October 29, 2025 • 23 mins
Ever notice how the smallest habits tell the biggest truths? We take a hard look at consistency—what it means to stand on your word across love, friendship, and co‑parenting—and why reliability beats big speeches every time. If people can predict your effort and your honesty, they can relax, invest, and build with you. If they get silence and switch‑ups, anxiety fills the gap. We talk through real moments: showing up for kids’ games, answering late‑night calls, and the quiet check‑ins that prove you care. We also get into boundaries, because access has a price. If someone can reach you at 2 a.m., they should keep you informed. If they don’t, that’s not a small thing—it’s a signal.
We explore the difference between adjusting for the room and changing who you are. Values should travel, tone can adapt. That mindset keeps you respectful at work, present at home, and clear with partners when life gets messy. You’ll hear how long‑term loyalty reveals itself in years of steady action, not bursts of attention. You’ll also hear why stepping back from mixed energy protects your peace. Think chess, not checkers: you can plan around honest flaws, but you can’t plan around deceit. When people show you their pattern, believe it.
On the grind side, we share how daily reps beat hype. Progress in creative work, business, or parenting comes from showing up, refining, and refusing stagnation. Kids copy what we do, not what we preach, so let them see us push, reset, and push again. If you want practical wisdom on trust, communication, and holding the line without drama, this one’s for you. Tap play, subscribe for more real talk, and drop a comment: where do you draw your line on consistency?
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SPEAKER_01 (00:49):
Welcome to four samples only.
Shit.
Man, we up in this bitch shooterthan booty.
You hear me?
Well, don't hey, don't get thatshit twisted.
This shit's some real shit overhere.
Hey, I'm Jack.
Well, I got my Call of Duty gearon today.
Cause I mean, shit, we here totalk about standing on shit.
(01:10):
We're talking about consistencyis key.
Cause I mean, I feel like everyin every aspect of life, you
gotta be consistent.
And if you aren't consistent,shh, what the fuck are you doing
it for?
I mean, you gotta be consistentwith your kids, you gotta be
consistent with your partner,you gotta be consistent with
your homies, you gotta beconsistent across the board, no
(01:32):
chase just straight up and down.
Because, but but don't get ittwisted in different
environments.
You gotta tweak it and turn itjust a little bit.
Because next thing you know,you've been scared a whole bunch
of people off.
Because if I look like thisevery day I went to work,
motherfuckers be like this shhh.
Boy, he need that boy need togrip his south vacation.
(01:53):
That boy needs to go sit his assdown somewhere.
Because I mean, these youngcats, goddamn, they just started
wearing shisty shit.
And you can tell this is not ashisty.
This is what we used to wearwhen we used to go to the club
and shit.
Boy, this just ain't nothing buta goddamn black teeth that can
breathe.
But where I'm at is you gotta beconsistent.
(02:13):
Like you gotta you gotta showthat you fuck with somebody
consistently, you gotta showsomebody that your true colors
consistency.
When you goddamn start showingyou fake and flaw, shit, that's
when motherfuckers start hemmingand hawing about your ass.
I mean shit like like Iconsistently tell my kids I love
them.
Because I know as a child, shit,I was always taught I gotta be
(02:34):
hard, I gotta be this, that, andthe third, I gotta be this, I
gotta be that.
But which I mean shit, it taughtme valuable lessons in life.
I mean, even from my partners,extra grandson, Big B, uh, the
twins tower, Rico, goddamn umshit.
My other cousin T-Main.
Um, shit, I know I'm missing alot of niggas, man.
(02:56):
Um, but them my childhoodgoddamn partners.
You gotta understand childhood.
Oh shit, can't really can'tforget my biggest supporter of
them all is my cousin Kai.
Shit, we might go years withouttalking.
You know what?
Fuck it.
I'm gonna stop I let me let megoddamn rewind that shit.
I gotta give a shout out to myhomeboy Jurn.
(03:18):
I gotta give a shout-out to mygoddamn partner, Ferrari Fresh,
who's over in Dubai.
Because all these men have shownme consistency over the years.
You get what I'm saying?
No matter which stage in lifethat I met him in, we were
always consistent.
No matter if we fumble the ballthis day, we haven't talked for
a couple weeks.
Once we pick back up, we back tosquare one.
(03:38):
It's like we never missed abeat.
And it's like, like I was aboutto say about my cousin Kai.
Me and him are not bloodrelated, but we've been so close
to the point where consistencyis key.
No matter where I met, I foughtwith you the same.
I still got them fought withyou, I still answer your phone
calls and everything.
(03:58):
Because consistency matters somuch with people.
Because he called me one day andwas and brought up a subject.
And he knows how I stand onshit.
Like, if it's fuck you, it'sfuck you.
And and he brought up thesituation.
And I said, nigga, I ain't knowwe had beef.
(04:20):
He talking about something theway you said it.
It's like, shit, this is new tome.
This is this is uh late breakingnews to me.
I mean, because the way I lookat things is, bro, if I fuck
with you today, unless you dosome flaw shit, I'm gonna still
fuck with your ass tomorrow.
And that's the way I run shit.
(04:40):
Like, even when it comes to mykids and my kids' mothers, they
know I don't tolerate nodisrespect, period, no matter
who it comes from.
And I stand on that shit.
And the same way I give you theutmost respect is the same way I
dig it in return.
Um, and they know, like, overthe years, shit, we might trip,
(05:04):
we might fall, we might, wemight fumble, we might get into
our spits and spats, but youstand on what you say, you stand
on what you do.
Like, like when I tell them,hey, if my if my child
disrespects you in any form ofuh any form or fashion, call me.
If my child is going throughsomething shit, call me.
Because when you don't call me,that's when we got a problem.
(05:25):
Because consistency is key.
You want me to be consistent onmy end as a father and be there
in my child's life because Iknow they depend on me, then
don't falter on your end.
I mean, shit, we'll keep shit P.
It don't mean we fucking, itjust means we stand on business.
The only thing that we have incommon in this kit is this child
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and the welfare of this childand making sure they're
productive in society and makingsure they grow and nurtured and
they get taught the valuablelessons that they get taught.
Relationship-wise, let's goahead and keep this shit P.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andtell you, I'm a big ass Leo man
shit.
When I care, I care.
When you start showing me thatyou don't care, you move and
(06:08):
funny, this, that, and thethird.
Don't say shit when I startfalling back.
Because you started showing mesome flaw shit.
Cause like I tell people, Isaid, shit, I am the worst
example, period.
It's like, like, I tell them,like, if if we are intimate, if
we fucking, if we doing thewhoop-to-woop, we done a
(06:28):
situation ship, I'ma keep shitthe same throughout.
You know what I mean?
But I mean there's differentlevels of whatever, whatever.
That's like I told him, I said,shit, if I I'm I'm big on this.
If I call you for help, I reallyneed it.
Same way if you call me if yougot a flat tie.
(06:48):
Access is access.
You get what I'm saying?
If you call me at 2 o'clock inthe morning and you tell me you
got a flat tie, you expect me toget my ass about that
motherfucking bed, which I amgoing to do and come and drop
whatever the fuck I'm doing.
I don't give a fuck how tired Iam.
I'm gonna be there.
But now, this is where the shitgets funky.
(07:09):
Now you tell me you got two flatties, and you ain't called me.
Who the fuck did you call?
What nigga did you call?
Oh, I just called a troll truck.
But I ain't gonna talk, I ain'tgot no call, no notification, no
nothing.
To me, to we the way I look atit, and I'm I'm pretty sure a
lot of y'all out there thatlisten to me, y'all steppers,
(07:31):
not y'all imitation crab meatass motherfuckers.
Not the ones that got downstepped with me everywhere it'll
go, and the way you got downover there nodding your head,
you know I'm about to drop someshit.
If you didn't call me, whatnigga did you call?
Cause I know damn well you ain'tgot them just, oh, I just handle
it myself.
I know you sleep, I know you'retired.
Nah, but I ain't getting nonotification about it.
(07:54):
I ain't got them put on my capeand say, Dunter the dun, I'm on
my way, I'm on your rescue.
So who did you tell that you hada goddamn flat tire?
Who did you tell that you had abad day?
I mean, stand on that shit.
Because when I'm having a badday, shit, you expect me to come
to you because you're my mysituation shit, because you're
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my event, you're my safe place,you're my shit, let's go ahead
and say it.
You're my keep it pee.
Because the day that you don'tcall me and notify me, that
means shit.
I lost my position to anothermotherfucker.
You ain't keep me updated.
You ain't let me know you weresafe.
You ain't let me know you werehome safe.
Little shit.
(08:36):
Because like like I tell peopleall the time, man, consistency
is fucking motherfucking key.
Because if you if I if I if Ishowed you I was tender from the
beginning, then next thing Iknow I switch up.
That ain't consistent.
Nigga, you a fake and phallon,you a nigga, you an actor.
(08:56):
To me.
I stand on shit.
If I talk to you, I fuck withyou.
If I don't, I don't fuck withyou.
I will treat, I will keep shitpushing and act like you don't
fucking exist to me.
Ain't gonna be no switch up.
If you flaw, you flaw.
Shit, stand on that shit.
Don't be trying to fake andpretend like, oh, I'm just
(09:18):
having a bad day.
Shit, then say you're having abad day.
Don't just leave me out in agoddamn like I'm supposed to
guess what the fuck is going onwith you.
Let me know what's up.
Because let me tell you likethis, it's only so much silence
that I can take.
It's not, it's it's lack of likenotifications I can take.
(09:42):
They go ahead and keep it peebecause shit.
It is what it is.
Stand on that shit.
Because like I like like I eventold my ex-wife, if my I got an
attitude one day that I didn'tknow my son had a game.
She said, Well, John, I thoughtyou were tired, I thought you
were asleep.
I don't care.
Let me let me tell you that I'mtired.
Because nine times out of ten, Iwon't tell you I'm tired.
(10:04):
I'll suck it the fuck up andmake sure my ass is there
because I know my son depends onme being there or me even saying
I called, I watched throughFaceTime because I was on my way
to work.
Like you said, consistencybecause these kids see
consistency.
Like I tell my sons all thetime, shit, hey man, tap in.
If you got some shit going on,let's talk about it.
(10:26):
Because people see the way youmove, the way you the way you do
shit.
You know what I'm saying?
And when you start tweaking andyou start doing this, that, and
the third, shit, they startsaying, what the fuck going on?
Shit, my antennas out, my littlespidey sensors tingling.
Because you done switched up ontheir ass.
And nobody likes to be switchedup on.
(10:49):
Because most people likeconsistency.
That's like I told amotherfucker, I said, yeah, I
might got them go out and party,I might go out and drink, shit,
but that's very rarely.
But next thing you know, you seeme going out every motherfucking
night, we got a motherfuckingproblem.
It means you out here searching,you on a hunt.
If I talk to you every day, ifI've been saying, hey, how you
(11:10):
doing?
What's going on, what's going onwith your day, blah, blah, blah,
blah.
That's consistent.
Next thing you know, you don'thear from me today.
Shit, it's like, oh shit, myantennas out.
Did I say something wrong?
Did I do something wrong?
Did I is this motherfucker notfeeling me?
Whatever.
Consistency is key.
(11:32):
Because that shit is some flawshit.
That shit is some fake ass shit.
That shit is some imitation crabmeat shit through and through.
Because there's no way that youcan switch up on me overnight.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andkeep it, I'm gonna keep it a
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bulk with you.
If you fake as fault, stay fakeas fault.
Because that's your consistency.
If you a sneaky bitch, stayconsistent.
If you're if you're a get moneynigga, stay consistent.
Because I mean, us as humanbeings, yes, we deal with life
(12:15):
in different situations to wherewe migrate through life in
different aspects.
But consistency is key.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andkeep it a bug.
I know y'all hate for me to makethese sexual analogies, but
consistency.
If I'm hitting you with strongdick every fucking night, and
(12:38):
you hitting me with goddamn aquafino every fucking night, next
thing you know, I ain't had itfor a week.
The fuck switched up.
Like one of my homegirls calledme about a dude she was dealing
with.
She talking about some shit, andthis nigga used to ask me to
hang out, kick it with him,parlay with him, politic with
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him.
You know, we had our little guynow, you know, my little whoot
the woot, ha da ha.
Next thing you know, he goingthrough some shit.
You going through some shit.
But when you were talking toher, you were going through some
shit also.
But now all of a sudden youcan't talk to her because you're
going through some shit.
Normal life shit.
(13:19):
So if you ain't telling her, whoyou telling?
Like I said, motherfuckers bepaying attention to the way you
fucking move.
Because, let me tell yousomething.
I will walk through a room andact like certain individuals
that don't exist.
I am that asshole.
(13:39):
I am the epitome of Leo.
I am the epitome.
Because, like, once you show mesome fallout shit, it's fuck
you.
Hey, you cool, but you cool overthere.
Exit stage left.
I'm sorry, that's right.
My bad, because I don't thatmeans you're right, I'm wrong.
So that means you're going left.
(14:00):
But I mean, like we say, standon this shit.
Respect your shit.
Because when you're notconsistent, nobody pays
attention to what you bel whatyou say.
They don't believe what you say.
They they can't expect the theway you you're supposed to react
to certain shit.
So why should they fuck with youthe way you want them to fuck
with you?
(14:21):
Why should they fuck with you onthose type of terms and to that
extent if every time youswitching up every which way you
move, because that's theircomfort zone.
That's like when you had toswitch jobs.
Nobody likes to switch up.
It makes them uneasy, it makesthem nervous, it makes them hang
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with anxiety.
And nobody likes to beuncomfortable in situations that
they already are used to.
They know what to expect.
They they might tweak this wayor tweak that way, change up
this way, change up that way,but they know what to expect
because the expectationexpectation is already there.
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The bargaining is already there.
The explanations sometimes don'tneed to be explained, just need
to be thoroughly examined.
I mean, shit, like I it look itlike I look at my life.
I was consistent for so manyyears, I showed so many uh so
(15:27):
many traits, but through certainsituations and certain things
and trials and tribulations thatI've been through have had made
me look to my tweaked and lookedat my views on different things.
But regardless of the way Icare, the way I move, the way I
cut motherfuckers off, I amconsistent with it.
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There's no deviation because youknow what to expect from me.
Like I tell somebody, I said, Icare until you force me not to
care.
I fuck with you until you startshowing me why I shouldn't fuck
with you.
And that's the way I gotta lookat things because it's what I've
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been taught to sit back andwatch.
It's chess never checkers.
Because you know how which way apawn's gonna move, you know
which way a knight's gonna move,you know which way a rook's
gonna move, you know which way abishop's gonna move.
The king is still gonna move thesame way.
Because we're all kings in oursame light.
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Do just some of y'all act likefucking queens.
I can't I can't take that awayfrom you.
But just because you you playthe role of a king does not mean
you're the absolutely a king.
I mean shit.
A lot of these, uh shit, I ain'teven gonna hit on that shit.
That shit gonna take me down awhole nother fucking tangent.
(16:52):
Because, like, I mean, like wesaid in a uh previous episode,
you got hustles and imitationcrab meat.
Shit, if I gotta get somethingdone, I'm getting out there and
grinding.
I don't give a fuck how tired Iam.
What the fuck I got going on.
Shit, but I gotta I gotta getthis shit going.
Because I mean, my my closepartners tell me, shit, Jay,
shit, if you call me and youtell me a plan shit, boy, we
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know that shit finna make somemoney.
Anything you do, you put yourfull effort behind it because
you you you believe in thatshit.
Because I started shootingvideos not too long, like of
shit, a while ago.
And you can see my progression,my embeddement, because I wasn't
satisfied.
Just as I'm like, it's like Ipush myself to be better because
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I feel like if I becomestagnant, there will be there
will be no night life.
Because how can I expect my kidsto push for their goals and aim
for the stars if I'm so happybeing here on earth and ever and
never try to chase my dreams,also?
So if I'm consistently tellingthem push, push, push, and I'm
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not showing them the same signs,is that not, is that being
consistent?
If I'm saying, oh, you can doit, you can, and they see me
push, push, push, then just giveup, like, dad, you okay?
You go, you alright, you good,blah blah blah.
Some people you know somepeople's hands before they even
play it.
You get what I'm saying?
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But like I tell people all thetime, shit, if I put, if I'm
showing you I care, I'm hittingyou up every day, I'm seeing how
your day is going, that means Icare.
I'm being consistent.
But when you throw a monkeywrench in my plans and you start
shooting my little kite out ofthe sky, shit, you say you think
I'm still gonna be consistent,or I'm gonna start slacking off.
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It's just like traffic, justlike a bumping road.
Shit.
It's just like a boxing match.
You're gonna knock the shit outof me.
It's like, oh shit, I waswinning all these other rounds,
but now shit, you done dialedback.
What happened?
Who else has your attention?
Who else has your interest?
Because, like, I mean, Nipseysaid it best.
(19:08):
A person that loves you todaycan love someone else tomorrow.
Right?
But uh a hundred dollar bill isgonna be a hundred dollar bill
tomorrow.
It's consistent.
Don't mean it's gonna spend thesame, but it's consistently the
same.
And like my dad before, like mylet's let's go ahead and get
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that clear.
My my not my biological father,the individual I identify as my
dad, used to tell me, blooddon't make you family, and
family don't make you blood.
But it's the bonds that you makewith people that make you
family.
Once they show you they'reconsistently there, they
consistently have your back,that's what you consider family.
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Because when I was going throughmy life, he was consistently
there.
If I had trouble with my car, hewas consistently there.
If I needed somebody, if Ineeded a ride to work, he was
consistently there.
If I fucked up or I got out ofpocket, he was consistently
there to give me somestraightening.
Not saying that he had to, buthe he was being consistent.
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When I was going through thisshit and I spoke to my real
father for the first fuckingtime in 23 years of my
motherfucking life, I'm 39 now.
He said, fuck that nigga.
I'm your motherfucking daddy,I'm proud of you, I love you,
and I will forever be your daddyto the day I die.
He was showing me consistency asa man, as a father figure, as a
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role model that I had to learnfrom, that I needed to learn
from.
Flaws and all.
Because we eat our shit.
You take ownership with the fuckyou fucked up.
If you didn't, shoot nigga, youfucked up.
Why the fuck are you here if youain't being consistent?
Nigga, you consistently breatheand you consistently take a shit
every day.
You consistently stand up whenyou pee.
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I mean, some of y'all got themsit down, but shit, that's a
different story and a differentnotion.
But it's consistency.
It's consistency.
So are you really beingconsistent?
I mean, can you consistently geta paycheck, you consistently go
to that job, you consistentlydepend on that job to make sure
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you got a check on Friday, butyou can't be consistent, you
can't be consistent on the wayyou move, the way you operate.
To me, you a fan.
But that's an abbreviation for afuck ass nigga or a band, a
bitch ass nigga.
Because I mean, it's like I tellpeople all the way, if you ain't
consistent, say the fuck fromaround me.
Because I don't need no goddamnfake love, I don't need no
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imitation.
I'm talking about no matterwhich caliber you stand on, no
matter whether you goddamnblood, family, the motherfucking
female I'm fucking with, ahomeboy, homegirl, whatever.
Be motherfucking consistent.
If you ain't consistent, get thestay the fuck away from me.
And I stand on that shit.
Because my kids depend on me tobe there every day, sitting
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there, no matter what the fuckwe go through.
Like I tell them shit, we can gothrough this shit together.
Consistency.
No matter what the fuck it is,consistency.
Because you expect me to call at7:30.
You expect me to be there everyfucking day.
You expect me to be there, belike, hey man, stand the fuck
up, tighten the fuck up.
Hey, baby, I'm here.
Like my daughter calls me allthe time.
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My daughter says, if I if Iain't got no motherfucking
daddy, what I need homegirlsfor, or what I need friends for
when I got you.
Because baby, I won't be hereall the time.
But while you here, I'll be thatlike you look to.
I'll be cons I'll consistentlybe motherfucking here, standing
10 toes down for when you fallto tell you to stand the fuck
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back up.
We can get through this.
No matter what the fuck you gothrough.
I tell my sons that shit too.
Hey, tighten up, lock the fuckin.
Because they expect me to tellthem that shit.
Because they know, hey, youmight trip, you might fall, but
you gonna consistently get backup.
As long as you hear my voice inyour ear, you will consistently
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stand back up.
Because to this day, if I fuckup, I consistently hear my
daddy, my words in my ear.
Because thank y'all forlistening to Fold Stepwood Only
We out.
Easy.
Welcome to four samples only.
Shit.
Man, we up in this bitch shooterthan booty.
You hear me?
Well, don't hey, don't get thatshit twisted.
This shit's some real shit overhere.
Hey, I'm Jack.
Well, I got my Call of Duty gearon today.
Cause I mean, shit, we here totalk about standing on shit.
(01:10):
We're talking about consistencyis key.
Cause I mean, I feel like everyin every aspect of life, you
gotta be consistent.
And if you aren't consistent,shh, what the fuck are you doing
it for?
I mean, you gotta be consistentwith your kids, you gotta be
consistent with your partner,you gotta be consistent with
your homies, you gotta beconsistent across the board, no
(01:32):
chase just straight up and down.
Because, but but don't get ittwisted in different
environments.
You gotta tweak it and turn itjust a little bit.
Because next thing you know,you've been scared a whole bunch
of people off.
Because if I look like thisevery day I went to work,
motherfuckers be like this shhh.
Boy, he need that boy need togrip his south vacation.
(01:53):
That boy needs to go sit his assdown somewhere.
Because I mean, these youngcats, goddamn, they just started
wearing shisty shit.
And you can tell this is not ashisty.
This is what we used to wearwhen we used to go to the club
and shit.
Boy, this just ain't nothing buta goddamn black teeth that can
breathe.
But where I'm at is you gotta beconsistent.
(02:13):
Like you gotta you gotta showthat you fuck with somebody
consistently, you gotta showsomebody that your true colors
consistency.
When you goddamn start showingyou fake and flaw, shit, that's
when motherfuckers start hemmingand hawing about your ass.
I mean shit like like Iconsistently tell my kids I love
them.
Because I know as a child, shit,I was always taught I gotta be
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hard, I gotta be this, that, andthe third, I gotta be this, I
gotta be that.
But which I mean shit, it taughtme valuable lessons in life.
I mean, even from my partners,extra grandson, Big B, uh, the
twins tower, Rico, goddamn umshit.
My other cousin T-Main.
Um, shit, I know I'm missing alot of niggas, man.
(02:56):
Um, but them my childhoodgoddamn partners.
You gotta understand childhood.
Oh shit, can't really can'tforget my biggest supporter of
them all is my cousin Kai.
Shit, we might go years withouttalking.
You know what?
Fuck it.
I'm gonna stop I let me let megoddamn rewind that shit.
I gotta give a shout out to myhomeboy Jurn.
(03:18):
I gotta give a shout-out to mygoddamn partner, Ferrari Fresh,
who's over in Dubai.
Because all these men have shownme consistency over the years.
You get what I'm saying?
No matter which stage in lifethat I met him in, we were
always consistent.
No matter if we fumble the ballthis day, we haven't talked for
a couple weeks.
Once we pick back up, we back tosquare one.
(03:38):
It's like we never missed abeat.
And it's like, like I was aboutto say about my cousin Kai.
Me and him are not bloodrelated, but we've been so close
to the point where consistencyis key.
No matter where I met, I foughtwith you the same.
I still got them fought withyou, I still answer your phone
calls and everything.
(03:58):
Because consistency matters somuch with people.
Because he called me one day andwas and brought up a subject.
And he knows how I stand onshit.
Like, if it's fuck you, it'sfuck you.
And and he brought up thesituation.
And I said, nigga, I ain't knowwe had beef.
(04:20):
He talking about something theway you said it.
It's like, shit, this is new tome.
This is this is uh late breakingnews to me.
I mean, because the way I lookat things is, bro, if I fuck
with you today, unless you dosome flaw shit, I'm gonna still
fuck with your ass tomorrow.
And that's the way I run shit.
(04:40):
Like, even when it comes to mykids and my kids' mothers, they
know I don't tolerate nodisrespect, period, no matter
who it comes from.
And I stand on that shit.
And the same way I give you theutmost respect is the same way I
dig it in return.
Um, and they know, like, overthe years, shit, we might trip,
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we might fall, we might, wemight fumble, we might get into
our spits and spats, but youstand on what you say, you stand
on what you do.
Like, like when I tell them,hey, if my if my child
disrespects you in any form ofuh any form or fashion, call me.
If my child is going throughsomething shit, call me.
Because when you don't call me,that's when we got a problem.
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Because consistency is key.
You want me to be consistent onmy end as a father and be there
in my child's life because Iknow they depend on me, then
don't falter on your end.
I mean, shit, we'll keep shit P.
It don't mean we fucking, itjust means we stand on business.
The only thing that we have incommon in this kit is this child
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and the welfare of this childand making sure they're
productive in society and makingsure they grow and nurtured and
they get taught the valuablelessons that they get taught.
Relationship-wise, let's goahead and keep this shit P.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andtell you, I'm a big ass Leo man
shit.
When I care, I care.
When you start showing me thatyou don't care, you move and
(06:08):
funny, this, that, and thethird.
Don't say shit when I startfalling back.
Because you started showing mesome flaw shit.
Cause like I tell people, Isaid, shit, I am the worst
example, period.
It's like, like, I tell them,like, if if we are intimate, if
we fucking, if we doing thewhoop-to-woop, we done a
(06:28):
situation ship, I'ma keep shitthe same throughout.
You know what I mean?
But I mean there's differentlevels of whatever, whatever.
That's like I told him, I said,shit, if I I'm I'm big on this.
If I call you for help, I reallyneed it.
Same way if you call me if yougot a flat tie.
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Access is access.
You get what I'm saying?
If you call me at 2 o'clock inthe morning and you tell me you
got a flat tie, you expect me toget my ass about that
motherfucking bed, which I amgoing to do and come and drop
whatever the fuck I'm doing.
I don't give a fuck how tired Iam.
I'm gonna be there.
But now, this is where the shitgets funky.
(07:09):
Now you tell me you got two flatties, and you ain't called me.
Who the fuck did you call?
What nigga did you call?
Oh, I just called a troll truck.
But I ain't gonna talk, I ain'tgot no call, no notification, no
nothing.
To me, to we the way I look atit, and I'm I'm pretty sure a
lot of y'all out there thatlisten to me, y'all steppers,
(07:31):
not y'all imitation crab meatass motherfuckers.
Not the ones that got downstepped with me everywhere it'll
go, and the way you got downover there nodding your head,
you know I'm about to drop someshit.
If you didn't call me, whatnigga did you call?
Cause I know damn well you ain'tgot them just, oh, I just handle
it myself.
I know you sleep, I know you'retired.
Nah, but I ain't getting nonotification about it.
(07:54):
I ain't got them put on my capeand say, Dunter the dun, I'm on
my way, I'm on your rescue.
So who did you tell that you hada goddamn flat tire?
Who did you tell that you had abad day?
I mean, stand on that shit.
Because when I'm having a badday, shit, you expect me to come
to you because you're my mysituation shit, because you're
(08:15):
my event, you're my safe place,you're my shit, let's go ahead
and say it.
You're my keep it pee.
Because the day that you don'tcall me and notify me, that
means shit.
I lost my position to anothermotherfucker.
You ain't keep me updated.
You ain't let me know you weresafe.
You ain't let me know you werehome safe.
Little shit.
(08:36):
Because like like I tell peopleall the time, man, consistency
is fucking motherfucking key.
Because if you if I if I if Ishowed you I was tender from the
beginning, then next thing Iknow I switch up.
That ain't consistent.
Nigga, you a fake and phallon,you a nigga, you an actor.
(08:56):
To me.
I stand on shit.
If I talk to you, I fuck withyou.
If I don't, I don't fuck withyou.
I will treat, I will keep shitpushing and act like you don't
fucking exist to me.
Ain't gonna be no switch up.
If you flaw, you flaw.
Shit, stand on that shit.
Don't be trying to fake andpretend like, oh, I'm just
(09:18):
having a bad day.
Shit, then say you're having abad day.
Don't just leave me out in agoddamn like I'm supposed to
guess what the fuck is going onwith you.
Let me know what's up.
Because let me tell you likethis, it's only so much silence
that I can take.
It's not, it's it's lack of likenotifications I can take.
(09:42):
They go ahead and keep it peebecause shit.
It is what it is.
Stand on that shit.
Because like I like like I eventold my ex-wife, if my I got an
attitude one day that I didn'tknow my son had a game.
She said, Well, John, I thoughtyou were tired, I thought you
were asleep.
I don't care.
Let me let me tell you that I'mtired.
Because nine times out of ten, Iwon't tell you I'm tired.
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I'll suck it the fuck up andmake sure my ass is there
because I know my son depends onme being there or me even saying
I called, I watched throughFaceTime because I was on my way
to work.
Like you said, consistencybecause these kids see
consistency.
Like I tell my sons all thetime, shit, hey man, tap in.
If you got some shit going on,let's talk about it.
(10:26):
Because people see the way youmove, the way you the way you do
shit.
You know what I'm saying?
And when you start tweaking andyou start doing this, that, and
the third, shit, they startsaying, what the fuck going on?
Shit, my antennas out, my littlespidey sensors tingling.
Because you done switched up ontheir ass.
And nobody likes to be switchedup on.
(10:49):
Because most people likeconsistency.
That's like I told amotherfucker, I said, yeah, I
might got them go out and party,I might go out and drink, shit,
but that's very rarely.
But next thing you know, you seeme going out every motherfucking
night, we got a motherfuckingproblem.
It means you out here searching,you on a hunt.
If I talk to you every day, ifI've been saying, hey, how you
(11:10):
doing?
What's going on, what's going onwith your day, blah, blah, blah,
blah.
That's consistent.
Next thing you know, you don'thear from me today.
Shit, it's like, oh shit, myantennas out.
Did I say something wrong?
Did I do something wrong?
Did I is this motherfucker notfeeling me?
Whatever.
Consistency is key.
(11:32):
Because that shit is some flawshit.
That shit is some fake ass shit.
That shit is some imitation crabmeat shit through and through.
Because there's no way that youcan switch up on me overnight.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andkeep it, I'm gonna keep it a
(11:53):
bulk with you.
If you fake as fault, stay fakeas fault.
Because that's your consistency.
If you a sneaky bitch, stayconsistent.
If you're if you're a get moneynigga, stay consistent.
Because I mean, us as humanbeings, yes, we deal with life
(12:15):
in different situations to wherewe migrate through life in
different aspects.
But consistency is key.
Because I'm gonna go ahead andkeep it a bug.
I know y'all hate for me to makethese sexual analogies, but
consistency.
If I'm hitting you with strongdick every fucking night, and
(12:38):
you hitting me with goddamn aquafino every fucking night, next
thing you know, I ain't had itfor a week.
The fuck switched up.
Like one of my homegirls calledme about a dude she was dealing
with.
She talking about some shit, andthis nigga used to ask me to
hang out, kick it with him,parlay with him, politic with
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him.
You know, we had our little guynow, you know, my little whoot
the woot, ha da ha.
Next thing you know, he goingthrough some shit.
You going through some shit.
But when you were talking toher, you were going through some
shit also.
But now all of a sudden youcan't talk to her because you're
going through some shit.
Normal life shit.
(13:19):
So if you ain't telling her, whoyou telling?
Like I said, motherfuckers bepaying attention to the way you
fucking move.
Because, let me tell yousomething.
I will walk through a room andact like certain individuals
that don't exist.
I am that asshole.
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I am the epitome of Leo.
I am the epitome.
Because, like, once you show mesome fallout shit, it's fuck
you.
Hey, you cool, but you cool overthere.
Exit stage left.
I'm sorry, that's right.
My bad, because I don't thatmeans you're right, I'm wrong.
So that means you're going left.
(14:00):
But I mean, like we say, standon this shit.
Respect your shit.
Because when you're notconsistent, nobody pays
attention to what you bel whatyou say.
They don't believe what you say.
They they can't expect the theway you you're supposed to react
to certain shit.
So why should they fuck with youthe way you want them to fuck
with you?
(14:21):
Why should they fuck with you onthose type of terms and to that
extent if every time youswitching up every which way you
move, because that's theircomfort zone.
That's like when you had toswitch jobs.
Nobody likes to switch up.
It makes them uneasy, it makesthem nervous, it makes them hang
(14:42):
with anxiety.
And nobody likes to beuncomfortable in situations that
they already are used to.
They know what to expect.
They they might tweak this wayor tweak that way, change up
this way, change up that way,but they know what to expect
because the expectationexpectation is already there.
(15:05):
The bargaining is already there.
The explanations sometimes don'tneed to be explained, just need
to be thoroughly examined.
I mean, shit, like I it look itlike I look at my life.
I was consistent for so manyyears, I showed so many uh so
(15:27):
many traits, but through certainsituations and certain things
and trials and tribulations thatI've been through have had made
me look to my tweaked and lookedat my views on different things.
But regardless of the way Icare, the way I move, the way I
cut motherfuckers off, I amconsistent with it.
(15:50):
There's no deviation because youknow what to expect from me.
Like I tell somebody, I said, Icare until you force me not to
care.
I fuck with you until you startshowing me why I shouldn't fuck
with you.
And that's the way I gotta lookat things because it's what I've
(16:11):
been taught to sit back andwatch.
It's chess never checkers.
Because you know how which way apawn's gonna move, you know
which way a knight's gonna move,you know which way a rook's
gonna move, you know which way abishop's gonna move.
The king is still gonna move thesame way.
Because we're all kings in oursame light.
(16:31):
Do just some of y'all act likefucking queens.
I can't I can't take that awayfrom you.
But just because you you playthe role of a king does not mean
you're the absolutely a king.
I mean shit.
A lot of these, uh shit, I ain'teven gonna hit on that shit.
That shit gonna take me down awhole nother fucking tangent.
(16:52):
Because, like, I mean, like wesaid in a uh previous episode,
you got hustles and imitationcrab meat.
Shit, if I gotta get somethingdone, I'm getting out there and
grinding.
I don't give a fuck how tired Iam.
What the fuck I got going on.
Shit, but I gotta I gotta getthis shit going.
Because I mean, my my closepartners tell me, shit, Jay,
shit, if you call me and youtell me a plan shit, boy, we
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know that shit finna make somemoney.
Anything you do, you put yourfull effort behind it because
you you you believe in thatshit.
Because I started shootingvideos not too long, like of
shit, a while ago.
And you can see my progression,my embeddement, because I wasn't
satisfied.
Just as I'm like, it's like Ipush myself to be better because
(17:38):
I feel like if I becomestagnant, there will be there
will be no night life.
Because how can I expect my kidsto push for their goals and aim
for the stars if I'm so happybeing here on earth and ever and
never try to chase my dreams,also?
So if I'm consistently tellingthem push, push, push, and I'm
(17:58):
not showing them the same signs,is that not, is that being
consistent?
If I'm saying, oh, you can doit, you can, and they see me
push, push, push, then just giveup, like, dad, you okay?
You go, you alright, you good,blah blah blah.
Some people you know somepeople's hands before they even
play it.
You get what I'm saying?
(18:21):
But like I tell people all thetime, shit, if I put, if I'm
showing you I care, I'm hittingyou up every day, I'm seeing how
your day is going, that means Icare.
I'm being consistent.
But when you throw a monkeywrench in my plans and you start
shooting my little kite out ofthe sky, shit, you say you think
I'm still gonna be consistent,or I'm gonna start slacking off.
(18:43):
It's just like traffic, justlike a bumping road.
Shit.
It's just like a boxing match.
You're gonna knock the shit outof me.
It's like, oh shit, I waswinning all these other rounds,
but now shit, you done dialedback.
What happened?
Who else has your attention?
Who else has your interest?
Because, like, I mean, Nipseysaid it best.
(19:08):
A person that loves you todaycan love someone else tomorrow.
Right?
But uh a hundred dollar bill isgonna be a hundred dollar bill
tomorrow.
It's consistent.
Don't mean it's gonna spend thesame, but it's consistently the
same.
And like my dad before, like mylet's let's go ahead and get
(19:31):
that clear.
My my not my biological father,the individual I identify as my
dad, used to tell me, blooddon't make you family, and
family don't make you blood.
But it's the bonds that you makewith people that make you
family.
Once they show you they'reconsistently there, they
consistently have your back,that's what you consider family.
(19:55):
Because when I was going throughmy life, he was consistently
there.
If I had trouble with my car, hewas consistently there.
If I needed somebody, if Ineeded a ride to work, he was
consistently there.
If I fucked up or I got out ofpocket, he was consistently
there to give me somestraightening.
Not saying that he had to, buthe he was being consistent.
(20:18):
When I was going through thisshit and I spoke to my real
father for the first fuckingtime in 23 years of my
motherfucking life, I'm 39 now.
He said, fuck that nigga.
I'm your motherfucking daddy,I'm proud of you, I love you,
and I will forever be your daddyto the day I die.
He was showing me consistency asa man, as a father figure, as a
(20:41):
role model that I had to learnfrom, that I needed to learn
from.
Flaws and all.
Because we eat our shit.
You take ownership with the fuckyou fucked up.
If you didn't, shoot nigga, youfucked up.
Why the fuck are you here if youain't being consistent?
Nigga, you consistently breatheand you consistently take a shit
every day.
You consistently stand up whenyou pee.
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I mean, some of y'all got themsit down, but shit, that's a
different story and a differentnotion.
But it's consistency.
It's consistency.
So are you really beingconsistent?
I mean, can you consistently geta paycheck, you consistently go
to that job, you consistentlydepend on that job to make sure
(21:22):
you got a check on Friday, butyou can't be consistent, you
can't be consistent on the wayyou move, the way you operate.
To me, you a fan.
But that's an abbreviation for afuck ass nigga or a band, a
bitch ass nigga.
Because I mean, it's like I tellpeople all the way, if you ain't
consistent, say the fuck fromaround me.
Because I don't need no goddamnfake love, I don't need no
(21:44):
imitation.
I'm talking about no matterwhich caliber you stand on, no
matter whether you goddamnblood, family, the motherfucking
female I'm fucking with, ahomeboy, homegirl, whatever.
Be motherfucking consistent.
If you ain't consistent, get thestay the fuck away from me.
And I stand on that shit.
Because my kids depend on me tobe there every day, sitting
(22:05):
there, no matter what the fuckwe go through.
Like I tell them shit, we can gothrough this shit together.
Consistency.
No matter what the fuck it is,consistency.
Because you expect me to call at7:30.
You expect me to be there everyfucking day.
You expect me to be there, belike, hey man, stand the fuck
up, tighten the fuck up.
Hey, baby, I'm here.
Like my daughter calls me allthe time.
(22:25):
My daughter says, if I if Iain't got no motherfucking
daddy, what I need homegirlsfor, or what I need friends for
when I got you.
Because baby, I won't be hereall the time.
But while you here, I'll be thatlike you look to.
I'll be cons I'll consistentlybe motherfucking here, standing
10 toes down for when you fallto tell you to stand the fuck
(22:48):
back up.
We can get through this.
No matter what the fuck you gothrough.
I tell my sons that shit too.
Hey, tighten up, lock the fuckin.
Because they expect me to tellthem that shit.
Because they know, hey, youmight trip, you might fall, but
you gonna consistently get backup.
As long as you hear my voice inyour ear, you will consistently
(23:11):
stand back up.
Because to this day, if I fuckup, I consistently hear my
daddy, my words in my ear.
Because thank y'all forlistening to Fold Stepwood Only
We out.
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