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July 7, 2025 21 mins

Episode 2: Decision Fatigue and the Invisibility of Mental Labor: How I Handle it with Soft Structure

This week, we’re talking about decision fatigue and the invisible weight of mental labor. You know, all the shit nobody sees but somehow still needs to get done.

I’m breaking down how I manage it without breaking myself in the process, using what I call the Soft Structure method: a flexible, ADHD-friendly planning system that helps me be honest about my energy while taking care of my responsibilities.

We'll get into:

  • Why decision fatigue is real as hell and what happened when I ignored it.

  • What mental labor looks like and how to bring it to light.

  • The nitty gritty of my Soft Structure method and how to make it work for you

  • How to get the printable version of the Soft Structure guide.

  • How to use things like body doubling and the modified Pomodoro method to keep from getting lost in the sauce.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Honeyman Method video: the original inspiration that went alongside one of my therapy appointments to help me build my version.
Download the Soft Structure Planner PDF: totally free, editable in Canva or easy to print/use digitally.
Memberships & Perks: How to get early access, behind-the-scenes, and random content from me. Before everybody else.
Members Only Feed: The place where my subscribers can tap in directly to access the good stuff they paid for.


A huge thank you to my Onyx & Raven members: Nikki H., Kelsey W., RK Garrett, Coney Ham, Chelseaavert, & Ceruleanfirefly 🖤


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