October 18, 2023 • 24 mins
Nancy and I reflect on our recent road trip and how saying "yes" to new adventures sparked powerful insights. We talk about the power of saying YES to unfamiliar experiences. Pushing past our comfort zones brought out our playful sides and challenged us to live more authentically.
Timeline Summary:
[01:05] Discussing how Nancy talked much more in the last episode.
[02:30] What was at the end of the rainbow?
[03:20] This road trip was a shift in attitude, finding the power of saying “yes” to more.
[05:50] Crossing sketchy bridges in Niagara Falls had my anxiety ramped up and how I related it to life.
[10:59] Our trip reminded us not to get stuck in the robotic rut of everyday life.
[12:00] We share how we carve out sacred time for "me" and "we" during the week.
[15:50] Our newfound "power of yes" has spread to our designated we-time on Wednesdays.
[18:10] Nancy opens up about really listening to my feedback.
[21:10] Letting go of control and just living in the moment was so freeing on this trip.
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Nick (00:07):
It's time to get fucking authentic. Yes, here we are
live. Hi. Nancy says, Are werecording like live? I'm like,
Yeah, it's pretty live rightnow. Oh man, I love it. It was
funny because, wait a minute,what was I actually going to say
(00:28):
here? I was gonna say somethingreally important. And then it
just completely slipped myfucking mind.
Nancy (00:34):
I can't help you with that. I'm sorry.
Nick (00:36):
Yeah. Anyway, you know what the beginning of the
sounded like? I don't know ifyou remember that Saturday Night
Live skit, where the two girlswere like, muffin top muffin.
And Betty White was sittingthere going something about
eating her muffin or something.
Like, Moist, moist muffin orwhatever. Do you remember that?
That was hilarious. No, toomuch. We were talking about it.
(00:59):
When we were on our way home.
And then we went out and got abite to eat. But we were talking
about how the last episode thatwe recorded. Like you talk so
fucking much. So talk so likenow it's like funny because now
it's like, now you're not gonnasay anything. Right? So it's
(01:22):
sort of like,
Nancy (01:22):
who was there that was with you. So I'm like, it was
me.
Nick (01:27):
It's funny because I'm like you I couldn't barely get
in a word in edgewise. And
Nancy (01:32):
Nikki on site. You can you always get a word in
edgewise. But yeah, we'll saythat.
Nick (01:37):
Yeah, yeah, it was just funny. People are like, Oh,
Nancy really talks. And that'slike the last episode. You were
just like, on fucking fire.
Nancy (01:45):
Way. Go Baby flag way.
Go.
Nick (01:47):
Yeah. So we ended last episode talking about how we
were going to go into NiagaraFalls and talk a little bit
about the last parts of thetrip. And we decided, I don't
know. They weren't.
Nancy (02:01):
But Niagara Falls was awesome.
Nick (02:04):
Yeah, Niagara Falls was cool.
Nancy (02:05):
I mean, we went underneath. Yeah,
Nick (02:08):
we did go underneath.
Nancy (02:09):
What does it think of?
You know what I mean? It waseither the boats or going
underneath Niagara Falls, andyou chose under the falls? And
what an experience that was.
Yeah, it was pretty crazy. Thatwas kind of nice. Yeah. Which
kind of leads us to ouractually, the
Nick (02:29):
funny thing is can't see the pictures, but we actually
found the end of the rainbow.
Oh, we did we I took a picture.
Yeah, I took a picture of theend of the rainbow. And let me
tell you, there was no fuckingpot of gold. And we did. Look.
We did. There was no pot ofgold. There was no gold piece.
There wasn't a gold color there.
Wasn't there one gold ship.
Nancy (02:49):
Even if there was gold pot of gold. We couldn't reach
it. It was like,
Nick (02:52):
Yeah, but the pause was there was a pot of gold. I might
have gone in there a little bit.
I'm like, I'm not sure. Yeah. Soyeah, we saw the end of the
rainbow. And it wasn'teverything it was cracked up to
be. And let me tell you, but theFalls were awesome. It was
pretty. Yeah, it was pretty. Andthen on the way home, we stopped
on a couple more of the coveredbridges that that you'd love.
Yes. And we sort of talked aboutthat. But I think the whole idea
(03:14):
behind this trip. And one of thethings that we really wanted to
talk about today was this wassomething completely different
for us. I mean, we do a lot ofroad trips. Yes. So not
different in the sense of a roadtrip.
Nancy (03:31):
We haven't done a road trip this long in a long time.
So but yes, this is totallydifferent. Normally, we just go
for a couple of hours and thenwe're you know what I mean, we
stop and that's it.
Nick (03:42):
Yeah, but this was a week long and we went somewhere that
we never had been before. We didthings that we never have really
done before. I mean, we did someclimbing in Colorado in the
Rocky Mountains but this was aconsistent basis every day doing
something like that. And I thinkpart of this and what we want to
(04:05):
share with you guys today is wetook on a different attitude
we've been saying yes to a lotof things that we would
otherwise not be saying yes towe got challenged with that
remember we did get challengedwith that with Gabby
Nancy (04:21):
Yes. And decided on this trip we would do it so this
Nick (04:25):
trip present and we wanted to share with you just the power
that comes with saying yes tothings that you have never said
yes to whatever they are
Nancy (04:34):
whatever it was yes. And I think yes, pon pon Han based
upon that punt on
Nick (04:44):
Oh neat. I'll tell you what you guys are gonna get to
know this chick real well init's just going to be a fucking
beautiful journey. Let me tellyou
Unknown (04:53):
I'm already thinking of what you good whatever.
Nick (04:56):
But anyway, yeah. So the power of yes but not only the
power of Yes, but I think peopleneed to realize that when you're
when you decide to do somethinglike this, you're giving
yourself permission to just letgo sometimes. And this could go
into a whole fucking multitudeof things of control and
(05:17):
expected. Like, there's allkinds of things that we could
tie into this, but we're justgoing to talk about the power of
Yes,
Nancy (05:22):
I know. It's like, I want to say yes, but then it's like,
again, yeah. intended. But
Nick (05:27):
yeah, I think giving yourself permission to actually
do that is part of how powerfulthis is.
Nancy (05:35):
I think that was part of the reason why we enjoyed
ourselves so much. We actuallytried things that we wouldn't
have normally done if we weren'tsaying yes to them.
Nick (05:47):
Yeah, I mean, I know for me, and we talked about this a
little bit in the last episode,I have some fears of heights.
And there's reasons for that hadsome fears with your knees. And
Nancy (05:55):
I'm always afraid that I'm either going to fall or I'm
balancer here is always theirpower of Yes. kind of helped me.
Nick (06:03):
Yeah. And I'll tell you one thing, though, now that I
think about it to remember whenwe were going into Niagara
Falls. One thing that I'm not avery big fan of is bridges. I
can't stand fucking bridges. Andit was how many of them yeah,
getting into Niagara Fallscoming out of Buffalo, there
were two huge and I say hugebridges, most people fucking
(06:24):
pussy like whatever. But thebottom line was people will. I'm
just saying if you're doing itevery day, and you're just like,
that's nothing right. This islike a cakewalk, which actually,
it became one thing that struckme as we were driving in, we
come up to this bridge, and I'mthinking, all right, this isn't
cool. Because I don't likecrossing bridges. I think a lot
(06:45):
of that has to do with control.
A lot of that because I feel outof control. And this was the
first time I'm crossing thisbridge, right. And so when
you're crossing the bridge,you're like, I guess you can put
expectations. I don't know whatto expect. There's all kinds of
things but we get across thebridge, and I'm like, Okay,
fuck, we got across the bridge,right? And we're talking and
we're laughing. And I'm like,and then all of a sudden,
(07:05):
fucking like another, like fourmiles down the road. There's
another fucking bridge. And I'mlike, Jesus Christ. What the
fuck are we doing? He
Nancy (07:13):
just sweater just going.
Yeah, I wouldn't
Nick (07:15):
go so. So crazy. But yeah, I was there's a nerve factor
there. We get over that bridge.
And of course, it is the lastbridge. And that's really cool.
So of course, now you have tounderstand, just like we talked
about before, always trying tobe proactive and trying to
control things. And the realityis I'm sitting in our loft that
we're sitting in here.
Nancy (07:33):
We got about that. That was on the what? The 13th
Nick (07:35):
floor? Oh, yes. Which again, that didn't bother me as
much. But we spent one nightthere. And I knew that the next
day, in order to get out ofNiagara Falls, we have to go
over the fucking bridges again,that was dam bridges. And that,
that that causes anxiety orwhatever. But I was sitting
there saying to myself, all youhave to do is get over the
bridge. Okay, so you're goinghome, and you want to go home,
(07:57):
but you just have to get overthe bridge. Like it's not that
bad, right? All you have to dois drive over the bridge, once
you're over the bridge, like, itmay not feel the best. But it's
just getting over the bridge.
And I think that's part of thecontrol. That's part of saying
yes, it's part of letting gosometimes and just saying, it's
not as big as it seems we say noto a lot of things because we
make them this multitude ofsomething,
Nancy (08:20):
or excuses or whatever the case is,
Nick (08:22):
or we look at ourselves like oh, if I do that I'm not
responsible enough. Or if I dolike, there's so many negative
factors to saying no, that whenyou just start to use yes more
often. And again, we're nottalking about Oh, yeah. Go
fucking do an eight ball ofcocaine in Oh, yeah. You said to
say yes. Like, I'm not talkingabout stupid shit. Come up with
(08:46):
this. Because where I come upwith it is how people are people
be like, Oh, we should actuallywhat we should do right now is
put like a disclaimer. Like afucking thing on here. It's
like, I'm not telling you yes.
To go and fucking do something.
Said Yes. Told me to say yes.
Like, come on. I'm just sayingthat when you finally open up
your mind to realize that sayingyes. Is so freeing. And so like,
(09:10):
eye opening, that once you doit, you're like, Oh, that wasn't
even really what it is. And sonow actually, the funny thing is
even just from those bridges,and I know this sounds it sounds
so trivial
Nancy (09:31):
simple, but yeah, but it's,
Nick (09:33):
but it is simple, right?
That but we would make itparalyzed. We make it
paralyzing. Right? Exactly. ButI literally now what am I saying
all the time? We just gotta goover the bridge. Right? That is
the metaphor like for me, that'sthe thing of I just kind of
crossed a bridge like, you justgot to go through like get over
the bridge and you're over thebridge. Okay, there's another
fucking bridge. Well, I just gotto get over that bridge. It's
(09:54):
almost like, just one more time.
If you do it just one more time.
How do you know that that's notgoing to be the time. And that
for me is has been huge. Andthat's the sticking point for me
with this whole trip was,especially on the road,
especially being in places thatwe were never at before which we
get comfortable, we getcomplacent. And then it starts
(10:15):
to get boring. And when youstart to get boring, then your
mind starts to just be like,dead. Yeah, that's so true. You
might just becomes jell O,you're just robotic, you're just
doing the same thing over andover again. And it's like, fuck
that. I know, the colors werebeautiful. And it was like
nothing we've ever seen. And itwas different. But we only saw
(10:36):
it because we said yes,
Nancy (10:39):
I was just gonna say, because I would have never would
have been the colors regardless,we could have seen the colors
from wherever we were at. Imean, probably not as good as we
did when we climbed up certainpeaks. But yeah, for me, like I
said, last time, I think it wasthat power of Yes, I was just,
holy shit, I was able to get upand climb. I mean, it was crazy.
Nick (10:59):
The most beautiful view is at the top. Correct? Yes. So and
you can use that. However youwant to use it, you know, for
your own life or for our lives.
I mean, if you don't keepclimbing, if you don't go over
the bridge, if you don't keepsaying yes to things and stop
using everything else as anegative, or becoming complacent
in what you're doing all thetime. Just because it's
(11:20):
comfortable, then you're goingto live a fucking boring life.
And then the bottom line is youbecome robotic, you lose your
curiosity about life, you loseyour outlook about waking up in
the morning and having somethingto look forward to or
experiencing new things today.
Let's talk about like eventoday, since this trip. Every
(11:40):
Monday, Nancy and I obviouslyeverybody knows we've been
married for 34 years. And wealways try to do something
different with ourselves andwith our relationship. And one
of the things we have is a thingcalled me Mondays, which is I
love
Nancy (11:53):
the Mondays.
Nick (11:54):
Yeah, it comes over it slips. But it's me Monday,
right? So we get to come home,and we get to do whatever the
fuck we want for Monday. SoNancy will come. So obviously
we're totally different. Yes,totally. And I mean, so she'll
come home and want to maybe reada book or go to bed or do
whatever, take a nap. And ofcourse, I want to just go
(12:15):
outside. Watching Andy GriffithYeah, I can. Yeah. Or the
rifleman or some stupid shitlike that. Yeah, that shows how
fucking old we are. But a eventhe young people can watch that
shit. And he's cool. But yeah,so we do me Monday. And that
allows us to do something forourselves once a week,
(12:35):
obviously, we might whatever wewant all the time. But this is a
designated time that we're ableto just not have to ask each
other anything or feel like weowe time to each other or
anything.
Nancy (12:47):
And I think it's really nice, because it's like the
weekend is always go and Mondayis just kind of like a chill.
Kind of breathe a little bit andjust kind of Yeah, sure. I mean,
I chill. But yes, you do.
Nick (13:00):
Yeah, I chill in my own way. Yeah, yeah, running around
the block is very relaxing. Andthen Tuesdays are sort of
Tuesday's a regular day we comehome and we you know, do things
around the house or whatever.
Taco Tuesday. And thenWednesday, we have a day called
we Wednesday. In other words,that's a time for just me and
her to go out and do somethingcompletely different. We don't
sit at home, we don't just do wego out to the movies, or we go
(13:22):
out and have to a new place fordinner or we do a different bike
ride or different
Nancy (13:28):
people are gonna be like, You guys are with each other
every
Nick (13:31):
every day. 24 Fucking seven. And we have a we
Wednesday, what do
Nancy (13:35):
you need, we Wednesday for me tell you why we need
Wednesdays, because we'reconstantly going and going and
we
Nick (13:42):
have to understand our days together are definitely our
days together. But fuck, ourdays together are literally
directed by everybody else inour lives around us. So although
we're together all the time, orwhatever, we have
responsibilities that detract usfrom each other during the day.
And we're really, we're togetherbut we're not together. This is
(14:05):
time alone for us without anyphones ringing without any kind
of interference. And this isjust us talking about our lives.
And we do talk about our lives alot. But this is really putting
it in perspective and putting itin order and writing it down and
doing shit like that. Generallywe do on Wednesdays, oh my God,
how funny is it that we do ourrecordings on Tuesdays or
(14:28):
Wednesdays because those are thetimes that we're most connected?
Yeah, that's true, guys, justbecause we're together. 24/7
doesn't mean we're completelyconnected at that point. You
know what I mean? I still areseparate people. We still have
separate jobs, even though wework together. We still live our
lives, the way we live ourlives, but you still need time
for connection. And I thinkthat's I'm not going to get into
(14:48):
a whole relationship thingbecause as time goes on, we're
going to talk about ourrelationship but you still need
that connection with the powerof Yes. So what that has created
for us you even more is it'sactually really solidified our
purpose for we Wednesday andwhatever. And what we've even
taken it further now is liketoday, we didn't just stick
(15:11):
around in the neighborhood ofwhatever, we drove 45 minutes to
another area. And we actuallyhad a little bit of a sort of
like an appetizer dinner and nota dinner. And then we knew there
was a cool little coffee shop inthat neighborhood. And that's
where we went, we saw vinocoffee, and vino is the shop of
selection. Yeah, I don't drinkmuch. But yeah, but we just sat
(15:33):
and talked. And we actually satand talked there and talked
about what we need to accomplishin our lives, not just in our
lives, but in our business forthe podcast, and working with
like, say our producer orworking with a couple people
we're working on with socialmedia. So in what brought that
about was saying yes to so wewere doing the Wii Wednesdays,
(15:56):
yeah, we always did the weekend.
But that almost started become alittle robotic as well, because
it was just always around here,because we were too tired when
and we're like, fuck that, like,get out in fucking experience
something different, experiencesomething new. And really just
let yourself go. And that doesmean like, if you want to
indulge in something, you know,you're always telling yourself
(16:17):
No, or that's irresponsible, orI don't have the money for that.
I'm not telling people to gospend money they don't have I'm
just saying that once in a whiletelling yourself Yes, it
indulging. If you have kids andyou want to get away from the
kids, it is not an irresponsiblething to take care of yourself,
and to say yes, and to get away.
(16:37):
And to find a way to do that nomatter what it is. It's locking
yourself in a closet,
Nancy (16:42):
right or going for a walk in a different neighborhood. You
know what I mean? Like, so itdoesn't have to constantly
money, but just doing that itkind of changed your
perspective, your minds, youknow, we walk around the same
area all the time, so to have adifferent view. And that's why I
think that's what happened whenwe went on the road trip. And we
said yes, it was like just adifferent outlook and
(17:04):
everything. And
Nick (17:05):
even when we walk now like in do some recordings, the big
thing about me is having controlis that right now we're sitting
in our studio, and we're doingthis and so the sound probably
sounds a little bit better thanwe would on our Lavell ear mics
as we're walking. I know, right?
But the idea is that issomething different. And we want
to also bring that to you guys.
(17:28):
Like even listening to apodcast. We don't want it to
sound like shit. But we want tobring you along with us on those
adventures in those times thatwe're just walking around and
just sort of connecting so thatwe're connecting with you guys
as well. And that's pretty muchthe thing here is the power of
Yes. And we wanted to bring thatto you guys and just sort of
(17:49):
share that with you.
Nancy (17:50):
And I just wanted to kind of say a little something about
the power. Yes. When we cameback. Yeah, I know. I don't talk
much. But yeah, now. We cameback. We had gone to our
granddaughter's party birthdayparty. Yeah, birthday party,
Nick (18:05):
which we enjoyed ourselves. That was awesome.
years old. Isn't that fuckinginsane?
Nancy (18:09):
And we come back and you had mentioned something to me,
you know, I was sitting down,and all I kept thinking, in my
mind was, like, I said, thepower Yes, just sit there and
dance and just listen to whatyour husband has to say.
Sometimes you just have to kindalike, part of us is listening to
your other partner. Just kind oftalk to you about things that he
(18:32):
sees about you. I just want tosay I appreciate that. Because I
mean, it took a lot for me tosit there and listen, but
because I was saying yes, in myhead, like just, I'm like, okay,
just sit here. Just listen towhat he is. Yeah, you know what
I mean? This is, I'm trying todo like the opposite of what I
would normally do.
Nick (18:52):
Yeah, I mean, that's sort of that really, honestly takes
me by surprise, because thatsame night when I when we had
that discussion, and I had saidwhat I said, and you pretty
abruptly got up and then wantedto go do your nighttime ritual
before you went to bed, and thenyou went to bed. And I thought,
(19:13):
I mean, I said what I had tosay, because I really believed
in what I said, I didn't knowhow you had taken it at that
point. As a matter of fact, Ithink I thought that you had
taken it sort of pretty bad. Soit's really awesome. To know,
and I appreciate you sayingthat, but I know that you the
next day, you obviously addressthe situation,
Nancy (19:36):
right? That's why I wanted to bring it up because
just because somebody doesn'tseem like they're paying
attention or accepting you knowwhat they say?
Nick (19:46):
I was so so there you go.
I mean, just because you decideto think or do something
completely different totally. Itliterally changed the whole
outlook of that point in timeand did it for me, even the next
day? I think because the nextday you walked into work because
I get there generally before shedoes. And she walked into work.
(20:07):
And she says, Hey, can you meetme out at the side door? And I'm
like, yeah, no problem. Like,usually I'll help her carry
stuff in or whatever. And thefirst thing you did was give me
a hug. And I was like, you'velike literally never done that
before. And that is a I don'tknow if he should say that. No,
but it's true. It's It's who weare. Right? So so people, I
(20:29):
mean, it doesn't matter. Likewe're not. I mean, I'm a hugger,
loving people, but we're notvery affectionate people. I
mean, we're loving, right? Imean, we, it is what it is. But
that was totally out of theordinary. And I think, knowing
now why it happened makes iteven more special, because that
makes it even more special forwhat we're saying that the power
(20:51):
of Yes. And the power of justhaving. I don't even want to say
a positive outlook on things.
Because I think that's just afucking narrative for a lot of
people is positivity andnegativity and all these fucking
words, I think we just have tolive our lives. Like, we just
(21:12):
have to just Let life be. Stoptrying to manage everything and
stop trying to controleverything.
Nancy (21:21):
Yes, just let Sure and I think that's kind of like the
biggest thing. And I thinkthat's what was nice about this
whole. Yeah, yes, thing. Youknow what I mean, it was, you
don't feel like you're incontrol, which is kind of it was
sort of control, which was cool.
Right? And I wasn't in control.
You know what I mean, I was incontrol. From the very beginning
(21:41):
of this trip, you know what Imean? Until the very end, you
know, so it was kind of like,kind of letting loose and just
kind of listening and payingattention to everything around
us.
Nick (21:52):
I can tell because some of your navigation skills really
sucked. They were pretty bad.
Yeah. I'm like, okay, Nancy,what are we doing? And you're
like, I'm just living in themoment. That's great. But you
know, could drive off a fuckingCliff here. Like, we need to pay
attention a little bit, but
Nancy (22:11):
it's sociate. And bro.
Nick (22:13):
Now, it's just you know what? We got to have fun, man.
Yeah. And we just wanted to comeon and share this with you guys.
It was funny, because we hadactually recorded another
episode already. Oh, yeah. Andwe listened to it. And we're
like, now this thing sucked. Andwe actually had spent like, 40
minutes recording that episode.
And we wanted to come on andbring something on to you guys.
It's a little bit moresubstantial and meaningful. And
(22:34):
we really appreciate
Nancy (22:37):
it, at least for us, it really meant something and it
made that it made our tripcompletely different. Totally
different.
Nick (22:43):
So so we just want to say that we appreciate you guys just
listening to our conversations.
Hopefully, they get to inspireyou guys. And hopefully you get
to follow us or give us a reviewor rate us or I don't even know
is that what it is? Do you doall that shit? And podcast too?
Nancy (22:59):
Yeah, no, not really. I need to really figure that
Nick (23:01):
out. Do it. Subscribe. Do whatever it is, you guys know
you listen, right? Do it likerate us? Review us say, hey,
thumbs up. And if we're doingsome shitty, seriously, like,
keep it to yourself. But tell uslike, Dude, your things suck. I
was seriously no, I had a dudecome up to me. And he was like,
(23:21):
hey, podcast is great. But youknow, you guys, when you first
start out, you really don't doan intro or anything. And I
think the thing for us is thatwe, I took that to heart like,
wow, that makes sense. Like, weliked the fact that we sort of
it sounds like we're just youguys are just coming into a room
and we're in the middle ofconversation and we're having
that conversation. But ifthere's any of those little
(23:42):
things that you guys are like,hey, it would be cool. If you
did this or talked about this ordid whatever. We'd appreciate
that. So thanks for. Thanks forlistening to the rant and we'll
talk to you next time. Bye.
It's time to get fucking authentic. Yes, here we are
live. Hi. Nancy says, Are werecording like live? I'm like,
Yeah, it's pretty live rightnow. Oh man, I love it. It was
funny because, wait a minute,what was I actually going to say
(00:28):
here? I was gonna say somethingreally important. And then it
just completely slipped myfucking mind.
Nancy (00:34):
I can't help you with that. I'm sorry.
Nick (00:36):
Yeah. Anyway, you know what the beginning of the
sounded like? I don't know ifyou remember that Saturday Night
Live skit, where the two girlswere like, muffin top muffin.
And Betty White was sittingthere going something about
eating her muffin or something.
Like, Moist, moist muffin orwhatever. Do you remember that?
That was hilarious. No, toomuch. We were talking about it.
(00:59):
When we were on our way home.
And then we went out and got abite to eat. But we were talking
about how the last episode thatwe recorded. Like you talk so
fucking much. So talk so likenow it's like funny because now
it's like, now you're not gonnasay anything. Right? So it's
(01:22):
sort of like,
Nancy (01:22):
who was there that was with you. So I'm like, it was
me.
Nick (01:27):
It's funny because I'm like you I couldn't barely get
in a word in edgewise. And
Nancy (01:32):
Nikki on site. You can you always get a word in
edgewise. But yeah, we'll saythat.
Nick (01:37):
Yeah, yeah, it was just funny. People are like, Oh,
Nancy really talks. And that'slike the last episode. You were
just like, on fucking fire.
Nancy (01:45):
Way. Go Baby flag way.
Go.
Nick (01:47):
Yeah. So we ended last episode talking about how we
were going to go into NiagaraFalls and talk a little bit
about the last parts of thetrip. And we decided, I don't
know. They weren't.
Nancy (02:01):
But Niagara Falls was awesome.
Nick (02:04):
Yeah, Niagara Falls was cool.
Nancy (02:05):
I mean, we went underneath. Yeah,
Nick (02:08):
we did go underneath.
Nancy (02:09):
What does it think of?
You know what I mean? It waseither the boats or going
underneath Niagara Falls, andyou chose under the falls? And
what an experience that was.
Yeah, it was pretty crazy. Thatwas kind of nice. Yeah. Which
kind of leads us to ouractually, the
Nick (02:29):
funny thing is can't see the pictures, but we actually
found the end of the rainbow.
Oh, we did we I took a picture.
Yeah, I took a picture of theend of the rainbow. And let me
tell you, there was no fuckingpot of gold. And we did. Look.
We did. There was no pot ofgold. There was no gold piece.
There wasn't a gold color there.
Wasn't there one gold ship.
Nancy (02:49):
Even if there was gold pot of gold. We couldn't reach
it. It was like,
Nick (02:52):
Yeah, but the pause was there was a pot of gold. I might
have gone in there a little bit.
I'm like, I'm not sure. Yeah. Soyeah, we saw the end of the
rainbow. And it wasn'teverything it was cracked up to
be. And let me tell you, but theFalls were awesome. It was
pretty. Yeah, it was pretty. Andthen on the way home, we stopped
on a couple more of the coveredbridges that that you'd love.
Yes. And we sort of talked aboutthat. But I think the whole idea
(03:14):
behind this trip. And one of thethings that we really wanted to
talk about today was this wassomething completely different
for us. I mean, we do a lot ofroad trips. Yes. So not
different in the sense of a roadtrip.
Nancy (03:31):
We haven't done a road trip this long in a long time.
So but yes, this is totallydifferent. Normally, we just go
for a couple of hours and thenwe're you know what I mean, we
stop and that's it.
Nick (03:42):
Yeah, but this was a week long and we went somewhere that
we never had been before. We didthings that we never have really
done before. I mean, we did someclimbing in Colorado in the
Rocky Mountains but this was aconsistent basis every day doing
something like that. And I thinkpart of this and what we want to
(04:05):
share with you guys today is wetook on a different attitude
we've been saying yes to a lotof things that we would
otherwise not be saying yes towe got challenged with that
remember we did get challengedwith that with Gabby
Nancy (04:21):
Yes. And decided on this trip we would do it so this
Nick (04:25):
trip present and we wanted to share with you just the power
that comes with saying yes tothings that you have never said
yes to whatever they are
Nancy (04:34):
whatever it was yes. And I think yes, pon pon Han based
upon that punt on
Nick (04:44):
Oh neat. I'll tell you what you guys are gonna get to
know this chick real well init's just going to be a fucking
beautiful journey. Let me tellyou
Unknown (04:53):
I'm already thinking of what you good whatever.
Nick (04:56):
But anyway, yeah. So the power of yes but not only the
power of Yes, but I think peopleneed to realize that when you're
when you decide to do somethinglike this, you're giving
yourself permission to just letgo sometimes. And this could go
into a whole fucking multitudeof things of control and
(05:17):
expected. Like, there's allkinds of things that we could
tie into this, but we're justgoing to talk about the power of
Yes,
Nancy (05:22):
I know. It's like, I want to say yes, but then it's like,
again, yeah. intended. But
Nick (05:27):
yeah, I think giving yourself permission to actually
do that is part of how powerfulthis is.
Nancy (05:35):
I think that was part of the reason why we enjoyed
ourselves so much. We actuallytried things that we wouldn't
have normally done if we weren'tsaying yes to them.
Nick (05:47):
Yeah, I mean, I know for me, and we talked about this a
little bit in the last episode,I have some fears of heights.
And there's reasons for that hadsome fears with your knees. And
Nancy (05:55):
I'm always afraid that I'm either going to fall or I'm
balancer here is always theirpower of Yes. kind of helped me.
Nick (06:03):
Yeah. And I'll tell you one thing, though, now that I
think about it to remember whenwe were going into Niagara
Falls. One thing that I'm not avery big fan of is bridges. I
can't stand fucking bridges. Andit was how many of them yeah,
getting into Niagara Fallscoming out of Buffalo, there
were two huge and I say hugebridges, most people fucking
(06:24):
pussy like whatever. But thebottom line was people will. I'm
just saying if you're doing itevery day, and you're just like,
that's nothing right. This islike a cakewalk, which actually,
it became one thing that struckme as we were driving in, we
come up to this bridge, and I'mthinking, all right, this isn't
cool. Because I don't likecrossing bridges. I think a lot
(06:45):
of that has to do with control.
A lot of that because I feel outof control. And this was the
first time I'm crossing thisbridge, right. And so when
you're crossing the bridge,you're like, I guess you can put
expectations. I don't know whatto expect. There's all kinds of
things but we get across thebridge, and I'm like, Okay,
fuck, we got across the bridge,right? And we're talking and
we're laughing. And I'm like,and then all of a sudden,
(07:05):
fucking like another, like fourmiles down the road. There's
another fucking bridge. And I'mlike, Jesus Christ. What the
fuck are we doing? He
Nancy (07:13):
just sweater just going.
Yeah, I wouldn't
Nick (07:15):
go so. So crazy. But yeah, I was there's a nerve factor
there. We get over that bridge.
And of course, it is the lastbridge. And that's really cool.
So of course, now you have tounderstand, just like we talked
about before, always trying tobe proactive and trying to
control things. And the realityis I'm sitting in our loft that
we're sitting in here.
Nancy (07:33):
We got about that. That was on the what? The 13th
Nick (07:35):
floor? Oh, yes. Which again, that didn't bother me as
much. But we spent one nightthere. And I knew that the next
day, in order to get out ofNiagara Falls, we have to go
over the fucking bridges again,that was dam bridges. And that,
that that causes anxiety orwhatever. But I was sitting
there saying to myself, all youhave to do is get over the
bridge. Okay, so you're goinghome, and you want to go home,
(07:57):
but you just have to get overthe bridge. Like it's not that
bad, right? All you have to dois drive over the bridge, once
you're over the bridge, like, itmay not feel the best. But it's
just getting over the bridge.
And I think that's part of thecontrol. That's part of saying
yes, it's part of letting gosometimes and just saying, it's
not as big as it seems we say noto a lot of things because we
make them this multitude ofsomething,
Nancy (08:20):
or excuses or whatever the case is,
Nick (08:22):
or we look at ourselves like oh, if I do that I'm not
responsible enough. Or if I dolike, there's so many negative
factors to saying no, that whenyou just start to use yes more
often. And again, we're nottalking about Oh, yeah. Go
fucking do an eight ball ofcocaine in Oh, yeah. You said to
say yes. Like, I'm not talkingabout stupid shit. Come up with
(08:46):
this. Because where I come upwith it is how people are people
be like, Oh, we should actuallywhat we should do right now is
put like a disclaimer. Like afucking thing on here. It's
like, I'm not telling you yes.
To go and fucking do something.
Said Yes. Told me to say yes.
Like, come on. I'm just sayingthat when you finally open up
your mind to realize that sayingyes. Is so freeing. And so like,
(09:10):
eye opening, that once you doit, you're like, Oh, that wasn't
even really what it is. And sonow actually, the funny thing is
even just from those bridges,and I know this sounds it sounds
so trivial
Nancy (09:31):
simple, but yeah, but it's,
Nick (09:33):
but it is simple, right?
That but we would make itparalyzed. We make it
paralyzing. Right? Exactly. ButI literally now what am I saying
all the time? We just gotta goover the bridge. Right? That is
the metaphor like for me, that'sthe thing of I just kind of
crossed a bridge like, you justgot to go through like get over
the bridge and you're over thebridge. Okay, there's another
fucking bridge. Well, I just gotto get over that bridge. It's
(09:54):
almost like, just one more time.
If you do it just one more time.
How do you know that that's notgoing to be the time. And that
for me is has been huge. Andthat's the sticking point for me
with this whole trip was,especially on the road,
especially being in places thatwe were never at before which we
get comfortable, we getcomplacent. And then it starts
(10:15):
to get boring. And when youstart to get boring, then your
mind starts to just be like,dead. Yeah, that's so true. You
might just becomes jell O,you're just robotic, you're just
doing the same thing over andover again. And it's like, fuck
that. I know, the colors werebeautiful. And it was like
nothing we've ever seen. And itwas different. But we only saw
(10:36):
it because we said yes,
Nancy (10:39):
I was just gonna say, because I would have never would
have been the colors regardless,we could have seen the colors
from wherever we were at. Imean, probably not as good as we
did when we climbed up certainpeaks. But yeah, for me, like I
said, last time, I think it wasthat power of Yes, I was just,
holy shit, I was able to get upand climb. I mean, it was crazy.
Nick (10:59):
The most beautiful view is at the top. Correct? Yes. So and
you can use that. However youwant to use it, you know, for
your own life or for our lives.
I mean, if you don't keepclimbing, if you don't go over
the bridge, if you don't keepsaying yes to things and stop
using everything else as anegative, or becoming complacent
in what you're doing all thetime. Just because it's
(11:20):
comfortable, then you're goingto live a fucking boring life.
And then the bottom line is youbecome robotic, you lose your
curiosity about life, you loseyour outlook about waking up in
the morning and having somethingto look forward to or
experiencing new things today.
Let's talk about like eventoday, since this trip. Every
(11:40):
Monday, Nancy and I obviouslyeverybody knows we've been
married for 34 years. And wealways try to do something
different with ourselves andwith our relationship. And one
of the things we have is a thingcalled me Mondays, which is I
love
Nancy (11:53):
the Mondays.
Nick (11:54):
Yeah, it comes over it slips. But it's me Monday,
right? So we get to come home,and we get to do whatever the
fuck we want for Monday. SoNancy will come. So obviously
we're totally different. Yes,totally. And I mean, so she'll
come home and want to maybe reada book or go to bed or do
whatever, take a nap. And ofcourse, I want to just go
(12:15):
outside. Watching Andy GriffithYeah, I can. Yeah. Or the
rifleman or some stupid shitlike that. Yeah, that shows how
fucking old we are. But a eventhe young people can watch that
shit. And he's cool. But yeah,so we do me Monday. And that
allows us to do something forourselves once a week,
(12:35):
obviously, we might whatever wewant all the time. But this is a
designated time that we're ableto just not have to ask each
other anything or feel like weowe time to each other or
anything.
Nancy (12:47):
And I think it's really nice, because it's like the
weekend is always go and Mondayis just kind of like a chill.
Kind of breathe a little bit andjust kind of Yeah, sure. I mean,
I chill. But yes, you do.
Nick (13:00):
Yeah, I chill in my own way. Yeah, yeah, running around
the block is very relaxing. Andthen Tuesdays are sort of
Tuesday's a regular day we comehome and we you know, do things
around the house or whatever.
Taco Tuesday. And thenWednesday, we have a day called
we Wednesday. In other words,that's a time for just me and
her to go out and do somethingcompletely different. We don't
sit at home, we don't just do wego out to the movies, or we go
(13:22):
out and have to a new place fordinner or we do a different bike
ride or different
Nancy (13:28):
people are gonna be like, You guys are with each other
every
Nick (13:31):
every day. 24 Fucking seven. And we have a we
Wednesday, what do
Nancy (13:35):
you need, we Wednesday for me tell you why we need
Wednesdays, because we'reconstantly going and going and
we
Nick (13:42):
have to understand our days together are definitely our
days together. But fuck, ourdays together are literally
directed by everybody else inour lives around us. So although
we're together all the time, orwhatever, we have
responsibilities that detract usfrom each other during the day.
And we're really, we're togetherbut we're not together. This is
(14:05):
time alone for us without anyphones ringing without any kind
of interference. And this isjust us talking about our lives.
And we do talk about our lives alot. But this is really putting
it in perspective and putting itin order and writing it down and
doing shit like that. Generallywe do on Wednesdays, oh my God,
how funny is it that we do ourrecordings on Tuesdays or
(14:28):
Wednesdays because those are thetimes that we're most connected?
Yeah, that's true, guys, justbecause we're together. 24/7
doesn't mean we're completelyconnected at that point. You
know what I mean? I still areseparate people. We still have
separate jobs, even though wework together. We still live our
lives, the way we live ourlives, but you still need time
for connection. And I thinkthat's I'm not going to get into
(14:48):
a whole relationship thingbecause as time goes on, we're
going to talk about ourrelationship but you still need
that connection with the powerof Yes. So what that has created
for us you even more is it'sactually really solidified our
purpose for we Wednesday andwhatever. And what we've even
taken it further now is liketoday, we didn't just stick
(15:11):
around in the neighborhood ofwhatever, we drove 45 minutes to
another area. And we actuallyhad a little bit of a sort of
like an appetizer dinner and nota dinner. And then we knew there
was a cool little coffee shop inthat neighborhood. And that's
where we went, we saw vinocoffee, and vino is the shop of
selection. Yeah, I don't drinkmuch. But yeah, but we just sat
(15:33):
and talked. And we actually satand talked there and talked
about what we need to accomplishin our lives, not just in our
lives, but in our business forthe podcast, and working with
like, say our producer orworking with a couple people
we're working on with socialmedia. So in what brought that
about was saying yes to so wewere doing the Wii Wednesdays,
(15:56):
yeah, we always did the weekend.
But that almost started become alittle robotic as well, because
it was just always around here,because we were too tired when
and we're like, fuck that, like,get out in fucking experience
something different, experiencesomething new. And really just
let yourself go. And that doesmean like, if you want to
indulge in something, you know,you're always telling yourself
(16:17):
No, or that's irresponsible, orI don't have the money for that.
I'm not telling people to gospend money they don't have I'm
just saying that once in a whiletelling yourself Yes, it
indulging. If you have kids andyou want to get away from the
kids, it is not an irresponsiblething to take care of yourself,
and to say yes, and to get away.
(16:37):
And to find a way to do that nomatter what it is. It's locking
yourself in a closet,
Nancy (16:42):
right or going for a walk in a different neighborhood. You
know what I mean? Like, so itdoesn't have to constantly
money, but just doing that itkind of changed your
perspective, your minds, youknow, we walk around the same
area all the time, so to have adifferent view. And that's why I
think that's what happened whenwe went on the road trip. And we
said yes, it was like just adifferent outlook and
(17:04):
everything. And
Nick (17:05):
even when we walk now like in do some recordings, the big
thing about me is having controlis that right now we're sitting
in our studio, and we're doingthis and so the sound probably
sounds a little bit better thanwe would on our Lavell ear mics
as we're walking. I know, right?
But the idea is that issomething different. And we want
to also bring that to you guys.
(17:28):
Like even listening to apodcast. We don't want it to
sound like shit. But we want tobring you along with us on those
adventures in those times thatwe're just walking around and
just sort of connecting so thatwe're connecting with you guys
as well. And that's pretty muchthe thing here is the power of
Yes. And we wanted to bring thatto you guys and just sort of
(17:49):
share that with you.
Nancy (17:50):
And I just wanted to kind of say a little something about
the power. Yes. When we cameback. Yeah, I know. I don't talk
much. But yeah, now. We cameback. We had gone to our
granddaughter's party birthdayparty. Yeah, birthday party,
Nick (18:05):
which we enjoyed ourselves. That was awesome.
years old. Isn't that fuckinginsane?
Nancy (18:09):
And we come back and you had mentioned something to me,
you know, I was sitting down,and all I kept thinking, in my
mind was, like, I said, thepower Yes, just sit there and
dance and just listen to whatyour husband has to say.
Sometimes you just have to kindalike, part of us is listening to
your other partner. Just kind oftalk to you about things that he
(18:32):
sees about you. I just want tosay I appreciate that. Because I
mean, it took a lot for me tosit there and listen, but
because I was saying yes, in myhead, like just, I'm like, okay,
just sit here. Just listen towhat he is. Yeah, you know what
I mean? This is, I'm trying todo like the opposite of what I
would normally do.
Nick (18:52):
Yeah, I mean, that's sort of that really, honestly takes
me by surprise, because thatsame night when I when we had
that discussion, and I had saidwhat I said, and you pretty
abruptly got up and then wantedto go do your nighttime ritual
before you went to bed, and thenyou went to bed. And I thought,
(19:13):
I mean, I said what I had tosay, because I really believed
in what I said, I didn't knowhow you had taken it at that
point. As a matter of fact, Ithink I thought that you had
taken it sort of pretty bad. Soit's really awesome. To know,
and I appreciate you sayingthat, but I know that you the
next day, you obviously addressthe situation,
Nancy (19:36):
right? That's why I wanted to bring it up because
just because somebody doesn'tseem like they're paying
attention or accepting you knowwhat they say?
Nick (19:46):
I was so so there you go.
I mean, just because you decideto think or do something
completely different totally. Itliterally changed the whole
outlook of that point in timeand did it for me, even the next
day? I think because the nextday you walked into work because
I get there generally before shedoes. And she walked into work.
(20:07):
And she says, Hey, can you meetme out at the side door? And I'm
like, yeah, no problem. Like,usually I'll help her carry
stuff in or whatever. And thefirst thing you did was give me
a hug. And I was like, you'velike literally never done that
before. And that is a I don'tknow if he should say that. No,
but it's true. It's It's who weare. Right? So so people, I
(20:29):
mean, it doesn't matter. Likewe're not. I mean, I'm a hugger,
loving people, but we're notvery affectionate people. I
mean, we're loving, right? Imean, we, it is what it is. But
that was totally out of theordinary. And I think, knowing
now why it happened makes iteven more special, because that
makes it even more special forwhat we're saying that the power
(20:51):
of Yes. And the power of justhaving. I don't even want to say
a positive outlook on things.
Because I think that's just afucking narrative for a lot of
people is positivity andnegativity and all these fucking
words, I think we just have tolive our lives. Like, we just
(21:12):
have to just Let life be. Stoptrying to manage everything and
stop trying to controleverything.
Nancy (21:21):
Yes, just let Sure and I think that's kind of like the
biggest thing. And I thinkthat's what was nice about this
whole. Yeah, yes, thing. Youknow what I mean, it was, you
don't feel like you're incontrol, which is kind of it was
sort of control, which was cool.
Right? And I wasn't in control.
You know what I mean, I was incontrol. From the very beginning
(21:41):
of this trip, you know what Imean? Until the very end, you
know, so it was kind of like,kind of letting loose and just
kind of listening and payingattention to everything around
us.
Nick (21:52):
I can tell because some of your navigation skills really
sucked. They were pretty bad.
Yeah. I'm like, okay, Nancy,what are we doing? And you're
like, I'm just living in themoment. That's great. But you
know, could drive off a fuckingCliff here. Like, we need to pay
attention a little bit, but
Nancy (22:11):
it's sociate. And bro.
Nick (22:13):
Now, it's just you know what? We got to have fun, man.
Yeah. And we just wanted to comeon and share this with you guys.
It was funny, because we hadactually recorded another
episode already. Oh, yeah. Andwe listened to it. And we're
like, now this thing sucked. Andwe actually had spent like, 40
minutes recording that episode.
And we wanted to come on andbring something on to you guys.
It's a little bit moresubstantial and meaningful. And
(22:34):
we really appreciate
Nancy (22:37):
it, at least for us, it really meant something and it
made that it made our tripcompletely different. Totally
different.
Nick (22:43):
So so we just want to say that we appreciate you guys just
listening to our conversations.
Hopefully, they get to inspireyou guys. And hopefully you get
to follow us or give us a reviewor rate us or I don't even know
is that what it is? Do you doall that shit? And podcast too?
Nancy (22:59):
Yeah, no, not really. I need to really figure that
Nick (23:01):
out. Do it. Subscribe. Do whatever it is, you guys know
you listen, right? Do it likerate us? Review us say, hey,
thumbs up. And if we're doingsome shitty, seriously, like,
keep it to yourself. But tell uslike, Dude, your things suck. I
was seriously no, I had a dudecome up to me. And he was like,
(23:21):
hey, podcast is great. But youknow, you guys, when you first
start out, you really don't doan intro or anything. And I
think the thing for us is thatwe, I took that to heart like,
wow, that makes sense. Like, weliked the fact that we sort of
it sounds like we're just youguys are just coming into a room
and we're in the middle ofconversation and we're having
that conversation. But ifthere's any of those little
(23:42):
things that you guys are like,hey, it would be cool. If you
did this or talked about this ordid whatever. We'd appreciate
that. So thanks for. Thanks forlistening to the rant and we'll
talk to you next time. Bye.
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