April 27, 2025 • 31 mins
LA Passion & Purpose
Righto, this is an honest chat about what I'm doing in LA and why the Bosso isn't with me. This is an episode that I hope it evokes and inspires you to truly move step by step closer towards your passion. I heard this quote via Noah Hunter Dorsey (who's an upcoming guest on the pod) "We often overestimate how much we can achieve in one month, but we also underestimate how much we can achieve in a year." And it inspired me to take stock on the year that was. We've just resigned our lease in LA for another year so I took some time to have an honest chat about how many fun and exciting things had happened over the past 12 month. I invite you to do the same, grab yourself a journal or some butcher's paper and celebrate the wins of the past 12 months, at the same time set some really clear goals about what you'd like to achieve and bring to life in a year from now.
p.s i also mentioned i'll be kicking off my online consults again for:- wellness coaching- book writing coaching- podcast coaching If you're keeno or want to learn more just email me: lola@lolaberry.com
Go out there and do that thing you love!
Big love,
Lola
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Get a. I'm Lola Berry, nutritionist, author, actor, TV presenter,
and professional oversharer. This podcast is all about celebrating failure
because I believe it's a chance for us to learn,
grow and face our blind spots. Each week, I'll interview
a different guest about their highs as well as their lows,
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all in a bid to inspire us to fearlessly fail. Hello, Gangles.
This is a long form episode, but it is an honest,
real chat about why I'm back in La, what's going
on in La, and where things are at. I do
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a diary episode every Friday from where I am in
the world, and I usually give a quick kind of
like I don't know, fifteen twenty minute taste of what's
gone on in the week that was in LA. But
I thought I would share a little bit more of
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an update on career, what's going on, what's working, what's not.
And my goal is that this episode inspires you to
do your own check in with where you're at in
your goals and passions and per person all of that
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in your life. That's the goal of this. So I
have got about four posters of Butcher's paper in front
of me with notes all over them around this podcast episode.
So my hope is that you can do a bit
of what I've done. I'm just getting my notebook that
has a special notes for today on it. I'm sitting
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here on the floor of my apartment in my pj's
loll It's morning. Don't worry. I've had my morning coffee
and with all these notes in front of me, and
I've got a calendar on one side, I've got a
diary on the other, and I've got all his butcher's
paper and highlighters and sharpies and pens and stuff. So
I wanted to be really transparent about what I'm doing
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here in La, what's changed in the time that we've
been here, and what the goals are being here. So
first of all, I'll say that elephant in the room,
I'm here on my own. Boss is not here. Do
not worry. We have not broken up. We are not
on the rocks, none of that. He just has work
opportunities in Australia that he needs to physically be there
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for right now. So we're hoping that that doesn't last
too long. And we get well, we want his work
to last for long, but we're really hoping that within
the next month or so, we're reunited and back together
and he'll be with me here in La. But it's
also been a really beautiful gift in a weird kind
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of way, because I got back to LA and I
had about a week to prepare for a pilot. But
in all honesty, it was my first acting job, like
real acting job, and so I got to be really
selfish for that week. I got to prioritize my health.
I got to which Matt and I are always healthy,
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but I really got to like get over the jet
lag and get into yoga and then do all the
things you want to do before you shoot, like you know, brows, hair,
feeling good, all of those kind of things. And Matt's like,
I think that this is was meant to be. You know,
I think you were meant to do this, your first
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acting gig on your own. And it's like there is
a part of you that is a bit of a
lone wolf that and you know, I've got a dear
friend of mine. Jad. He calls me a shark, and
shark's are reasonably solitary as well, but he calls me
a shark because if I stopped moving, I would die.
And I am a bit of that. I'm going to
be real with you. But this time on my own
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in LA that was unexpected has given me a really
big chance to kind of like take stock and a
few things have come up that are really exciting that
have really forced me to be like, Okay, what's working here,
what hasn't worked and kind of like course correct. So
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there's this awesome kid I interviewed on the Potter Rooney.
His name is Noah Hunter Dorsy. I'm saying that I'm
sure I do. Anyway, I follow him on Instagra and
he's like, he doesn't know this. Noah, if you ever
hear this, you're literally my inspo, like like a twenty
seven year old mentor. And I've interviewed him on the pod.
It's not out yet, but he posts really inspiring stuff. Anyway. Yeah,
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I did say his name right, no Hunter Dorsy, And
his episode will probably drop in a couple of weeks
here on a Monday episode, and I I watched an episode.
First of all, he taught me something when I interviewed him,
which is success, love speed. And I'd learned that from
interviewing other actors when they would say you need to
learn to ride the momentum because when the opportunity does
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come your way, which inevitably will will do, some people
then let the momentum of that slip through their hands.
And I was like, oh, that makes total sense with
success loving speed, like you can kind of roll off
one thing and then into another. And so that's kind
of stuck with me since I did that interview. But
this morning I watched one of his YouTube blogs and
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he said, and it really is a goody. So he said,
we often overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
but we often underestimate what we can achieve in a year.
So you often overestimate what you can do in a month,
but you often underestimate what you can do in a year.
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And I thought, well, holy Mac, it's been a year
in LA. What a great time to take stock on
what worked or what didn't work? What were the highlights,
what were the low lights? Have I moved forward? Have
I stayed stagnant? What's going on? So I've taken stock,
and I took stock as soon as I got back
from Australia as well, because we crammed so much into
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that Australian trip. We're just in Australia for about a month,
and I figured out in the month we were in Australia,
we stayed in ten different locations, and I was like, Okay,
some of this trip's working and some of it's not.
And I went through the highlight list of what really
worked and what we loved, and I went through the
stuff that didn't work, and there was a really clear
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connection with me like still wanting to people please and
not having boundaries in place. And so coming back to
LA with that fresh self awareness, I'm kind of like, Okay, well,
I am here to make shit happen. I'm not here,
as we say in Australia, I'm not here to fuck spiders.
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And so that's why this episode exists. So I've literally
I've looken, I've looked back, and I've looked at a
year in LA because I've just resigned our twelve monthly
so we're here where we're in LA, but having resigned
it and it kicks off literally tomorrow or something like
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it literally in the next forty eight hours, the new lease.
And so what I'm trying to say is I've done
a little then and now now, just so that if
you have a goal or a passion or a dream.
Well rather than kind of be like shifts. It's been
three months going at this thing and nothing's happened, which
is exactly what I did last year. I invite you
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to do the knower thing, which is looked back over
a year. So we're going to start with the thens.
So a year ago in La Boss and I had
just got here. We were staying with mates. It totally
turns our and we got kicked out within it like.
It all happened very very quick, and we had nowhere
to go, and because the day we got kicked out,
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it was too late to book an airbnb. Like it
was really like literally a quick thing, and friends took
us in. Beautiful friends took us in, but very like yep,
come stay like very just like helped us out right.
So that was a year ago. Pretty much today, I
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was self submitting on all the online casting websites here.
I had no representation here other than I had a
I just signed with a commercial and voiceover agent, so
commercial voiceover, happy days. No theatrical reps, so no one
putting me forward for television or film, which is a
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big hurdle in America because unless you can get in
the room. It doesn't matter if you're the best actor
in the world, you're still not gonna the opportunity because
you're not getting in the room. So I was self submitting.
I was auditioning to become a yoga teacher. Like I
was rocking around to yoga studios all over LA and
they make your audition Like to have a paying US
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dollar job is such a big deal in LA because
it's so expensive to live here and it's not an
easy city city to live in. I'm not going to
sugarcoat it. Some days it's amazing and unreal and mind
blowing and other days it's effing brutal and you're like,
what am I doing? So I was literally auditioning to
become a yoga teacher. I finally, after five auditions, I
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got booked at a yoga studio and the director that
I auditioned for, the director of the yoga stuo, was like,
can you teach tomorrow? So that happened pretty quick. That
happened within about a month or so of being here.
But that's where it was at. And I was meeting
with manager to help me with more that like acting stuff,
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and I was just getting I was meeting with managers, publicists,
like all different kinds of people, but I got really
close to what I thought was signing with a manager.
There's probably two situations where I felt like I got
close with signing with representation as an actor, and it
kind of just dragged on for a few months and
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then they were like, actually, no, you're not a comedian,
We're not going to sign you. And I'm like, well,
F and L, you knew that straight out of the gate.
I was pretty honest that, like, I love I love
the concept of being in a drama or a sitcom,
but I'm by no means a stand up comedian or
an improv artist. So I felt like I got put
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round the ringer and stuffed around it and if I'm honest,
now let's cut to now right. And so a year,
one full year has passed of being here. I've done
two morning TV two different morning TV shows here in America,
one in Florida, one here in LA doing nutrition and
health segments like what I've done for a big chunk
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of my career in Australia. I just finished filming the pilot.
It was so much fun and it was a dark
comedy and I got to keep my Aussie accent. How
kill and I was so nervous, but I said this
to Boss. I was happy at how I was able
to self regulate whilst doing the thing I love whilst
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being really nervous, Like the stakes felt so high for me.
So now I'm like, oh, well, I just need to
do more of that. I need to be on set
more and more and more. Like the more exposure therapy,
the more that I'm going to be able to mitigate
these nerves and remember nerves. My therapist stom me, nerves
is also excitement, like it manifests the same way in
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the body. I'm in a great acting school. I'm learning,
I'm building on my craft. I'm working on it. I
have just it's probably premature to share this, but you know,
I'm and overshare. I have just had a meeting with
a really amazing acting agent. I haven't signed or anything yet,
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but we've had that first meeting, so that's already in
a better place than when it was a year ago.
And then I've kind of taken my creativity into my
own hands with the pod. This pod is my baby.
I love it like it wouldn't even exist if it
wasn't for you listening to it right now. So first
of all, thank you, because it literally lights up my world.
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I am flipping obsessed with podcasting. I love it. I
love it, I love it. I'm now teaching myself to
do all the video editing, so I've got cap cart.
I am editing all the videos myself. Boss you steal
a lot of my audiogram editing, but because his workload
is so big in Australia, I was like, I got
to I've got to teach myself this skill. And on
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top of that, I've started writing on substack, which is
like a free blog I would say website for and
it's been so much fun. I haven't promoted it heavily.
I think I've got something like fifty subscribers. I made
mind totally free, so it's not monetized at all. It's
just free. And I just do either diary entries or
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recipes because obviously I've got them coming out of the wazoo.
And I just do a bit of like foody and
travel guides because you know, made a little bit of
a travel bunny. Love it and it's so much fun,
it's so rewarding. So I try to do a couple
of sub stacks a week. I'm obsessed with podcasting, and
I'm now also cutting my own content for not only
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audiograms on Insta or TikTok, but also YouTube. I'm like,
I'm doing the thing that I love. I'm staying creative
when I'm not filming, whether it be a morning TV
show or a pilot, and I'm actively finding the representation
of people that genuinely believe in me and believe that
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I can act, and believe that I've got a career
in acting. And I'm building those relationships so that I
can bring that into a reality and literally just let
it unfold, as opposed to like chasing it like a
dog with a bone, which is how I spent a
large part of last year. I remember I used to
always say to Boss, and I used to always say
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to my beautiful friend Beck, I just need to win.
I just need to win. I just need to win.
And can you hear that? Like? Mindset already negative? And
that was me all last year, or at least eight
months of last year. It started to change for me
in December, like November. December more December than November. But
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I remember where I was when I booked Morning TV
in La. It was November. It was the middle of November.
I was in Joshua Trere with Matt and Dad and
I'd just gone to this hippie medicinal shop and they'd
made me a heart opening late with like blue lotus
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flour or something, and it had, like I've told you
guys about it on the diary before, it had like
Loopez Lopez Crystal Lapouli Lopezi. It's a beautiful blue crystal
essence in it. And as I was drinking this latte,
as we were driving out of the cafe, like we
leaving the cafe and driving back to our house in
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Joshua Tree or our Airbnb, and I booked the gig
and just so you know, to give you context, that
was the start of November. I then did that segment
in the middle of January. That's the lead time. Same
with the pilot that got booked in December. We were
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meant to shoot in January, but in the middle of
the fires, so it got pulled, and then we shot
in April. Just give you a timeline of things too,
because like things take longer than we expect in not
just this career, I think any career, and this brings
me back to the thing that Dinah shared today, which
is we overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
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but we often underestimate what we can achieve in a year.
So if I look back over the year, holy shit,
I've filmed a pilot, I've done two massive US TV shows.
I've built like my substack from nothing, like I've just
gone about and done it. And the pod, my baby
is growing. The POD's numbers are growing significantly in the
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past year. How cool. And so that's why I wanted
to talk to you. I wanted to talk to you
about like taking stock. And I know that in the
world of astrology right now, I know astrology isn't for everyone,
but I drink that kool aid my friends, like there
is no tomorrow and it's a time of like really
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transforming and manifesting what you really want right now. And
so I in you after you hear this, I hope
that you look back at where you were a year ago,
take stock in where you are now, and then be like,
holy fuck, how exciting to think where I might be
in a year. I have a feeling I'm either going
to do a sitcom a drama dy which is drama,
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DA comedy like a Ted Lasser, like as an ensemble
cast member, or procedural drama. Procedural drama is fascinating. I'm
not properly trained in it, so I'm thinking that's going
to be my next training. I need to learn procedural
drama because there's five different eye line points that you
need to be aware of. So procedural dramas are like
graysing out of Me nine to one one, Chicago Fire,
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any of those medical shows you see, any of the
police shows, you see, detective shows, they're all what we
call procedural dramas. I love them. But if you are
in like a medical show, you've got these different five
eyelines that you need to be aware of whilst on
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obviously saying your dialect is quite text heavy. I don't
know if you've noticed, and so sometimes you'll be looking
at who you're operating on, but then you've probably got
a nurse or two nurses and a head doctor there,
and then you've probably got the victim's significant other there,
and like, so you've got to be able to know
where your eyelines are. Alswels delivering also while pretending the
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person in front of you has potentially got a life
threatening illness or something like that. Fascinating, how fun. So
it's cool to think like where we could all be
in a year's time. That's what gets me so so excited.
So to be really transparent with you, I'm here in
La going after the dream. But I'm really clear on it. Actor,
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TV host, podcast host, and writer. I've always been a writer.
I'll be a writer till the day I die. I
think everybody has a book in them By the way,
that's just a sidebar, side note. And so so I
think if we can get clear on exactly where we are,
exactly how far we've come in the year. And if
you haven't started a dream until now, you're listening to
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this and you're like, holy shit, I stuff it. I
just want to go after my dream. Don't worry about
what you can achieve in one month. Worry about like
what you can the mountains, you can move in a year.
That's what's exciting. Like I remember when we signed the
lease on this apartment, we could barely afford to pay there.
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You've got to pay like a deposit thing in America.
And because I had no credit score in America, there's
at that's a whole other topic. You have to build
it from scratch. It doesn't they won't look at your
Australian credit score. We had to pay what's called a
double deposit, and this we live in a little humble, tiny,
very small studio apartment, and the deposit before we even
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paid our first month's rent was ten thousand dollars and
we didn't have and so like Matt had to pull
money out of like shares, Like that's how scary the
first few months were here. And I just want to
be so transparent about it because it's not easy. It's
something it is hard, and it does take a grind,
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and it does take a sense of like self belief
and not wanting regret and being like you know what,
like we're going to go hard at this thing. Like
we've done things that are hard so that we can
literally be here, like freezing embryos stuff like that, Like
that was a challenging thing and confronting thing to do,
and it's like, Okay, we've done that hard thing. Like
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even the visa process is hard. We've done that hard
thing and now we're here. And it was actually my
friend Beck that was like the fact that you're even
there giving it a riper crack. She's like, that's actually
a win. And I think if you're creative, you've got
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find a way to stay creative and be creating something
even when you're not on a film set, even when
you're not on a TV set. And that's been the
game changer for me. The pod, The POD's my baby.
Oh love it. If I got signed to Gray's Anatomy
or some medical procedural drama tomorrow, this pod would go
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like one hundred percent keep going. You'd still be getting
your three episodes a week, You'd still be getting your interviews.
I'd probably be interviewing the cast, the director, whatever, you know. Like,
the pod is something that is so a part of
me that I just see growing with me and just
hopefully inspiring you to like grab a hold of whatever
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it is you want to achieve and just like go
the f after it. There is one thing I am
going to do now that I'm in LA and the
boss of Chenki isn't here with me right now, and
that is my one on one coaching that I haven't
done much of. So I'm offering it in three I
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guess you would say Genres the Health and Nutrition stuff.
Of course, wellness coaching is easy, so usually I'll be
really transparent. You do one session and I either refer
you to a specialist, like if it's fertility, for example,
or refer you to a specialist after one SASH. If
it's more mental health stuff, I refer you to like
an amazing act therapist and counselor usually after a SASH.
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So nutrition is one thing. I'm going to offer. Coaching
around creating your own pod is another, because pods are
a beast. They're amazing, but you've got to understand them.
In fact, we've got an episode coming out really soon
with Claire, who is my pod manager and also beautiful
human being, so sweet, so kind, I hope he is Claire,
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and it's a podcasting episode around podcasting one oh one,
like what do we do that's right, what do we
do that's wrong, what works, what doesn't work. That's going
to come out in the next month. But I'm going
to offer one on one coaching for podcasting, and then
the other is to write a book. It's kind of
what I usually coach most people on how to write
a book, because it can feel really overwhelming at first.
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You've just got to break it down. You've got to
know how to format a book. You've got to understand
your demographic, you've got to understand even the price point.
You've got to understand your audience and who you're writing for,
the tone, what's the takeaway all that kind of thing.
Is it fiction? Is it nonfiction? There's a lot to
think about when you're writing a book. But I think
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having somebody to help you through that, or at least
help you in the beginning stages, is really awesome. Like
I'll give an example of someone I coach and I
know she won't mind me saying this. Her name is
Georgie Collinson. I had her on the pod about a
month ago, and I was in Australia when she launched
her second book. Her first book is called The Anxiety
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Reset Method and her second book is called I Believe
It's called It's All About Relationships Anxiety at Managing Manage
your relationship anxiety. And I didn't coach her on the
second book at all. I coached on the first book
and she was already pretty ready. I'll be honest with you,
Like she sent me a twelve page pitch check and
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I was like, well, you only need one page of
mate like she was that ready and I coached her.
I think we did three sessions together and then a
year later she asked for like one around like the
press and the publicity and we need a session then
and cut to a year after that, so two years
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since the beginning of coaching. So I did introduce her
to a publisher and they jumped at the chance. And
she's now got two books out. One of them has
been featured in Oprah's Book Club, and I am seed
her book launch in Bayron Bay like three weeks ago
or something, and I just think having a little bit
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of guidance around how to da book and stuff is
something that is so cool and one of my passions.
This is why the pod exists is I love helping
people bring their passion to life. That's why I get
so excited when I interview people or I get I
got emotional. Last night, I was watching clips from Stage
Coach and I was watching Munford and Sons and they
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did a surprise gig surprise show at Stage Coach, and
Stage Coaches always happens the week after Coachella, and it's
more country music vibes, more my vibe I feel anyway,
side note was like Lana del Rey, Mumford and sons,
Zach Bryant, you know what I mean, great lineup. Anyway,
I was watching these clips of Marcus Mumford singing, well,
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it's the whole band, but everyone's feeling Mark s Mumford
and it's him singing little line man and I will wait,
and I was like literally crying, good crying, just seeing
that somebody lived their true passion. And that's my whole stick,
Like I want to champion people living their true passion,
and that is why this pod exists. That's why I
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sit down with people and really try to understand their
passion and what worked and what didn't work, and what
were their setbacks, what were the hurdles, how did you
overcome them? So that's why the pod exists. Anyway, I
feel like I'm digressing, but that's why I wanted this
one on one coaching. So if you're interested, I'm just
going to manage it myself. No no assistant, no nothing,
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just me. So my direct email if you're interested in anyone,
just called the topic one on one coaching and my
direct email is Lola at Lolaberry dot com and it'd
all be on zoom obviously because I live on the
other side of the world. If you're in Australia, which
I'm presuming I know about seventy seven percent of you are,
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so the rest I think are Americans. So different ballgame
there we can do in person. But to anyone that
wants coaching on those three things either wellness, either like,
and I would say under that banner as well like
any career dream like, I am really great at coming
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up with a plan and helping bring that thing to life.
I caught up with a mate just Friday, who wants
to write a book and has all these ideas but
doesn't know how to then turn the ideas into a
book structure and how to format it, and I was like,
I got you, and so we spent an hour brainstorming
things to do and things to move into the next step.
And the most common thing that happens to people that
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have a book idea, and it happened to my friend,
is they've got all these little ideas, but they can't
figure out the big picture, like how to put these
ideas into a book, format into a skeleton, into chapter ideas,
and then write the chapters. Whereas that's where I come in.
I can be like, this is your homework. You've got
one month to go away and do this, and before
you know it, you've got a book. So that's just
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something to think about. So if you're interested, just email
Lola atlolaberry dot com. It's my direct personal email and
just call the title one on one consoles and just
write me like not even a practiced a line of
just like, hey, I want to work on this and
we'll just see if it's a thing, great, if it's not,
no sweat. So here's I'm going to wrap up, and
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I'm going to wrap up by saying, go chase that
flipping dream and don't beat yourself up when you haven't
achieved all the things you want to achieve in a
week or a month. It's the same with health. You
know all those memes you see I like, I've been
healthy for three days and I still feel bloated. In
the UK, it's like, well, yeah, no shit, We've got it.
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You've got to put the time in, you've got to
be consistent, you've got to continue day after day doing
the thing. And so I'm going to end on that quote.
I'm now obsessed with we overestimate what we can achieve
in a month. We often underestimate what we can achieve
in a year. So effing lock into that dream. Write
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down the date that you listen to this, or that
you listen to this, and go out and get the
butcher's paper or a journal or notepad right down the
day and check in one year later on how much
you can achieve. But like it does mean, day after
day you do things that get you closer towards that dream,
and you have to be disappointed with that. But you
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also have to stay curious. If a new opportunity comes
that you're like, oh, I didn't really see that opportunity,
and that's now kind of leading me down this path,
you know what I mean. You've got to stay open
and curious at the same time. Anyway, there's my pearls
of wisdom for you. If you listen to this on
a Monday morning, on a Monday morning, if you listen
to this on Wednesday, eleven pm at night, will so
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be it? You do? You boo? All right? My friends,
Meg Love, I hope this inspired something. My goal is
that it kind of evoked a little spark or if
we've got that little pilot light in your chest that
it just like you know, like gave it a little
bit of like you know, bear like it's feeding the
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flicker of the flame in your chest. Go leave that
passion and every day just put in a little bit
more to get a little pinch closer, tiny bit closer,
tiny bit closer to the passion, and then look back
a year later and look at what you've achieved. That's
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that's what I'm talking about. That's where the magic is
and that's exciting. All right, let me know what you
think you can write to me? Can whatever any of it? Right?
Who row have a rip of day success, love speed.
We often overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
but we often underestimate what we can achieve in ye.
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Your year starts now, go for it. Focus on the dream,
write the date down, take stock, check in day after day.
Just consistently work towards your goals. All right, gang big
love Poru. That's a wrap on another episode of Fearlessly Failing.
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Get a. I'm Lola Berry, nutritionist, author, actor, TV presenter,
and professional oversharer. This podcast is all about celebrating failure
because I believe it's a chance for us to learn,
grow and face our blind spots. Each week, I'll interview
a different guest about their highs as well as their lows,
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all in a bid to inspire us to fearlessly fail. Hello, Gangles.
This is a long form episode, but it is an honest,
real chat about why I'm back in La, what's going
on in La, and where things are at. I do
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a diary episode every Friday from where I am in
the world, and I usually give a quick kind of
like I don't know, fifteen twenty minute taste of what's
gone on in the week that was in LA. But
I thought I would share a little bit more of
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an update on career, what's going on, what's working, what's not.
And my goal is that this episode inspires you to
do your own check in with where you're at in
your goals and passions and per person all of that
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in your life. That's the goal of this. So I
have got about four posters of Butcher's paper in front
of me with notes all over them around this podcast episode.
So my hope is that you can do a bit
of what I've done. I'm just getting my notebook that
has a special notes for today on it. I'm sitting
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here on the floor of my apartment in my pj's
loll It's morning. Don't worry. I've had my morning coffee
and with all these notes in front of me, and
I've got a calendar on one side, I've got a
diary on the other, and I've got all his butcher's
paper and highlighters and sharpies and pens and stuff. So
I wanted to be really transparent about what I'm doing
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here in La, what's changed in the time that we've
been here, and what the goals are being here. So
first of all, I'll say that elephant in the room,
I'm here on my own. Boss is not here. Do
not worry. We have not broken up. We are not
on the rocks, none of that. He just has work
opportunities in Australia that he needs to physically be there
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for right now. So we're hoping that that doesn't last
too long. And we get well, we want his work
to last for long, but we're really hoping that within
the next month or so, we're reunited and back together
and he'll be with me here in La. But it's
also been a really beautiful gift in a weird kind
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of way, because I got back to LA and I
had about a week to prepare for a pilot. But
in all honesty, it was my first acting job, like
real acting job, and so I got to be really
selfish for that week. I got to prioritize my health.
I got to which Matt and I are always healthy,
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but I really got to like get over the jet
lag and get into yoga and then do all the
things you want to do before you shoot, like you know, brows, hair,
feeling good, all of those kind of things. And Matt's like,
I think that this is was meant to be. You know,
I think you were meant to do this, your first
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acting gig on your own. And it's like there is
a part of you that is a bit of a
lone wolf that and you know, I've got a dear
friend of mine. Jad. He calls me a shark, and
shark's are reasonably solitary as well, but he calls me
a shark because if I stopped moving, I would die.
And I am a bit of that. I'm going to
be real with you. But this time on my own
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in LA that was unexpected has given me a really
big chance to kind of like take stock and a
few things have come up that are really exciting that
have really forced me to be like, Okay, what's working here,
what hasn't worked and kind of like course correct. So
(04:26):
there's this awesome kid I interviewed on the Potter Rooney.
His name is Noah Hunter Dorsy. I'm saying that I'm
sure I do. Anyway, I follow him on Instagra and
he's like, he doesn't know this. Noah, if you ever
hear this, you're literally my inspo, like like a twenty
seven year old mentor. And I've interviewed him on the pod.
It's not out yet, but he posts really inspiring stuff. Anyway. Yeah,
(04:50):
I did say his name right, no Hunter Dorsy, And
his episode will probably drop in a couple of weeks
here on a Monday episode, and I I watched an episode.
First of all, he taught me something when I interviewed him,
which is success, love speed. And I'd learned that from
interviewing other actors when they would say you need to
learn to ride the momentum because when the opportunity does
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come your way, which inevitably will will do, some people
then let the momentum of that slip through their hands.
And I was like, oh, that makes total sense with
success loving speed, like you can kind of roll off
one thing and then into another. And so that's kind
of stuck with me since I did that interview. But
this morning I watched one of his YouTube blogs and
(05:35):
he said, and it really is a goody. So he said,
we often overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
but we often underestimate what we can achieve in a year.
So you often overestimate what you can do in a month,
but you often underestimate what you can do in a year.
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And I thought, well, holy Mac, it's been a year
in LA. What a great time to take stock on
what worked or what didn't work? What were the highlights,
what were the low lights? Have I moved forward? Have
I stayed stagnant? What's going on? So I've taken stock,
and I took stock as soon as I got back
from Australia as well, because we crammed so much into
(06:18):
that Australian trip. We're just in Australia for about a month,
and I figured out in the month we were in Australia,
we stayed in ten different locations, and I was like, Okay,
some of this trip's working and some of it's not.
And I went through the highlight list of what really
worked and what we loved, and I went through the
stuff that didn't work, and there was a really clear
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connection with me like still wanting to people please and
not having boundaries in place. And so coming back to
LA with that fresh self awareness, I'm kind of like, Okay, well,
I am here to make shit happen. I'm not here,
as we say in Australia, I'm not here to fuck spiders.
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And so that's why this episode exists. So I've literally
I've looken, I've looked back, and I've looked at a
year in LA because I've just resigned our twelve monthly
so we're here where we're in LA, but having resigned
it and it kicks off literally tomorrow or something like
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it literally in the next forty eight hours, the new lease.
And so what I'm trying to say is I've done
a little then and now now, just so that if
you have a goal or a passion or a dream.
Well rather than kind of be like shifts. It's been
three months going at this thing and nothing's happened, which
is exactly what I did last year. I invite you
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to do the knower thing, which is looked back over
a year. So we're going to start with the thens.
So a year ago in La Boss and I had
just got here. We were staying with mates. It totally
turns our and we got kicked out within it like.
It all happened very very quick, and we had nowhere
to go, and because the day we got kicked out,
(08:12):
it was too late to book an airbnb. Like it
was really like literally a quick thing, and friends took
us in. Beautiful friends took us in, but very like yep,
come stay like very just like helped us out right.
So that was a year ago. Pretty much today, I
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was self submitting on all the online casting websites here.
I had no representation here other than I had a
I just signed with a commercial and voiceover agent, so
commercial voiceover, happy days. No theatrical reps, so no one
putting me forward for television or film, which is a
(08:53):
big hurdle in America because unless you can get in
the room. It doesn't matter if you're the best actor
in the world, you're still not gonna the opportunity because
you're not getting in the room. So I was self submitting.
I was auditioning to become a yoga teacher. Like I
was rocking around to yoga studios all over LA and
they make your audition Like to have a paying US
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dollar job is such a big deal in LA because
it's so expensive to live here and it's not an
easy city city to live in. I'm not going to
sugarcoat it. Some days it's amazing and unreal and mind
blowing and other days it's effing brutal and you're like,
what am I doing? So I was literally auditioning to
become a yoga teacher. I finally, after five auditions, I
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got booked at a yoga studio and the director that
I auditioned for, the director of the yoga stuo, was like,
can you teach tomorrow? So that happened pretty quick. That
happened within about a month or so of being here.
But that's where it was at. And I was meeting
with manager to help me with more that like acting stuff,
(10:03):
and I was just getting I was meeting with managers, publicists,
like all different kinds of people, but I got really
close to what I thought was signing with a manager.
There's probably two situations where I felt like I got
close with signing with representation as an actor, and it
kind of just dragged on for a few months and
(10:24):
then they were like, actually, no, you're not a comedian,
We're not going to sign you. And I'm like, well,
F and L, you knew that straight out of the gate.
I was pretty honest that, like, I love I love
the concept of being in a drama or a sitcom,
but I'm by no means a stand up comedian or
an improv artist. So I felt like I got put
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round the ringer and stuffed around it and if I'm honest,
now let's cut to now right. And so a year,
one full year has passed of being here. I've done
two morning TV two different morning TV shows here in America,
one in Florida, one here in LA doing nutrition and
health segments like what I've done for a big chunk
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of my career in Australia. I just finished filming the pilot.
It was so much fun and it was a dark
comedy and I got to keep my Aussie accent. How
kill and I was so nervous, but I said this
to Boss. I was happy at how I was able
to self regulate whilst doing the thing I love whilst
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being really nervous, Like the stakes felt so high for me.
So now I'm like, oh, well, I just need to
do more of that. I need to be on set
more and more and more. Like the more exposure therapy,
the more that I'm going to be able to mitigate
these nerves and remember nerves. My therapist stom me, nerves
is also excitement, like it manifests the same way in
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the body. I'm in a great acting school. I'm learning,
I'm building on my craft. I'm working on it. I
have just it's probably premature to share this, but you know,
I'm and overshare. I have just had a meeting with
a really amazing acting agent. I haven't signed or anything yet,
(12:11):
but we've had that first meeting, so that's already in
a better place than when it was a year ago.
And then I've kind of taken my creativity into my
own hands with the pod. This pod is my baby.
I love it like it wouldn't even exist if it
wasn't for you listening to it right now. So first
of all, thank you, because it literally lights up my world.
(12:32):
I am flipping obsessed with podcasting. I love it. I
love it, I love it. I'm now teaching myself to
do all the video editing, so I've got cap cart.
I am editing all the videos myself. Boss you steal
a lot of my audiogram editing, but because his workload
is so big in Australia, I was like, I got
to I've got to teach myself this skill. And on
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top of that, I've started writing on substack, which is
like a free blog I would say website for and
it's been so much fun. I haven't promoted it heavily.
I think I've got something like fifty subscribers. I made
mind totally free, so it's not monetized at all. It's
just free. And I just do either diary entries or
(13:16):
recipes because obviously I've got them coming out of the wazoo.
And I just do a bit of like foody and
travel guides because you know, made a little bit of
a travel bunny. Love it and it's so much fun,
it's so rewarding. So I try to do a couple
of sub stacks a week. I'm obsessed with podcasting, and
I'm now also cutting my own content for not only
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audiograms on Insta or TikTok, but also YouTube. I'm like,
I'm doing the thing that I love. I'm staying creative
when I'm not filming, whether it be a morning TV
show or a pilot, and I'm actively finding the representation
of people that genuinely believe in me and believe that
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I can act, and believe that I've got a career
in acting. And I'm building those relationships so that I
can bring that into a reality and literally just let
it unfold, as opposed to like chasing it like a
dog with a bone, which is how I spent a
large part of last year. I remember I used to
always say to Boss, and I used to always say
(14:21):
to my beautiful friend Beck, I just need to win.
I just need to win. I just need to win.
And can you hear that? Like? Mindset already negative? And
that was me all last year, or at least eight
months of last year. It started to change for me
in December, like November. December more December than November. But
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I remember where I was when I booked Morning TV
in La. It was November. It was the middle of November.
I was in Joshua Trere with Matt and Dad and
I'd just gone to this hippie medicinal shop and they'd
made me a heart opening late with like blue lotus
(15:04):
flour or something, and it had, like I've told you
guys about it on the diary before, it had like
Loopez Lopez Crystal Lapouli Lopezi. It's a beautiful blue crystal
essence in it. And as I was drinking this latte,
as we were driving out of the cafe, like we
leaving the cafe and driving back to our house in
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Joshua Tree or our Airbnb, and I booked the gig
and just so you know, to give you context, that
was the start of November. I then did that segment
in the middle of January. That's the lead time. Same
with the pilot that got booked in December. We were
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meant to shoot in January, but in the middle of
the fires, so it got pulled, and then we shot
in April. Just give you a timeline of things too,
because like things take longer than we expect in not
just this career, I think any career, and this brings
me back to the thing that Dinah shared today, which
is we overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
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but we often underestimate what we can achieve in a year.
So if I look back over the year, holy shit,
I've filmed a pilot, I've done two massive US TV shows.
I've built like my substack from nothing, like I've just
gone about and done it. And the pod, my baby
is growing. The POD's numbers are growing significantly in the
(16:32):
past year. How cool. And so that's why I wanted
to talk to you. I wanted to talk to you
about like taking stock. And I know that in the
world of astrology right now, I know astrology isn't for everyone,
but I drink that kool aid my friends, like there
is no tomorrow and it's a time of like really
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transforming and manifesting what you really want right now. And
so I in you after you hear this, I hope
that you look back at where you were a year ago,
take stock in where you are now, and then be like,
holy fuck, how exciting to think where I might be
in a year. I have a feeling I'm either going
to do a sitcom a drama dy which is drama,
(17:20):
DA comedy like a Ted Lasser, like as an ensemble
cast member, or procedural drama. Procedural drama is fascinating. I'm
not properly trained in it, so I'm thinking that's going
to be my next training. I need to learn procedural
drama because there's five different eye line points that you
need to be aware of. So procedural dramas are like
graysing out of Me nine to one one, Chicago Fire,
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any of those medical shows you see, any of the
police shows, you see, detective shows, they're all what we
call procedural dramas. I love them. But if you are
in like a medical show, you've got these different five
eyelines that you need to be aware of whilst on
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obviously saying your dialect is quite text heavy. I don't
know if you've noticed, and so sometimes you'll be looking
at who you're operating on, but then you've probably got
a nurse or two nurses and a head doctor there,
and then you've probably got the victim's significant other there,
and like, so you've got to be able to know
where your eyelines are. Alswels delivering also while pretending the
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person in front of you has potentially got a life
threatening illness or something like that. Fascinating, how fun. So
it's cool to think like where we could all be
in a year's time. That's what gets me so so excited.
So to be really transparent with you, I'm here in
La going after the dream. But I'm really clear on it. Actor,
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TV host, podcast host, and writer. I've always been a writer.
I'll be a writer till the day I die. I
think everybody has a book in them By the way,
that's just a sidebar, side note. And so so I
think if we can get clear on exactly where we are,
exactly how far we've come in the year. And if
you haven't started a dream until now, you're listening to
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this and you're like, holy shit, I stuff it. I
just want to go after my dream. Don't worry about
what you can achieve in one month. Worry about like
what you can the mountains, you can move in a year.
That's what's exciting. Like I remember when we signed the
lease on this apartment, we could barely afford to pay there.
(19:30):
You've got to pay like a deposit thing in America.
And because I had no credit score in America, there's
at that's a whole other topic. You have to build
it from scratch. It doesn't they won't look at your
Australian credit score. We had to pay what's called a
double deposit, and this we live in a little humble, tiny,
very small studio apartment, and the deposit before we even
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paid our first month's rent was ten thousand dollars and
we didn't have and so like Matt had to pull
money out of like shares, Like that's how scary the
first few months were here. And I just want to
be so transparent about it because it's not easy. It's
something it is hard, and it does take a grind,
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and it does take a sense of like self belief
and not wanting regret and being like you know what,
like we're going to go hard at this thing. Like
we've done things that are hard so that we can
literally be here, like freezing embryos stuff like that, Like
that was a challenging thing and confronting thing to do,
and it's like, Okay, we've done that hard thing. Like
(20:38):
even the visa process is hard. We've done that hard
thing and now we're here. And it was actually my
friend Beck that was like the fact that you're even
there giving it a riper crack. She's like, that's actually
a win. And I think if you're creative, you've got
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find a way to stay creative and be creating something
even when you're not on a film set, even when
you're not on a TV set. And that's been the
game changer for me. The pod, The POD's my baby.
Oh love it. If I got signed to Gray's Anatomy
or some medical procedural drama tomorrow, this pod would go
(21:24):
like one hundred percent keep going. You'd still be getting
your three episodes a week, You'd still be getting your interviews.
I'd probably be interviewing the cast, the director, whatever, you know. Like,
the pod is something that is so a part of
me that I just see growing with me and just
hopefully inspiring you to like grab a hold of whatever
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it is you want to achieve and just like go
the f after it. There is one thing I am
going to do now that I'm in LA and the
boss of Chenki isn't here with me right now, and
that is my one on one coaching that I haven't
done much of. So I'm offering it in three I
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guess you would say Genres the Health and Nutrition stuff.
Of course, wellness coaching is easy, so usually I'll be
really transparent. You do one session and I either refer
you to a specialist, like if it's fertility, for example,
or refer you to a specialist after one SASH. If
it's more mental health stuff, I refer you to like
an amazing act therapist and counselor usually after a SASH.
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So nutrition is one thing. I'm going to offer. Coaching
around creating your own pod is another, because pods are
a beast. They're amazing, but you've got to understand them.
In fact, we've got an episode coming out really soon
with Claire, who is my pod manager and also beautiful
human being, so sweet, so kind, I hope he is Claire,
(22:51):
and it's a podcasting episode around podcasting one oh one,
like what do we do that's right, what do we
do that's wrong, what works, what doesn't work. That's going
to come out in the next month. But I'm going
to offer one on one coaching for podcasting, and then
the other is to write a book. It's kind of
what I usually coach most people on how to write
a book, because it can feel really overwhelming at first.
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You've just got to break it down. You've got to
know how to format a book. You've got to understand
your demographic, you've got to understand even the price point.
You've got to understand your audience and who you're writing for,
the tone, what's the takeaway all that kind of thing.
Is it fiction? Is it nonfiction? There's a lot to
think about when you're writing a book. But I think
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having somebody to help you through that, or at least
help you in the beginning stages, is really awesome. Like
I'll give an example of someone I coach and I
know she won't mind me saying this. Her name is
Georgie Collinson. I had her on the pod about a
month ago, and I was in Australia when she launched
her second book. Her first book is called The Anxiety
(23:54):
Reset Method and her second book is called I Believe
It's called It's All About Relationships Anxiety at Managing Manage
your relationship anxiety. And I didn't coach her on the
second book at all. I coached on the first book
and she was already pretty ready. I'll be honest with you,
Like she sent me a twelve page pitch check and
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I was like, well, you only need one page of
mate like she was that ready and I coached her.
I think we did three sessions together and then a
year later she asked for like one around like the
press and the publicity and we need a session then
and cut to a year after that, so two years
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since the beginning of coaching. So I did introduce her
to a publisher and they jumped at the chance. And
she's now got two books out. One of them has
been featured in Oprah's Book Club, and I am seed
her book launch in Bayron Bay like three weeks ago
or something, and I just think having a little bit
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of guidance around how to da book and stuff is
something that is so cool and one of my passions.
This is why the pod exists is I love helping
people bring their passion to life. That's why I get
so excited when I interview people or I get I
got emotional. Last night, I was watching clips from Stage
Coach and I was watching Munford and Sons and they
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did a surprise gig surprise show at Stage Coach, and
Stage Coaches always happens the week after Coachella, and it's
more country music vibes, more my vibe I feel anyway,
side note was like Lana del Rey, Mumford and sons,
Zach Bryant, you know what I mean, great lineup. Anyway,
I was watching these clips of Marcus Mumford singing, well,
(25:43):
it's the whole band, but everyone's feeling Mark s Mumford
and it's him singing little line man and I will wait,
and I was like literally crying, good crying, just seeing
that somebody lived their true passion. And that's my whole stick,
Like I want to champion people living their true passion,
and that is why this pod exists. That's why I
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sit down with people and really try to understand their
passion and what worked and what didn't work, and what
were their setbacks, what were the hurdles, how did you
overcome them? So that's why the pod exists. Anyway, I
feel like I'm digressing, but that's why I wanted this
one on one coaching. So if you're interested, I'm just
going to manage it myself. No no assistant, no nothing,
(26:25):
just me. So my direct email if you're interested in anyone,
just called the topic one on one coaching and my
direct email is Lola at Lolaberry dot com and it'd
all be on zoom obviously because I live on the
other side of the world. If you're in Australia, which
I'm presuming I know about seventy seven percent of you are,
(26:46):
so the rest I think are Americans. So different ballgame
there we can do in person. But to anyone that
wants coaching on those three things either wellness, either like,
and I would say under that banner as well like
any career dream like, I am really great at coming
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up with a plan and helping bring that thing to life.
I caught up with a mate just Friday, who wants
to write a book and has all these ideas but
doesn't know how to then turn the ideas into a
book structure and how to format it, and I was like,
I got you, and so we spent an hour brainstorming
things to do and things to move into the next step.
And the most common thing that happens to people that
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have a book idea, and it happened to my friend,
is they've got all these little ideas, but they can't
figure out the big picture, like how to put these
ideas into a book, format into a skeleton, into chapter ideas,
and then write the chapters. Whereas that's where I come in.
I can be like, this is your homework. You've got
one month to go away and do this, and before
you know it, you've got a book. So that's just
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something to think about. So if you're interested, just email
Lola atlolaberry dot com. It's my direct personal email and
just call the title one on one consoles and just
write me like not even a practiced a line of
just like, hey, I want to work on this and
we'll just see if it's a thing, great, if it's not,
no sweat. So here's I'm going to wrap up, and
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I'm going to wrap up by saying, go chase that
flipping dream and don't beat yourself up when you haven't
achieved all the things you want to achieve in a
week or a month. It's the same with health. You
know all those memes you see I like, I've been
healthy for three days and I still feel bloated. In
the UK, it's like, well, yeah, no shit, We've got it.
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You've got to put the time in, you've got to
be consistent, you've got to continue day after day doing
the thing. And so I'm going to end on that quote.
I'm now obsessed with we overestimate what we can achieve
in a month. We often underestimate what we can achieve
in a year. So effing lock into that dream. Write
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down the date that you listen to this, or that
you listen to this, and go out and get the
butcher's paper or a journal or notepad right down the
day and check in one year later on how much
you can achieve. But like it does mean, day after
day you do things that get you closer towards that dream,
and you have to be disappointed with that. But you
(29:34):
also have to stay curious. If a new opportunity comes
that you're like, oh, I didn't really see that opportunity,
and that's now kind of leading me down this path,
you know what I mean. You've got to stay open
and curious at the same time. Anyway, there's my pearls
of wisdom for you. If you listen to this on
a Monday morning, on a Monday morning, if you listen
to this on Wednesday, eleven pm at night, will so
(29:55):
be it? You do? You boo? All right? My friends,
Meg Love, I hope this inspired something. My goal is
that it kind of evoked a little spark or if
we've got that little pilot light in your chest that
it just like you know, like gave it a little
bit of like you know, bear like it's feeding the
(30:16):
flicker of the flame in your chest. Go leave that
passion and every day just put in a little bit
more to get a little pinch closer, tiny bit closer,
tiny bit closer to the passion, and then look back
a year later and look at what you've achieved. That's
(30:38):
that's what I'm talking about. That's where the magic is
and that's exciting. All right, let me know what you
think you can write to me? Can whatever any of it? Right?
Who row have a rip of day success, love speed.
We often overestimate what we can achieve in a month,
but we often underestimate what we can achieve in ye.
(31:00):
Your year starts now, go for it. Focus on the dream,
write the date down, take stock, check in day after day.
Just consistently work towards your goals. All right, gang big
love Poru. That's a wrap on another episode of Fearlessly Failing.
(31:26):
As always, thank you to our guests and let's continue
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