Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

Welcome back to another enlightening episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul." I'm Lisa Shield, joined by my wonderful co-host, Benjamin Shield. Today, we tackle a critical issue that often plagues even the most successful and intelligent women: self-sabotage in relationships. We'll explore why smart women, despite being ready and eager to find their soulmates, often unintentionally put up walls and push away potential partne...

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul." Today, your hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shield dive into the topic of what a quality man looks for in a life partner. In this episode, we explore the essential ingredients of a relationship from the male perspective. Benjamin shares insightful details about the desires for kindness, playfulness, and a genuine connection. He stresses the importance of not ju...

In today's thought-provoking episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' we unravel the provocative wonders behind the age-old belief: Do men really crave the pursuit of love? Our host, Lisa Shield, embarks on a deeply introspective quest to dissect the "chase" and its place in modern romance. To spark this illuminating discussion, Lisa taps into her wisdom derived from guiding a mastermind group of 15 women steadfast in their ...

Lisa dives into the core principles of what makes a partner truly compatible, sharing her personal narrative of how aligning with someone who cherishes similar fundamental values can set the course for a profound and harmonious union. She intricately maps out the importance of respect, kindness, and commitment, inviting us to observe the subtle nuances of how a man treats those around him as a reflection of his character.

In a world...

Witness the poignant narrative of one couple navigating the delicate balance of support without words, where silent companionship speaks volumes. Learn about the weight of the phrase "we need to talk" and its wildly different receptions—where women see an opening for heartfelt dialogue, men may sense an impending storm.

We wrap our hands around the concept of 'taking it slow'—a term laden with disparate hopes and fears for men and w...

Lisa and Benjamin delve deep into the nuances of comedy in courtship, from the pitfalls of misused humor to the magnetic allure of kindness-infused jests. They share their own adventures, where chuckles have built bridges and forged lasting bonds – and even recount an enchanting vacation episode that touched the heart of a stranger amidst a personal storm.

In today's emotional dance, these love connoisseurs teach us how mirth and pl...

Key Takeaways:

1. Establishing Friendship and Building Trust: Benjamin and I prioritized getting to know each other before rushing into anything, taking the time to build trust and a sense of safety within the relationship.

2. Nurturing Dreams and Personal Freedom: Supporting each other's individual journeys has been foundational to our relationship. This includes providing space, respecting personal ambitions, and not living someone...

In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' host Lisa Shield delves into the important topic of breaking down emotional walls in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey and the transformative experience of opening up to her husband, Benjamin, and how this vulnerability brought healing and deep connection to their relationship. 

She highlights the importance of being authentic and emotionally naked in relationship...

In today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield explores the intricate balance between commitment and freedom that challenges many modern relationships. Decoding the behaviors of men who might seem to avoid commitment, Lisa clarifies that not all men who appear avoidant are averse to intimacy. With personal anecdotes and two decades of expertise, she delves into the diverse motivations that steer men away fro...

Lisa explains that both men and women find the dating process challenging and that men today may feel hesitant to approach women because of a fear of being rejected or because of the Me Too Movement. She offers a personal and detailed account of her experiences dealing with narcissistic individuals and provides professional insights drawing from her own struggles.

Lisa shares how a willingness to face the worst parts of herself led ...

This master class is a life-changing journey for anyone seeking to find true connection and emotional intimacy. Lisa unveils the art of constructing authentic, positive online dating profiles that stand out while stressing the value of steering clear of negativity. Her unique approach goes beyond surface-level tips; it's about transformative personal growth and the proactive pursuit of love.

Listeners will gain wisdom on breaking fr...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

- Challenges faced when dating as a widow

- Balancing the program's time commitment with personal life

- The value of investing in personal growth and dating success

- Feelings of loneliness and lack of control in the dating process

- Finding confidence and determination to pursue love again

- Learning from past relationships through the program

- Overcoming grief and reevaluating life priorities after lo...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

- The paradox of choice and fear of choosing the wrong partner

- Waiting for perfection

- Fear of losing freedom and concerns over reduced time for personal interests and social circles

- Anxiety about committing to one partner and losing the excitement of multiple intimacies

- The desire for mental and emotional space within a relationship

- The impact of childhood and parental relationship models

- How ...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Brief background on Elena being a past client and Heath's personal growth journey

- Heath's desire to positively impact someone's life

- The notion of their relationship being easy and fulfilling

- Mutual acknowledgment and appreciation of each other's effort

- The age factor and defying common perceptions

- Elena's perspective on how counseling helped her and their relationship

- Heath's insight on not...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- How control can affect a man’s sense of personal freedom and push him away

- The dynamic where women try to control the narrative

- The devastating effects of holding mistakes over a man

- Emphasizing the value of space and growth in partnerships

- Benjamin’s account of a past relationship and the importance of aligning on key life choices

- Lisa’s insights on honesty, awareness, and the toxicity of co...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Personal anecdotes to support holiday socializing as a means to find love

- Advantages of seeking love through dating platforms during the holidays

- Maintaining a positive self-talk and mindset while online dating

- The importance of taking initiative in dating

- The journey to self-appreciation and learning to value men

- Practice and the necessity of cultivating skills for emotional connection at so...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Impact of Lisa’s father's absence and behavior on personal relationships

- Her realization about the impact of blaming parents for relationship struggles

- Deciding to transform and not be defined by the past

- Transitioning from blaming to taking responsibility for one’s own happiness

- Lisa’s experience of rejection and fear originating from the father-daughter relationship

- Her decision to seek and...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Caroline's past concern for approval and fear of abandonment

- Her decision to take a dating course to improve her approach to relationships

- Matt’s frustration with the non-committal nature of dating apps

- Valuing communication and shared values in relationships

- The two meeting through Tinder and developing a strong connection

- Matt's appreciation for Caroline's directness and clarity

- Caroline a...

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women

- The connection between a woman's openness and bringing out the best in men

- The story of Lisa’s initial reservations about her now-husband

- The positive outcomes of being receptive to someone who didn't meet her list of standards

- How continuous busyness and lack of time affect women's ability to be open to men

- The ...