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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey folks, this is
your host, patrick, the green
chubby alien, you know, the onewith brain trauma.
This is where we confront theups and downs of life.
It's like therapy, without allthose silly licenses and
certifications.
Well, guys, I thought we'd dosomething a bit different today
and not follow the script asmuch.
I wanted to tell you about ourday trip that wife and I took
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the other day in Orlando.
I don't get out that muchanymore because of the mobility
problems since the accident withthe head problems and the neck
and the leg I don't get to domuch.
But we were able to go intoOrlando and do a bit of a day
trip on iDrive to the Titanicexhibit.
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It was worth the time.
For us it was $24.
It took about two hours to seeeverything.
I believe they said theybrought up about 300 pieces from
the ocean floor.
I'll be posting pictures on myFacebook page.
I don't want to post all ofthem because I don't want.
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I mean, I want to make it worthyour visit if you're able to
make it over there.
So once again, if you're in thearea, I do encourage you to get
over there.
I know you're probablywondering what I'm trying to get
at.
It's a couple things.
When you go there you're goingto hear a few stories about
bravery and heroism that werenot mentioned in that big movie
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or any of the documentaries Someof them were.
One of them is worth retellingbecause it's true that one about
the orchestra playing until theship went down is true, they
did play, unfortunately, youknow, until the ship went down
is true, they did play,unfortunately, you know, until
the ship went down.
Little did you know they werenot employed by White Star Line,
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but they were employed by thepassengers of the second tier,
the passengers of second class.
And on display is a clarinet,some sheet music and a little
leather pouch with six reedsthat were found at the bottom of
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the ocean.
I don't know if you know howsmall a reed is, but it's not
much bigger than a toothpick andthey found six of them at the
bottom of the ocean.
Simply amazing.
This and so many other smallartifacts are on display there.
I really believe you're goingto enjoy seeing this and some of
the stories that are told andthe pictures and stuff.
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You're really going to enjoy.
I believe it's going to beworth you visiting.
Again.
I don't get paid for tellingyou this, but I hope you enjoy
it.
Today I've decided to touch onheroism, hero worship, putting
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people up on pedestals and therepercussions of that behavior.
But before I do that, I'd kindof like to share a little bit
about me as a small boy and myhero.
It's probably going to soundcrazy to you, knowing what you
know about me so far, but theonly hero I ever had as a boy
was my dad.
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I idolized that guy.
I used to try and comb my hairlike him.
I used to try and dress likehim.
I only listened to the musicthat he listened to, which, by
the way, was either Elvis ortruck drive music.
And yes, of course my dad wasabusive.
Of course my dad was abusive.
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We've gone over that.
But my dad had some kind ofmagical power about him.
This guy could really end like alargemouth bass.
He had a smile and he hadcharisma.
I mean, it was like Jim Jones.
This guy had a charisma abouthim.
He had to.
He was married eight times.
That I knew about.
He had something about him.
Jovi is what people called himJovi Thomas.
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He was a long-distance truckdriver.
He had jet black hair, slickback.
He wore dress clothes when hedrove truck.
I could never figure that outwhen I was a kid until I got
older and then I realized he hadother families on the road.
Well, that's just a littletaste of the fugitive for now.
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Fugitive, that was a CB handleand from now on that's what
he'll be called on this podcast.
Heroes what makes a hero?
What would you consider to be ahero?
I find that to be a goodquestion.
I mean, what was the hero youhad as a child?
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What's the hero you have now?
Has it changed over time?
That's a question I've askedmyself so many times.
I've spent quite a bit of timeresearching this before this
podcast and during this podcast.
I wanted this podcast to bespecial because it's on my
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birthday and this subject matterhas been near and dear to me,
because it's changed so manytimes over the years to me.
My opinion has changed so manytimes.
Uh well, let's just put it inperspective.
10 years ago, I was such anangry person, I was so bitter at
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the world, mainly because of mydaughter's health situation, I
guess.
Uh, that word hero it gets usedway too often.
I feel this to me, that wordhero, in my eyes it's like a
platinum edition word.
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It should be wrapped incellophane, put in a box and
only pulled out on super rareoccasions.
And only pulled out on superrare occasions.
In my mind it's like a visitorfrom another planet should be
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pulling it out.
But that's me, you know, that'smy opinion.
This word should be reservedfor people like those who
managed to walk out of thosehorrible death camps run by
Nazis in World War II, or maybea woman who was soaked in
gasoline, set on fire, thenmanaged to stay alive for months
to testify against herboyfriend, who could not do, you
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know.
So this person couldn't do itto anybody else again.
That's a hero, not a guy takingsteroids and breaking baseball
records.
You know that's not a hero.
Certainly not John Wayne whodon't get me wrong, I enjoyed
the guy's movies, loved hismovies.
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But this man didn't serve oneday in the military movies.
But this man didn't serve oneday in the military.
Heroes to me are guys likeAudie Murphy, most decorated
soldier in World War II, youknow, battlefield commissions.
Guys like Ted Williams, wholeft a stoic baseball career to
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fight in World War II and thencome back to his career to fight
in World War II and then comeback to his career.
Men like Jimmy Stewart, greatactors who went on to military
careers and then back to hisacting career, lee Marvin, who
was there at D-Day, charlesBronson, who flew over Europe.
It goes on and on.
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Those were heroes.
We got to be careful about idolworship.
We need to be careful, you know, who we idolize.
Certainly about religiousleaders we have to be careful
about.
You know, sooner or laterthey'll let us down.
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You know why.
They're human.
That's why, looking back at mychildhood now, I think I'm
guilty of looking throughrose-colored glasses, just like
the song says.
I never thought too much aboutmy mom and her role.
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If anything, I stayed mad at mymom after my dad left.
I probably blamed her for himleaving.
I know that's pretty stupid ofme now, but that was my world
back then.
My dad left us.
He came in and out of our lifeperiodically, dropping $20 or
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$30 on a little kid, and thatwould pretty much make us forget
about what mom was doing on adaily basis for us.
You know, pretty stupid.
All we do is think about.
You know, dad, this was the 70s.
Mom was raising four boys onher own.
You know dad would show up onceor twice a year, drop 20 or 30
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bucks and we'd get that gleam inour eye and that was all it
took.
A lot of times we were on ourown because she worked multiple
jobs.
Things were rough.
I hated it, I, I hated her, andit's fair to say now that
feeling probably stayed in mybelly for years.
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Even though I had arelationship with my mom, it
wasn't much of a relationship.
It certainly wasn't nurturing.
Years later, after raising twokids of my own, one of them
being very ill, my mother and Ibecame closer, I can say,
especially once we moved backfrom Florida, from New Hampshire
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.
We shared this odd, strangesense of humor.
Heck, my brothers do as well.
My older brother, andy God resthis soul was the strangest of
humor.
Heck, my brothers do as well.
My older brother, andy God resthis soul was the strangest of
all.
But Jack and I and Richie and I, we all have the same twisted
sense of humor.
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Mom has passed on now and Iwould have never imagined it.
It was going to hurt this badand last this long, but it does
and I imagine it's going tocontinue.
I guess, looking at it now, allmy heroes have always been the
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women of my life my daughter forthe way she carries herself
through her battle with cysticfibrosis and cancer.
My buddy, my sister in NewHampshire.
The giver that's all I have tosay about this woman.
My wife, who somehow managesall my and my daughter's worlds
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the rock.
My mother-in-law Babs Somehowmanages all my and my daughter's
worlds the Rock.
My mother-in-law Babs whoironed out all the dents and
made me a man.
And, of course, my mother.
I'm still crazy.
I love you, ma.
You know, on Facebook you getthese little reminders past
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memories.
Well, I have one pop-up fromMay 24th of 2016 I'd like to
share with you.
I'm so thankful for beingraised by parents who taught us
the value and importance ofeverything us the value and
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importance of everything.
I'm so thankful for beingraised by parents who taught us
the value.
I'm repeating myself, Iapologize.
Today, I went out to my humblelittle garden and I picked some
beautiful red tomatoes.
I'll make a nice tomato andmayonnaise sandwich Plus.
I cut up some collard greensand I tossed them in a pot with
some leftover ham and somechicken stock.
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When this is done, I shallfeast like a king and possibly
even shed a tear, rememberingour gardens from when we were
much younger and had to do itCollard greens and cornbread in
a cast iron skillet and a dab ortwo of hot sauce, and the world
is right again.
I don't think anything could bemore true than that statement.
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Today, I can guarantee you thismy next move, I'll have a field
out back and the first thingI'll do once I'm settled is till
up some land and plant a gardenand it'll be mama's garden and
plant a garden, and it'll beMama's garden.
Now, moving on to dealing withsome baggage, I had a
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conversation this week withBrother Goose.
It was a good conversation.
We try to touch base as oftenas we can.
We actually had a conversationjust a few minutes ago.
He was wishing me a happybirthday.
We go out to dinner about oncea month.
The last conversation we had wewere discussing the podcast,
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how it was going.
We try not to get too personal.
We agree we both takeresponsibility for the men.
We are now Not my mom or dadthat take for the men.
We are now Not my mom or ourdad that take control of who we
are now.
And of course, we havecharacter traits and still have
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monsters under the bed.
But we talk about it and dealwith it and our.
You know the monsters that arein our past.
He's three and a half yearsyounger than me and he sees
things a little bit differentthan me and we love and support
each other, just like my olderbrother.
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We all agree on that.
We all miss our older brother,andy, who's gone way too soon
and Lord knows, he had his ownmonsters that he had to deal
with.
I have good days.
I have bad days.
Lucky for me, the good days aremore often now.
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Psychologically, I know I'm nothealed, probably never will be.
I suffer from a chemicalimbalance and my accident made
that situation much worse.
But I'm getting there.
I'd love to know who yourheroes are people.
Please share your stories withme.
I'd also love to know whatworks for you.
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What calms a savage beast,helps you find your middle
ground?
In news closer to home, thisalien will be transported again
to Area 51 soon.
They're going to be removingsome of the hardware they put in
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this alien last year andthey'll be pulling the muscles
together that they apparentlytorn away from the metal
structure in my neck.
It sounds like a good time anda possible podcast from the
facility if it works out right.
This is all tentative,scheduled for the end of June,
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but I'll keep you updated onsocial media.
This episode has been structuredor should I say deliberately
unstructured as a bit of anexperiment.
I'm trying to loosen things upa little bit, not necessarily
always have things exactly thesame way.
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I would like to leave you witha few alien jokes, if you don't
mind.
What did the alien say to thegarden?
Well, of course, take me toyour weeder.
The aliens say to the gardenWell, of course, take me to your
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weeder.
What Jedi can you eat?
Well, of course it's Obi-WanKenobi.
I know they're terrible, butyou know you got to start
somewhere.
I want to tell you, folks, thatthis was my birthday podcast.
Yes, it's different from others.
I don't know if you enjoyed itor not.
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I just wanted to change thestructure up.
I did start a new group onFacebook, friends of a Fractured
with Patrick the Alien.
Feel free to join that group.
There'll be polls on there.
You can let me know if you likethe way it's going.
You can let me know if youdon't.
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I'm going to try and make thisthing work the best I can.
Once I hit 500 downloads, I'mgoing to start giving things
away.
I think we're almost at 200right now, so the faster we get
there, the faster I start givingstuff away.
I have a lot of stuff coming in.
I've got hats, I've got aliens,I've got patches, I've got cups
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, tumblers, little green aliens.
I've got all kinds of stuff togive away away and I'm dying to
give it to you.
So let's work on this stufftogether.
Uh, you can reach me at uh linktree l-i-n-k-t-r.
Slash patrick daly.
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Slash Patrick Daly.
You know all the media spots,so let's stay in contact,
download and share, let me knowwhat you think and, like always,
folks, be good to one anotherTill next time.
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This is Patrick A Lynn Bye.