Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety. Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/

Episodes

When Your Kids Feel Overwhelmed, How Hard Do You Push?

December 1, 2023 • 33 mins
Many parents struggle with the question of how to help a child who feels overwhelmed in an unfamiliar situation, by loud noises, or the start of a new activity. When do we gently push them forward, when do we let them avoid, and how do we handle our own worry so it doesn’t add to the problem?   CHECK OUT OUR PLAYLISTS ON SPECIFIC MENTAL HEALTH & PARENTING TOPICS Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those bra...
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Helping Your Kids With The Skill Of Winning And Losing

November 28, 2023 • 18 mins
Families will often avoid game night or other family competitions if a child has difficulty losing. Or they require the game to be “fixed” so the bad loser doesn’t lose. Games (and winning and losing) offer great opportunities to practice flexibility and emotional management, and in this mini-episode, we’ll tell you how. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: P...
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Best Of: What to Say To People Who Don't "Get" Anxiety

November 24, 2023 • 38 mins
In this recast of a popular episode from last year, we tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns. If you hear them or use them, listen up. We have responses ready to go. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with ...
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Preparing for Difficult Relatives: A Holiday Survival Plan

November 17, 2023 • 36 mins
Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about the most common and stressful holiday traps and how you and your family can disrupt them. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents ...
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Handling Difficult News Headlines With Your Kids

November 14, 2023 • 18 mins
 Anxiety is about “what if,” but with the reality of violence and war, we are now living with “what is.”  As parents, How do we process the ongoing news and graphic images of terror in our world? How do we help our children and where do we look for connection?  NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the...
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Keeping Your Cool During the College Application Process: A Talk With Jill Shulman

November 10, 2023 • 53 mins
Robin is up to her eyeballs in the college application process, so we pulled in two great people to help her and you: a school counselor on the front lines, and Jill Shulman, college admissions coach, author and sane person who founded the Chill Parents’ Revolution. There is so much wisdom here for parents!  NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anx...
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Will My Child Grow Out Of This? Selective Mutism And Other Anxiety Behaviors

November 3, 2023 • 36 mins
Knowing when you need professional help and when to let your child “grow out of it” is a tricky question…sometimes. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about when to allow some time and space (imaginary nephews) and when to take action (selective mutism.) NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podc...
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The 3 Patterns That Are Most Toxic In Adult Relationships

October 27, 2023 • 37 mins
Helping people recognize and shift their own patterns is a key component of Lynn’s approach to emotional management. But there are three patterns that can really add discord in our personal relationships. Do you resist the urge to blame? Can you own your stuff? Can you communicate your feelings well? In this episode, we unpack these patterns and offer some ideas to shift them. Edie Brickell! Here's the song Nothing that we spoke o...
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When Your Child’s Bedtime Fears Are Frustrating the Whole Family

October 20, 2023 • 58 mins
In this two-part In Session episode, Lynn talks to Marie, a mom from New Zealand whose very imaginative and worried daughter has dramatic fears which can be frustrating for the whole family. Marie has done a great job talking to her daughter about her nighttime fears, but she needs some additional guidance about how to retrain that brain with consistency, humor and a bit of silly bribery.  Lynn gives Marie a plan, sends her off for...
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Helping Your Kids Navigate Social Media's Traps - A Talk With Expert Devorah Heitner

October 13, 2023 • 39 mins
Smart phones are here to stay. And so are the questions we parents have about social media, screen time, group chats…it’s overwhelming. In this episode, we speak with social media expert Devorah Heitner, author of the new book Growing Up in Public, to help us sort through the noise and guide our decisions.  Here is article referenced in this episode: My Family Tested 20 Kid-Safe Phones & Devices — These Were The Best NEW! WE'RE MA...
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After You Get Your Anxious Kid to School, How Do You Keep Them There?

October 6, 2023 • 41 mins
Getting a worried child into school can be exhausting, but once there, we want them to stay! In this episode, we talk about keeping anxious kids in school, the need for a team approach that includes the school nurse, the danger of the “pick-up plan,” and how a consistent (and supportive) message lays the foundation for success. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our f...
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How to Manage BIG Feelings: A Lesson for Kids & Adults

September 29, 2023 • 38 mins
Teaching kids how to handle big emotions is an ongoing job for parents. But what happens when children become anxious about the possibility of feeling those emotions at all? Although it can be confusing for kids and parents, this pattern is not that unusual, and really no different from other fears that children develop. Prompted by a listener question, this episode addresses the fear of feeling feelings and why attempts to avoid, ...
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A Talk on OCD with "Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents" co-author Reid Wilson

September 22, 2023 • 45 mins
Our first-ever guest is Lynn’s pal and co-author Reid Wilson. Reid and Lynn met in 2007 and that meeting resulted in two books and a fast friendship. Join them as they talk anxiety, self-help, Reid’s brilliant OCD work and the tenth anniversary of their book, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents.  NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start ...
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What You Must Know About Kids And The New Data On Smart Phones

September 15, 2023 • 42 mins
When smartphones first came on the scene, schools had rather strict policies about their presence and use. Over time, even though schools kept policies in place, most schools stopped enforcing them. The tide might be shifting again. With more than a decade of research and experience to review, what do we know about learning, attention, and even addiction when it comes to our kids, smartphones, learning and our parenting?  NEW! WE'...
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The Good News About Middle School

September 8, 2023 • 39 mins
As kids enter Middle School, their brains, bodies and relationships go through big changes. Parents tend to brace themselves for the roller coasters of this stage, but it’s also full of energy and discovery and fun. How can we better appreciate the Middle School years? How do we best step in with open eyes and big hearts at this time when they need our connection and support?  NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YO...
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Every Mom Thinks She Has ADHD Now. Do you?

September 1, 2023 • 37 mins
It’s time for a brutally honest conversation about what moms are experiencing right now. Are we pathologizing the demands of our current parenting culture? If you are exhausted or disorganized or overwhelmed, is there something wrong with you? And what kind of help do you need?   NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For tho...
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Best of: Helping Your Kids With Self-Hatred and Self-Blame

August 25, 2023 • 44 mins
When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this recast of a popular Season 4 episode, Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold.  Referenced in this episode: Past Episode: Helping Kids With S...
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Best of: How to Have a Successful Meeting with Your Child’s School

August 18, 2023 • 46 mins
Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this re-cast of a previous episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such meetings) offers her key tips for how parents and schools can work together to support a child and teach the needed skills, minus the conflict and blaming. We also answer a question from a shy mom entering a new sch...
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Off to College: Let's Talk About Roommates

August 11, 2023 • 39 mins
Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the perks and the problems of roommates and what you can (and can’t) do to help.  NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand...
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Best of: How Talking Less Will Improve Your Parenting

August 4, 2023 • 41 mins
In this recast of a popular earlier episode, Lynn breaks down one of her favorite instructions to parents: talk 85% less. When parents are worried, they tend to talk a lot. When they want something done and their child isn't doing it, they talk even more. Learn how asking the right questions and staying quiet can be one of the most helpful thing you can do for an anxious child or teen. We also answer a listener question about the d...
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