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September 10, 2025 21 mins

Do you ever feel torn between two choices—like part of you knows what you want, but another part keeps holding you back? Or maybe you’ve caught yourself self-sabotaging, repeating patterns even though you know better?

In this episode, Jess introduces one of her favourite NLP techniques: Parts Integration. Rooted in psychology and subconscious reprogramming, this powerful process helps you resolve inner conflict, release self-sabotage, and come back into alignment with your true self.

Jess shares what parts integration is, why these “inner parts” exist, and how unresolved childhood programming can create conflict in our adult lives. 

Plus, she’s joined by her life and business partner, Devyn Harakh, who opens up about his own real-life experience with parts integration while navigating a major business and life decision.

🌿 Inside this episode you’ll learn:

  • What parts conflict is and why it keeps us stuck in patterns of self-sabotage
  • How every “part” of you is trying to protect you—even when it doesn’t feel like it
  • The step-by-step process of a parts integration session
  • Devyn’s personal story of finding clarity, alignment, and new opportunities through this practice


If you’ve been feeling blocked, torn, or stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break, this episode will give you both clarity and practical tools to move forward.


>>Book your 1:1 Parts Integration / Subconscious Session with Jess: https://www.tresorhouse.ca/justelevatesession


EPISODE TIMELINE:

00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome

00:48 Understanding Parts Conflict

01:06 What is Parts Integration?

06:43 Devon's Experience with Parts Integration

13:30 How to Perform Parts Integration Yourself

18:13 Conclusion and Session Offer


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(00:09):
Welcome to the Feminine Initiatepodcast.
I'm your host, Jess W Can you recall a time when you had to
make a decision, but you felt completely torn?
Part of you wanted to answer oneway or go one way, and part of
you wanted to do the opposite. Or maybe have you experienced a
time when you knew you wanted todo something, but you kept self

(00:33):
sabotaging yourself? You were caught in this loop of
self sabotage. It's like you knew exactly what
you needed to do, but you couldn't seem to get yourself to
do it. This might be a past experience
or it might even be something that you're experiencing right
now. In either case, this episode is
for you because these are indicators that you might have a

(00:55):
parts conflict. And I'm going to share one of my
absolute favorite NLP techniquesknown as parts integration.
I'm going to share what it is, how to do it, and I have Dev
here on the podcast today to share his experience with parts
integration when he was facing abig life and career decision
earlier this year. But before I get into his story

(01:20):
and allow him to introduce himself, I just want to cover
the basics of what is parts integration.
So first, let's talk about what is a part.
This is based on internal familysystems and psychology, which
states that we all have these different parts within us that
are almost like their own separate personalities.

(01:42):
They have their own intentions, even their own names, and these
were formed in our early childhood from the ages of zero
to seven. We were basically like giant
tape recorders and everything was seeping into our
subconscious mind and forming our basis of reality.
And oftentimes what happens withparts conflict is if a negative

(02:05):
situation happened in our early childhood that triggered a
nervous system response, a stress response, or caused us to
want to build up a wall of protection.
For example, let's say that you had put complete faith and trust
in maybe a family member or a good friend, and that trust was

(02:27):
broken as a child. Part of you could have ended up
creating a wall and told yourself that you can't trust
anybody. And then we go on and we grow up
and later in adulthood when we have an intimate relationship
and a partner that we really want to build a strong
relationship with and have that trust, we can find ourselves

(02:49):
being blocked. We really want to be able to
have this beautiful relationshipwith them, but part of us just
cannot seem to trust them. This is when that conflicting
part in childhood that was created to protect you could end
up really becoming a disservice to you later in life.

(03:10):
And so we have many of these hearts that could end up being
conflicting whenever we want to reach new heights in our
adulthood. So what do we do in a parts
integration session? We bring both parts of ourselves
to the table, so to speak. So if I'm going to continue this

(03:32):
example of having built up a wall where you can't trust
anybody. So if you are in a relationship
where you really want to trust someone, you really want to
build that loving relationship, then it can look like bringing
both of those parts to the table.
The part of you that really wants this relationship and the
part of you that just cannot seem to trust anybody.

(03:55):
In a parts integration session, we are creating a space where we
can actually communicate with both of those parts.
We give them the the space and almost, I'm going to say the
respect to really hear what theyhave to say and give them the
understanding that they have been longing for.

(04:16):
Ultimately, every part of us andeverything in our body because
we are a living being and everything that is living has
really one goal and that is survival.
And so every single thing withinus, every single part is rooting
for our survival, really just wants to protect us.

(04:38):
And that is the same thing for every single part.
Even though we feel like it is not serving us, when we can
really communicate with that part and get to understand its
highest intention for us, it is most often or always rooted in
love, rooted in our greatest benefit.

(04:59):
And we can come from that state of understanding.
Have both of these parts really understand one another, we can
integrate them, come back to a place of wholeness, feel so
aligned and be better able to move forward.
And so that is essentially the end result of a parts
integration is to really take these two conflicting parts that

(05:23):
we have within us, reintegrate them, recognize that they're
both rooting for you, for your ultimate happiness.
And once we have resolved that internal conflict and feel
realigned, then we can make so much better decisions moving
forward. Lastly, let me tell you how we

(05:45):
do it. Specifically when I do sessions
for parts integration, and this is how I learned how to do it
through the Yes Apply method. We use both of our hands to be
able to elicit these parts within us.
One of them will come on the right hand, the other part will
come on the left hand, and then we will name them.

(06:08):
Asking each hand. We're going to take our turns
with communicating with them, asking them what their name is
and what their highest intent is.
And we're going to open up this beautiful dialogue between these
two parts of ourselves or even more if there's potentially more
parts involved. And through this dialogue, we
create understanding. And as we go through the

(06:29):
session, as, as you continue to converse between these two
parts, you will start to notice that there are a lot of
commonalities. And I know this is exactly what
Devin has experienced. So now that I kind of gave a
general overview of what part integration is, I'd love Dev for

(06:50):
you to be able to share your experience with us.
And so maybe can you share what it was that you were
experiencing, what the conflict was that you were experiencing
prior to doing the parts integration and then what your
experience was like afterwards? Yeah, absolutely.
And of course, thank you for having me on to share the
experience. I just want to share some

(07:12):
context. So I'll take you back to 2022.
This is when I started my first online business and this was an
online coaching business where Ihelped coaches start in the
online space and I Co founded that business with a good friend
of mine. We had known each other for a
very long time from my previous career.

(07:33):
And so it was incredibly being able to work with him at this
capacity and doing this. You know, I spent from 2022 to
the end of last year doing this and it was incredible.
We generated multiple 6 figures.We had a ton of fantastic client
results. And on top of that, I mean, I

(07:53):
grew personally. I learned so much about the
online space. I mean, I learned so much about
business and it was just such anincredible experience.
And I feel like near the end of it, I started to get that
feeling of I meant for war. And there was this part of me

(08:16):
that felt like I wasn't using myfullest potential.
You know, I kind of just got putinto this opportunity.
I learned as much as I could, but I wasn't really able to take
it forward the way that I knew Icould or the way that I wanted
to. And so it just started causing a
little bit of friction within me.

(08:36):
And so when I was sharing that with you, you would suggest
that, hey, why don't we try thispractice called parts
integration where we can talk to, you know, the two parts of
you because that's really what was happening.
There was a division, it felt like within me where one side of
me was like, well, I just spent the last few years building this
with my friend. But then there's this other part

(08:58):
of me that feels like I'm ready to move forward and, and start
something of my own. And, you know, we kind of got
into it. You had asked me, you, you told
me that you were speaking to my subconscious mind.
And so we had named the two parts, the part of me that
wanted to stay and then the partof me that was ready to move
forward. And we just called for the part

(09:19):
that wanted to stay, of course, just the business name.
And then the other part, the part of me that wanted to leave
you would ask my subconscious mind to pick a name.
And the name that was chosen by my subconscious was the bear.
And this was such a, a powerful name to me.
And I'm not sure why, but there was so much emotion that came

(09:40):
from, you know that. And after doing the practice, I
mean, it went on for, you know, sometime you would ask some
questions. And by the end of it, I realized
that both of these parts were trying to do the same thing,
which was to help me with my growth and my evolution.

(10:02):
And I just couldn't see it at the time, but everything was
kind of being laid out for me. And once we were done this
session, it made me feel like I had a better understanding as to
why there was a part of me that wanted to stay and why there was
a part of me that wanted to leave.

(10:23):
And I came to the conclusion that both of the things led to
my continued evolution. And so once I knew that once I
felt like both could work and both were for my highest good,

(10:43):
allowed the situation to develop.
And I think it was about 90 daysafter we had actually had the
session where everything just kind of came to me, you know?
Yeah, I love that you're hittingon this because that's the thing
when there is no more conflict, when we bring these two parts,

(11:07):
when we integrate them, recognizing that they're both
almost wanting the same thing. So what is there when there's no
more conflict, There's alignment, there's peace.
And then from that state, then you can make the next best
decision for you. At that point, it's really just
what do you want? What do you want?
Like that is the question. It's no longer I want this, but

(11:30):
I can't, it's no longer having that conflict.
It's really like I am free to beable to go in that the direction
that I want. Now having said this, it
obviously wasn't, you know, we did the parts integration the
next day you left your business and started off on your own.
So can you share kind of what unfolded after that and then at

(11:51):
what point did you ultimately leave the business and then
start what you have, what we have going on today?
Yeah, that. That's exactly it.
I think, you know, when I had the internal freedom, it felt
like the external circumstances really shifted in my favor.
And so it would have been another 90 days after our

(12:11):
session where things just reallystumbled into my lap.
I was put in a position where I had to learn a new platform and
this platform ended up being thething that allowed us to create
what we now know as just automate.
So the software that we created so incredible.
So it was about 90 days after our session, things just

(12:33):
divinely fell the way that they were supposed to.
And I was able to, you know, leave that opportunity and good
graces find the thing that was going to allow me to create my
next opportunity. And now we have just automate
and it's incredible, you know, because I had the clarity, the
freedom, the alignment, and thenthings just really worked out.
I love this so much and I mean, I could be biased because

(12:55):
obviously it's part of our business together too, but it's
just so beautiful and it really demonstrates that when we are in
that state of alignment, there are opportunities all around us,
things that the, you know, the conflict that we have
internally, maybe actually preventing us from just being
able to see it. And when you do come from that

(13:16):
state of alignment, that different energy, we attract
more aligned opportunities to us.
And so it's such a beautiful depiction of that.
So thank you so much for sharingyour experience with all of us.
And now I want to care how you, the listener and do a parts
integration session on yourself.So if you are feeling like you

(13:41):
have a conflict within yourself,that part of you wants to go one
way, part of you wants to go another way, you have such a
hard time making this decision. Then you could take out a sheet
of paper and I want you to draw a line across the middle of the
page and then allow yourself to take a few deep breaths in and

(14:03):
really ground yourself into the moment.
This is a practice where you want to speak to your
subconscious mind, not just on the conscious level where it
feels like you're just doing stuff on the surface level.
You really want to feel the integration within your whole
body. And so allow yourself to ground
and really get heart centred andthen begin to elicit your parts.

(14:27):
And so if you have two parts, you know, This is why we're
dividing it in the middle. If you have three parts, then
you can divide the page in three.
And I want you to name each of your parts.
And so ask them one at a time tocome forth.
Ask them what their name is. Write their name at the top of
their section on the page. And once you have that, you're

(14:49):
going to speak to each of these parts at their own time.
And so ask the first part on theleft side of the page, what is
your highest intention for me? And if you're speaking to your
subconscious mind, this should just be really clear and direct,
maybe one or two words. It's not very lengthy
storytelling sentences. The subconscious mind is really

(15:11):
quick and to the point. It's not a conversational style,
really elaborate. And so look for those quick
answers, the first thing that comes to your mind and write
that down and then keep asking. So for example, I'm going to go
back to the example that I gave right at the beginning.
If you have a part that has a difficulty trusting others, it

(15:35):
would be something like what is your highest intention?
Maybe something like protection would come up and then you would
say protection for what? Highest purpose and maybe safety
would come up. OK, safety for what?
Higher purpose? And maybe it would be for
shelter, I don't know, I'm just making it up.

(15:58):
But you're going to keep going at that.
Whatever answer you get, continue going.
What you're going to find is maybe you're going to start to
come up with repetitive words. And that is totally OK.
This is why we're dealing with the subconscious mind.
We don't want your conscious mind to be like, no, this is
incorrect. And so once you start to see
that maybe after shelter, for what higher purpose, safety came

(16:20):
back up again. OK, I'm starting to see a lot of
repetitive words. Now you can switch to the next
part. And so you want to ask the other
part of you, in this case, it would be the part of you that
wants a loving, trusting, intimate relationship with your
partner. And so ask it what is your

(16:41):
highest intention? And you continue to go that way.
What you'll end up finding is that they will have a lot of
commonalities together. Once you have enough of those
commonalities, then you can start chunking them together.
For example, if you're seeing safety many times.
So you can ask the one part, OK,safety for what higher purpose

(17:02):
and see what comes up. As you continue doing this,
you're going to start to feel that integration happening.
You're going to start to recognize that these two parts
are both for my ultimate safety,my ultimate protection, my
ultimate enjoyment of life, my ultimate love, whatever it is.
You're going to start to see similarities.

(17:23):
And when you do, then you can invite these two parts together
to integrate. And it really resolves that
conflict within yourself when you recognize that, wow, these
two conflicting parts actually want the same thing for me.
So if we can see eye to eye, if we can get into agreement, I can
get back into alignment. And then I get to do what it is

(17:46):
that I want and not feel that resistance.
And so decisions can come so much easier for me.
And again, you know, to go back to Devins fabulous example, when
you are in alignment, so much more opportunity opens up for
you. And so if you're hearing
yourself in what I'm saying and you feel like you could be

(18:08):
facing a parts conflict right now, then you can go ahead and
try that exercise. I will say, however, it is
always best to do it with someone else, someone who is
experienced in facilitating a parts integration such as
myself. The reason being is because
again, we are speaking to the unconscious mind and so we

(18:30):
really want to be able to connect with that unconscious.
And so if you would like someoneto really be able to guide you,
to be able to get into that state of mind, to really be able
to feel grounded and feel safe right now, then it could be best
to do it with someone who can help you through it and who can
help you eliminate the distraction.
Because when you're writing it down yourself and you're trying

(18:52):
to speak to your unconscious mind, but then consciously
you're trying to write it, it could make the technique a
little more difficult for you. Also, sometimes we could feel
like we have a parts conflict. Part of us wants to do this,
part of us wants to do this. But there could be something
else at play. And by sharing with someone
who's knowledgeable in the field, they may be able to help

(19:15):
you recognize that you actually have a limiting belief.
And there are different more suited techniques to really be
able to resolve that limiting belief or to be able to release
that fear that a parts conflict may not work, even if that's
what we think that it is right now.
And so being able to talk it outwith someone is really

(19:37):
beneficial. And lastly, the way that I
facilitate a parts integration, which was taught to me through
the Yes apply method is I will invite you to use your hands.
So instead of taking pen to paper, you can use your hands to
elicit both of your parts as I guide you through the process.
So you can actually be the full embodiment, really speaking to

(20:00):
your subconscious mind, no distractions, you can be fully
engaged into the practice. And as you use your hands, one
of my favorite parts and this might sound woo woo.
And don't worry, I thought it was woo woo before I actually
try to parse integration too. But when you use your hands, as
you continue this open dialogue with both parts, you'll actually

(20:23):
find that your hands naturally gravitate towards each other
until they touch and come when on top of the other.
And that's when you know that the integration has occurred and
it's truly a full body experience.
And so this is when you can really feel it within yourself,
feel that alignment as opposed to perhaps only being at a

(20:46):
conscious level, writing it downon a piece of paper.
And so you can choose to do it yourself, but if you want a full
embodied experience, then I have60 to 90 minute sessions
available to be able to do a parts integration with you and
also to be able to do any other subconscious practice or

(21:07):
technique that you may be needing right now.
If you're interested in a one-on-one session with me, I've
included the link in the show notes below so that you could go
and book a session. I hope this resonated with you
today and thank you so much again, Devin, for coming on and
sharing your experience with us.I hope you all have a fantastic

(21:30):
week and until next time, the Empowered Thanks for joining me.
If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to
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