Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty

Keywords

parenting, resilience, child development, emotional growth, boundaries, parenting styles, Tovah Klein, Raising Resilience, psychology, family dynamics, sibling relationships, divorce, emotional connection, co-parenting, communication, family support

Summary 

In this conversation, Tovah Klein, a psychology professor and author, discusses her insights on parenting, and child development. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the parent-child relationship and the uniqueness of each child. She speaks about the five pillars that help us build resilience in our children and she tells us about the need for boundaries and routines in our children's lives. Tovah also introduces the concept of the 'You Factor', highlighting the significance of self-awareness in parenting. The discussion also covers parenting styles and their impact on children's emotional growth and independence. Additionally Tovah Klein shares essential parenting strategies, emphasizing the importance of saying no, understanding sibling dynamics, and navigating the challenges of divorce. She highlights the significance of maintaining emotional connections, especially in blended families, and offers practical advice for parents to support their children through transitions. The conversation concludes with reflections on personal growth and the importance of listening.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Tovah Klein and Her Work

03:45 The Inspiration Behind 'Raising Resilience'

05:28 Exploring the Five Pillars of Resilience

11:35 Understanding the 'You Factor' in Parenting

18:50 The Importance of Boundaries and Routines

22:17 Parenting Styles: The Four Types

26:08 The Importance of Saying No in Parenting

27:01 Understanding Sibling Dynamics

31:34 Navigating Divorce and Its Impact on Children

37:43 Incorporating New Family Members

41:41 Maintaining Connection Across Distances

46:59 Reflections on Parenting and Personal Growth

51:16 Outro

My Guest 

My guest today is Dr. Tovah Klein. Tovah is Director of the ⁠Barnard College Center for Toddler Development⁠, Psychology Professor at Barnard College and author of two national bestsellers:  ⁠Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty⁠ and  ⁠How Toddlers Thrive⁠. 

After growing up in Ohio, Tovah graduated from the University of Michigan and holds a doctorate in clinical psychology from Duke University. 

Tovah is a proud mother of 3 children who she accompanied along with her extensive work into their life. She worked for Over three decades with families and children . Her focus on families stems from her interest in the influences parents have on children's well-being as well as their joy and curiosity. Her research explores parenting influences and challenges, including work and family; play and emotional development and parents' affective influences on children's learning. Additionally Tovah worked with the effects of trauma in children, and conducted a study of parenting during the covid19 pandemic.

Though Tovah has been called the ‘toddler whisperer’ by Good Morning America, she works across all ages of children and teens. Tovah consults worldwide to media and  children’s programs  including National Geographic Kids, Apple TV+ and HBO Kids. Additionally Tovah is an advisor to Children's Museum of Manhattan, Hunts Point Alliance for Children, Room to Grow and Ubuntu Pathways S. Africa.

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