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Raw, unfiltered, and unapologetically real—this episode dives headfirst into the messy reality of modern dating culture after the host discovers he's trending on social media for being "too short to have an ego that big." What follows is a passionate exploration of why physical attributes should never dictate personality or confidence levels, and how society's judgments often miss what truly matters in human connection.

With brutal honesty, we confront the epidemic of gossip that plagues male friendships and dating circles. Why do people only share the negative aspects of past relationships while conveniently forgetting what attracted them in the first place? Why do so many seek partners who physically resemble their exes while claiming to want something completely different? These contradictions expose the fundamental dishonesty in how we process relationship experiences.

The conversation shifts to a profound relationship metaphor: relationships are sundaes, with mutual respect as the foundation, shared experiences as the ice cream and toppings, and sex merely as the cherry on top—visible but actually the smallest component. At 39, the host has learned that prioritizing physical connection over emotional depth leads to an exhausting cycle of casual encounters that ultimately feels empty and purposeless. What we should be seeking instead are partners who push us toward our goals, support our ambitions, and complement our weaknesses with their strengths.

Ready for some truth that might make you uncomfortable but could change how you approach relationships? Listen now, then share your thoughts with us on social media. This conversation is just beginning—and we want to hear your perspective.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, welcome to Foam Stalpers.
Only, man, we had to change upthe beat a little bit Cause I
got some shit to get off mychest.
Hey, this shit wild.
Hey.
Well, welcome to the episode.
Man, I'm on the TIP, the TIP,the motherfucking TIP.

(00:32):
So I was at work the other night.
One of my close partners.
She tell me, hey, hey, hey, hey, jackson, let me holler at you
for a second.
I said what's up?
You know, you on themotherfucking tf?
I said I said did youling hoesdone put me on the tl?
I said wow, because I mean,like, we hear a lot of
specializations, speculations,red flags, green flags, whatever

(00:54):
the fuck y'all want to callthem.
I don't know the differencebetween a red flag and a green
flag.
I know what's stopping to go, Iknow what the fuck that means,
but y'all be throwing red flagsOn the wrong shit.
But she gonna tell me Well,they really ain't say nothing
bad.
Then they ain't even got you inyour street clothes, they got
you in your uniform and theytalking about something.

(01:16):
Oh he, too short to have an egothat big.
Oh he, cocky as fuck.
Okay, let's go ahead and getthis shit straight.
I tell folks all the time that,yes, I might be short, I might
be, yay, tall to the end.
You know what I'm saying, butthat doesn't depict my

(01:40):
personality.
So why the fuck should I walkaround like I'm small, I'm
feeble, I'm fragile?
That ain't, that ain't in me,that will never be in me to be
small, because I mean, I wasalways taught to pop my shit
regardless of who's in the room.
So it's like, why should I walkaround like, hey, how we all,

(02:01):
how's everything going?
I, I am not that individualKnow where it's shaped, form or
fashion.
Because if I fuck with you, Ifuck with you.
If I don't, I don't, I justdon't give a fuck.
I mean, that's just how it is.
And then this T app.
It's real crazy howmotherfuckers can throw shit out
there so they can be highbehind a veil of false illusions

(02:27):
Because the other party won'tbe able to see it.
But it was all fine and dandyUntil we got ours.
You're like oh, y'all niggasbeen gossiping and men gossip
anyway.
Let me tell you one thing forcertain, two things for sure.

(02:48):
Number one rule hey, we stickto the code right here.
This is the number one code.
We don't pillow talk.
A lot of y'all niggas out there, be goddamn pillow talking on
the cold side of pillow and justto get a piece of the wet spot
which a lot of times y'all can'teven fucking achieve just to

(03:09):
throw another man under the bus.
I mean, well, how the fuck doesthat make you look as a man or
manly figure to pillow talk ortell this, tell that blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
Number two if you weren'tpresent during the exercise,
during the, the, the time ofcomfort, during the time of need
, during all this thing, thisthing in the third, why the fuck

(03:32):
are you goddamn commenting whenyou don't even know the whole
story, because people are onlygoing to tell you the side of
the story that they want you toknow, but anyway.
So one of my partners told, Itold one of my partners, they
tell my son hey, hey, jay.
I said what nigga, don't you goout there, goddamn, cracking
jokes, because you know you'regonna hurt some folks feelings.

(03:54):
What the fuck make you thinklittle old me gonna hurt
anybody's feelings?
Because I mean shit.
We all know every pussy ain'tthe same.
Some of them dry, some of themecho.
If y'all don't know what thefuck I mean when I say the pussy
echo is, it means, like man,you done had too many niggas up
in that motherfucker.
To where, um, you jump up inthat motherfucker, you sliding

(04:16):
in and out.
That motherfucker open up thatmotherfucker feel like a gaping
hole.
That motherfucker feel like itain't got no edges, no walls.
No, this, no that man.
They feel like you can goddamnwalk a mile that way and a mile
that way and never still touchan edge.
But hey, you want to comment oncertain shit, because I mean I
just don't get why people onlytell the bad shit, because the

(04:39):
only thing you're going to do isoh, shawty, you wouldn't have
fucked with him that long ifeverything he did was bad.
Oh, you wouldn't have been gotcomfortable or tried to find a
replacement that looks like himif everything was that bad.
Because I mean it's weak.
I ain't gonna lie, I got acouple of exes.
A couple of exes.

(04:59):
When I look at they new mr Mr,man, that nigga look like me.
Why, if you couldn't stand meso motherfucking much, why the
fuck did you go find a Mr Mrthat look like me?
I'm just wondering because Imean it has.
It baffles me, it catches me atshocking awe, because I mean,

(05:24):
because I'm sorry, I'm going totell you like this.
Somebody asked me hey, jack,you ever dated a white woman?
Yes, I have you ever dated aHispanic woman?
Yes, I have you ever dated aCuban?
Yes, I have.
It never will go there again.
That bitch lied all the fuckingtime.
But I mean shit.

(05:48):
They talk about something,about something.
I mean they see my youngestsons and they be like oh oh, he
look mixed.
Yes, he is mixed.
Oh, you one of them.
One of what?
Because I I'm sorry, a lot oftimes, if you don't know me,
have never met me in real life,I show expression with my face
or I might not even say shit atall to let you know that I don't
fuck with you.
So, whatever, whatever.

(06:09):
So it's like I get stigmatizedby my kids, not to the fact that
I'm a good dad, a very damngood dad, that I post my kids, I
share time with my kids, but Iget scrutinized by the fact that
I have kids.
Now, what kind of bullshit isthat?
Explain that to me females.

(06:30):
Explain it because I have asense of responsibility to make
sure I am present in my child'slife, because my father wasn't
present and I know how to fuckit felt for my father not to be
there.
I know how to fuck it felt.
But hey, do I fuck with myfather?
Fuck no.
Do I fuck with my kids?
Fuck yes.
Do my kids know theirgrandfather?

(06:52):
Fuck no, because if youcouldn't be present in your
son's life I'd be damned.
If you break my kids' hearts,you get what I'm saying, but
anyway.
So y'all decide that havingkids is a red flag.
Okay, retardedness is a redflag.

(07:12):
And we still fuck with you,retarded ass female.
Sometimes, even though we'relike man, she say she ain't mean
to, but we still give you thebenefit of the doubt.
But y'all say then we're gonna,we're gonna get.
On another subject, I'll sayokay, let's go back to this
retarded asshole.
I was dealing with thisretarded motherfucker.
Then I started realizing likeafter everything was said and

(07:34):
done, I realized how many damnthroat she done got, how many
niggas have been in her throat.
Oh my god, I didn't know thisbitch was a goddamn like a
gobbler.
I mean, I didn't know thisbitch was a goddamn like a
gobbler.
I mean, I didn't know thismotherfucker goddamn got her
face painted on a regular.
I didn't know that you goddamnwent to the soul circus and
really caught souls on the face.
I just didn't know this.

(07:55):
And then you want to paint meout to be the bad guy.
I don't get this.
I don't get it.
You want to lie and tell folks.
I don't push you down thestairs, bitch.
No, tell the truth.
I kicked, because that's theone thing about me.
Don't play.
Don't play with me Because Iwon't play with you at all.

(08:18):
But anyway, we're going to getoff my bullshit.
But then we got so many men outhere that play the both sides.
I mean one thing for certain,two things for sure I never lie
on my dick.
Well, well, we got a lot ofmales and females out here that

(08:39):
will lie on their genitalia, andI don't get it, because it's
like what the fuck do you gainon saying, oh, I fucked her, he
fucked him, oh, his dick small,his pussy dry, da-da-da Nigga.
First of all, silence speaksvolumes a lot more than words,

(09:00):
because someone say, oh, Ithought you used to fuck with me
, man, I don't fuck with her nomore.
Oh, why, man, shit, I justdon't fuck with her no more.
That leaves the option tocuriosity, because if you didn't
say anything bad, because Itell people all the time I wish
that person the best of luck orI will say, man, shit, man, I

(09:21):
hope that bitch, because I can'thope that bitch cuts to catch
the bubonic plate.
I almost couldn't get that shitout.
It's like I bet, man, I hopethat bitch goddamn get water
pulled on her, because the bitcha witch.
Um, it's like why what's thepoint of talking when there's no
reason to talk?
Because, regardless of the goodtimes or bad times, nobody's

(09:43):
going.
A lot of people won't tell youoh shit, she did a magical thing
for me.
Well shit, why'd you pick thisperson over this person?
Because a lot of people don'trealize.
People ask me all the time oh,what made you marry her?
I say shit At the time.
Shit, she was doing things thatother motherfuckers didn't help
me do.

(10:05):
The motherfuckers was moreinterested in helping me build
or me becoming a safe place formy kids, because she knew how
much my kids meant to me or howmuch I wanted to be a father,
for my kids to be there and I'dbe there for them constantly and
that and so for somebody tosupport a dream and an ambition

(10:29):
that big, or a goal that big,puts you on a pedestal above
almost others.
Not how good you can suck adick not good.
How good you throw thatmotherfucker back and how good
it looks and the recoil and thatmotherfucker just keep throwing
back at you.
How many times y'all goingtoday.
It's not like I tell people allthe time this shit built like a
sunday.

(10:49):
You're gonna have the ice cream, you're gonna have the
sprinkles, but you're gonna tohave the sprinkles, but you're
going to have the cherry on top.
The way I break down arelationship is the foundation
is how much you fuck with thatperson, how much that person
fuck with you.
Then you get to the scoops ofthe ice cream, like the bananas
and shit, the add-ons, like oh,has that motherfucker ever had

(11:10):
your back?
Has that motherfucker beenthere when you needed him More
than anybody else?
Can you depend on this person?
Can you laugh and joke withthis person?
Will this person got them?
Throw some bullshit up in yourface when certain things go by?
Does the person Go off of yourflaws Like Do they leech off

(11:30):
your flaws?
Because it's like oh, nigga,you da da, da, da, da man, who
the fuck wants to hear thatconstantly?
I don't.
So you can shut the fuck uptalking.
Just they leech off your flawsbecause it's like oh nigga, you
da, da, da, da da man, who thefuck wants to hear that
constantly?
I don't.
So you can shut the fuck uptalking to me because I will
tell you shut the fuck uptalking to me, because whatever
you're saying is irrelevant.

(11:50):
So back to the back to thenature of the hand.
So, when you got startedgetting that, that's the, the
ice cream, that's the toppingsand shit.
Now, once you get to the cherry,the cherry is the sex, because
the cherry is at the verypinnacle, but it's the smallest
key.
Yes, it's above everything,because you have to have me
satisfied, you have to have meintrigued, you have to have me
wanting.
Yes, but it's the smallest partof it.

(12:13):
Because why the fuck should Iput the sex over everything else
?
Because if you don't haveeverything else, if you don't
have a good foundation, and thatshit ain't gonna work, that
shit ain't gonna add up, thatshit ain't gonna do this out of
the third, because I mean, likeas a man, I mean we look at
certain things, we look intocertain aspects.

(12:34):
I've been with motherfuckersthat have cannot cook a lick,
but guess what they try evenwith the smallest things like
hamburger helper.
Then they start trying to levelup with each thing.
They might not have to docertain things, but they're
gonna try to make it better socertain things can work out.
Or I put in the retrospectmotherfucker might not like

(12:55):
vacuuming, but they don't mindwashing clothes.
Hey, to take some of thepressure off of you, man, I take
some of these chores off yourhands because I know you don't
like them.
Hey, I don't like we're doinglaundry, I don't like you know
the whole aspect of you, knowfolding clothes and all that
bullshit, but you take that offmy hand.
It's a quick pro quo.

(13:17):
That means, like you do thisfor me, I do that for you.
It's a.
It's a, it's a team, it's apartnership.
That's what the fuck is reallyabout.
If we just fucking, we justfucking.
But I mean I'm like at this bigage of shit.
I just had a birthday.
Y'all just turned 39, um, butit is the age of 39, sex is the

(13:41):
bottom tier.
It's honestly like fucking withmad, random bitches, fucking
with like just fucking the fuck.
That's pointless, that'sabsolutely fucking pointless.
And it mind boggles me how manymen be out here At my age and
older and it's like Bro shit, Igotta hit some.
I gotta hit some.
I gotta Bro shit, I gotta getlike Bro.

(14:03):
What's the point?
What are you gaining from that?
Honestly, what are you gainingfrom just Fucking this
motherfucker Just to get a wetdick For 15 minutes?
30 minutes An hour?
I mean shit.
If you got now feeling frisky,you get on that hen and you get
that honey pack and you get thatviagra all in your system all
at once, or you pop a perk shit,you get that perky dick and you
just go for hours and hours andhours.

(14:26):
But it's mentally draining.
It's socially draining becauseyou're trying to keep up with
this motherfucker, thismotherfucker, this motherfucker
and what she likes versus whatshe likes.
Oh, I got to make time for her,I got to make time for her.
It gets draining to the pointwhere, like I tell people all
the time, I sit back and I chill.
If I have somebody to talk to,I have somebody to talk to.

(14:49):
If I'm involved with somebody,I'm involved with somebody.
If I'm don't, I don't.
Because, guess what?
My biggest supporters are mykids, because my kids look up to
me and they suddenly like, hey,daddy, thank you for doing so
much as you do To hear somebodyappreciate you in everything

(15:10):
that you do, not just trying tostart an argument every two days
.
One day that shit gets toxic,that shit gets aggravating
Because, like I tell people allthe time, man, nobody wants a
toxic motherfucker involved intheir life.
Nobody wants a bum.
No money, no, nobody wants aband.
No man wants a fan.
Oh, I know y'all don'tunderstand those terms.

(15:31):
A band is a bitch-ass nigga ora fuck-ass nigga or bum-ass
nigga or some shit like that.
Nobody wants a mick, mic, macScallywag.
You know what I'm saying?
No, bottom feeding, leech assmotherfucker.
A motherfucker that just won'tgo out there and get they own.
A motherfucker that doesn'thave dreams and ambitions.
A motherfucker that don't havegoals.
And it's like what are you herefor?

(15:55):
Are you just a mouth breatherbecause you have no drive?
You're not putting one foot infront of the other.
Are you just a mouth breatherBecause you have no drive?
No, no, you're not putting onefoot in front of the other.
To where you're trying to makeyourself better, to where you're
not chasing a goal, to whereyou don't see the finish line
coming Like OK, I did this race,what's next?

(16:16):
Ok, I did this race, what'snext, because I mean, I like I
had somebody to tell me theother day that that's a big
supporter of what I do, um, thatI need to go back into my gun
shit and I need to start pushingmy privatized security and I
didn't listen.
Next thing, I know somebodyasked me to work a gig and now
I'm trying to get the ballrolling on that because I know

(16:39):
once I start, they're going tokeep coming, they're going to
keep hiring, they're going tokeep me there for gigs, they're
going to keep me there for shows, they're going to keep me here.
They're going to keep me therebecause I have my LLC, I have
everything in place, I have myDUNs, I have everything in place
and the training background andthe background to do so.

(17:01):
Because a lot of people don'thave those goals and ambitions,
don't have things that make themhappy, don't have things that
intrigue them, don't have thingsthat pushes, that pushes them
to become better.
They don't have those drivesand expectations out of life.
Because they don't, they don'thave the good support system

(17:22):
behind them.
Because a lot of people fail torealize having that partner is
the person that's going to pushyou when you don't want, to push
yourself when you don't want totry to achieve certain things.
So I mean, what's the point?
I'm just trying to figure thisshit out.

(17:44):
And I'm trying to figure outwho the fuck put me on this
motherfucking t-app.
Because I mean shit, quithiding behind smoking mirrors.
Shoot, shoot me a message.
I'm trying to figure this out.
How many y'all motherfuckersout there on the t-app?
I'm just trying to figure thatout because, in my mind, where
are we at nowadays?
Because we gotta achieve thesedreams, we gotta achieve these

(18:06):
ambitions, we gotta achievethese goals and you gotta make
sure you got somebody therethat's just not there for the
benefit.
They there for the long haul,because everybody ain't meant
for the long haul.
Some people are seasonal, somepeople are bi-weekly, some
people are just goddamn, atwinkle in your eye.
Once it's there, it disappears.

(18:29):
And that's where a lot of peoplefail to realize where we at in
social um society, because a lotof people don't understand.
Well, well, you know what Fuckthat they understand?
They just don't give a fuck andthey just selfish.
And it's like where are we at?
Why are we doing this?
Why are we so selfish?
Why are we so self-centeredabout self instead of, you know,

(18:51):
pushing to make each otherbetter, because I mean, I
understand everybody's not meantfor everybody, but where are we
at?
Where are we going?
What are you here for?
You here to get down?
Are you just here to get dickeddown just for a little bit?
Are you here for just dickappointments?
You know what I mean?
Let it be known, because guesswhat, if you just here for a

(19:14):
dick appointment, shit, I'mpretty sure another nigga will
give you that dick appointment,because that's not what I'm
looking for.
And so many people fail torealize that they think man, all
men are saying they just wantto fucking lay up on you.
Nah, bitch, it's the onesyou're looking for.
And same thing for a nigga.
You keep goddamn going tryingto stick your dick in everything
.
That's how you gonna come outburning.

(19:35):
God, thank, thank you god thatI have made it 39 fucking years
in my life and never beenfucking burnt, because I know a
lot of niggas didn't make itthat far.
Um, because I mean shit, a lotof motherfuckers didn't make it
because you got some grimy asspeople out here.
I'll tell y'all a littlesituation that shit I laughed at

(19:57):
when I found out about um backwhen I was younger.
I mean you know me and my poemboys got down hanging around and
we all got to talking.
You know we sitting aroundrunning a guy, now campfire, or
we sitting around the guy, nowyou know the grill and shit.
You know eating and drinking,laughing, joking, whatever,

(20:19):
whatever.
And my and one of my partner'scousins comes up and he's
telling us about a scenario,about what happened to him.
He told me something yeah, man,I thought this dude was my
homeboy.
Shit, goddamn.
We went out drinking me, my oldlady, him blah, blah.
I got too fucked up so he droveme back to my house.

(20:40):
Bro, tell me why this nigga inthere smashing my old lady bro,
I said what you mean he smashed,bro, he smashed her in our bed.
While I was fucked up drunk,bro, I'm talking about I was
stretched out in the goddamnliving room.
Bro woke up with a hangover andI'm talking about woke up, she
butt, booty, ass naked.

(21:00):
This nigga ain't nowhere to befound.
I said, god damn.
I said, bro, how long you knewthis dude Bro?
Shit, only knew him about two,three weeks.
There you go.
That's a violation already offtop.
That's a violation off top.
If you just met thismotherfucker, why you bringing
him to your house, why youbringing him somewhere sacred.
Are you bringing him to yourhouse?
Why are you bringing himsomewhere sacred?

(21:22):
Why are you bringing him all onthis thing and into your area
and into your element that youcomfortable in?
Because I'm sorry, like I tellpeople all the time, your home
is your peace, your home is yourkingdom.
So why the fuck am I bringingmiscellaneous niggas Around my
kingdom that I just met and thenwe trying to figure out why the

(21:45):
fuck I'm fucking with you andthen you do some shady ass shit.
Then I know I can't trust you.
Then it's like what the fuck?
I mean, you got to understand.
What was it.
What was it, lady, sir KingArthur, sir lancelot fell out
all about guinevere.
I mean, when sir lancelotstarted fucking guinevere, king

(22:09):
arthur ain't like it.
You had him banished.
So I mean, shit, you got tounderstand.
Females have toppled fuckingempires just based off of that
motherfucking box.
So what makes you think shewon't break up a friendship that
motherfucker might be trying toget?
Get back.
And a lot of people don'tunderstand that, because people

(22:31):
are just so self-centered andself-focused that they don't see
certain things that have beendisplayed to them and portrayed
to them and they just blind tothe aspect.
They just saying, oh, she'llnever do that.
She said she loved me.
Damn dummy.
Oh, hey, can't lie.

(22:53):
I've been that motherfuckingfool Because I remember shit.
I was supposed to go over tothis girl's house I've been
talking to Whoop-de-whoop-detalking to.
She told me come on out to theclub.
I was like shit.
I was pulling up, goddamn drunkso I kept calling the phone.
I had called the phone kind ofphone like three, four, five
times.
I pull up to her house.
There's a motherfucking car inthe driveway At 3 am.

(23:19):
Y'all know what happens at 3 am.
Ain't nothing to believe.
But thank y'all for listeningto me.
At Four Steps Only we out Peace.
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