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Hello and welcome back to Feminine Initiate podcast.
I'm your host, Jess WI. Hope you're having an incredible
day so far. My inspiration for this episode
came from a virtual summit that I Co facilitated yesterday
called soulful summit, the Energetics of wholeness.
I did this with four other amazing solid healing
practitioners. And yesterday's topic was all
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about gratitude, not the surfacelevel gratitude where we affirm
that we're grateful for something.
We can either say it out cloud or sane in her head.
But there's a disconnect becausewe don't actually feel that
grateful feeling within us. Yesterday we talked about how
gratitude is quite literally a magnet for our desired results.
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Yes, we can be grateful for a future state, for things that
haven't yet become our physical reality, for things that we
desire. And I'm going to share how we
can do that in a minute. But first, I want to remind us
what true gratitude is and isn't.
Gratitude is both a feeling and an emotion, but it's not thought
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to be in a state of gratitude. We need to feel it, not just say
it. And we know that we attract
based on our feeling. So if we're feeling lack,
bitterness, frustration, envy, resentment, we want to turn
towards gratitude to allow us toshift our internal state,
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because otherwise we're simply going to be attracting more
lack, more bitterness, more situations and circumstances
that will frustrate us. So we really want to tune into
our feelings. However, going from a feeling of
lack to gratitude right away could really be difficult to
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shift depending on the intensityof the negative emotion.
And This is why I feel like gratitude can have a negative
connotation in the personal development space, just like
toxic positivity, because it's often overlooked.
It's it's seen more so as an intellectual or mental thing as
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opposed to a holistic experiencethat needs to be felt.
You may have heard before, maybeit was from a well meaning
person in your life or maybe it was something that came across
your social media feed. You should be grateful for all
of the things, but what we should really be doing, I'm
doing it now, is we need to stopshooting all over ourselves and
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just allowing ourselves to feel how we want to feel.
Gratitude isn't something we canpressure ourselves into.
No positive emotion is. It's something we want to
nurture within us. We can't just jump from a bitter
feeling to feeling grateful in one breath.
That's like the opposite of the same poll, but we need to go
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through a whole bunch of emotions before we get there.
Let me give you an example. When I was in the early stages
of my recovery days after my serious car accident and I was a
dependent for three years at that time, this may have been
maybe about a year and a half in.
I was living with my mom at her boyfriend's place and the house
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was a little bit out in the country and because I had no
vehicle I felt really isolated and lonely.
I went from living in a 2 bedroom apartment to living out
of a one bedroom. Like not even apartment,
literally one guest bedroom. I also had my dog with me.
She was a Husky shepherd, so a big enough dog, but she wasn't
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allowed anywhere in the house out of fear that she would
scratch the floors. So we were both confined into
this small guest bedroom that had my bed, all of my clothes.
It was also my mom's office, so it had a computer desk in there
too, but it had my food pantry. It had the dog bed, the dog
food, like all of the supplies, all cramped in this room for
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three years or a year and a halfat that point.
And I had a friend over one day and I was telling her a little
bit about my frustration and I was saying that I can't wait to
get my own place. And she said, Jess, you should
just be grateful that you can stay here.
And I also wasn't just staying there, by the way, because I was
paying 1/3 of the utility bills that was coming out of my
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accident benefits because again,I didn't have a job at that time
during that recovery period. But anyways, that's not the
point. The point is that there is a
lack of understanding here of what I was actually feeling.
And I feel like that's a big thing.
I mean, can we actually really understand anybody truly?
Because to understand that we actually need to know everything
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that they've experienced, exactly how they're
internalizing their own reality.How can we possibly understand?
Can we sympathize for them? Can we empathize?
Can we try our best to have a clear picture from our point of
view of what their experience could be like?
But to say that we truly understand and then we start
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shoulding on people, it's just not the way to spread a
positivity in the world. Anyways, so this conversation
ended up just making me feel frustration and guilty for not
being grateful for what I had. I was feeling like I should be
grateful. Why can't I be grateful?
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And that was just making me feeleven more frustrated that I
couldn't cultivate those feelings.
And So what was I doing energetically?
I was just pushing myself even further away from gratitude.
What I now know is that in that moment, all I needed to do was
return back to the present moment.
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I needed to acknowledge safety. My security and my abundance in
that moment just returned to a state of neutrality so that I
can reach a state of acceptance and then I can begin inviting
feelings of gratitude. It's a process.
And so let your feelings guide you.
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And I know this can be counterintuitive in today's
world because society has reallytold us to follow logic.
Follow the rational logic. Don't trust your heart.
Feelings could be fleeting, but our our logical mind is only
rooted in the past. And so if we think that we can
think our way into a new life without considering how we feel
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in the process, we're never going to get there.
We are seriously mistaking ourselves.
All we're ever really after anyways is a feeling, not the
external things, and only once we cultivate the desired feeling
within us will the desired results present themselves in
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our life as a consequence of us holding our desired feeling
state. The outside world is the effect
and our internal state is the cause.
This is the basic law of cause and effect.
And so with this understanding, if we want to become a magnet
for our future desired results, we're going to want to express
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gratitude for them in this present moment so that we
attract them right now in this current moment.
We don't want to attract it in afuture state.
We want to be specific and clearwith what it is that we want.
How we feel is the catalyst for change in our life.
And remember, if something wasn't meant for you, you
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wouldn't have the desire on yourheart.
What you want wants you, and howyou feel, you attract.
Have you ever walked into a room, a room or a space or
somewhere that you haven't been for years, Been there before,
but it's been like years or months since you've been there.
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And you walk in there now and maybe you're with someone,
whoever you're currently with inyour current reality, you're
there. But in your mind, you're
scanning the room and you're recalling the last time you were
there. Maybe you can still see who you
were with the last time, replaying those memories.
You can see exactly where it wasthat you were sitting and you
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can even recall the conversation.
And while you're envisioning allof this, you're still there,
just there in the present moment.
Maybe you're even having a conversation with whoever you're
currently there with. You're doing this all
simultaneously. And my point is that you can be
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somewhere physically and be somewhere completely different
in your imagination. You're doing this already by
default, and you want to do something similar with your
future desired results. Let's say you want to do
renovations in your home. Maybe it's in your kitchen,
maybe it's in your living room, a bathroom, Whatever it is, Can
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you imagine walking into that space and instead of seeing what
your house currently looks like,see what you would love to have
it look like with the renovations complete and allow
yourself to feel like it is already done.
You're currently living, You're currently walking in to this
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completely renovated space. How good would you feel?
How grateful would you be for these Renaults?
Or maybe you are wanting a new vehicle.
And so the next time you're driving, can you envision your
new car? Can you see in your mind's eye
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the maybe the emblem of the makeof the vehicle on the steering
wheel? Maybe you could see the
dashboard. You can even see the hood of the
vehicle. This is all the new one that you
desire. Can you see it now?
Can you feel what it would feel like to be driving in this new
beautiful, luxurious vehicle? How good would you feel?
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How grateful would you be to have that new vehicle?
You can embody that feeling right now.
No matter What Car you're driving right now, you can see
it on your mind's eye. You can create that reality for
yourself. A last example, maybe you're
launching a new program for yourbusiness and you're hosting your
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first launch and you would love to see 100 people in your Zoom
room show up to your launch. Well, no matter the amount of
attendees that actually show up,can you still envision seeing
100 screens on that Zoom screen we're seeing, you know, the the
100 whatever number sign on the amount of participants And can
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you feel as you would presentingin front of 100 people?
Doesn't matter how many people are actually physically present,
but feel as though you are presenting in front of 100
people. How amazing would that feel?
How grateful would you be for each new participant?
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And so you can create whatever you want on the screen of your
mind as you are living through your current reality.
And you can feel those feelings of gratitude.
You can express gratitude for the future state.
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The very idea that we can only be grateful for things that we
already have in our physical world is a lie that will keep us
in the same place. We want to feel as though our
current reality is already here.This is the basic, you know,
principle of manifestation. And gratitude amplifies that
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because gratitude assumes that you already have that thing.
Your brain will assume that if you are feeling grateful for
this, it is because you already have it.
Now this idea of using your mind's eye to envision your
future desires and kind of overlapping it on top of what
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you can see on your physical reality.
This often presents a question or even a hesitation that if I'm
always envisioning a future state, does that mean I'm being
ungrateful for what I currently have?
And I really want to address this because this thought often
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ends up leaving us feeling guilty.
And when I hear of people experiencing this or having
these thoughts, and I've had this before on multiple
occasions, but my mind immediately goes to something
that Bob Proctor said. He said that you are God's
highest form of creation. God's gift to us is more talent
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and ability than we could ever use in this lifetime.
And our gift to God is to develop that talent and ability
as much as we can in this lifetime.
I now believe that we came here to expand and experience all
that we can be. Wanting more, desiring more,
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continuously reaching for more is part of our very nature.
And look at nature. Look at a vine plant, for
example. Plant a vine in your garden and
it will spread. It will soon spread until it's
taking up your entire garden. It just grows and grows and
grows, and the vine has no guiltor shame for wanting to take up
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more and more space. Nothing in nature prevents
itself from growing except for us, except for humans.
More is what we came here for. We have been gifted this
incredible life to explore and religion and become increasingly
more of ourselves, bigger and better and grander versions of
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ourself. Let's use it.
This is why we decided to come and our brain doesn't know the
difference between what is currently happening in our
physical world and what is happening in our imagination.
It's all happening right now to our brain.
And so when we're expressing gratitude for future state,
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we're expressing that in this moment, our brain thinks that
it's in this present moment. And so we're feeling good.
And it's not the whole point of life.
And feeling good is the key to manifestation, feeling our
desires fulfilled in the presentmoment, not in the future state,
so that we attract right now. When we feel good, that is how
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we become magnet for the external things that represent
that similar vibration. And we are going to feel moved
into taking action and doing things in a certain way that
will attract, that will bring our desires towards us that much
faster. When we come from that good
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feeling state and when we make gratitude a priority in our
life, everything just gets better and better and better.
And so to wrap up, gratitude creates a powerful vibration
that magnetizes our desires towards us and it's just overall
goodness in our life. So pay attention to how you feel
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within your body when you're expressing gratitude.
If you are feeling anything lessthan if you're feeling anger,
resentment, anything, then forget the gratitude for a
moment. Just forget about it and focus
on returning back to the presentmoment and allow yourself to
cultivate the gratitude at your own pace.
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This is your beautiful God gifted journey, just yours.
There is no rush. You are right where you need to
be. So accept what it is that you're
feeling except this phase of your journey that you are in.
And if you are ready to magnetize your current results,
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then reaching for gratitude is one of the best ways that we can
do this. Thanks so much for being here
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