Men: You’re not broken—you’re mis‑aligned. Fix the belief, fix the behavior. In this episode, elite coach Gary Chupik gives you the equations and frameworks to lead at work and at home.
You’re elite at work—so why does home feel like a battlefield? In this episode, performance coach Gary Chupik (founder, Elite Mindset; coach to athletes across the NFL, NHL, MLB, Olympics) joins Steve to expose the lies that keep men stuck, and the frameworks that rebuild self‑belief and leadership where it matters most—marriage, fatherhood, and your calling.
What you’ll learn:
- The Mindset Equation: trace any behavior back to the belief that birthed it—and rewrite it fast.
- Why men “leak” at the level of self‑belief (and how to plug the leaks).
- SFO (Self‑For‑Others): the non-negotiable self‑leadership habit that makes you a better husband, father, and leader.
- The Leadership Pyramid: from self‑leadership → couple → group → department → organization.
- Faith as Foundation: why spiritual discipline clarifies decisions, kills deception, and fuels masculine leadership.
- Undrafted to Unstoppable: what the NHL draft stats teach about mindset vs. talent.
- Trade‑offs (Thomas Sowell): how to choose what you want most over what you want now.
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Timestamps / Chapters
00:00 Intro — why men feel stuck between work and home
01:55 The Forge: leadership under heat and pressure
02:30 What is mindset? Gary’s Mindset Equation (experience → thoughts/feelings → response → belief → mindset)
04:42 Rewriting beliefs: go back to the first experience
07:07 The classroom wound: how one teacher shaped a limiting belief
09:29 ICNU: “I See In You” and the power of calling out potential
11:53 Self‑belief leaks & the cup analogy
13:45 Fatherhood, “wired‑hot” kids, and speaking truth (not toxic positivity)
16:33 Faith disciplines: why 3:45 a.m. Scripture changes how you lead
18:52 Sense‑making, Jordan Peterson, and spiritual alignment
21:11 Stop reacting, start initiating (ditch the phone-first mornings)
23:37 Pro athlete mindset vs. talent (NHL undrafted lesson)
25:59 Illusion of choice: elite = fewer options (Kobe principle)
28:26 Don’t be elite at one thing and a dumpster fire everywhere else
30:49 The regular man’s trap: career success, family drift
33:14 Money vs. relationship: what kids really want from dad
35:35 Truth as North Star; hearing God’s voice
37:57 Tend your gardens: spiritual life first, then the rest
39:59 SFO (Self‑For‑Others): sleep, training, and loving your family well
40:18 The Leadership Pyramid: self → couple → group → department → org
42:42 The cost objection: what you want more
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