June 15, 2025 • 24 mins
Trust is sacred, but easily broken. This raw, unfiltered episode dives deep into the dangerous territory of oversharing and misplaced loyalty that can devastate your personal life.
Your host opens with a powerful message that sets the tone: certain things in life aren't meant for public consumption. Through painfully honest storytelling, he recounts his own experience of betrayal when a trusted friend became involved with someone he was seeing while deployed overseas in Japan. This gut-wrenching betrayal serves as the foundation for an important life lesson about guarding your privacy and being selective about your inner circle.
The conversation takes us through multiple real-world examples of how sharing intimate details can backfire spectacularly. From stolen belongings at house parties to friends turning on each other over romantic interests, each story reinforces the central theme: "Everything ain't everybody's fucking business." These experiences highlight how easily information transforms into weapons when relationships sour.
What makes this episode particularly valuable is the practical wisdom on identifying false friends and recognizing when to walk away from toxic situations. The host introduces the concept of "cutting someone's ward off" – withdrawing attention and care rather than engaging in confrontational endings – as a powerful response to betrayal. This approach forces the other person to sit with the consequences of their actions rather than providing them the comfort of explanation.
As you navigate your own relationships, remember that maintaining strong boundaries isn't selfish – it's self-preservation. Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of trust, privacy, and the courage to keep your circle small but meaningful. Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Caulfield - No Fucks Given
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Episode Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I just want to let y'all know how I feel.
Fuck your feelings, fuck yourfeelings, bitch.
No fucks giving.
Fuck your feelings.
Fuck your feelings.
Fuck your feelings, fuck yourfeelings.
No fucks giving.
Ayy, I just want to welcomey'all to 4 Stamples.
(00:20):
Only I'm Jack yeah, that littlemotherfucker, it's what we tell
y'all in real life and on.
This motherfucker, to sit downand watch a step for step here
on Four Steps is only hey.
I just want to let y'all know,y'all that who are tuning in
right now.
You can find us on ApplePodcasts, spotify, pandora, a
(00:43):
lot of other of other places.
Hey, you can even watch me hereon got on youtube also, because
I mean so many people alwaysask me all the time hey, man,
can I, can I watch you onfacebook?
No, no, I'm not.
I'm not on facebook.
I'm just gonna let you knowthat I'm I'm 38 years old and
(01:06):
this new technology bemind-fucking me sometime.
But there's one thing that Igotta get off my chest.
There's a reason that I let oneof my good dudes I know, um,
introduce me today.
Um, with that song called nofucks, given by caulfield um.
(01:26):
Like I personally know him, hedid some fucked up shit to me
one time offered me a shot andtequila and I was like shit,
hell yeah, shit I was.
I was always towards shit.
If a motherfucker after youdrink shit, you take it.
But this motherfucker put aghost pepper in his bottle of
tequila and had me drink theshit.
That shit got them through me.
(01:48):
So, off guard, this damntequila already burned, so why
would you goddamn make this shithotter than it already is?
Then it was cold at the sametime, so it burned and burned,
so it was like a trifecta thinggoing on.
But anyway, there's a reasonwhy I introduced this episode
with the song called no fucksgiving.
Hey, why y'all?
(02:09):
Why y'all motherfucking men andwomen out here got a pillow.
Talk about who y'all don't fuck, who y'all don't sleep with,
who y'all didn't, who y'alltalking to with this, that and
the third sometimes you need tolearn to shut the fuck up and
let let you deal with who youdeal with.
It ain't everybody'sinformation about who you deal
with and who you sleep with, whoyou got to do this with.
(02:30):
Why the fuck do they care?
Why the fuck do I care?
Hey, I'm not getting anygratification.
I mean, my shaft is not gettingwet, my dick is not getting
satisfied.
My soul and my intentions arenot goddamn pleasured because
you have slept with this personso honestly and truthfully.
I don't give a fuck and andthat's the way.
(02:53):
You should keep your shit toyourself because, hey, the more
people know, the more shit thatthey can use against you.
I mean because a lot of peoplefail to realize why do you have
to tell everything to everybody.
Because everything ain'teverybody's fucking business.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers get out here and
tell me something yeah, girl, Isucked Lil Larry's dick last
(03:15):
night.
Why?
Why do they care so much?
Why do they care so much toknow what you did with Lil Larry
last night?
Do they care so much to knowwhat you did with little larry
last night?
Because nine times out of ten,some people that you tell shit
to are gonna be envious, aregonna be like man.
I know that bitch can't fuckshit.
She done told me she can't fuck.
(03:36):
She told me she don't know howto suck dick.
She told me she don't know howto ride dick.
Talking about something, she upthere ride dick like this man.
Come on now, and when you tellsomebody how much shit or how
freaky the motherfucker get,they going to want to try that
shit out.
That's like if you tell amotherfucker Boy, shit, I was
over there hitting little shawty.
She was squirting like amotherfucker.
I mean shit, my bed was covered, boy, I thought I was swimming
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in the Atlantic Ocean.
Now, when you giving thatmotherfucker All that
information no matter if he'syour partner, your ace, boom
coon, whatever that motherfuckermight want to try your shit out
you get what I'm saying.
The reason why I say that I hadto learn from my own experiences
that everybody that you hangwith, everybody that you work
with, everybody that's aroundyou in general Don't really fuck
(04:22):
with you the way you think theyfuck with you.
The reason why I say that isbecause, like, I'll tell you a
little story time.
Um, it's like we call we callniggas jodies in the military.
Um, y'all might call him themailman, y'all might call him
the plumber, the ditch digger.
Oh, you gotta go see a manabout a horse.
(04:44):
You know just little shit hereand there.
So I'm going to tell you whathappened to me.
So I let my partner be aroundShit, this is when I was younger
, because I mean shit, you gotto go through shit to learn shit
.
So this is when I was younger Istarted dealing with this female
.
So when I started dealing withher, shit, my partner would come
(05:05):
around sometime because, youknow, I was hanging with her
uncles, her cousins and herbrothers, shit like that, like
just hanging with the fam.
So I mean it was a good time,it was a good vibe, it was a
good session.
That's why I say everybody thathang with you ain't really your
fucking friend.
So boom, this, that.
And the third happened blah,blah, blah.
Next thing, you know, shit, Iget shipped overseas me and this
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girl had never done anythingyet.
Oh, let me go ahead and retractit, whatever the fuck.
How the fuck you say it, but weain't, we ain't doing nothing
yet.
But next thing, you know, shitI done got shipped overseas to
japan.
Oh, yeah, I was in japan, um.
(05:50):
And next thing, I know, you know, at that time, shit, you know,
I'm scrolling through facebookbecause I really can't call,
because we're 16 hours ahead.
Um, I mean I could try to call,I could try, whatever.
So one of my partners yeah, boy, I'm going over there to hang
with, okay, shit, cool, whatever.
(06:10):
Whatever I said, how'severything going?
The motherfucker started to go.
You know, shit started seeminga little weird with the
motherfucker and every time Italked to him he was always
saying he was leaving from overthere.
Now, I remind you, I'm likethree quarters across the world,
(06:30):
so I there's no way I can popup.
Next thing I know shit.
I'm scrolling through Facebook.
I see this motherfuckerpregnant.
It ain't mine pregnant, itain't mine.
(06:51):
She ain't told me shit.
Remind you, it's only been 30days since I've been gone.
Next thing I know I come to findout she's pregnant by my
homeboy.
Fucked up, ain't it?
She told my son oh, blah, blah,this, that and the third, la la
, la, shit happened.
So I can't, I can't blame youknow.
You know what.
I'm gonna go ahead, keep itfunky with you.
(07:12):
I'm gonna go ahead and keep ita thow out with y'all.
I was so pissed off I said fuckboth of them.
I'll tell my nigga I was seeingred.
So when I got back to the States, within nine months, her
brother, like I, touched downand her brother got down and
told me Bro, come to FortWooders.
(07:33):
I ain't seen you in a minute.
So you know I'm going overthere.
They cooking on the grill andshit.
I didn't know she was there.
So I popped up over there.
I wasn't going to say two words.
She big and pregnant now, so Itold her.
The asshole in me Told her.
I wish you the bestCongratulations.
What can I talk to you, man?
(07:53):
What you got to talk to me, man?
Talk to your baby dad.
Whatever man come to find out,this nigga done jumped on him.
But that ain't the worst thingyou can do to a motherfucker.
So it came to find out by twodifferent STDs while pregnant
with the dude's baby, not onetime, but twice.
(08:14):
So in my mind it's just likeshit.
Hey, karma did my justice.
I ain't got to say nothing.
I ain't got to do nothing.
Shawty, you been got downpissing fire for the longest.
Next thing, I know he walk upon me, try to shake my hand I'm
a little short with themotherfucker at this time.
(08:36):
So I mean I got a lot of builtup frustration.
Like bro, you violated Nigga.
I can't trust you.
Nigga, I don't even want to dapyour hand.
Nigga.
You contagious nigga.
You around here spreading loveto each and everybody.
I didn't think the teacher meantsharing is caring when you got
out here giving STDs tomotherfuckers Just like it's,
like you giving out dollar bills, like you giving out free candy
(08:58):
.
So it's like, bro, shit, ohshit, I mean you grab your penis
with your goddamn infected hand.
No, bro, shit, that shit, nastybro.
That shit like, oh, you tryingto pass, you trying to pass
germs off to me, I don't wantto't want to touch you, nigga.
You contagious you a fuck nigga.
So boom shit.
So he, he tried to swell up.
So shit, I told her, I told hersome shakes on, do something.
(09:21):
So um, but her brother ended uptelling us ajj, not right here,
not right here, my dude's gonnasay something, she's gonna be
pissed off, whatever.
All right, cool, no problem.
So to this day.
Fourth, I don't fuck with him.
So, but fast forward.
So I'm 38, I had to learn someshit.
(09:44):
I'm thinking motherfuckers, beon your corner.
This and the third you'll betelling shit.
You know they confide in shitin you and you don't tell shit.
Just a stand up, motherfuckerthat you fuck with.
You don't tell what the fuck.
Your partner call you on thephone and tell you Two, three
o'clock in the morning he goingthrough shit With his old lady,
(10:06):
goddamn.
So next thing, you know you belike this shit.
Hey, bro, if you need to pullup.
Goddamn, get away from thehouse.
It might be 2 o'clock, 3o'clock, 4 o'clock in the
morning.
Come to find out.
This nigga telling my businessinstead of telling his own.
And it's like bro, why are youtelling my shit?
Why are you telling my storyand you telling the
(10:28):
motherfuckers that don't evenknow the whole story?
What are you doing?
They don't even know the wholestory.
What are you doing?
You're telling this shit tomotherfuckers that don't know
the whole ins and outs andeverything.
You just want to tell selectpoints and certain situations to
where you just got some shit totalk about.
(10:52):
I mean to me you're running yourmouth like a hoe and that
doesn't sit well with me becauseit's like how can I trust you
from this day and a third?
So then you start looking ateverybody as the, the opposition
opponents, as everybody'sagainst you.
So now it's like to be honest,it's fuck everybody.
I don't talk about shit.
I don't say shit.
If it's private, it's private.
I don't talk about shit.
I don't say shit.
If it's private, it's private.
(11:13):
I don't tell who the fuck I'mfucking with.
Nothing Like.
If it's my business, it's mybusiness, I don't even.
I don't even.
It ain't no more sharing, it'scaring.
Fuck that dumb shit.
You can keep that shit.
So now, shit.
So I'm dealing with a lot of YNs.
Now I'm starting to see twohomeboys beef, which is weird to
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me.
It's like I done seen theseboys got down and talk about
yeah, we went out the weekend,we went paintballing, we went
this, that.
And the third, we went got down, had drinks, we got fucked.
Now these motherfuckers overhere beefing about a wet spot,
these boys out here beefingabout a piece of pussy.
(11:55):
Why couldn't you come to yourhomeboy and tell him what the
fuck you had going on and remindy'all this, this, this, this
the problem with your partner.
Knew you were trying to hollerat old girl first, but he
backdoored your ass now.
Now shawty got you lookingcrazy, bro, over here lying and
(12:17):
it's like, bro, sometimes y'allneed to goddamn learn how to
shut the fuck up, do what thefuck y'all gonna do and just
move how you move.
Because you couldn't come up toyour, your partner as a
stand-up man and tell him whatthe fuck you want to do, or told
him that shawty wasn't feelingthem.
He said what kind of partnerare you, bro?
Because that to me, that'sfucked up.
(12:37):
That showed me that where yourloyalty lie, your lie, your
loyalty lie between a pair oflegs.
Not with your partner, notthrough the motherfucker you got
a goddamn might have to borrowa dollar from, might not who you
might have to borrow a ridefrom, not for a motherfucker
that got them help you throughstressful situations, or goddamn
who you might need for areference.
But that's why, like at the ageof 38 now, I look back and see
(13:02):
how big my circle is, how manymotherfuckers I talk to, because
I barely talk to anybody.
I might see you as in passing,but them ain't the first phone
calls I make to kick the bobowith.
Or when I'm got down I got aflat tie, or I'm going through
some shit, or even when I'mgoing through some good shit, or
I got some congratulations yeah, bro, shit.
(13:23):
When I'm excited aboutsomething, y'all ain't the first
ones I go to.
Now, because y'all don't fuckme over so bad.
Why the fuck should I trust you?
Because I'll give you anotherinstant.
So I would like.
Um, a couple years back I washaving a you know, a kickback, a
shindig at my house, and youknow I had.
(13:43):
At that time I was drinkingheavily.
I was drinking heavily.
Do say like two, three bottlesat my, at my shindigs, like I
had tequila, I had a whole bunchof shit.
I had a full start bar, like Iwanted to the point where you
didn't have to go out and get nomore shit.
You, everything was solidified.
We had wings, hey, partake,whatever.
(14:06):
Tell me why I wake up the nextmorning.
I know like shit, I will fuck,don't get me wrong.
It was a wonderful thrownbirthday shindig for me.
But when everything was saidand done, I wake up the next
morning and I'm like damn, Iain't even bust up, I ain't even
spank both bottles of d'use, Iain't, I ain't pop the, I ain't
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pop the cork on both bottles.
What the fuck is my otherbottle?
Because I got the, the mainbottle here that we started with
, and I mean I got hen and I gotall this other shit here.
So what the fuck?
What the fuck is my otherbottle to do?
Say, and it's like, why is itmissing?
So now I'm goddamn lookingthrough my ring camera,
(14:50):
scrolling through my ring camera, you know when everybody,
believe me, tell me why I seetwo of my so-called partners
leave with a bottle of my.
Do say full bottle, y'all ain't,y'all can't empty-handed.
So I know this ain't come withy'all and it wasn't a little
small goddamn personal size.
Do say bottle, it was the partysize, it was the heavy size, it
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was the 1.75 motherfucker ofduse.
So my question is why did y'allfeel like y'all were obligated
or y'all had to take a souveniror a gift from my for my
situation?
Because you ain't put in, Iunderstand if I say oh shit,
hell yeah, bro, you could takethat.
Motherfucker, I don't give afuck.
I wouldn't give you a fullbottle Unless I came over to
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your house and that's what Ibrought with me and I left it
there.
So what made you obligated tofeel like you could take that
shit away with you?
Because to me that shit flowedfuck.
But that's where I'm going.
But that's why this situationis this story time.
It's because a lot of thesemotherfuckers don't understand.
So many of y'all will talkyourself out some pussy or off a
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dick.
It ain't even cool Because Imean, a lot of these people got
down like their egos and theirdrama.
They get so caught up in tothis reality TV bullshit to
where they think that that's theway the shit's supposed to work
.
That's the way the shit'ssupposed to run.
That ain't right.
Who told y'all that's the waythe shit's supposed to work?
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Because the way shit's supposedto work is certain shit's
supposed to be coveted, certainshit's supposed to be played
close to the chest.
My analogy that I give peopleall the time is this If you're
playing spades, you're playing,god don't uno.
Whatever the fuck you'replaying, you know your hand and
the other person know you'retheirs.
They share a little bit at atime with you, but they don't
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show their whole hand to you,because what's in their hand
they don't want everybody elseto know.
So why the fuck you telling mybusiness to everybody else for
them to heal and for them toknow?
So, therefore, I might putsomething out, but I'm not gonna
tell you everything.
I might put this out, but I'mnot gonna tell you everything.
I might put this out, but I'mnot gonna tell you everything.
(17:08):
Same way, you might put out alittle piece at a time.
You might put a red, you mightput a draw, for you might put a
heart, a spade or whateverpuppet toe, whatever the fuck
you want to put it, but I don'tknow everything.
You have going on but that,with that being said, us as
individuals, we have tounderstand that we can't share
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everything to everybody, becauseeverybody is not privy to
knowing these things.
It's not everybody'sresponsibility to know these
things, because that's when theygo and get the opportunities to
go share your shit witheverybody.
So so I mean shit, so you canlook at two sides of a coin,
like both of y'all at fault you,you, at fault for letting this
motherfucker know.
(17:50):
This motherfucker was at faultfor God damn running his dick
sucker, or she was running herdick sucker.
This shit ain't this shit.
Ain't gender, gender bias.
Both of y'all need to learn toshut the fuck up, because that's
sometimes you got to sit backand watch the pot stew, because
if you don't watch that pot stew, you don't know what the fuck
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is really going on.
You don't know what everybody'sexposing themselves to or
putting out there for everybodyto fucking know, because, like
we say before, it ain'teverybody's fucking business.
So sometimes you gotta sit backand shut the fuck up straight
up, because that's that's how wegot to move through life.
It's fucked up.
It's crazy that we got a place,we got to play these secret
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games, but sometimes you can,you can you?
You do shit in private becauseyou hold that shit coveted.
You hold that shit covetedbecause you see, like now, with
the new shit, even NDAs don'tmake motherfuckers shut the fuck
up.
So what makes you think thatyour honest word is born?
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Your word means absolutelyanything to some people, to
sometimes half.
These people don't even wipetheir ass.
So what makes you think andthat's some covetous shit,
because nobody really wants tolet everybody see they got them
doo-doo streaks in their drawers.
You get what I'm saying.
Like, if you see a big-ass turdand goddamn line in their shit,
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why the fuck are thesemotherfuckers like?
They try to put thatmotherfucker at the bottom of
the goddamn trash can, or theythrow I'm sorry, sorry, not the
trash can, the laundry basket,or they throw that bitch in the
trash can because they, becausethey don't want everybody and
their mama to know that's likeshit.
A lot of, a lot of some peopledon't want certain shit because
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I okay, I got another story fory'all, um, so I I was sitting
back listening at work one dayand, um, this girl comes out
because her and her goddamnwhatever situation they were in
um was got them going back andforth and the first, next thing
you know comes out of her mouth.
Why don't you tell them how youlike to be bent over?
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Everybody just looked at him.
See certain shit like that,certain shit like that.
I don't know if they werejoking, I don't know if she was
serious, but for you to justthrow that shit out there for
the world to know.
Now they're gonna be looking atthis motherfucking man like he a
whole bitch, like he a wholehoe.
Now he can't get his reputationback, like boy, that little boy
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there, but like to get hisasshole played in.
I mean, if that's your privy,that's your privy.
Ain't no judgment here.
But what happens behind closeddoors, whether she got that guac
guac 3000, whether she got thatman hung like a goddamn horse,
whether that motherfucker belaying in pipe for hours, that's
(20:43):
y'all business.
That's y'all business.
Not nobody else Like whether helike to get bent over or not,
that's y'all business.
That's y'all business.
Not, nobody else Like whetherhe like to get bent over or not,
that's y'all business.
I'm just saying that.
But to me sometimes people bedoing too much just to gain
attention from others.
(21:03):
That's like, ok, I get anotherperfect example from others.
That's like, okay, I'll giveyou another perfect example.
That's like nobody should knowthat, that your man can't get it
up, that he doesn't satisfy you, because now, that's now this
the one thing that goddamnpisses me the fuck off.
You've been fucking with thisman for years, but as soon as
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some shit go left, the firstfirst thing females throw out
there.
They try to intimidate yourmanhood.
That's why your dick small,that's why you can't get it up
all the time, that's why youdon't satisfy me.
That's why shit I got to.
You know why, why you got toinsult somebody Instead of
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instead of shit.
Like I told him the other day.
They asked me what do you do ifsomebody piss you off?
I cut their ward off.
I know a lot of y'all don'tunderstand that term, but this,
this is why we use that term cuttheir ward off.
I know it's a country, it's acountry term.
It sounds country's fault, butit but it will make sense once I
explain it.
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It says if I've been treatingyou good, I've been treating you
right, I've been looking outfor you.
This and the third I stoppedfucking with you.
I stopped fucking with you.
I stopped showing you thetreatment that you were getting
before.
I stopped showing you theattention that you were getting
before and I just just back thefuck off, I disappear, because a
lot of people don't, becausethat'll hurt people more,
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because they start questioningwhether it was them, whether it
was you, whether it was thisperson, whether it was this
person or why you start fuckingwith them, because then they
would say I just want closure.
Sometimes you ain't privilegedto closure.
What makes you think you gotthem entitled to anything?
That's what's wrong with y'all.
Stop feeling like you'reentitled to something.
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This shit just didn't work out.
That's all that matters.
You want your way, he went his,and I mean sometimes that's the
way it has to be, instead ofyou thinking that you got to go
back to closure.
Man, we don't spend back.
What's the point of spinningback?
I learned my lesson withspinning back.
They ended up me with anotherchild in a bad situation was
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through some bullshit.
So why am I obligated to spinback to a situation that was
unhealthy, that was toxic, thatwas highly volatile, that was
violent?
I mean shit.
Only thing you can do is either, when you go back to a
situation like that, they onlyescalate.
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You get what I'm saying,because if y'all both don't grow
y'all don't go get therapy orfigure out some some type of
positive way of communicatingand transitioning these issues.
You only got two options Deador jail, or just to walk away.
But thank y'all for listening toFour Steppers Only.
(23:55):
Hey, be sure to tune in to uson YouTube, spotify, pandora,
iheartradio, cause we havingwell, we in 49 countries and
almost 500.
God, no one sees.
Well we in 49 countries andalmost 500 guide-norn cities.
Peace we out.
Outro Music.
I just want to let y'all know how I feel.
Fuck your feelings, fuck yourfeelings, bitch.
No fucks giving.
Fuck your feelings.
Fuck your feelings.
Fuck your feelings, fuck yourfeelings.
No fucks giving.
Ayy, I just want to welcomey'all to 4 Stamples.
(00:20):
Only I'm Jack yeah, that littlemotherfucker, it's what we tell
y'all in real life and on.
This motherfucker, to sit downand watch a step for step here
on Four Steps is only hey.
I just want to let y'all know,y'all that who are tuning in
right now.
You can find us on ApplePodcasts, spotify, pandora, a
(00:43):
lot of other of other places.
Hey, you can even watch me hereon got on youtube also, because
I mean so many people alwaysask me all the time hey, man,
can I, can I watch you onfacebook?
No, no, I'm not.
I'm not on facebook.
I'm just gonna let you knowthat I'm I'm 38 years old and
(01:06):
this new technology bemind-fucking me sometime.
But there's one thing that Igotta get off my chest.
There's a reason that I let oneof my good dudes I know, um,
introduce me today.
Um, with that song called nofucks, given by caulfield um.
(01:26):
Like I personally know him, hedid some fucked up shit to me
one time offered me a shot andtequila and I was like shit,
hell yeah, shit I was.
I was always towards shit.
If a motherfucker after youdrink shit, you take it.
But this motherfucker put aghost pepper in his bottle of
tequila and had me drink theshit.
That shit got them through me.
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So, off guard, this damntequila already burned, so why
would you goddamn make this shithotter than it already is?
Then it was cold at the sametime, so it burned and burned,
so it was like a trifecta thinggoing on.
But anyway, there's a reasonwhy I introduced this episode
with the song called no fucksgiving.
Hey, why y'all?
(02:09):
Why y'all motherfucking men andwomen out here got a pillow.
Talk about who y'all don't fuck, who y'all don't sleep with,
who y'all didn't, who y'alltalking to with this, that and
the third sometimes you need tolearn to shut the fuck up and
let let you deal with who youdeal with.
It ain't everybody'sinformation about who you deal
with and who you sleep with, whoyou got to do this with.
(02:30):
Why the fuck do they care?
Why the fuck do I care?
Hey, I'm not getting anygratification.
I mean, my shaft is not gettingwet, my dick is not getting
satisfied.
My soul and my intentions arenot goddamn pleasured because
you have slept with this personso honestly and truthfully.
I don't give a fuck and andthat's the way.
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You should keep your shit toyourself because, hey, the more
people know, the more shit thatthey can use against you.
I mean because a lot of peoplefail to realize why do you have
to tell everything to everybody.
Because everything ain'teverybody's fucking business.
Because a lot of thesemotherfuckers get out here and
tell me something yeah, girl, Isucked Lil Larry's dick last
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night.
Why?
Why do they care so much?
Why do they care so much toknow what you did with Lil Larry
last night?
Do they care so much to knowwhat you did with little larry
last night?
Because nine times out of ten,some people that you tell shit
to are gonna be envious, aregonna be like man.
I know that bitch can't fuckshit.
She done told me she can't fuck.
(03:36):
She told me she don't know howto suck dick.
She told me she don't know howto ride dick.
Talking about something, she upthere ride dick like this man.
Come on now, and when you tellsomebody how much shit or how
freaky the motherfucker get,they going to want to try that
shit out.
That's like if you tell amotherfucker Boy, shit, I was
over there hitting little shawty.
She was squirting like amotherfucker.
I mean shit, my bed was covered, boy, I thought I was swimming
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in the Atlantic Ocean.
Now, when you giving thatmotherfucker All that
information no matter if he'syour partner, your ace, boom
coon, whatever that motherfuckermight want to try your shit out
you get what I'm saying.
The reason why I say that I hadto learn from my own experiences
that everybody that you hangwith, everybody that you work
with, everybody that's aroundyou in general Don't really fuck
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with you the way you think theyfuck with you.
The reason why I say that isbecause, like, I'll tell you a
little story time.
Um, it's like we call we callniggas jodies in the military.
Um, y'all might call him themailman, y'all might call him
the plumber, the ditch digger.
Oh, you gotta go see a manabout a horse.
(04:44):
You know just little shit hereand there.
So I'm going to tell you whathappened to me.
So I let my partner be aroundShit, this is when I was younger
, because I mean shit, you gotto go through shit to learn shit
.
So this is when I was younger Istarted dealing with this female
.
So when I started dealing withher, shit, my partner would come
(05:05):
around sometime because, youknow, I was hanging with her
uncles, her cousins and herbrothers, shit like that, like
just hanging with the fam.
So I mean it was a good time,it was a good vibe, it was a
good session.
That's why I say everybody thathang with you ain't really your
fucking friend.
So boom, this, that.
And the third happened blah,blah, blah.
Next thing, you know, shit, Iget shipped overseas me and this
(05:29):
girl had never done anythingyet.
Oh, let me go ahead and retractit, whatever the fuck.
How the fuck you say it, but weain't, we ain't doing nothing
yet.
But next thing, you know, shitI done got shipped overseas to
japan.
Oh, yeah, I was in japan, um.
(05:50):
And next thing, I know, you know, at that time, shit, you know,
I'm scrolling through facebookbecause I really can't call,
because we're 16 hours ahead.
Um, I mean I could try to call,I could try, whatever.
So one of my partners yeah, boy, I'm going over there to hang
with, okay, shit, cool, whatever.
(06:10):
Whatever I said, how'severything going?
The motherfucker started to go.
You know, shit started seeminga little weird with the
motherfucker and every time Italked to him he was always
saying he was leaving from overthere.
Now, I remind you, I'm likethree quarters across the world,
(06:30):
so I there's no way I can popup.
Next thing I know shit.
I'm scrolling through Facebook.
I see this motherfuckerpregnant.
It ain't mine pregnant, itain't mine.
(06:51):
She ain't told me shit.
Remind you, it's only been 30days since I've been gone.
Next thing I know I come to findout she's pregnant by my
homeboy.
Fucked up, ain't it?
She told my son oh, blah, blah,this, that and the third, la la
, la, shit happened.
So I can't, I can't blame youknow.
You know what.
I'm gonna go ahead, keep itfunky with you.
(07:12):
I'm gonna go ahead and keep ita thow out with y'all.
I was so pissed off I said fuckboth of them.
I'll tell my nigga I was seeingred.
So when I got back to the States, within nine months, her
brother, like I, touched downand her brother got down and
told me Bro, come to FortWooders.
(07:33):
I ain't seen you in a minute.
So you know I'm going overthere.
They cooking on the grill andshit.
I didn't know she was there.
So I popped up over there.
I wasn't going to say two words.
She big and pregnant now, so Itold her.
The asshole in me Told her.
I wish you the bestCongratulations.
What can I talk to you, man?
(07:53):
What you got to talk to me, man?
Talk to your baby dad.
Whatever man come to find out,this nigga done jumped on him.
But that ain't the worst thingyou can do to a motherfucker.
So it came to find out by twodifferent STDs while pregnant
with the dude's baby, not onetime, but twice.
(08:14):
So in my mind it's just likeshit.
Hey, karma did my justice.
I ain't got to say nothing.
I ain't got to do nothing.
Shawty, you been got downpissing fire for the longest.
Next thing, I know he walk upon me, try to shake my hand I'm
a little short with themotherfucker at this time.
(08:36):
So I mean I got a lot of builtup frustration.
Like bro, you violated Nigga.
I can't trust you.
Nigga, I don't even want to dapyour hand.
Nigga.
You contagious nigga.
You around here spreading loveto each and everybody.
I didn't think the teacher meantsharing is caring when you got
out here giving STDs tomotherfuckers Just like it's,
like you giving out dollar bills, like you giving out free candy
(08:58):
.
So it's like, bro, shit, ohshit, I mean you grab your penis
with your goddamn infected hand.
No, bro, shit, that shit, nastybro.
That shit like, oh, you tryingto pass, you trying to pass
germs off to me, I don't wantto't want to touch you, nigga.
You contagious you a fuck nigga.
So boom shit.
So he, he tried to swell up.
So shit, I told her, I told hersome shakes on, do something.
(09:21):
So um, but her brother ended uptelling us ajj, not right here,
not right here, my dude's gonnasay something, she's gonna be
pissed off, whatever.
All right, cool, no problem.
So to this day.
Fourth, I don't fuck with him.
So, but fast forward.
So I'm 38, I had to learn someshit.
(09:44):
I'm thinking motherfuckers, beon your corner.
This and the third you'll betelling shit.
You know they confide in shitin you and you don't tell shit.
Just a stand up, motherfuckerthat you fuck with.
You don't tell what the fuck.
Your partner call you on thephone and tell you Two, three
o'clock in the morning he goingthrough shit With his old lady,
(10:06):
goddamn.
So next thing, you know you belike this shit.
Hey, bro, if you need to pullup.
Goddamn, get away from thehouse.
It might be 2 o'clock, 3o'clock, 4 o'clock in the
morning.
Come to find out.
This nigga telling my businessinstead of telling his own.
And it's like bro, why are youtelling my shit?
Why are you telling my storyand you telling the
(10:28):
motherfuckers that don't evenknow the whole story?
What are you doing?
They don't even know the wholestory.
What are you doing?
You're telling this shit tomotherfuckers that don't know
the whole ins and outs andeverything.
You just want to tell selectpoints and certain situations to
where you just got some shit totalk about.
(10:52):
I mean to me you're running yourmouth like a hoe and that
doesn't sit well with me becauseit's like how can I trust you
from this day and a third?
So then you start looking ateverybody as the, the opposition
opponents, as everybody'sagainst you.
So now it's like to be honest,it's fuck everybody.
I don't talk about shit.
I don't say shit.
If it's private, it's private.
I don't talk about shit.
I don't say shit.
If it's private, it's private.
(11:13):
I don't tell who the fuck I'mfucking with.
Nothing Like.
If it's my business, it's mybusiness, I don't even.
I don't even.
It ain't no more sharing, it'scaring.
Fuck that dumb shit.
You can keep that shit.
So now, shit.
So I'm dealing with a lot of YNs.
Now I'm starting to see twohomeboys beef, which is weird to
(11:35):
me.
It's like I done seen theseboys got down and talk about
yeah, we went out the weekend,we went paintballing, we went
this, that.
And the third, we went got down, had drinks, we got fucked.
Now these motherfuckers overhere beefing about a wet spot,
these boys out here beefingabout a piece of pussy.
(11:55):
Why couldn't you come to yourhomeboy and tell him what the
fuck you had going on and remindy'all this, this, this, this
the problem with your partner.
Knew you were trying to hollerat old girl first, but he
backdoored your ass now.
Now shawty got you lookingcrazy, bro, over here lying and
(12:17):
it's like, bro, sometimes y'allneed to goddamn learn how to
shut the fuck up, do what thefuck y'all gonna do and just
move how you move.
Because you couldn't come up toyour, your partner as a
stand-up man and tell him whatthe fuck you want to do, or told
him that shawty wasn't feelingthem.
He said what kind of partnerare you, bro?
Because that to me, that'sfucked up.
(12:37):
That showed me that where yourloyalty lie, your lie, your
loyalty lie between a pair oflegs.
Not with your partner, notthrough the motherfucker you got
a goddamn might have to borrowa dollar from, might not who you
might have to borrow a ridefrom, not for a motherfucker
that got them help you throughstressful situations, or goddamn
who you might need for areference.
But that's why, like at the ageof 38 now, I look back and see
(13:02):
how big my circle is, how manymotherfuckers I talk to, because
I barely talk to anybody.
I might see you as in passing,but them ain't the first phone
calls I make to kick the bobowith.
Or when I'm got down I got aflat tie, or I'm going through
some shit, or even when I'mgoing through some good shit, or
I got some congratulations yeah, bro, shit.
(13:23):
When I'm excited aboutsomething, y'all ain't the first
ones I go to.
Now, because y'all don't fuckme over so bad.
Why the fuck should I trust you?
Because I'll give you anotherinstant.
So I would like.
Um, a couple years back I washaving a you know, a kickback, a
shindig at my house, and youknow I had.
(13:43):
At that time I was drinkingheavily.
I was drinking heavily.
Do say like two, three bottlesat my, at my shindigs, like I
had tequila, I had a whole bunchof shit.
I had a full start bar, like Iwanted to the point where you
didn't have to go out and get nomore shit.
You, everything was solidified.
We had wings, hey, partake,whatever.
(14:06):
Tell me why I wake up the nextmorning.
I know like shit, I will fuck,don't get me wrong.
It was a wonderful thrownbirthday shindig for me.
But when everything was saidand done, I wake up the next
morning and I'm like damn, Iain't even bust up, I ain't even
spank both bottles of d'use, Iain't, I ain't pop the, I ain't
(14:28):
pop the cork on both bottles.
What the fuck is my otherbottle?
Because I got the, the mainbottle here that we started with
, and I mean I got hen and I gotall this other shit here.
So what the fuck?
What the fuck is my otherbottle to do?
Say, and it's like, why is itmissing?
So now I'm goddamn lookingthrough my ring camera,
(14:50):
scrolling through my ring camera, you know when everybody,
believe me, tell me why I seetwo of my so-called partners
leave with a bottle of my.
Do say full bottle, y'all ain't,y'all can't empty-handed.
So I know this ain't come withy'all and it wasn't a little
small goddamn personal size.
Do say bottle, it was the partysize, it was the heavy size, it
(15:13):
was the 1.75 motherfucker ofduse.
So my question is why did y'allfeel like y'all were obligated
or y'all had to take a souveniror a gift from my for my
situation?
Because you ain't put in, Iunderstand if I say oh shit,
hell yeah, bro, you could takethat.
Motherfucker, I don't give afuck.
I wouldn't give you a fullbottle Unless I came over to
(15:39):
your house and that's what Ibrought with me and I left it
there.
So what made you obligated tofeel like you could take that
shit away with you?
Because to me that shit flowedfuck.
But that's where I'm going.
But that's why this situationis this story time.
It's because a lot of thesemotherfuckers don't understand.
So many of y'all will talkyourself out some pussy or off a
(16:02):
dick.
It ain't even cool Because Imean, a lot of these people got
down like their egos and theirdrama.
They get so caught up in tothis reality TV bullshit to
where they think that that's theway the shit's supposed to work
.
That's the way the shit'ssupposed to run.
That ain't right.
Who told y'all that's the waythe shit's supposed to work?
(16:24):
Because the way shit's supposedto work is certain shit's
supposed to be coveted, certainshit's supposed to be played
close to the chest.
My analogy that I give peopleall the time is this If you're
playing spades, you're playing,god don't uno.
Whatever the fuck you'replaying, you know your hand and
the other person know you'retheirs.
They share a little bit at atime with you, but they don't
(16:48):
show their whole hand to you,because what's in their hand
they don't want everybody elseto know.
So why the fuck you telling mybusiness to everybody else for
them to heal and for them toknow?
So, therefore, I might putsomething out, but I'm not gonna
tell you everything.
I might put this out, but I'mnot gonna tell you everything.
I might put this out, but I'mnot gonna tell you everything.
(17:08):
Same way, you might put out alittle piece at a time.
You might put a red, you mightput a draw, for you might put a
heart, a spade or whateverpuppet toe, whatever the fuck
you want to put it, but I don'tknow everything.
You have going on but that,with that being said, us as
individuals, we have tounderstand that we can't share
(17:30):
everything to everybody, becauseeverybody is not privy to
knowing these things.
It's not everybody'sresponsibility to know these
things, because that's when theygo and get the opportunities to
go share your shit witheverybody.
So so I mean shit, so you canlook at two sides of a coin,
like both of y'all at fault you,you, at fault for letting this
motherfucker know.
(17:50):
This motherfucker was at faultfor God damn running his dick
sucker, or she was running herdick sucker.
This shit ain't this shit.
Ain't gender, gender bias.
Both of y'all need to learn toshut the fuck up, because that's
sometimes you got to sit backand watch the pot stew, because
if you don't watch that pot stew, you don't know what the fuck
(18:11):
is really going on.
You don't know what everybody'sexposing themselves to or
putting out there for everybodyto fucking know, because, like
we say before, it ain'teverybody's fucking business.
So sometimes you gotta sit backand shut the fuck up straight
up, because that's that's how wegot to move through life.
It's fucked up.
It's crazy that we got a place,we got to play these secret
(18:34):
games, but sometimes you can,you can you?
You do shit in private becauseyou hold that shit coveted.
You hold that shit covetedbecause you see, like now, with
the new shit, even NDAs don'tmake motherfuckers shut the fuck
up.
So what makes you think thatyour honest word is born?
(18:55):
Your word means absolutelyanything to some people, to
sometimes half.
These people don't even wipetheir ass.
So what makes you think andthat's some covetous shit,
because nobody really wants tolet everybody see they got them
doo-doo streaks in their drawers.
You get what I'm saying.
Like, if you see a big-ass turdand goddamn line in their shit,
(19:17):
why the fuck are thesemotherfuckers like?
They try to put thatmotherfucker at the bottom of
the goddamn trash can, or theythrow I'm sorry, sorry, not the
trash can, the laundry basket,or they throw that bitch in the
trash can because they, becausethey don't want everybody and
their mama to know that's likeshit.
A lot of, a lot of some peopledon't want certain shit because
(19:38):
I okay, I got another story fory'all, um, so I I was sitting
back listening at work one dayand, um, this girl comes out
because her and her goddamnwhatever situation they were in
um was got them going back andforth and the first, next thing
you know comes out of her mouth.
Why don't you tell them how youlike to be bent over?
(20:00):
Everybody just looked at him.
See certain shit like that,certain shit like that.
I don't know if they werejoking, I don't know if she was
serious, but for you to justthrow that shit out there for
the world to know.
Now they're gonna be looking atthis motherfucking man like he a
whole bitch, like he a wholehoe.
Now he can't get his reputationback, like boy, that little boy
(20:22):
there, but like to get hisasshole played in.
I mean, if that's your privy,that's your privy.
Ain't no judgment here.
But what happens behind closeddoors, whether she got that guac
guac 3000, whether she got thatman hung like a goddamn horse,
whether that motherfucker belaying in pipe for hours, that's
(20:43):
y'all business.
That's y'all business.
Not nobody else Like whether helike to get bent over or not,
that's y'all business.
That's y'all business.
Not, nobody else Like whetherhe like to get bent over or not,
that's y'all business.
I'm just saying that.
But to me sometimes people bedoing too much just to gain
attention from others.
(21:03):
That's like, ok, I get anotherperfect example from others.
That's like, okay, I'll giveyou another perfect example.
That's like nobody should knowthat, that your man can't get it
up, that he doesn't satisfy you, because now, that's now this
the one thing that goddamnpisses me the fuck off.
You've been fucking with thisman for years, but as soon as
(21:24):
some shit go left, the firstfirst thing females throw out
there.
They try to intimidate yourmanhood.
That's why your dick small,that's why you can't get it up
all the time, that's why youdon't satisfy me.
That's why shit I got to.
You know why, why you got toinsult somebody Instead of
(21:49):
instead of shit.
Like I told him the other day.
They asked me what do you do ifsomebody piss you off?
I cut their ward off.
I know a lot of y'all don'tunderstand that term, but this,
this is why we use that term cuttheir ward off.
I know it's a country, it's acountry term.
It sounds country's fault, butit but it will make sense once I
explain it.
(22:09):
It says if I've been treatingyou good, I've been treating you
right, I've been looking outfor you.
This and the third I stoppedfucking with you.
I stopped fucking with you.
I stopped showing you thetreatment that you were getting
before.
I stopped showing you theattention that you were getting
before and I just just back thefuck off, I disappear, because a
lot of people don't, becausethat'll hurt people more,
(22:31):
because they start questioningwhether it was them, whether it
was you, whether it was thisperson, whether it was this
person or why you start fuckingwith them, because then they
would say I just want closure.
Sometimes you ain't privilegedto closure.
What makes you think you gotthem entitled to anything?
That's what's wrong with y'all.
Stop feeling like you'reentitled to something.
(22:52):
This shit just didn't work out.
That's all that matters.
You want your way, he went his,and I mean sometimes that's the
way it has to be, instead ofyou thinking that you got to go
back to closure.
Man, we don't spend back.
What's the point of spinningback?
I learned my lesson withspinning back.
They ended up me with anotherchild in a bad situation was
(23:13):
through some bullshit.
So why am I obligated to spinback to a situation that was
unhealthy, that was toxic, thatwas highly volatile, that was
violent?
I mean shit.
Only thing you can do is either, when you go back to a
situation like that, they onlyescalate.
(23:34):
You get what I'm saying,because if y'all both don't grow
y'all don't go get therapy orfigure out some some type of
positive way of communicatingand transitioning these issues.
You only got two options Deador jail, or just to walk away.
But thank y'all for listening toFour Steppers Only.
(23:55):
Hey, be sure to tune in to uson YouTube, spotify, pandora,
iheartradio, cause we havingwell, we in 49 countries and
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