What We've Lost and What We've Learned

Nancy and I wanted to come on to explain some changes we're making to the show's format going forward. We feel like we lost some of our mojo over the past few years and want to regain our power by telling our full story, from the beginning up until now. There will still be amazing guests, but we also want to share the ups, downs, laughs and tears from our relationship and family. We hope it inspires others going through tough times.

Episode Highlights:

[00:07] Poking fun at Nancy's sick voice and a surprising squirrel visit.

[02:05] Podcast format change announcement.

[02:43] Recently feeling like we lost some of our power and value after traumatic events.

[04:48] Share our goal to tell our full story to inspire others who are feeling stuck.

[06:26] Describe feeling trapped in sadness before realizing our power never left.

[07:44] Discuss learning to accept and adjust to loss.

[09:23] Promise to still have amazing guests on sharing success and failures.

[10:00] Nancy jokes about wanting to get over her cold before recording.

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Episode Transcript

Nick (00:07):
It's time to get fucking off that. Well, hello there,
Nancy.

Nancy (00:14):
Hello Nick, how are you?
Coming to you live Sikhi

Nick (00:18):
Nancy's voices crackling like the fireplace we have
playing on the TV. We don't havea real fire. Oh, look at the
squirrel in the back. We don'thave a real fireplace. So we
turn it on the TV. And Nancy'svoice is crackling just like the
fireplace.

Nancy (00:34):
Yes, just a little bit.
Just

Nick (00:36):
a little bit. Man.
Everybody's going through thiscrap. Look at a squirrel. We
plastic off our outdoor to comeout and he's

Nancy (00:46):
he doesn't know how to get out. How do you get in? Oh,
stop. I

Nick (00:50):
don't know. I'm not gonna do nothing to him. It's just
hilarious. He's like, how do Igo? Where do I go? Where do we
go? So really, to be honest withyou. There's only one way in or
out? Well, a couple of ways. Hemust have came in the underbelly
of the plastic. The uncut licklick lick. Where am I going?
Where am I? Looking? I'm lookingat us. Good. Just get out. Look
it up. Anyway, alright. enoughexcitement for the squirrel.

(01:14):
Yeah, I was. I've been sick fora couple of weeks. Nancy got it.
She wanted to come who? I

Nancy (01:19):
got it. Oh, wow. I don't know who

Nick (01:21):
I got it from either. What the hell? It's a couple days
after Thanksgiving. Today wehave our annual cookie day. Yes.
That we have a bunch of peoplecome over. And actually, there's
12 People who are not comingover for various reasons. Sick.
Yeah, they're sick. One groupjust completely blew us off. And

(01:43):
then the other group sevenanimal passed away. So we're

Nancy (01:48):
just like somebody was sick. And another one had an
animal passed away? Yes. Well,one group just

Nick (01:52):
blew us off an asshole.
Anyway, probably sick. Yeah,probably sick. Exactly. So here
we are. We wanted to sort oftalk about real quick, a little
bit of a difference. Differentsort of what would you call it?
For doing the podcast? Differentoil change, a little format
change. So we've beeninterviewing a few different

(02:13):
people, and we're getting peopleon and telling their stories.
And we think that's great.
Great.

Nancy (02:20):
To drink in the mind that

Nick (02:23):
what Hey, can have a good fight. Oh, did

Nancy (02:25):
you have one? This one?
No, just a

Nick (02:28):
little sip. You know how I am with alcohol? That's true.
Actually, you guys eggnog andfucking fireball. It's pretty
good. It's pretty good.

Nancy (02:36):
My sister in law

Nick (02:37):
just said, Yeah. And you'd like yesterday, you tore that
shit

Nancy (02:40):
up, or it was touring.

Nick (02:43):
Touring, it was for Yeah.
The past couple of weeks, we'vereally been talking about
getting to know ourselvesbetter. And we fail to realize
just what our value is. Not onlyour value, but our power. And I
don't mean power, like, thestrength although we're, well,

(03:05):
we're not as strong as we used.
I was

Nancy (03:10):
gonna say Lord knows I have no strength. So.

Nick (03:13):
But even I'll tell you what, even in our minds, though,
I believe that we we lost someof the ability to see through
things. And to really just keepfighting. Like we always did
that. But I think part of thethe issue when you know, when

(03:36):
this thing happened with our sona few years ago, it just really
it just really blindsided usbottom line. That's just that's
just, it is what it is. And welost some of our mojo, I think
we definitely lost some of ourmojo. And I think with that
happening, though, throughoutthe years, we have been losing a

(03:57):
little bit of that Mojo a littlebit at a time.

Nancy (04:01):
And I think it's comfort if you become comfortable with
what you're doing. And it's thesame thing. I don't know, we

Nick (04:08):
know that we lost it. We know that we lost a little bit
of our power, especially in ourminds. We know that we lost a
little bit of our value. We knowthat our words really just
became sort of words. Theyweren't really worth anything.
And I think it took us a coupleyears now to have just agreed
Yes. Well, getting to understandthrough the process. It really

(04:34):
got us to understand that thatnever really left us. I'm saying
our power and our value. Wefailed to record it. It was all
us. It was not anything else.
There's no circumstance. There'sno nothing that that took that
away from us.

Nancy (04:49):
Right. Other things came in, we just allowed it to what's
the word? We

Nick (04:55):
allowed to trade it? We allowed it to invade our fucking
mind. If we allowed it to invadeour thought process, we allowed
it to just take over. Yeah,bottom line totally. And it was
easier for us. Even when westarted the podcast, we talked a
little bit about our story. Butit was easier just to get other
people on though, and still notreally dive deep into our story

(05:17):
and really dive deep into howwe've become so successful,
right? And successful isn't justOh, like, we were born with a
fucking silver spoon in ourright, we're talking about the
fucking fight in the heart andthe pain in the fucking tears in
the everything that goes with 34years worth of fucking

(05:38):
relationship. We're going todive deeper into that, right,
and we have certain things thatwe've learned that we want to
share with you guys. Again,we're not here to give advice,
because you have to realize thateveryone is going through their
own shit. And they're going tofind a way out of their own

(05:59):
fucking shitbag we're here toshare our experiences. So that
it could be some sort of aroadmap, right? Or it could, you
know, you could say, oh, man,they tried this, or they did
this or, but I think which eye

Nancy (06:13):
opener for somebody else, you know, to me, it's like just
the only one going through it,you know? Anyone, you know, that
that has happened to and I thinkpeople just don't talk enough
about it? Well,

Nick (06:27):
and I think people feel like we felt maybe we allowed
our emotions and our feelings totake over, unfortunately, and we
could not see our way out. Andwe were just caught and buried
in this fucking hole. Which,okay, you know, there's, there's
a time for that. But to behonest with you, we have to make

(06:49):
the choice to get out of that.
And we have to make the choiceto get out of that, right.

Nancy (06:54):
And some people, you're one of those people that just
keeps going, some people don'tsome people just don't see a way
out.

Nick (07:04):
We have found our way out.
We still I still fucking miss mymy son, and I still miss my
family. But we've learned todeal with those feelings and
those emotions that kind

Nancy (07:20):
of adjusted. We've adjusted, I think I've adjusted
I don't know, if I've learned todeal with it. I think I've
adjusted, okay, you have nochoice, right? You have to you
either adjust to what it is now,and what it has become, and you
hope that things change. Yeah, Ithink that's the best way for me

(07:41):
to just say it for myself. Yeah.

Nick (07:44):
And in my, in my case, whatever word we want to use,
adjust or deal with it. I justknow that the other parties
involved are going through whatthey're going through as well.
Right, and how I deal with it asI realize that we're all human
beings, and that we have our ownthings that we have to go
through. And I can't forcecertain things to happen. I'm

(08:08):
not looking for it to be the wayit was or change, we start to
talk and we get it. This is theidea behind what we're trying to
do is, is change the format sothat we're telling our story and
in depth from the beginning toto the present, or from the
present to the beginning, orhowever we want to do it. And

(08:28):
there are so many funny, sad,interesting,

Nancy (08:33):
well, they're different topics, so many different
stories

Nick (08:36):
that are involved in it for you years, kind

Nancy (08:38):
of do different topics right on the show, you know what
I mean? So whatever it is, andit's always those a different
topic, we'll bring up a story

Nick (08:48):
series, we have a few like series of different things like
the ABCs of marriage for us,like literally a through z,
right? And what that means to usand where we're going with that,
you know, running a family islike running a business. People
say wow, that that seems alittle, like off edge or

(09:10):
something. But the reality is,is if you really dive deep into
how a business is run, if afamily has run the same way it
can be very successful. Yeah, soI mean, there's there's a few
things that we really want toget into. So anyway,

Nancy (09:25):
that will bring in different people as we Yeah, of
course.

Nick (09:28):
Oh, we still have people lined up. And there's still some
real interesting stories thatare out there of success or
failures of sadness. We have aguest coming up that faced his
own cancer when he was a kid. Wehave another guest coming up
that went through a prettymessed up divorce. So we have a

(09:49):
couple lined up but we justwanted to let you guys know that
we're going to change it up alittle bit. Fucking authentic
24/7 all the time. Wait forstuff

Nancy (10:00):
that while I just want to get rid of this code first

Nick (10:04):
oh my god actually your voice is sometimes it's
hilarious because it it goes upand it goes down and it goes in
and out and crackles and notcrackles Yep, we wanted to come
out and let you guys know thatthat's what we're doing. And we
appreciate you guys listening.
We appreciate your support, keepsubscribing, keep reviewing.

Nancy (10:25):
We'll talk to you next week. Talk

Nick (10:26):
to you next week. Bye.
Adios.