Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety. Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/

Episodes

June 20, 2025 42 mins
This episode tackles the question we hear most often from our new listeners: how do I support my anxious child? Lynn lays out the three keys for parents: information about how anxiety works, owning family patterns, and moving away from the belief that your child’s worries are unique and what must be addressed. There’s a lot parents can do to help; here’s a roadmap.  Referenced resources from today's episode: The Physical Symptoms...
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Being a new parent brings up every emotion…including anxiety. Does it show up differently in moms and dads? (Yes.) Are there ways to make it less powerful? (Yes.) Are all those parenting apps helping? (Lynn has thoughts.) Whether you’re a new parent or hoping to support those in your life, there’s information here for you. Here is the link to her September webinar that Lynn discusses in this episode: https://lynn-lyons-llc.ce-g...
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As we dive into summer, Lynn zips through three recent research findings that are great reminders about prevention, exercise, labels and warmth. (And not summer warmth. A different kind.) Here is the link to Michael Yapko's talk, How to Recover from Depression: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVgQ_tgWMyU WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those bran...
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We talk with the hosts of the This is So Awkward podacst about how communication shifts with kids as they become tweens and teens. We tackle all things pubescent with Vanessa Kroll Bennett and Dr. Cara Natterson. Puberty is starting earlier and our conversations about bodies and hormones and moods and relationships should, too. We have questions and these two smart women have answers! WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP...
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Lynn often says that the hardest people to work with in her practice are the ones that don’t own their own stuff. In this recast of a popular Season 6 episode, we talk about owning patterns in your marriage. Both Robin and Lynn work with their husbands and both are consistently working on owning and breaking patterns. Do you get defensive? Of course you do! We’ll get specific in this episode.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODE...
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Unfortunately, childhood anxiety often leads to depression. But not always! Certain patterns increase the likelihood and make the path smoother. Knowing these patterns and risk factors—and how to interrupt them—is how we best help our families. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featu...
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A listener has concerns about her daughter’s bedtime ritual. Once simply seen as cute, the words needing to be spoken in a certain way each evening are causing some concern. Is this a problem? Or a harmless, sweet routine? Also, Lynn also addresses a little known fact but common occurrence: anxious kids are very inaccurate reporters and their catastrophic language can get parents going. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HE...
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A little known fact about Lynn: she uses pediatric hypnosis and even wrote a clinical text on the subject. The term hypnosis carries a lot of baggage, so we’re going to set the record straight. Lynn talks about how she uses it, its validity in pediatric medical settings and the myths we need to bust. And here are the hypnosis organizations that Lynn references in this episode: nphti.org & asch.net. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR E...
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In this episode, a mother is struggling with her daughter’s demand for certainty. At 17, she’s convinced she has cancer, won’t attend therapy, and is holding the family hostage. What can a parent do when a teen is refusing help? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this...
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After decades of seeing families, Lynn quickly spots the obstacles that undermine or even derail therapy. From inconsistency to too many cooks in the therapy kitchen, Lynn runs through her list. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and...
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Of course we want to get rid of worry, our own and our kids’, but trying to eliminate the thoughts and feelings and sensations of anxiety is a trap. Nonetheless, the use of what Lynn calls “elimination strategies” continues. What does Lynn mean…and what do we do instead? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to...
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As we reflect on the fifth anniversary of COVID this month, Lynn and Ed discuss its impact on kids’ social interactions. Have adults stopped modeling and teaching social norms? Are we allowing our children to avoid social, in-person experiences and then calling it anxiety? Do we need to do better? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start ...
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Anxiety messes with sleep and lack of sleep messes with most everything. So, it's not surprising that it’s one of the most frequent and urgent problems parents want to address. In this episode, Lynn lays out the steps she teaches families to help them escape that bedtime hostage situation.  Here is the past episode that we reference in today's show: https://www.flusterclux.com/when-your-childs-bedtime-fears-are-frustrating-the-who...
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What happens when you try to get your family members or friends to join you in shifting away from anxious parenting patterns? One listener tried, and got the cold shoulder from other moms. In this episode, Ed, Lynn and Robin address how to expand your team to manage anxiety and deal with the defensiveness and pushback you might encounter. defensiveness and pushback you might encounter. Here's the link to Lynn's new parenting webin...
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In this In Session episode, Lynn talks to Kaitlin, mom to a 7 year old boy with social anxiety and selective mutism. While her son has made impressive gains over the last year, Kaitlin feels stuck when it comes to her son’s rigidity and his inability to join in with children on the playground. How does this family build upon a great foundation in dealing with anxiety and change it up in ways that keep the progress going?  Here's t...
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In this episode, Lynn & Ed are joined by Noah Cummings who was featured with Lynn in the documentary Anxious Nation. Noah and Lynn have known each other for (gulp!) 13 years. Noah is open and articulate about doing what works to manage his anxiety. He shares the experience of being an anxious little kid, how his parents tried to help—and what they learned in the process—and how his anxiety still has the ability to trick him. This i...
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Lynn was lucky to learn about the skill of differentiation from Michael Yapko (be sure to listen to our Season 6 conversation with Michael!) and in this episode she walks us through the use of HOW questions to help anxious families. How do I get my child to school? How do I know if I should push my child forward? And Lynn’s favorite: How did your anxiety promote this to an emergency?  Here's the link to Lynn's new parenting webina...
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Our words matter as they often convey to our children how to approach the setbacks and challenges of life. In this episode Lynn and Ed dive into three language patterns, one to minimize and two to enhance: permanence, positive expectancy and placebo. (Lynn Lyons likes alliteration.)  Here's the link to Lynn's new parenting webinar: A Two Part Webinar: The DO's and DON'Ts of Parenting Your Anxious Child WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR...
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Listeners have been asking for more discussion on the skills needed to help social anxiety, so we review this to start; then Lynn answers a listener question about a worrier, the bottomless well of questions, and how a school counselor might be unintentionally bolstering the quest for certainty.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start He...
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Getting an anxious child into school is sometimes an (exhausting) victory. But when they then want to be picked up, parents are often hit with doubt, guilt, and confusion about when and HOW to respond to pleas and demands. In this episode, tips for handling the dreaded “come get me!” text.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For...
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