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them For the Moms sent you. Hey, y'all, welcome back
to for the Moms podcast. Today, on episode eight, we're
going to be talking about all things and navigating and
maintaining adult friendship. This podcast is brought to you by
Q and A Network. I'm Kelsey, I'm Jasmine, I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Valerie, and I'm Ariel and we are for the Moms.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Starting off, why do you think friendships feel harder to
maintain as adults? For me, and I feel like this
is probably for the majority of us. Mom life, life life,
you know, work life, so it's harder, it's harder to
get together. It's harder to you know, have longer conversations
(01:10):
just because we have so much going on.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
I think everybody has different schedules, right, so you're always
trying to bounce around those schedules and just navigating that.
And then I think distance too, Like people that we've
been friends with previously and they move away or something like,
it's harder to maintain those friendships.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I think you definitely have to.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
Put more into adult friendships and like I did when
I was a teenager and stuff, just because there is.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
More going on in your everyday life. Yeah, so it
is harder.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Thank god for social media though, face and things like that.
Checking on the people that move away.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yeah, you can see their pictures and all. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Yeah, And then you know, like people like from high
school for instance, so we might not talk every day.
There's a handful of people that you know, I talked
to maybe a couple of times a month or once
a month, but I still like to keep up with
their family, say, you know, like on social media on them,
Yeah I saw this was happening, how you which is nice. Yeah,
And you know, like although we're not close, but like
if I see something going on in their life and
(02:03):
if I need to reach out, like I know.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
You know, you know what, I'm on social media.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
So I think that's a plus about social media. Have
you ever outgrown a friendship and how did you handle
it you want to go first.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
I wouldn't say technically outgrew it yet, it's just kind
of it's like a wedge in between it.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I would say.
Speaker 5 (02:26):
The reason I'm not gonna say out.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Loud, but.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
I don't know. It's still something I'm kind of dealing
with in trying to just because we were very close,
very close since like small kids, and I don't know,
Like I said, I'm still I'm still trying to navigate
that whole thing right now. It's just it's really hard
to explain. But I think about it every day. I
think about her daily.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
I don't know, it's just hard.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Friendship hard, especial when you're close close with somebody and
then something happens that wedge is.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I think that's really hard to navigate.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah, just put streasure. I have outgrown friendships, and I
think you know, for the most part, a lot of
people have at some point in their life.
Speaker 6 (03:16):
We all grow and change.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, everybody grows and changes, and that doesn't necessarily have
to be anything bad, you know, but you know, everyone's
different and it's okay, you know, as long as you
don't leave.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
On bad terms or yeah, but I mean even if
it is bad terms, it's okay, Like it's okay to
not have certain.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
People on bad terms, like as long as you like
find peace in it. Oh yeah, like you know, even
if it is bad terms and you know you'll reach out,
you discuss it.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Yeah, that's always it's like easy to find peace.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Yeah, that's what I mean by that.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, you get some class, yes, like.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Getting closure, not having to think about that or wonder
about I've done that differently. Yeah, definitely come to some
type of closure or peace or you know, whatever it
may be. I think that's what I agree.
Speaker 5 (04:07):
With that, especially when it's coming from the other side
and you don't know, like you want to know. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, difficult conversations.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, difficult conversations for sure.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Okay. What do you look for and a friend now
versus whenever you were younger?
Speaker 6 (04:23):
Quality over quantity same.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I feel like as a kid, you like, oh I
have so many friends and things like that, and as
you get older, you realize that the quality of your
friendship is more important than how many friends you have.
I feel like that's probably the biggest thing that I've learned.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
I think when I was younger, I seek friendships that
were maybe a good time like, oh, they're a fun person,
we always have fun together, but it was very, very
super official, right like, Whereas like I feel like the
friendships I have with y'all now, and as I've grown
into an adult, I feel like y'all have my back,
y'all are supportive, y'all are up lifting, Like y'all are
(05:01):
gonna check on me when I'm having a bad day,
and things like, and those are really good qualities that
I look for in front of honesty, loyalty, and somebody
that you.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Can really lean on. You know, we have.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
A good we have a good friend we have because
we all do those things that you have.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
A true genuine group. Yeah, okay, So how do you
make time for friendships when you're busy with marriage, kids, work?
We just find time, you know. We might not get
together every month to do something. Obviously, now that we're
doing the podcast, we get together for this, but it's
still not like hanging.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Out birthday party, birthday parties, double dates, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Date date night, or if we cook at the house
and invite people over. We definitely make time, you know.
And I feel like in friendships, if you want to
make time, you will find time for that. You find
time for what you want to do. I feel like
that's very important because you know, some people can say
that you're that they are your friend, but then they
(06:05):
never show up right, And I feel like that speaks volumes. Now.
Don't get me wrong. People have busy schedules, people have
a life, and that's completely understandable. But you know, when
it goes like on and on, Yeah, I'll.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
Say making the plans and sticking with them because I
know it's hard and it's so easy to just cancel.
But I feel like if you truly care about the friendship,
you're gonna follow through with it. Like Jazz, I'm gonna
boast on you all day about this. You were going
through a hard time with your aunt last year, and
y'all were still living in Texas. Y'all had come down
and y'all were staying with Josh's mom and them, and
we had like a little crawfish ball at our house, y'all.
(06:38):
Jasmine was dead tired. I told her a million times
that you should have canceled coming over, but y'all, she
showed up. She still came dead tired, hung out.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Yeah, same thing, but you showed up and everything.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
I was about that, Yeah, I was like, I'm gonna go.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Yeah, that's huge, especially in adult friendships, because that's that
really proves that I can really count on this person.
And if I can count on them for this, I
can definitely count on them in the hard times, right,
you know, so that's a good quality.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
That's definitely means a.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Lot on the back.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
It definitely means a lot. You know, whenever people show up,
how do you handle a friend who starts feeling more
draining than uplifting or how would you handle that if
you've never been through it. I would just say, you know,
maybe take time for a conversation, see how they handle it.
(07:35):
If it doesn't go so well, maybe distance yourself from them.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
So that's what I was gonna say. Slowly, start to
pull away.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It doesn't have to be like like you have to
end your friendship over that they might be going through
something that you don't know about. You know, it's good
to have a conversation. I feel like communication is good
in friendships, as you know, as well as relationships. So
just try to figure out what's going on, and you know,
if it's like jealousy or you know, if you're outgrowing
(08:03):
them and you know they don't want to be supportive,
just try your best to still be understandable, but maybe
pull yourself away.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
Yeah, definitely pull yourself away.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Don't feel bad for it.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Easy to talk to.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
Then it's that mentality.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Yes, they turn it around on you.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
They turn it around on you, and it's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
It's almost like, oh, you don't even want to address
it because you already know how it's going to go.
So eventually you just kind of have to cut ties
and it's hard, but you just have to.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
Luckily, I haven't had to deal with that in adult friendship,
so I will say adult like even in high school,
like I mean senior year, like it's yeah, you deal
with that a lot. But I've been lucky enough to
not have to deal with.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
The draining friendship.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
Have a very handful of friends that I have stuck
with from like even middle school. I mean, besides them,
there's like three other people that I have stuck with
and we talk all the time, we go to each
other's kids' parties, you know whatever. But it's but.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Those are good friendships.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Like I don't think any friendship, like maybe temporarily can
be draining if they're going through a hard time in
their life and you're trying to support them through it.
But if it's a constant drain on like you and
your character, like just distance yourself. It's that's not worth it. Yeah,
maintain your peace. Yeah, definitely, ken.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
A friendship come back after it's fallen off or is
it better to let it go?
Speaker 6 (09:26):
Let it go?
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, especially if you lose trust. Is if you lose
trust or they lied to you or did something to
you that you had never expected them to do, it's
hard to come back from that. Like you can come
back as far as like being cordial or being there
for each other for the kids and things like that,
but as far as a break in a trust, and
(09:48):
that goes for everything relationships with family, friends and spouses.
If you break that trust, yeah, it you really And
I hold grudges. I hold grudges, Yeah, don't I do.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
I don't either.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
I'm very easy forgiving my Mama ruined that, so I
hold now like if you do it multiple times, like,
I'm with you, but I'll give you a few chance.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Definitely give someone a second chance.
Speaker 6 (10:13):
I give chances, but I mean marks about.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
It's just looking at and he's like, Okay, I.
Speaker 6 (10:22):
Don't want to hear it. You know my job.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
She's like, I don't want to hear it.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
Do what I want to do. Yeah, yeah, you're guilty
of giving a.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Lot of you give one chances.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
I feel, I don't know. It kind of goes both
ways for me because like there's been times that you know,
I've done some wrong and I would have liked another chance,
you know. So I see both sides of it, but
you know, sometimes it is best to let it.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Gods, depends on what happened. You sleep with my husband.
You're done, You're done.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So yes, I definitely hope.
Speaker 5 (11:05):
That's an extreme yeah, worst case scenario.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Okay, what's something your friends have taught you about yourself?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
That's a good one.
Speaker 6 (11:20):
Y'all taught me what true friendship really is.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Yeah, uplifting and being there for each other, supporting whenever
you're in the we do the same thing, right, especially
like me and that but it's not a competition. Never
been a competition about just greet with us.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
If anything, I feel like we're always like rooting for
each other, which I love that, and like helping each
other do and do better and do more.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
You're like, oh, well you should be doing this, this
will help you. I've I've never somebody.
Speaker 6 (11:48):
Had that before.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
I've always had It's always been a competition where.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yes, or if you do good, what can I do
to do to do better than you? Not a congratulations
or anything like that, it's what can I.
Speaker 6 (12:01):
Do to outdo you?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
And that's draining, draining, dreaming because it's a constant line.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yes, So just the fact that we congratulate each other
on our winds and things like that is I.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Feel like if you have a friend and you're not
genuinely happy for them, like y'all might be in two
different phases of life. Like you know, if one friend is,
say you just bought a house, but your other friend
is just now starting to rent, like you should still
be happy. And I'm just using that like for an example,
you should still be happy for your friend. Like if
(12:40):
you genuinely cannot be happy for your friend, then you
shouldn't You should because.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
You're gonna have your turn one day. You might not
have your turn at the same time that your friend
has their turn, but you're gonna have your turn. You
clap for others, then they will clap for you when
it's your turn.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
And everybody goes through different phases of life, you know,
like just because body might have one thing and you
can't have it yet, like.
Speaker 6 (13:04):
You should, that should just push you.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You should push yourself to do that.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Like I like to surround my people, myself with people
that are striving to do more and more, and that
helps me be more and do more, you know, because
I want to see that.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
I want to I want to be there with her
doing that, you know.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I want to sit in the room with somebody that's
doing better than me. I can learn from them and
push myself to be more.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Like exactly, Jealousy does not belong in.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
A friendship at all at all, whatsoever.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
And that could be a personality thing because like I
feel like I've had friendships like that before, where like, oh,
like I've been jealous or they've been jealous, so but
I haven't had that with y'all, So it might just
be a personality to be jealous.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
It's just how you handle the jealousy.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I mean, you can be jealous of somebody or you know,
or wish that you had that, but there's no reason to.
Speaker 6 (13:59):
It's hard to explained.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
But maybe it's y'all are like cheering one too, and
you're not the type.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Of people that like, oh, I'm better than you. Yeah,
that's probably a key to it.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Let me take this away from her, right yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Yeah, or holding something over somebody's head, Like if I
do a condact for you and then I'm going to
like remind you two months down the road I did
that for you, that's not friendship.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Yeah, okay. How do you maintain long distance our low
maintenance friendships that still matter? For me?
Speaker 6 (14:28):
You've probably had several long distance friendship.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I even feel like, you know, like just with us,
you know, whenever I feel like when we started hanging
out we were in South Carolina, like I still tried
my best to make fourth and effort to if they
were having an event, to come in, you know, to
be there for my friends. And you know that goes
for other friends as well, Like even if we're out
of town, sure we might not be able to make
(14:53):
every single little thing. But I've always tried my best
to show up somehow. Like I remember for Christmas, we
wasn't able to come in for one year, but I
still ship my friends a little gift just because like
that's me, you know, like I want to try my
best to still maintain that friendship and keep in touch.
So like my little trailer park crew, my friends that
(15:15):
I met in the campground, we don't see each other often,
but we still make it a point to talk at least,
you know, every month or every other month. One of
them I just had an hour conversation with last night
while I was in the tub. You know, it's it's
good to try to keep that going if you want
that friendship to stay, even if it's you know, a
(15:36):
far a long distance relationship friendship and y'all don't see
each other, make it a point to talk to that effort. Yeah,
you have to put in that.
Speaker 5 (15:46):
It is. Yeah, that's literally Jasma though, because she got
an a wreck on the way to come hang out
with us, and what.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Did they do?
Speaker 5 (15:52):
They went and got another hits going.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
They they she still showed up.
Speaker 5 (15:58):
So it's yeah, when you find that, really, when you
find that really good friendship. Hang on to it because
it is, and.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
You'll want to when you know, like you said, you'll
want to hang out with those people, and you'll want
to keep those planes.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
You'll want to respond to for the textment Like Mondays.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I work on Mondays and I have a long day,
and when I get off of work, I have about
sixty five million group.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Chat text messages.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
But y'all, I make it a point to spend that
ten minutes when I get off and scroll back and
read every single one of y'alls messages and catch up
because it's important to me.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah, you know, and if somebody's not responding right away,
we're like, what the hell is Jack?
Speaker 6 (16:33):
What the hell are you doing?
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That night?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
I was reading Like the Die and then I pick
up my phone. I had forty eight messages, so I'm
like trying to scroll.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I was gonna say that in the Great Chat last Say,
I said, Kelsey and Aarol's gonna hate us something.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I was sleeping.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
It's nine times out of ten, like after ten or
eleven o'clock, if me and Bell are talking, we'll just
go to like my so we don't blow the group
yet up, because that's I put my phone on.
Speaker 6 (16:57):
Do not disturbing.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
I've learned, so my time is when I can wind
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Speaker 3 (17:05):
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Speaker 6 (17:39):
Nine o'clock at least.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, So, what is y'all's favorite way to show up
for y'all's friends? For me, it would literally be to
show up to present, to present. And I don't know,
I feel like I'm a gift giver. Like anytime I
can give a gift, I try to, like, not even
just for my friends, like family too. I don't know,
(18:01):
it's just like my love language.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Your love language is gifted, but you just have to
be present, whether they're going through a hard time or
they're going through a win.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
And I felt like when.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Jasmine won her church choice, I made a point to
go there to support her because yeah, yeah, but always
be there for your friends, whether it is when they're
going through.
Speaker 6 (18:26):
A hard time or a good time.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Yeah, that's very very important.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Checking in too, Like if you know your friends going
through a hard time, like send that text message. It
doesn't hurt you anything and genuinely mean it, like don't.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, And I feel like we're all so good at that,
even when our kids are sick, we check on the
kids or just going through you know, if we let
each other know that we're going through you know something.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
But literally we were at the hospital, I think, and
I got home and I had a Walmart delivery to
my house. It was Valerie. She sent my kids some
always a little thing, and I was like, you know,
it's the little things, and like even you know, it
doesn't have to be given gifts either, you know, even
if you're like in a financial situation, you can still
show up for your friends without given gifts. So don't
(19:12):
think that. And it's just.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Seem like when motivated Mom, if y'all follow her Essa
Jessica motivated Mama on TikTok.
Speaker 6 (19:19):
You know she lost a child, what three two years ago?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
But when she lost when she lost when he oh,
it's been like eight or eight, it's been a while. Ye,
it's been a while.
Speaker 6 (19:32):
I don't think he was that old.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Well, I think it was four months old when it happened,
but it was.
Speaker 6 (19:38):
You know, it marches her hard month.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
And I saw that you had sent her flowers, you know,
something so small like that.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
I know that probably made her day.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
Yeah, I truly genuinely do try, you know if I can. Okay, Well,
to wrap it up, what does a healthy adult friendship
look like to you, mom?
Speaker 6 (20:03):
Everything that we just explained, Yeah, yeah, that's what a
healthy looks like.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
No competition, loyalty, showing up for each other, cheering each other.
Speaker 5 (20:13):
I don't think we've ever had a even bickering or
argument besides the outfits for our photo shoot.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Okay, yes, we literally have never had an argument, not one.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
And that wasn't even an argument.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
It was just like we've never had a disagreement, which
I think that's rare.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Yeah, it is rare.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, I'm grateful for them.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
We don't have anything to argue about it's.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Not like we get along our kids get along, it
makes it our husbands get along.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Like it's just I don't know how it happened, but
I'm grateful for it.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Me and Josh were talking about that the other night.
He said we should thank him because I met.
Speaker 6 (20:52):
Josh.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Well, if it wasn't for Josh, we wouldn't be.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
I would have never download talk if it wasn't for
Josh to meet you, and I would have never met
you if it wasn't for Josh, and I would have
never met you if it wasn't for Josh.
Speaker 4 (21:06):
So thank you, Josh, thank you, thank you husband.
Speaker 6 (21:10):
Thank you Josh.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Part it over, but he was we were talking about
the podcast of the night. He was like, you know,
y'all wouldn't even have that podcast if it wasn't for me.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
And I'm like, okay, big head, it doesn't need to
be any bigger, yeah at all, But.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Yeah, I think you know, it takes it takes effort
to have a true genuine friendship, but if you and
your friend put in the effort, you know it's possible.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Definitely.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I mean, we've been friends almost three years and literally
not one one argument.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Been friends for like eight or nine years. Huh, yeah,
has been friends so long.
Speaker 7 (21:54):
Yeah, so in our face, we're on the back burner,
Me and Kelsey first guys.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
But yeah, you know, it takes effort, but it's definitely doable.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
I think it's worth it too.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
I think it's extremely important to have, especially as women,
like you know, like we love our husbands and they're great,
and like air is my best friend.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
But my girls, you know, it's just different conversation.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
And that's funny because you know how we take our
girl trips and Mark doesn't understand, like, okay, I enjoy
being around you when we go on our couple strips,
but there's nothing like girls. I was like, you know,
on our couple strips, we have our own rooms, and
I was like.
Speaker 5 (22:38):
Girls together, yeah, even better this year because.
Speaker 6 (22:45):
We're blind like the girls together.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
They don't understand. And no, we are not looking for
no men.
Speaker 6 (22:57):
The last thing at the airport, No, y'all didn't.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
We're going to be at the bar.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
It's just just the laughs.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
It's just nice girl talking, it really is, and they
don't understand that, at least the majority of them.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
I enjoy our couple of trips too because it's different
kind of fun. But just you have to you have
to have.
Speaker 5 (23:19):
You have to girl trips a group of girls. No,
I'm not saying you go with Joe blow off the street.
You are going on a trip, like you have to
have a good genuine friendship and go on that trip
to be able to really enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
And people that like you trust and people that obviously
will have your back because you know, like you're going
away with them, So you got to know, like what
type of people you're going.
Speaker 5 (23:38):
Well, we all share a don't nobody's getting lost. We're
shared a location in case we ever get split up
like we are and.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
If for some reason like any like if we get
to the bathroom, two of us are going to get
anywhere by ourselves, like if we're out and about.
Speaker 5 (23:53):
You know, jazz And made sure until everybody don't give
me appiprofen so I don't die on our trip.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
I made or Kelsey did not get any happy profen
because I was not trying to have a hospital trup.
You know, we just look out for each other. But
it's good to you know, know the type of people
you're going with, Like I trust t TV with heart
definitely for sure, like.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Your motivated mamma gets to come. I'm so excited for Justin.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
That she's coming.
Speaker 6 (24:17):
The t TV girls are.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
To hire Alyssa and Greg to come film. Oh yeah right,
they get into a whole episode. Yeah we should.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Oh my god, that would be crazy for a week.
Some of that stuff doesn't still, that.
Speaker 6 (24:41):
Would be awesome.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
That's gonna be fun.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
That would be hilarious, even if you didn't get there
till friday.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
Yeah, one night, make it a whole weekend.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Yes, yes, we'll have Greg film. You can just join us.
Speaker 6 (24:59):
Yeah, you one of the see if she.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
That weekend or not last weekend of July. I'll buy
your plane ticket trip. Yeah, I'll about their plane.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
It was like yeah for there.
Speaker 5 (25:16):
Yeah, but we didn't drive, and so the other day
Southwest had to selling. I was like, y'all the fight
direct looking, I don't care if I got to meet
you all there likely I did not want to drive
eight hours.
Speaker 6 (25:30):
I've been the awesome. It's it's fun.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I've never been. I'm excited.
Speaker 6 (25:33):
Yeah, my sister in law's bachelorette party and it was
a good.
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to for the Moms podcast. Today, on episode eight, we're
going to be talking about all things and navigating and
maintaining adult friendship. This podcast is brought to you by
Q and A Network. I'm Kelsey, I'm Jasmine, I'm.
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Speaker 3 (00:47):
Starting off, why do you think friendships feel harder to
maintain as adults? For me, and I feel like this
is probably for the majority of us. Mom life, life life,
you know, work life, so it's harder, it's harder to
get together. It's harder to you know, have longer conversations
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just because we have so much going on.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
I think everybody has different schedules, right, so you're always
trying to bounce around those schedules and just navigating that.
And then I think distance too, Like people that we've
been friends with previously and they move away or something like,
it's harder to maintain those friendships.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I think you definitely have to.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
Put more into adult friendships and like I did when
I was a teenager and stuff, just because there is.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
More going on in your everyday life. Yeah, so it
is harder.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Thank god for social media though, face and things like that.
Checking on the people that move away.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yeah, you can see their pictures and all. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Yeah, And then you know, like people like from high
school for instance, so we might not talk every day.
There's a handful of people that you know, I talked
to maybe a couple of times a month or once
a month, but I still like to keep up with
their family, say, you know, like on social media on them,
Yeah I saw this was happening, how you which is nice. Yeah,
And you know, like although we're not close, but like
if I see something going on in their life and
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if I need to reach out, like I know.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
You know, you know what, I'm on social media.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
So I think that's a plus about social media. Have
you ever outgrown a friendship and how did you handle
it you want to go first.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
I wouldn't say technically outgrew it yet, it's just kind
of it's like a wedge in between it.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I would say.
Speaker 5 (02:26):
The reason I'm not gonna say out.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Loud, but.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
I don't know. It's still something I'm kind of dealing
with in trying to just because we were very close,
very close since like small kids, and I don't know,
Like I said, I'm still I'm still trying to navigate
that whole thing right now. It's just it's really hard
to explain. But I think about it every day. I
think about her daily.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
I don't know, it's just hard.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Friendship hard, especial when you're close close with somebody and
then something happens that wedge is.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I think that's really hard to navigate.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah, just put streasure. I have outgrown friendships, and I
think you know, for the most part, a lot of
people have at some point in their life.
Speaker 6 (03:16):
We all grow and change.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, everybody grows and changes, and that doesn't necessarily have
to be anything bad, you know, but you know, everyone's
different and it's okay, you know, as long as you
don't leave.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
On bad terms or yeah, but I mean even if
it is bad terms, it's okay, Like it's okay to
not have certain.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
People on bad terms, like as long as you like
find peace in it. Oh yeah, like you know, even
if it is bad terms and you know you'll reach out,
you discuss it.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Yeah, that's always it's like easy to find peace.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Yeah, that's what I mean by that.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, you get some class, yes, like.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Getting closure, not having to think about that or wonder
about I've done that differently. Yeah, definitely come to some
type of closure or peace or you know, whatever it
may be. I think that's what I agree.
Speaker 5 (04:07):
With that, especially when it's coming from the other side
and you don't know, like you want to know. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, difficult conversations.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, difficult conversations for sure.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Okay. What do you look for and a friend now
versus whenever you were younger?
Speaker 6 (04:23):
Quality over quantity same.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I feel like as a kid, you like, oh I
have so many friends and things like that, and as
you get older, you realize that the quality of your
friendship is more important than how many friends you have.
I feel like that's probably the biggest thing that I've learned.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
I think when I was younger, I seek friendships that
were maybe a good time like, oh, they're a fun person,
we always have fun together, but it was very, very
super official, right like, Whereas like I feel like the
friendships I have with y'all now, and as I've grown
into an adult, I feel like y'all have my back,
y'all are supportive, y'all are up lifting, Like y'all are
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gonna check on me when I'm having a bad day,
and things like, and those are really good qualities that
I look for in front of honesty, loyalty, and somebody
that you.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Can really lean on. You know, we have.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
A good we have a good friend we have because
we all do those things that you have.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
A true genuine group. Yeah, okay, So how do you
make time for friendships when you're busy with marriage, kids, work?
We just find time, you know. We might not get
together every month to do something. Obviously, now that we're
doing the podcast, we get together for this, but it's
still not like hanging.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Out birthday party, birthday parties, double dates, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Date date night, or if we cook at the house
and invite people over. We definitely make time, you know.
And I feel like in friendships, if you want to
make time, you will find time for that. You find
time for what you want to do. I feel like
that's very important because you know, some people can say
that you're that they are your friend, but then they
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never show up right, And I feel like that speaks volumes. Now.
Don't get me wrong. People have busy schedules, people have
a life, and that's completely understandable. But you know, when
it goes like on and on, Yeah, I'll.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
Say making the plans and sticking with them because I
know it's hard and it's so easy to just cancel.
But I feel like if you truly care about the friendship,
you're gonna follow through with it. Like Jazz, I'm gonna
boast on you all day about this. You were going
through a hard time with your aunt last year, and
y'all were still living in Texas. Y'all had come down
and y'all were staying with Josh's mom and them, and
we had like a little crawfish ball at our house, y'all.
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Jasmine was dead tired. I told her a million times
that you should have canceled coming over, but y'all, she
showed up. She still came dead tired, hung out.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Yeah, same thing, but you showed up and everything.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
I was about that, Yeah, I was like, I'm gonna go.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Yeah, that's huge, especially in adult friendships, because that's that
really proves that I can really count on this person.
And if I can count on them for this, I
can definitely count on them in the hard times, right,
you know, so that's a good quality.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
That's definitely means a.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Lot on the back.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
It definitely means a lot. You know, whenever people show up,
how do you handle a friend who starts feeling more
draining than uplifting or how would you handle that if
you've never been through it. I would just say, you know,
maybe take time for a conversation, see how they handle it.
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If it doesn't go so well, maybe distance yourself from them.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
So that's what I was gonna say. Slowly, start to
pull away.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It doesn't have to be like like you have to
end your friendship over that they might be going through
something that you don't know about. You know, it's good
to have a conversation. I feel like communication is good
in friendships, as you know, as well as relationships. So
just try to figure out what's going on, and you know,
if it's like jealousy or you know, if you're outgrowing
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them and you know they don't want to be supportive,
just try your best to still be understandable, but maybe
pull yourself away.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
Yeah, definitely pull yourself away.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Don't feel bad for it.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Easy to talk to.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
Then it's that mentality.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Yes, they turn it around on you.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
They turn it around on you, and it's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
It's almost like, oh, you don't even want to address
it because you already know how it's going to go.
So eventually you just kind of have to cut ties
and it's hard, but you just have to.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
Luckily, I haven't had to deal with that in adult friendship,
so I will say adult like even in high school,
like I mean senior year, like it's yeah, you deal
with that a lot. But I've been lucky enough to
not have to deal with.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
The draining friendship.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
Have a very handful of friends that I have stuck
with from like even middle school. I mean, besides them,
there's like three other people that I have stuck with
and we talk all the time, we go to each
other's kids' parties, you know whatever. But it's but.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Those are good friendships.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Like I don't think any friendship, like maybe temporarily can
be draining if they're going through a hard time in
their life and you're trying to support them through it.
But if it's a constant drain on like you and
your character, like just distance yourself. It's that's not worth it. Yeah,
maintain your peace. Yeah, definitely, ken.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
A friendship come back after it's fallen off or is
it better to let it go?
Speaker 6 (09:26):
Let it go?
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, especially if you lose trust. Is if you lose
trust or they lied to you or did something to
you that you had never expected them to do, it's
hard to come back from that. Like you can come
back as far as like being cordial or being there
for each other for the kids and things like that,
but as far as a break in a trust, and
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that goes for everything relationships with family, friends and spouses.
If you break that trust, yeah, it you really And
I hold grudges. I hold grudges, Yeah, don't I do.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
I don't either.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
I'm very easy forgiving my Mama ruined that, so I
hold now like if you do it multiple times, like,
I'm with you, but I'll give you a few chance.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Definitely give someone a second chance.
Speaker 6 (10:13):
I give chances, but I mean marks about.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
It's just looking at and he's like, Okay, I.
Speaker 6 (10:22):
Don't want to hear it. You know my job.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
She's like, I don't want to hear it.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
Do what I want to do. Yeah, yeah, you're guilty
of giving a.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Lot of you give one chances.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
I feel, I don't know. It kind of goes both
ways for me because like there's been times that you know,
I've done some wrong and I would have liked another chance,
you know. So I see both sides of it, but
you know, sometimes it is best to let it.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Gods, depends on what happened. You sleep with my husband.
You're done, You're done.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So yes, I definitely hope.
Speaker 5 (11:05):
That's an extreme yeah, worst case scenario.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Okay, what's something your friends have taught you about yourself?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
That's a good one.
Speaker 6 (11:20):
Y'all taught me what true friendship really is.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Yeah, uplifting and being there for each other, supporting whenever
you're in the we do the same thing, right, especially
like me and that but it's not a competition. Never
been a competition about just greet with us.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
If anything, I feel like we're always like rooting for
each other, which I love that, and like helping each
other do and do better and do more.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
You're like, oh, well you should be doing this, this
will help you. I've I've never somebody.
Speaker 6 (11:48):
Had that before.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
I've always had It's always been a competition where.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yes, or if you do good, what can I do
to do to do better than you? Not a congratulations
or anything like that, it's what can I.
Speaker 6 (12:01):
Do to outdo you?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
And that's draining, draining, dreaming because it's a constant line.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yes, So just the fact that we congratulate each other
on our winds and things like that is I.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Feel like if you have a friend and you're not
genuinely happy for them, like y'all might be in two
different phases of life. Like you know, if one friend is,
say you just bought a house, but your other friend
is just now starting to rent, like you should still
be happy. And I'm just using that like for an example,
you should still be happy for your friend. Like if
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you genuinely cannot be happy for your friend, then you
shouldn't You should because.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
You're gonna have your turn one day. You might not
have your turn at the same time that your friend
has their turn, but you're gonna have your turn. You
clap for others, then they will clap for you when
it's your turn.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
And everybody goes through different phases of life, you know,
like just because body might have one thing and you
can't have it yet, like.
Speaker 6 (13:04):
You should, that should just push you.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You should push yourself to do that.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Like I like to surround my people, myself with people
that are striving to do more and more, and that
helps me be more and do more, you know, because
I want to see that.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
I want to I want to be there with her
doing that, you know.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I want to sit in the room with somebody that's
doing better than me. I can learn from them and
push myself to be more.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Like exactly, Jealousy does not belong in.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
A friendship at all at all, whatsoever.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
And that could be a personality thing because like I
feel like I've had friendships like that before, where like, oh,
like I've been jealous or they've been jealous, so but
I haven't had that with y'all, So it might just
be a personality to be jealous.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
It's just how you handle the jealousy.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I mean, you can be jealous of somebody or you know,
or wish that you had that, but there's no reason to.
Speaker 6 (13:59):
It's hard to explained.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
But maybe it's y'all are like cheering one too, and
you're not the type.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Of people that like, oh, I'm better than you. Yeah,
that's probably a key to it.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Let me take this away from her, right yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Yeah, or holding something over somebody's head, Like if I
do a condact for you and then I'm going to
like remind you two months down the road I did
that for you, that's not friendship.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Yeah, okay. How do you maintain long distance our low
maintenance friendships that still matter? For me?
Speaker 6 (14:28):
You've probably had several long distance friendship.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I even feel like, you know, like just with us,
you know, whenever I feel like when we started hanging
out we were in South Carolina, like I still tried
my best to make fourth and effort to if they
were having an event, to come in, you know, to
be there for my friends. And you know that goes
for other friends as well, Like even if we're out
of town, sure we might not be able to make
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every single little thing. But I've always tried my best
to show up somehow. Like I remember for Christmas, we
wasn't able to come in for one year, but I
still ship my friends a little gift just because like
that's me, you know, like I want to try my
best to still maintain that friendship and keep in touch.
So like my little trailer park crew, my friends that
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I met in the campground, we don't see each other often,
but we still make it a point to talk at least,
you know, every month or every other month. One of
them I just had an hour conversation with last night
while I was in the tub. You know, it's it's
good to try to keep that going if you want
that friendship to stay, even if it's you know, a
(15:36):
far a long distance relationship friendship and y'all don't see
each other, make it a point to talk to that effort. Yeah,
you have to put in that.
Speaker 5 (15:46):
It is. Yeah, that's literally Jasma though, because she got
an a wreck on the way to come hang out
with us, and what.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Did they do?
Speaker 5 (15:52):
They went and got another hits going.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
They they she still showed up.
Speaker 5 (15:58):
So it's yeah, when you find that, really, when you
find that really good friendship. Hang on to it because
it is, and.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
You'll want to when you know, like you said, you'll
want to hang out with those people, and you'll want
to keep those planes.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
You'll want to respond to for the textment Like Mondays.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I work on Mondays and I have a long day,
and when I get off of work, I have about
sixty five million group.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Chat text messages.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
But y'all, I make it a point to spend that
ten minutes when I get off and scroll back and
read every single one of y'alls messages and catch up
because it's important to me.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah, you know, and if somebody's not responding right away,
we're like, what the hell is Jack?
Speaker 6 (16:33):
What the hell are you doing?
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That night?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
I was reading Like the Die and then I pick
up my phone. I had forty eight messages, so I'm
like trying to scroll.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I was gonna say that in the Great Chat last Say,
I said, Kelsey and Aarol's gonna hate us something.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I was sleeping.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
It's nine times out of ten, like after ten or
eleven o'clock, if me and Bell are talking, we'll just
go to like my so we don't blow the group
yet up, because that's I put my phone on.
Speaker 6 (16:57):
Do not disturbing.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
I've learned, so my time is when I can wind
down after Yeah.
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Speaker 6 (17:39):
Nine o'clock at least.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, So, what is y'all's favorite way to show up
for y'all's friends? For me, it would literally be to
show up to present, to present. And I don't know,
I feel like I'm a gift giver. Like anytime I
can give a gift, I try to, like, not even
just for my friends, like family too. I don't know,
(18:01):
it's just like my love language.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Your love language is gifted, but you just have to
be present, whether they're going through a hard time or
they're going through a win.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
And I felt like when.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Jasmine won her church choice, I made a point to
go there to support her because yeah, yeah, but always
be there for your friends, whether it is when they're
going through.
Speaker 6 (18:26):
A hard time or a good time.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Yeah, that's very very important.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Checking in too, Like if you know your friends going
through a hard time, like send that text message. It
doesn't hurt you anything and genuinely mean it, like don't.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, And I feel like we're all so good at that,
even when our kids are sick, we check on the
kids or just going through you know, if we let
each other know that we're going through you know something.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
But literally we were at the hospital, I think, and
I got home and I had a Walmart delivery to
my house. It was Valerie. She sent my kids some
always a little thing, and I was like, you know,
it's the little things, and like even you know, it
doesn't have to be given gifts either, you know, even
if you're like in a financial situation, you can still
show up for your friends without given gifts. So don't
(19:12):
think that. And it's just.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Seem like when motivated Mom, if y'all follow her Essa
Jessica motivated Mama on TikTok.
Speaker 6 (19:19):
You know she lost a child, what three two years ago?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
But when she lost when she lost when he oh,
it's been like eight or eight, it's been a while. Ye,
it's been a while.
Speaker 6 (19:32):
I don't think he was that old.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Well, I think it was four months old when it happened,
but it was.
Speaker 6 (19:38):
You know, it marches her hard month.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
And I saw that you had sent her flowers, you know,
something so small like that.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
I know that probably made her day.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
Yeah, I truly genuinely do try, you know if I can. Okay, Well,
to wrap it up, what does a healthy adult friendship
look like to you, mom?
Speaker 6 (20:03):
Everything that we just explained, Yeah, yeah, that's what a
healthy looks like.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
No competition, loyalty, showing up for each other, cheering each other.
Speaker 5 (20:13):
I don't think we've ever had a even bickering or
argument besides the outfits for our photo shoot.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Okay, yes, we literally have never had an argument, not one.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
And that wasn't even an argument.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
It was just like we've never had a disagreement, which
I think that's rare.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Yeah, it is rare.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, I'm grateful for them.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
We don't have anything to argue about it's.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Not like we get along our kids get along, it
makes it our husbands get along.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Like it's just I don't know how it happened, but
I'm grateful for it.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Me and Josh were talking about that the other night.
He said we should thank him because I met.
Speaker 6 (20:52):
Josh.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Well, if it wasn't for Josh, we wouldn't be.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
I would have never download talk if it wasn't for
Josh to meet you, and I would have never met
you if it wasn't for Josh, and I would have
never met you if it wasn't for Josh.
Speaker 4 (21:06):
So thank you, Josh, thank you, thank you husband.
Speaker 6 (21:10):
Thank you Josh.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Part it over, but he was we were talking about
the podcast of the night. He was like, you know,
y'all wouldn't even have that podcast if it wasn't for me.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
And I'm like, okay, big head, it doesn't need to
be any bigger, yeah at all, But.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Yeah, I think you know, it takes it takes effort
to have a true genuine friendship, but if you and
your friend put in the effort, you know it's possible.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Definitely.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I mean, we've been friends almost three years and literally
not one one argument.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Been friends for like eight or nine years. Huh, yeah,
has been friends so long.
Speaker 7 (21:54):
Yeah, so in our face, we're on the back burner,
Me and Kelsey first guys.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
But yeah, you know, it takes effort, but it's definitely doable.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
I think it's worth it too.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
I think it's extremely important to have, especially as women,
like you know, like we love our husbands and they're great,
and like air is my best friend.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
But my girls, you know, it's just different conversation.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
And that's funny because you know how we take our
girl trips and Mark doesn't understand, like, okay, I enjoy
being around you when we go on our couple strips,
but there's nothing like girls. I was like, you know,
on our couple strips, we have our own rooms, and
I was like.
Speaker 5 (22:38):
Girls together, yeah, even better this year because.
Speaker 6 (22:45):
We're blind like the girls together.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
They don't understand. And no, we are not looking for
no men.
Speaker 6 (22:57):
The last thing at the airport, No, y'all didn't.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
We're going to be at the bar.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
It's just just the laughs.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
It's just nice girl talking, it really is, and they
don't understand that, at least the majority of them.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
I enjoy our couple of trips too because it's different
kind of fun. But just you have to you have
to have.
Speaker 5 (23:19):
You have to girl trips a group of girls. No,
I'm not saying you go with Joe blow off the street.
You are going on a trip, like you have to
have a good genuine friendship and go on that trip
to be able to really enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
And people that like you trust and people that obviously
will have your back because you know, like you're going
away with them, So you got to know, like what
type of people you're going.
Speaker 5 (23:38):
Well, we all share a don't nobody's getting lost. We're
shared a location in case we ever get split up
like we are and.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
If for some reason like any like if we get
to the bathroom, two of us are going to get
anywhere by ourselves, like if we're out and about.
Speaker 5 (23:53):
You know, jazz And made sure until everybody don't give
me appiprofen so I don't die on our trip.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
I made or Kelsey did not get any happy profen
because I was not trying to have a hospital trup.
You know, we just look out for each other. But
it's good to you know, know the type of people
you're going with, Like I trust t TV with heart
definitely for sure, like.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Your motivated mamma gets to come. I'm so excited for Justin.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
That she's coming.
Speaker 6 (24:17):
The t TV girls are.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
To hire Alyssa and Greg to come film. Oh yeah right,
they get into a whole episode. Yeah we should.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Oh my god, that would be crazy for a week.
Some of that stuff doesn't still, that.
Speaker 6 (24:41):
Would be awesome.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
That's gonna be fun.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
That would be hilarious, even if you didn't get there
till friday.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
Yeah, one night, make it a whole weekend.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Yes, yes, we'll have Greg film. You can just join us.
Speaker 6 (24:59):
Yeah, you one of the see if she.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
That weekend or not last weekend of July. I'll buy
your plane ticket trip. Yeah, I'll about their plane.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
It was like yeah for there.
Speaker 5 (25:16):
Yeah, but we didn't drive, and so the other day
Southwest had to selling. I was like, y'all the fight
direct looking, I don't care if I got to meet
you all there likely I did not want to drive
eight hours.
Speaker 6 (25:30):
I've been the awesome. It's it's fun.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I've never been. I'm excited.
Speaker 6 (25:33):
Yeah, my sister in law's bachelorette party and it was
a good.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Well good.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
You can choose around.
Speaker 5 (25:38):
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