February 10, 2025 • 26 mins
What does it really mean to bring something to the table in a relationship? We challenge the conventional 50-50 partnership by diving into how true partnerships are about sharing more than just financial responsibilities. Through thoughtful discussions, we redefine the roles within relationships, emphasizing the importance of alleviating stress and supporting each other's personal and professional ambitions. It's about understanding and managing expectations and recognizing that the essence of a supportive partner goes beyond monetary contributions. Let's explore how collaboration can help achieve dreams and maintain a balanced life, shedding light on the often unrealistic expectations that can cloud our understanding of what partnership truly means.
This episode also journeys into the diverse paths people walk, often driven by necessity rather than choice. We candidly talk about the societal judgments that overshadow the real reasons behind these decisions, advocating for empathy and understanding. In an era where social media often showcases only the highlights, we discuss the importance of acknowledging both successes and failures to get a true sense of support and resilience. Join us as we reflect on the complex nature of life's wins and losses and how they shape our journeys, urging a balanced perspective on what it means to succeed and the sacrifices that come with it.
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You got to be on the front line.
See, when I get you by myself,i'ma look into your soul and
I'ma see what it is that you is,i'ma see what you is, and once
I see what you is, i'ma turn youinto something you ain't never
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been before man, that's a realstepper only.
Shit.
There I tell you, hey, welcometo four steppers only.
Well, we gotta tell you.
So you make sure it sticks inyour head to sit down and watch
a stepper step.
That means sit back and watchreal men step or watch a real
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woman step, because once we putthis shit into your earlobe and
make it infectious, you willnever know what the hell hit you
.
But hey, I'm your host with themost, your hopeful host with
the gift, the cab, themotherfucker that talk shit,
whether it's in person or over atelephone, it don't matter.
But hey, I.
But hey, since it's real closeto Valentine's Day and I'm so
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sick and tired of youmotherfuckers saying this shit
like hey, man, what you bring tothe table, man, shit, I can't
fuck with no bitch to bring.
No, don't bring shit to thetable.
Or a female in sorts of sayinggirl, I need a man to do this,
this and this and this and this,and you don't do half the shit
that you want required out ofthis man.
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But you still, and y'all Y'allstill, pushing this guy, knowing
ideal, that everything Supposedto be 50-50.
I don't know where y'allignorance got the shit.
That shit supposed to be 50-50.
Someday that shit gonna be 720.
Sometimes they gonna shit Gonnabe 80-30.
Someday the shit gonna be 720.
Sometimes they they gonna shitgonna be 830.
Some say some days the shitmight be 2020.
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Both y'all goddamn lack theenergy to put in the shit period
.
So where the fuck did y'all get50?
50?
Because in my mind, in my idea,the way this shit supposed to
be painted out, the shit waythis shit supposed to be drawn,
is in a 50 50 situation.
Shit is, you're supposed totake 50 of my stress off of me
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to make me 50 of a better personfor for this situation ship, or
this relationship, or thismarriage or this engagement, but
that's what 50, 50 is supposedto mean.
So because y'all motherfuckerstalking about shit.
He gotta meet me halfway.
He gotta.
But halfway is never equivalentin any situation.
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Because if I meet you halfway,that means I'm only.
I'm only walking you halfway onthis journey and the rest of
the journey is yours.
Because if I, if I, only giveyou half of what's entitled me
or half of what you expect,you'll always be wanting more,
you'll always be desiring more,but you'll never understand the
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full length of the journey thatwe're supposed to be on.
But on, in retrospect, a lot ofy'all take, take that 50, 50
shit just a monetary value.
But y'all put, y'all puty'all's dreams and hopes and
shit out of reach and out ofpotential to where you can't
even fathom to reach the stars.
But you only land on the moonbefore you get to the stars With
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your 50% of energy, with your50% of wants and your 50% of
desires.
But honestly and truthfully,50% is supposed to make me
better.
50% like, let's break this shitdown.
Let's use me as an example.
If you take, like I got so muchshit going on.
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We playing chess over here,never checkers.
So if you take 50% of mysituation and make 50% of my
life easier, that makes me have50 more percent of energy.
If you take 50% of my situationand make 50% of my life easier,
that makes me have 50 morepercent of energy to do more
shit other than what I wasalready doing.
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Or 50% more of me to put into abusiness to where I don't have
to work a nine to five anymore.
Or I can chase my dreams andchase my ambitions to be a
better man for you and kids andour family.
But or shit, let's go ahead andget nasty with that shit, shit.
If I'm if I'm 50% less stressed,I have 50% more energy.
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That means I have 50% moreenergy to put in to slutting you
the fuck out, to fucking youany type of wage way possible.
So, because you got tounderstand, understand this
thing if I'm stressed, the fuckout, I'm not going to want to
have sex.
If I'm worried about bills andfinances, how I'm going to do
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this, do that, do this and the.
I'm not going to want to fuckBecause, honestly, to make sure
my lights stay on, my water stayon my car, notice paid, I can
get to work.
I'm not worrying about the A'sand B's and D's and C's.
That creates stress.
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Because let me tell yousomething no person in this life
is meant to do this shit bythemselves and, honestly, a lot
of times people get these, this,these things, looking for the
same, looking for the wrongpurpose and getting in these
relationships, situationshipsand this, that and the third,
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because once they start doingstuff, they, they, they start,
they start trying to figure outhow to do shit on their own and
they, they come, they become soset in their ways to where they
only result on what makes themcomfortable.
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They've been doing this shit bythemselves so easily and nobody
never wants to come and thenhelp.
I'm sorry, that's the wrongturn to use because I'm sorry to
be honest with you, a lot ofthese goofy motherfuckers out
here in this day and age areonly seeking for help, not
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happiness.
They only seeking for what cana person do for me?
Not because I'm sorry.
I operate on a two way streetand most people should
understand what a two way streetis, and most people should
understand what a two way streetis.
It's, it's called reciprocation, to reciprocate the actions
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that you give out, that you getin return.
Like I tell people in aheartbeat day, it's what you
expect.
I'm sorry, you can't expectcertain things out of people.
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You got to.
You got to show what you got,to let them show who they are to
you without the hand beingforced.
Because, to be honest, at acertain point in time, yeah, we
do fuck up, yeah, we, we do makemistakes.
But how do you bounce back fromthat mistake?
How do you bounce back fromthat little scuff in the road?
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Do you stand up or do you sitin the corner and cry about your
situation?
Do you do you?
Do you complain abouteverything?
You got going on to the pointwhere you got to complain, or
any situation that you placeyourself in versus.
Do you put yourself in awinning position or do you say,
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ok, I took that L, I took that L.
So now how do I stand up in theend of it to stand back on my
two feet to win it?
To stand back on my two feet towin, because, at the end of the
day, it's all about how you growas a human being, versus the
losses you take, because thelosses is what makes you,
because you can't sit back andtake losses after loss and think
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you ain't gonna learn fromthose losses or you're not gonna
wear the bait weight of thoselosses to make yourself as a, as
a human being, because a lot oftimes we, our losses, are what
makes us you don't learn from.
You don't learn from wins yeah,you might.
You might celebrate wins, butthe best losses in the world we
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call lessons, not losses,because you can.
You learn from your struggles.
Like who the fuck learned thatthe best part of the ox Was the
tail?
No, back in the day they usedto think that the ox tail Was
the shittiest part of the meat.
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Nowadays, them bitches costmore than a regular ox.
They the highest form, they themost sick piece of meat on the
meat, on the on the animal.
That's like, if you look atcertain situations, people like
you, you got to understand thisshit is give and take and a lot
of people don't understand thatbecause it a lot of times it's
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not what you want to do.
To survive as a human being iswhat you got to do is a human
being to survive.
And a lot of times people don'tcan't wrap their minds around
growth and expansion becausethere's they're so stuck in a
box, because, like when I sayyou get put in a box, you get
put in the dirt, but instead ofthem being open and welcoming
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the new ideas and growth.
What?
What do they?
What do they depict that growthfrom their losses, their, their
mistakes, their trials andtribulations.
Sometimes the those losses makethe best people ever,
eventually, because once theymake those losses and make those
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trials and tribulations, theymake shit easier for them
because they've learned fromtheir mistakes.
They've learned from theirmistakes that will make them
better, because once they startrealizing, hey, I did this
fucked up the last time, I didthis fucked up the last time.
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Did this fucked up the lasttime?
I did this fucked up the lasttime why?
Why can't I move this around?
Move this around and make shitbetter for me?
Well, this this person saidthis works for them, but it
don't work for me.
You right, you fucking idiot.
Because a lot of times thethings that people do in their
minds don't work for everybody.
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Every everybody's math, mathdon't math the right way for
everybody else.
Everybody's two plus two don'tequal four.
Maybe that motherfucker mightequal six.
Maybe that motherfucker mightequal eight, but it's what works
for them, is what works forthem.
It's not.
Everybody's journey ain't thesame.
Everybody's footprint ain't thesame.
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Everybody's got no words andexperiences ain't the same.
So only thing you got to do istake what somebody else's
formula they give to you is whatworks for them, but you got to
mold that bitch to work for youbecause a lot of times people
got down.
I think just because they docertain shit a certain way, it
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will work the same way for themthat it works for everybody else
.
So in this, with that beingsaid, don't think everybody's
journey is supposed to be thesame and everybody's layout is
supposed to be the same from thenext man's.
That's like when a person says,oh, I do this and I do that,
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and oh, I move this way and Imove that way and I'm making
these moves to do this and dothat.
Sometimes we make thosedecisions based off of more
belief instead of understanding.
Sometimes we don't have achoice in the matter because,
once our backs against the wall,sometimes we have to make those
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decisions to make risk in ourown lives to make things still
work.
I mean that's, if you look atit, that's the.
That's the same reason I ain'tgonna hold you.
Some people get out here, startselling drugs or start selling
pussy.
I mean shit.
To be honest, selling pussy isjust like selling dope.
It's.
It's on the same comparison, um, because I mean shit, let's be
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honest with you.
Shit.
It's easy to get out here andsell some ass.
Let's just go ahead and behonest with it.
Just like the same way it'seasy to sell some dope For a man
, it's easy to sell dope, butain't nobody Gonna be out here
really buying dick.
You get what I'm saying.
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If they buying dick, hey, yougot you.
Better, you better startscratching.
It's itchy and scratchy and youbetter start, goddumb,
scratching your head andwondering why they buying dick.
Because I mean sometimes shit,shit, don't shit, don't add up a
plus b don't equal c.
But that's my comparison on thematter, because some people do
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shit out of necessity.
I mean it might go a certainway.
Because I mean, to be honest,she might be fucking out here
for 120, 120 dollars just tokeep her lights bill paid, just
to keep, just to feed her fit,feed her kids, not out of this,
like she's doing that shit outof sure necessity, not because
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she, that's just a want.
And sometimes people gettrapped in that mold and get
trapped in their mindset andthat's what they have to base
their things off of.
But a lot of people fail torealize that's where things go
because we say we won't do onething, we say we won't do
another.
Well, sometimes it's like ourhand is forced to jump into that
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water where we can't swimbecause we feel like we're
drowning.
It's like, man, shit, I gottaget these light bills paid.
What can I do?
Oh, my god, what the fuck can Ido?
Shit.
It's either with a man, shit,we're gonna get out here and get
it, no matter which way, like Imean because, to be honest, all
money spends, it don't matterif it's dirty money, it don't
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matter if it's clean.
Money is money, profit isprofit, bills are bills.
So to to what you have to do tomake that money.
It might be demeaning to others, but it is probably out of
necessity for for others.
Because I mean, you might haveto, goddamn, go out here and
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flip a couple packs because yourback is so far against the wall
, you don't know which way tobreathe, you don't know how, how
it's coming.
So you're influenced by othersand others.
Ideas like shit, hey, man, shit, try, make that quick run for
me.
And shit, you got.
Or me later.
Only thing y'all do is you knowand shit, I give them quick 250
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.
Sometimes you do that shit outof necessity, not out of want,
because a lot of people thinking, oh they out here wanting to
fuck for a goddamn rent.
Oh, nah, shit, the way theeconomy so fucked up nowadays,
motherfuckers might be out herefucking to keep they light bill
paid or get they rent paid or dothese things that.
And the third, just to makeends meet.
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Because I'm sorry, I'm not nojudgment mental person, because
I don't want you to judge me,because, at the end of the day,
the only person that can judgeme myself and I is me myself and
I and God.
And once that, once I come tothem tables, once I sit down at
that table and he's in front ofme, that's that's who I have to
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answer to, not no man.
Because everybody ain't gonnatell you what they did in the
dark To get to the light.
Because some things need to godown With Jacques Cousteau.
Some things need to goddamn beburied With the goddamn Mariana
Trench.
If y'all know what the fuckthat is, maybe you need to go do
your research.
Sometimes that motherfuckingneed to get buried With the
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kings of Egypt, some of the shityou've done to get to make shit
easier in life, becauseeverything ain't glitz and glam
and glory Because, like somepeople think, just because it's
done means that everything ispicture perfect.
You get what I'm saying, thateverything is picture perfect.
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You get what I'm saying Becausea lot of times, people don't
know where the fuck they going,or the fuck they coming to, or
the journey they about to take.
Some people just know theyabout to be on a journey and
they don't know if it's going tobe good or bad or bullshit, to
be frank.
So it's A lot of times yougotta you gotta play chess, not
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checkers.
Sometimes you're going to getyour hands dirty With shit you
don't want to do, because I meanshit.
To be honest, if walls couldtalk, a lot of people would be
judging us, judging thedecisions that we make, the
things that we say, the way ourbrains work, because everybody's
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brain ain't measure the sameand, to be honest, everybody's
moral compass isn't the same.
So you got to take that intoaccount when, when you sit there
with others and you beingjudgmental, so why are you
judging?
Would you want them to judgeevery decision that you make?
Because I'm sorry, like I tellpeople all the time, if somebody
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tell you something about me,believe what the fuck they tell
you I'm not answering for no,I'm not answering no questions
for nobody, no more.
Because I can really give a fuck, because, no matter what I say
out my mouth, you're gonnabelieve what you want to believe
.
You're not gonna base it on mycharacter or what you know me,
for you just want to go, youjust want to go off.
The first thing somebody tellsyou about me without getting to
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actually know me.
And, to be frank, I've gottento the term and to this big age
of 38.
Yeah, I'm two years away frombeing followed, but you got to
understand.
I don't give a fuck, no more.
So believe what you want tobelieve, I don't care.
The decision that you want tohave, believe that I don't care.
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So you got to think about it.
Is it?
Is it really where you want itto be?
So you got to think about thatgoes back to our 50 50s the
things that you got to do tomake your spouse or your
significant other and things ofthat nature happy and sleep
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peacefully at night.
You might have to get yourhands dirty, you might have to
go out there and do some thingsthat you ain't so proud to do,
just to make sure y'all sleeppeacefully at night or y'all got
a roof still over your head.
Because everybody, everybody'smoral compass ain't the same.
Everybody's hunger ornecessities are, it aren't the
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same.
Everybody's drive and ambitionsaren't the same.
So if that that motherfuckermight say, hey, hey, babe, I got
to go do X, y and Z, well, becareful.
She knows that he doesn't wantto do this.
But push comes to shove.
Since it's back so far againstthe wall, I'd rather risk my
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livelihood, my freedom, my duediligence, my moral compass.
So you don't have to, and theonly thing that she does Is
behind him and support him andmake sure shit.
That's where the moral compassComes behind, because, like at
the very beginning, shit,everybody can't be a general,
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everybody can't.
Sometimes you gotta push thatmoral compass to the wayside and
be the leader that you need tobe, because you got to do the
shit that you don't want to do,or push the shit the way you
want to push it.
Because a lot of people don'tunderstand that concept.
Because when you out here,hungry, in these motherfucking
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streets, your back touching yourribs, your back pockets,
touching what you gonna do, yougonna eat or you gonna starve,
you gonna bitch up.
You gonna man up.
You gonna do what you gotta door you gonna goddamn.
Oh my god, I can't do this.
Oh my god, this is so hard, man.
Shut the fuck up and suck itthe fuck up.
Man, put your big girl pantieson, put your goddamn waders on
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and get out of that bullshit,because you gotta understand
Everybody's bullshit.
Ain't your bullshit.
Just because his grass is green,you don't know what the fuck he
had to goddamn do To goddamnGet his grass that color, or To
put it in layman's terms, whichy'all people might understand,
and to get it through your earblows the ones that ain't
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stouples.
You don't know what type ofrisk that man had to take To get
where he sits at today.
Only thing you're doing issitting there, basing it off of
your moral compass, of your Ideideas, and saying, oh well, I
would never do that.
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I would never take the stoopthat low to do that.
You don't know what the fuckyou would do when you down on
your luck and you ain't gotnothing else to got on.
Go no further, becausesometimes you got to suck it the
fuck up.
Put your morals to the side anddo shit that you're not too
proud of doing just to make endsmeet, just to make sure you got
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one more day of light, one more$20 in your gas tank just to
get to work, because sometimesyou got to go turn in that
change that you've been savingup all year just to got.
Don't make sure you got food tofeed your family for the rest
of the week, or ways to eat, oryou got to be eating oodles and
oodles while your kids eatingmcdonald's just because you'll
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rather them Be productive andyou just eating bullshit.
Because a lot of people Don'tunderstand the sacrifices that
you have to make when it comesto that 50-50 bullshit that I
deal, that y'all have put inthese people's head.
Thinking of what you bring tothe table, because I mean,
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honestly, is everything equalthat you bring to the table?
Is everything 100?
Oh, I got a hundred dollars,you got a hundred dollars.
That's what we made for theweek.
Now you got change and senseand dollar bills added on to the
back of it.
That motherfucker might have 119, you might have 97.
Shit ain't equal.
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But what's equal is theunderstanding we have for each
other, understanding hey, I gotyou as long as you got me.
I fuck with you as long as youfuck with me.
If you look out for me, I lookout for you.
That's what it, that's what itboils down to, that's what it
adds up to.
Because, at the end of the day,do you really have my back the
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same way that you claim you do?
Or you ready to fold on me Atany point in time?
Because if you ready to fold onme at any point in time or
expose me for this, that and thethird, or point out the flaw
shit in me At any point in time,man, you truly don't fuck with
me.
Because that person on the flipside and that person that could
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Tell the world all your flawschooses not to.
Is it really?
Do you really fuck with them?
Do you really choose to makethose losses with them or take
those risks with them?
Because, at the end of the day,what do we do as human beings?
Are we guided or misguided?
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Are we guided by those actions,or do we make those trials and
tribulations to where we can'tmake those decisions and can't
make those Ideals happen, or wecan't paint those pictures out
to be, you know, glitz and glam.
And oh, I made this shit shakeBecause people are only looking
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for the wins, thank you.
Social media To where peopleonly understand, only see the
wins and never see the lossesthat you take.
The only time they see thelosses Is when somebody exposes
you For the flaws that you done,did the mistakes that you done,
did the mistakes that you donemade instead of telling the good
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shit that we really need totell, because I mean, I'm sorry
to shit like a three-point scale.
There's always wins and losses.
There's always good and bad.
Sometimes the good I went aboutit was a bad, but sometimes,
sometimes the good is the bad,but sometimes people got done
bringing the bad to theforefront.
But that tells you truly whoreally fucks you and who don't.
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So I just want to let y'allknow.
Thank y'all for listening toFOAL.
Step Us.
Only we out Peace.
We'll be right back.
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You got to be on the front line.
See, when I get you by myself,i'ma look into your soul and
I'ma see what it is that you is,i'ma see what you is, and once
I see what you is, i'ma turn youinto something you ain't never
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been before man, that's a realstepper only.
Shit.
There I tell you, hey, welcometo four steppers only.
Well, we gotta tell you.
So you make sure it sticks inyour head to sit down and watch
a stepper step.
That means sit back and watchreal men step or watch a real
(00:42):
woman step, because once we putthis shit into your earlobe and
make it infectious, you willnever know what the hell hit you
.
But hey, I'm your host with themost, your hopeful host with
the gift, the cab, themotherfucker that talk shit,
whether it's in person or over atelephone, it don't matter.
But hey, I.
But hey, since it's real closeto Valentine's Day and I'm so
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sick and tired of youmotherfuckers saying this shit
like hey, man, what you bring tothe table, man, shit, I can't
fuck with no bitch to bring.
No, don't bring shit to thetable.
Or a female in sorts of sayinggirl, I need a man to do this,
this and this and this and this,and you don't do half the shit
that you want required out ofthis man.
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But you still, and y'all Y'allstill, pushing this guy, knowing
ideal, that everything Supposedto be 50-50.
I don't know where y'allignorance got the shit.
That shit supposed to be 50-50.
Someday that shit gonna be 720.
Sometimes they gonna shit Gonnabe 80-30.
Someday the shit gonna be 720.
Sometimes they they gonna shitgonna be 830.
Some say some days the shitmight be 2020.
(01:48):
Both y'all goddamn lack theenergy to put in the shit period
.
So where the fuck did y'all get50?
50?
Because in my mind, in my idea,the way this shit supposed to
be painted out, the shit waythis shit supposed to be drawn,
is in a 50 50 situation.
Shit is, you're supposed totake 50 of my stress off of me
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to make me 50 of a better personfor for this situation ship, or
this relationship, or thismarriage or this engagement, but
that's what 50, 50 is supposedto mean.
So because y'all motherfuckerstalking about shit.
He gotta meet me halfway.
He gotta.
But halfway is never equivalentin any situation.
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Because if I meet you halfway,that means I'm only.
I'm only walking you halfway onthis journey and the rest of
the journey is yours.
Because if I, if I, only giveyou half of what's entitled me
or half of what you expect,you'll always be wanting more,
you'll always be desiring more,but you'll never understand the
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full length of the journey thatwe're supposed to be on.
But on, in retrospect, a lot ofy'all take, take that 50, 50
shit just a monetary value.
But y'all put, y'all puty'all's dreams and hopes and
shit out of reach and out ofpotential to where you can't
even fathom to reach the stars.
But you only land on the moonbefore you get to the stars With
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your 50% of energy, with your50% of wants and your 50% of
desires.
But honestly and truthfully,50% is supposed to make me
better.
50% like, let's break this shitdown.
Let's use me as an example.
If you take, like I got so muchshit going on.
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We playing chess over here,never checkers.
So if you take 50% of mysituation and make 50% of my
life easier, that makes me have50 more percent of energy.
If you take 50% of my situationand make 50% of my life easier,
that makes me have 50 morepercent of energy to do more
shit other than what I wasalready doing.
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Or 50% more of me to put into abusiness to where I don't have
to work a nine to five anymore.
Or I can chase my dreams andchase my ambitions to be a
better man for you and kids andour family.
But or shit, let's go ahead andget nasty with that shit, shit.
If I'm if I'm 50% less stressed,I have 50% more energy.
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That means I have 50% moreenergy to put in to slutting you
the fuck out, to fucking youany type of wage way possible.
So, because you got tounderstand, understand this
thing if I'm stressed, the fuckout, I'm not going to want to
have sex.
If I'm worried about bills andfinances, how I'm going to do
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this, do that, do this and the.
I'm not going to want to fuckBecause, honestly, to make sure
my lights stay on, my water stayon my car, notice paid, I can
get to work.
I'm not worrying about the A'sand B's and D's and C's.
That creates stress.
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Because let me tell yousomething no person in this life
is meant to do this shit bythemselves and, honestly, a lot
of times people get these, this,these things, looking for the
same, looking for the wrongpurpose and getting in these
relationships, situationshipsand this, that and the third,
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because once they start doingstuff, they, they, they start,
they start trying to figure outhow to do shit on their own and
they, they come, they become soset in their ways to where they
only result on what makes themcomfortable.
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They've been doing this shit bythemselves so easily and nobody
never wants to come and thenhelp.
I'm sorry, that's the wrongturn to use because I'm sorry to
be honest with you, a lot ofthese goofy motherfuckers out
here in this day and age areonly seeking for help, not
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happiness.
They only seeking for what cana person do for me?
Not because I'm sorry.
I operate on a two way streetand most people should
understand what a two way streetis, and most people should
understand what a two way streetis.
It's, it's called reciprocation, to reciprocate the actions
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that you give out, that you getin return.
Like I tell people in aheartbeat day, it's what you
expect.
I'm sorry, you can't expectcertain things out of people.
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You got to.
You got to show what you got,to let them show who they are to
you without the hand beingforced.
Because, to be honest, at acertain point in time, yeah, we
do fuck up, yeah, we, we do makemistakes.
But how do you bounce back fromthat mistake?
How do you bounce back fromthat little scuff in the road?
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Do you stand up or do you sitin the corner and cry about your
situation?
Do you do you?
Do you complain abouteverything?
You got going on to the pointwhere you got to complain, or
any situation that you placeyourself in versus.
Do you put yourself in awinning position or do you say,
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ok, I took that L, I took that L.
So now how do I stand up in theend of it to stand back on my
two feet to win it?
To stand back on my two feet towin, because, at the end of the
day, it's all about how you growas a human being, versus the
losses you take, because thelosses is what makes you,
because you can't sit back andtake losses after loss and think
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you ain't gonna learn fromthose losses or you're not gonna
wear the bait weight of thoselosses to make yourself as a, as
a human being, because a lot oftimes we, our losses, are what
makes us you don't learn from.
You don't learn from wins yeah,you might.
You might celebrate wins, butthe best losses in the world we
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call lessons, not losses,because you can.
You learn from your struggles.
Like who the fuck learned thatthe best part of the ox Was the
tail?
No, back in the day they usedto think that the ox tail Was
the shittiest part of the meat.
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Nowadays, them bitches costmore than a regular ox.
They the highest form, they themost sick piece of meat on the
meat, on the on the animal.
That's like, if you look atcertain situations, people like
you, you got to understand thisshit is give and take and a lot
of people don't understand thatbecause it a lot of times it's
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not what you want to do.
To survive as a human being iswhat you got to do is a human
being to survive.
And a lot of times people don'tcan't wrap their minds around
growth and expansion becausethere's they're so stuck in a
box, because, like when I sayyou get put in a box, you get
put in the dirt, but instead ofthem being open and welcoming
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the new ideas and growth.
What?
What do they?
What do they depict that growthfrom their losses, their, their
mistakes, their trials andtribulations.
Sometimes the those losses makethe best people ever,
eventually, because once theymake those losses and make those
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trials and tribulations, theymake shit easier for them
because they've learned fromtheir mistakes.
They've learned from theirmistakes that will make them
better, because once they startrealizing, hey, I did this
fucked up the last time, I didthis fucked up the last time.
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Did this fucked up the lasttime?
I did this fucked up the lasttime why?
Why can't I move this around?
Move this around and make shitbetter for me?
Well, this this person saidthis works for them, but it
don't work for me.
You right, you fucking idiot.
Because a lot of times thethings that people do in their
minds don't work for everybody.
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Every everybody's math, mathdon't math the right way for
everybody else.
Everybody's two plus two don'tequal four.
Maybe that motherfucker mightequal six.
Maybe that motherfucker mightequal eight, but it's what works
for them, is what works forthem.
It's not.
Everybody's journey ain't thesame.
Everybody's footprint ain't thesame.
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Everybody's got no words andexperiences ain't the same.
So only thing you got to do istake what somebody else's
formula they give to you is whatworks for them, but you got to
mold that bitch to work for youbecause a lot of times people
got down.
I think just because they docertain shit a certain way, it
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will work the same way for themthat it works for everybody else
.
So in this, with that beingsaid, don't think everybody's
journey is supposed to be thesame and everybody's layout is
supposed to be the same from thenext man's.
That's like when a person says,oh, I do this and I do that,
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and oh, I move this way and Imove that way and I'm making
these moves to do this and dothat.
Sometimes we make thosedecisions based off of more
belief instead of understanding.
Sometimes we don't have achoice in the matter because,
once our backs against the wall,sometimes we have to make those
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decisions to make risk in ourown lives to make things still
work.
I mean that's, if you look atit, that's the.
That's the same reason I ain'tgonna hold you.
Some people get out here, startselling drugs or start selling
pussy.
I mean shit.
To be honest, selling pussy isjust like selling dope.
It's.
It's on the same comparison, um, because I mean shit, let's be
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honest with you.
Shit.
It's easy to get out here andsell some ass.
Let's just go ahead and behonest with it.
Just like the same way it'seasy to sell some dope For a man
, it's easy to sell dope, butain't nobody Gonna be out here
really buying dick.
You get what I'm saying.
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If they buying dick, hey, yougot you.
Better, you better startscratching.
It's itchy and scratchy and youbetter start, goddumb,
scratching your head andwondering why they buying dick.
Because I mean sometimes shit,shit, don't shit, don't add up a
plus b don't equal c.
But that's my comparison on thematter, because some people do
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shit out of necessity.
I mean it might go a certainway.
Because I mean, to be honest,she might be fucking out here
for 120, 120 dollars just tokeep her lights bill paid, just
to keep, just to feed her fit,feed her kids, not out of this,
like she's doing that shit outof sure necessity, not because
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she, that's just a want.
And sometimes people gettrapped in that mold and get
trapped in their mindset andthat's what they have to base
their things off of.
But a lot of people fail torealize that's where things go
because we say we won't do onething, we say we won't do
another.
Well, sometimes it's like ourhand is forced to jump into that
(13:56):
water where we can't swimbecause we feel like we're
drowning.
It's like, man, shit, I gottaget these light bills paid.
What can I do?
Oh, my god, what the fuck can Ido?
Shit.
It's either with a man, shit,we're gonna get out here and get
it, no matter which way, like Imean because, to be honest, all
money spends, it don't matterif it's dirty money, it don't
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matter if it's clean.
Money is money, profit isprofit, bills are bills.
So to to what you have to do tomake that money.
It might be demeaning to others, but it is probably out of
necessity for for others.
Because I mean, you might haveto, goddamn, go out here and
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flip a couple packs because yourback is so far against the wall
, you don't know which way tobreathe, you don't know how, how
it's coming.
So you're influenced by othersand others.
Ideas like shit, hey, man, shit, try, make that quick run for
me.
And shit, you got.
Or me later.
Only thing y'all do is you knowand shit, I give them quick 250
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.
Sometimes you do that shit outof necessity, not out of want,
because a lot of people thinking, oh they out here wanting to
fuck for a goddamn rent.
Oh, nah, shit, the way theeconomy so fucked up nowadays,
motherfuckers might be out herefucking to keep they light bill
paid or get they rent paid or dothese things that.
And the third, just to makeends meet.
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Because I'm sorry, I'm not nojudgment mental person, because
I don't want you to judge me,because, at the end of the day,
the only person that can judgeme myself and I is me myself and
I and God.
And once that, once I come tothem tables, once I sit down at
that table and he's in front ofme, that's that's who I have to
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answer to, not no man.
Because everybody ain't gonnatell you what they did in the
dark To get to the light.
Because some things need to godown With Jacques Cousteau.
Some things need to goddamn beburied With the goddamn Mariana
Trench.
If y'all know what the fuckthat is, maybe you need to go do
your research.
Sometimes that motherfuckingneed to get buried With the
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kings of Egypt, some of the shityou've done to get to make shit
easier in life, becauseeverything ain't glitz and glam
and glory Because, like somepeople think, just because it's
done means that everything ispicture perfect.
You get what I'm saying, thateverything is picture perfect.
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You get what I'm saying Becausea lot of times, people don't
know where the fuck they going,or the fuck they coming to, or
the journey they about to take.
Some people just know theyabout to be on a journey and
they don't know if it's going tobe good or bad or bullshit, to
be frank.
So it's A lot of times yougotta you gotta play chess, not
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checkers.
Sometimes you're going to getyour hands dirty With shit you
don't want to do, because I meanshit.
To be honest, if walls couldtalk, a lot of people would be
judging us, judging thedecisions that we make, the
things that we say, the way ourbrains work, because everybody's
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brain ain't measure the sameand, to be honest, everybody's
moral compass isn't the same.
So you got to take that intoaccount when, when you sit there
with others and you beingjudgmental, so why are you
judging?
Would you want them to judgeevery decision that you make?
Because I'm sorry, like I tellpeople all the time, if somebody
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tell you something about me,believe what the fuck they tell
you I'm not answering for no,I'm not answering no questions
for nobody, no more.
Because I can really give a fuck, because, no matter what I say
out my mouth, you're gonnabelieve what you want to believe
.
You're not gonna base it on mycharacter or what you know me,
for you just want to go, youjust want to go off.
The first thing somebody tellsyou about me without getting to
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actually know me.
And, to be frank, I've gottento the term and to this big age
of 38.
Yeah, I'm two years away frombeing followed, but you got to
understand.
I don't give a fuck, no more.
So believe what you want tobelieve, I don't care.
The decision that you want tohave, believe that I don't care.
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So you got to think about it.
Is it?
Is it really where you want itto be?
So you got to think about thatgoes back to our 50 50s the
things that you got to do tomake your spouse or your
significant other and things ofthat nature happy and sleep
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peacefully at night.
You might have to get yourhands dirty, you might have to
go out there and do some thingsthat you ain't so proud to do,
just to make sure y'all sleeppeacefully at night or y'all got
a roof still over your head.
Because everybody, everybody'smoral compass ain't the same.
Everybody's hunger ornecessities are, it aren't the
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same.
Everybody's drive and ambitionsaren't the same.
So if that that motherfuckermight say, hey, hey, babe, I got
to go do X, y and Z, well, becareful.
She knows that he doesn't wantto do this.
But push comes to shove.
Since it's back so far againstthe wall, I'd rather risk my
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livelihood, my freedom, my duediligence, my moral compass.
So you don't have to, and theonly thing that she does Is
behind him and support him andmake sure shit.
That's where the moral compassComes behind, because, like at
the very beginning, shit,everybody can't be a general,
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everybody can't.
Sometimes you gotta push thatmoral compass to the wayside and
be the leader that you need tobe, because you got to do the
shit that you don't want to do,or push the shit the way you
want to push it.
Because a lot of people don'tunderstand that concept.
Because when you out here,hungry, in these motherfucking
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streets, your back touching yourribs, your back pockets,
touching what you gonna do, yougonna eat or you gonna starve,
you gonna bitch up.
You gonna man up.
You gonna do what you gotta door you gonna goddamn.
Oh my god, I can't do this.
Oh my god, this is so hard, man.
Shut the fuck up and suck itthe fuck up.
Man, put your big girl pantieson, put your goddamn waders on
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and get out of that bullshit,because you gotta understand
Everybody's bullshit.
Ain't your bullshit.
Just because his grass is green,you don't know what the fuck he
had to goddamn do To goddamnGet his grass that color, or To
put it in layman's terms, whichy'all people might understand,
and to get it through your earblows the ones that ain't
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stouples.
You don't know what type ofrisk that man had to take To get
where he sits at today.
Only thing you're doing issitting there, basing it off of
your moral compass, of your Ideideas, and saying, oh well, I
would never do that.
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I would never take the stoopthat low to do that.
You don't know what the fuckyou would do when you down on
your luck and you ain't gotnothing else to got on.
Go no further, becausesometimes you got to suck it the
fuck up.
Put your morals to the side anddo shit that you're not too
proud of doing just to make endsmeet, just to make sure you got
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one more day of light, one more$20 in your gas tank just to
get to work, because sometimesyou got to go turn in that
change that you've been savingup all year just to got.
Don't make sure you got food tofeed your family for the rest
of the week, or ways to eat, oryou got to be eating oodles and
oodles while your kids eatingmcdonald's just because you'll
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rather them Be productive andyou just eating bullshit.
Because a lot of people Don'tunderstand the sacrifices that
you have to make when it comesto that 50-50 bullshit that I
deal, that y'all have put inthese people's head.
Thinking of what you bring tothe table, because I mean,
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honestly, is everything equalthat you bring to the table?
Is everything 100?
Oh, I got a hundred dollars,you got a hundred dollars.
That's what we made for theweek.
Now you got change and senseand dollar bills added on to the
back of it.
That motherfucker might have 119, you might have 97.
Shit ain't equal.
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But what's equal is theunderstanding we have for each
other, understanding hey, I gotyou as long as you got me.
I fuck with you as long as youfuck with me.
If you look out for me, I lookout for you.
That's what it, that's what itboils down to, that's what it
adds up to.
Because, at the end of the day,do you really have my back the
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same way that you claim you do?
Or you ready to fold on me Atany point in time?
Because if you ready to fold onme at any point in time or
expose me for this, that and thethird, or point out the flaw
shit in me At any point in time,man, you truly don't fuck with
me.
Because that person on the flipside and that person that could
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Tell the world all your flawschooses not to.
Is it really?
Do you really fuck with them?
Do you really choose to makethose losses with them or take
those risks with them?
Because, at the end of the day,what do we do as human beings?
Are we guided or misguided?
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Are we guided by those actions,or do we make those trials and
tribulations to where we can'tmake those decisions and can't
make those Ideals happen, or wecan't paint those pictures out
to be, you know, glitz and glam.
And oh, I made this shit shakeBecause people are only looking
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for the wins, thank you.
Social media To where peopleonly understand, only see the
wins and never see the lossesthat you take.
The only time they see thelosses Is when somebody exposes
you For the flaws that you done,did the mistakes that you done,
did the mistakes that you donemade instead of telling the good
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shit that we really need totell, because I mean, I'm sorry
to shit like a three-point scale.
There's always wins and losses.
There's always good and bad.
Sometimes the good I went aboutit was a bad, but sometimes,
sometimes the good is the bad,but sometimes people got done
bringing the bad to theforefront.
But that tells you truly whoreally fucks you and who don't.
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So I just want to let y'allknow.
Thank y'all for listening toFOAL.
Step Us.
Only we out Peace.
We'll be right back.
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