From Baggage to Breakthrough

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We all carry things from our past—family patterns, pain, and habits we never meant to pass on. So what do you do once you see that generational baggage? And how can you begin to repair what’s been handed to your kids?

In this conversation, we’re talking about recognizing broken patterns, finding healing, and inviting God to bring restoration to your family line. It’s never too late for redemption! 

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SPEAKER_03 (00:00):
Hello everyone and welcome back to FAMology.
We're having such a good timedelivering this podcast, but
we're also going to try toexperiment and try some new
different things.
So this podcast, we're justanswering one question and it's
going to be a little bitshorter.
And so we'll see how peoplerespond to that.

SPEAKER_01 (00:16):
Yeah, we were kind of thinking that it might be
nice on our website and even onthe YouTube channel to be able
to categorize the questions byif it's marriage, parenting,
family, is it toddler, you know,just to make some of these
archival of the process a littleeasier for us.

SPEAKER_03 (00:33):
Yeah.
And so there's an opportunityfor you to connect with us and
uh give us feedback as far aswhat you like as well.
And so we'll try to connect withyou and uh and tabulate some of
those things and make somechanges because we're learning
as we go.

SPEAKER_01 (00:47):
Yeah, so give us your opinions below.

SPEAKER_03 (00:54):
So we're going to jump into the first question,
the only question, uh, which isum, how do you deal with
generational baggage oncerecognized?
And how do you repair anythingpassed to our children?
This was given to us by Melissafrom Minnesota.
Uh, it's a great question.
It's a great encompassing familyquestion when we talk about
generational things, you know.

SPEAKER_01 (01:16):
Yeah.
So I in I have a resource that Ilove, love, love for interuteral
opportunities for getting someof this even broken off when
moms are pregnant.
And it was a resource I didn'tfind until we were pregnant with
our eighth little wonder, Sadie.
And I loved reading this over umover her just every day.

(01:42):
I would pick one of these andread them over her.
And I felt like it was such anawesome opportunity to like wash
her in truth and kind of takecare of some of this stuff so
that it was even handled beforeshe was born.
And the book um that I'mreferring to is called Pure Joy.
And if you're watching onYouTube, I'll hold it up for

(02:03):
you.
Um, Pure Joy, and it's byCrystal Wade and Arthur Burke.
And I'm just gonna read you alittle tidbit, so um, just so
you can get a feel for it.
I'm looking for the one that Iwanted.
Here we go.
You know what?
52-year-old mothers should puton their reading glasses first.

(02:23):
All right.
Child, I call your spirit toattention in the name of the
Lord Jesus Christ.
Listen as I read the word of Godto you.
Hebrews 4 16 says, Let usapproach the throne of grace
with confidence, so that we mayreceive mercy and find grace to
help us in our time of need.
Your Heavenly Father loves youwhen you are behaving badly as

(02:46):
well as when you're behavingwell.
I bless you with the joy ofreceiving and responding to his
unconditional love.
I bless you with the joy ofknowing he placed your parents
in your life to love you and totrain you in his ways.
I bless you with freedom frombeing denied or defined in your
eternal eternal relationship toyour father by punishment and

(03:09):
rewards which are administeredby your parents.
I bless you with the joy offreedom to extend grace to
yourself and to your parents.
I bless you to know deep in yourheart that your father always
loves you unconditionally.
And I just think praying thissort of prayer over our unborn,

(03:30):
and I think with somemodification, you could use it
for young children as well.
It's super helpful uh to beginto instill truth because I think
sometimes we we focus on thebaggage instead of actually
instilling the the what we wantthem to carry.

SPEAKER_03 (03:46):
Yeah.
No, I think that's good, and I Iagree about not focusing on the
baggage.
Um the baggage can sometimes bereal, and and there is some
generational things that cantake place, which is obviously
the heart of this question.
And I think inheritance is verypowerful.
Yeah, but we always have toremember as children of God,
yeah, as members of hishousehold, that we only have to

(04:07):
inherit the good stuff.
Yeah.
Um, and so I it doesn't meanthat we don't inherit the bad
stuff, and it doesn't mean thatwe don't put ourselves in that
position and and that we partnerwith the enemy sometimes to
receive what he has for us, theenemy has that the enemy has for
us.
Uh we can do that and we canfall into the same traps and
different things that way.
But but we have to remember atthe end of the day, we only have

(04:29):
to inherit the good stuff.
And so the the things that areare ours as an inheritance from
a spiritual standpoint.
Yeah.
And so the the heart of thismother asking this question, of
course, is uh there's probablysome things in their family line
or some things that have beenpassed down generationally.
And how do we cut that?
How do we how do we stop that?
And uh, and I I think I thinkthe short answer to the

(04:50):
question, or my my immediateanswer, is that the moms and
dads become healed themselves.
I think that's the issue becausethere has to be somebody
generationally that stands inthe gap and says no more.
Yeah.
Um, what we've learned inministry is that the enemy
doesn't fight fair and hedoesn't care about your age, he
doesn't care about your history,he doesn't care about how much

(05:11):
CRAP that you've had in yourlife.
He doesn't care.
In fact, he'd probably preferjust to pile on and and to take
you out.
And um, that's that's his goalis to steal, kill, and destroy.
Um, and so we have to at somepoint be the generation that
says, no more, we're gonna drawthe line, you know.
Yeah, and so I know that yourmother has been such a great
example for our family.

(05:32):
And I don't know if you'd bewilling to share just a real
quick uh you know, testimony,her testimony.

SPEAKER_01 (05:37):
We should have had my mother on sometime we will,
and we'll let her share hertestimony.
But my breakthrough for sure.
Yeah, and I think so.
My mom, in brief, she she grewup in a an abusive home, mostly
verbally abusive, some somephysical, but I would say mostly
verbal.

(05:58):
And it was very, very hard.
And um, she was the oldest ofthree girls, and uh, and and
because her uh one of herparents just wanted boys so
badly, and she ended up withthree stinking girls, was the
you know how it was phrased, andit was very, very painful for my

(06:19):
mom.
But in the midst of pain, mymother did the bravest thing
that you can do, and sheforgave.
Yeah, she forgave, and it seemslike such a uh Christian word
that we say, like, hey, you justneed to forgive them, but
actually, forgiveness isn't forthe other person, although it it

(06:43):
is, it's for you.
My mother forgave, and itactually set her free, and it
set our generations free.
The things that held our familyline captive, yeah, and their
story after story after story,because my mom forgave, those
things were broken.

(07:05):
They're not inherited, they gono further, and and it's an
absolute miracle testimony ofthe goodness of God and the
power of forgiveness.

SPEAKER_03 (07:16):
Yeah, you know, the enemy is not the equal and
opposite of God, he he is notpowerful in and of himself, he
only can be empowered.
Yeah, and the way that youdisempower the enemy is through
forgiveness, yeah, through beingunoffendable, through through
seeing those things uhgenerationally even and saying,
No longer am I going to empoweryou with with even wrong

(07:37):
decisions and and and cyclicalbehaviors and things like that.
We decide that we're just goingto disempower him.
Yeah.
And that's that's the role thatwe have.
And through the blood of Jesus,we can actually do that.

SPEAKER_01 (07:48):
And and I'm gonna interrupt you right here because
I think one of the keys todisappoint disempowering the
enemy is to not fear him.

SPEAKER_03 (07:56):
That's good.

SPEAKER_01 (07:57):
Fear is his language, it's the language of
the kingdom of darkness.
And when we are looking to breakthings off, then we can no
longer speak the language ofwhat we're trying to leave
behind.
And so that means that truthneeds to become our front and
our rear guard.
And we cannot, we have to letthe Lord's shalom peace enter

(08:20):
our hearts in these areasbecause I think one of the traps
of the enemy is is, you know, werecognize the baggage, as this
question says, and then we fearthat we're going to see it in
ourselves and our children.
And that very fear actually getsits tentacles around us and is
part of what allows it tohappen.

(08:42):
I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 (08:43):
He he loves to use our history to ensnare us and uh
try to convince us that that'swho we are, and that's all he
has is to be able to disempowerus from our identity.
And and and so so you'reabsolutely right.
It that it actually breaksgenerational curses um by by
disempowering who he is andmaking those choices.

(09:04):
And it really always comes backto when we talk about
generational things, in myopinion, it comes back to the
blood of Jesus.
Yes.
But what what he did and andwhat he paid for is enough.
Yes, and so we have to we haveto have such confidence.
Sometimes we have moreconfidence in these generational
curses than we do ingenerational blessings that we
receive through the blood ofJesus.

SPEAKER_01 (09:23):
And that's laughable, guys.
That is absolutely laughable.
It is.

SPEAKER_03 (09:26):
We we have to understand who we are, yeah.
And so there is something calleda bond of iniquity, and it's a
big fancy religious term, um,but it's it deals with some of
these generational things thatkind of hold us and bind us.
Yeah, and and it says that youknow, we we can actually since
we're talking about parents,this is what my father would
would would preach on often istaking taking the cross, turning
it into a sword, and cutting thebonds of iniquity.

(09:49):
That that's what he's paid for.
Yeah, so so like why wouldn't weuse that?
Yes, come on.
Um, and so that's the blood ofJesus.
And so, you know, how do yourepair anything?
The blood of Jesus, you knowwhat how do we stop generational
baggage?
The blood of Jesus.
I mean, that's what it is, andso we so we with confidence we
partner with the blood of Jesusand then just end these things,
yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01 (10:09):
And then I would say too that we we partner with the
blood of Jesus, absolutely, andthen we actually begin to bless
ourselves and our children withwhatever the opposite is.
Right.
If you see generational stressand anxiety that's gripping your
family, then you begin todeclare peace and trust and

(10:30):
rest, find Bible verses that youcan partner with and bring those
things before the Lord.
And as you know what, I amthankful that I live in the
country because I can go outsideand talk as loud as I want to
the Lord and just at the top ofmy voice say these declarations
out of what I'm declaring overour family.

(10:51):
And don't be the one thatrepeats what we don't want to
see, be the one that repeats thething that you actually want to
take root in your family.

SPEAKER_03 (11:00):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (11:01):
Call those things forth.

SPEAKER_03 (11:03):
Yeah, I mean, I think a hallmark of our faith,
our Christian faith, is that hehas reversed the curse.
I mean, that's that's ourhallmark of what we believe.
Yeah, and so if that's true,then let's believe it.
Yes, let's let's believe it forour family, let's believe it for
your family.
Come on.
Um, let's believe that that hisblood is enough, and and we can
and we can by by speaking outthe blessings, by declaring

(11:24):
what's true, we actually cancellies.
It just makes sense.
And so that's that's my messageto you, Melissa.
That's our heart to you, is isif these are some generational
things, then then it can just beended through the blood of Jesus
as well as through thedeclaration of who you are as
the mom, uh, as part of thisfamily, and uh and can begin to

(11:45):
reverse the curse over anythingthat's been spoken over your
family.
Um, so we should just do that.
So uh I'm just gonna pray.
I'm gonna talk about the botcutting the bond of iniquity.
If that's you and your family,and you feel like there's been
these things that have beenrecurrent in your family, and
you're like, man, I can't shakeit, or it's who we are, or
you've even declared like thisis just what our family is.

(12:05):
And uh that that's not truth.
It might be true for you, butit's not truth.
Yes, and so we have to declaretruth.
And so um, so I'm just gonna dothat.
So, Father, we just uh we justlift up these families
represented by this questiontoday on FAMOL about
generational curses orconnections or iniquities.
And Lord, and Father, we just wejust are so grateful for your

(12:28):
son who obediently went to thecross and shed his blood.
So, Jesus, we um we connect toyou in your heart and your blood
that you shed so willingly forus.
And we take the cross and weturn it into a sword and we cut
the bond of iniquities overthese families, over Melissa's
family, over every family thatconnects to this question, uh,
that it is no more.

(12:49):
Um, and we only have to inheritthe good stuff.
And so, Lord, we replace thatcurse with the blessing of who
you are and of your blood.
And we pray this in Jesus' name.
Amen.

SPEAKER_01 (13:00):
Amen.
Amen.
I'm just gonna add to that,Lord.
We just thank you for thefamilies, for the generation
that's coming after us, Father,the things that you're doing to
instill confidence of who youare in them.
Father, they are the radiantones, shielded and protected by

(13:20):
you with laser focus, with eyesstaring into yours, being
propelled further into thekingdom of God.
And so we just bless ourfamilies, we bless our
generations, we bless ourchildren, our grandchildren, and
our great-grandchildren that wewould be generations that are in

(13:41):
hot pursuit of you, leavingbehind the former things and
pressing on to what you havecalled us to.
Amen.
Amen.

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