November 26, 2025 • 24 mins
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “not enough,” doubted your skills, or worried that you aren’t qualified to show up as a leader in your online business, this episode will feel like a deep breath.
In today’s conversation, Jess breaks down imposter syndrome from two powerful angles:
(1) Externally: when it’s triggered by exaggerating your experience or comparing yourself to others online, and
(2) Internally: when it stems from subconscious beliefs and old childhood programming.
She also explores a rising root cause many entrepreneurs aren’t talking about yet: the link between AI and imposter syndrome—and how relying too heavily on artificial intelligence can disconnect you from your own voice, intuition, and self-trust.
Inside this episode, Jess shares:
- why you might feel like a “fraud” when success finally shows up
- a simple subconscious process to heal inner wounds that trigger imposter feelings
- how AI can amplify doubt and how to use it without losing yourself
- why your lived experience is more than enough!
- how to stay aligned with your true gifts and attract clients who value the real you
This is a grounded, empowering reminder to trust yourself.
EPISODE TIMELINE:
00:00 Welcome to Feminine Initiate Podcast
01:26 Understanding Imposter Syndrome
02:19 Overcoming Exaggeration in Self-Promotion
04:16 Personal Journey with Imposter Syndrome
10:06 The Role of AI in Imposter Syndrome
17:02 Healing Inner Wounds and Limiting Beliefs
21:57 Practical Tools to Combat Imposter Syndrome
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(00:09):
Hello and welcome to Feminine Initiate podcast.
I'm your host, Jess WI. Hope you're having an incredible
day so far. Earlier this week, I was
listening to a podcast episode on Wealthy with Christina
Gilberto. And it was one of her earlier
episodes, I believe in 2020 or 2021 when she was interviewing
Reese Evans, founder of Yes Supply, which is the
(00:29):
certification program that I took to deepen my understanding
in the subconscious mind and equip me with all of the
incredible transformational subconscious tools that I have
that I use daily on myself and guide my clients through.
And in this episode, they were briefly talking about imposter
syndrome and how to overcome it.And the angle in which they
shared impostor syndrome is an angle that I had never
(00:52):
considered before, and I wanted to share it with you on this
episode. So this episode is for you.
If you are experiencing impostersyndrome in your online
business, I want to give you practical ways that you can
release it and overcome it, no matter which way you're looking
at imposter syndrome or which way you're approaching it or
experiencing it. And I also want to share how I
(01:14):
believe that there is a rise in imposter syndrome due to AI,
artificial intelligence, and if you're experiencing it, how you
can shift your relationship withAI.
Alright, let's hop in. So first, I want to share the
dictionary definition of imposter syndrome.
The dictionary defines it as thepersistent inability to believe
(01:36):
that one success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved
as a result of 1's own efforts or skills.
It's when you doubt your own skills and successes and when
you feel that you're not as talented or as worthy as others
believe. And my understanding and
experience with impostor syndrome has been due to inner
(02:00):
wounds and limiting beliefs, really not feeling enough within
myself. And if this is your experience
with imposter syndrome too, I'm going to be sharing how you can
release it. But first, let's look at the
other way that we can look at imposter syndrome that was
shared on the podcast episode that I listened to.
The other way is we can feel imposter syndrome if we are
(02:25):
legitimately exaggerating our skills or legitimately
exaggerating our accomplishments, making them
seem bigger than they actually were or were exaggerating our
promises. In this case, when we are
exaggerating in our promotional material, let's say the solution
is very simple. Just stop.
(02:48):
Stop exaggerating and start recognizing your own value.
Know that you don't have to be the absolute expert in your
field in order to offer real value to your clients.
Know that what you've lived and what you've experienced and what
you know is so valuable, just asit is.
(03:10):
You don't need to add anything more.
You are enough, and there are somany others who can benefit from
what you have to offer. And those people are waiting for
exactly what it is that you haveto offer, exactly what it is
that you experience, and exactlyhow you are going to be able to
offer that transformation to them.
(03:32):
It's so easy to compare ourselves with others and start
marketing ourselves and our services in ways that kind of
stretch the truth of what we've actually complied or what we
actually feel confident, capableand competent of helping our
clients with. Because it's what we think that
the market wants or we think it's what we need to do in order
(03:54):
to be successful. But what you have is enough,
more than enough even. Plus there's a market for
virtually anything. And so we don't have to
compromise ourself to fit in a market.
And if you feel that you do, then it's quite possible that
you're just in the wrong market or you're in the wrong niche
(04:15):
altogether. Let me give you a personal
example and a recent example of how I navigated imposture
syndrome shortly after I launched my podcast in January
2023. Originally, it was under the
name Empower from within. It quickly gained traction and
it was streamed in over 40 countries in its first year.
And I got to top 10% globally. And then I started to get people
(04:39):
ask me how I started my podcast and how I was able to grow it so
quickly. I also had a coach tell me that
I should just create a podcasting course and say I
already had people asking me forit.
Mindset and manifestation had always been where my heart is,
but I felt that maybe podcastingwas a better route for me since
I already had people interested.So I created an incredible
(05:00):
program called Just Launch and Iincorporated mindset and
podcasting into one powerful container.
But as I got started with it andstarted to enroll clients, I
quickly felt like I needed to know more.
I needed to know more about the podcast tech, the editing
softwares, the podcast industry as a whole.
(05:22):
I needed to know it all to best guide my clients and be able to
answer all of their questions. Really, these were all things
that I hadn't even considered when I started my podcast
because honestly, I just startedit because I enjoyed it so much.
I didn't start it for my business or anything like that.
I just, I loved it. And so during that whole first
(05:44):
year, I didn't really care to look at the downloads or the
subscribers. I honestly didn't even pay
attention to it. I didn't even recognize that I
was top 10% until I joined a podcasters group on Facebook and
I saw people starting to share some of their analytics.
And then I was like, oh, well, Iguess I'll take a look.
And Oh my gosh, here, here I am.But now that I was to share it
(06:08):
with my clients and share the how to steps with my clients, I
felt like I needed to be on top of all of the things podcast
related to give my clients real value.
I felt like a total impostor andlike what I had done wasn't
enough. I was also comparing myself with
(06:28):
other podcast coaches in the industry and feeling like I
really needed to know more. No matter how much I would learn
about the industry, no matter how much information I would
gather and put into my program, I kept adding, adding, adding
more value into it. Which is also an indicator that
you might be suffering from imposter syndrome.
By the way. If you feel like you
(06:50):
continuously need to add more value to your offers into your
program, just adding more and more and more when you really
don't. There is such thing as having
too much value and what you knowis already enough.
And so if you always feel like you need to add more and add
more, that could be a big indicator.
(07:10):
And know that you only have to be one or two steps ahead from
someone else to be able to help that person.
You don't need to be 10 or 20, whatever steps in front of them
to have value to share. So anyways, no matter what I
would do, I couldn't shake off the feeling of being an imposter
and positioning myself as this like podcast expert just fell
(07:34):
off. And so I stopped the program.
Even though just launches a complete program in packed with
value, it's no longer available.Maybe I'll release it sometime
in the future, or maybe I won't,but I'm putting my own alignment
before anything else because that's honestly all that
matters. But I'm so glad that I went
(07:54):
through that experience though, because it taught me so many
things. For one, your journey is
important and valuable enough. I cannot stress this enough.
You do not have to pretend to besomeone you're not.
Focus on building the belief in yourself and loving yourself
just as you are and being confident in sharing that.
(08:18):
Because when you are fully yourself and when you're totally
transparent, authentic and honest in your messaging, you
will attract the right clients who see you for who you are.
And honestly, those will be the clients that you will have the
best time serving. The second thing that I learned
is that you don't have to teach and monetize everything you're
(08:40):
good at. Allow yourself to simply enjoy
the things because you enjoy it.And the third thing I learned is
don't allow other people, even if they're your coach and even
if they're well meaning, don't allow other people to get into
your head and influence you intothings that feel misaligned.
When you tune into yourself, youwill be able to know the
(09:05):
difference between what's aligned and what's misaligned.
If you need to reason yourself into doing something or even
reason yourself out of doing something, in either case, if
it's not aligned with the truth of you, you'll have to convince
yourself one way or the other because your intuition doesn't
(09:25):
need convincing. Your intuition is just, it is
what it is. I want to do this.
I want to be moved into this direction.
Yes, yes, yes, this. And so pay attention to your
feeling. Cultivate that self love within
yourself, that love, that acceptance that yes, I am
following my truth. I am standing here.
I am being my authentic self. And that is going to help guide
(09:50):
you. But this Third Point here really
gets me into, so when we're talking about if we allow
outside sources, other people, and it can also be AI to
influence us into things that feel misaligned.
AI is linked to the rise in impostor syndrome.
(10:11):
I feel like I don't know many coaches today that don't use AI
platforms like Chachi, BT, or others to help them generate
content for their online business, marketing, promotion,
e-mail campaigns, all of the things.
I see it as we can use chat, chat, TBT or AI, whatever
platform you're using in three different ways.
(10:33):
We can use it as an ideal generator, generates ideas and
then you grab 1 and then go and write a post on your own based
on that idea. Or you write your own posts and
then you upload that into chat and it will, you know, correct
it for you and correct the grammar and all of that to be
able to publish it. It's nice and beautiful and
polished. Or you go into AI and you can
(10:56):
have it create your entire post from scratch.
No ideas. It generates all of it.
And unfortunately, I feel like many people do the latter.
They just use AI to create theirentire content.
They use it to create their social posts and outline their
videos and craft their emails and even create their entire
(11:18):
courses and programs. Don't get me wrong, AI is an
incredible tool in such a time saver, but I feel like the more
that we depend on AI to create our content, the less we're
going to trust ourselves. And the real challenge comes
when AI can structure sentences and convey ideas in such a way
(11:41):
that we wouldn't normally do. And so the content that AI
generates for us sounds so amazing, like it makes our offer
sounds so incredible, but isn't actually truly us.
Is it truly a true depiction of what it is that we're offering
doesn't come naturally to us? Are we going to be able to
(12:03):
convey our offers in the same way as chat is when we're
speaking to someone face to facein person or when we're
speaking, you know, over the phone or over a Zoom call?
Like, is this really how we're going to be able to share our
offers and resent it? Is there going to be a
discrepancy between how we are presenting our information in
(12:26):
like typed form and how we're actually speaking our
information? I mean, this is making me think
of the keyboard warriors. Like, are we going to end up
being that because we can't actually match exactly what chat
or other AI softwares are saying?
And is this just going to leave us feeling inadequate?
(12:47):
We may find ourselves getting caught up with the narratives
that AI is giving us, and beforewe know it, we feel like total
imposters in our own business. I have a story for this.
So when Deb and I were restructuring Kazal House, we
put all of our ideas into chat. JBT to start putting together a
(13:09):
business plan. And my idea for naming my
company It Has All House has always been because I wanted to
convey an idea that you are the treasure.
So Chazal is the French word fortreasure.
So we put all these ideas and I put this little slogan, you're
the treasure and all of that into chat.
And of course, it came out with a whole bunch of incredible
(13:32):
ideas, things that we would havenever thought of.
We created a slogan for us. It was called the Treasure House
is you, and we're just going to give you the keys.
It gave me the title to Energy Alchemist and it crafted our
entire branding strategy. It sounded amazing and it felt
(13:55):
honestly, it felt so good. And we were so excited in the
moment thinking about all the possibilities and like I felt so
ready to transform my business. But then we decided to sit on
it. And as I sat with it, I realized
that it wasn't me at all. Like I love the title energy
Alchemist. To me it gives me a feeling of
(14:17):
like esoteric mystery and magic.And part of me thought it would
be so cool to have a title like that like now.
But then another part of me knewthat I wouldn't be able to keep
up with it because the true me is more simplistic, the true me
values clarity and the true me has a hard time with ambiguity.
(14:40):
So maybe it'll be me one day forme one day, but definitely not
today. That's that's too much of A
stretch for me. And I know that if I would have
went for it, which I really did feel like doing at that moment,
like when we were so excited andchat just kept spitting out all
of these incredible ideas. I'm like, Oh my gosh, yes, I'm
going to go and change the bio on my social media platforms.
(15:03):
You know, we're gonna rebrand our website.
It's gonna be so great. But I know that sooner than
later, I would have ended up feeling like a stranger in my
own business if I would have just totally went for it and
totally went for this initial feeling of excitement and didn't
allow myself to really sit with it and contemplate and really
(15:23):
feel it within my body. And so when you're using AI,
make sure to use your discretionand always put yourself at the
centre. Check in with yourself 1st and
ask yourself with whatever is generating for you.
Is this a true representation ofme?
Does this feel natural to me? Does this feel in alignment with
(15:45):
me? Or am I trying to become the
version of myself that AI has created?
And the more that we can take a pause, make some space between
the answers that we receive and us and really TuneIn and feel,
then we can always remain in integrity with ourselves, in
alignment with ourselves. And we can help mitigate or
avoid any feelings of being an imposter because we're truly
(16:08):
building our business and our offerings true to us as opposed
to some outside source. AI does not know the exact steps
that it took you to get from point A to point B, which is
what you are going to be sharingwith your clients.
So you are the expert, you know best and don't give that power
(16:30):
away. Alright, let's switch the
perspective. What happens if we feel like an
imposter because we're attracting the clients that we
wanted, were attracting the recognition that we wanted, and
we're achieving the business success that we wanted, but we
don't feel like we deserve it. We don't feel like we're worthy
of it, or maybe we're hesitant to put our offers out there
(16:54):
altogether because we don't feellike we're good enough and we
doubt that anyone could ever benefit from what we have to
share. These kinds of feelings are
likely due to inner wounds and limiting beliefs.
We know that from the ages of zero to seven, our minds really
giant tape recorders recording everything that was being said
and that was happening around us.
(17:15):
We were absorbing everything we could in order to form our base
of reality. So we picked up things from our
family or caretakers, peers, neighbors, society as a whole,
from the TV, the news, movies, from the behaviors of people
that we saw in public. Like literally, we were picking
(17:37):
up everything that we could to give us a sense of what the
world is and how to operate in it.
And if as a child, you were toldto stop talking, you're not
smart enough, you're not important enough, nobody cares.
Or if you are made to feel that way, somehow this became your
(17:58):
belief system. This became your inner wound and
your false belief today. And these beliefs are held in
our subconscious mind and they can go unnoticed for so many
years because they're in the unconscious.
So they go unnoticed until something happens in our life to
trigger these feelings, like when we receive attention, like
(18:23):
when we receive recognition or money in our business, like
whatever it is that is contrary to what we believe to be true of
ourselves. If it's contrary, we will feel
like an imposter. We will ask ourselves like, who
am I to have this? I'm not smart, I'm not
important, nobody cares. How can I have this?
(18:44):
I feel like an imposter. Oftentimes, though, this
recognition is enough to help usrelease these feelings of being
an impostor. Like knowing that this is just a
limiting belief that was formed in childhood from, you know,
having picked up the thoughts, the the comments of those around
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us. That's just it.
It was stories of the past, but it holds no weight on who you
are today and where you're going.
Sometimes this realization is enough to just keep moving
forward anyway so that when these thoughts rise up, when
this feeling of imposture comes up, we can kind of just
acknowledge it and justice. Yep.
OK. I'm going to keep going though,
(19:29):
because I know better. But for persistent inner wounds
and for these limiting inner voices that we can't shake off
so easily, there is a technique that I'm going to share with you
that you can do. And that is reparenting your
inner child. Because now that you are the
(19:50):
older mature adults that you noware, you are better able to give
your younger self the care and the love that you would have
needed in that moment when you received that negative comment
or when you felt that negative way and there was no one there
to be able to give you that careand that love.
So when you feel imposter syndrome, come on, take a moment
(20:13):
to connect with your subconscious mind.
Take a pause, take a deep breath, ground yourself into
this present moment and ask yoursubconscious mind, why am I
feeling this way? And ask it to guide you to the
time when that belief was created.
The belief that. You know I'm not good enough or
I'm not worthy of this. You will recall a memory.
(20:37):
Your subconscious mind holds allof your memories, even the ones
that you weren't conscious of. And so you will be guided.
Once you really allow yourself to be in this moment, your
subconscious will show you the way.
And so you'll recall a memory. You'll see your younger self and
(20:57):
without getting caught in the emotion of your younger self,
see yourself now, your adult self.
Walk into that scene and give your younger self a hug in
anything else that your younger self would have needed in that
moment. Give your younger self
reassurance from the future. Tell her what you have amounted
(21:19):
together well, You have created together.
Tell her about the life that you're leading now.
Tell her that all is well. Tell her that whoever hurt her
didn't know any better and tell her whatever she needs to know
to be able to release the hurt and the limiting belief.
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And you're going to feel that release.
You're going to feel a shift. And you can repeat this process
whenever you feel like you're animpostor.
And when you get to that root cause, when you ask your
subconscious, why am I feeling this way?
And you will get the answer. And as a last point, I also want
to say that I've also experienced times in my life
(22:03):
where I got so caught up with life that I ended up forgetting
the things that I've accomplished or the things that
I've achieved. And I tend to downplay myself.
I don't know if you've done thistoo, but sometimes I get so
caught up or so just involved inthis problem that I'm having
that I tend to forget who I am, but I tend to forget all of the
(22:27):
things that I've already accomplished.
And like, of course, this is no different.
And so in order to help me prevent, you know, prevent
myself from getting there or getting to that point, I turned
to evidence journaling. And I know this is something
that I mentioned a lot on the podcast, and I just can't stop
saying it because it's honestly such a powerful tool.
(22:47):
And so I've used evidence journaling to help track my
successes and also to help strengthen myself image and
remember just how incredible I am.
So if you're guilty of that too,of just downplaying yourself,
then I honestly highly recommendevidence journaling such a
powerful tool. So these are the ways that I
(23:09):
know of to overcome imposter syndrome, whether you're looking
at it from that external perspective of looking outside
of yourself in comparison, or from the internal perspective
when you're looking more towardsyour inner wounds and limiting
beliefs. I hope this episode resonated
with you. And if it did, and you know of
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someone else who can benefit from it, then please share it
with them. I would also love to know your
biggest take away from today andif you resonated with one of
these perspectives more than theother.
So if you're listening to this on YouTube or Spotify, please
leave a comment to let me know all about it.
Thank you so much for being herewith me today.
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Hello and welcome to Feminine Initiate podcast.
I'm your host, Jess WI. Hope you're having an incredible
day so far. Earlier this week, I was
listening to a podcast episode on Wealthy with Christina
Gilberto. And it was one of her earlier
episodes, I believe in 2020 or 2021 when she was interviewing
Reese Evans, founder of Yes Supply, which is the
(00:29):
certification program that I took to deepen my understanding
in the subconscious mind and equip me with all of the
incredible transformational subconscious tools that I have
that I use daily on myself and guide my clients through.
And in this episode, they were briefly talking about imposter
syndrome and how to overcome it.And the angle in which they
shared impostor syndrome is an angle that I had never
(00:52):
considered before, and I wanted to share it with you on this
episode. So this episode is for you.
If you are experiencing impostersyndrome in your online
business, I want to give you practical ways that you can
release it and overcome it, no matter which way you're looking
at imposter syndrome or which way you're approaching it or
experiencing it. And I also want to share how I
(01:14):
believe that there is a rise in imposter syndrome due to AI,
artificial intelligence, and if you're experiencing it, how you
can shift your relationship withAI.
Alright, let's hop in. So first, I want to share the
dictionary definition of imposter syndrome.
The dictionary defines it as thepersistent inability to believe
(01:36):
that one success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved
as a result of 1's own efforts or skills.
It's when you doubt your own skills and successes and when
you feel that you're not as talented or as worthy as others
believe. And my understanding and
experience with impostor syndrome has been due to inner
(02:00):
wounds and limiting beliefs, really not feeling enough within
myself. And if this is your experience
with imposter syndrome too, I'm going to be sharing how you can
release it. But first, let's look at the
other way that we can look at imposter syndrome that was
shared on the podcast episode that I listened to.
The other way is we can feel imposter syndrome if we are
(02:25):
legitimately exaggerating our skills or legitimately
exaggerating our accomplishments, making them
seem bigger than they actually were or were exaggerating our
promises. In this case, when we are
exaggerating in our promotional material, let's say the solution
is very simple. Just stop.
(02:48):
Stop exaggerating and start recognizing your own value.
Know that you don't have to be the absolute expert in your
field in order to offer real value to your clients.
Know that what you've lived and what you've experienced and what
you know is so valuable, just asit is.
(03:10):
You don't need to add anything more.
You are enough, and there are somany others who can benefit from
what you have to offer. And those people are waiting for
exactly what it is that you haveto offer, exactly what it is
that you experience, and exactlyhow you are going to be able to
offer that transformation to them.
(03:32):
It's so easy to compare ourselves with others and start
marketing ourselves and our services in ways that kind of
stretch the truth of what we've actually complied or what we
actually feel confident, capableand competent of helping our
clients with. Because it's what we think that
the market wants or we think it's what we need to do in order
(03:54):
to be successful. But what you have is enough,
more than enough even. Plus there's a market for
virtually anything. And so we don't have to
compromise ourself to fit in a market.
And if you feel that you do, then it's quite possible that
you're just in the wrong market or you're in the wrong niche
(04:15):
altogether. Let me give you a personal
example and a recent example of how I navigated imposture
syndrome shortly after I launched my podcast in January
2023. Originally, it was under the
name Empower from within. It quickly gained traction and
it was streamed in over 40 countries in its first year.
And I got to top 10% globally. And then I started to get people
(04:39):
ask me how I started my podcast and how I was able to grow it so
quickly. I also had a coach tell me that
I should just create a podcasting course and say I
already had people asking me forit.
Mindset and manifestation had always been where my heart is,
but I felt that maybe podcastingwas a better route for me since
I already had people interested.So I created an incredible
(05:00):
program called Just Launch and Iincorporated mindset and
podcasting into one powerful container.
But as I got started with it andstarted to enroll clients, I
quickly felt like I needed to know more.
I needed to know more about the podcast tech, the editing
softwares, the podcast industry as a whole.
(05:22):
I needed to know it all to best guide my clients and be able to
answer all of their questions. Really, these were all things
that I hadn't even considered when I started my podcast
because honestly, I just startedit because I enjoyed it so much.
I didn't start it for my business or anything like that.
I just, I loved it. And so during that whole first
(05:44):
year, I didn't really care to look at the downloads or the
subscribers. I honestly didn't even pay
attention to it. I didn't even recognize that I
was top 10% until I joined a podcasters group on Facebook and
I saw people starting to share some of their analytics.
And then I was like, oh, well, Iguess I'll take a look.
And Oh my gosh, here, here I am.But now that I was to share it
(06:08):
with my clients and share the how to steps with my clients, I
felt like I needed to be on top of all of the things podcast
related to give my clients real value.
I felt like a total impostor andlike what I had done wasn't
enough. I was also comparing myself with
(06:28):
other podcast coaches in the industry and feeling like I
really needed to know more. No matter how much I would learn
about the industry, no matter how much information I would
gather and put into my program, I kept adding, adding, adding
more value into it. Which is also an indicator that
you might be suffering from imposter syndrome.
By the way. If you feel like you
(06:50):
continuously need to add more value to your offers into your
program, just adding more and more and more when you really
don't. There is such thing as having
too much value and what you knowis already enough.
And so if you always feel like you need to add more and add
more, that could be a big indicator.
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And know that you only have to be one or two steps ahead from
someone else to be able to help that person.
You don't need to be 10 or 20, whatever steps in front of them
to have value to share. So anyways, no matter what I
would do, I couldn't shake off the feeling of being an imposter
and positioning myself as this like podcast expert just fell
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off. And so I stopped the program.
Even though just launches a complete program in packed with
value, it's no longer available.Maybe I'll release it sometime
in the future, or maybe I won't,but I'm putting my own alignment
before anything else because that's honestly all that
matters. But I'm so glad that I went
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through that experience though, because it taught me so many
things. For one, your journey is
important and valuable enough. I cannot stress this enough.
You do not have to pretend to besomeone you're not.
Focus on building the belief in yourself and loving yourself
just as you are and being confident in sharing that.
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Because when you are fully yourself and when you're totally
transparent, authentic and honest in your messaging, you
will attract the right clients who see you for who you are.
And honestly, those will be the clients that you will have the
best time serving. The second thing that I learned
is that you don't have to teach and monetize everything you're
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good at. Allow yourself to simply enjoy
the things because you enjoy it.And the third thing I learned is
don't allow other people, even if they're your coach and even
if they're well meaning, don't allow other people to get into
your head and influence you intothings that feel misaligned.
When you tune into yourself, youwill be able to know the
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difference between what's aligned and what's misaligned.
If you need to reason yourself into doing something or even
reason yourself out of doing something, in either case, if
it's not aligned with the truth of you, you'll have to convince
yourself one way or the other because your intuition doesn't
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need convincing. Your intuition is just, it is
what it is. I want to do this.
I want to be moved into this direction.
Yes, yes, yes, this. And so pay attention to your
feeling. Cultivate that self love within
yourself, that love, that acceptance that yes, I am
following my truth. I am standing here.
I am being my authentic self. And that is going to help guide
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you. But this Third Point here really
gets me into, so when we're talking about if we allow
outside sources, other people, and it can also be AI to
influence us into things that feel misaligned.
AI is linked to the rise in impostor syndrome.
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I feel like I don't know many coaches today that don't use AI
platforms like Chachi, BT, or others to help them generate
content for their online business, marketing, promotion,
e-mail campaigns, all of the things.
I see it as we can use chat, chat, TBT or AI, whatever
platform you're using in three different ways.
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We can use it as an ideal generator, generates ideas and
then you grab 1 and then go and write a post on your own based
on that idea. Or you write your own posts and
then you upload that into chat and it will, you know, correct
it for you and correct the grammar and all of that to be
able to publish it. It's nice and beautiful and
polished. Or you go into AI and you can
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have it create your entire post from scratch.
No ideas. It generates all of it.
And unfortunately, I feel like many people do the latter.
They just use AI to create theirentire content.
They use it to create their social posts and outline their
videos and craft their emails and even create their entire
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courses and programs. Don't get me wrong, AI is an
incredible tool in such a time saver, but I feel like the more
that we depend on AI to create our content, the less we're
going to trust ourselves. And the real challenge comes
when AI can structure sentences and convey ideas in such a way
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that we wouldn't normally do. And so the content that AI
generates for us sounds so amazing, like it makes our offer
sounds so incredible, but isn't actually truly us.
Is it truly a true depiction of what it is that we're offering
doesn't come naturally to us? Are we going to be able to
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convey our offers in the same way as chat is when we're
speaking to someone face to facein person or when we're
speaking, you know, over the phone or over a Zoom call?
Like, is this really how we're going to be able to share our
offers and resent it? Is there going to be a
discrepancy between how we are presenting our information in
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like typed form and how we're actually speaking our
information? I mean, this is making me think
of the keyboard warriors. Like, are we going to end up
being that because we can't actually match exactly what chat
or other AI softwares are saying?
And is this just going to leave us feeling inadequate?
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We may find ourselves getting caught up with the narratives
that AI is giving us, and beforewe know it, we feel like total
imposters in our own business. I have a story for this.
So when Deb and I were restructuring Kazal House, we
put all of our ideas into chat. JBT to start putting together a
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business plan. And my idea for naming my
company It Has All House has always been because I wanted to
convey an idea that you are the treasure.
So Chazal is the French word fortreasure.
So we put all these ideas and I put this little slogan, you're
the treasure and all of that into chat.
And of course, it came out with a whole bunch of incredible
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ideas, things that we would havenever thought of.
We created a slogan for us. It was called the Treasure House
is you, and we're just going to give you the keys.
It gave me the title to Energy Alchemist and it crafted our
entire branding strategy. It sounded amazing and it felt
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honestly, it felt so good. And we were so excited in the
moment thinking about all the possibilities and like I felt so
ready to transform my business. But then we decided to sit on
it. And as I sat with it, I realized
that it wasn't me at all. Like I love the title energy
Alchemist. To me it gives me a feeling of
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like esoteric mystery and magic.And part of me thought it would
be so cool to have a title like that like now.
But then another part of me knewthat I wouldn't be able to keep
up with it because the true me is more simplistic, the true me
values clarity and the true me has a hard time with ambiguity.
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So maybe it'll be me one day forme one day, but definitely not
today. That's that's too much of A
stretch for me. And I know that if I would have
went for it, which I really did feel like doing at that moment,
like when we were so excited andchat just kept spitting out all
of these incredible ideas. I'm like, Oh my gosh, yes, I'm
going to go and change the bio on my social media platforms.
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You know, we're gonna rebrand our website.
It's gonna be so great. But I know that sooner than
later, I would have ended up feeling like a stranger in my
own business if I would have just totally went for it and
totally went for this initial feeling of excitement and didn't
allow myself to really sit with it and contemplate and really
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feel it within my body. And so when you're using AI,
make sure to use your discretionand always put yourself at the
centre. Check in with yourself 1st and
ask yourself with whatever is generating for you.
Is this a true representation ofme?
Does this feel natural to me? Does this feel in alignment with
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me? Or am I trying to become the
version of myself that AI has created?
And the more that we can take a pause, make some space between
the answers that we receive and us and really TuneIn and feel,
then we can always remain in integrity with ourselves, in
alignment with ourselves. And we can help mitigate or
avoid any feelings of being an imposter because we're truly
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building our business and our offerings true to us as opposed
to some outside source. AI does not know the exact steps
that it took you to get from point A to point B, which is
what you are going to be sharingwith your clients.
So you are the expert, you know best and don't give that power
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away. Alright, let's switch the
perspective. What happens if we feel like an
imposter because we're attracting the clients that we
wanted, were attracting the recognition that we wanted, and
we're achieving the business success that we wanted, but we
don't feel like we deserve it. We don't feel like we're worthy
of it, or maybe we're hesitant to put our offers out there
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altogether because we don't feellike we're good enough and we
doubt that anyone could ever benefit from what we have to
share. These kinds of feelings are
likely due to inner wounds and limiting beliefs.
We know that from the ages of zero to seven, our minds really
giant tape recorders recording everything that was being said
and that was happening around us.
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We were absorbing everything we could in order to form our base
of reality. So we picked up things from our
family or caretakers, peers, neighbors, society as a whole,
from the TV, the news, movies, from the behaviors of people
that we saw in public. Like literally, we were picking
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up everything that we could to give us a sense of what the
world is and how to operate in it.
And if as a child, you were toldto stop talking, you're not
smart enough, you're not important enough, nobody cares.
Or if you are made to feel that way, somehow this became your
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belief system. This became your inner wound and
your false belief today. And these beliefs are held in
our subconscious mind and they can go unnoticed for so many
years because they're in the unconscious.
So they go unnoticed until something happens in our life to
trigger these feelings, like when we receive attention, like
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when we receive recognition or money in our business, like
whatever it is that is contrary to what we believe to be true of
ourselves. If it's contrary, we will feel
like an imposter. We will ask ourselves like, who
am I to have this? I'm not smart, I'm not
important, nobody cares. How can I have this?
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I feel like an imposter. Oftentimes, though, this
recognition is enough to help usrelease these feelings of being
an impostor. Like knowing that this is just a
limiting belief that was formed in childhood from, you know,
having picked up the thoughts, the the comments of those around
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us. That's just it.
It was stories of the past, but it holds no weight on who you
are today and where you're going.
Sometimes this realization is enough to just keep moving
forward anyway so that when these thoughts rise up, when
this feeling of imposture comes up, we can kind of just
acknowledge it and justice. Yep.
OK. I'm going to keep going though,
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because I know better. But for persistent inner wounds
and for these limiting inner voices that we can't shake off
so easily, there is a technique that I'm going to share with you
that you can do. And that is reparenting your
inner child. Because now that you are the
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older mature adults that you noware, you are better able to give
your younger self the care and the love that you would have
needed in that moment when you received that negative comment
or when you felt that negative way and there was no one there
to be able to give you that careand that love.
So when you feel imposter syndrome, come on, take a moment
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to connect with your subconscious mind.
Take a pause, take a deep breath, ground yourself into
this present moment and ask yoursubconscious mind, why am I
feeling this way? And ask it to guide you to the
time when that belief was created.
The belief that. You know I'm not good enough or
I'm not worthy of this. You will recall a memory.
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Your subconscious mind holds allof your memories, even the ones
that you weren't conscious of. And so you will be guided.
Once you really allow yourself to be in this moment, your
subconscious will show you the way.
And so you'll recall a memory. You'll see your younger self and
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without getting caught in the emotion of your younger self,
see yourself now, your adult self.
Walk into that scene and give your younger self a hug in
anything else that your younger self would have needed in that
moment. Give your younger self
reassurance from the future. Tell her what you have amounted
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together well, You have created together.
Tell her about the life that you're leading now.
Tell her that all is well. Tell her that whoever hurt her
didn't know any better and tell her whatever she needs to know
to be able to release the hurt and the limiting belief.
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And you're going to feel that release.
You're going to feel a shift. And you can repeat this process
whenever you feel like you're animpostor.
And when you get to that root cause, when you ask your
subconscious, why am I feeling this way?
And you will get the answer. And as a last point, I also want
to say that I've also experienced times in my life
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where I got so caught up with life that I ended up forgetting
the things that I've accomplished or the things that
I've achieved. And I tend to downplay myself.
I don't know if you've done thistoo, but sometimes I get so
caught up or so just involved inthis problem that I'm having
that I tend to forget who I am, but I tend to forget all of the
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things that I've already accomplished.
And like, of course, this is no different.
And so in order to help me prevent, you know, prevent
myself from getting there or getting to that point, I turned
to evidence journaling. And I know this is something
that I mentioned a lot on the podcast, and I just can't stop
saying it because it's honestly such a powerful tool.
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And so I've used evidence journaling to help track my
successes and also to help strengthen myself image and
remember just how incredible I am.
So if you're guilty of that too,of just downplaying yourself,
then I honestly highly recommendevidence journaling such a
powerful tool. So these are the ways that I
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know of to overcome imposter syndrome, whether you're looking
at it from that external perspective of looking outside
of yourself in comparison, or from the internal perspective
when you're looking more towardsyour inner wounds and limiting
beliefs. I hope this episode resonated
with you. And if it did, and you know of
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someone else who can benefit from it, then please share it
with them. I would also love to know your
biggest take away from today andif you resonated with one of
these perspectives more than theother.
So if you're listening to this on YouTube or Spotify, please
leave a comment to let me know all about it.
Thank you so much for being herewith me today.
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And until next time, be empowered.
Thanks for joining me. If you enjoyed this
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