July 10, 2025 • 41 mins
In this episode, the ladies dive deep into the often-overlooked topic of self-care and mental health. They share honest stories about the pressures of motherhood, the guilt that can come with taking time for yourself, and why prioritizing your mental wellness isn’t selfish.To access the full video episode, you can sign up for our VIP membership:
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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them for the Moms sent you. Hey, y'all, welcome back
to for the Mom's Podcast. Today we are recording episode nine.
We're going to be talking about well being and self
care as moms. This podcast is brought to you by
Q and A Network. I'm Kelsey, I'm Jasmine, I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Valerie, and I'm Ariel and we are for the Moms.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Starting off, what's your favorite part of motherhood or being
a mom? Kelsey, I think.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
My favorite part of motherhood is just really truly making
memories with my kids. My kids absolutely love going new places,
they love doing things and just see in their face
light up and then be so excited to go somewhere
is new or do something different.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
It just makes me so happy.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Like we were on the way to the beach and
we were going over the bridge and Whitley is like,
oh my gosh, the water and like, I don't know,
it just made me feel giddy inside because I get
to do things like that with my kids, and you know,
and everybody has that privilege. So I'm very grateful that
I get to take my kids new places and get
to experience things with them.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Yes, kind of same for me, you know, just for
one being able to more so be the mom that
I wish I had growing up me first first, you know,
and I'm very thankful for the things that we do
get to do now. We haven't always been able to
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do the things and bring the girls to you know,
go on vacations and stuff like that, and even if
it's stuff around the house, you know, if we're doing crap,
but just being like one on one with them, that's
what I truly enjoy because I so wish, you know,
like I had that growing up and I didn't, So
I do my absolute best to just be more involved.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yep, same wish I tried to be the mom that
I wish I had growing up, all taking all the
trips that I take, always being there for every dance recital,
every game, just always being there for every school function,
every field trip, every birthday party, because those memories are important.
Speaker 6 (02:35):
They are They remember that too, Remember when you came
to do this they do.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
They's seeing like when you're at their school functions, seeing
their little faces light up.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
And they remember who shows up today. They might be young,
but David, they remember every detail.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Yeah, so same, Like I had a mom that was
never present growing up, So I try to be there
for everything. And then I love seeing my girls like
grow and change into their personality, like because it always
blows my mind. You have two kids by the same
parents or made by the same person, and they're totally different,
and it's just so neat watching their personalities mature and
(03:18):
change throughout the years, and like with each stage, it's
a little bit different and it's I just love that.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
It's so cool.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You also don't realize how fast the stages.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
I was talking about that with Eric the other night.
So Laney still has that baby voice and we were
just like listening to her for like an hour talk
because she loves to talk. And I was like, I
don't even remember Cadence having that voice, you know, that
high pitched like little cute, little girl voice.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
I'm like same with it's.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Crazy, change, please stop doing the baby voice.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Like, yeah, I go back on videos when I hear
Mason's little voice and.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Oh and wait till his drops. Oh oh, and he
starts becoming that little man.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
My little cousins, and Charlie has like losing her be
faced right now, she's getting into that girl.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And then just seeing them get excited to do things
that they're good at. Like you said, their face just
lights up. And that's the coolest thing.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Is make the pictures, make the videos, take all the
video and leave it on live photo because I love
going back and seeing the little before and after because
it just gives it so much more personality.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah, And like Ariel said, you know two kids say
mom and dad completely opposite. That's my two.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
It's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
It's absolutely crazy having four all of our kids.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
I don't think any of our kids are like the same. Yeah,
they're all different.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Okay, how do you deal with the mom burnout? I'll
start with Ariel, Oh.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
My gosh, it's hard. Exercise is my like therapy though,
and it has been for a long time, so that
whatever the endorphins do. I could be having these shittiest
day and I'll just go move my body for like
fifteen minutes and it just makes me feel like a
new person. So definitely that's my outlet for sure. And
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then just like maybe a bubble bath, something nice and relaxing. Yeah,
but the burnout is hard. It's every day and some
days there's nothing you can do, but we're just doing
our best.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
When I think of like being burned out, just like
the busyness every single day, Like I look forward to
having a day where there's just like nothing to do
after school, but also I try to remember that I'm
going to miss those days. Yes, but it's a hard
And also there's certain parts of the year where it's
like super busy. So like you know, when all of
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them are into sports and there's something every single day
and there's games every day, I'm like, Okay, this part's
gonna end in a little bit, like we're kind of
like calming down now. That's what I look forward to,
is the calm part. But just know that it's going
to end eventually, but then I'm gonna miss it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Then you'll miss it for sure.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
For me, since getting the house, yard work, I've always
enjoyed like gardening and yard work. Like even when we
lived in the camper, we had a garden. I just
truly enjoyed being outside being hands on. But now that
I have to cut the grass for like, it takes
me like maybe three hours just to cut the grass.
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That is my me time, although Ebby will try to
get on there with me every second she can. Yesterday,
a little.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Push mower, not a real one, Madson does it awesome?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Does it dangerous? Lawn mowers are? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
And Evvy's little awesome pushes it. How does she reach
reach it? That's impressive? Yeah, my anxiety would be there.
She would chop her toes off. Yeah, she would chop
her toes off for sure. It would just come back on.
I couldready see it one.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Wait is there? No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
There's an electric one?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Have electric ones? Is electricstmas? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
But don't they all release like when you release the
handle it shuts off in.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah, they have the safety it does.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Yeah, I know. Ella gets on the zero turn. I
follow her. Yeah, Ellow would cut grass all day long.
She's just like me. Loves it yea. But yeah, and
I like bubble baths at night. That is my relaxation time.
I will put the kids to sleep, Josh will do
whatever he's doing, and I will just soak in the tub.
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I might drain my water and rerun it two or
three times, but I will sit in there for an
hour or two. So between yard work and the tub,
that's that's my me time.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
M mine is. I do enjoy going to bodies.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
I take my time out, even if it's just like
two hours that ago.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
And I go do plots.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
And the bubble baths thing at night is I don't
take one every single night, but I do most most
of the time.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I do.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
But I'm locking that door and I've texted my husband
don't be banging on the door, don't be asking me
to unlock it. Don't get if you need it, get
it before I go.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
I'm not coming in.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
So that isn't my meat time.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Other than that. I mean, you want to get.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Your nails done?
Speaker 6 (08:06):
Yeah, my nails, yep, that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
I used to try and do them at home, but
I'm so picking OCD like no, I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I go get my nails done.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
That is my me time too, So try to go
like twice maybe no, like once every two weeks, maybe
every three weeks, just depending on a whole one they last,
But that's what I do.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah, how do you deal with mom guilt? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
I do struggle with that because I catch myself always
being overwhelmed and I don't think the kids. The kids
don't realize what our mind is doing. So you know,
you're so overwhelmed and then you take it out on them,
but they don't realize why you're taking it out on them.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
It's because you have ten other things going on exactly.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
And I do feel guilty about that, like you know,
always rushing and always just feeling over stimulated, over whelmed,
and I just try to remember they don't know why,
and I always just it's hard.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
It's hard.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
But I also do apologize, and I feel like it's
very important as parents to apologize when you feel like
you've stepped out of line, because sometimes I feel terrible
for yelling and I do say sorry, and I feel
like it's important for them to hear you say sorry too,
and then they're just.
Speaker 6 (09:20):
Looking at you like Okay, I.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Like you guys said all that. Now I'm just sorry. Yeah,
what about for you?
Speaker 4 (09:31):
I'm kind of the same because I find myself yelling
a lot because you know, you tell them fifteen times
to do something and then you have to raise your voice,
and I do feel bad about it, and I try
to apologize and just kind of, you know, do something
else with them or anything like that. But being overstimulated
and overwhelmed is like it's like unavoidable. You can't not
(09:53):
if you don't get overstimulated or overwhelmed. As a mom,
Please give me your secrets because I need to know.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
But I always lets them reconniz because when Mason is
aggravating the living ship, but I'm like, this is how
I feel aggravating baby. Good for them to realize, like,
you see, this is how I feel when you ask
me three hundred questions, while Mason will ask gave it
three hundred questions, Like that's how I feel.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Yes, it's NonStop. And then Ella, it's really been happening
here lately. Eavy will get on Ella's nerves and just
like talk her little head off and just no stop.
And I'm like, you see, I know when I tell
y'all to chill out for a minute and calm down.
That's that's how I feel stimulation.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
Now Charlie is getting to that stage.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
She's like, she won't leave me, and I'm like, baby Nacy,
how I feel like, go in your room?
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I don't know to tell you.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Ella will literally go like herself. Yeah, and that's funny.
It's the funniest thing because heavy so our door knobs,
you just need a butter knife. Toy will get.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
A butter knife and she's like, that's so funny, it's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
What about for you?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, I feel like it's normal to have mom guilt.
Like we're all human human right, it's a human emotion,
and if you're spending any type of time with your kids,
we're all making mistakes constantly, right, and we're never feeling
like we're doing it quite right. And that's perfectly fine
because there's no manual in motherhood, right, like everybody does
it differently and there's no right answer. But just trying
(11:17):
to step back, apologize when I know I've overreacted, which
happens almost on the daily, and then maybe try to
like see how they feel, you know, like me and
Kdence do that a lot. Like we'll react to each
other because we both have very strong personalities, and then
we'll like go separate ourselves for a minute and then
we'll come back and we'll talk it out.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
I think that's really important. But give yourself grace, y'all,
because we're all doing it the same. You know, there's
no right answer, and you're doing a good job. Yeah
at the end of the day.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, same for me. I do beat myself up pretty
bad about it, just because like growing up, like I
dealt with being yelled at a lot and things like that.
So it's like in my mind, I try not to
do it, but I do it every day. It's like
it's almost like just natural. Like if y'all have some
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type of guide or book telling us exactly how to
parent to where we're gonna be these perfect parents and
not yell, not perfect parents, but you know what I mean,
like not to get over stimulated. Tell us the trick parents.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That are like that. I don't know how and I
wish I could be like that, But.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Those are the gentle parents and they got the gentle kids.
We tried that the gentle parents don't have gentle kids
and they just like whatever I give up kind.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Of Oh my god. So that is a great example.
Across the street from me. Okay, I had somebody in
my neighborhood message me and so she don't give a
shit what her kids do at all. She messaged me
and said, the little boy across the street is literally
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lighting mail on fire and in the middle of the street.
That I had to put it out with a water bottle.
Oh my good hammers to make sure that he didn't
take it out of my mailbox. Yeah, because I came
home one day. You're scared to live and shit out
of me. It was a balloon's out of my mailbox.
As soon as I picked it up, it just whenever.
I'm like, it's probably poison inside of the sting.
Speaker 6 (13:17):
But that's the parents.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
It's like, oh no, baby, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
He was catching mail on fire, sage in the middle
of the road.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
That's crazy, that's insane.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, yeah, I'm not a gentle.
Speaker 5 (13:29):
Parent, but no, I stopped a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Yeah, it's just pointless.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
They lle she Ella is the type to her like
I can just look at her the wrong way and
she will immediately tear up. So I don't have to
really yell at her too much. It's mainly ibby and
if you are around heavy then you already know she
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it's just another breed. She it's just rough. Some days
it's okay, and like she is glued to my hip
and it's my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Mom, youre stimulated my mom.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Twenty four seven. You would think she don't have a bedroom.
You would think she doesn't have a tablet, like you
would think that that kid has no life other than
being glued to my hip, because that's all it is. So, yes,
I do get over stimulated, and I try not to yell,
but I do. Yeah, I just say sorry at the
end of the day.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
It's just like yeah, it's the way you get their attention.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
And they actually are like, okay, she's being serious, like well.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
And I try to explain to them to like, do
y'all see why mom had to yell?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Like do you under the day they will one day
when they have kids, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
Like, do y'all understand I asked all four times to
stop before I yelled. Do you understand that? Because like
when I do yell, they'll be.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Like, oh, yeah, what what did I do?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And why do you always have to right, And it's
like if.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
You listen the first three or four times, you know.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, I wouldn't get to that, But that's just part
of being a parent.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
One day they'll grow up though, and they will understand.
Speaker 7 (15:15):
They will right, Yeah, so right, Sorry for those times
I made you yell.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
When they send in their green but their kids off
the ground, we get it.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Or send them back over like all hyped up.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yeah, yeah, it's always asking for doctor Pepper. I can't
wait till her kids come over my hand peer.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Yeah that's funny. Okay, These next two questions I'm gonna combine.
It says, do you take time to do anything for
yourself outside of being a full time mom and anything
special you do for yourself after a hard day or
hard week?
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Little drink drink drinks of wine?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
Yeah, which sometimes I do.
Speaker 4 (15:58):
Sometimes I really don't, won't. It just kind of depends,
Like I don't really drink during the week, Like.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
I don't either. He read?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Don't you like you'll lay in bed and read?
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I do.
Speaker 5 (16:10):
I like my kindle. I like to read my books.
I do do that.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'll go WHI ch'all sometimes let a kid lay with me,
depending on how I feel like they're been on my
nerves all day, go somewhere else. But I'll go lay
in bed and like read for a little while or
something and calm down.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
But other than that, I mean, I really I just
don't drink during the week like sometimes I do. Sometimes
I don't. I do like my gummies.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
I do like those, but that's only if it's like
been really you know, stressful day things like that. But
other than that, I just kind of deal with it
and just go to bed earlier or something.
Speaker 5 (16:45):
Because you're so good.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Yeah, mine is if I've had a super long day,
I'll just put the kids to sleep. We'll be right back. Okay, y'all.
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then go get in the tub. Once a blue moon,
I'll have a drink during the week, but I'd say
like maybe once or twice a month if that during
the week. Now, all the weekends I might have a
drink or two, especially like if we're getting together with
friends or something like that. But are we got me sound.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Like a freaking alcoholic.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I was about to say, me an area, like we
have us a drink during.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
The like it just makes me not want like the weekends,
I can.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It made me so sick.
Speaker 5 (18:01):
I just I don't I don't have a taste for it.
I don't really.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, I think around Christmas time I took that shot
and I was like, I can't.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Y know, we went to a party or something and
you said you didn't feel like drink.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
It does I can take once it's certain to wear
off like I can on the weekends.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Yeah, it does make me sick.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I don't know. I just once in a blood moon
I will.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
But yeah, but I like a hot bath too, and
then I'm like over stimulated, like during the day or overwhelmed.
It's very nice when if Mark's like going to help
his parents do something. He'll take all the kids with him,
and it's just nice to be in the house by myself.
So Mark does help a lot when he takes the kids. Yeah,
even for an hour or two and just I don't know,
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just the quietness. I won't even turn it on the radio. Nothing.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Just Josh has been working from home a lot. So
now I have three children, much fun, there's no.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
I thought the same thing when Austin was sent to
school and I was like, oh, no kids, just me
and Mark tall boom.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, and it's like you can't get nothing done because
but you know, Josh sits there and works out his
computer or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
But when I hang out with them, yeah, and it's.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
Like I get up to do something, He's like, what
are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Yeah, I'm gonna take a ship.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Let me look. And so I do like it.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
But yeah, I'll tell you it's been nice this summer.
I've been like going to lay out for like thirty
minutes during then I'm like, okay, Cadence, take Laney, you'll
play in your bedroom. Give me thirty minutes on my
set of time, or when the timer goes off, you
can come outside. Yeah, everything, I just lay out in
the sun and just don't think about anything.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
My can.
Speaker 5 (19:40):
It's nice, really good about that.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
Like during the day, like now that we have the pool,
I'll like which they still take naps too, but they'll
go play in their room and I'm like, Okay, I'm
gonna take a shower and I'll be in there.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah thirty minutes. Same, I'll take a day shower.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
Like they're still playing, right, I have some crayons?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Can I have some paint? Can I have some colors?
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Kids?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Okay, put some water in my water gun? Can you
build me a four?
Speaker 4 (20:02):
You got to get packed, and I leave access at
their desks, get to crayons, plato, everything except paint.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
See, everything stays in the cabinet because their little desk.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
So it's my fault.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I have to keep on grabbing.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
They have access to everything except paint, Plato.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
No scissors, but plato.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Out the hallway clossom.
Speaker 6 (20:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Cadence has a big craft box in our living room,
like in the cabinet, and she'll get that out and
they'll like cut stuff up and make it.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:28):
I just don't get my access to scissors because if
y'all know Whitley and her curly hair that's not fixable
with scissors.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Okay, not at all.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
That would be terrible, kid, because see, we got home
from vacation yesterday and.
Speaker 6 (20:43):
She's like, poor, She's like, there's a beat in my nose.
There's a beat in my nose, like what.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
She's been saying it.
Speaker 4 (20:52):
And I'm like, we look, there's nothing there because the
doctor they looked, they're like, we don't see anything. Maybe
you know, it might have already gotten the side of
cavity or something.
Speaker 5 (21:00):
She's like, just watch.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It it starts.
Speaker 6 (21:02):
If her nose starts to smell, then there's something in there.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Right, let's wait till it gets infected. Yeah, lord, but.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
I don't know what to do. I don't know murder
your room.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
So just is she just stuffed up like she's stuffy nose.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
You just keeps saying and the same side she keeps saying,
and she she tries to blow her nose.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
It just blows.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
The doctor lives yesterday, there's not she don't.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
They didn't done.
Speaker 6 (21:25):
She stuck this thing whatever scope up there.
Speaker 5 (21:29):
Shouldn't see nothing. And I don't want to make.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
Her go through the trouble, like maybe.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
In there, I would see an ant if just the regular.
Speaker 6 (21:41):
Stressful kids. Kids are stressful. Yeah, it's just a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Okay, onto the next one. How do you address body
image with your kids and loving themselves.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My kids are pretty still pretty young right now. But
I will say Charlie over the summer, which I bought
her like a little two piece to like nothing like
crazy or anything, but sometimes she does not like her
belly hanging out. And me, I sometimes do wear one piece,
and as a bigger person, I do wear my tea piece,
I wear my high waisted I do like those. And
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I thought, I'm like, look, mom, you can see some
of Mom's belly.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
It's okay. It was like, you can, you can wear.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
That, And so here lately she is starting to be
comfortable with her little belly hanging out.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
And when she's petite, she's like tea tiny, like the
stroll right there.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
So it's just a thing for her and so she
is starting to, you know, wear those and be okay
with it. Other than that, I mean, I just my
kids are kind of young, so I really and truly
just it's something I struggle with. So I try my
best to instill like the positivity to them, just because
I don't want them to have to struggle with it
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like I do.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Yeah, so I just, like Kelsey said, try to keep
it like positive, Like I try not to, like when
I'm trying on clothes, if I don't like an outfit,
I don't voice that like oh I don't like the
way this fits me is too tight? Da da da
da da in front of my kids, Like I'll think
about it in my head all day. I'm like, yeah,
this looks like shit, but I don't say that in
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front of my daughters. And then I also try to
compliment them when they pick out their own outfits and stuff.
I'm like, oh, baby, that's so pretty. You look good
in that, because I want them to like find their
own style without outside influence, because I feel like we
live in a society where everything's like, oh that looks
like crap, you should wear this, and I don't want
them to grow up that way.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
I will talk off that my kids are kids who
like to dress themselves, and if you know me, my
kids always gonna have a bow in their hair and
they're always gonna match and it just.
Speaker 6 (23:34):
Drives me insane.
Speaker 4 (23:34):
It's just like, okay, just let them, we all least
choose her own own feet. She's got mixed match clothes on,
but she is feeling herself okay, and yeah, like you
look so great since it's like beautiful.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
And then when it comes to like food stuff, like
I feel like we grew up in a time where
skinny was everything, right, So I had a horrible relationship
with food as a teenager and then even in my
early twenties. So like I try to tell my kids,
like not you can't eat that because it's gonna make
you fat, or we need to eat this because you
want to be skinny. I say, we want to be healthy.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
We want to be strong.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Mama works out and is strong and able to because
I eat healthier foods. So I try to do it
that way.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
So I think it was Sam, the smaller Sam. She
said something the other day on TikTok, which she was like, oh,
that was really good, something about her daughter asking about
sugar and she's like, we can have sugar.
Speaker 5 (24:25):
She's like, you just can't.
Speaker 6 (24:26):
She's like you can't have a lot of it because
it'll hurt your tummy or.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Something like that.
Speaker 6 (24:30):
It was it was a little bit better way, but
that was like it's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Not an image where they're going to fixate sugar equals.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Yeah, it's bad for your teeth and it's bad for
your belly. You can have a little bit, you just
can't have a lot something like that. So yeah, which
is different from how we grew up with the Victoria's Secret.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
Models and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Trying to be same for me, Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Don't really have much. I feel like I have pretty
confident children right now. I mean also, it's kind of
similar to Charlie the right, Yeah, where she doesn't want
her belly shown too, and and I just I don't
tell her anything. I just let her cover up. But
she wants to cover but I don't want her to
make her feel uncomfortable because like for Danda had bought
her a couple like crop tops and stuff like that,
(25:15):
and she cried and cried and cried like I don't
want to wear that. I'm like, okay, I'm not gonna
make you wear you can just put on your one
piece le guitar. That's fine. But she I try to
tell her, you know that she's beautiful and she doesn't
have to show her belly or she doesn't want to.
And then Morgan, on the other hand, will wear the
(25:38):
She's very confident in herself, which I love, and she
does have a cute little body. But you know, I
have pretty confident children and I try to let them
be there themselves.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
But I tried with ava Is.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
She's had a hard age where she feels like she
has to be everybody on YouTube. Oh, I want this,
I want that, I want to wear this, I want
to wear that, and it's and it's getting younger and younger,
like I didn't Morgan didn't want to wear that Lululemon
and all that stuff until a lot older, and now
Ava's starting a lot younger, and they feel like they
have to keep up.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah, because they're seeing all the influencers were Yeah, but yeah,
it's part of having a digital society.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Like a boy's easy tea. I don't care, no, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
My two are complete opposites. Ella Is wants to wear
the one pieces. We've been struggling a lot with her,
but obviously, like you know, staying positive, you know, telling
her she's beautiful, not making her wear something that she
doesn't want to wear. Now Heavy On the other hand,
that kid would walk out in a cruptop every day
(26:45):
if I let her, I don't like them. Like I
will let her wear like a two piece bathing suit,
but as far as like crop top shirts, she is
not walking out of the house for to go shopping
in that. I don't like that me personally.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Yeah, I just don't buy it.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Yeah, it's not an option, right, I don't buy it.
It's not an option. I won't let her wear two
piece bathing suit, but she would literally wear that bathing
suit to town if I'll let her. She's very confident, so,
you know, just being positive and just trying to encourage Ella,
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you know, because.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
School doesn't help either. The mean kids at school will
put a certain image in their.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Heads and then they think, oh, I can't wear this
or and then I feel like to like if Ella
is around friends and they're all wearing the two pieces,
like you know, she feels a certain way.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
So just something we're working on.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Yeah, it's a struggle with I feel like body image
is always going to be a struggle as adult.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
He looked a certain way.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (27:52):
Remember in high school, like I don't know, just and
kids are mean, Like these days, it's even worse than was.
Speaker 6 (27:58):
I thought it was bad when I was in high school,
and it's.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Even worse now.
Speaker 6 (28:01):
Like if you let your kid be a bully over.
Speaker 4 (28:04):
Someone else's appearance or anything like that, then.
Speaker 5 (28:06):
Shame on you.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Yeah, it's definitely problem.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
I mean some kids, some kids can't help, you know,
the way, no matter what they do.
Speaker 5 (28:15):
Yeah, it just yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
I do like the more body positive society that we're
like going into, where everybody is more accepting of Like
like I watched the Sports Illustrated yea and there was
normal women walking on that runway and I loved it,
like of all different body types, and that was so
inspiring because what fifteen years ago you would have never
(28:39):
seen that. So I do love that. And like all
the campaigns like Airy and everything, they're showing pictures of
women online dressed in clothes of all body types, not
just like the stick figure models, which is amazing. I
do love that, and I think that's good for our
daughter's growing up because we didn't have that growing up.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
You know, going into fears and exacts as a mother.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Oh, which you know, every mom has the fear of
something happening to their children or you know, something bad happening,
and things like that. I think I kind of went
through that with Charlie, like the nick you thing like you,
the fear of you don't know what's gonna happen next,
you don't know how it's gonna turn out, if she's
gonna be okay, things like that.
Speaker 5 (29:23):
I've tried. Look, I've tried medicine.
Speaker 4 (29:25):
It didn't work, which I didn't give it time to work,
because I need something that's gonna work like that. I
don't want to I don't want something to work in
three months and it's taking a pill every day. I
just can't do it, like I forget. And then especially
things like that you have to be on top of
and I can't say I just deal with it. And
like anxiety, like when we drive over a bridge, like
(29:46):
my windows are cracked because if I accidentally drive off
the bridge, I'm gonna be able to get out.
Speaker 6 (29:52):
I watched the videos of how to get out of
your car sub mergers.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Some people on TikTok they teach you how to get
out of your car last or too.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
Now you have seen them.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
I have one of those which is in my car,
so I need to put on my keyring to break
the window.
Speaker 5 (30:05):
But I done told my kids.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
My kids know how to buckle theirselves, and we're working
on unbuckling themselves because it's that's a big thing, especially
if you're getting an accident. You know your car catch
is on fire and you're hurry things like that. I mean,
that's just that's real things. I mean you see people
on the side of the road and are outside of
their car with like their babies and stuff, and I
mean it's just it's hard to deal with without, you know,
(30:28):
being medicated, which is like I said, but there's.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
I need to be medicated, and I think I'm medicated.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
I'm newly medicated and it's working.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
Yeah. I remember.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
She said it's gonna take three months. I'm like three months.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I ain't got three months. They will an edge come
off within the first two or three weeks. But I
am on almost month three, and you're feeling better, uh huh.
And Mark and Morgan noticed first before I noticed. Yeah,
they said that I'm always in a better mood.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
I'm not as I need lexuper, I need some type
of medicine. My anxiety stays through the roof.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
It does seem like for one.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
Obviously, I feel like I can speak for all mothers,
just like Kelsey said. The fear of something happening. That's
not even the worst part of it. I always fear
of something happening.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
I think that's natural, right, But like.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
Going down a highway. I don't know if it's because
I've been in like two pretty bad car accidents, but
like just if I pass a car on the road,
the worst thing is going through my head anytime I
pass a vehicle, Like if we're on the road where
it's just you know, going opposite ways, like an interstate's
not too too bad because you got like the media
in between. Obviously, accidents happen on the intertate all the
(31:50):
time going the same way. But my fear is like
somebody texting and driving and like coming into my lane
and hitting me, or being drunk and driving and coming
in my lane and hitting me. Like no exaggeration, every
vehicle I passed, like my anxiety to the roof going
over bridges. I don't know if you've ever noticed, if
y'all rode in a vehicle with me while we went
over a bridge, my finger goes on the button because
(32:10):
I'm waiting for that car. Yeah, my anxiety.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
I do have a fear of, not like the heat.
Speaker 7 (32:17):
It's not like the height I'm not afraid of. It's
just like you know, you see just falling. Yeah, but
I mean it does happen, It really does.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
Especially living in Louisiana. You there's so many bridges over.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Bodies of water on that, like Charles Bridge will fall.
That's one of the worst version I go around. Yeah,
but yeah, that's just I need to be medicated, and
I've highly considered it the past month or two to
go to the doctor.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
I just need to go to the.
Speaker 3 (32:53):
Positive.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
I'm on the lowest dose and I already feel something.
I'm thinking about increasing just to see if it makes
any other difference. But I'm on the lowest.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Somebody needs to invent an anxiety medication for moms.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
That's just like an implant or something.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Oh yeah, anxiety on a day you don't have to
remember to take every day. I feel like that's why
I'm kind of short with my kids too. Sometimes it's anxiety.
It's not like anything that they're doing necessarily. I'm just
overstimulated and I'm anxious, like twenty four to seven. Yeah,
And Eric notices it sometimes He's like, Babe, you need
to freaking chill. And Josh can't because I think because
(33:28):
there's always a million things like and.
Speaker 6 (33:30):
It's just and he's like, just don't let it bother you,
just roll it off. I'm like, it's easier said than Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
I have a lot of health anxiety. Like I worried that, yeah,
something's gonna have, something's gonna pop up with my kids
because Mason had that HSP. You know, he had an
autoimmune disease and he had like bruises all over his
entire body and it was a what he was experiencing
(33:55):
was like a symptom of leukemia.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Oh you google, didn't you know?
Speaker 1 (33:59):
But they told me they before they finished his blood test,
they gave me they.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Warned yes, Oh my gosh. So the whole entire.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Time I'm sitting in that waiting room at the hospital,
I was thinking, oh my god, he has lukemi. He
has lukem yet but thank god, it was just an
auto immune disease. But it's scary to think, so.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Does he still have it or he grew it was
a diaper.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
He grew out of.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
It took six months for it to fully go away.
But yeah, it was It was hard. But even myself
I struggled with migraines. Really bad and vertigo, and I
was like, oh my god, I have a brain toomer
I'm gonna die, Like I think my kids are gonna
grow without a mom or Yeah, And I struggle with
(34:44):
Mark coming home from work. I'm like, I pray that
he doesn't get in a car acces. That's why I
have life through sixty. Let me know, somebody gets in
a car accident. But I'm like, Mason cannot live without
his daddy. I was like, if something happens to Mark Mason.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
And then our brains go to like worst case scenario.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Mine stays in worst case scenario.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
I think like that I just leave this earth too early.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Yeah, Eric would not survive. I'm like, who's gonna take
care of my baby? Who's gonna fix their hair?
Speaker 3 (35:14):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
I know it is scary thinking about it because I'm like,
we both need each other to take care of these kids.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
I can imagine I can't do without him and he
can't do without me.
Speaker 8 (35:23):
I mean, I know that I can do it with that.
It's going to be Yeah, I want to, but I
don't know if he can. Like it was for better
or death, do us part? You're stuck like we had
to get together.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
It is scary feeling your possibility or not knowing that.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
I feel like Josh love without me.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
No, he could not just whine he's obsessed with you.
Speaker 3 (35:44):
No, no, no, Like I'm like, that's yeah, to happen
to me tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
He'd be okay, he would be fine, yea too, but
it would just yeah, yeah, like we do wrong obviously,
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
I just feel like Josh is super.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I don't know, independent, Yeah, and like if.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
He needed to get the kids fully dressed, like he cooks,
he cleans, That's what I mean. Yeah, I don't know.
He always jokes.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
He's like, I go find me a.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Younger winner or whatever.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
But I mean he would be okay, he would know, but.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
No, like obviously, like he would miss me. And there's
things that I do that he doesn't even realize. But
I think he could figure it out. Yeah, maybe we
should like disappear to.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
Another and.
Speaker 5 (36:34):
Is anxiety.
Speaker 4 (36:34):
We're sitting at the beach and Josh takes both the
girls out to the water and they're like, She's like, Josh,
come back now.
Speaker 6 (36:42):
He's like, I'm a grown man.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
That's with y'all. Last year with all the kids by
myself and I had no husband. I was just terrified
of them in the ocean. I was like Morgan and
Reggae and me. I'm like, y'all are going to together
come back, like anything could happen. I'm like, I don't
understand how it can just take That's.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
What I tell Josh, And Josh was like, I'm a
girln man, and I'm like, those are my kids. She's mine,
get back now.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
I like Ella.
Speaker 5 (37:15):
She was when I was watching other than the water.
Ella was the only one in the water.
Speaker 6 (37:18):
And she kept she would dive in the way and
she Ella come up.
Speaker 3 (37:22):
She's just like her daddy, Look like what.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
Scares me?
Speaker 3 (37:28):
I like it. For about three foot the water was pretty.
Speaker 4 (37:31):
Calm, so it wasn't like extremely Like, yeah, it was
pretty if it would have been any rougher than that, Like, yeah.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
My anxiety definitely goes to the roof at the bed,
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
So another fear, though, like, do y'all ever think like
I'm going to do something as a mom that's really
going to screw my kids up as an adult, because
I think that's.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
A fear of mine too, like.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Creating trauma in my children because I have trauma from
my parents, right, most of us do. I'm like, I
don't want to do anything that screws them up for.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
The rest of their life. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
I always tell my kids and because we all can
do better, But I feel like, you want your kids
to be better parents than their parents. Like, I know
that my kids could probably say something that they don't
like about me, and they might do something different when
their parents, which is okay, because we're not all perfect.
Speaker 5 (38:23):
And you know, everybody has an opinion.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, it's going to be different.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
There's gonna be something that your kids don't like about
their parents, I guess. I mean I feel like everybody
can say that.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Yeah, yeah, definitely, you know always Okay. Last question to
wrap up this episode, how do you deal with your
mental health?
Speaker 2 (38:43):
We kind of just.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
That was just lexaprose.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
Yeah you really do.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
I have that because theft was not hidden and I
took so loft before the lexapro and it made me
gain a lot of weight. They said that was the
main complaint about Zoe waking, and with lexapro it was
like a very very small percentage. So that's why I
went that route.
Speaker 2 (39:07):
And yeah, I feel like most intended pressions are like
that waiting is like one of the big side effects.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
And so far, I mean, I wait less than having
a long time.
Speaker 5 (39:14):
So yeah, so it.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
Has good for it hasn't bothered.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
Yeah, and I think my biggest thing too, well, several reasons,
but one of them. I've just heard a lot of
stories like it'll make you like just zone.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Out, and I don't want to be that much, I know,
but it does not mean and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
Yeah. Like I had a one of my cousins after
she had her baby or whatever she got on I
don't remember if it was Zola for lexapro, it was
one of them, and they were sitting at a table
out at a restaurant eating dinner and she was on
the medication. Obviously she was so zoned out her baby
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was choking and she didn't even realize.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Oh no, that's that's what she was.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
No, that's over medicated.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Yeah, but like just not even her story, just others
they're like, it'll make you like a zombie. So that's
part of the reason I never got on it.
Speaker 2 (40:08):
Maybe if you're on the wrong medicine, Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
I didn't. That's like I said, how Mark and Morgan
noticed the difference before I did, Like I didn't feel medical.
Speaker 5 (40:18):
Person.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
My sister has been on antide depressants for years and
she said it totally changed your life.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Like I think there's a difference though. I feel like
if you know, you lost a loved one and you
needing like a more of a anti depressant because but
versus like anxiety. I know they're fall into the same category,
but I feel like there's different medicine that's gonna like
fix the depression. Like I don't feel like I'm controlling depression, but.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
And for multiple things. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
I feel like maybe something like that would zone you
out if.
Speaker 5 (40:53):
You are too too high of a dose as well.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
Yeah, so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Maybe I'll try one out. Maybe we'll see. Okay, Well
that wraps up Episode one.
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Speaker 2 (00:46):
Valerie, and I'm Ariel and we are for the Moms.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Starting off, what's your favorite part of motherhood or being
a mom? Kelsey, I think.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
My favorite part of motherhood is just really truly making
memories with my kids. My kids absolutely love going new places,
they love doing things and just see in their face
light up and then be so excited to go somewhere
is new or do something different.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
It just makes me so happy.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Like we were on the way to the beach and
we were going over the bridge and Whitley is like,
oh my gosh, the water and like, I don't know,
it just made me feel giddy inside because I get
to do things like that with my kids, and you know,
and everybody has that privilege. So I'm very grateful that
I get to take my kids new places and get
to experience things with them.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Yes, kind of same for me, you know, just for
one being able to more so be the mom that
I wish I had growing up me first first, you know,
and I'm very thankful for the things that we do
get to do now. We haven't always been able to
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do the things and bring the girls to you know,
go on vacations and stuff like that, and even if
it's stuff around the house, you know, if we're doing crap,
but just being like one on one with them, that's
what I truly enjoy because I so wish, you know,
like I had that growing up and I didn't, So
I do my absolute best to just be more involved.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yep, same wish I tried to be the mom that
I wish I had growing up, all taking all the
trips that I take, always being there for every dance recital,
every game, just always being there for every school function,
every field trip, every birthday party, because those memories are important.
Speaker 6 (02:35):
They are They remember that too, Remember when you came
to do this they do.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
They's seeing like when you're at their school functions, seeing
their little faces light up.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
And they remember who shows up today. They might be young,
but David, they remember every detail.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Yeah, so same, Like I had a mom that was
never present growing up, So I try to be there
for everything. And then I love seeing my girls like
grow and change into their personality, like because it always
blows my mind. You have two kids by the same
parents or made by the same person, and they're totally different,
and it's just so neat watching their personalities mature and
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change throughout the years, and like with each stage, it's
a little bit different and it's I just love that.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
It's so cool.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You also don't realize how fast the stages.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
I was talking about that with Eric the other night.
So Laney still has that baby voice and we were
just like listening to her for like an hour talk
because she loves to talk. And I was like, I
don't even remember Cadence having that voice, you know, that
high pitched like little cute, little girl voice.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
I'm like same with it's.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Crazy, change, please stop doing the baby voice.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Like, yeah, I go back on videos when I hear
Mason's little voice and.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Oh and wait till his drops. Oh oh, and he
starts becoming that little man.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
My little cousins, and Charlie has like losing her be
faced right now, she's getting into that girl.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And then just seeing them get excited to do things
that they're good at. Like you said, their face just
lights up. And that's the coolest thing.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Is make the pictures, make the videos, take all the
video and leave it on live photo because I love
going back and seeing the little before and after because
it just gives it so much more personality.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah, And like Ariel said, you know two kids say
mom and dad completely opposite. That's my two.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
It's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
It's absolutely crazy having four all of our kids.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
I don't think any of our kids are like the same. Yeah,
they're all different.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Okay, how do you deal with the mom burnout? I'll
start with Ariel, Oh.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
My gosh, it's hard. Exercise is my like therapy though,
and it has been for a long time, so that
whatever the endorphins do. I could be having these shittiest
day and I'll just go move my body for like
fifteen minutes and it just makes me feel like a
new person. So definitely that's my outlet for sure. And
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then just like maybe a bubble bath, something nice and relaxing. Yeah,
but the burnout is hard. It's every day and some
days there's nothing you can do, but we're just doing
our best.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
When I think of like being burned out, just like
the busyness every single day, Like I look forward to
having a day where there's just like nothing to do
after school, but also I try to remember that I'm
going to miss those days. Yes, but it's a hard
And also there's certain parts of the year where it's
like super busy. So like you know, when all of
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them are into sports and there's something every single day
and there's games every day, I'm like, Okay, this part's
gonna end in a little bit, like we're kind of
like calming down now. That's what I look forward to,
is the calm part. But just know that it's going
to end eventually, but then I'm gonna miss it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Then you'll miss it for sure.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
For me, since getting the house, yard work, I've always
enjoyed like gardening and yard work. Like even when we
lived in the camper, we had a garden. I just
truly enjoyed being outside being hands on. But now that
I have to cut the grass for like, it takes
me like maybe three hours just to cut the grass.
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That is my me time, although Ebby will try to
get on there with me every second she can. Yesterday,
a little.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Push mower, not a real one, Madson does it awesome?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Does it dangerous? Lawn mowers are? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
And Evvy's little awesome pushes it. How does she reach
reach it? That's impressive? Yeah, my anxiety would be there.
She would chop her toes off. Yeah, she would chop
her toes off for sure. It would just come back on.
I couldready see it one.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Wait is there? No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
There's an electric one?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Have electric ones? Is electricstmas? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
But don't they all release like when you release the
handle it shuts off in.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah, they have the safety it does.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Yeah, I know. Ella gets on the zero turn. I
follow her. Yeah, Ellow would cut grass all day long.
She's just like me. Loves it yea. But yeah, and
I like bubble baths at night. That is my relaxation time.
I will put the kids to sleep, Josh will do
whatever he's doing, and I will just soak in the tub.
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I might drain my water and rerun it two or
three times, but I will sit in there for an
hour or two. So between yard work and the tub,
that's that's my me time.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
M mine is. I do enjoy going to bodies.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
I take my time out, even if it's just like
two hours that ago.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
And I go do plots.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
And the bubble baths thing at night is I don't
take one every single night, but I do most most
of the time.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I do.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
But I'm locking that door and I've texted my husband
don't be banging on the door, don't be asking me
to unlock it. Don't get if you need it, get
it before I go.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
I'm not coming in.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
So that isn't my meat time.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Other than that. I mean, you want to get.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Your nails done?
Speaker 6 (08:06):
Yeah, my nails, yep, that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
I used to try and do them at home, but
I'm so picking OCD like no, I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I go get my nails done.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
That is my me time too, So try to go
like twice maybe no, like once every two weeks, maybe
every three weeks, just depending on a whole one they last,
But that's what I do.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah, how do you deal with mom guilt? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
I do struggle with that because I catch myself always
being overwhelmed and I don't think the kids. The kids
don't realize what our mind is doing. So you know,
you're so overwhelmed and then you take it out on them,
but they don't realize why you're taking it out on them.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
It's because you have ten other things going on exactly.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
And I do feel guilty about that, like you know,
always rushing and always just feeling over stimulated, over whelmed,
and I just try to remember they don't know why,
and I always just it's hard.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
It's hard.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
But I also do apologize, and I feel like it's
very important as parents to apologize when you feel like
you've stepped out of line, because sometimes I feel terrible
for yelling and I do say sorry, and I feel
like it's important for them to hear you say sorry too,
and then they're just.
Speaker 6 (09:20):
Looking at you like Okay, I.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Like you guys said all that. Now I'm just sorry. Yeah,
what about for you?
Speaker 4 (09:31):
I'm kind of the same because I find myself yelling
a lot because you know, you tell them fifteen times
to do something and then you have to raise your voice,
and I do feel bad about it, and I try
to apologize and just kind of, you know, do something
else with them or anything like that. But being overstimulated
and overwhelmed is like it's like unavoidable. You can't not
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if you don't get overstimulated or overwhelmed. As a mom,
Please give me your secrets because I need to know.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
But I always lets them reconniz because when Mason is
aggravating the living ship, but I'm like, this is how
I feel aggravating baby. Good for them to realize, like,
you see, this is how I feel when you ask
me three hundred questions, while Mason will ask gave it
three hundred questions, Like that's how I feel.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Yes, it's NonStop. And then Ella, it's really been happening
here lately. Eavy will get on Ella's nerves and just
like talk her little head off and just no stop.
And I'm like, you see, I know when I tell
y'all to chill out for a minute and calm down.
That's that's how I feel stimulation.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
Now Charlie is getting to that stage.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
She's like, she won't leave me, and I'm like, baby Nacy,
how I feel like, go in your room?
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I don't know to tell you.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Ella will literally go like herself. Yeah, and that's funny.
It's the funniest thing because heavy so our door knobs,
you just need a butter knife. Toy will get.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
A butter knife and she's like, that's so funny, it's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
What about for you?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, I feel like it's normal to have mom guilt.
Like we're all human human right, it's a human emotion,
and if you're spending any type of time with your kids,
we're all making mistakes constantly, right, and we're never feeling
like we're doing it quite right. And that's perfectly fine
because there's no manual in motherhood, right, like everybody does
it differently and there's no right answer. But just trying
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to step back, apologize when I know I've overreacted, which
happens almost on the daily, and then maybe try to
like see how they feel, you know, like me and
Kdence do that a lot. Like we'll react to each
other because we both have very strong personalities, and then
we'll like go separate ourselves for a minute and then
we'll come back and we'll talk it out.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
I think that's really important. But give yourself grace, y'all,
because we're all doing it the same. You know, there's
no right answer, and you're doing a good job. Yeah
at the end of the day.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, same for me. I do beat myself up pretty
bad about it, just because like growing up, like I
dealt with being yelled at a lot and things like that.
So it's like in my mind, I try not to
do it, but I do it every day. It's like
it's almost like just natural. Like if y'all have some
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type of guide or book telling us exactly how to
parent to where we're gonna be these perfect parents and
not yell, not perfect parents, but you know what I mean,
like not to get over stimulated. Tell us the trick parents.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That are like that. I don't know how and I
wish I could be like that, But.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Those are the gentle parents and they got the gentle kids.
We tried that the gentle parents don't have gentle kids
and they just like whatever I give up kind.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Of Oh my god. So that is a great example.
Across the street from me. Okay, I had somebody in
my neighborhood message me and so she don't give a
shit what her kids do at all. She messaged me
and said, the little boy across the street is literally
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lighting mail on fire and in the middle of the street.
That I had to put it out with a water bottle.
Oh my good hammers to make sure that he didn't
take it out of my mailbox. Yeah, because I came
home one day. You're scared to live and shit out
of me. It was a balloon's out of my mailbox.
As soon as I picked it up, it just whenever.
I'm like, it's probably poison inside of the sting.
Speaker 6 (13:17):
But that's the parents.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
It's like, oh no, baby, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
He was catching mail on fire, sage in the middle
of the road.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
That's crazy, that's insane.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, yeah, I'm not a gentle.
Speaker 5 (13:29):
Parent, but no, I stopped a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Yeah, it's just pointless.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
They lle she Ella is the type to her like
I can just look at her the wrong way and
she will immediately tear up. So I don't have to
really yell at her too much. It's mainly ibby and
if you are around heavy then you already know she
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it's just another breed. She it's just rough. Some days
it's okay, and like she is glued to my hip
and it's my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Mom, youre stimulated my mom.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Twenty four seven. You would think she don't have a bedroom.
You would think she doesn't have a tablet, like you
would think that that kid has no life other than
being glued to my hip, because that's all it is. So, yes,
I do get over stimulated, and I try not to yell,
but I do. Yeah, I just say sorry at the
end of the day.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
It's just like yeah, it's the way you get their attention.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
And they actually are like, okay, she's being serious, like well.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
And I try to explain to them to like, do
y'all see why mom had to yell?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Like do you under the day they will one day
when they have kids, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
Like, do y'all understand I asked all four times to
stop before I yelled. Do you understand that? Because like
when I do yell, they'll be.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Like, oh, yeah, what what did I do?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And why do you always have to right, And it's
like if.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
You listen the first three or four times, you know.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, I wouldn't get to that, But that's just part
of being a parent.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
One day they'll grow up though, and they will understand.
Speaker 7 (15:15):
They will right, Yeah, so right, Sorry for those times
I made you yell.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
When they send in their green but their kids off
the ground, we get it.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Or send them back over like all hyped up.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yeah, yeah, it's always asking for doctor Pepper. I can't
wait till her kids come over my hand peer.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Yeah that's funny. Okay, These next two questions I'm gonna combine.
It says, do you take time to do anything for
yourself outside of being a full time mom and anything
special you do for yourself after a hard day or
hard week?
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Little drink drink drinks of wine?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
Yeah, which sometimes I do.
Speaker 4 (15:58):
Sometimes I really don't, won't. It just kind of depends,
Like I don't really drink during the week, Like.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
I don't either. He read?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Don't you like you'll lay in bed and read?
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I do.
Speaker 5 (16:10):
I like my kindle. I like to read my books.
I do do that.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'll go WHI ch'all sometimes let a kid lay with me,
depending on how I feel like they're been on my
nerves all day, go somewhere else. But I'll go lay
in bed and like read for a little while or
something and calm down.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
But other than that, I mean, I really I just
don't drink during the week like sometimes I do. Sometimes
I don't. I do like my gummies.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
I do like those, but that's only if it's like
been really you know, stressful day things like that. But
other than that, I just kind of deal with it
and just go to bed earlier or something.
Speaker 5 (16:45):
Because you're so good.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Yeah, mine is if I've had a super long day,
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then go get in the tub. Once a blue moon,
I'll have a drink during the week, but I'd say
like maybe once or twice a month if that during
the week. Now, all the weekends I might have a
drink or two, especially like if we're getting together with
friends or something like that. But are we got me sound.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Like a freaking alcoholic.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I was about to say, me an area, like we
have us a drink during.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
The like it just makes me not want like the weekends,
I can.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It made me so sick.
Speaker 5 (18:01):
I just I don't I don't have a taste for it.
I don't really.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, I think around Christmas time I took that shot
and I was like, I can't.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Y know, we went to a party or something and
you said you didn't feel like drink.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
It does I can take once it's certain to wear
off like I can on the weekends.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Yeah, it does make me sick.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I don't know. I just once in a blood moon
I will.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
But yeah, but I like a hot bath too, and
then I'm like over stimulated, like during the day or overwhelmed.
It's very nice when if Mark's like going to help
his parents do something. He'll take all the kids with him,
and it's just nice to be in the house by myself.
So Mark does help a lot when he takes the kids. Yeah,
even for an hour or two and just I don't know,
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just the quietness. I won't even turn it on the radio. Nothing.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Just Josh has been working from home a lot. So
now I have three children, much fun, there's no.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
I thought the same thing when Austin was sent to
school and I was like, oh, no kids, just me
and Mark tall boom.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, and it's like you can't get nothing done because
but you know, Josh sits there and works out his
computer or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
But when I hang out with them, yeah, and it's.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
Like I get up to do something, He's like, what
are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Yeah, I'm gonna take a ship.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Let me look. And so I do like it.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
But yeah, I'll tell you it's been nice this summer.
I've been like going to lay out for like thirty
minutes during then I'm like, okay, Cadence, take Laney, you'll
play in your bedroom. Give me thirty minutes on my
set of time, or when the timer goes off, you
can come outside. Yeah, everything, I just lay out in
the sun and just don't think about anything.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
My can.
Speaker 5 (19:40):
It's nice, really good about that.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
Like during the day, like now that we have the pool,
I'll like which they still take naps too, but they'll
go play in their room and I'm like, Okay, I'm
gonna take a shower and I'll be in there.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah thirty minutes. Same, I'll take a day shower.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
Like they're still playing, right, I have some crayons?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Can I have some paint? Can I have some colors?
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Kids?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Okay, put some water in my water gun? Can you
build me a four?
Speaker 4 (20:02):
You got to get packed, and I leave access at
their desks, get to crayons, plato, everything except paint.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
See, everything stays in the cabinet because their little desk.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
So it's my fault.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I have to keep on grabbing.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
They have access to everything except paint, Plato.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
No scissors, but plato.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Out the hallway clossom.
Speaker 6 (20:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Cadence has a big craft box in our living room,
like in the cabinet, and she'll get that out and
they'll like cut stuff up and make it.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:28):
I just don't get my access to scissors because if
y'all know Whitley and her curly hair that's not fixable
with scissors.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Okay, not at all.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
That would be terrible, kid, because see, we got home
from vacation yesterday and.
Speaker 6 (20:43):
She's like, poor, She's like, there's a beat in my nose.
There's a beat in my nose, like what.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
She's been saying it.
Speaker 4 (20:52):
And I'm like, we look, there's nothing there because the
doctor they looked, they're like, we don't see anything. Maybe
you know, it might have already gotten the side of
cavity or something.
Speaker 5 (21:00):
She's like, just watch.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It it starts.
Speaker 6 (21:02):
If her nose starts to smell, then there's something in there.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Right, let's wait till it gets infected. Yeah, lord, but.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
I don't know what to do. I don't know murder
your room.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
So just is she just stuffed up like she's stuffy nose.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
You just keeps saying and the same side she keeps saying,
and she she tries to blow her nose.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
It just blows.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
The doctor lives yesterday, there's not she don't.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
They didn't done.
Speaker 6 (21:25):
She stuck this thing whatever scope up there.
Speaker 5 (21:29):
Shouldn't see nothing. And I don't want to make.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
Her go through the trouble, like maybe.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
In there, I would see an ant if just the regular.
Speaker 6 (21:41):
Stressful kids. Kids are stressful. Yeah, it's just a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Okay, onto the next one. How do you address body
image with your kids and loving themselves.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My kids are pretty still pretty young right now. But
I will say Charlie over the summer, which I bought
her like a little two piece to like nothing like
crazy or anything, but sometimes she does not like her
belly hanging out. And me, I sometimes do wear one piece,
and as a bigger person, I do wear my tea piece,
I wear my high waisted I do like those. And
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I thought, I'm like, look, mom, you can see some
of Mom's belly.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
It's okay. It was like, you can, you can wear.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
That, And so here lately she is starting to be
comfortable with her little belly hanging out.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
And when she's petite, she's like tea tiny, like the
stroll right there.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
So it's just a thing for her and so she
is starting to, you know, wear those and be okay
with it. Other than that, I mean, I just my
kids are kind of young, so I really and truly
just it's something I struggle with. So I try my
best to instill like the positivity to them, just because
I don't want them to have to struggle with it
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like I do.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Yeah, so I just, like Kelsey said, try to keep
it like positive, Like I try not to, like when
I'm trying on clothes, if I don't like an outfit,
I don't voice that like oh I don't like the
way this fits me is too tight? Da da da
da da in front of my kids, Like I'll think
about it in my head all day. I'm like, yeah,
this looks like shit, but I don't say that in
(23:07):
front of my daughters. And then I also try to
compliment them when they pick out their own outfits and stuff.
I'm like, oh, baby, that's so pretty. You look good
in that, because I want them to like find their
own style without outside influence, because I feel like we
live in a society where everything's like, oh that looks
like crap, you should wear this, and I don't want
them to grow up that way.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
I will talk off that my kids are kids who
like to dress themselves, and if you know me, my
kids always gonna have a bow in their hair and
they're always gonna match and it just.
Speaker 6 (23:34):
Drives me insane.
Speaker 4 (23:34):
It's just like, okay, just let them, we all least
choose her own own feet. She's got mixed match clothes on,
but she is feeling herself okay, and yeah, like you
look so great since it's like beautiful.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
And then when it comes to like food stuff, like
I feel like we grew up in a time where
skinny was everything, right, So I had a horrible relationship
with food as a teenager and then even in my
early twenties. So like I try to tell my kids,
like not you can't eat that because it's gonna make
you fat, or we need to eat this because you
want to be skinny. I say, we want to be healthy.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
We want to be strong.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Mama works out and is strong and able to because
I eat healthier foods. So I try to do it
that way.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
So I think it was Sam, the smaller Sam. She
said something the other day on TikTok, which she was like, oh,
that was really good, something about her daughter asking about
sugar and she's like, we can have sugar.
Speaker 5 (24:25):
She's like, you just can't.
Speaker 6 (24:26):
She's like you can't have a lot of it because
it'll hurt your tummy or.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Something like that.
Speaker 6 (24:30):
It was it was a little bit better way, but
that was like it's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Not an image where they're going to fixate sugar equals.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Yeah, it's bad for your teeth and it's bad for
your belly. You can have a little bit, you just
can't have a lot something like that. So yeah, which
is different from how we grew up with the Victoria's Secret.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
Models and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Trying to be same for me, Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Don't really have much. I feel like I have pretty
confident children right now. I mean also, it's kind of
similar to Charlie the right, Yeah, where she doesn't want
her belly shown too, and and I just I don't
tell her anything. I just let her cover up. But
she wants to cover but I don't want her to
make her feel uncomfortable because like for Danda had bought
her a couple like crop tops and stuff like that,
(25:15):
and she cried and cried and cried like I don't
want to wear that. I'm like, okay, I'm not gonna
make you wear you can just put on your one
piece le guitar. That's fine. But she I try to
tell her, you know that she's beautiful and she doesn't
have to show her belly or she doesn't want to.
And then Morgan, on the other hand, will wear the
(25:38):
She's very confident in herself, which I love, and she
does have a cute little body. But you know, I
have pretty confident children and I try to let them
be there themselves.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
But I tried with ava Is.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
She's had a hard age where she feels like she
has to be everybody on YouTube. Oh, I want this,
I want that, I want to wear this, I want
to wear that, and it's and it's getting younger and younger,
like I didn't Morgan didn't want to wear that Lululemon
and all that stuff until a lot older, and now
Ava's starting a lot younger, and they feel like they
have to keep up.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah, because they're seeing all the influencers were Yeah, but yeah,
it's part of having a digital society.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Like a boy's easy tea. I don't care, no, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
My two are complete opposites. Ella Is wants to wear
the one pieces. We've been struggling a lot with her,
but obviously, like you know, staying positive, you know, telling
her she's beautiful, not making her wear something that she
doesn't want to wear. Now Heavy On the other hand,
that kid would walk out in a cruptop every day
(26:45):
if I let her, I don't like them. Like I
will let her wear like a two piece bathing suit,
but as far as like crop top shirts, she is
not walking out of the house for to go shopping
in that. I don't like that me personally.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Yeah, I just don't buy it.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Yeah, it's not an option, right, I don't buy it.
It's not an option. I won't let her wear two
piece bathing suit, but she would literally wear that bathing
suit to town if I'll let her. She's very confident, so,
you know, just being positive and just trying to encourage Ella,
(27:19):
you know, because.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
School doesn't help either. The mean kids at school will
put a certain image in their.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Heads and then they think, oh, I can't wear this
or and then I feel like to like if Ella
is around friends and they're all wearing the two pieces,
like you know, she feels a certain way.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
So just something we're working on.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Yeah, it's a struggle with I feel like body image
is always going to be a struggle as adult.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
He looked a certain way.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (27:52):
Remember in high school, like I don't know, just and
kids are mean, Like these days, it's even worse than was.
Speaker 6 (27:58):
I thought it was bad when I was in high school,
and it's.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Even worse now.
Speaker 6 (28:01):
Like if you let your kid be a bully over.
Speaker 4 (28:04):
Someone else's appearance or anything like that, then.
Speaker 5 (28:06):
Shame on you.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Yeah, it's definitely problem.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
I mean some kids, some kids can't help, you know,
the way, no matter what they do.
Speaker 5 (28:15):
Yeah, it just yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
I do like the more body positive society that we're
like going into, where everybody is more accepting of Like
like I watched the Sports Illustrated yea and there was
normal women walking on that runway and I loved it,
like of all different body types, and that was so
inspiring because what fifteen years ago you would have never
(28:39):
seen that. So I do love that. And like all
the campaigns like Airy and everything, they're showing pictures of
women online dressed in clothes of all body types, not
just like the stick figure models, which is amazing. I
do love that, and I think that's good for our
daughter's growing up because we didn't have that growing up.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
You know, going into fears and exacts as a mother.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Oh, which you know, every mom has the fear of
something happening to their children or you know, something bad happening,
and things like that. I think I kind of went
through that with Charlie, like the nick you thing like you,
the fear of you don't know what's gonna happen next,
you don't know how it's gonna turn out, if she's
gonna be okay, things like that.
Speaker 5 (29:23):
I've tried. Look, I've tried medicine.
Speaker 4 (29:25):
It didn't work, which I didn't give it time to work,
because I need something that's gonna work like that. I
don't want to I don't want something to work in
three months and it's taking a pill every day. I
just can't do it, like I forget. And then especially
things like that you have to be on top of
and I can't say I just deal with it. And
like anxiety, like when we drive over a bridge, like
(29:46):
my windows are cracked because if I accidentally drive off
the bridge, I'm gonna be able to get out.
Speaker 6 (29:52):
I watched the videos of how to get out of
your car sub mergers.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Some people on TikTok they teach you how to get
out of your car last or too.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
Now you have seen them.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
I have one of those which is in my car,
so I need to put on my keyring to break
the window.
Speaker 5 (30:05):
But I done told my kids.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
My kids know how to buckle theirselves, and we're working
on unbuckling themselves because it's that's a big thing, especially
if you're getting an accident. You know your car catch
is on fire and you're hurry things like that. I mean,
that's just that's real things. I mean you see people
on the side of the road and are outside of
their car with like their babies and stuff, and I
mean it's just it's hard to deal with without, you know,
(30:28):
being medicated, which is like I said, but there's.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
I need to be medicated, and I think I'm medicated.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
I'm newly medicated and it's working.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
Yeah. I remember.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
She said it's gonna take three months. I'm like three months.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I ain't got three months. They will an edge come
off within the first two or three weeks. But I
am on almost month three, and you're feeling better, uh huh.
And Mark and Morgan noticed first before I noticed. Yeah,
they said that I'm always in a better mood.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
I'm not as I need lexuper, I need some type
of medicine. My anxiety stays through the roof.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
It does seem like for one.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
Obviously, I feel like I can speak for all mothers,
just like Kelsey said. The fear of something happening. That's
not even the worst part of it. I always fear
of something happening.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
I think that's natural, right, But like.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
Going down a highway. I don't know if it's because
I've been in like two pretty bad car accidents, but
like just if I pass a car on the road,
the worst thing is going through my head anytime I
pass a vehicle, Like if we're on the road where
it's just you know, going opposite ways, like an interstate's
not too too bad because you got like the media
in between. Obviously, accidents happen on the intertate all the
(31:50):
time going the same way. But my fear is like
somebody texting and driving and like coming into my lane
and hitting me, or being drunk and driving and coming
in my lane and hitting me. Like no exaggeration, every
vehicle I passed, like my anxiety to the roof going
over bridges. I don't know if you've ever noticed, if
y'all rode in a vehicle with me while we went
over a bridge, my finger goes on the button because
(32:10):
I'm waiting for that car. Yeah, my anxiety.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
I do have a fear of, not like the heat.
Speaker 7 (32:17):
It's not like the height I'm not afraid of. It's
just like you know, you see just falling. Yeah, but
I mean it does happen, It really does.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
Especially living in Louisiana. You there's so many bridges over.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Bodies of water on that, like Charles Bridge will fall.
That's one of the worst version I go around. Yeah,
but yeah, that's just I need to be medicated, and
I've highly considered it the past month or two to
go to the doctor.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
I just need to go to the.
Speaker 3 (32:53):
Positive.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
I'm on the lowest dose and I already feel something.
I'm thinking about increasing just to see if it makes
any other difference. But I'm on the lowest.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Somebody needs to invent an anxiety medication for moms.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
That's just like an implant or something.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Oh yeah, anxiety on a day you don't have to
remember to take every day. I feel like that's why
I'm kind of short with my kids too. Sometimes it's anxiety.
It's not like anything that they're doing necessarily. I'm just
overstimulated and I'm anxious, like twenty four to seven. Yeah,
And Eric notices it sometimes He's like, Babe, you need
to freaking chill. And Josh can't because I think because
(33:28):
there's always a million things like and.
Speaker 6 (33:30):
It's just and he's like, just don't let it bother you,
just roll it off. I'm like, it's easier said than Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
I have a lot of health anxiety. Like I worried that, yeah,
something's gonna have, something's gonna pop up with my kids
because Mason had that HSP. You know, he had an
autoimmune disease and he had like bruises all over his
entire body and it was a what he was experiencing
(33:55):
was like a symptom of leukemia.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Oh you google, didn't you know?
Speaker 1 (33:59):
But they told me they before they finished his blood test,
they gave me they.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Warned yes, Oh my gosh. So the whole entire.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Time I'm sitting in that waiting room at the hospital,
I was thinking, oh my god, he has lukemi. He
has lukem yet but thank god, it was just an
auto immune disease. But it's scary to think, so.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Does he still have it or he grew it was
a diaper.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
He grew out of.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
It took six months for it to fully go away.
But yeah, it was It was hard. But even myself
I struggled with migraines. Really bad and vertigo, and I
was like, oh my god, I have a brain toomer
I'm gonna die, Like I think my kids are gonna
grow without a mom or Yeah, And I struggle with
(34:44):
Mark coming home from work. I'm like, I pray that
he doesn't get in a car acces. That's why I
have life through sixty. Let me know, somebody gets in
a car accident. But I'm like, Mason cannot live without
his daddy. I was like, if something happens to Mark Mason.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
And then our brains go to like worst case scenario.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Mine stays in worst case scenario.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
I think like that I just leave this earth too early.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Yeah, Eric would not survive. I'm like, who's gonna take
care of my baby? Who's gonna fix their hair?
Speaker 3 (35:14):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
I know it is scary thinking about it because I'm like,
we both need each other to take care of these kids.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
I can imagine I can't do without him and he
can't do without me.
Speaker 8 (35:23):
I mean, I know that I can do it with that.
It's going to be Yeah, I want to, but I
don't know if he can. Like it was for better
or death, do us part? You're stuck like we had
to get together.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
It is scary feeling your possibility or not knowing that.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
I feel like Josh love without me.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
No, he could not just whine he's obsessed with you.
Speaker 3 (35:44):
No, no, no, Like I'm like, that's yeah, to happen
to me tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
He'd be okay, he would be fine, yea too, but
it would just yeah, yeah, like we do wrong obviously,
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
I just feel like Josh is super.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I don't know, independent, Yeah, and like if.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
He needed to get the kids fully dressed, like he cooks,
he cleans, That's what I mean. Yeah, I don't know.
He always jokes.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
He's like, I go find me a.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Younger winner or whatever.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
But I mean he would be okay, he would know, but.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
No, like obviously, like he would miss me. And there's
things that I do that he doesn't even realize. But
I think he could figure it out. Yeah, maybe we
should like disappear to.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
Another and.
Speaker 5 (36:34):
Is anxiety.
Speaker 4 (36:34):
We're sitting at the beach and Josh takes both the
girls out to the water and they're like, She's like, Josh,
come back now.
Speaker 6 (36:42):
He's like, I'm a grown man.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
That's with y'all. Last year with all the kids by
myself and I had no husband. I was just terrified
of them in the ocean. I was like Morgan and
Reggae and me. I'm like, y'all are going to together
come back, like anything could happen. I'm like, I don't
understand how it can just take That's.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
What I tell Josh, And Josh was like, I'm a
girln man, and I'm like, those are my kids. She's mine,
get back now.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
I like Ella.
Speaker 5 (37:15):
She was when I was watching other than the water.
Ella was the only one in the water.
Speaker 6 (37:18):
And she kept she would dive in the way and
she Ella come up.
Speaker 3 (37:22):
She's just like her daddy, Look like what.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
Scares me?
Speaker 3 (37:28):
I like it. For about three foot the water was pretty.
Speaker 4 (37:31):
Calm, so it wasn't like extremely Like, yeah, it was
pretty if it would have been any rougher than that, Like, yeah.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
My anxiety definitely goes to the roof at the bed,
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
So another fear, though, like, do y'all ever think like
I'm going to do something as a mom that's really
going to screw my kids up as an adult, because
I think that's.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
A fear of mine too, like.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Creating trauma in my children because I have trauma from
my parents, right, most of us do. I'm like, I
don't want to do anything that screws them up for.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
The rest of their life. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
I always tell my kids and because we all can
do better, But I feel like, you want your kids
to be better parents than their parents. Like, I know
that my kids could probably say something that they don't
like about me, and they might do something different when
their parents, which is okay, because we're not all perfect.
Speaker 5 (38:23):
And you know, everybody has an opinion.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, it's going to be different.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
There's gonna be something that your kids don't like about
their parents, I guess. I mean I feel like everybody
can say that.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Yeah, yeah, definitely, you know always Okay. Last question to
wrap up this episode, how do you deal with your
mental health?
Speaker 2 (38:43):
We kind of just.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
That was just lexaprose.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
Yeah you really do.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
I have that because theft was not hidden and I
took so loft before the lexapro and it made me
gain a lot of weight. They said that was the
main complaint about Zoe waking, and with lexapro it was
like a very very small percentage. So that's why I
went that route.
Speaker 2 (39:07):
And yeah, I feel like most intended pressions are like
that waiting is like one of the big side effects.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
And so far, I mean, I wait less than having
a long time.
Speaker 5 (39:14):
So yeah, so it.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
Has good for it hasn't bothered.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
Yeah, and I think my biggest thing too, well, several reasons,
but one of them. I've just heard a lot of
stories like it'll make you like just zone.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Out, and I don't want to be that much, I know,
but it does not mean and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
Yeah. Like I had a one of my cousins after
she had her baby or whatever she got on I
don't remember if it was Zola for lexapro, it was
one of them, and they were sitting at a table
out at a restaurant eating dinner and she was on
the medication. Obviously she was so zoned out her baby
(39:55):
was choking and she didn't even realize.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Oh no, that's that's what she was.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
No, that's over medicated.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Yeah, but like just not even her story, just others
they're like, it'll make you like a zombie. So that's
part of the reason I never got on it.
Speaker 2 (40:08):
Maybe if you're on the wrong medicine, Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
I didn't. That's like I said, how Mark and Morgan
noticed the difference before I did, Like I didn't feel medical.
Speaker 5 (40:18):
Person.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
My sister has been on antide depressants for years and
she said it totally changed your life.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Like I think there's a difference though. I feel like
if you know, you lost a loved one and you
needing like a more of a anti depressant because but
versus like anxiety. I know they're fall into the same category,
but I feel like there's different medicine that's gonna like
fix the depression. Like I don't feel like I'm controlling depression, but.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
And for multiple things. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
I feel like maybe something like that would zone you
out if.
Speaker 5 (40:53):
You are too too high of a dose as well.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
Yeah, so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Maybe I'll try one out. Maybe we'll see. Okay, Well
that wraps up Episode one.
Speaker 6 (41:07):
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Speaker 3 (41:10):
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