Never Date A Broke Dude' X Pattie Ehsaei, The Duchess of Decorum

This week on Fearlessly Authentic, I sit down with the bold and brilliant Pattie Ehsaei—also known as The Duchess of Decorum—to talk about her highly anticipated book Never Date a Broke Dude: The Financial Freedom Playbook (out May 6, 2025). In this candid conversation, we unpack what it really means to date a “broke dude”—and spoiler: it’s about way more than money.

 

We get into financial red flags, the importance of setting boundaries, and why financial independence is the ultimate act of self-worth. Pattie brings her signature no-BS approach, sharing personal stories and practical tools to help women stop confusing struggle with love—and start making smarter decisions in life, love, and money.

 

About Pattie Ehsaei:

Known as “The Duchess of Decorum” by her 1M TikTok followers, Pattie Ehsaei is one of today’s leading financial experts. Her viral content on financial literacy, workplace decorum, and female empowerment has earned over 8.1 million likes. With sharp, honest advice on everything from asking for a raise to maintaining independence in relationships, she’s become a go-to voice for women seeking financial and personal power.

 

Born in Iran and raised in Los Angeles, Pattie brings over 20 years of experience in finance—ranging from private equity to mergers and acquisitions. A lawyer by trade and currently Director of M&A Financing at a major national bank, she’s also a sought-after speaker and contributor to platforms like Forbes.com and MSNBC.

 

In her debut book, Never Date a Broke Dude, Pattie redefines the term “broke” to describe anyone lacking ambition, drive, commitment, or work ethic—regardless of income. The book is packed with real-world examples and actionable advice for building financial freedom and confidence in both your bank account and your relationships.

 

The book is divided into four parts:

• Money – Learn to implement a five-account system to manage cash flow, eliminate debt, repair credit, and invest with as little as $100

• Work – Guidance on dressing professionally, building confidence, retirement planning, and salary negotiations

• Power (Self-Worth) – Set boundaries, understand prenuptial agreements, and protect yourself from financial abuse

 

Available for pre-order in hardcover and audiobook formats on Amazon and Audible. For updates and exclusive content, follow Pattie on Instagram.

 

If you’re ready to take control of your finances and your future, Never Date a Broke Dude is your ultimate guide.

 

✅Follow Pattie on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/duchessofdecorum?igsh=a2p5eDlvOWI5MzVr and TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@duchessofdecorum?_t=ZT-8vyjZm3xue2&_r=1

 

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