June 10, 2024 • 42 mins
In part 1 of this 2-part episode, the Dave, Jon, and Ben discuss personalities! They start off with a food that they feel represents them and their personalities. Then Ben leads the guys in a Fat, Dumb, and Happy version of a personality test. Later they go over their results of a personality test they all took from 16personalities.com. They break down each category and what famous people and characters share their personality type. Finally, they look at how their personality relates to types of humor. It's a great time!
Take the personality test mentioned in this episode here:
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test/accessible
Here is the website that compares personality types to types of sense of humor:
https://personalitygrowth.com/the-sense-of-humor-that-each-personality-type-possesses/
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Hey FDH fans, we are taking a little summer break and we will be coming out with brand new hilarious episodes in the fall.
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In the meantime, we hope you enjoy this two-part episode on personalities.
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Stay fat, dumb, and happy, y'all.
What ever really happened to dudes calling each other best friends?
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Dave and John grew up in the 80s in New Jersey and they did everything together.
They were the quintessential best friends until they became teenagers and Dave moved away.
Fast forward to today and these two 40-somethings reconnected and decided to not only be besties again,
but to put on a podcast and share their reunion with anyone who will listen.
Welcome to Fat, Dumb, and Happy.
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Welcome back FTH fans to another great episode of Fat, Dumb, and Happy.
Today we are going to tackle the many differences in all of us as we discuss personalities.
Whether you are a pessimistic wallflower or a free-spirited social butterfly,
we will cover something you can relate to either about yourself or that one annoying person you interact with.
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Don't take it too seriously, we are going to have a great time.
With me as always is my Fat, Dumb, and Happy bro host, Juan.
What are you looking at, Juan?
What's up everybody? I'm so glad to be back, man. I feel like it's been forever.
This is super interesting stuff to me. So I really like this. I hope you all get some out of it.
Yeah, it's going to be awesome, dude. I'm excited too.
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And sharing his expertise with us is our very own Fat, Dumb, and Happy in-house special guest expert, it's Bram.
Ben, how are you doing?
Doing great tonight, man. This is going to be a good one. I'm looking forward to it.
You should do that. When somebody says, like, who is it? You should be like, it's Bram.
Five days since I looked at rings.
That's what I was thinking too.
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It's been two weeks.
Yeah. Chicken to China to Chinese chicken.
I'm excited, man. It's going to be a good time. We're going to have fun.
And Ben is our expert in personalities tonight, so we're going to have a lot of fun with him for sure.
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We usually try to do it every couple of weeks, but yeah, just depends. All right.
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Now over to John for the food portion of this episode.
So we can't have that. We're happy with that food portion.
This this was for me like this episode. We really looked inside, I guess, to who we are as people and to try to kind of relate this to food.
This is probably one of the harder ones, to be honest.
Let's start with you, Dave. What are you going with tonight?
It was hard because there's a lot of things, a lot of foods that I just really like.
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But I was trying to think, OK, well, what kind of describes my personality and actually Google, you know, what what is a food that, you know, person that has my kind of personality, easygoing.
And one of the things they said was cookies and baked goods.
And so I am a big fan of Oreos. So I got Oreos tonight and it's kind of a social food.
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You know, you bring a pack of Oreos to friends, you know, for a party or whatever.
And it's kind of a comfort food for me. And I'm going to not only eat an Oreo, but I'm going to show you the proper way to dunk an Oreo tonight.
So here's the thing. Step one, I got the fork.
It goes in between the cream, as you can see here, the fork in the cream.
That way you can just hold the fork, dunk it in the milk.
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And the way to know that it's done, you're literally drowning the Oreo because when you put it in there, bubbles come out.
And once the bubbles stop, it is thoroughly saturated with milk.
Oh, yeah, there we go. And.
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You're loving it, dude. Makes me want to try it out.
So good.
On your dunking style, I give you a 10 out of 10, man.
That's classic. I like that. I've never seen anybody put so much effort into dunking an Oreo before.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's clean. You don't have to you don't get your fingers wet.
You don't have like a half soggy, half crunchy Oreo.
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It's like all the way through perfect. So that's my recommendation. Drown your Oreos.
I wonder if the first person was like, you know, I'm going to put this in milk.
Yeah.
Good for that guy.
I was not the person that invented it, but as soon as I heard it, I was sold for life.
I was like, yep, absolutely.
Definitely looks like a comfort food kind of like experience.
Yeah. Yep. In fact, I'm not a milk drinker.
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It's like the only time I drink milk is either after dunking several, several Oreos or after eating a good bowl of cereal and the, you know, the cereal milk.
I'll drink that too. So.
All right.
Yeah, this is this one small example of how John and I differ in our personalities.
And yet we're besties.
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Yeah, it's really weird that way because you know me, you know, what do we have every single Sunday at dinner?
Milk.
Yeah, dude.
So weird.
I love milk, man. I could drink a couple gallons a week if I had to.
I know. One of these episodes we're doing the gallon challenge just because.
Oh my gosh. That was not great for me.
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I do with that. It was and I was eating greasy like Domino's pizza at the same time. It was no bueno.
No.
No way, dude.
Probably in some humid heat too, right?
Yeah.
Dude, that's an all around bad combo right there.
Milk was a bad choice.
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It was not great.
All right. So over to John, what are you eating tonight? What'd you bring?
All right, man. So look, this is all about us. This episode is all about us and our identities.
I want to stay true to myself. I'm a meat and potatoes guy.
So I got my nights mixed up. I actually made it last night.
But I had a nice fat New York strip and some mashed potatoes.
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Maybe it was delicious because it was cooked perfectly with a bloody in the middle. It was awesome.
Yeah. How do you order in a restaurant?
Medium rare.
There you go.
Anything over that is like making you want to go, you need a glass of milk or something.
You need a glass of milk. I think there's like a personality decider with that with like how you cook your steak for sure.
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That is something too.
So I'm on Twitter, you know, ex, formerly Twitter all the time.
And at least twice a week, somebody comes up and says, you know, somebody like throw something on there and they're like, you know, this is so disgusting.
It just shows a bloody, you know, piece of steak.
But the thing is, for those that don't know, the blood itself is sucked out during the whole cow killing process.
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So that's already done. That's not blood on your plate. It's mild loaths or something like that.
It helps oxygenate the blood inside your body. It does not harm you in any way, shape or form. It's not actual blood.
But it's funny because my buddy who is he went to the culinary institute of Houston, you know, his wife, like before they met when I first started dating,
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she gave her steak like medium, medium to medium well.
And it just disgusted him. It was like, look, you're going to try this medium rare fillet that he made.
And it was like perfection. She will not want anything but that now.
But so, yeah, so that's what I'm going with. What about you, Ben? What do you got going on?
I think my personality is the type that likes to seek new experiences and to understand other people and what they like.
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It kind of inspires me, you know, so somebody says, oh, man, I love this. I'm like, oh, I want to try that.
You know, I'm the guy. I don't eat the same thing every time.
I mean, I'm OK with that. But I really like this. Oh, I want to try some other way of doing it.
Like, oh, I want to try that dunking thing now. You know, so what I got here is something I've never actually had before is freeze dry jolly rancher.
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Now, if you could see, you know how small a jolly rancher is, right? This thing blew up into like a ball.
And I never had one before until this morning.
Actually, we just barely made a batch just to test out a thing. And I had to try one.
But this has a new flavor. This is the blue one. And I want to see what it's like.
Even listen to that, man. It's like a crunchy. You hear that crunch, man? Yeah, it's awesome.
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It's kind of like, I don't know, like cotton candy. Yeah. Rosin up. Yeah.
That like a crunchy cotton candy. Yeah.
I feel like the flavor is more intense. Yeah. But I like to go to new places.
I like to try something new, experience something I've never tried before like that, you know, like learn something to a higher level than I never learned before.
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I'm all about, like, having some new experience or new new knowledge or something, man.
Yeah. Basically, everything freeze dried is just like suck every last drop of any kind of moisture out of it until it's ready to crumble to dust.
Basically, but it like it like it magnifies the flavor like it concentrates it.
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You know what I mean? And so a little bit more powerful flavor, I think.
And this has a different texture to it and kind of melts in your mouth a little bit.
Interesting. Go ahead and send me a batch. I got to try it.
I'll share them with you, man. Come on over.
I think if I mailed them to you, like by the time you get them, it'd just be a bunch of powder at the bottom of the box.
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You know, the way those mailmen just like throw around the boxes and stuff.
Yeah, exactly. These things crumble pretty easy, too. Yeah.
I used to be one of those mailmen. Yeah, John does.
I'm very Eastman Torah-ish.
All right. So that's interesting things to think about.
Definitely try the freeze dried Jolly Rancher.
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I'm the opposite of Ben. I don't like trying new stuff, but I think that's really cool that his personality allows him to want somebody else when they say, oh, man, I love this.
He's like, oh, wait, I might love it, too. That's pretty cool, man.
I've just not built that way. I'll stick to my schedule. I know what I need.
But all right. So, Ben, what we got going on tonight? Tell me a little bit about what's up.
All right. Well, you know, the main event here is talking about personalities.
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And so before we started the podcast, we all took a personality test.
This one is from 16personalities.com.
Yeah, we're going to put the website in the show notes for this episode.
So if you want to take the free test and find out about your personality, it'll be there.
It's based off, I believe, the Myers-Briggs personality test.
There are many different versions of it, like the official one is like really expensive psychology exam, you know.
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But this gives you a brief overview of it.
And I thought I would come up with some good questions for you guys before we tell our results.
Just kind of like a way of getting the audience to kind of hear a little bit of the differences of these kinds of questions and know what they're talking about.
It's fun. It doesn't take too long.
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Honestly, they're pretty good. They're pretty good at pegging you for who you are.
And what I've noticed, I've taken this kind of test multiple times in my life, probably the first time when I was, I don't know, a teenager maybe even.
And I think every time I've come out the same or pretty close, you know, so it even lasts over time for the most part, even though sometimes I'll have a question where I'm like, I could go this way, I could go that way.
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But at the end of it, it usually turns out pretty much the same.
Anyway, so here's some questions.
I kind of made up some weirdly specific ones that are actually going to point out how you might want to answer the question by, well, yeah, but you know what I mean?
Sometimes when you're taking these tests, that's how you feel.
But they give you enough of the questions that over time, you might have some going one way, some going the other way.
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And you're most people are a little bit of a balance anyway.
It's not like you're all one or the other.
But this is just to give you a taste of stuff.
So starting off, let's go to the first one.
OK, guys, you find out your best friend organized a surprise party and invited everyone you know, along with a lot of plus ones.
So now you want to A, make sure you individually meet everyone and thank them for coming, including introducing yourself to every plus one that you don't know.
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Or B, find one or two of your best friends to talk to and hide out from everyone else.
That sounds miserable.
Yeah, that's gonna be B for me.
Nice. See, I'm going to lean more A. I mean, I wouldn't probably go down to every single like and talk a long time.
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But yeah, I'd want to meet everybody. So A for me, B for John. He was like, John was yelling B in before he even got to the question.
He's like, I don't care. Whatever. Whatever is not A, please.
Yeah, exactly. I was like, maybe there's more than two options, John. Relax.
So this one's kind of like to measure whether you're more of an introvert or an extrovert. And that's not so much necessarily how much like outgoing you are or how like social you can be.
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Because some introverts can actually be very like talented socially. You know what I mean?
And some extroverts really are a little awkward sometimes.
But what it really is, the question is asking is where do you get your energy from? You know, is it from like external stimuli or is it you know, you need that time to have internal reflection to rejuvenate?
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You know, and so I honestly for myself, I am kind of in the middle. I tend to be an introvert, but I have my moments of extroversion, man.
And sometimes it really gives me like a boost to be around other people and stuff.
So all right. Next question. Here we go. All right. You walk into a work meeting and suddenly everyone goes silent.
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Do you A, loudly proclaim that you are going to tell the boss every bad thing they've done if they don't tell you what you were talking about in the next five seconds?
Or B, you remember it's your birthday next week and decide to quietly walk by each coworker to see who flinches the most so you know who to needle for information later.
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Nice.
David, you go first.
I would be B, I think, on that one.
Yeah. If everybody just kind of like did silence, I'd be like who parted?
You just outright ask what is it? Right?
I think, you know, honestly, I would, I'd kind of give them a look, but I'd probably lean towards B.
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Okay.
To be honest. I'd be like, okay, that's weird, y'all. But, you know, and then I'd just kind of go about kind of gauging people's faces.
And then I'd get that question up later.
So closer to B maybe you said?
Leaning towards B.
Yeah. And that's the thing is that I wrote it in a way that both seem kind of a little bit weird.
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And so you wouldn't like exactly do it that way. And that's the thing is sometimes you have these questions, you're like, kind of, but not really.
So anyway, all right. So that one's like on sensing and intuition. It's like how you take in information. Is it like concrete information through your senses versus like you noticing patterns and theoretical processing?
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So here's an example I got from the website. It says when you walk into a room, how do you assess what's going on?
Do you prefer to get hard facts and direct answers? You probably ranked high for sensing S. If you prefer to rely on your intuition, you may walk into a room and get a feeling for what is happening.
You may look at patterns, body language, or get the feel or feel the energy in the room.
And that little scenario, the end would be like reading the room, right? Like reading the room to kind of gauge what's going on.
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Yeah, a little bit.
This one says, I'll just read real quick.
The S is for observant. The S. Observant individuals are highly practical, pragmatic, and down to earth. They tend to have strong habits and focus on what is happening or has already happened, while N for intuitive individuals are very imaginative, open minded, and curious.
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They prefer novelty over stability and focus on hidden meanings and future possibilities.
Yeah. And so, yeah, it's almost more like intuition is more philosophically thinking about things.
Yeah.
Whereas someone is sensing, or what's the word you used?
Observant.
Observant is more like, I see what I see. I'm not going to read too much into it kind of thing, you know?
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And, you know, here's the thing, the way they word the questions can allow people to misinterpret or kind of take it a different way. And so that's why they try to have multiple questions on the same category to get a better overall, you know, when you kind of like, you take multiple questions.
And if more than half of them are one way, then you probably lean a little more towards that way, if that makes any sense.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You can strongly agree or, you know, slightly agree or go on something.
Exactly.
Yeah, exactly.
Okay. So the next one, okay, your brother put an old pickle in your favorite toy and then sticks his tongue out as your parents walk into the room.
Would you A, silently make a pro and con list of whether to attack now with parents watching or attack later when he least expects it? Or B, throw caution to the wind and go with your gut and climb up on his head and let it rip in front of everyone.
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Nice.
Which brother is it, Ron?
Yeah, that makes a big difference for John.
I think it's the brother.
I think I can take Matt. I don't think I can take Jeff.
Jeff's pretty stocky.
I think I'm the first one.
Yeah, think about it.
I'm not rational. I'm not like you, I can't just go right there and go to it.
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Yeah. Yeah, I like the second answer better. I think I'd go that way.
Okay, so that's more thinking and feeling and it kind of answers the question of how do you make your decisions?
You know, some people will kind of go more with their gut versus some people want to like analyze it and think it through and, you know, careful that way in a sense.
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Okay, you have to take a week off from work next month or you lose your vacation time entirely. Do you A, plan out your trip in its entirety or B, wait and see how the weather is to decide what to do?
I'm planned.
Down to the minute.
Yeah, yeah, actually I am too. That's where we're the same.
I hate getting two places. So I want to have my site done. I want to have everything. I want to get there and know exactly what I'm doing now. It's weird though and I still want the first answer was mine.
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I'm still going with that but like once I'm there, if something has to deviate, I can handle that.
Like, it's not a huge deal. But like, yes, probably it is.
I'll be honest with you. I was on my cruise once and we were in Jamaica and my sister and my wife and my mom were taking forever, forever to get back to the transport.
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I just want to get back to the cruise ship. And man, it's just like because things didn't happen as they were planned.
Yeah. It was not great. I could take it forever. Yeah, when it affects your plans, it makes sense, man, for sure.
Totally. Yeah. So that's described as judgment versus perception and it's describing how it answers the question of how do you organize your world?
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Like this is the kind of ideas or the kind of questions maybe I made a little sillier this one, but the kind of things that we're talking about here.
So why don't we go through? Is it all right? We go through and share what we were on our tests. Yeah, let's do it.
Dave, you want to go first? Sure. So each of those letters stands for those ones that Ben just went through.
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And each letter has a percentage. So you could be pretty high in one or you could be kind of borderline where you're just barely a little bit more in one side.
So I am an ENFJ. That means I'm extroverted. Just I'm 68 percent.
So not like full blown extrovert, but I do get any energy from being social and things like that.
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Intuitive 60 percent, feeling 56 percent, judging 64 percent and then turbulent.
We didn't talk too much about that. Just turbulence versus like assertiveness.
I'm just over 50 percent, 53 percent. So I'm kind of right on the line there for that one.
They call that the protagonist. Anything that stood out to you really head on the most?
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One thing they say are the optimism. I definitely feel like I'm an optimist and they also talk about kind of the creative energy that a protagonist has.
And I feel like that's what gives me my my energy and the boost is that creativity.
So one thing about ENFJ that I thought was something that kind of I resonate with,
it says that ENFJ personalities have not only an uncanny ability to pick up on people's underlying motivations and beliefs,
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but also a knack for understanding how others are feeling just by looking at them.
I feel like I can get vibes from people pretty well, like I can read them for how they feel and how they feel towards me.
I don't know if that's right, but that's what I think.
Another thing that they have in here is that when ENFJs care about someone, they want to help solve that person's problems, sometimes at any cost.
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I'm definitely like a fixer. And that's something that I've had to try to work on.
Some people are grateful for this assistance and advice, but sometimes that can be not always a recipe for success, they say.
Stop being so supportive of me, you jerk.
Yeah. No, I don't care about you, John. I'm just kidding.
Cool, cool, cool. All right. It's interesting.
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But the 16 Personalities website also has people that share that same personality.
And for me, some interesting ones, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, John Cusack.
We've talked about him a few times, better off dead star, and Sean Connery.
What's cool about it and kind of fun is that they have, you know, not real people, just characters from books and movies.
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So apparently Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice.
My wife had a hard time believing and understanding that, and I don't know if I disagree.
So and you know, Morpheus from The Matrix. So it's kind of fun.
What about you, John? What did you get?
I found this testing very interesting. I feel like it was very accurate.
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And, you know, like Ben said, you know, I've taken that before and usually come up the same thing.
There is a lot of truth, Vine. So mine, my personality type is a logistician.
So I'm ISTJ, which just means that my traits are introverted.
I got 67 percent. So as much extroverted as you are today, that's how introverted I am.
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I think I'll go down again, but I'm not going to read you all something here in just a second.
Let's see. And then I was over 78 percent thinking.
I don't do that very much. I'm 53 percent.
But the thinking again, I base stuff more on facts as opposed to how things could be.
Judging, I'm super judging. I'm 81 percent when I'm 68 percent. So that's a logistician.
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I think that's it's interesting because I had a friend who is he's an extrovert.
He's never at home, always out, having a good time.
And he was dating this girl and she was an introvert.
And he goes, how do I do that? And it just so happens that like the day before,
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something came across one of my socials that says introverts want company just as much as extroverts do,
but they prefer it either in short dosage or with people they know well.
Yeah. And I thought that was super accurate because the only people I hang out with are people I already know.
I don't try to meet with people, you know, things like that. That's just not me.
And so I think that's a pretty accurate description of introverts.
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A couple of the things I found that really kind of kicked the nail on the head with this, you know,
some of my strengths versus weaknesses, all of my strengths are right. My weaknesses are wrong.
Yeah, nothing but strengths.
I only have strengths.
But as far as my personality, my very honest and direct person, that's one of my strengths.
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I will, you know, I have mentioned the honesty part, but, you know, I did wait until I was 24 years old
to come clean about setting my house on fire. I've linked it on my sister's dollar 24, but I'm part of that, to be honest, dude.
And I'm very direct and people sometimes can't handle that about me.
Like I'll tell you how it is. I, you know, if you're doing something, I'm going to let you know.
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I am disciplined. I'm very responsible. That's how I feel I am.
And like at times, like I'll have to take responsibility for others.
That's just kind of the way that I'm built. The common practical, you know, maybe sometimes I'm not as formal as I'd like to be.
Organized and effective. I'm a type A, right? Everything is organized. I got the OCD, you know, if you think about my place, I'm pretty spotless here.
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And then I research oriented. And that's kind of where the thinking comes in as well because I like basing everything I do off of facts and statistics and, you know,
the way that it actually is as opposed to the way people think it could be.
You know, so like I said, I think those are just some of the things that the logisticians, you know, they have those kind of traits.
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And I think, like I said, it feels pretty accurate. So I thought some of the coolest ones that I had, you know, Denzel, we've talked about him here a couple times.
Great actor. Anthony Hopkins. My boy, George Washington. I mean, come on.
Yeah, he does. A lot of political figures in here. Some that I don't like, but you know, there's also the Condoleezza Rice, Bush Jr.
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For those of the whites, the Game of Thrones, you know, Edward Stark. And then we got Hermione Granger. I mean, come on. I got a cool list here. I'm not going to lie. I got Jason Bourne on mine.
Even Stanis Boratheon. I got a list here, man. I think I got the best list here.
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But whether movie or real life, those are those characters or actual people that represent the same personality as me.
Yeah, I don't know, man. Hermione reads all those books, John. It's a little different.
I have a lot of them. Okay. So I guess my new career is I'm going to be Jason Bourne. That's just my takeaway.
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Yes. That's why I understood from that, too. Yeah, yeah. Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. Cool, cool, cool, cool.
It's Leviosa. Leviosa.
That's something I do correct people all the time. That's true, too. There you go.
What about you, Ben? What did you get? I got INFP.
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That's Introverted. That's an intuition. That's feeling and perception. And it's called a mediator.
Honestly, for me, and what I find interesting is a lot of these, I am close to the edge. I'm like in the 50s.
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So Introverted, I'm 56%. Feeling, I'm 57%. Prospecting, I'm 54%. Turbulent, I'm 58%.
And intuitive is the only one that I was really strong in, 78%.
I found that these things are hard for me because I find that my personality is impacted by my headaches.
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I have chronic pain and there's a part of me that I think would get more energy from people being around people more.
I have had moments like that where I am rejuvenated by socializing and everything like that.
But when my headaches are bad, I am not. And also I become more insecure, I think, about saying the wrong thing or doing stuff.
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I'm a little more careful with my words, I think, when I'm not at my best, when I'm not in the best mood because of my pain.
Or I'm just a little slower in my thought processes because I'm in a lot of pain.
And so then in those cases, it is draining for me to try to keep up with everybody and all the talking and stuff going on in a social environment with lots of people.
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That just saps me. And so part of me wonders if I would be a little different if I wasn't in as much pain.
But I don't know. I don't know. I mean, it's just a guess.
A couple of the things that kind of stood out to me is I could definitely relate to is I try to be really open-minded, try to see things from other people's perspectives.
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I tend to be critical of myself. For instance, those are kinds of things that I definitely can see in myself.
And I can be a little sensitive, I think. I can acknowledge that. That's like a weakness of mine.
I'm also very loyal and I try to be thoughtful and dedicated to the things that I value and stuff.
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And so there's definitely some of those strengths and weaknesses I can connect with.
But on the flip side, if I read some of these other people's stuff, sometimes I can kind of connect with some of those, too.
So you know what I mean? Like, it definitely fits me. I feel like it fits me.
But when I look at some of the other people's things, sometimes I can say, yeah, there's a piece of me that's kind of like that, too.
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I think that is reflective in the fact that my percentages tend to be kind of on the lower side because I have a little bit of me that's, you know,
and sometimes some people have seen only one side of me might be like, oh, dude, you're totally extroverted.
And I'm like, if you saw me at different times in my life, you wouldn't think that. You know what I mean?
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It's that kind of thing. I got J.R.R. Tolkien, William Shakespeare, Tom Hiddleston, Julia Roberts, Johnny Depp,
Frodo Baggins. Nice. Let's see. Anne from Anne of Green Gable. Some of these I don't recognize as much.
But yeah, there's quite a few. Kind of cool. Yeah, I think it's fun. For sure. I think your best one is Johnny Depp.
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Yeah. He's pretty cool.
Javi? Jack Sparrow, baby. Jack Sparrow.
Yeah, that's interesting, man. And I think, you know, something you mentioned about, you know, with your migraines, my buddy's wife,
she gets migraines quite often. And you can definitely tell the personality difference from her normal persona to her migraine persona.
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Yeah. And I think you're right. I think your numbers were very, you know, at least a little bit not having migraines compared to migraines.
Yeah. At the very least, you know, people when they have a really bad headache, like, for instance, there's a lot of noise,
it can really aggravate your headache. And so even though you might like to be in a crowd under normal circumstances, when it's loud and it's hot and it's, you know,
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like there's a lot of people there, just the noise alone can make you want to withdraw a little bit. You know what I mean?
And kind of recuperate from all this noise. And so I don't know how truly extroverted people handle a pain like that, you know,
because it does, it makes it a lot harder to socialize. I mean, we're all influenced by different life experiences and, you know,
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things that have shaped us over the years. And so even though I think there's probably from a very young age,
personality starts to develop, life happens, you know, and everybody has certain circumstances or certain times when there'll be like exceptions in a sense,
you know, you won't necessarily always be yourself. Right. And it's interesting. Sometimes people are a little for network, for instance,
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than when they're like socializing, for instance, you know, when they're having fun versus when they want to just want to get the job done.
Yeah. Yeah. And like the audience, the different type of person that you're dealing with might change, you know,
you're going to be different with your elderly grandma, maybe than you would be with your boss. Yeah, your boss or one of your little kids.
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You know what I mean? Like it's just going to, it's going to vary. Yeah. All right. And, you know, some things are not really fully covered by these things.
Sometimes people try to make it fit and it's interesting to see how that can work out. Like, for instance, I think sense of humor.
I mean, when you think of people with different senses of humor, you know, like you can kind of tell that sounds like a, like a joke that mom might say,
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or a joke that dad would say, or you know what I mean? Like that's something that you would totally not expect to come from, you know, then or whatever.
You know what I mean? Yeah. Sometimes they catch you off guard because it's not like what you imagine their personality to be like, right?
But some people have put together what they believe is like, you know, what's the sense of humor for each personality type?
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I thought you guys might want to hear, you know, what kind of sense of humor is typical for your personality type. Yeah. Let's see. How about you, John?
What was your type again? Yeah. Okay. It says, I STJs are often seen as too serious to enjoy humor, but that is definitely not the case.
Many people may miss the humor behind the I STJs comments because their delivery is very sarcastic and dry.
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Sometimes their ability to maintain a very deadpan delivery of their jokes can cause people to miss the joke completely and believe that their I STJ is being serious.
For people who can pick up on their unique brand of wit, they realize just how funny the I STJ can actually be.
Their subtle delivery of humor is an art form. Nice. I think my art form of humor delivery is talking in movie quotes. Is that a thing?
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Yeah. Let's see. Should we do it? I don't see anything for movie jokes, but who knows?
All right. What do you think, John? Do you see anything of that in you or not really?
The very first line was funny because I'm probably one of the most like, if you don't know me, I come across as super serious. Yeah. Like all the time.
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Okay. So that part might be right. Like when I'm a supervisor, things like that at my job, or, you know, I'm very, very serious.
That's exactly how I come across. So, and like, it's different once you get to know somebody. Yeah. As a parent, it's compared to like, you know, just being my first son.
Because they do obviously get my sense of humor. You do too, but yeah, I do come across in serious and, you know, I can see how they're very sarcastic and dry. I see that in my dad's.
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I think too, like you'll surprise us sometimes by slipping in a joke. You know what I mean? Like it's, it's, it's like subtle and good. I love it.
What were you Dave? Are you ENFJ?
FJ.
FJ. Okay. ENFJ. All right. Let me scroll down.
Yeah. I'm already seeing this sounds right. The first line at least.
The ENFJ has a sense of humor that is often molded to fit their surroundings. They know exactly how certain people will perceive their jokes and who will be offended.
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So they often avoid upsetting people and will tone themselves down in front of certain company.
Their natural sense of humor is often very goofy and silly, and they may have an affinity for sarcasm.
They can have a somewhat dark sense of humor and are aware that it isn't perceived well by everyone.
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They enjoy having people that can share their full sense of humor with. When they do, they are often sarcastic and silly and enjoy making others laugh.
Yeah.
I actually see some of that in you for sure.
Some of that for sure. I try not to be too dark in my humor, but I think
That might be the only thing that does not apply to you, but the rest is pretty accurate.
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I think too that it's in a scale, right? So sometimes for me, it's pushing the edge a little, but I'm still, you know, I'm playing what I joke about.
Yeah.
Nice. I'll see yours, Ben.
INFP. Okay. I don't know if mine fit. Well, maybe a little bit. INFPs often have a strong appreciation for sarcasm and absurd humor. Maybe the absurd humor especially.
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They have a skill for self-deprecating comedy that people absolutely love.
They are often very funny individuals to the people who can fully appreciate their offbeat sense of humor.
They have a very unique wit that is best expressed around people they are comfortable with.
Not everyone can enjoy the zany and sometimes ridiculous INFP humor.
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But honestly, that is their loss.
INFPs have a way of getting people laughing and not letting them stop.
They enjoy the ability to bring others joy and humor is an excellent way to do that.
I like it, man. I like it.
Do you feel like that too?
I think it kind of does. I'm not, I don't know. Maybe there was a time when I used to be a lot more sarcastic and I don't think I am as much anymore.
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But, and so that part is maybe, maybe has kind of died a little bit in me.
But I think maybe I used to be a little bit more.
And I am, I do, I do sometimes laugh at a lot of absurd stuff. I'm like, you know, like really laughed at the Monty Python kind of stuff back in the day.
But honestly, I will say my sense of humor has evolved over the years.
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You know, there's some kinds of stuff that I wouldn't have laughed at as a kid that I definitely laugh at now and vice versa.
It's expanded then, right? Or have you, oh, you're not as, you're not laughing at stuff as from when you were a kid?
You know, like I think for instance, I don't laugh at like fart humor as much as maybe when I was, you know, eight or 10, but I don't think anybody does as much.
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It's like crying shame, Ben. No, take that back. You take that back.
I don't know. I mean, I mean, I don't know. I mean, there's some things like that.
There are some things that have in the right mood. I might laugh at still, but not as much as I used to.
And I've definitely expanded to some things, you know, like, you know, that I didn't used to appreciate.
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But I don't know. It's funny because I feel like that and broad strokes. This is actually pretty, pretty decent hit.
Yeah, for all three of us. Yeah.
When I think of like people that I know, like for instance, my mom and dad's sense of humor, they're very different.
But I don't, I'd have to figure out what their personality type is and see if it really be a good match.
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But I don't know if I could identify exactly what it is. Like, I don't know. It's hard. I don't have the words to describe it.
Do you know what I mean? I just know it when I see it. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, for sure.
And I think that's true with a lot of people. Like I've known coworkers where I could totally see the joke they were going to go to the moment that somebody opened the crack of the door to that joke.
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You know what I mean? Like, oh, it's coming. Here it comes. And I look right at them because I know it's going to come from them. You know what I mean?
Yeah. Yeah. You just know. Yeah. And I don't know if it's, you know, like I could describe it and this, I mean, they could be an INFP for all I know.
And yet there's a little bit unique for me, you know? And so I think there's much more granularity to humor than is described here.
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But I think, I think this is a pretty good and broad brush strokes. Yeah.
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Today we are going to tackle the many differences in all of us as we discuss personalities.
Whether you are a pessimistic wallflower or a free-spirited social butterfly,
we will cover something you can relate to either about yourself or that one annoying person you interact with.
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What's up everybody? I'm so glad to be back, man. I feel like it's been forever.
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Doing great tonight, man. This is going to be a good one. I'm looking forward to it.
You should do that. When somebody says, like, who is it? You should be like, it's Bram.
Five days since I looked at rings.
That's what I was thinking too.
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Now over to John for the food portion of this episode.
So we can't have that. We're happy with that food portion.
This this was for me like this episode. We really looked inside, I guess, to who we are as people and to try to kind of relate this to food.
This is probably one of the harder ones, to be honest.
Let's start with you, Dave. What are you going with tonight?
It was hard because there's a lot of things, a lot of foods that I just really like.
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But I was trying to think, OK, well, what kind of describes my personality and actually Google, you know, what what is a food that, you know, person that has my kind of personality, easygoing.
And one of the things they said was cookies and baked goods.
And so I am a big fan of Oreos. So I got Oreos tonight and it's kind of a social food.
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You know, you bring a pack of Oreos to friends, you know, for a party or whatever.
And it's kind of a comfort food for me. And I'm going to not only eat an Oreo, but I'm going to show you the proper way to dunk an Oreo tonight.
So here's the thing. Step one, I got the fork.
It goes in between the cream, as you can see here, the fork in the cream.
That way you can just hold the fork, dunk it in the milk.
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And the way to know that it's done, you're literally drowning the Oreo because when you put it in there, bubbles come out.
And once the bubbles stop, it is thoroughly saturated with milk.
Oh, yeah, there we go. And.
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You're loving it, dude. Makes me want to try it out.
So good.
On your dunking style, I give you a 10 out of 10, man.
That's classic. I like that. I've never seen anybody put so much effort into dunking an Oreo before.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's clean. You don't have to you don't get your fingers wet.
You don't have like a half soggy, half crunchy Oreo.
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It's like all the way through perfect. So that's my recommendation. Drown your Oreos.
I wonder if the first person was like, you know, I'm going to put this in milk.
Yeah.
Good for that guy.
I was not the person that invented it, but as soon as I heard it, I was sold for life.
I was like, yep, absolutely.
Definitely looks like a comfort food kind of like experience.
Yeah. Yep. In fact, I'm not a milk drinker.
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It's like the only time I drink milk is either after dunking several, several Oreos or after eating a good bowl of cereal and the, you know, the cereal milk.
I'll drink that too. So.
All right.
Yeah, this is this one small example of how John and I differ in our personalities.
And yet we're besties.
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Yeah, it's really weird that way because you know me, you know, what do we have every single Sunday at dinner?
Milk.
Yeah, dude.
So weird.
I love milk, man. I could drink a couple gallons a week if I had to.
I know. One of these episodes we're doing the gallon challenge just because.
Oh my gosh. That was not great for me.
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I do with that. It was and I was eating greasy like Domino's pizza at the same time. It was no bueno.
No.
No way, dude.
Probably in some humid heat too, right?
Yeah.
Dude, that's an all around bad combo right there.
Milk was a bad choice.
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It was not great.
All right. So over to John, what are you eating tonight? What'd you bring?
All right, man. So look, this is all about us. This episode is all about us and our identities.
I want to stay true to myself. I'm a meat and potatoes guy.
So I got my nights mixed up. I actually made it last night.
But I had a nice fat New York strip and some mashed potatoes.
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Maybe it was delicious because it was cooked perfectly with a bloody in the middle. It was awesome.
Yeah. How do you order in a restaurant?
Medium rare.
There you go.
Anything over that is like making you want to go, you need a glass of milk or something.
You need a glass of milk. I think there's like a personality decider with that with like how you cook your steak for sure.
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That is something too.
So I'm on Twitter, you know, ex, formerly Twitter all the time.
And at least twice a week, somebody comes up and says, you know, somebody like throw something on there and they're like, you know, this is so disgusting.
It just shows a bloody, you know, piece of steak.
But the thing is, for those that don't know, the blood itself is sucked out during the whole cow killing process.
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So that's already done. That's not blood on your plate. It's mild loaths or something like that.
It helps oxygenate the blood inside your body. It does not harm you in any way, shape or form. It's not actual blood.
But it's funny because my buddy who is he went to the culinary institute of Houston, you know, his wife, like before they met when I first started dating,
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she gave her steak like medium, medium to medium well.
And it just disgusted him. It was like, look, you're going to try this medium rare fillet that he made.
And it was like perfection. She will not want anything but that now.
But so, yeah, so that's what I'm going with. What about you, Ben? What do you got going on?
I think my personality is the type that likes to seek new experiences and to understand other people and what they like.
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It kind of inspires me, you know, so somebody says, oh, man, I love this. I'm like, oh, I want to try that.
You know, I'm the guy. I don't eat the same thing every time.
I mean, I'm OK with that. But I really like this. Oh, I want to try some other way of doing it.
Like, oh, I want to try that dunking thing now. You know, so what I got here is something I've never actually had before is freeze dry jolly rancher.
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Now, if you could see, you know how small a jolly rancher is, right? This thing blew up into like a ball.
And I never had one before until this morning.
Actually, we just barely made a batch just to test out a thing. And I had to try one.
But this has a new flavor. This is the blue one. And I want to see what it's like.
Even listen to that, man. It's like a crunchy. You hear that crunch, man? Yeah, it's awesome.
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It's kind of like, I don't know, like cotton candy. Yeah. Rosin up. Yeah.
That like a crunchy cotton candy. Yeah.
I feel like the flavor is more intense. Yeah. But I like to go to new places.
I like to try something new, experience something I've never tried before like that, you know, like learn something to a higher level than I never learned before.
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I'm all about, like, having some new experience or new new knowledge or something, man.
Yeah. Basically, everything freeze dried is just like suck every last drop of any kind of moisture out of it until it's ready to crumble to dust.
Basically, but it like it like it magnifies the flavor like it concentrates it.
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You know what I mean? And so a little bit more powerful flavor, I think.
And this has a different texture to it and kind of melts in your mouth a little bit.
Interesting. Go ahead and send me a batch. I got to try it.
I'll share them with you, man. Come on over.
I think if I mailed them to you, like by the time you get them, it'd just be a bunch of powder at the bottom of the box.
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You know, the way those mailmen just like throw around the boxes and stuff.
Yeah, exactly. These things crumble pretty easy, too. Yeah.
I used to be one of those mailmen. Yeah, John does.
I'm very Eastman Torah-ish.
All right. So that's interesting things to think about.
Definitely try the freeze dried Jolly Rancher.
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I'm the opposite of Ben. I don't like trying new stuff, but I think that's really cool that his personality allows him to want somebody else when they say, oh, man, I love this.
He's like, oh, wait, I might love it, too. That's pretty cool, man.
I've just not built that way. I'll stick to my schedule. I know what I need.
But all right. So, Ben, what we got going on tonight? Tell me a little bit about what's up.
All right. Well, you know, the main event here is talking about personalities.
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And so before we started the podcast, we all took a personality test.
This one is from 16personalities.com.
Yeah, we're going to put the website in the show notes for this episode.
So if you want to take the free test and find out about your personality, it'll be there.
It's based off, I believe, the Myers-Briggs personality test.
There are many different versions of it, like the official one is like really expensive psychology exam, you know.
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But this gives you a brief overview of it.
And I thought I would come up with some good questions for you guys before we tell our results.
Just kind of like a way of getting the audience to kind of hear a little bit of the differences of these kinds of questions and know what they're talking about.
It's fun. It doesn't take too long.
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Honestly, they're pretty good. They're pretty good at pegging you for who you are.
And what I've noticed, I've taken this kind of test multiple times in my life, probably the first time when I was, I don't know, a teenager maybe even.
And I think every time I've come out the same or pretty close, you know, so it even lasts over time for the most part, even though sometimes I'll have a question where I'm like, I could go this way, I could go that way.
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But at the end of it, it usually turns out pretty much the same.
Anyway, so here's some questions.
I kind of made up some weirdly specific ones that are actually going to point out how you might want to answer the question by, well, yeah, but you know what I mean?
Sometimes when you're taking these tests, that's how you feel.
But they give you enough of the questions that over time, you might have some going one way, some going the other way.
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And you're most people are a little bit of a balance anyway.
It's not like you're all one or the other.
But this is just to give you a taste of stuff.
So starting off, let's go to the first one.
OK, guys, you find out your best friend organized a surprise party and invited everyone you know, along with a lot of plus ones.
So now you want to A, make sure you individually meet everyone and thank them for coming, including introducing yourself to every plus one that you don't know.
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Or B, find one or two of your best friends to talk to and hide out from everyone else.
That sounds miserable.
Yeah, that's gonna be B for me.
Nice. See, I'm going to lean more A. I mean, I wouldn't probably go down to every single like and talk a long time.
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But yeah, I'd want to meet everybody. So A for me, B for John. He was like, John was yelling B in before he even got to the question.
He's like, I don't care. Whatever. Whatever is not A, please.
Yeah, exactly. I was like, maybe there's more than two options, John. Relax.
So this one's kind of like to measure whether you're more of an introvert or an extrovert. And that's not so much necessarily how much like outgoing you are or how like social you can be.
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Because some introverts can actually be very like talented socially. You know what I mean?
And some extroverts really are a little awkward sometimes.
But what it really is, the question is asking is where do you get your energy from? You know, is it from like external stimuli or is it you know, you need that time to have internal reflection to rejuvenate?
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You know, and so I honestly for myself, I am kind of in the middle. I tend to be an introvert, but I have my moments of extroversion, man.
And sometimes it really gives me like a boost to be around other people and stuff.
So all right. Next question. Here we go. All right. You walk into a work meeting and suddenly everyone goes silent.
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Do you A, loudly proclaim that you are going to tell the boss every bad thing they've done if they don't tell you what you were talking about in the next five seconds?
Or B, you remember it's your birthday next week and decide to quietly walk by each coworker to see who flinches the most so you know who to needle for information later.
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Nice.
David, you go first.
I would be B, I think, on that one.
Yeah. If everybody just kind of like did silence, I'd be like who parted?
You just outright ask what is it? Right?
I think, you know, honestly, I would, I'd kind of give them a look, but I'd probably lean towards B.
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Okay.
To be honest. I'd be like, okay, that's weird, y'all. But, you know, and then I'd just kind of go about kind of gauging people's faces.
And then I'd get that question up later.
So closer to B maybe you said?
Leaning towards B.
Yeah. And that's the thing is that I wrote it in a way that both seem kind of a little bit weird.
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And so you wouldn't like exactly do it that way. And that's the thing is sometimes you have these questions, you're like, kind of, but not really.
So anyway, all right. So that one's like on sensing and intuition. It's like how you take in information. Is it like concrete information through your senses versus like you noticing patterns and theoretical processing?
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So here's an example I got from the website. It says when you walk into a room, how do you assess what's going on?
Do you prefer to get hard facts and direct answers? You probably ranked high for sensing S. If you prefer to rely on your intuition, you may walk into a room and get a feeling for what is happening.
You may look at patterns, body language, or get the feel or feel the energy in the room.
And that little scenario, the end would be like reading the room, right? Like reading the room to kind of gauge what's going on.
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Yeah, a little bit.
This one says, I'll just read real quick.
The S is for observant. The S. Observant individuals are highly practical, pragmatic, and down to earth. They tend to have strong habits and focus on what is happening or has already happened, while N for intuitive individuals are very imaginative, open minded, and curious.
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They prefer novelty over stability and focus on hidden meanings and future possibilities.
Yeah. And so, yeah, it's almost more like intuition is more philosophically thinking about things.
Yeah.
Whereas someone is sensing, or what's the word you used?
Observant.
Observant is more like, I see what I see. I'm not going to read too much into it kind of thing, you know?
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And, you know, here's the thing, the way they word the questions can allow people to misinterpret or kind of take it a different way. And so that's why they try to have multiple questions on the same category to get a better overall, you know, when you kind of like, you take multiple questions.
And if more than half of them are one way, then you probably lean a little more towards that way, if that makes any sense.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You can strongly agree or, you know, slightly agree or go on something.
Exactly.
Yeah, exactly.
Okay. So the next one, okay, your brother put an old pickle in your favorite toy and then sticks his tongue out as your parents walk into the room.
Would you A, silently make a pro and con list of whether to attack now with parents watching or attack later when he least expects it? Or B, throw caution to the wind and go with your gut and climb up on his head and let it rip in front of everyone.
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Nice.
Which brother is it, Ron?
Yeah, that makes a big difference for John.
I think it's the brother.
I think I can take Matt. I don't think I can take Jeff.
Jeff's pretty stocky.
I think I'm the first one.
Yeah, think about it.
I'm not rational. I'm not like you, I can't just go right there and go to it.
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Yeah. Yeah, I like the second answer better. I think I'd go that way.
Okay, so that's more thinking and feeling and it kind of answers the question of how do you make your decisions?
You know, some people will kind of go more with their gut versus some people want to like analyze it and think it through and, you know, careful that way in a sense.
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Okay, you have to take a week off from work next month or you lose your vacation time entirely. Do you A, plan out your trip in its entirety or B, wait and see how the weather is to decide what to do?
I'm planned.
Down to the minute.
Yeah, yeah, actually I am too. That's where we're the same.
I hate getting two places. So I want to have my site done. I want to have everything. I want to get there and know exactly what I'm doing now. It's weird though and I still want the first answer was mine.
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I'm still going with that but like once I'm there, if something has to deviate, I can handle that.
Like, it's not a huge deal. But like, yes, probably it is.
I'll be honest with you. I was on my cruise once and we were in Jamaica and my sister and my wife and my mom were taking forever, forever to get back to the transport.
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I just want to get back to the cruise ship. And man, it's just like because things didn't happen as they were planned.
Yeah. It was not great. I could take it forever. Yeah, when it affects your plans, it makes sense, man, for sure.
Totally. Yeah. So that's described as judgment versus perception and it's describing how it answers the question of how do you organize your world?
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Like this is the kind of ideas or the kind of questions maybe I made a little sillier this one, but the kind of things that we're talking about here.
So why don't we go through? Is it all right? We go through and share what we were on our tests. Yeah, let's do it.
Dave, you want to go first? Sure. So each of those letters stands for those ones that Ben just went through.
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And each letter has a percentage. So you could be pretty high in one or you could be kind of borderline where you're just barely a little bit more in one side.
So I am an ENFJ. That means I'm extroverted. Just I'm 68 percent.
So not like full blown extrovert, but I do get any energy from being social and things like that.
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Intuitive 60 percent, feeling 56 percent, judging 64 percent and then turbulent.
We didn't talk too much about that. Just turbulence versus like assertiveness.
I'm just over 50 percent, 53 percent. So I'm kind of right on the line there for that one.
They call that the protagonist. Anything that stood out to you really head on the most?
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One thing they say are the optimism. I definitely feel like I'm an optimist and they also talk about kind of the creative energy that a protagonist has.
And I feel like that's what gives me my my energy and the boost is that creativity.
So one thing about ENFJ that I thought was something that kind of I resonate with,
it says that ENFJ personalities have not only an uncanny ability to pick up on people's underlying motivations and beliefs,
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but also a knack for understanding how others are feeling just by looking at them.
I feel like I can get vibes from people pretty well, like I can read them for how they feel and how they feel towards me.
I don't know if that's right, but that's what I think.
Another thing that they have in here is that when ENFJs care about someone, they want to help solve that person's problems, sometimes at any cost.
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I'm definitely like a fixer. And that's something that I've had to try to work on.
Some people are grateful for this assistance and advice, but sometimes that can be not always a recipe for success, they say.
Stop being so supportive of me, you jerk.
Yeah. No, I don't care about you, John. I'm just kidding.
Cool, cool, cool. All right. It's interesting.
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But the 16 Personalities website also has people that share that same personality.
And for me, some interesting ones, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, John Cusack.
We've talked about him a few times, better off dead star, and Sean Connery.
What's cool about it and kind of fun is that they have, you know, not real people, just characters from books and movies.
(23:35):
So apparently Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice.
My wife had a hard time believing and understanding that, and I don't know if I disagree.
So and you know, Morpheus from The Matrix. So it's kind of fun.
What about you, John? What did you get?
I found this testing very interesting. I feel like it was very accurate.
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And, you know, like Ben said, you know, I've taken that before and usually come up the same thing.
There is a lot of truth, Vine. So mine, my personality type is a logistician.
So I'm ISTJ, which just means that my traits are introverted.
I got 67 percent. So as much extroverted as you are today, that's how introverted I am.
(24:18):
I think I'll go down again, but I'm not going to read you all something here in just a second.
Let's see. And then I was over 78 percent thinking.
I don't do that very much. I'm 53 percent.
But the thinking again, I base stuff more on facts as opposed to how things could be.
Judging, I'm super judging. I'm 81 percent when I'm 68 percent. So that's a logistician.
(24:44):
I think that's it's interesting because I had a friend who is he's an extrovert.
He's never at home, always out, having a good time.
And he was dating this girl and she was an introvert.
And he goes, how do I do that? And it just so happens that like the day before,
(25:07):
something came across one of my socials that says introverts want company just as much as extroverts do,
but they prefer it either in short dosage or with people they know well.
Yeah. And I thought that was super accurate because the only people I hang out with are people I already know.
I don't try to meet with people, you know, things like that. That's just not me.
And so I think that's a pretty accurate description of introverts.
(25:31):
A couple of the things I found that really kind of kicked the nail on the head with this, you know,
some of my strengths versus weaknesses, all of my strengths are right. My weaknesses are wrong.
Yeah, nothing but strengths.
I only have strengths.
But as far as my personality, my very honest and direct person, that's one of my strengths.
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I will, you know, I have mentioned the honesty part, but, you know, I did wait until I was 24 years old
to come clean about setting my house on fire. I've linked it on my sister's dollar 24, but I'm part of that, to be honest, dude.
And I'm very direct and people sometimes can't handle that about me.
Like I'll tell you how it is. I, you know, if you're doing something, I'm going to let you know.
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I am disciplined. I'm very responsible. That's how I feel I am.
And like at times, like I'll have to take responsibility for others.
That's just kind of the way that I'm built. The common practical, you know, maybe sometimes I'm not as formal as I'd like to be.
Organized and effective. I'm a type A, right? Everything is organized. I got the OCD, you know, if you think about my place, I'm pretty spotless here.
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And then I research oriented. And that's kind of where the thinking comes in as well because I like basing everything I do off of facts and statistics and, you know,
the way that it actually is as opposed to the way people think it could be.
You know, so like I said, I think those are just some of the things that the logisticians, you know, they have those kind of traits.
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And I think, like I said, it feels pretty accurate. So I thought some of the coolest ones that I had, you know, Denzel, we've talked about him here a couple times.
Great actor. Anthony Hopkins. My boy, George Washington. I mean, come on.
Yeah, he does. A lot of political figures in here. Some that I don't like, but you know, there's also the Condoleezza Rice, Bush Jr.
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For those of the whites, the Game of Thrones, you know, Edward Stark. And then we got Hermione Granger. I mean, come on. I got a cool list here. I'm not going to lie. I got Jason Bourne on mine.
Even Stanis Boratheon. I got a list here, man. I think I got the best list here.
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But whether movie or real life, those are those characters or actual people that represent the same personality as me.
Yeah, I don't know, man. Hermione reads all those books, John. It's a little different.
I have a lot of them. Okay. So I guess my new career is I'm going to be Jason Bourne. That's just my takeaway.
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Yes. That's why I understood from that, too. Yeah, yeah. Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. Cool, cool, cool, cool.
It's Leviosa. Leviosa.
That's something I do correct people all the time. That's true, too. There you go.
What about you, Ben? What did you get? I got INFP.
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That's Introverted. That's an intuition. That's feeling and perception. And it's called a mediator.
Honestly, for me, and what I find interesting is a lot of these, I am close to the edge. I'm like in the 50s.
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So Introverted, I'm 56%. Feeling, I'm 57%. Prospecting, I'm 54%. Turbulent, I'm 58%.
And intuitive is the only one that I was really strong in, 78%.
I found that these things are hard for me because I find that my personality is impacted by my headaches.
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I have chronic pain and there's a part of me that I think would get more energy from people being around people more.
I have had moments like that where I am rejuvenated by socializing and everything like that.
But when my headaches are bad, I am not. And also I become more insecure, I think, about saying the wrong thing or doing stuff.
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I'm a little more careful with my words, I think, when I'm not at my best, when I'm not in the best mood because of my pain.
Or I'm just a little slower in my thought processes because I'm in a lot of pain.
And so then in those cases, it is draining for me to try to keep up with everybody and all the talking and stuff going on in a social environment with lots of people.
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That just saps me. And so part of me wonders if I would be a little different if I wasn't in as much pain.
But I don't know. I don't know. I mean, it's just a guess.
A couple of the things that kind of stood out to me is I could definitely relate to is I try to be really open-minded, try to see things from other people's perspectives.
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I tend to be critical of myself. For instance, those are kinds of things that I definitely can see in myself.
And I can be a little sensitive, I think. I can acknowledge that. That's like a weakness of mine.
I'm also very loyal and I try to be thoughtful and dedicated to the things that I value and stuff.
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And so there's definitely some of those strengths and weaknesses I can connect with.
But on the flip side, if I read some of these other people's stuff, sometimes I can kind of connect with some of those, too.
So you know what I mean? Like, it definitely fits me. I feel like it fits me.
But when I look at some of the other people's things, sometimes I can say, yeah, there's a piece of me that's kind of like that, too.
(31:28):
I think that is reflective in the fact that my percentages tend to be kind of on the lower side because I have a little bit of me that's, you know,
and sometimes some people have seen only one side of me might be like, oh, dude, you're totally extroverted.
And I'm like, if you saw me at different times in my life, you wouldn't think that. You know what I mean?
(31:49):
It's that kind of thing. I got J.R.R. Tolkien, William Shakespeare, Tom Hiddleston, Julia Roberts, Johnny Depp,
Frodo Baggins. Nice. Let's see. Anne from Anne of Green Gable. Some of these I don't recognize as much.
But yeah, there's quite a few. Kind of cool. Yeah, I think it's fun. For sure. I think your best one is Johnny Depp.
(32:15):
Yeah. He's pretty cool.
Javi? Jack Sparrow, baby. Jack Sparrow.
Yeah, that's interesting, man. And I think, you know, something you mentioned about, you know, with your migraines, my buddy's wife,
she gets migraines quite often. And you can definitely tell the personality difference from her normal persona to her migraine persona.
(32:40):
Yeah. And I think you're right. I think your numbers were very, you know, at least a little bit not having migraines compared to migraines.
Yeah. At the very least, you know, people when they have a really bad headache, like, for instance, there's a lot of noise,
it can really aggravate your headache. And so even though you might like to be in a crowd under normal circumstances, when it's loud and it's hot and it's, you know,
(33:05):
like there's a lot of people there, just the noise alone can make you want to withdraw a little bit. You know what I mean?
And kind of recuperate from all this noise. And so I don't know how truly extroverted people handle a pain like that, you know,
because it does, it makes it a lot harder to socialize. I mean, we're all influenced by different life experiences and, you know,
(33:32):
things that have shaped us over the years. And so even though I think there's probably from a very young age,
personality starts to develop, life happens, you know, and everybody has certain circumstances or certain times when there'll be like exceptions in a sense,
you know, you won't necessarily always be yourself. Right. And it's interesting. Sometimes people are a little for network, for instance,
(33:58):
than when they're like socializing, for instance, you know, when they're having fun versus when they want to just want to get the job done.
Yeah. Yeah. And like the audience, the different type of person that you're dealing with might change, you know,
you're going to be different with your elderly grandma, maybe than you would be with your boss. Yeah, your boss or one of your little kids.
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You know what I mean? Like it's just going to, it's going to vary. Yeah. All right. And, you know, some things are not really fully covered by these things.
Sometimes people try to make it fit and it's interesting to see how that can work out. Like, for instance, I think sense of humor.
I mean, when you think of people with different senses of humor, you know, like you can kind of tell that sounds like a, like a joke that mom might say,
(34:47):
or a joke that dad would say, or you know what I mean? Like that's something that you would totally not expect to come from, you know, then or whatever.
You know what I mean? Yeah. Sometimes they catch you off guard because it's not like what you imagine their personality to be like, right?
But some people have put together what they believe is like, you know, what's the sense of humor for each personality type?
(35:11):
I thought you guys might want to hear, you know, what kind of sense of humor is typical for your personality type. Yeah. Let's see. How about you, John?
What was your type again? Yeah. Okay. It says, I STJs are often seen as too serious to enjoy humor, but that is definitely not the case.
Many people may miss the humor behind the I STJs comments because their delivery is very sarcastic and dry.
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Sometimes their ability to maintain a very deadpan delivery of their jokes can cause people to miss the joke completely and believe that their I STJ is being serious.
For people who can pick up on their unique brand of wit, they realize just how funny the I STJ can actually be.
Their subtle delivery of humor is an art form. Nice. I think my art form of humor delivery is talking in movie quotes. Is that a thing?
(36:05):
Yeah. Let's see. Should we do it? I don't see anything for movie jokes, but who knows?
All right. What do you think, John? Do you see anything of that in you or not really?
The very first line was funny because I'm probably one of the most like, if you don't know me, I come across as super serious. Yeah. Like all the time.
(36:26):
Okay. So that part might be right. Like when I'm a supervisor, things like that at my job, or, you know, I'm very, very serious.
That's exactly how I come across. So, and like, it's different once you get to know somebody. Yeah. As a parent, it's compared to like, you know, just being my first son.
Because they do obviously get my sense of humor. You do too, but yeah, I do come across in serious and, you know, I can see how they're very sarcastic and dry. I see that in my dad's.
(36:58):
I think too, like you'll surprise us sometimes by slipping in a joke. You know what I mean? Like it's, it's, it's like subtle and good. I love it.
What were you Dave? Are you ENFJ?
FJ.
FJ. Okay. ENFJ. All right. Let me scroll down.
Yeah. I'm already seeing this sounds right. The first line at least.
The ENFJ has a sense of humor that is often molded to fit their surroundings. They know exactly how certain people will perceive their jokes and who will be offended.
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So they often avoid upsetting people and will tone themselves down in front of certain company.
Their natural sense of humor is often very goofy and silly, and they may have an affinity for sarcasm.
They can have a somewhat dark sense of humor and are aware that it isn't perceived well by everyone.
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They enjoy having people that can share their full sense of humor with. When they do, they are often sarcastic and silly and enjoy making others laugh.
Yeah.
I actually see some of that in you for sure.
Some of that for sure. I try not to be too dark in my humor, but I think
That might be the only thing that does not apply to you, but the rest is pretty accurate.
(38:16):
I think too that it's in a scale, right? So sometimes for me, it's pushing the edge a little, but I'm still, you know, I'm playing what I joke about.
Yeah.
Nice. I'll see yours, Ben.
INFP. Okay. I don't know if mine fit. Well, maybe a little bit. INFPs often have a strong appreciation for sarcasm and absurd humor. Maybe the absurd humor especially.
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They have a skill for self-deprecating comedy that people absolutely love.
They are often very funny individuals to the people who can fully appreciate their offbeat sense of humor.
They have a very unique wit that is best expressed around people they are comfortable with.
Not everyone can enjoy the zany and sometimes ridiculous INFP humor.
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But honestly, that is their loss.
INFPs have a way of getting people laughing and not letting them stop.
They enjoy the ability to bring others joy and humor is an excellent way to do that.
I like it, man. I like it.
Do you feel like that too?
I think it kind of does. I'm not, I don't know. Maybe there was a time when I used to be a lot more sarcastic and I don't think I am as much anymore.
(39:34):
But, and so that part is maybe, maybe has kind of died a little bit in me.
But I think maybe I used to be a little bit more.
And I am, I do, I do sometimes laugh at a lot of absurd stuff. I'm like, you know, like really laughed at the Monty Python kind of stuff back in the day.
But honestly, I will say my sense of humor has evolved over the years.
(40:00):
You know, there's some kinds of stuff that I wouldn't have laughed at as a kid that I definitely laugh at now and vice versa.
It's expanded then, right? Or have you, oh, you're not as, you're not laughing at stuff as from when you were a kid?
You know, like I think for instance, I don't laugh at like fart humor as much as maybe when I was, you know, eight or 10, but I don't think anybody does as much.
(40:22):
It's like crying shame, Ben. No, take that back. You take that back.
I don't know. I mean, I mean, I don't know. I mean, there's some things like that.
There are some things that have in the right mood. I might laugh at still, but not as much as I used to.
And I've definitely expanded to some things, you know, like, you know, that I didn't used to appreciate.
(40:44):
But I don't know. It's funny because I feel like that and broad strokes. This is actually pretty, pretty decent hit.
Yeah, for all three of us. Yeah.
When I think of like people that I know, like for instance, my mom and dad's sense of humor, they're very different.
But I don't, I'd have to figure out what their personality type is and see if it really be a good match.
(41:05):
But I don't know if I could identify exactly what it is. Like, I don't know. It's hard. I don't have the words to describe it.
Do you know what I mean? I just know it when I see it. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, for sure.
And I think that's true with a lot of people. Like I've known coworkers where I could totally see the joke they were going to go to the moment that somebody opened the crack of the door to that joke.
(41:27):
You know what I mean? Like, oh, it's coming. Here it comes. And I look right at them because I know it's going to come from them. You know what I mean?
Yeah. Yeah. You just know. Yeah. And I don't know if it's, you know, like I could describe it and this, I mean, they could be an INFP for all I know.
And yet there's a little bit unique for me, you know? And so I think there's much more granularity to humor than is described here.
(41:53):
But I think, I think this is a pretty good and broad brush strokes. Yeah.
Hey, thanks so much for listening to part one of this episode. Stay tuned for more fun in part two.
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