F*ck the Chaos! Find Clarity with Lidia Ranieri

Episode 5: 🔮 F*ck, I Need to Realign

Midlife hits differently when you realise the life you built might not be the one that actually fits.

In this episode, I sit down with one of the most intuitive, insightful, and downright amazing people I know, Lidia Ranieri. From raising capital in high finance to reading birth charts and helping people find their true north, Lidia’s journey is anything but traditional.

She’s coached me through some of my biggest life pivots - career, identity, purpose, and today, she’s here to help all of us navigate the midlife shift.

✨ What it means to live in alignment and why so many of us feel like we’re off track in our 40s

🔄 How Lidia moved from financial powerhouse to astrologer and coach (and why it actually makes perfect sense)

🌙 Astrology beyond the memes - how to use your chart as a tool for self-discovery.

⚡ Big transitions, bold decisions, and trusting yourself when everything feels up in the air.

🏡 Letting go of old roles, expectations, and lives that no longer fit.

💫 How to listen to your intuition and what to do when the noise gets loud.

We also talk sharks 🦈, Byron moves, life on the rocks in Bondi, and that one unforgettable New Year’s Eve on a boat with her boys.

🔥 Lidia’s challenge for me - what she’s daring me to try before I hit 50.

🎯 The ‘Try This Before I’m 50’ Challenge

Every guest on this podcast throws me a challenge—something bold, surprising, or totally out of my comfort zone. Lidia’s got a good one, and yes… I’ve committed.

🌀 Want to go deeper with Lidia?

Explore her cosmic-meets-practical world of astrology and coaching:

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So if you’re feeling a little out of sync, questioning what’s next, or just ready to shake off the autopilot and tune back in—this episode is for you.

Because f*ck, we’re nearly 50 and isn’t that amazing?

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Episode Transcript

Unknown (00:00):
Hi, I'm Dom hind and fuck, I'm nearly 50. Actually,
I'm 47 in two months, and I'mstarting the countdown now
because I want to hit 50 on myterms. The thing is, midlife
sneaks up on you one minute.
You're charging ahead, buildinga career, juggling life, making
it all work, and then suddenlyyou pause and think, Is this the

(00:20):
life I truly want to be living?
That's exactly why I wanted tohave this conversation with
today's guest, Lidia Ranieri.
Lidia is one of those people whomakes you see things
differently. She's a coach, anastrologer and a former finance
and trading expert who built ahuge career advising the

(00:41):
country's biggest portfoliomanagers before stepping into
the work she truly loves,helping people find alignment,
purpose and clarity in theirlives. She's helped me through
some of my biggest shifts, bothpersonally and professionally,
whether it was deep inner work,navigating big life changes all

(01:01):
that one time we were nearlytaken out by a shark on our epic
hagerson Island trip. We spentNew Year's Eve on the back of
the boat with her boys, caughtmore fish than we could have
eaten, and had some of the mostgame changing conversations of
my life. Now she's fullyembracing her purpose, blending

(01:21):
strategy with intuition to helpmake people the kind of people
who are actually fit with wherethey should be. So today we're
getting into it all mid life,awakenings, astrology, purpose,
finance and how we can stopfighting against ourselves and
start living in alignment,because midlife isn't about

(01:43):
holding on, it's about steppinginto who we're actually meant to
be. Let's get into it becausefuck, I'm nearly 50, and isn't
it amazing?
You some people are pure magic.
You meet them and suddenly youjust see things a little

(02:11):
clearer, you understand yourselfa little better, and you feel
like you are exactly whereyou're supposed to be that's
Lidia. She spent years in highstakes finance, advising the
country's largest portfoliomanagers, raising capital for
companies like MYOB andMedibank. But along the way, she

(02:31):
realised the real work she wasdrawn to was helping people see
their own path clearly. Nowshe's combining coaching,
astrology and deeptransformation work to guide
people through midlife shifts,whether that's questioning their

(02:52):
career paths, moving throughpersonal transitions, or simply
figuring it out what actuallymakes them feel alive. She's got
this perfect mix of big picturestrategy and deep, intuitive
wisdom, and she's someone youwant in your corner when you're
figuring out what's next. Today,we're diving into it all mid

(03:16):
life awakenings, letting go ofwhat not or what no longer
serves you, which we've had manydiscussions about making space
from What does and how we canactually start making choices
that align with who we are.
Lidia, welcome to fuck. I'mnearly 50. How would you

(03:42):
introduce yourself in the mostLidia way possible?

Lidia Raneri (03:47):
Oh, my goodness, Dom, I'm not sure that I should
introduce myself in the mostlinear way possible, because the
way DOM just introduced me wasmagnificent. Okay, well, I can
obviously do what Lydia hasdone, and that's one way of
introducing myself. And so, youknow, as a first tier, yes, I

(04:07):
have a background in finance, 25years in stock broking,
investment banking and advice,and it was an absolutely
incredible dynamic, amazingcareer. One. I loved it. I loved
every minute of it, and itsuited me down to the ground.
I'm also a mum. I have twobeautiful boys. I have a loving

(04:29):
husband. I am the daughter ofItalian migrants, and I'm very
proud of my Italian heritage.
I'm just a regular down to earthgirl, really, at the end of the
day. And so I can talk about,yes, I've become a coach, and
I've always had, even in mystockbroking days, you know,
I've always had an interest inin the human story, and what

(04:51):
makes somebody that personthat's going to go and be
differentiated in a really goodway? So I've always been super
curious about that. So yes, youknow, broker, banker, coach,
now, astrologer, but astrologyhas always been there, you know,
that is something that has beenwith me, you know. And I really

(05:11):
do remember the beginning of it,and I was 12 years old, and I
just could never get away fromthe profound interest that I had
in it. I tried to, I tried todefinitely put it in the corner
and ignore it, but it wouldn'tallow me to. And so that's the
doing side of Lydia, but thebeing side of Lydia is, you
know, I am so deeply tied togiving my best, like, that's a

(05:39):
real core value in everythingthat I do. If I'm going to do
it, it's going to be my best, mybest, you know, not the best in
a kind of comparative way. Idon't really buy into that. It's
just, is it my best? I'm deeplyinterested in in in everyone's

(05:59):
story. You know, even when I wasa broker, the guys on the desk
used to call me Oprah becauseand I was the only girl sitting
on that dealing desk. And theycall me Oprah because clients
were calling to talk aboutpricing and stocks and advice
and what's happened and what'syour view when we talk exchange
views. But they were actuallyalso calling to have a big
conversation about their stuff,and I actually really cared, and

(06:22):
I'm interested in it. It wasn'tjust, oh, well, this is, you
know, this is part of just whatI have to do around the
transaction. No, I genuinely wasinterested in in what they were
going through. And so thecoaching was just a normal,
natural migration. So I'vealways been deeply invested in
the human story and humanpotential, and care about

(06:44):
people's stories. I've been apattern recognizer like I that
was part of the broking and andjust came so easily, natural,
naturally to me. I see patterns.
My connect dots, I can I can seea and b and go, Ah, well, I'll
extrapolate that, and I can seethe implications, whether that's

(07:04):
in in market movements andpricing, but now I see it as an
inherent skill, because it isreally quite effortless for me
when it comes to astrology andseeing the patterns in people's
lives, seeing the patterns in incultures and social structures
and the moment, this moment forhumanity. And so, you know,

(07:26):
they're kind of really more theessence of who I am and and how
I work. And I've always been ona quest for deeper meaning.
Yeah, you know, I really, Imean, deep thinker. And I think,
really, really, you know, and Ihave those quiet moments where I
am in that contemplation. Whatare we here for? What's it all

(07:48):
about? What does it mean? I'vebeen a seeker my whole life,
yeah, and I

Unknown (07:52):
think that is, it is the the, you know, the best
introduction, because it's whoyou are, like the stuff that
you've done, but also who youreally are, yeah, inside, yeah.
And I think that was probablywhy we connected. First it was,
we were around so many supervisual wankers that it was just
more, oh, wow, you're a realperson, yeah. And you actually

(08:14):
think, and oh, you feel too, andyou can actually verbalise how
you're feeling. And, yeah, itwas yes. It was amazing that we
our paths did cross, absolutely.
Um, astrology. Can you justdefine what astrology actually
is? Because so many people justthink it is the, you know, in
the olden days, the woman dayastrology, the Woman's Day

(08:37):
astrology, or the horoscopes, orwhatever it is. How do you
define it? Yeah,

Lidia Raneri (08:47):
you know, astrology is something that I
think is widely recognised andpoorly understood. Yes, you
know, as you highlight, youknow, not many of us have
escaped, you know, the back ofthe newspaper or the women's
magazine version of astrology,and it it's part of the reason

(09:11):
why I think astrology ismisjudged, yes, and I get it. I
get why it is. And so it's beenreally dumbed down, what I think
it is is the most powerful oneof many. Not The Only there are
many ways to access thisknowledge, but it is one of the
many ways to access profoundinsight into your own inner

(09:37):
patterns and and how thosepatterns have been, I believe,
personally chosen by your soul,so that when you are in this
life, that this threedimensional reality, you're
going to encounter the perfectscenarios, people, circumstances

(09:58):
that are there to. To to testyou and help you to evolve and
grow. And astrology enables youto see what those patterns are
and the timing of them, and withthat awareness. So even as a
coach, what we know is awarenessis the code breaker to to

(10:20):
getting out of your patterns.
And so I just see astrology atyou know, and the kind of
astrology that I practice, whichis evolutionary. Astrology goes
one step further, and it takesin the view about your past
life, karma and the purposefulintention of growing beyond it.

(10:42):
And I, you know, I often hear myclients when I when I lay out
and I say, I'm not a psychic. Idon't know exactly, I don't know
that you were Cleopatra in apast lifetime. You probably
weren't. It's just notstatistically possible that
everyone is Cleopatra. No. Alljokes aside, I'm like, I don't

(11:04):
know the details of yeah life,but I can share with you the
emotional resonance that comeswith carries forward and what
you hear to resolve, and you'regoing to come into encounters
with that emotional resonance.
And everyone goes, yeah, yeah,wow, yeah, that's my childhood.
Oh yeah, wow. That's, that'sexactly what I'm battling

(11:25):
against. And once you see it,then you're able to transcend
it.

Unknown (11:30):
And it's funny because it was, I can remember when you
did both jazz and my astrologycharts, like, years ago, and we
were both like, yeah, like,let's just see what what it
actually is. And it was greatbecause it looked into the past
or behind us, and there weretriggers or moments that we
went, Oh yeah, that Yeah. Thatwas Yeah. That's when that

(11:52):
happened, or that's when thishappened. Oh, okay, you can
actually see the patterns andhow they did actually translate
from astrology. But in, youknow, like it is, you start
sceptical, until you actuallysee it on paper, and go, Wow.
Okay, this is actually what ishappening, yeah. And

Lidia Raneri (12:13):
so that's the interesting thing, you know,
it's not really, I don'tbelieve, I don't think it's best
use is in the way that somepeople like to like you go see a
psychic, tell me what's going tohappen in my future. Am I going
to, you know, get the job Iwant, or am I going to have the
relationship? And in truth, noone can tell you that, because

(12:35):
that really comes down to thechoices that you make. But what
astrology will highlight for youis what you are going to
encounter as a critical questionabout, well, what kind of
relationship is important to me?
Why do I keep making choicesthat aren't aligned with what is
going to serve me best, thathonours me, or what kind of

(12:55):
career is in alignment with whoI truly am? You know, I always
knew I needed to work in adynamic way. I couldn't be told
what to do every day. I neededsomething really unscripted and,
you know, and, and so that'swhat I need. And I find that in
my, my dynamic movements throughmy they're different careers,

(13:16):
yeah, but they each feed thatinner need that I have, yeah,

Unknown (13:22):
which is, which is amazing, and you've had such a
fascinating journey withfinance, trading, coaching,
astrology, astrology and nowbringing them together. What was
the moment you realised this wasthe work that you're meant to
do? Yeah,

Lidia Raneri (13:41):
I think I've always had a really strong
intuitive connection. And Ican't say it's like a lightning
bolt moment where you're, youknow, at home, or wake up in the
morning, or, you know, and yougo, Aha, but I think it's

(14:03):
definitely been a journey forme. And I have to say, you know,
for example, when I was, youknow, I left university, I was
working at a law firm, and Idone, I done a double degree,
one of which was, was lawdegree, and I got a call out of
the blue from a friend that I'ddone my finance degree with, and

(14:24):
he said, Hey, lead, you know, Iknow you're, you know, you're on
your way, you know, on the pathof becoming a lawyer and at a
great firm. But, you know, I'mworking at this stock broking
firm, and they want to hiresomeone, and they can't be
bothered advertising. This isclassic stock working in the
90s, yeah? And they asked me ifI knew anyone good, you know.

(14:44):
And I thought of you, what doyou think? And I knew in that
moment I wasn't happy, yeah,right. I didn't want my boss's
job, which is a really goodsign, yeah, me. And so I
thought, um, what's it about?
Kind of said, well, you know.
It's a bit of analysis and a bitof, you know, I knew nothing
about the stock market. I knewnothing about the stock market,

(15:05):
and I went and so that was a gutreaction, but what I followed
was, I get to work dynamically.
It's kind of, every day isdifferent. You're responding to
market events, you know, it'snot same, same, and you got to
think on your feet. And I was,knew I was quite analytical, and
I got to use those strengths andtalents. And I went, sounds

(15:27):
good, let's do it. And so wasthat the work that I wanted to
do absolutely back then I justknew. And so, fast forward 30
years. Fast forward 30 years,and here I am. You know, I'm
doing what I want to do again. Iknew I wanted to work in
coaching, but my story is thatthe piece of me that is my heart

(15:50):
and soul, which is astrology,was always left behind. Why?
Because it wasn't. It didn't fitthat corporate image. And I just
got to the point, and this iswhere the beauty of the strength
and power of midlife, where Ithought, literally, fuck it.
Yeah, I'm tired of fitting intoit's an illusion, right? No one

(16:16):
is thinking, Oh, Lydia, shouldit's just my own crazy stories
in our own heads, right? And Ithought, I'm a coach, for God's
sakes. I do this stuff, and I'mgonna walk my talk. I am going
to do the thing that is rightfor me and to help with what
anyone thinks or cares and bythe way, they don't think or

(16:36):
care or anything anyway. And soI'm just doing what's right for
me, and this is my passion, andI know that astrology with
coaching is a powerfulcombination that can really help
people that are aligned withfinding that kind of service to,
you know, to to embrace theirown passions and walk
confidently and powerfullythrough their own lives. And so

(16:58):
Dom I was washing the dishes, Iwas out of the sink, and I'm
like, Oh, I'm not doing thething that I want. And how does
this all come together? And Ihad the, I had a lightning bolt
moment where I went, I'm thecosmos coach, yeah. And that
started a process. It wasliterally that, that, you know,

(17:18):
intuitive, deep searching andthe flash of but it's come on a
series of many times where I'velistened to, this is the work
I'm meant to be doing, yes, andthis is just another additional
part of the the structure of methat's been built over time,
where I've listened to, okay,what do I need to do? Yeah. And

(17:40):
many times I've done the thingthat no one thought was the
sensible thing to do, but wasright for me, you know what?

Unknown (17:46):
And that's the thing that I love about your story, is
what is right for me at thispoint in time? Yeah, because
it's so interesting how thingsdo change, and you shouldn't be
doing the same stuff as what youwere doing when you first
started, right? Because yougrow, you change. Yeah, I want
to be stuck in being, you know,a lawyer, because it just didn't

(18:06):
fit you. No,

Lidia Raneri (18:08):
like, God no, not me. Yeah. It's yeah,

Unknown (18:12):
yeah. How so many people here? Many women hit
midlife feeling like they'vebeen living on autopilot. How do
you how do we start reconnectingwith what we actually want? Such

Lidia Raneri (18:27):
a good question.
So how you reconnect with whatyou actually want starts with
asking yourself the question,right? And I know that just
sounds so obvious, but ask thequestion and then listen, yeah,
to yourself. And I'm laying thisout because some women don't

(18:47):
even ask themselves thequestion. But

Unknown (18:52):
you know why, even, even with that? Because I know
we've had a lot of discussionsabout this with, you know,
everything that's happening in,you know, midlife. And when you
say to me, ask the question, Iask the question, but then I get
distracted, and I don't actuallygive myself time to stop and
answer the question about what Iactually want. Yeah,

Lidia Raneri (19:16):
and it's hard, and it's hard because at this stage
of our lives, in midlife, youknow? And I'd argue, you know
this, this is, it's part of thesetup. So you come into your
20s, all you're asking yourselfis what you want. You're only

(19:37):
doing what you want, right? It'sall about you. It is right, and
it's the adventure, and it's thejourney. And I'm tuned into what
I want. I'm going overseas. I'mgonna, you know, go here. I'm
taking a year off. I want

Unknown (19:50):
this. I'm going out to dinner. I'm doing it, yeah, all
of it. And so by

Lidia Raneri (19:55):
the time you get to your midlife, 40s, 50s, mm.
Yeah, you have answered thatquestion many, many times, but
then you're in the execution ofit and and some of them are long
tail things, my career, myfamily having, my children.
They're all things that I want,but somewhere in that journey,
you just lose the connection torepeating the question, because

(20:20):
I'm in the process of executingsomething I wanted 10 years ago,
10 years ago, and so there's no,there's no real refresh on it.
We'll, we'll get into theastrology of it. But you get
into midlife, and there is ashift in the energy, let alone
many other shifts, that happenand and it's time to ask the

(20:42):
question again. But you've beenso used to now putting it off or
delaying because you've got toget the kids to school and I'm
making sandwiches and I'msupporting my partner in what
they're doing. And, and you'vebecome less connected to asking
the question and being able toanswer Yeah, I can't answer it,

(21:03):
so I'm just not going to botherasking or

Unknown (21:05):
Yeah. And I do think you know what, it's even hard
answering it, because you dohave so many of these things
that are dependent on you, yeah,whether it is your family,
whether it's your husband,whether it is your work, getting
back to the core of you, it'sactually quite hard, yeah? Like,

(21:26):
really hard. And it is, yeah,the time, making that time well,

Lidia Raneri (21:33):
so there's the the I'm out of practice, huh? Yeah.
And then there's the I'm afraidof the answer hard, yeah,
because the answers can be quitedisruptive, and so I dare not
ask anymore, and that's atragedy, yeah, right. And so we
have to ask the question,because there is a life force

(21:57):
that doesn't stop pulsingthrough you, and life wants
vigour and expansion andmovement. It doesn't want
stagnation, no. And if you staystagnant, there are
consequences, right? Stagnantwater is putrid, right? And so

(22:18):
it's movement and energy thatcreates life. And so the
stagnation is, is can be metwith health issues. Yeah, can be
health met with mental healthissues. There are consequences
to stagnation, but there'sconsequences to asking the
question again, yeah, because itcan be disruptive. It does not
have to be No, but it can be.
But, you know, like I've had myown disruption through asking

(22:43):
myself this question. You know,outwardly, no one would see it,
because my life continues to bethe same, but the inner turmoil
of asking the question means youhave to face some of the things
that have held you back, my fearof being judged, yeah, by an old
kind of network, or a corporatenetwork about being an

(23:04):
astrologer, about, you know,that's not credible. Where's the
evidence base in that? Well, youknow,

Unknown (23:11):
I think even for you, like, I can remember when you
first launched, and I think abig milestone for you was
putting it on Facebook. Oh, mybecause that was your family and
your friends it had known youfrom, yeah, forever, yeah, and
you were really worried aboutthat, yeah. And it's like, no

Lidia Raneri (23:27):
one cares. No one's outgoing stuff, yeah, you
know. And on. And this is, thisis the beautiful thing as you
face into these fears, and justtake the steps, yeah, just take
the action that is aligned withwhat you want, you're really
it's not as it's not throughselfishness. It's through
honouring. Yeah, it's theirdiff. They have different

(23:48):
qualities and energies. Youknow, you got to be able to
differentiate when it's, it'shonouring, because it's, it is
self love, it is self respect,yeah, and, and then that's
different. Those fears, theyjust melt away, and they're not
then that they don't reallythey're just non issues. You
know, in psychology, when peoplehave phobias, the way that they

(24:10):
get them to to move past andbeyond their phobia is through
exposure. So if you've got a anarachnophobia, fear of spiders,
the only way to get over it isexposure to spiders. Yes, fear
of open spaces, you need toslowly take small steps towards
getting yourself to the dooroutside, to the lift, into an
open space, right? And sothere's no different with any of

(24:33):
our fears. As we take the smallsteps an inch towards facing the
fear it melts away. Yeah, right,because they are illusions well,

Unknown (24:39):
and I mean, the fear it builds up in your head more than
what it's actually going to belike in reality as well. Yeah.
And that's where the the hardestthing is, is getting it out of
your head and just doing

Lidia Raneri (24:52):
Yeah, yeah. So look connecting to what we
really want. Ask the question,yeah, spend the time with
yourself to. Really listen, andyou're so right. We distract
ourselves life is busy, andsocial media is always there,
waiting, and we can distractourselves so easily from our

(25:13):
true inner calling, and then youhave to actually choose to be
okay with the discomfort thatwill emerge. Yeah, and we are
also really good at makingourselves feel okay and

(25:34):
comfortable. You know, there'sso so we've done so much, even
as a species, to removediscomfort. And you know, when
I'm coaching, one of the thingsthat I love saying to my clients
is, if you can remember, or ifyou're even blessed to be near a
small child before they'velearned to crawl, notice the

(25:54):
struggle, the strain, thefrustration, the the I can't do
it, and what's that child doing?
They're doing little mini pushups, and they're on their
tummies and they're they'relifting their heads up, and it's
freaking hard, yeah, and it'shard, and it's hard. But what do
you want? You want to see thatbaby push up and off and start
crawling, they're moving, yeah?

(26:16):
And that. But they can't do itwithout the struggle, without
the strain, without thediscomfort, you've got to lean
into that discomfort over andover. It's not once, it's a lot.
And then eventually you arestrengthened and you move, yeah.
And then what are we doing?
We're all gathering aroundgoing, go, oh my god, did you
see that we're cheering, andit's still the same in adult

(26:37):
life, yeah, but the strugglesare abstract. They never leave
us, and we are always to the daywe leave this earth confronted
with our own things that we muststruggle and strongly don't
avoid it, yeah, because thatweakens you and you'll be the
baby that never crawls, yeah? Sostart to strengthen yourself and
face into the discomfort, yeah,and be with it, and then you'll

(27:01):
move.

Unknown (27:04):
Yeah, yep, that is it's great advice. Definitely great
advice. With astrology, you'vetalked about a lot, but how do
you see it as a tool forpersonal growth, rather than
just bang, you know, thehoroscopes that we've all all
had or read in the past. Like,what is it as the

Lidia Raneri (27:25):
tool? Yeah, so look, that's probably a good
segue from this discussion inmidlife, right? So the tool for
it as to use it as a tool forpersonal growth is to actually
go deep into your own blueprint,right? And use it as a tool for

(27:49):
self awareness, just like youwould like a

Unknown (27:51):
metric, yeah, just before you go. So how do you,
and I mean, I know this, theanswer this, but how do you
actually judge or your chart?
Like, how what are the criteriafor understanding what your
chart is. So it's the time anddate and the day

Lidia Raneri (28:06):
you were born, yeah, your birth date, yes, the
place you were born, that'sright, yes. And the time that
you were born, time of day,yeah. And for an astrologer, you
know, four minutes makes adifference, yeah, right. So as
exact as you can get it if youhave a hospital record,
brilliant. Mother's memory isnot very reliable, but at least

(28:28):
it does tell an astrologer itwas the morning, or mum
remembers it was like aftermidnight, but not yet morning.
And it gives you you can narrowit down. And what that means is
you narrow down a range ofpotential rising signs. And
okay, anyway, sorry, so yeah,that's yes. And so that's how a
birth chart is constructed withthe that those three points of

(28:51):
data. And so then you have yourcosmic blueprint, and you have
your karmic story, and you havethe you know life is, is
unscripted in the the thechoices that you make, but what
is kind of, almost soul chosenby you, and that then shows up

(29:13):
is the questions that you willface. And that's how I use
astrology as the tool, yes, youknow, if I see a Mars transit to
somebody's, you know, you know,to their sun, to their moon.
Then the question is beingasked, what part of me is
avoiding taking a risk? Whatpart of me is avoiding a brave

(29:34):
choice? Right now, what part ofme is devolving into petty
conflict? These are all, this isall Mars energy, right? You
know, you know, misdirected Marsenergy is going to find itself
on a battlefield, internally orexternally, in petty arguments.
Why? Because that energy isactually about, oh, why am I

(29:57):
avoiding the. My need foradventure right now. And so when
you come at it through that lensof of exploring the energy, but
through a coaching lens, almostWell, that leads you into a
deeper inquiry with yourself.
Ah, yeah, well, I'm afraid of orI can't. Well, why do you feel
you can't? What's that about?

(30:20):
Because right now, you're beinginvited. You don't have to take
up the invitation, right? Theuniverse is inviting you. You
can ignore it. You have freewill. But you know, for every
move we make, there are ongoingconsequences, and so I you know,
again, back to like a coachinglens, as I say to my in you

(30:41):
know, when I'm coaching, it'slike your beliefs shape your
reality, yeah, because they willcraft what you expect to see and
find in the world. And sothrough astrology, I can
interrogate, yeah, the beliefsso powerfully, right? And the
you can choose to take this timeto to get rid of the lies in

(31:08):
your beliefs that you shouldn'tbe holding on to, or you can
continue with

Unknown (31:11):
them. Yeah, and I think that's the biggest thing, and
it's we've had so many chatsabout, you know, you get to this
age and you go, what are mybeliefs for now versus what they
were when I was younger. Butalso the biggest thing is, what
stuff do I need to leave behind,like the stuff that I thought
was true early on in my life? Isit actually still true for me

(31:35):
today? Or Have I grown or have Igot things that are absolutely
different to what they used tobe, yeah? And that's a that's a
hard question, or it's actuallyhard to go, okay, that part of
my identity can stay there,yeah, and I don't need it
anymore, yeah,

Lidia Raneri (31:53):
yeah. We do change. We do. And you know that
process of shedding, you know,from, from when, for as
children, you know. And this isthe beauty of astrology as well.
It really does show us whathappens in the family system.
And, you know, astrology callsthis the conditioned self,

(32:15):
because, well, Dom, if you are agood girl, and you tidy up your
bedroom, then I'll think thatyou're and so then you adopt
those beliefs that are given toyou through from the family
system. And you know, of course,families impart their values,
but there's always somethingabout you that's unique and

(32:35):
different and maybe needssomething somewhat adapted from
those original beliefs, and someof them just don't serve you at
all, right? Because your parentshave got their own issues, and
they're they're trapped in andso we come out a conditioned
self, and we spend the rest ofour lives addressing, ah, I was
given that belief. Is it reallytrue for me? Yeah. And then

(32:58):
there's really a path we walk, apath of courage to dismantle it
and find what, what really isthe truth. For me,

Unknown (33:06):
yeah, and it's funny, like even you talking about the
the beliefs you were given whenyou were little, like, I'm just
thinking back to, you know, eventhe house that the houses,
because we moved around a lot,that we lived in, they were all
showroom or beautiful or, youknow, never anything out of
place, and no photos, nonothing. And you go, now I'm
like stuff that I want a bit ofmess, like occasionally, but I

(33:29):
do want a bit of mess, and Iwant a bit of colour, and I want
photos everywhere, yeah, becauseI want it to be real,

Lidia Raneri (33:36):
to look like someone is living a life. That's
it. That's it.

Unknown (33:39):
And it is, it's, it's hard to break that mould, or
hard to leave even justsomething as simple as that
behind. Yeah,

Lidia Raneri (33:46):
yeah, because those conditions feed a story
into us of how I have to be tobe okay, how and

Unknown (33:53):
no, but how I have to be to be okay, but how I have to
be to be accepted as well. Oh,which is a massive thing, 100%

Lidia Raneri (34:01):
Yeah, and, and, you know, where those beliefs
make you feel energised andexpansive? And, yes, this is me,
and I'm I like it this way,versus trapped and controlled or
shackled or burdened, or, Oh, myGod, the dread of, I've got to

(34:24):
maintain this part of me thatkind of tyrannises me under its
kind of, you know, cracking thewhip way of being, yeah. Then
that's when, you know, yeah,yes. It's time to let it go.

Unknown (34:39):
Why does midlife feel like such a massive identity
shift. And is this just age, oris something bigger happening?

Lidia Raneri (34:49):
There's a lot happening in midlife, and it
feels like a big identity shift,because it is like it really is
so the way that. I think aboutthis is what's happening. We've
got biological shifts. Yeah, youknow, for women, you know we

(35:10):
know we go through Peri and thenpost menopause, so there's the
biological shift. There's theeffects of gravity on your faces
and bodies. Yeah, yeah, right,that we have to confront, yeah,
run away from one way or anotherway. We're dealing with it in
our in whatever way we choose,but we have to deal with it. And
then there are social shifts.
You know, for some of us, youknow, kids are growing up, going

(35:34):
through different stages withour children. For some people
that had kids early, they're nowleaving home. So there's social
shifts, and there's careershifts as well, usually in 40s,
because where, where you wereused to, if you were blessed to
have kind of got it right andtook the action, you've gone

(35:56):
through a rising star phase, andnow in your 40s, you're
plateauing. And what do you dowith that? What do you do when
you're used to momentum andmovement and and now stagnants,
yeah. And so what's happening inmidlife is all of these waves
are crashing on the one shoreright at once, yeah? And it's so
it is a unique time that you'vegot these, the multiplicity of

(36:20):
these shifts. Then, if I look atit through an astrological lens,
when we get into our early 40s,we have a we all experience
this. It's called a Neptunesquare. Neptune transits around
and makes a square to our natalNeptune. What does that mean?
Well, Neptune has to do with,with what is it that is beyond

(36:44):
what I see? And so it has tousually do with disillusionment.
And it can also have to do with,it's got to do with many things
but loss and surrender in itscreative expression. It's it's
vision, and it's imagination,and it is real creativity. But

(37:04):
there's a transcendence thatcomes with Neptune when that
square hits, which is a tensealignment. What the questions
that are being asked is, Howdoes who I am now? How do I line
this up against the vision thatI had of myself? And is it time
for a new vision? And usuallythis is the beginning of

(37:28):
starting to seek deeper meaningin our lives. And no one
prepares us for no one preparesus for this. There is so much
joy in the striving, and thereis emptiness in the arriving,
yeah. And in our mid life,usually true, we've arrived, and
Neptune comes along, and wereally feel that emptiness of,

(37:50):
now what? Yeah, and it's timefor a new vision. It's time for
a update of those questions, orwhat does it mean for me? What
is meaningful? What do I want?

Dominique Hind (38:06):
And then stuff can I leave behind? And

Lidia Raneri (38:08):
then on the back of that, a couple of years
later, the classic midlifecrisis alignment happens, and
that's our Uranus opposition,where, you know, we see this. It
is the classic middle lifecrisis, because Uranus is the
planet that encourages us toindividuate right individuation
means not divisible. Coming backto wholeness was what I've gone

(38:31):
through. I need my whole self tobe expressed. And so what we
have is this energy that risesup within us that is deeply
calling for more authenticity,more of an update of who am I

(38:51):
now, and a a kind of thatindividuation I need to be me
and so, you know, UranusOpposition actually is where we
really start to get seriousmomentum around. Well, I don't
care if that's the way otherpeople are doing it, I want to
do it my way. I don't care ifthis is how it should be. I need

(39:13):
to do it the way that feelsright for me. So we start to
become more sensitive to theconditioning that we've had, and
we It's an invitation to toalign ourselves with what we
really want. Now you don't haveto take that invitation. And
some people obviously want tofeel that useful radicalness,

(39:34):
which is Uranus, yeah, andembrace that. And so it's the
fast cars, and it's the updatedrelationship, that I'm going and
I'm, I'm starting, I'm, it's astart off, and it's a thing, and
it's whatever, right? And sothat's, that's a way of
accessing the energy. Yeah,okay, there's many deeper ways
to access it. Yeah, yeah,

Unknown (39:54):
okay, good. And I think this question probably is a good
one to. All from but so many ofus feel like we should have it
all figured out by now, but wedon't.

Lidia Raneri (40:08):
Why is that? Do we ever? I don't. Let's all figured
out, you know? And so again,that's just one of those. That's
just one of those illusions thatwe carry around. And, you know,
this, this, this one reallylinks into compared to your
despair. Yes, right? Yeah, yeah,look around and we compare what

(40:32):
we see out there, and wetherefore, then we don't know
anyone else's you know true,where they're at in their lives,
what they're reallyexperiencing, how they're
feeling through their own life,their friendships, their
relationship, their relationshipwith their kids, what's going on
in their family, with theirparents? We don't know yet. You

(40:53):
know, particularly in our andour you know, consumer driven,
materialistic world, if they'redriving the right car that we
might aspire to drive, or ifthey're living on the right
street or in the right suburb,or seem to, you know, their kids
seem to like, you know, whateverrepresent something that our
kids are not. It's the comparedto your despair. And we just

(41:14):
make up the stories thatreinforce they have, and I
don't, and it's such adisempowering one, because it's
just not true. No, no one has itfigured out. And two, it kind of
becomes self fulfilling for you.
And that's the real danger, thatthe more that you are in that
state of comparing to yourdespair, you are dragging

(41:36):
yourself down and convincingyourself that what you have
isn't what enough? Yeah, andthen it's the tyranny of more
and striving and and so all wereally need to do is check in
with ourselves and ask thatfundamental question. You know,
what is it that I want? And thethe power behind that question

(42:01):
really should be, you know,almost like the the preparatory
material for that is, do I knowwhat my values are, yeah, yeah.
If I know what my values are,yeah, yeah, and I really am
clear on my values, then I canask safely, ask myself what I
want, because I know what I needto feel meaning and fulfilment,

(42:22):
but if I don't actually check inand honour what my true values
are, then I can ask myself whatI want, and I'm still going to
be manipulated by a willingmedia and the stories I tell
myself by looking out at otherpeople, yeah, and I get a
distorted sense of what I think,I think I should want.

Unknown (42:45):
And it's funny. So Shannon was on the podcast
previously, and she was one ofthe ones who made me just focus
on the values. And for me, thosevalues, they're just such a
critical thing for any decisionI make. Yeah, it's not health,
family, happiness, pleasure,adventure and fun, not
interested. And it does stop youby having those comparing to

(43:10):
others,

Lidia Raneri (43:10):
yeah, yeah, because you come back to this is
what I know matters to meexactly, yeah. And I

Unknown (43:19):
do think that there are so many people who just do not
know what matters to them, yeah,and they are guided by
everything that is going onaround them, yeah, which is not
right,

Lidia Raneri (43:29):
no. But, you know, I guess in that sense, I bring a
lot of compassion to that. Ithink it's part of the human
journey. You know, sometimes weneed our own pain and suffering
through these misguided, youknow, the misfiring of, Wow, I
really thought I wanted that.
Now I've got it, and it doesn'tmake me happy at all. And you
know what? There's value in thattoo. Yeah, there, if that's your

(43:50):
road to learning, yeah. Then Icelebrate that too, yeah. And

Unknown (43:55):
I think there is something in that where you
actually get something and yougo, Oh, yeah, is this it? Yeah.
That actually doesn't make mehappy. No, okay, great. And I do
think that that is a goodlearning in itself. You're
right, you're right, because atleast, you know,

Lidia Raneri (44:14):
yeah, yeah. And sometimes it's the things that
create a version, you know,sometimes we learn faster
through a version, because,because we're so primed for
avoiding threat, and you know,we've, you know we are, we have
to rise above our fears. And soanything that creates a version
in us kind of really locks in.
Yeah,

Unknown (44:34):
so you've made some bold choices, moving to the
buyer and hind lambs, balancingtwo worlds, coaching astrology
and everything in between divingdeeper into astrology and
actually owning that. What'sbeen the hardest thing about
embracing that change? Look

Lidia Raneri (44:51):
confronting myself. You know? I think, you
know, I think I have gottenmuch. Much better as I've gotten
older. Yeah, at adapting tochange, and I I kind of use this
little radar check with myself,right? Change comes. It's
inevitable. We know it, andastrology has helped me so much,

(45:17):
yes, right? I really do use itto not what's going to happen,
but to check in and go, where'sthe energy flowing? The energy
is flowing this way. I have toflow with this tide. And it's
lemons and lemonade, right? Andso when a change is moving
through my life, I'm like, Howdo I make this the best possible

(45:41):
thing it can be for my family,for my relationship, for me, and
what's in this for me, if lifeis taking me in this direction,
you know? Okay, so let's makethe most of it. And so, you
know, change for me is issomething that we can really

(46:02):
learn to work with. And I usethe acronym for myself, creates
healthy and necessary growthexperiences. Yeah, right, okay,
adds change, yeah, yeah, and soyou can resist it, but it's
pointless, yeah, what can be

Dominique Hind (46:21):
rose in

Lidia Raneri (46:22):
create, creates healthy, ch, G, A, creates
healthy and necessary. And, yes,growth, G experiences, okay,

Unknown (46:32):
right? Necessary. I think that's a good one. They
are necessary for our growth.
And that's something that we getinto when you know, things do
happen for a reason, and therehas to be some growth taken out
of it. So rather than getting inthe like the dumps about it, it
is okay. What can we actuallylearn?

Lidia Raneri (46:53):
No one gets out of this experience without some
serious scars on the heart?
Yeah, no one, yeah, and we'rehere to learn. The purpose of
this, this journey is learningand growth, yeah? And you can
choose it or not, but it's goingto get dished out to you. Yeah,

Dominique Hind (47:14):
yeah, accept it or don't.

Lidia Raneri (47:15):
Well, how do you make the most of it? Yeah? And
when you, when do you kind ofsurrender to that. And you know,
so many of the ancienttraditions, they already knew
this, the beauty and the art ofsurrender, right? Yeah, you
know, say yes to where life'staking. You see what comes of
that. Stop resisting. Becurious. Go on the adventure.

(47:36):
Um, then life doesn't it doesn'tget magically easier, but life
gets more meaningful. Yeah,

Unknown (47:45):
yep, I think I definitely agree with that,
talking about letting go,whether it's relationships, old
identities or just things thatno longer fit maybe close. How
do we do it without feeling likewe're losing ourself? Isn't

(48:06):
reframing it. So even just basedon what we're talking about as a
growth opportunity, it's notlosing, it's actually growing.

Lidia Raneri (48:14):
Yeah, well, you know, we, you know, we do have
to shed our old identities. Wejust don't stay the same. You
know, somehow we get into adultlife. And, you know, I had this
conversation yesterday with abeautiful 21 year old, and she
was saying to me, I am about togo and live overseas for a year,

(48:38):
and I'm so excited, and I reallywant to do this, and I don't
know what it's going to be andand I was listening to her and
watching her express her joy,and she's like, I really don't
know what I'm going to do overthere. And I thought, isn't it
amazing? Like, it's a stage oflife where we have an
expectation of, I don't knowwhat I'm doing. I'm just feeling

(48:59):
like I want to do this, and yetwe get into midlife, and we've
lost the touch with that, and westop thinking that we continue
to update our identity, but it'swhy would we? Yeah, and we get
stuck. And so it's our ownexpectations that we're done,
but we're never done. And backto the stagnants, right? Yeah,

(49:21):
we have to keep and so it's justthat, I think, as we go on,
we've just accumulated, youknow, you know, relationship.
We've usually, we've got apartner, a marriage, we've got
children, we have assets. It'sharder to update that identity.

(49:45):
But some people find that, wow,I thought I wanted all of this,
and actually turns out I don'tthat's one extreme version, or I
really have wanted all of this,but now I'm feeling. Into
something more or different, andI need to go in this direction,
to honour the things that my newinterests that are emerging or

(50:08):
now it's a time of life where Iput things on hold, but I have
the space or the money or thewhatever to pursue that and
going to and so we never stopupdating the identity.

Unknown (50:20):
What? Do you think the biggest fear is with people in
accepting the new identity ormoving into that new identity?
Two things. It's what otherpeople will think.
Yeah, 100% how do we care somuch? Like no one actually
thinks about you.

Lidia Raneri (50:39):
And look though, if there are people out there
that have got a crappy thing tosay, well, you don't really want
them in life. They're not theones. You're happy friends.
They're not your people, right?
They're not your people. Andusually they they're saying
those things because they are indeep in their own suffering, of
their own judgement, yeah, theirown, you know, fear factors that

(51:00):
are controlling them. And soyes, it is our fear of what
other people will think. Buthopefully we don't marinate in
that too long, and we just takethe and action is is the self.
Action is the thing that getsyou out of that funk, and you
just kind of feel good by takingthe action. And we know that
it's action that buildsconfidence, right? Little steps

(51:20):
that show you Yeah, that you cando what you say you're going to
do, that you're going to show upfor yourself. That's how you
build confidence. Confidencemeans faith in myself with faith
in me. That's what confidenceactually means. And so take
little actions and steps thatare for you when you go, yeah.
That feels good. That feelsright, yeah, next one. And the

(51:41):
other thing is, you know, somepeople do face a disruptive
moment, and so of course, it'sonly normal and natural to kind
of want to put the brakes onahead of that big disruption.
Yeah, right. That's not easystuff to know through, yeah,
but, you know, your midlife canbe a full rebirth moment, you

(52:04):
know. And it is a real,incredible opportunity to
rebirth because, you know, weusually kick off from our 20s,
you know, now I'm talkingthrough the lens of a Saturn
Return type frameastrologically, you know, we

(52:28):
have our first Saturn Return inour late 20s, and that marks the
moment where we truly becomeadults, or we start adulting,
right where we we face a choicepoint where it's like, am I
going to stop partying? Am Igoing to stop having the late
nights or whatever? I knowthat's not good for me. I got to
get serious about my career, orI need, I want to find a partner
and settle down. Those sorts ofthings start to creep in. And

(52:49):
what happens at that SaturnReturn is we have come through
youth with so much idealism, andwe're meant to, we're meant to.
You know, we start out aschildren in Dress Up mode and
imagining ourselves here andthere, and we play all these
different characters as we'refeeling what, what's happening

(53:09):
is we're really feeling into,who am I in here, and what do I
want? It's the way a child doesit. So you get into that Saturn
Return phase, and that's thetime to realise that's what
Saturn is. It's a realisationtype, and it makes things real.
Yeah, it gets real. And so westart the process of walking the
path to realising our dreams,yeah. And so we we leave with

(53:32):
that energy and that passion andthat vigour and the and the real
work of work starts, right? Andplan. And Saturn is that planet
that makes us work hard, do thehard stuff. And so then we can
that carries us with a lot ofmomentum through our 30s. And
mid life is kind of halfway.

(53:55):
Your mid 40s is halfway to yournext sort of Saturn Return. And
it's the checkpoint, yeah, it'sthe checkpoint to say, Oh, I've
realised all this stuff. I'vearrived, or I'm in the process.
You get there in your 50s, andthen, you know, you kind of go,
right. Well, now what is it thatI'm going to do? I have to

(54:17):
update my dreams. Yeah, yeah.
And the next one around is aboutthe dream with the wisdom,

Unknown (54:25):
yeah, okay, right? And the knowledge and the knowledge
and the letting go and the beingyourself, right? Because

Lidia Raneri (54:33):
what happens once you get the second Saturn Return
comes at around 58 and so thatkicks us into the next 30 years,
58 to 88 and we like our eldersnot to say, don't be cool and
funky. We love a cool, funkyelder. But there needs to be
gravitas. There weight. Youknow, the benefit of the wisdom

(54:55):
seemed, experienced, lived, andthen that we want the elder to
have. Put it into practice intheir life, and we kind of
revere and respect that, but theelder that's like man doing
burnouts in the car park. No,actually, something's not right,

Unknown (55:13):
definitely, definitely or not right, that is 100%
sure. And that's a metaphor,yeah,
right. If someone has neverlooked at their astrology chart
before, what's the first thingthey should pay attention to?

Lidia Raneri (55:28):
Wow, okay, so many things. I really, really think
the first thing they have to payattention to is their north and
south node. Okay. Begins there.

Unknown (55:38):
Okay. And what does that actually normal? What does
that mean? What is she

Lidia Raneri (55:42):
talking about? So the north and south node aren't
physical objects in the sky.
Yep, they are points thatrepresent the plane of
intersection of where the moon'spath of travel. Yep, with the
earth intersects around theecliptic around the path around

(56:02):
the sun. So these areintersecting planes of travel,
and as you map out that point ofintersection, it occurs at the
moment of your birth. Where isthe moon in the sky? Where's the
earth in the sky? Where's thatrelationship of those three
bodies. And how do we mark outthe it's almost like the north

(56:23):
and south pole of the moon. Andwhy is it so important? Because
from an evolutionary astrologyperspective, those points are
like the an energetic portalthrough which the soul moves
through the various dimensionsto move from non physical into
this physical dimension, and itcarries the soul is carrying

(56:44):
soul memories of previousincarnations. And so that point
happens to delineate thespecific karma that your soul
wants to address in thislifetime. It's not have the
immediate prior life. I can'tsay whether it was the one
before this one. It's just youmight have lived 1000s of prior
lives. It's just that thealignments, the way that the

(57:07):
energy is reflected, creates theopportune, energetic field for
which you move through in yourlifetime. To address that
specific, you know, karmic setof limitations, the wounding.
For some people, it's trauma,yeah, my goodness. I mean, I've,
you know, one woman couldn'texplain her deep trauma that she

(57:30):
had, and had this attachment togoing to Burma and being with
the Burmese people. And, youknow, we, I didn't know anything
about this, and I kind of laidout, you know, what, the trauma
that she'd brought in from aprevious lifetime of, you know,
of a displaced people and, youknow, you know, a potential

(57:53):
genocide, or whatever it was.
And she was, you know, I'm notsaying she was Burmese, but she
went there to be, and shecouldn't ever explain why she
needed to be there, you know, sothings like that that help
people go, ah that, gosh, Icould never explain what that
was. And I,

Unknown (58:13):
yeah, I think it's fascinating just from the, you
know, the the internal ah Aha,moments that you go, Oh, that
was my thing, or that wassomething that was playing on my
heart or internally within me,and you helped to code that,
yeah,

Lidia Raneri (58:29):
yeah. And so that as a starting point, yeah is the
first most impactful thing.
Because before we even get intowhat your sun sign is and how
your ego is constructed in thislifetime, and what things that
ego needs to you know, whatexperiences it's seeking, what
its values are going to be, youknow, what it needs to overcome?

(58:50):
It's so important to understand,first of all, what's happening
for me at a soul level. Yeah,yeah. And so, and then what that
those soul points not only talkabout the past life karma, but
the most impactful thing is theNorth Node tells us what our
greatest potential is, our NorthStar, genuine, genuinely, our

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North Star in this lifetime,what we would love to think We
achieve by the time we havedeparted this life, yep, and
that actually is a really, youknow, we can look at big thing.
It's a big thing. Actuallyunderstand, well, you know, you,
you've got an intimateunderstanding already of your
sun sign, or when we look at,you know, your Venus position,

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and we talk about your thenature of you've already got an
innate connection with it. Whenan astrologer kind of describes
it to you, but no one comes inhere knowing how to do their
node, and that's the work of thelifetime, and that's where we
go. I just feel on track, and weknow it when we're off track, I
feel so wrong.

Unknown (59:57):
I can feel that what's.
Something small we can do dailyto start living more with
purpose.
Something small.

Dominique Hind (01:00:10):
Ask yourself, what do you want? Yeah, look,

Lidia Raneri (01:00:13):
of course, ask yourself that question. So, what
is purpose? Like? What's ourpurpose? You know, I get asked
this question a lot, and it'sboth incredibly simple and
ridiculously challenging, yeah,and our purpose is to live our
lives with and in love and like.
That's just so ordinary, right?

(01:00:40):
But what when it's like when Isay to you, do you love without
conditions and withoutlimitation and fully freely? Do
you love your work? Do you loveyour life? Do you love where
you're living? Do you love yourfriendships? Have you got people
around you that maybe aren'tgood for you. You know, do you

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live your life wholly andentirely with love? Because when
you're loving life, yeah, I lovethat you are on purpose, yeah.
And so then the secondderivative, derivative of the
purpose question is also, whatshould I do that expresses me
living wholly, totally, no holdsbarred, in love with my life. I

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love my job. You know, when youmeet people that love their
work, they're living theirpurpose. Yeah, but a lot of
people come to the purposequestion with the what should I
do? Yes, and it's actually, howshould I be? First, I need to be
in love with we aren't livingour lives as much as we can in

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love with our life, and I meanall of its facets and aspects.
And this is where, you know,what would I do that shows love?
Sometimes we need to be loved toanother person. And yes, we
make, you know, sacrifices foranother, and that's a choice
through love, not throughobligations, right? Yeah. So I'm
empowered in this. I'm not like,Oh God, I gotta do this. I'm

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choosing for love to do it. So,you know, when we when we do
that, life takes on a completelydifferent quality becomes really
magical. But it's not a questionof, what's my purpose? What
should I do? That drops out of,what do you love? What enables
you to connect to the feeling oflove? And if we're not living
that way, it is a literal wasteof our time, yeah? Wasting this

(01:02:35):
time? Yeah? I

Unknown (01:02:36):
actually, I love that.
I love the thought of it's inlove like it is. The purpose is
being in love, being in lovewith every part of it, yeah?
Because if you're not, you canfeel it. When you're not in love
with something, you feel it. Andyou just feel

Lidia Raneri (01:02:52):
Yeah. And look from a philosophical
perspective, my way of coming atlife is, I don't believe that,
you know, life ends here. Ibelieve that we're spirits, and
we've come into this we areparts of the divine source that
wants to understand itselfthrough consciousness, through
this third dimensional materialexperience. And so when we

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return to that, we are love. Weare in the body of love. And so
the purpose of being in thisphysical vehicle and moving
around is for love to have theexperience of of physical, real
touch based interactive. Whatdoes love feel like in a

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physical way, in a physicalexpression, because out of these
bodies, we are that, but wedon't have the physical
expression of it anymore. Sowhat we do, who we're with,
what, how we spend our time inaction, in in the doing, is that
extension of the expression oflove, ourselves as love,

Unknown (01:04:02):
if someone is feeling stuck, what should they do?

Lidia Raneri (01:04:09):
Hmm, well, they should, I guess I would say,
Have you got someone who canlisten? Yeah, a really, really
good friend who will just allowyou to talk, you know, journal,

(01:04:29):
yeah, right. Journal, withoutany objective, just start
writing. But you've got to takesome time to be with yourself.
See if you're stuck, you'reavoiding yourself, yeah,
something,

Unknown (01:04:46):
yes, I like that. If you are stuck, you're avoiding
yourself, or you're avoidingsomething, yeah, okay, great,
and you we've had some prettywild experience. Together, like
fighting away sharks, crocs,being in boats. What's a moment

(01:05:08):
in your life that you've had sofar that is your Fuck yes,
moment

Lidia Raneri (01:05:13):
in my whole life, in your whole life? Oh, gosh,
oh, I've had so many

Unknown (01:05:22):
that's great, because you're actually, if that means
you've, yeah, living in love andyeah, living with that purpose,

Lidia Raneri (01:05:27):
yeah. Um, there was one time I'd gone travelling
on my own, and I was in SouthAfrica, and I decided I'd go for
an afternoon walk and climbTable Mountain on my own, um,
and I got to a point where I wasin a really narrow ledge, and I
knew I was, this is my like inmy super fit days that you know,

(01:05:48):
being able to do a chin up andlift my body weight and get up
the ledge was not an issue. So Ihad so much confidence in my
physical ability, and I went todo the ledge, and for some
reason, my my mindset shifted,and I just got a sense of that
thought came in of what happensif this goes wrong? And I

(01:06:09):
literally had a whole bodyfreeze, I'm on the edge, and I'm
like, Oh, no one knows. I'm heretravelling on my own. What would
my mother say?

Dominique Hind (01:06:22):
What would you want?

Lidia Raneri (01:06:23):
You crazy anyway.
So I, I, you know, I kind ofedged myself back down off, and
I went a ways back down. And Ijust, there was another guy
coming up, and we chatted. Andin that moment, you know, I kind
of, he said, Look, I'll walkwith you up the path, and I got

(01:06:45):
back to the same ledge point.
And sometimes, you know, maybeit's a metaphor for life.
Sometimes we just need atcertain moments in our lives the
right person to come along forthat little push or that little
encouragement. He didn't helpme. He was just there. And I got
to the same ledge point, and Ipulled myself up, and off we
went. And we got to the top. Andso that was a real fuckiest

(01:07:06):
moment because of the the heartstopping, my body won't work.
The adrenaline was coursingthrough me. And then I came back
around, and up I went. And so,gosh, I didn't even know I was
going to tell this story at all.
You know, I think that that'sjust so important to sort of for

(01:07:28):
me to remember that sometimes weget to something the first time
and we think, I can't, yeah, andwe just need to breathe,
regroup, maybe we retrace alittle bit, and we go again, and
he and we, you know, we knowthat we've got everything we
need to carry us up and over andforward. And that was a real,

(01:07:51):
you know, and it's a moment of,I've got everything on it, yeah,
I can do this, yeah, yeah. Ilove

Unknown (01:08:00):
that story, that it's such a good thing, isn't it,
because you go but you did it,yeah? You just needed that
little bit of encouragement,yeah, just a little bit, not too
much. Okay, so, lids, this hasbeen amazing. I feel like, even
though I know a teensy bit aboutastrology, I feel like I've know
so much more. It's always a joyto see you, and you always bring

(01:08:25):
so much love with you wheneveryou come around. And we've
covered everything from purposeor now, which I think is much
better definition of in love andliving in love, and astrology,
finance, we didn't talk abouthow you left finance, but that's
okay, and how to trust ourselvesmore in this next phase, because

(01:08:48):
I think that's really what itcomes back to, is, how do you
trust yourself? How do youactually understand you and what
you actually want more? Andtaking the time to do that. So
before we wrap up, I've got onelast question for you, if I

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should try just one thing beforeI hit 50 something fun, bold and
pushes me out of autopilot. Whatshould it be?

Lidia Raneri (01:09:21):
Okay. Well, it's you're gonna get a linear
answer. You're thinking like,whatever. It's not jump out of a
plane DOM. It is so not thatthis is the one, and this is
from my recent experience.
Become i a beginner atsomething, something that scares
you, and maybe you're doing it.

(01:09:44):
Maybe it's this, maybe it's thepodcast, right? And the reason I
say it is because I've just donethis, yeah, right. I have become
a beginner again, and it's kindof why? Why am I saying this?
Because. If you give yourselfthe permission, the licence, and
if you frame it in the right wayin your mind, you can get that

(01:10:10):
stagnance out of your life andmoving again. Because when we,
when we give ourselves thepermission to become beginners
again, on, you know, we, we wecan suck at something for a
little while, and it's okay,yeah, we get the joy and the
satisfaction of learning again,and that's so stimulating, but

(01:10:31):
we don't have with it theexpectation of being a master at
it yet, and it's okay to, like,not know what you're doing. We
get into midlife and meant tohave it all figured out, we're
adults and and so I'm sort ofsaying, choose something. It
doesn't matter whether it'slearning to play an instrument,
learning a language. You know,doesn't have to be a whole

(01:10:54):
identity reinvention, like I'vegone through, but just begin
again at something and and youwill connect to the joy of
climbing a new mountain. Andthat's really cool. Yeah,

Unknown (01:11:09):
it is. And I do think, you know, this is definitely
this podcast is definitelybecoming a beginner, because I
am learning so much. And youknow, I always talk about the
first pancake flip, the firstpancakes, the first few are a
bit like BA, but it's yeah, thejoy. It's just fun talking to

(01:11:32):
amazing people, yeah, hearingtheir stories and,

Lidia Raneri (01:11:38):
yeah, yeah. I love that. Yeah. Become the beginner.
Yeah, allow yourself, giveyourself the permission to begin
again. Yeah, and again. Soanything that you have an
interest in and don't have anyexpectation of being good at it,
yeah, start. Yep,

Unknown (01:11:57):
yes. Whatever culture, what anyone says. You're just
doing it foryou. Yeah, go on the journey.
Okay?
Lids, thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Incredible chat. Thank you forsharing always, your wisdom,
your journey, and all the cosmicand practical ways that we can
step into our purpose or being amonth. And if you love this

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conversation, make sure youcheck out Lydia's website, which
will all be in the show notes.
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coaching, or just want to make,start making choices that
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