessing up well not necessarily
fessing up they don't mind to answering correctly about their lies now the guy
that she married is not composed of that he is definitely a pathological liar,
And then moving on to the third type of liar, and that is, and oftentimes I
think it can be also said as a natural liar.

(16:24):
So I think we're just going to use natural liars. We have natural liars,
compulsive liars, and pathological liars, natural liars, habitual liars, whatever.
These people often just lie just to lie, and they oftentimes believe their own lies.
Now, I've met a lot of these type of men, like, you know, men who just lie to
lie, and then they start believing their lies because they lie so much.

(16:45):
Case in point. point. Now, this is over the span of doing this a lot,
not just one thing, but I'm going to share with y'all a little story time, right?
My birthday was so traumatic when I turned 26 that I literally told myself at
my birthday dinner at the table, this did not count.
And from here on out, I am still 25.

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No. Yeah. Yeah. I was like, I'm still 25. This did not count.
I made that promise to myself.
Now, as time is going on throughout the year, mind you, my birthday is January 9th.
Everyone you know i meet man i meet who i meet girlies i
move right i move to dc people are asking me
how old are you how old are you how it got to the point i put 25 on
my on my dating profiles on my bf my bumble bff profile

(17:28):
i'm meeting girlies i'm telling them i'm 25 it gets to
the point so much i go to the doctor here so i find a new doctor and you know
they feel out the you feel out the day i give them my date of birth and the
doctor was like oh you're 26 i said oh no i'm 25 and they're like no i thought
you were 26 and i said no i'm 25 right and so the doctor goes to of the computer.
She was like, no, but I thought maybe I looked wrong.

(17:48):
And it's just like 97. And I was like, I'm, I'm so sorry. I am 26.
And then I explained to her, I was like, my birthday was just so traumatic.
Like I just block it out of my head.
Like, but I've lied for so long.
About not turning 26 that I started to believe that I was honestly 25.
Now that is something a habitual slash natural liar would do,

(18:10):
but they would do that about multiple things. Thanks.
It sounds crazy, but maybe one day I'll open up and share the story about what
happened on my birthday.
But until then, we're not even going to get. The last lesson I want to share
with you all on this video before we get into the rest of the things,
you have to, if you want to know the rest of the lessons, you have to click

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Like, I don't know. It used to be Monty Mob back in the day,
but I don't know about Monty Mob, how that fits the brand now.

(18:53):
But anyway, I'll think on it or comment down below some of your ideas for our community name.
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But this last one, I want to get into what a hobo sexual is.
Beware of hobo sexual.

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Beware of them. Hobos are very rapid where I'm from. I'm from Atlanta.
These men are very rapid where I'm from. I'm from Atlanta, Georgia. No side to be correct.
And I see this happen all the time, especially with women who move there or people who visit there.
They are very easily treated, even people who lived here.

(19:36):
People are like, how are you dealing with this? These men be He's scamming out here, y'all.
A hobo is a man who uses women who have steady, like, homes,
apartments, townhomes, condos.
They use women for their place because they don't have one.
You catch what I'm throwing out? These men are unhoused, whether they're,

(19:59):
like, in between situations.
I'm not saying, when I say unhoused, I just mean unhoused. That doesn't mean
that they're out on the streets.
And I think this is why some women are like, how are women getting conned into
that? How did they even know? And I'm just like, you don't understand.
You might think homeless as in someone that's on the street who wants to be
on the street. There are unhoused people who are just in between situations.

(20:19):
Maybe they just got evicted. They're just in between finding a place.
Maybe they've been crashing on their friend's couch.
Life does life and sometimes life does happen. So I'm not saying this to put
anyone down. I would never do that.
But what I am saying is is that the issue lies in these men, they use women.

(20:40):
They see, okay, this is a woman who more than likely is of childbearing age
or towards the end of her childbearing age and she doesn't have a child yet.
She talks about marriage. So I know she wants to be married.
So they see, they kind of prey on women like that or even younger.
Well, I've seen this happen with my own eyes in college with a girl that was 22 years old.

(21:02):
So they see that and
they pray on that and next thing you know they invite themselves
in in a sense or make you invite them in
a way of living with them and they use you for your place because they do not
like you they do not value you they do not have plans to marry you to really
be with you for real and this man since he had plans to marry her and he told

(21:25):
her well yeah I had to marry marry you because that's what you wanted.
If I didn't marry you, I wasn't going to continue to be with you.
So you also have to be careful with that. And like I said, there's way more
lessons to learn and they will be in my sub stack, but you have to be aware of these men.
Any man that talks about living together and you don't have no ring on your

(21:48):
finger and he's not a sound human being, not just the ring, I mean a sound human
being, run for the hills.
Because I've seen this happen with my own eyes. There have been women,
but I dropped him off at his place. You don't understand.
I dropped him off at his place. How does he not have a place?
I'm telling you, these folks lie.
And sometimes they go from woman's place to woman's place to woman's place to

(22:11):
woman's place. Like, you might have dropped him off at his place,
sis, but you really dropped him off at another woman's place.
And you just don't know because you didn't go inside. You don't know.
So be very careful of the ex-wives, okay?
Because they are very rapid and they're prying on women in their places, mostly Black women.
But I digress. Yes. Yeah. Moving on to the second part of the video and why

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I want y'all to click and listen to the 52 part series if you have not,
or listen to some of them if you have not,
but, or go on the girl, go on Risa's page and just like some of the videos and
just show her some love and some support and uplift her.
It took a lot of courage to sit up here, one, and tell everything and be be
very transparent, be very open online, and two, have to bear people talking

(23:04):
about her, people leaving hate comments and X, Y, and Z.
I will say that this is, and I told this to my friend, and my friend was like,
I don't know if you could say that, sis. I think you're going to upset the girlies
with this one, but I'm going to say it anyway.
This is really the only time we have seen a Black woman go viral on the clock app organically.

(23:24):
She's not slender. She's not not frying her hair, talking about some,
I don't do wig, I only do sew-ins.
She's on the app as a beautiful plus-size woman, no makeup on,
has her bonnet on some days, has a scarf on other day, has the wig on one day,
on the way to work the other day. She was just authentically herself.

(23:45):
And I have never seen a woman grow like that on the clock.
You haven't either. I know you haven't. So you have to go and support her because
I'm just so happy to see someone who is not in proximity to this and who is not like,
oh, yeah, you have to straighten your hair. Oh, I'm not wear a wig. Oh, yeah.
Like, I get it because it gets to the point where the clock app and yes,

(24:09):
there are some some anomalies. Yes.
But let's be real. We know the
clock app's algorithm does not push as much certain people in their looks.
They don't. They don't push certain groups.
If I have my natural hair on the clock app, they're not going to push that video
as hard. That's just the sad reality of it.

(24:31):
And so when people say stuff like that, people get online and say,
well, Jackie, I already have millions of followers, baby.
I love her. You know, I've been Jackie Dayhouse since Jackie,
Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, Jackie,
Jackie. I've been down since then.
But let's be for real. Like, let's not.
I hate when it's like we talk about certain issues and then it's like in real

(24:52):
life where, like, people go, well, there's Tiger Woods.
He was able to. There was Michael. Y'all got Michael Jordan. Like, let's.
Y'all got Jackie Aina. Y'all got Clark. Like, let's be for real now. Let's. Please. Please.
Don't put on a jean vest.
So yes cheers to the girls weekend cheers

(25:16):
to miss risa i guess maybe next
time i'll be able to drink my toast but y'all
don't shake this up i guess i shook this up really bad so don't shake this up
like i did but try out toast non-alcoholic sparkling beverage and get you a
nice candle that has no chemicals on it drop the body works y'all y'all want

(25:38):
to make sure y'all are not not stinking up y'all,
not stinking up y'all places because it doesn't stink, but make sure you're
not filling up your places with ballots.
Like, subscribe, comment, click on the website, join the sub stack,
and I'll see y'all in the next video.
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