March 3, 2025 • 24 mins
Join me in this enlightening episode as we dig deep into the dynamics of friendship and the significant existence of social circles. Relationships play a crucial role in shaping our personal and professional lives, impacting how we perceive ourselves and others. Not every person who enters our lives genuinely offers support. Discover how to identify true allies and the effects of surrounding ourselves with positivity. This episode features raw discussions about motivation, celebration of milestones, and how friends can either uplift or drain our energies.
Explore why blood isn't always thicker than water, and learn the beauty of chosen families. You'll hear thoughts on how real friends should act and the importance of reciprocation in relationships. This dynamic conversation encourages listeners to reconsider their inner circles and strive for connections that empower rather than hinder growth. Let every interaction foster a positive energy exchange, and remember—the right friends can help push you toward the life you've always envisioned. Tune in now, and don't forget to reflect on who belongs in your circle! Share your thoughts and subscribe for more engaging conversations!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
okay, yeah, hey, welcome to four steppers.
Only on motivational monday,what's happening?
Hey, this is jack, your hostwith the most, or your host with
the least, the shortest host,hey.
But I would want to tell y'allgood morning.
Top of the morning, hey, grandrisings on this motivational
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monday.
Fucking circles, it's not asquare, it's a circle.
It's a circle.
If y'all don't know thereference to that shit, y'all
need to go back and do y'all'sfilm history.
But anyway, circles, it's realcrazy how circles work.
But on a side note, shit, I hadto call my partner just a
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second ago, um, and tell himwhat we're, what, what?
Um, the podcast is actuallyranked right now, which is
fucking crazy to be just in oursecond year with only 53
episodes out.
I mean, I ain't no popularmotherfucker, I'm just a
motherfucker that talks shit.
I just, I just don't know, beenthrough a lot of shit, talk a
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lot of shit, and this is what weat ranked globally 10, 10 out
of 3.5 million podcasters aroundthe world top 10.
Now, let that sit there andmarinate.
I had to call my partner andtell him hey, bro, shit, hey, I
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want to tell you, man, I justlooked at my goddamn pie.
I got my woot, woot, woot, woot, woot, but we ranked top 10.
And this is where the circlesaspects come into play.
He said man, I salute you,we're going to keep going up,
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we're going to celebrate thisweekend, we're going to do this
shit.
He said then we're going tochop it up.
The reason why that resonates sohard with me is because of the
conversations me and him have,and everything ain't glitz, glam
and glory, everything ain't gotno man.
I'm complaining about this, I'mcomplaining about my job.
It's the salutes that we giveeach other when we give you get
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a promotion, you get a new job.
Or I tap in with you whenyou're going through some shit,
you got a loss of loved one, andI tell you hey bro, shit, hit
me up if you need some.
Hey bro, you need to get outthe house, let's go eat some.
Hey bro, shit, shit.
I'm coming through just to fuckwith you.
Or even on your businessventures.
We pressure you to makeyourself better.
Um, and it's crazy how that shitworks, because everybody in
your circle ain't really in yourcircle, if you understand what
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that means.
Um, like my circle and over theyears have become like crazy.
Um, because just because thatyou fuck with them don't mean
they fuck with you.
Um, my circle constantly isgetting smaller to the point
where it's damn near pinpoint.
Because just because they fuckwith you on a different, a
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certain level, don't mean youinvited to every aspect of their
lives, don't mean they honestlywant to see you win in life,
don't.
It doesn't mean that they thatlike when you pick up the phone
tomorrow hey bro, shit, I'mfucked up right now.
Shit, can you let me hold 20till we get paid.
That's when true aspects come up.
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Come in, because if I only hearfrom you when you want
something, you truly and trulydon't fuck with me.
You truly don't fuck with me.
That just means I'm aconvenience for you, that means
I'm a, I'm an atm for you.
Only go to the atm when youwant money.
But if you, if you there was,for this wildlife we call a
roller coaster.
Or should I say that the otherway around?
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This life we call arollercoaster because you have
your ups, you have your downs,you have your bends, you have
your breaks, you're gonna,you're gonna go fast, you're
gonna go slow, you're gonna dothat, all the the zip zaps and
this thing.
And third, but it's.
How consistent do you stay onthat ride?
Because life is a bitch.
It just depends on who you fuckwithin this lifestyle.
Because my father just once,once upon a time, told me blood
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does not make you family, it'sthe bonds you make that make you
family.
So, like my partner, mo man me,mo me and mo um met a couple
years back and it was on somevideography type shit, like when
I used to be a videographer, um, and shit, he was asking the
ins and outs of this shit.
Oh, this, that.
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And third, I told him hey, bro,and it was on some videography
type shit, like when I used tobe a videographer, and shit, he
was asking the ins and outs ofthis shit.
Oh, this, that.
And the third.
I told him hey bro, shit, justpull up on me and I'll throw you
all the packs I got.
It wasn't there.
No, I'm going to charge you forit.
I just want to see somebodyelse take this shit to the next
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level and win or utilize it tomake themselves better.
It's like my partner, glassworkfk, savage, shout out to you bro
, we ain't talked, we ain'tchopped it up in a minute, but
shit, that's my a, that's mybrother, for life, y'all.
Um, like, I got a couplepartners that I like my big bro
bu, no matter how, how bumpythis road gets, no matter what
the trials and tribulations weget, we always got a scheme to
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make some money.
And it's crazy because if I seeone of my partners post
something, something they didsomething, they congratulate
something, they push this, that.
And the third, shit, that'slike my partner, dj Chimney and
King Blanco.
That's like my other partner,my grade school partner, bishop
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yeah, y'all done heard him on acouple here on the episodes of
here on the four steppers onlypodcast.
Um, then he brought his sonover and his crew and then we
elevated that's Key Wealthy.
Uh, jaquan, oh, that's Tony-O.
Oh, I think that's Tony-O.
Follow him on all those socialmedia and shit.
And it's like we grow each otherbecause that's the family that
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we develop, that's the circlethat we develop, because a lot
of times it's not always whatyou can take away from something
.
It's how you build as a family,it's how you talk to
individuals, how you build as afamily, it's how you talk to
individuals, how you build thatcircle, because a lot of people
don't have the people in theirfamilies to go to about
questions.
They trust the people that theyfuck with to answer those
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questions, to answer thosedifficult questions.
Hey, am I doing the right thing?
Am I making the right choice?
Hey, bro, shit on your honestopinion, am I?
Is this the right move or thebest move for me?
Because you got to realize, alot of people don't grow up with
father figures or motherfigures that are beneficial to
their lives or productive fortheir lives and their
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experiences.
Um, because a lot of peoplewill listen to the wrong
individuals that give them thewrong advice.
Because guess what, like I saidbefore, everybody that fuck
with you don't really fuck withyou, everybody that fuck with
you ain't your friend.
There might be an enemy,because that person might give
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you some bad information,because they want to see you
fall and stumble on your on yourown face, on your own face.
But sometimes, like we got totell our partners who we truly
fuck with, to lift your head upthat's like I be on some of my
partner's asses Like, bro, youcan blow, bro, you can sing.
Bro, sing your motherfucking assoff, bro, when you going to
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start doing something, when yougoing to start doing your
acoustic renditions, bro,because I like live shit, bro.
That's what I want to do.
Not no hating type shit.
It's a motivational type shit,because those people that truly
fuck with you, those people thattruly in your circle, will
motivate you to be a betterversion of you every day.
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That's why you got tounderstand your spouse is also
included in your circle.
That's why you gotta understandyour spouse is also included in
your circle.
Because if that motherfucker Istoxic at all Times of the day
and only sees the bad, badenergy type shit, because, hey,
energy is transferable and y'alldon't understand that shit.
Sometimes it takes somebody likethe just got down you see
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somebody doing some shit.
Hey, text your homie and tellhim congratulations, tell him
you proud of him, tell him youlove him, because sometimes you
need to hear that shit when youdon't really think like you need
to hear that shit, because Ican't tell you how many times
like my phone been dry as fuckand one of my partners got down
and said hey, bro, shit, I justwant to tap in with you and tell
you I'm proud of the individualthat you've become.
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I'm proud of it.
Hey, that's like OK, I shit, Ican't forget this person.
This person all the time textsme, tell me something.
I just want to tell you I loveyou, my handsome brother, and we
rock until the wheels come offand I fought with you.
That's a shout out to my sisterlife, shavita.
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Goddamn big v?
Um.
Because you got to understand,even through the bad shit, even
through the good shit, eventhrough bad relationships, my
sister Vito would tell me fuckthat bitch.
That bitch was a leech.
And that's sometimes what yougotta hear, because sometimes
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you get jaded and caught up inyour own thoughts or get
misconstrued because youthinking like, damn, she did do
that for me.
Damn, she did do that for me.
Damn, she did do that for me,but damn, she did do that for me
.
So you teetering on a goddamnlike a little what's that
motherfucking shit called agoddamn seesaw, because you
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caught in the middle and yougetting pulled both ways and you
don't know how to translatethat shit in your head.
And sometimes they take anoutside voice that truly fuck
with you.
They truly want to see you winin life.
So you got to understand certainpeople that fuck with you don't
really fuck with you.
Them motherfuckers are goddamnuh, we call them transformers or
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decepticons, if you know me,you know me.
If you don't, you don't if me.
If you know what a fuckingDecepticon is, hey, you know
what the fuck I'm talking about.
But anyway, a lot of themmotherfuckers want to see you
fail.
But you got those genuinepeople, those Ah, my diamond in
the rough.
If you know what that renditionis from, it's from Goddamn
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Aladdin, because he was tellingyou Shit.
That motherfucker might lookrough, your relationship might
look rough, but everythinggleams from cold when the
pressure is plied.
That's when you really got down.
Find out who really fought withyou and who really don't.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers, man, I'm telling
you like I tell people all thetime, man, I don't talk to too
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many people, no more, I don'tkick it with nobody, I don't
fake kick it.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers out here faking
the silicone titties and BBLs,or goddamn shit, them
motherfuckers goddamn faking inthe Viagra that they take to
keep their dick up, or the blueshoes that they send on the
thing, or that's.
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That's how they truly fuck withyou in real life.
Because I'm sorry shit, I ain'there to fake kick it.
I ain't here to goddamn be fakeshit.
If I fought with you, I foughtwith you.
If I got your best interest, Igot your best interest in mind.
Shit ain't no, ain't nomisconstrued when it come from
me.
So are you misconstrued it whenyou come to that person?
I know that's a goddamn wordthat y'all ain't never heard.
I'm talking about shit.
I'm a little bit country.
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I apologize about that.
You ain't going to find thatword in the dictionary, but
that's misconstrued.
In layman's terms, thedefinition of misconstrued is
you got me fucked up.
Because when people show youtheir true colors, man, that
shit make you want to goddamnfuck them up.
They make you want to put theirhands on them.
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That means you want to chokethem, motherfuckers.
That means you want to goddamnbox them out.
That means you want to givethem a fade.
But what I'm also telling youat the same time just because
you give them that fade, don'tmake them an enemy.
Don't mean they poisonous toyour emotion.
Don't mean they goddamn theypoisonous to your emotion.
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Don't mean they goddamn theytoxic to your situation.
Sometimes that's the.
That's the best way we handleour frustration with people
instead of we man, we might haveto get a little dirty, we might
have to scuff each other up,but at the end of the day, we
might, hey, we might cuss eachother out the shit.
I don't fucking know.
Oh you, hey.
Or I might say you fuck you oldpiss-ass motherfucker, old
bitch-ass motherfucker.
But them fighting words, Iain't going to lie to you.
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You can say them shits to me.
I might have to go out thereand reach out and touch your
motherfucking ass and we mightnot be friends after that.
But you will know who trulyfought with you and who truly
not.
Because us, as human beings, weconfide certain situations with
other individuals and a lot ofpeople don't understand it.
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Because when you give peoplebullets and ammunition and you
and they truly fuck with you,they ain't gonna use it to harm
you.
They ain't gonna use it to sellyour name, hey.
But if somebody don't fuck withyou, they'll take whatever you
feed them or take a person's earthat's easily subjected and
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tell them whatever they want youto want them to believe, to
make them put a fire taste intheir mouth about you so some
people can be persuaded or turninto the enemy and turn into one
of them.
Foreign powers that you want togotten on.
You know, secular like they,they want to see your shit
implode.
They want to see your shit blowup.
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And it's crazy that it comes tothat point, because when trust
is involved in certainsituations in your circle, it's
what you determine, what youbase it off of and what you grow
off of.
Because, like I've said before,just because they fuck with you
don't mean they fuck with youand the and and the crazy part
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about that whole, that wholecircle, that circle rendition,
the, the relationship to thecircle, is because, shit, a lot
of times when you fuck withsomebody with any capacity, in
any light, any form, fashion oranything, it's supposed to be
reciprocated.
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Ah, you motherfuckers, that'sthe, that's the key thing.
Shit should never be feel, itshould never feel like I'm being
selfish or I should beone-sided.
If I truly fought with you, Ifought with you.
If it's supposed to bereciprocated, it's supposed to
be reciprocated.
What I give out is it doesn'talways come back in the same
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energy, because for every actionis opposite, but equal reaction
, but energy is not to bedestroyed.
Um, but, that being said, is,just because I fuck with you, I
give you $25 Don't mean youain't gonna have my back when
it's time to move.
Or, like I remember when I wasgrowing up, shit.
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My cousin used to tell me man,shit, I'm broke right now, fuck
dog, nigga, I ain't like to dolaundry, and literally shit.
I tell him hey, bro, shit, justdo me a favor, shit, I don't
like to do laundry.
But hey, just come help me outat the house where I can
straighten up and I'llstraighten you out.
It wasn't just because I wasjust going to throw him some
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cheese, it wasn't because I waspaying him for his company.
He was helping me outstraighten up my house.
But at the same time, I mighthave needed a company because I
might have been lonely, I mighthave been in a bad headspace and
I just needed somebody that'sfamiliar to me, that I know is a
comforting person in my life,that will tell me that they
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proud of me or they would talkthat shit to me that I needed to
hear that to infect my earlobes, to get that negative spirit
off my back, because I don'twant no fucking negative Nancy,
I don't need no Karen beside me,I don't need no negative
goddamn Barbara, goddamn Brendain my motherfucking ear, all the
fucking time on my back,telling myself I'm going to fuck
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up, I'm doing this wrong, I'mdoing that wrong.
That's somebody that you shouldnot have in in your
motherfucking circle because,like I said before, energy is
transferable.
Because when energy istransferable transferable to the
next individual shit, that thatshit is taken on to you, not
pushed out to anybody else.
That shit is taken into yourspirit.
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So when they, when theyconstantly telling you negative
shit, negative shit, negativeshit, negative shit, what are
you gonna become?
You're gonna become negative.
That's like my daddy used totell me.
If your partners are the, if themotherfuckers you hanging
around, your partners, yourhomies, whatever you want to
call them, or nothing, but likethey sitting at home, they ain't
got no job, they just want tosmoke weed, drink, pop pills, do
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cocaine, whatever they fancy istalk about.
Hey, well, boy, shit, I hitthat new hole at night.
Bro, is that the energy thatyou need to be around?
Or like the ones I saw, theones I have in my circle, the
ones that tell you bro, shit,I'm applying for this new job,
shit, what you think, man, shit,I'm going for this new position
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.
Go for it, bro, go for thatshit.
How much that shit pay if itain't?
No, if, because I mean youdon't want to be stagnant.
Or, bro, shit, I think I'm, Ithink I need to quit drinking.
And quit drinking, bro, shit, weget old man.
Shit.
You need to clean up your life,bro, shit.
You want to go to the gym, man,not today, nigga, get your ass
up.
We going to the gym.
Or your homegirl tell you bitchman, you want that fat ass,
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don't you?
So we finna go to the gym.
And shit, goddamn, we finnastunt on these hoes.
Or you got that one friend likeI'm gonna go ahead.
Hey, this is no shot, no,nothing, no shade, no, nothing.
So if you put on an outfit andthat motherfucker ain't flamed
up, or that motherfucker ain't,goddamn you know, percolating,
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or that motherfucker ain't whereit's supposed to be, and your
partner don't tell you, bro yeah, that shit ain't working, or
that motherfucker ain't hit youwith that beard, uh-uh, that
ain't cute, do you truly fuckwith that person?
Because they about to send youout the door looking like a
crash dummy?
Because I tell you, I tell youlike when I was in my um, my
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marriage there was.
It was a wonderful incidentthat happened, um, at the time,
my at the time, my ex-wife wasabout to go handle business with
her grandfather and you knowshe had on some real skimpy
short shorts.
Her ass wasn't hanging out ofnothing.
But I told her hey, you need togo fix yourself before you go
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where your grandfather is.
Because you did that out of,because, like I explained, the
tool you don't want.
I said the way conduct yourself.
In a way you want people toview you, um, because if you
don't, people will have thatnegative insight and put that
every um outline of you, eventhough, even though they don't
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know you, that's what they weregoing, that's what they know you
as.
But a lot of times.
But what that did was, once Iexplained it to her, she said,
okay, I appreciate it because,like, even with my daughter oh
my god, like they wanted me tobuy tights for her.
I don't buy tights for mydaughter at all.
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I never will, because I don'twant tights for my daughter at
all.
I never will, um, because Idon't want nobody looking at my
poopoo, um.
And, with that being said, likeI tell my sons, like I don't
know what it is honestly aboutthese y-eans, um, they be trying
to rap.
I ain't gonna hold you.
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So, instead of me being anegative dad, someone's on.
Bro, you don't want to put yourenergy into something else.
Bro, if you enjoy it, chase it,play with it, enjoy that shit.
Or I involve you in mysituation or I call with my
partners.
That is a rapper that hasactually put out albums or do
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whatever, gone to studios and Ilet them hear what you're saying
and I let them give you yourinsight.
See, that's why we call it acircle, because, just because
it's not beneficial to me but itmight be beneficial to my kids,
because if you fuck with me,truly, you fuck with my True,
you only want to see the bestout of every aspect of my life,
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not just one, and people fail torealize that.
But hey, I'm a taste.
Is everybody's not privy tobeing around your motherfucking
kids.
It's not privy, or, in Englishterms, privileged, to be around
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your kids, your family and thoseyou truly fuck with, because
you never know the, the, the howcan I put it?
The, the, the target that theyhave out there, or the mental
renditions that they put inplace, to where they say, oh
shit, if I could like that.
Some of the people are likeplagues.
They, they will share that badjuju or bad, and they'll.
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And and my partners are tellingme hey bro, shit, I ain't
feeling that motherfucker vibeor man.
Hey bro, that shit weird.
Or hey man, shit, I truly can'tfuck with that person because
they move weird, they move wonky, and a lot of times people
don't fuck with you the way youthink they fuck with you again
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because it's crazy on what theydecide or what they choose to do
, because they don't really fuckwith you.
And how do you gauge that?
The only way you gauge it is bycommunication.
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The only way you learn aboutthat is through experience.
I mean, you can't go in justtreating everybody like they're
up or they toxic or theypoisonous.
So what do you treat them?
As?
You treat them like the unknown, you treat them like they're in
the facade because you'relearning them because once, hey,
once they, once they get hit acouple check boxes or they're
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like uh-uh, uh-uh, like bro,shit.
You, hey, flag on the play,flag on the file.
Hey, you flagrant, bro, youviolating.
They start moving wonky, theystart saying wonky shit, they
start goddamn sneaking andgeeking.
Sometimes you can't takeeverybody to every function
because, like we tell you, likeI was joking with somebody the
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other day, I said that's why, inmy culture and with the way I
was raised if somebody throwinga kickback or somebody having a
little chin dig over their house, first thing before I even get
over there, hey man, who allover there that way is to see if
I truly fuck with everybodythat's over there, because I
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don't want to put myself in nobad situation.
I don't want to be in thepresence of you know toxicity,
or a ex or somebody baby daddyor a motherfucker I don't just
had a disagreement with becauseI don't want to ruin your shit,
even though that's not my trueintention.
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I just don't want thepossibility of this shit doing.
But, honestly and truly, a lotof people that fought with you
that will put you in thosepositions.
Sometimes them people reallywant you to do that shit and
people fail to realize they betrying that.
That's that they might betrying to play.
Get back, boy.
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I say I'm paranoid in themotherfucker I ain't gonna hold
you, but it's crazy how circleswork.
So just remember you got to.
You got to be careful who youexpose yourself to and bring in
your circle, because everybodyain't for you or for your
situation, hey.
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So remember that.
Remember it's supposed to bereciprocated.
It's not a square, it's acircle.
It's a circle Now.
Thank you for listening toMotivational Mondays with Jack
here on Four Steps.
Only we out.
okay, yeah, hey, welcome to four steppers.
Only on motivational monday,what's happening?
Hey, this is jack, your hostwith the most, or your host with
the least, the shortest host,hey.
But I would want to tell y'allgood morning.
Top of the morning, hey, grandrisings on this motivational
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monday.
Fucking circles, it's not asquare, it's a circle.
It's a circle.
If y'all don't know thereference to that shit, y'all
need to go back and do y'all'sfilm history.
But anyway, circles, it's realcrazy how circles work.
But on a side note, shit, I hadto call my partner just a
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second ago, um, and tell himwhat we're, what, what?
Um, the podcast is actuallyranked right now, which is
fucking crazy to be just in oursecond year with only 53
episodes out.
I mean, I ain't no popularmotherfucker, I'm just a
motherfucker that talks shit.
I just, I just don't know, beenthrough a lot of shit, talk a
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lot of shit, and this is what weat ranked globally 10, 10 out
of 3.5 million podcasters aroundthe world top 10.
Now, let that sit there andmarinate.
I had to call my partner andtell him hey, bro, shit, hey, I
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want to tell you, man, I justlooked at my goddamn pie.
I got my woot, woot, woot, woot, woot, but we ranked top 10.
And this is where the circlesaspects come into play.
He said man, I salute you,we're going to keep going up,
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we're going to celebrate thisweekend, we're going to do this
shit.
He said then we're going tochop it up.
The reason why that resonates sohard with me is because of the
conversations me and him have,and everything ain't glitz, glam
and glory, everything ain't gotno man.
I'm complaining about this, I'mcomplaining about my job.
It's the salutes that we giveeach other when we give you get
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a promotion, you get a new job.
Or I tap in with you whenyou're going through some shit,
you got a loss of loved one, andI tell you hey bro, shit, hit
me up if you need some.
Hey bro, you need to get outthe house, let's go eat some.
Hey bro, shit, shit.
I'm coming through just to fuckwith you.
Or even on your businessventures.
We pressure you to makeyourself better.
Um, and it's crazy how that shitworks, because everybody in
your circle ain't really in yourcircle, if you understand what
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that means.
Um, like my circle and over theyears have become like crazy.
Um, because just because thatyou fuck with them don't mean
they fuck with you.
Um, my circle constantly isgetting smaller to the point
where it's damn near pinpoint.
Because just because they fuckwith you on a different, a
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certain level, don't mean youinvited to every aspect of their
lives, don't mean they honestlywant to see you win in life,
don't.
It doesn't mean that they thatlike when you pick up the phone
tomorrow hey bro, shit, I'mfucked up right now.
Shit, can you let me hold 20till we get paid.
That's when true aspects come up.
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Come in, because if I only hearfrom you when you want
something, you truly and trulydon't fuck with me.
You truly don't fuck with me.
That just means I'm aconvenience for you, that means
I'm a, I'm an atm for you.
Only go to the atm when youwant money.
But if you, if you there was,for this wildlife we call a
roller coaster.
Or should I say that the otherway around?
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This life we call arollercoaster because you have
your ups, you have your downs,you have your bends, you have
your breaks, you're gonna,you're gonna go fast, you're
gonna go slow, you're gonna dothat, all the the zip zaps and
this thing.
And third, but it's.
How consistent do you stay onthat ride?
Because life is a bitch.
It just depends on who you fuckwithin this lifestyle.
Because my father just once,once upon a time, told me blood
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does not make you family, it'sthe bonds you make that make you
family.
So, like my partner, mo man me,mo me and mo um met a couple
years back and it was on somevideography type shit, like when
I used to be a videographer, um, and shit, he was asking the
ins and outs of this shit.
Oh, this, that.
(04:26):
And third, I told him hey, bro,and it was on some videography
type shit, like when I used tobe a videographer, and shit, he
was asking the ins and outs ofthis shit.
Oh, this, that.
And the third.
I told him hey bro, shit, justpull up on me and I'll throw you
all the packs I got.
It wasn't there.
No, I'm going to charge you forit.
I just want to see somebodyelse take this shit to the next
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level and win or utilize it tomake themselves better.
It's like my partner, glassworkfk, savage, shout out to you bro
, we ain't talked, we ain'tchopped it up in a minute, but
shit, that's my a, that's mybrother, for life, y'all.
Um, like, I got a couplepartners that I like my big bro
bu, no matter how, how bumpythis road gets, no matter what
the trials and tribulations weget, we always got a scheme to
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make some money.
And it's crazy because if I seeone of my partners post
something, something they didsomething, they congratulate
something, they push this, that.
And the third, shit, that'slike my partner, dj Chimney and
King Blanco.
That's like my other partner,my grade school partner, bishop
(05:31):
yeah, y'all done heard him on acouple here on the episodes of
here on the four steppers onlypodcast.
Um, then he brought his sonover and his crew and then we
elevated that's Key Wealthy.
Uh, jaquan, oh, that's Tony-O.
Oh, I think that's Tony-O.
Follow him on all those socialmedia and shit.
And it's like we grow each otherbecause that's the family that
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we develop, that's the circlethat we develop, because a lot
of times it's not always whatyou can take away from something
.
It's how you build as a family,it's how you talk to
individuals, how you build as afamily, it's how you talk to
individuals, how you build thatcircle, because a lot of people
don't have the people in theirfamilies to go to about
questions.
They trust the people that theyfuck with to answer those
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questions, to answer thosedifficult questions.
Hey, am I doing the right thing?
Am I making the right choice?
Hey, bro, shit on your honestopinion, am I?
Is this the right move or thebest move for me?
Because you got to realize, alot of people don't grow up with
father figures or motherfigures that are beneficial to
their lives or productive fortheir lives and their
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experiences.
Um, because a lot of peoplewill listen to the wrong
individuals that give them thewrong advice.
Because guess what, like I saidbefore, everybody that fuck
with you don't really fuck withyou, everybody that fuck with
you ain't your friend.
There might be an enemy,because that person might give
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you some bad information,because they want to see you
fall and stumble on your on yourown face, on your own face.
But sometimes, like we got totell our partners who we truly
fuck with, to lift your head upthat's like I be on some of my
partner's asses Like, bro, youcan blow, bro, you can sing.
Bro, sing your motherfucking assoff, bro, when you going to
(07:18):
start doing something, when yougoing to start doing your
acoustic renditions, bro,because I like live shit, bro.
That's what I want to do.
Not no hating type shit.
It's a motivational type shit,because those people that truly
fuck with you, those people thattruly in your circle, will
motivate you to be a betterversion of you every day.
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That's why you got tounderstand your spouse is also
included in your circle.
That's why you gotta understandyour spouse is also included in
your circle.
Because if that motherfucker Istoxic at all Times of the day
and only sees the bad, badenergy type shit, because, hey,
energy is transferable and y'alldon't understand that shit.
Sometimes it takes somebody likethe just got down you see
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somebody doing some shit.
Hey, text your homie and tellhim congratulations, tell him
you proud of him, tell him youlove him, because sometimes you
need to hear that shit when youdon't really think like you need
to hear that shit, because Ican't tell you how many times
like my phone been dry as fuckand one of my partners got down
and said hey, bro, shit, I justwant to tap in with you and tell
you I'm proud of the individualthat you've become.
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I'm proud of it.
Hey, that's like OK, I shit, Ican't forget this person.
This person all the time textsme, tell me something.
I just want to tell you I loveyou, my handsome brother, and we
rock until the wheels come offand I fought with you.
That's a shout out to my sisterlife, shavita.
(08:43):
Goddamn big v?
Um.
Because you got to understand,even through the bad shit, even
through the good shit, eventhrough bad relationships, my
sister Vito would tell me fuckthat bitch.
That bitch was a leech.
And that's sometimes what yougotta hear, because sometimes
(09:06):
you get jaded and caught up inyour own thoughts or get
misconstrued because youthinking like, damn, she did do
that for me.
Damn, she did do that for me.
Damn, she did do that for me,but damn, she did do that for me
.
So you teetering on a goddamnlike a little what's that
motherfucking shit called agoddamn seesaw, because you
(09:28):
caught in the middle and yougetting pulled both ways and you
don't know how to translatethat shit in your head.
And sometimes they take anoutside voice that truly fuck
with you.
They truly want to see you winin life.
So you got to understand certainpeople that fuck with you don't
really fuck with you.
Them motherfuckers are goddamnuh, we call them transformers or
(09:52):
decepticons, if you know me,you know me.
If you don't, you don't if me.
If you know what a fuckingDecepticon is, hey, you know
what the fuck I'm talking about.
But anyway, a lot of themmotherfuckers want to see you
fail.
But you got those genuinepeople, those Ah, my diamond in
the rough.
If you know what that renditionis from, it's from Goddamn
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Aladdin, because he was tellingyou Shit.
That motherfucker might lookrough, your relationship might
look rough, but everythinggleams from cold when the
pressure is plied.
That's when you really got down.
Find out who really fought withyou and who really don't.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers, man, I'm telling
you like I tell people all thetime, man, I don't talk to too
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many people, no more, I don'tkick it with nobody, I don't
fake kick it.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers out here faking
the silicone titties and BBLs,or goddamn shit, them
motherfuckers goddamn faking inthe Viagra that they take to
keep their dick up, or the blueshoes that they send on the
thing, or that's.
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That's how they truly fuck withyou in real life.
Because I'm sorry shit, I ain'there to fake kick it.
I ain't here to goddamn be fakeshit.
If I fought with you, I foughtwith you.
If I got your best interest, Igot your best interest in mind.
Shit ain't no, ain't nomisconstrued when it come from
me.
So are you misconstrued it whenyou come to that person?
I know that's a goddamn wordthat y'all ain't never heard.
I'm talking about shit.
I'm a little bit country.
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I apologize about that.
You ain't going to find thatword in the dictionary, but
that's misconstrued.
In layman's terms, thedefinition of misconstrued is
you got me fucked up.
Because when people show youtheir true colors, man, that
shit make you want to goddamnfuck them up.
They make you want to put theirhands on them.
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That means you want to chokethem, motherfuckers.
That means you want to goddamnbox them out.
That means you want to givethem a fade.
But what I'm also telling youat the same time just because
you give them that fade, don'tmake them an enemy.
Don't mean they poisonous toyour emotion.
Don't mean they goddamn theypoisonous to your emotion.
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Don't mean they goddamn theytoxic to your situation.
Sometimes that's the.
That's the best way we handleour frustration with people
instead of we man, we might haveto get a little dirty, we might
have to scuff each other up,but at the end of the day, we
might, hey, we might cuss eachother out the shit.
I don't fucking know.
Oh you, hey.
Or I might say you fuck you oldpiss-ass motherfucker, old
bitch-ass motherfucker.
But them fighting words, Iain't going to lie to you.
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You can say them shits to me.
I might have to go out thereand reach out and touch your
motherfucking ass and we mightnot be friends after that.
But you will know who trulyfought with you and who truly
not.
Because us, as human beings, weconfide certain situations with
other individuals and a lot ofpeople don't understand it.
(12:40):
Because when you give peoplebullets and ammunition and you
and they truly fuck with you,they ain't gonna use it to harm
you.
They ain't gonna use it to sellyour name, hey.
But if somebody don't fuck withyou, they'll take whatever you
feed them or take a person's earthat's easily subjected and
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tell them whatever they want youto want them to believe, to
make them put a fire taste intheir mouth about you so some
people can be persuaded or turninto the enemy and turn into one
of them.
Foreign powers that you want togotten on.
You know, secular like they,they want to see your shit
implode.
They want to see your shit blowup.
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And it's crazy that it comes tothat point, because when trust
is involved in certainsituations in your circle, it's
what you determine, what youbase it off of and what you grow
off of.
Because, like I've said before,just because they fuck with you
don't mean they fuck with youand the and and the crazy part
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about that whole, that wholecircle, that circle rendition,
the, the relationship to thecircle, is because, shit, a lot
of times when you fuck withsomebody with any capacity, in
any light, any form, fashion oranything, it's supposed to be
reciprocated.
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Ah, you motherfuckers, that'sthe, that's the key thing.
Shit should never be feel, itshould never feel like I'm being
selfish or I should beone-sided.
If I truly fought with you, Ifought with you.
If it's supposed to bereciprocated, it's supposed to
be reciprocated.
What I give out is it doesn'talways come back in the same
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energy, because for every actionis opposite, but equal reaction
, but energy is not to bedestroyed.
Um, but, that being said, is,just because I fuck with you, I
give you $25 Don't mean youain't gonna have my back when
it's time to move.
Or, like I remember when I wasgrowing up, shit.
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My cousin used to tell me man,shit, I'm broke right now, fuck
dog, nigga, I ain't like to dolaundry, and literally shit.
I tell him hey, bro, shit, justdo me a favor, shit, I don't
like to do laundry.
But hey, just come help me outat the house where I can
straighten up and I'llstraighten you out.
It wasn't just because I wasjust going to throw him some
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cheese, it wasn't because I waspaying him for his company.
He was helping me outstraighten up my house.
But at the same time, I mighthave needed a company because I
might have been lonely, I mighthave been in a bad headspace and
I just needed somebody that'sfamiliar to me, that I know is a
comforting person in my life,that will tell me that they
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proud of me or they would talkthat shit to me that I needed to
hear that to infect my earlobes, to get that negative spirit
off my back, because I don'twant no fucking negative Nancy,
I don't need no Karen beside me,I don't need no negative
goddamn Barbara, goddamn Brendain my motherfucking ear, all the
fucking time on my back,telling myself I'm going to fuck
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up, I'm doing this wrong, I'mdoing that wrong.
That's somebody that you shouldnot have in in your
motherfucking circle because,like I said before, energy is
transferable.
Because when energy istransferable transferable to the
next individual shit, that thatshit is taken on to you, not
pushed out to anybody else.
That shit is taken into yourspirit.
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So when they, when theyconstantly telling you negative
shit, negative shit, negativeshit, negative shit, what are
you gonna become?
You're gonna become negative.
That's like my daddy used totell me.
If your partners are the, if themotherfuckers you hanging
around, your partners, yourhomies, whatever you want to
call them, or nothing, but likethey sitting at home, they ain't
got no job, they just want tosmoke weed, drink, pop pills, do
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cocaine, whatever they fancy istalk about.
Hey, well, boy, shit, I hitthat new hole at night.
Bro, is that the energy thatyou need to be around?
Or like the ones I saw, theones I have in my circle, the
ones that tell you bro, shit,I'm applying for this new job,
shit, what you think, man, shit,I'm going for this new position
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.
Go for it, bro, go for thatshit.
How much that shit pay if itain't?
No, if, because I mean youdon't want to be stagnant.
Or, bro, shit, I think I'm, Ithink I need to quit drinking.
And quit drinking, bro, shit, weget old man.
Shit.
You need to clean up your life,bro, shit.
You want to go to the gym, man,not today, nigga, get your ass
up.
We going to the gym.
Or your homegirl tell you bitchman, you want that fat ass,
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don't you?
So we finna go to the gym.
And shit, goddamn, we finnastunt on these hoes.
Or you got that one friend likeI'm gonna go ahead.
Hey, this is no shot, no,nothing, no shade, no, nothing.
So if you put on an outfit andthat motherfucker ain't flamed
up, or that motherfucker ain't,goddamn you know, percolating,
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or that motherfucker ain't whereit's supposed to be, and your
partner don't tell you, bro yeah, that shit ain't working, or
that motherfucker ain't hit youwith that beard, uh-uh, that
ain't cute, do you truly fuckwith that person?
Because they about to send youout the door looking like a
crash dummy?
Because I tell you, I tell youlike when I was in my um, my
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marriage there was.
It was a wonderful incidentthat happened, um, at the time,
my at the time, my ex-wife wasabout to go handle business with
her grandfather and you knowshe had on some real skimpy
short shorts.
Her ass wasn't hanging out ofnothing.
But I told her hey, you need togo fix yourself before you go
(18:34):
where your grandfather is.
Because you did that out of,because, like I explained, the
tool you don't want.
I said the way conduct yourself.
In a way you want people toview you, um, because if you
don't, people will have thatnegative insight and put that
every um outline of you, eventhough, even though they don't
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know you, that's what they weregoing, that's what they know you
as.
But a lot of times.
But what that did was, once Iexplained it to her, she said,
okay, I appreciate it because,like, even with my daughter oh
my god, like they wanted me tobuy tights for her.
I don't buy tights for mydaughter at all.
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I never will, because I don'twant tights for my daughter at
all.
I never will, um, because Idon't want nobody looking at my
poopoo, um.
And, with that being said, likeI tell my sons, like I don't
know what it is honestly aboutthese y-eans, um, they be trying
to rap.
I ain't gonna hold you.
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So, instead of me being anegative dad, someone's on.
Bro, you don't want to put yourenergy into something else.
Bro, if you enjoy it, chase it,play with it, enjoy that shit.
Or I involve you in mysituation or I call with my
partners.
That is a rapper that hasactually put out albums or do
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whatever, gone to studios and Ilet them hear what you're saying
and I let them give you yourinsight.
See, that's why we call it acircle, because, just because
it's not beneficial to me but itmight be beneficial to my kids,
because if you fuck with me,truly, you fuck with my True,
you only want to see the bestout of every aspect of my life,
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not just one, and people fail torealize that.
But hey, I'm a taste.
Is everybody's not privy tobeing around your motherfucking
kids.
It's not privy, or, in Englishterms, privileged, to be around
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your kids, your family and thoseyou truly fuck with, because
you never know the, the, the howcan I put it?
The, the, the target that theyhave out there, or the mental
renditions that they put inplace, to where they say, oh
shit, if I could like that.
Some of the people are likeplagues.
They, they will share that badjuju or bad, and they'll.
(21:10):
And and my partners are tellingme hey bro, shit, I ain't
feeling that motherfucker vibeor man.
Hey bro, that shit weird.
Or hey man, shit, I truly can'tfuck with that person because
they move weird, they move wonky, and a lot of times people
don't fuck with you the way youthink they fuck with you again
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because it's crazy on what theydecide or what they choose to do
, because they don't really fuckwith you.
And how do you gauge that?
The only way you gauge it is bycommunication.
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The only way you learn aboutthat is through experience.
I mean, you can't go in justtreating everybody like they're
up or they toxic or theypoisonous.
So what do you treat them?
As?
You treat them like the unknown, you treat them like they're in
the facade because you'relearning them because once, hey,
once they, once they get hit acouple check boxes or they're
(22:20):
like uh-uh, uh-uh, like bro,shit.
You, hey, flag on the play,flag on the file.
Hey, you flagrant, bro, youviolating.
They start moving wonky, theystart saying wonky shit, they
start goddamn sneaking andgeeking.
Sometimes you can't takeeverybody to every function
because, like we tell you, likeI was joking with somebody the
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other day, I said that's why, inmy culture and with the way I
was raised if somebody throwinga kickback or somebody having a
little chin dig over their house, first thing before I even get
over there, hey man, who allover there that way is to see if
I truly fuck with everybodythat's over there, because I
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don't want to put myself in nobad situation.
I don't want to be in thepresence of you know toxicity,
or a ex or somebody baby daddyor a motherfucker I don't just
had a disagreement with becauseI don't want to ruin your shit,
even though that's not my trueintention.
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I just don't want thepossibility of this shit doing.
But, honestly and truly, a lotof people that fought with you
that will put you in thosepositions.
Sometimes them people reallywant you to do that shit and
people fail to realize they betrying that.
That's that they might betrying to play.
Get back, boy.
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I say I'm paranoid in themotherfucker I ain't gonna hold
you, but it's crazy how circleswork.
So just remember you got to.
You got to be careful who youexpose yourself to and bring in
your circle, because everybodyain't for you or for your
situation, hey.
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So remember that.
Remember it's supposed to bereciprocated.
It's not a square, it's acircle.
It's a circle Now.
Thank you for listening toMotivational Mondays with Jack
here on Four Steps.
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