February 24, 2025 • 24 mins
Have you ever found yourself caught in the web of negativity, feeling weighed down by toxic relationships? On this episode of Motivational Mondays, I share my personal journey through such challenging times, revealing the power of resilience in maintaining a positive outlook. Discover how ignoring the allure of negativity, especially on social media, can fortify your mental health and help you navigate life with confidence. Through my own experiences, I highlight the importance of not retaliating against toxicity but instead allowing it to slide off, keeping your peace intact and your head held high.
We further explore how adversity, whether financial or personal, can be a catalyst for unexpected opportunities. By embracing the concept that haters can indeed become motivators, we learn that slow progress is still progress on the path to success. This episode underscores the strength found in acts of kindness and support, illustrating how paying it forward can bring positivity full circle. Tune in to learn how to walk with pride, understand your self-worth, and continue striving towards brighter days amidst life’s inevitable challenges.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
hey, yeah, hey, welcome to motivational mondays
with four staples only.
I'm the host, jack.
Yeah, we trying something new.
This is our second episode and,yeah, I changed up the beat.
I'm sorry, um, if y'all werefeeling that, just let me know.
Um.
Yeah, this year too, for usit's 4 30 in the morning.
(00:22):
I'm sorry, it's 3 56, let meget my time strike.
So good morning to all and onthis early monday morning, um.
But we started this segment onbecause we're in year two of
four-steppers only.
Um and the, the motivation ofmondays came from.
Um.
Sometimes you need a littlemotivation and you need somebody
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to tell you hey, lift your headup, stand tall.
Um, because I know a coupletimes in my life where I've
needed that.
Lift my head up and some peopledon't understand that from a
therapist because they don'tknow what the fuck they're going
through, versus what the fuckwe're going through in real life
, thinking, oh, he just here tolisten to me while I sit on this
fucking couch and get paid.
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Um.
Because I was seeing atherapist, no cap, um, because I
was going through a dark timeand I was paying like 75 a
session, which is kind of low,but I had insurance.
Um, just to tell him myproblems, which wasn't
beneficial to myself.
Um, because I was at a.
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I was at a bad point in my life.
Um, I still had shit going, butI was at a.
Like we tell people all thetime, hey, when you get to that
dark place, it ain't fun, itain't all sunshine and rainbows.
It's a real, real dark place.
And I know a lot of y'allunderstand where the fuck I'm
coming from.
But long story short, thisMotivational Mondays is toxicity
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.
The closest one to you can bethe most toxic.
The people that once caredabout you, fought with you and
were there for you caneventually turn the most toxic
to you and to put you back in adark place, because a lot of
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times they know what to say toyou and which targets they can
hit on you, because they've seenyou at your low points, they've
heard you vent to them, becausethey were a safe place for you
at one point in time.
And a lot of people do that.
Um, I don't understand whydon't get me, don't get me wrong
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.
Um, because, um, a lot ofpeople don't understand shit
because that, just because theyfeel some type of way about you
or anything, they'll go to your,to go to somebody else and tell
them your dirt, so you can'ttrust everybody with everything
um, I've had to learn that acouple of times in my life to
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where they're not beneficial toyourself or beneficial situation
going on.
Um so um.
It's hard, but I know.
For me it's like the constanttoxicity and you constantly
having to hear and peopledigging up your, your skeletons
in your closet, that you have tobattle with every day.
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That they know will hurt you,that they know will affect you,
and that's that, that.
That's that.
That ain't cool, man.
But this is what I want to telly'all, all my listeners here on
Motivational Mondays man, keepyour head up, because even
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though they doing toxic shit toyou don't mean you have to do
toxic shit to them.
Sometimes it helps just to letthat shit just roll off.
I know that's hard to say, butwhen they know they got you or
they know they affect you, theywant you to crash out, they want
you to lash out.
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Sometimes it's best just to letit.
Let it be read.
Read whatever they sent you.
Hang up that phone, ignore thatphone call, delete those
messages.
Let them say whatever the fuckthey want to say on the web
because shit, as we all know,with the social media shit,
people like negativity more thanthey do like positivity, which
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is fucking weird as fuck to me,but it's a true statement.
You can get on there and saysomething positive and people
don't fuck with it.
As soon as you get onto a, asubject that they want to be
toxic about, they got themthumbs up in that shit, they
sharing that shit, theycommenting, they, they and and
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it's, it's the negativity for me.
To me it's like shit, if Idon't want, I'm no longer fuck
with you.
I just don't fuck with you.
I ain't, finna, got no sellingyour name.
I ain't, finna, put all yourbusiness out there.
I just don't.
I just choose not to fuck withyou, even if somebody ask me hey
, y'all ain't talking, no more.
Nah, shit, we just, you know,we just grew apart, we just went
our separate ways.
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And sometimes people want tohear the dirt, they want to hear
some shit about them, just sothey can run back and tell the
next motherfucker what theyfucking hear from you and say
they the word of mouth.
But at the end of the day, hey,if this is happening to you or
somebody spreading rumors aboutyou.
I know it's hard, but keep yourmotherfucking head up, because
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a lot of times people don'tunderstand that you just coming
in there with a smile and itwill infuriate them even more
because they said oh shit, Iain't.
I said this, I did this and itstill ain't affecting them.
What else can I do to get tothem?
Only thing you got to do iswalk in a room with a big fuck
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you.
On your face and like shit man,it's a good day, the sun is out,
my kids is at school, I'mmaking money Shit, my bills are
getting paid Shit.
Like I know, like a lot ofy'all be saying shit, I'm taxed
about to hit.
Shit, I got this plan, I gotthat plan, I want to do this, I
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want to do that.
Man, find joy in something.
Don't, don't crash out on them,because that's what they want.
They want to see you to at yourlowest, they want to see you
get, want to give up because toto be honest, that I guess they
feed off that shit, but justdon't feed into it, because it
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took me a long time to get tothis point.
It upsets people more for themto keep talking and keep saying
negative shit about you and youapproaching them and you saying
something.
That means they winning,because now they going to play
victim.
Oh my God, I don't know whythey coming at me like this.
Oh my God, oh my God, man, fuckthem.
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Just walk in that room and lookat them and just smile.
You ain't got to say shit, justkeep on your own pivot, keep on
your own motion, keep on yourown territory.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers are miserable in
real life.
They can post whatever theywant to post, they can say
whatever they want to say, butdeep down inside they really
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miserable Because they don'tunderstand that all these
negative, like what they puttingout there in the world only
makes them look worse, becauseit's going to make some people
like damn, shout out, damn, damnme later.
Why why you hate him so much?
What did he do so much to youto make you hate him so much?
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Or damn bro, damn bro, shit you, you, you, you okay, you, you.
You really hate this nigga andit's, it's saddening to say a
lot of the shit comes fromthinking that's okay, that's
okay to do, because a lot ofthese people run to the internet
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and they will post anythingabout you.
But you got to remember man,fuck them.
That's when you I give y'all afunny, I give y'all a funny like
genre y'all remember, goddamnthe fighting peacock off Will
Smith.
We are the peacock.
We're marching down the street.
Peacock, man, lift your head upand strut, motherfucker, strut,
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strut, like you the biggestcock in the fucking yard in a
room full of chickens.
Because you got to understandshit.
People are watching, people aremotherfucking watching.
To run back to that person thatwas talking shit about you and
tell them that your head low,man.
Or or saying man, shit, youwere right.
That nigga got down doing xyz,man, shit, 44, man, fuck them,
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man, just like that.
That person that's talking shitabout you at work, fuck them.
To that person that's talkingabout shit on the internet about
you, fuck them.
Sometimes you gotta walk in thatmotherfucker with your head
hell high.
Yeah, you might only got twodollars left to your goddamn
pocket, but guess what?
Payday is friday, so fuck them.
We gonna make them two dollars.
Stretch like 200, like 2000,man them, motherfucking.
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Two dollars gonna be thegoddamn longest running.
Two hundred dollars in yourpocket.
I'm sorry.
Two dollars in your pocket, butguess what?
Them them your two dollars.
So you got a stretch in that.
Motherfucker.
Like you.
Like you got that motherfuckingglow.
You got that glow you'refeeling.
So when you got that glow, man,you gotta walk like you got
that glow in your ass.
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Bro, pick up your motherfuckingheads and fuck these folks.
That's like you, mid lady man.
Walk like you goddamn got that,that shit on.
Like you got that best smellingshit that these bitches can't
afford.
Like shit.
Walk like your pussy.
Goddamn amazing man.
Make your like.
Make your shit like it's squirt.
God damn it.
Make this like saying like shit,these motherfuckers want this
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motherfucking pussy but can'thave it.
That bitch wish she can tastethis motherfucking pussy, but
she can't have it.
Make hey, that nigga.
That nigga keep you know, gotdown jumping in my inbox and
wanting this pussy and he can'thave it.
Strut like that man, strut likethat nigga.
You might have gotten.
You might have, though your carmight have broke down.
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Man, strut because there aredarker days, because it can't
rain forever.
It cannot rain forever.
Remember that it might be darktoday, it might be dark tomorrow
, it might rain today, it mightrain tomorrow, but it will never
rain forever, because a lot ofpeople fail to realize that shit
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man like man, shit, this sungonna come out eventually.
You know, hey, this is onlytemporary, this ain't permanent.
It's only temporary because alot of people will sit there and
express and say, man, I gotthis going on, I got this going
on, but look at the bright sideof that shit, bro.
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That's two heads of a coin, man.
Whether you got dark days, yougot bright days.
Shit.
To be honest with you, shit, Ihad some shit pop off in my life
.
Man, to where I'm up here, likethey're trying to figure, like
like, damn, I can't even go onmy motherfucking trip.
Maybe there's a reason why Ididn't go on my trip.
Maybe there's a reason why Imade that sacrifice, because
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sometimes you got to make thosesacrifices for brighter days
later on, because it, like Isaid, it don't rain forever, it
don't stay dark forever.
So because sometimes, no matterhow deep of a hole that you
feel, like you in shit, you canstill see a little gleam of
light at the top of thatmotherfucking hole.
So because sometimes, no matterhow deep of a hole that you
feel, like you in shit, you canstill see a little gleam of
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light at the top of thatmotherfucking hole.
Shit, you can still climb, youcan still goddamn move.
You got your health.
It might not be like you mightsee these motherfuckers, goddamn
they body all chiseled up.
Goddamn hey the chicks.
Her ass might be fat, hertitties might be perky, but
guess what?
You don't know what the fuck.
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Go on behind closed doors.
Don't wish for somebody else'slife and be like, damn, if I had
this it'll be more perfect.
We all go through that.
Shit man.
Chin up, motherfucker, chin up.
Because when you look at shitman, don't look at the
negativity side of shit, look atthe positive.
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When you constantly look, feelthat shit, feel that your day
with negative vibes, only thingyou're going to do is keep
compiling on them negative vibesInstead of trying to find
something positive've been likedamn shit, it might have went on
, but guess what, I'm still inthere.
Bit man, I might have had togoddamn turn in all the change
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that I've been collecting allyear just to get to work, but
I'm still in there.
Bitch man, shit, I got a shittyass fucking job, man.
I don't want to be in there.
Bitch man, shit, I got ashitty-ass fucking job, man.
I don't want to be in there,bitch, but I still got a job I
still can provide, because letme tell you something, the
hardest thing that you will everdo like I was telling somebody
one of the darkest times of mylife man is doing that whole
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COVID bullshit.
Man, when everything shut down,I'm talking about I'm working
like a motherfucker, I'm doingthis, I'm doing that, I'm
butchering my ass at thismotherfucking job, getting burnt
by shit.
I don't work 12 motherfuckinghours.
About to leave.
I'm talking about 30 minutesbefore I'm about to leave, they
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they say hey, we need you tomeet over there.
We need you to meet over there.
It's like damn, what the fuckwe having a meeting about?
I'm thinking about we about toget down and get and let know
shit, we about to work someextra hours or some shit.
But they said everybody thatthey called over there to their
meeting, they laying off.
Only thing I could do is damnnear I wanted to bust out in
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tears no-transcript shit.
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They laid us off.
I'm sitting there like bro.
I went to making xyz a week.
I can't even remember what Iwas making a week to.
I'm bringing home nothing,nothing, absolutely nothing.
And they're gonna tell us oh,you'll be able to collect
goddamn unemployment.
Baba man, I don't give a fuckabout unemployment right now,
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shit I need I got.
I gotta have that money.
I gotta pay these bills, Igotta pay my cs.
What the fuck am I gonna tellthis girl at home where I'm not
providing shit?
What the fuck am I gonna do?
I'm not providing shit.
What the fuck am I going to do?
I'm not worried about myself.
I'm worried about being afather, being a spouse, being a
husband at this time To providefor my household.
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I can't be no failure to mymotherfucking kids.
But next thing I know, themanager walks over to me and
tell me hey, what's your cellphone number?
Hey, this is only going to lasta couple of weeks.
Man, what's your cell phonenumber?
Hey, this only gonna last acouple weeks.
Man, what's your cell phonenumber?
Because I want you to come backRight now.
Shit, I wasn't even hearingthat.
Shit.
I just gave him my number.
I was like man, shit, whatever.
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Bro, I was at home for threefucking months, three Every
Friday.
I know I was bringing home,like they were paying me through
unemployment.
That's when they had that, that, that junk duty, shit.
Um, I was bringing home six, um, every week.
I was eight.
I can't remember, but I know itwas like, bro, I was at home
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cooking.
Every day I was at home cleaning, making sure my house was clean
.
I ain't even gonna lie to you,boy, at home cleaning making
sure my house was clean, I ain'tgonna lie to you boy, I shit, I
was a.
I was, I was a house man.
I was a at home dad at the timebecause she was still going to
work and we were just startingto get back on our feet before I
got laid off.
But then, when I got laid off,like I'm like you ain't gotta
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pay for nobody being daycare,you ain't gotta do this, you
ain't got to pay for nobodybeing daycare, you ain't got to
do this, you ain't got to dothat.
So we were making this shitwork.
Man, like we were making thisshit work.
So, yeah, you might look at thenegative shit.
Now I'm laid off.
Shit.
I'm at home with my son everyday.
I can actually be a dad.
He enjoy me being there.
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Every day I'm cleaning the house, house, I mean, she got no
laundry, laundry done, but I'mstill making this shit work.
She came home to a hot mealevery day like like I'm cooking.
Every day I'm learning how tocook new shit doing pot roast,
doing ribs, doing goddamn porkchops, doing the.
The yellow jug, goddamn rice.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout?
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That yellow jug, goddamn rice.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout?
That yellow jug, that alreadypre-seasoned rice.
That broccoli, that stringbeans.
Putting my goddamn you know mychicken broth and my shit.
Yeah, I'm a fat nigga.
I ain't going to lie to you.
Shit, I like to cook, but Imade the best out of it Instead
of being like woe is me.
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At first, I was looking at thenegative side, but then I had to
keep my chin up, walk high andstrut, motherfucker strut,
because sometimes people want tosee you at your lowest, but you
can't show them, motherfuckersthat shit, because the only
thing they're gonna do is feedand make their own narrative
about the shit.
And we got there.
I'm gonna be like, oh, they'relaughing at you when you at your
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lowest, and they're laughing atyou when you at your lowest and
they gonna hate you when you atyour highest, even to the room.
You might not be at yourhighest, you might have some old
clothes on, you might do this,do that.
You might be barely making it,but motherfucker strut.
That's what I'm trying to tellyou motherfucking strut, strut
your ass off.
Because Because all I got tosay is, hey, be that
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motherfucking fighting peacock.
If y'all don't know what thefuck I'm talking about, look up
Fresh Prince fighting peacockscene and that shit going to let
you know.
Peacock, I'm marching down thestreet.
Peacock, hey, be thatmotherfucking Peacock man.
I know y'all getting tired ofme, goddamn doing that goofy
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shit.
If y'all could actually see meover here dancing what time is
it Four something in the morningnow Y'all would laugh y'all ass
off.
But I'm just trying to makey'all understand.
Just because you think you atyour lowest, you're never at
your lowest Because it canalways be worse.
It can always be worse.
I'm so, hey, that's why.
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Hey, that's why a lot of timesyou hear them old cats talking
about something.
Hey, y'all fella how you doingtoday, man.
Hey, slow motion better than nomotion, because that's a that's
, that's, that's a truestatement.
Because you got to understandyour lane and the way you move,
because, should you be stagnantis death.
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But if you got a little motionyou still move.
So be glad you got a littlemotion in your body.
You can still make them steps.
You can still make strive to bebetter.
You can still get out here andgot them hustle and grind and
got them go for that next tier.
Hey, I was doing good today,but I'm doing better tomorrow.
I'm doing, I was doing bettertomorrow but I'm doing amazing
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the next day.
Boy, shit, and I'm talkingabout your build on that shit.
Do better and better and betterand better, better, better
every day that you got themalive.
Because, guess, let themmotherfuckers see that shit Glow
in these motherfucker faces towhere they can't do nothing but
hate on your motherfucking ass,to where they can look at you
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like, oh I hate that nigga, andthey gonna talk about you, like
you the motherfucking dirt ofthe motherfucking earth.
But guess what, strut,motherfucker strut.
Because, guess what, let themotherfuckers hate and let the
motherfuckers goddamn suffocateon your goddamn glow.
You feel me, because a lot ofthese motherfuckers goddamn will
suffocate off your glow andthey will hate and fill
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themselves up with thatnegativity and they will goddamn
go to that dark place insteadof you being in that dark place,
because they don't know howelse to tear you down, because
at this point in time in theirlife, the only thing they want
to do is wish death upon youBecause they're going to be like
man.
I wish that motherfucker gotdown.
Hey, man, show themmotherfuckers, them glow man.
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Strut on them, motherfuckers,strut, motherfucker man.
Walk like a mother with yourchest held high, your chin in
the air, your nose tooted up anda big ass motherfucking smile
on your motherfucking face towhere these motherfuckers hate
your existence.
So, motherfucking goddamn, keepyour head up.
Don't let them motherfuckerstear you down.
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You hear me don't hate, don'tlet them motherfuckers goddamn
tear you down.
I know I'm cussing a lot thisearly in the morning, but I
gotta.
I know a lot of y'allunderstand where the fuck I'm
coming from.
Let these motherfuckers hatebecause, guess what, there's
somebody out here that's happyfor you and there's probably a
thousand out of them that hateyour motherfucking existence.
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So let the motherfuckingthousand people hate your
existence because a like theyused to say on goddamn v103.
At one point in time in my lifeI used to hit here and not
understand when I was a youngjet, make your haters your
motivators, your haters yourmotor motherfucking vaders.
You hear me?
Because you got to understandif you if they ain't hating on
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you you're doing something wrong.
You need to do that shit 10times over.
Let them hate even more Because, at the end of the day, man,
fuck these folks, fuck them,fuck their opinion.
And you, motherfucking know, youon your grizzly, you on your
grind, you on your stand up, guyor woman, shit, regardless of
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what you doing, just strive.
Hey, you might be struggling,shit, regardless of what you're
doing, just strive.
Hey, you might be struggling,but shit, hey, you, struggling
with emotion, you're going tomake that shit work.
Trust me, this is from somebodythat didn't struggle, shit.
I remember one point in time,shit, I had to borrow $2.50 from
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my partner because I couldn'teven afford a bill and he told
me don't worry about it, bro,shit, you're going to help me
out one day when I'm low and loand behold, shit, that nigga
ain't have a car once upon atime.
And shit, he needed rides towork.
Shit.
I went and picked this nigga up, dropped back off and told him
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hey, bro, you good on gas, yousure?
You sure, bro, shit, say thatshit.
I'll give you another exampleshit, I was walking somebody out
to their car at three o'clockin the fucking morning, walked
out there, they got amotherfucking flat tire.
This ain't in my jobdescription, but me as a human
being.
At three in the morning, shit,this young lady got a fucking
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flat tire.
I said hey, you got a jack.
She said I don't know what ajack is.
Hey, let's look in your car andlet's see if we can find a jack
.
We found that jack.
We put that jack on with thatmotherfucker to work um, tighten
that motherfucking bolts up.
Work um, tighten thatmotherfucking bolts up.
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Kept it pushing.
She tried to pay.
She tried to pay me 35 forchanging her tie.
I said nah, sweetie, I don'twant your money.
Pay it forward, do somethingnice for somebody else.
She looked at me baffled I'm onlike shit.
You really going to turn downthis money?
I said yeah, I said becausethat's not why I did it.
I wasn't doing it to getsomething out of you.
I was doing it just to be niceand to be kind, which a lot of
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people fail to realize.
They do shit to get somethingout of somebody.
Sometimes you got to tellpeople I'm only here to help
others and that's what my fatherused to tell me Shit, just
because that motherfucker mightgot a million dollars, that man
might not be no man, thatmotherfucker might be a
motherfucking leech.
You hear me, so I just want totell y'all hey, I'm Jack.
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Thank you for listening toMotivational Mondays.
See y'all next week.
I'll see y'all later on thisweek.
From 4 Steps Only we out peace.
hey, yeah, hey, welcome to motivational mondays
with four staples only.
I'm the host, jack.
Yeah, we trying something new.
This is our second episode and,yeah, I changed up the beat.
I'm sorry, um, if y'all werefeeling that, just let me know.
Um.
Yeah, this year too, for usit's 4 30 in the morning.
(00:22):
I'm sorry, it's 3 56, let meget my time strike.
So good morning to all and onthis early monday morning, um.
But we started this segment onbecause we're in year two of
four-steppers only.
Um and the, the motivation ofmondays came from.
Um.
Sometimes you need a littlemotivation and you need somebody
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to tell you hey, lift your headup, stand tall.
Um, because I know a coupletimes in my life where I've
needed that.
Lift my head up and some peopledon't understand that from a
therapist because they don'tknow what the fuck they're going
through, versus what the fuckwe're going through in real life
, thinking, oh, he just here tolisten to me while I sit on this
fucking couch and get paid.
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Um.
Because I was seeing atherapist, no cap, um, because I
was going through a dark timeand I was paying like 75 a
session, which is kind of low,but I had insurance.
Um, just to tell him myproblems, which wasn't
beneficial to myself.
Um, because I was at a.
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I was at a bad point in my life.
Um, I still had shit going, butI was at a.
Like we tell people all thetime, hey, when you get to that
dark place, it ain't fun, itain't all sunshine and rainbows.
It's a real, real dark place.
And I know a lot of y'allunderstand where the fuck I'm
coming from.
But long story short, thisMotivational Mondays is toxicity
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.
The closest one to you can bethe most toxic.
The people that once caredabout you, fought with you and
were there for you caneventually turn the most toxic
to you and to put you back in adark place, because a lot of
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times they know what to say toyou and which targets they can
hit on you, because they've seenyou at your low points, they've
heard you vent to them, becausethey were a safe place for you
at one point in time.
And a lot of people do that.
Um, I don't understand whydon't get me, don't get me wrong
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.
Um, because, um, a lot ofpeople don't understand shit
because that, just because theyfeel some type of way about you
or anything, they'll go to your,to go to somebody else and tell
them your dirt, so you can'ttrust everybody with everything
um, I've had to learn that acouple of times in my life to
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where they're not beneficial toyourself or beneficial situation
going on.
Um so um.
It's hard, but I know.
For me it's like the constanttoxicity and you constantly
having to hear and peopledigging up your, your skeletons
in your closet, that you have tobattle with every day.
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That they know will hurt you,that they know will affect you,
and that's that, that.
That's that.
That ain't cool, man.
But this is what I want to telly'all, all my listeners here on
Motivational Mondays man, keepyour head up, because even
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though they doing toxic shit toyou don't mean you have to do
toxic shit to them.
Sometimes it helps just to letthat shit just roll off.
I know that's hard to say, butwhen they know they got you or
they know they affect you, theywant you to crash out, they want
you to lash out.
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Sometimes it's best just to letit.
Let it be read.
Read whatever they sent you.
Hang up that phone, ignore thatphone call, delete those
messages.
Let them say whatever the fuckthey want to say on the web
because shit, as we all know,with the social media shit,
people like negativity more thanthey do like positivity, which
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is fucking weird as fuck to me,but it's a true statement.
You can get on there and saysomething positive and people
don't fuck with it.
As soon as you get onto a, asubject that they want to be
toxic about, they got themthumbs up in that shit, they
sharing that shit, theycommenting, they, they and and
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it's, it's the negativity for me.
To me it's like shit, if Idon't want, I'm no longer fuck
with you.
I just don't fuck with you.
I ain't, finna, got no sellingyour name.
I ain't, finna, put all yourbusiness out there.
I just don't.
I just choose not to fuck withyou, even if somebody ask me hey
, y'all ain't talking, no more.
Nah, shit, we just, you know,we just grew apart, we just went
our separate ways.
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And sometimes people want tohear the dirt, they want to hear
some shit about them, just sothey can run back and tell the
next motherfucker what theyfucking hear from you and say
they the word of mouth.
But at the end of the day, hey,if this is happening to you or
somebody spreading rumors aboutyou.
I know it's hard, but keep yourmotherfucking head up, because
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a lot of times people don'tunderstand that you just coming
in there with a smile and itwill infuriate them even more
because they said oh shit, Iain't.
I said this, I did this and itstill ain't affecting them.
What else can I do to get tothem?
Only thing you got to do iswalk in a room with a big fuck
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you.
On your face and like shit man,it's a good day, the sun is out,
my kids is at school, I'mmaking money Shit, my bills are
getting paid Shit.
Like I know, like a lot ofy'all be saying shit, I'm taxed
about to hit.
Shit, I got this plan, I gotthat plan, I want to do this, I
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want to do that.
Man, find joy in something.
Don't, don't crash out on them,because that's what they want.
They want to see you to at yourlowest, they want to see you
get, want to give up because toto be honest, that I guess they
feed off that shit, but justdon't feed into it, because it
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took me a long time to get tothis point.
It upsets people more for themto keep talking and keep saying
negative shit about you and youapproaching them and you saying
something.
That means they winning,because now they going to play
victim.
Oh my God, I don't know whythey coming at me like this.
Oh my God, oh my God, man, fuckthem.
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Just walk in that room and lookat them and just smile.
You ain't got to say shit, justkeep on your own pivot, keep on
your own motion, keep on yourown territory.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers are miserable in
real life.
They can post whatever theywant to post, they can say
whatever they want to say, butdeep down inside they really
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miserable Because they don'tunderstand that all these
negative, like what they puttingout there in the world only
makes them look worse, becauseit's going to make some people
like damn, shout out, damn, damnme later.
Why why you hate him so much?
What did he do so much to youto make you hate him so much?
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Or damn bro, damn bro, shit you, you, you, you okay, you, you.
You really hate this nigga andit's, it's saddening to say a
lot of the shit comes fromthinking that's okay, that's
okay to do, because a lot ofthese people run to the internet
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and they will post anythingabout you.
But you got to remember man,fuck them.
That's when you I give y'all afunny, I give y'all a funny like
genre y'all remember, goddamnthe fighting peacock off Will
Smith.
We are the peacock.
We're marching down the street.
Peacock, man, lift your head upand strut, motherfucker, strut,
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strut, like you the biggestcock in the fucking yard in a
room full of chickens.
Because you got to understandshit.
People are watching, people aremotherfucking watching.
To run back to that person thatwas talking shit about you and
tell them that your head low,man.
Or or saying man, shit, youwere right.
That nigga got down doing xyz,man, shit, 44, man, fuck them,
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man, just like that.
That person that's talking shitabout you at work, fuck them.
To that person that's talkingabout shit on the internet about
you, fuck them.
Sometimes you gotta walk in thatmotherfucker with your head
hell high.
Yeah, you might only got twodollars left to your goddamn
pocket, but guess what?
Payday is friday, so fuck them.
We gonna make them two dollars.
Stretch like 200, like 2000,man them, motherfucking.
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Two dollars gonna be thegoddamn longest running.
Two hundred dollars in yourpocket.
I'm sorry.
Two dollars in your pocket, butguess what?
Them them your two dollars.
So you got a stretch in that.
Motherfucker.
Like you.
Like you got that motherfuckingglow.
You got that glow you'refeeling.
So when you got that glow, man,you gotta walk like you got
that glow in your ass.
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Bro, pick up your motherfuckingheads and fuck these folks.
That's like you, mid lady man.
Walk like you goddamn got that,that shit on.
Like you got that best smellingshit that these bitches can't
afford.
Like shit.
Walk like your pussy.
Goddamn amazing man.
Make your like.
Make your shit like it's squirt.
God damn it.
Make this like saying like shit,these motherfuckers want this
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motherfucking pussy but can'thave it.
That bitch wish she can tastethis motherfucking pussy, but
she can't have it.
Make hey, that nigga.
That nigga keep you know, gotdown jumping in my inbox and
wanting this pussy and he can'thave it.
Strut like that man, strut likethat nigga.
You might have gotten.
You might have, though your carmight have broke down.
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Man, strut because there aredarker days, because it can't
rain forever.
It cannot rain forever.
Remember that it might be darktoday, it might be dark tomorrow
, it might rain today, it mightrain tomorrow, but it will never
rain forever, because a lot ofpeople fail to realize that shit
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man like man, shit, this sungonna come out eventually.
You know, hey, this is onlytemporary, this ain't permanent.
It's only temporary because alot of people will sit there and
express and say, man, I gotthis going on, I got this going
on, but look at the bright sideof that shit, bro.
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That's two heads of a coin, man.
Whether you got dark days, yougot bright days.
Shit.
To be honest with you, shit, Ihad some shit pop off in my life
.
Man, to where I'm up here, likethey're trying to figure, like
like, damn, I can't even go onmy motherfucking trip.
Maybe there's a reason why Ididn't go on my trip.
Maybe there's a reason why Imade that sacrifice, because
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sometimes you got to make thosesacrifices for brighter days
later on, because it, like Isaid, it don't rain forever, it
don't stay dark forever.
So because sometimes, no matterhow deep of a hole that you
feel, like you in shit, you canstill see a little gleam of
light at the top of thatmotherfucking hole.
So because sometimes, no matterhow deep of a hole that you
feel, like you in shit, you canstill see a little gleam of
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light at the top of thatmotherfucking hole.
Shit, you can still climb, youcan still goddamn move.
You got your health.
It might not be like you mightsee these motherfuckers, goddamn
they body all chiseled up.
Goddamn hey the chicks.
Her ass might be fat, hertitties might be perky, but
guess what?
You don't know what the fuck.
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Go on behind closed doors.
Don't wish for somebody else'slife and be like, damn, if I had
this it'll be more perfect.
We all go through that.
Shit man.
Chin up, motherfucker, chin up.
Because when you look at shitman, don't look at the
negativity side of shit, look atthe positive.
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When you constantly look, feelthat shit, feel that your day
with negative vibes, only thingyou're going to do is keep
compiling on them negative vibesInstead of trying to find
something positive've been likedamn shit, it might have went on
, but guess what, I'm still inthere.
Bit man, I might have had togoddamn turn in all the change
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that I've been collecting allyear just to get to work, but
I'm still in there.
Bitch man, shit, I got a shittyass fucking job, man.
I don't want to be in there.
Bitch man, shit, I got ashitty-ass fucking job, man.
I don't want to be in there,bitch, but I still got a job I
still can provide, because letme tell you something, the
hardest thing that you will everdo like I was telling somebody
one of the darkest times of mylife man is doing that whole
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COVID bullshit.
Man, when everything shut down,I'm talking about I'm working
like a motherfucker, I'm doingthis, I'm doing that, I'm
butchering my ass at thismotherfucking job, getting burnt
by shit.
I don't work 12 motherfuckinghours.
About to leave.
I'm talking about 30 minutesbefore I'm about to leave, they
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they say hey, we need you tomeet over there.
We need you to meet over there.
It's like damn, what the fuckwe having a meeting about?
I'm thinking about we about toget down and get and let know
shit, we about to work someextra hours or some shit.
But they said everybody thatthey called over there to their
meeting, they laying off.
Only thing I could do is damnnear I wanted to bust out in
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tears no-transcript shit.
(14:18):
They laid us off.
I'm sitting there like bro.
I went to making xyz a week.
I can't even remember what Iwas making a week to.
I'm bringing home nothing,nothing, absolutely nothing.
And they're gonna tell us oh,you'll be able to collect
goddamn unemployment.
Baba man, I don't give a fuckabout unemployment right now,
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shit I need I got.
I gotta have that money.
I gotta pay these bills, Igotta pay my cs.
What the fuck am I gonna tellthis girl at home where I'm not
providing shit?
What the fuck am I gonna do?
I'm not providing shit.
What the fuck am I going to do?
I'm not worried about myself.
I'm worried about being afather, being a spouse, being a
husband at this time To providefor my household.
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I can't be no failure to mymotherfucking kids.
But next thing I know, themanager walks over to me and
tell me hey, what's your cellphone number?
Hey, this is only going to lasta couple of weeks.
Man, what's your cell phonenumber?
Hey, this only gonna last acouple weeks.
Man, what's your cell phonenumber?
Because I want you to come backRight now.
Shit, I wasn't even hearingthat.
Shit.
I just gave him my number.
I was like man, shit, whatever.
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Bro, I was at home for threefucking months, three Every
Friday.
I know I was bringing home,like they were paying me through
unemployment.
That's when they had that, that, that junk duty, shit.
Um, I was bringing home six, um, every week.
I was eight.
I can't remember, but I know itwas like, bro, I was at home
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cooking.
Every day I was at home cleaning, making sure my house was clean
.
I ain't even gonna lie to you,boy, at home cleaning making
sure my house was clean, I ain'tgonna lie to you boy, I shit, I
was a.
I was, I was a house man.
I was a at home dad at the timebecause she was still going to
work and we were just startingto get back on our feet before I
got laid off.
But then, when I got laid off,like I'm like you ain't gotta
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pay for nobody being daycare,you ain't gotta do this, you
ain't got to pay for nobodybeing daycare, you ain't got to
do this, you ain't got to dothat.
So we were making this shitwork.
Man, like we were making thisshit work.
So, yeah, you might look at thenegative shit.
Now I'm laid off.
Shit.
I'm at home with my son everyday.
I can actually be a dad.
He enjoy me being there.
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Every day I'm cleaning the house, house, I mean, she got no
laundry, laundry done, but I'mstill making this shit work.
She came home to a hot mealevery day like like I'm cooking.
Every day I'm learning how tocook new shit doing pot roast,
doing ribs, doing goddamn porkchops, doing the.
The yellow jug, goddamn rice.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout?
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That yellow jug, goddamn rice.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout?
That yellow jug, that alreadypre-seasoned rice.
That broccoli, that stringbeans.
Putting my goddamn you know mychicken broth and my shit.
Yeah, I'm a fat nigga.
I ain't going to lie to you.
Shit, I like to cook, but Imade the best out of it Instead
of being like woe is me.
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At first, I was looking at thenegative side, but then I had to
keep my chin up, walk high andstrut, motherfucker strut,
because sometimes people want tosee you at your lowest, but you
can't show them, motherfuckersthat shit, because the only
thing they're gonna do is feedand make their own narrative
about the shit.
And we got there.
I'm gonna be like, oh, they'relaughing at you when you at your
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lowest, and they're laughing atyou when you at your lowest and
they gonna hate you when you atyour highest, even to the room.
You might not be at yourhighest, you might have some old
clothes on, you might do this,do that.
You might be barely making it,but motherfucker strut.
That's what I'm trying to tellyou motherfucking strut, strut
your ass off.
Because Because all I got tosay is, hey, be that
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motherfucking fighting peacock.
If y'all don't know what thefuck I'm talking about, look up
Fresh Prince fighting peacockscene and that shit going to let
you know.
Peacock, I'm marching down thestreet.
Peacock, hey, be thatmotherfucking Peacock man.
I know y'all getting tired ofme, goddamn doing that goofy
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shit.
If y'all could actually see meover here dancing what time is
it Four something in the morningnow Y'all would laugh y'all ass
off.
But I'm just trying to makey'all understand.
Just because you think you atyour lowest, you're never at
your lowest Because it canalways be worse.
It can always be worse.
I'm so, hey, that's why.
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Hey, that's why a lot of timesyou hear them old cats talking
about something.
Hey, y'all fella how you doingtoday, man.
Hey, slow motion better than nomotion, because that's a that's
, that's, that's a truestatement.
Because you got to understandyour lane and the way you move,
because, should you be stagnantis death.
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But if you got a little motionyou still move.
So be glad you got a littlemotion in your body.
You can still make them steps.
You can still make strive to bebetter.
You can still get out here andgot them hustle and grind and
got them go for that next tier.
Hey, I was doing good today,but I'm doing better tomorrow.
I'm doing, I was doing bettertomorrow but I'm doing amazing
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the next day.
Boy, shit, and I'm talkingabout your build on that shit.
Do better and better and betterand better, better, better
every day that you got themalive.
Because, guess, let themmotherfuckers see that shit Glow
in these motherfucker faces towhere they can't do nothing but
hate on your motherfucking ass,to where they can look at you
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like, oh I hate that nigga, andthey gonna talk about you, like
you the motherfucking dirt ofthe motherfucking earth.
But guess what, strut,motherfucker strut.
Because, guess what, let themotherfuckers hate and let the
motherfuckers goddamn suffocateon your goddamn glow.
You feel me, because a lot ofthese motherfuckers goddamn will
suffocate off your glow andthey will hate and fill
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themselves up with thatnegativity and they will goddamn
go to that dark place insteadof you being in that dark place,
because they don't know howelse to tear you down, because
at this point in time in theirlife, the only thing they want
to do is wish death upon youBecause they're going to be like
man.
I wish that motherfucker gotdown.
Hey, man, show themmotherfuckers, them glow man.
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Strut on them, motherfuckers,strut, motherfucker man.
Walk like a mother with yourchest held high, your chin in
the air, your nose tooted up anda big ass motherfucking smile
on your motherfucking face towhere these motherfuckers hate
your existence.
So, motherfucking goddamn, keepyour head up.
Don't let them motherfuckerstear you down.
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You hear me don't hate, don'tlet them motherfuckers goddamn
tear you down.
I know I'm cussing a lot thisearly in the morning, but I
gotta.
I know a lot of y'allunderstand where the fuck I'm
coming from.
Let these motherfuckers hatebecause, guess what, there's
somebody out here that's happyfor you and there's probably a
thousand out of them that hateyour motherfucking existence.
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So let the motherfuckingthousand people hate your
existence because a like theyused to say on goddamn v103.
At one point in time in my lifeI used to hit here and not
understand when I was a youngjet, make your haters your
motivators, your haters yourmotor motherfucking vaders.
You hear me?
Because you got to understandif you if they ain't hating on
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you you're doing something wrong.
You need to do that shit 10times over.
Let them hate even more Because, at the end of the day, man,
fuck these folks, fuck them,fuck their opinion.
And you, motherfucking know, youon your grizzly, you on your
grind, you on your stand up, guyor woman, shit, regardless of
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what you doing, just strive.
Hey, you might be struggling,shit, regardless of what you're
doing, just strive.
Hey, you might be struggling,but shit, hey, you, struggling
with emotion, you're going tomake that shit work.
Trust me, this is from somebodythat didn't struggle, shit.
I remember one point in time,shit, I had to borrow $2.50 from
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my partner because I couldn'teven afford a bill and he told
me don't worry about it, bro,shit, you're going to help me
out one day when I'm low and loand behold, shit, that nigga
ain't have a car once upon atime.
And shit, he needed rides towork.
Shit.
I went and picked this nigga up, dropped back off and told him
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hey, bro, you good on gas, yousure?
You sure, bro, shit, say thatshit.
I'll give you another exampleshit, I was walking somebody out
to their car at three o'clockin the fucking morning, walked
out there, they got amotherfucking flat tire.
This ain't in my jobdescription, but me as a human
being.
At three in the morning, shit,this young lady got a fucking
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flat tire.
I said hey, you got a jack.
She said I don't know what ajack is.
Hey, let's look in your car andlet's see if we can find a jack
.
We found that jack.
We put that jack on with thatmotherfucker to work um, tighten
that motherfucking bolts up.
Work um, tighten thatmotherfucking bolts up.
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Kept it pushing.
She tried to pay.
She tried to pay me 35 forchanging her tie.
I said nah, sweetie, I don'twant your money.
Pay it forward, do somethingnice for somebody else.
She looked at me baffled I'm onlike shit.
You really going to turn downthis money?
I said yeah, I said becausethat's not why I did it.
I wasn't doing it to getsomething out of you.
I was doing it just to be niceand to be kind, which a lot of
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people fail to realize.
They do shit to get somethingout of somebody.
Sometimes you got to tellpeople I'm only here to help
others and that's what my fatherused to tell me Shit, just
because that motherfucker mightgot a million dollars, that man
might not be no man, thatmotherfucker might be a
motherfucking leech.
You hear me, so I just want totell y'all hey, I'm Jack.
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Thank you for listening toMotivational Mondays.
See y'all next week.
I'll see y'all later on thisweek.
From 4 Steps Only we out peace.
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