November 5, 2023 • 33 mins
Ever wondered how it feels to navigate the tumultuous journey of menopause or grapple with the complexity of gender identity? Buckle up as my co-host and I take a deep, personal dive into these seemingly nebulous concepts. We're peeling back the layers of menopause, sharing our intimate experiences, and discussing coping strategies. The hot flashes, the foggy brain, the hormone imbalances - we're talking about it all.
Transitioning to gender identity, we explore our moments of self-realization and the differences we encountered living in various places. Fashion, a judgment-free environment, and how tiny actions can make a world of difference - it's all on the table. We're not just sharing our stories; we're offering you a seat at the table, an opportunity to learn from our journey, and a chance to contribute to the discourse.
Finally, hang on as we journey across states reminiscing about our experiences and how they've shaped us. From the hospitality of Georgia to the bustle of New York, every encounter has left an indelible mark and a story to tell. We delve into power dynamics, monetary influences, and our collective dream for a future steeped in love, peace, and happiness. Life is a wild rollercoaster, and it's alright to stumble. But remember, a breakthrough is often just around the corner. So, join us, let's ride this rollercoaster together, spreading positivity and love one episode at a time.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, have a sound.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You're better, it's fine.
Welcome to free conceptseveryone.
We are goofing off right now,so, and that's okay, it's always
good to laugh, because laughteris good for the soul.
I am your host, shaniqua.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
And I am the hello everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I should introduce my co host huh.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Okay, this is a goof off session.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Yeah, this is a goof off session, I guess, listen.
So I'm going to pray because Ineed it, lord knows.
I need it right now and I'mtelling you, the enemy will try
to attack you and attack you andget you off your game and
distract you.
And I'm telling you, he beenwearing me out ever since this
podcast started.
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The enemy has really beenfighting me, but I won't give up
.
Still, I rise Right.
Who said that?
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Amen, amen, my Angelo .
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Yes, okay, we're going to start off with prayer,
father God, in the name of Jesus, god, we come to you, lord, and
we say thank you, god.
Thank you, god, for all thatyou've done and all that you're
about to do, lord, and I'm alsograteful, father God, for this
podcast to be able to have aplatform to share more of you
and to heal and get ourbreakthrough.
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God.
We thank you, god, foreverything.
There's nothing that we takefor granted.
We love you, we adore you.
We lift you up with the highestpraise, thanking you for your
grace and your mercy and yourforgiveness, always and forever.
In Jesus name, we pray Amen,amen.
So how are you?
Let me ask you a question,because I know a lot of our
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audience has been asking.
You know you're kind ofmysterious.
I share my introduction, so Iwould like to ask how old are
you?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That's funny, I am 45 .
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, are you experiencing any type of
menopause or change of life?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Yes, I am.
Menopause is a mother.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So, okay, well, for me, I'm 49.
And I've been going through thechange of life as well.
I like to say it that way.
Menopause is just, I like tosay, the change of life.
The hot flashes are reallykicking my butt, more than
anything, because I feel likeI'm an oven at 450 degrees.
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Just all of a sudden, the waterthat you know sweat starts just
kind of pouring off my face andI look crazy out here in these
streets and it's like every hour.
I heard there was somethingthat you could take and I forgot
what it is.
I think it's called blackcohosh.
But the only thing about that,they have those little plastic
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containers, you know the pills,and that's not good for my
stomach.
So, and then you have a wholelot of ailments as well besides
menopause, the menopause.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Really, he's just going all the way left.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Menopause yeah, they pause because of that menopause,
they go this is crazy.
Exactly.
They see it from a mile away.
They see the sweat, like wait aminute, because it's hot in
here.
She's going through the changeof life.
Lord, have mercy, I don't know,because my moves they're up and
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down and all around and I'mjust.
I don't know what to do withmyself Because everything is.
You know, this is.
It's unbalanced.
What about you?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
It's chemically unbalanced.
That's what it is.
Your hormones is decreasing andrage is increasing.
That's why it's good that youhave an outlet to let it all out
.
Yes, talk about it, speak aboutit, because all different kinds
of some people, you know, lose,you know train that thought or
they might get that's me too, Iswear I'm going through dementia
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.
Like you forget things.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
It's not just dementia, this is menopause, I
promise you.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
I promise you it feels like to mention.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
No, I'm telling you when I say I got out the shower,
got dressed, put my clothes on,was ready to get ready to go
out, had to go back in thebathroom for something.
I'm texting and I'm forgetting,so I take my clothes back all,
get ready to get back in theshower.
And this is only like maybe 20minutes later, and the only
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reason I didn't get all the wayback in the shower I turned the
water on and everything isbecause I touched the mat.
The mat was wet and I was likewait a minute.
She's not here anymore, she's incollege.
So Wait a minute.
Did I take a shower, like do Ileave my-?
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Should I talk?
What, what, oh Lord?
And then I was just like whatis going on with my mind.
I don't know if we smoke toomuch back in the day, you know,
or if it is the menopause, or ifit's from COVID, because they
said you would have foggy Iguess foggy brain, whatever fog
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brain that too.
See, exactly, I can't.
Yeah, it could be.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It could be, all together, it could be a
combination Wester things youknow.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, Okay.
Well, let me ask you this whereare you from?
I know where you're from.
The audience wants to know.
I'm from.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'm from everywhere.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You can only be from one place.
No.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I'm from a military grad, so I'm from everywhere.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Where were you born?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I'm.
The longest place I lived is inCali.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Where were you born?
Speaker 1 (06:25):
I was born in the wild, wild west.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I can't, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Where were you born?
No, I'm look, I was talking, Iwas asking you Jamaica Queens,
new York.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yes, yes, yes, new York.
Of course, ll Cool J Maudu, 56,you know Queens, but I've lived
in 10 different states, I thinkhow many did you live in?
Because you've lived overseastoo.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, I lived everywhere.
I've been around the world.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
No, yeah, yeah yeah.
I can't find my.
Okay, stop.
Okay, we can't be clowning toomuch because I don't know if
they're continuing to listen ornot.
But listen, yeah, out of allthe place it is after, okay,
after you've lived in all thosedifferent places, which one did
you like the best?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
I love Cali the best because everybody's just was at
that time and I was standingthere, everybody was just chill.
It was no, you know, no trip,no, you know prejudice, none of
that.
Just chill, just live, laugh,love, let everybody else live,
let everybody breathe, you knowBe themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was no judgment, you know.
Yeah, I can see that.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Like in my community, the LBG CTRF.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
It's all you know, wait a minute, hold on, it's
LGBTQ.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Plus.
We'll just say plus Okay,they've added a lot of more
alphabets to it, so I can't.
I can't either Shout out to allmy community.
Yeah.
So I didn't have no problemwith that, and and but.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
when I lived in other states, then you know, you
would judge more.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah On the, on the.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
South South is special.
Well, you know, that's likeusually, ignorance, you know
it's.
And I'm not saying the South isignorant, ignorant, is just not
knowing.
All right, but, yeah, I had, Ihad, yeah, my, my, my disclosure
, my disclaimer is it disclosure, disclaimer?
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See, it's the ball.
I'm telling you, it's the brainfog, it's the cement of all.
Okay, it's that one.
So we don't offend anyonebecause we love everyone, and
that's really the God honesttruth we love everyone.
Yeah, we ain't here to judge,but listen.
So when did you know that youwere different?
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When did you know?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I was different Like.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I was a student.
Not a student.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Listen, listen I know that I was a lesbian.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
In the second grade I had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
I had a girlfriend in the second grade.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
This is interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Okay, please go on, do tell, do tell.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
No, seriously, I did.
I had a girlfriend in secondgrade.
That's how far back I couldremember when I knew I liked
girls.
There was nothing there fordudes, just homies.
It was like homies Okay.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Yeah.
Okay, so basically my wholelife is.
You know, the whole life iswhat.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah.
No I was saying basically mywhole life, Like I've been this
way, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I feel like I was born this way.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
That's how I feel, you know, because since second
grade you know yeah, first firstgrade, you know that's pretty
early on I remember back, butyes, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I remember back in the day, you know, I was so
strange about myself.
Is that maybe I might have beenby back in the day Only because
?
No, because this is the thing Inever looked at anyone sexually
, you know, but I just I don'tknow if it's just loving.
You know people's stylesbecause I used to look at the
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ladies in the church.
I know this.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
That's sitting out loud.
Oh Lord.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
That's not what I meant, Listen listen, I know
what you meant Okay, but theladies in the church, you know
they would be dressed up intheir nice dress suits and you
know they would have the nicehat on matching.
You know they might have on awhole turquoise outfit with the
hat with a little pink featherand the stockings, and they
would even glitter a little bit,you know.
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And nice.
Yeah, you know, beautiful womensmell good and men.
You know, when I'm in I didn'tlook at men, boys.
It's really weird.
I don't look at the women but Idon't look at the boys.
I mean men, I look at boys andI liked boys also.
I was boy crazy back in the day, so it just had to add that I
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was just like, oh he, cute.
You know, or actually you knowwhat a lot of them weren't cute.
I just liked.
I found some that I liked aboutthem and I just went with it you
know, like if they had nicenice smile disclaimer, thank you
or a nice eyes, thick eyelashessometimes, or eyebrows or I
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don't know, built, maybe itdepends.
I guess what day it was, Iguess it depended.
But if you like me, I liked youtoo.
Like I didn't have boundaries,I didn't know to not.
Just they would say will you bemy girlfriend?
Check yes or no.
And I was just flattered to getit.
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So I'm like oh, you know, isn'tthat sweet?
And I check yes with sucker.
Sucker, yeah, it'll last a weekmaybe, or something, cause I had
a little boyfriend that I gotin trouble with and that was
because he would give me money.
He gave me a dollar for lunchand I brought it back to home
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and I think I had a little beartoo.
It gave me and my grandma waslike, where'd you get that
dollar from?
And I was like a friend atschool and then somebody said I
don't know if it was Fay orwhoever it was like her
boyfriend, and I was like huh,huh, huh, I don't have a
boyfriend.
She was like no man wantsanything.
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What?
Anything for free or something,I don't know.
He's gonna want something,basically, and I'm like we don't
need a full grade, like a fullI think it was full grade.
I'm like what can?
he want grandma, exactly Likeit's for my lunch, you know, to
get an ice cream if I like, youknow.
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But she wasn't having it.
She told me to give him hisdollar back when I go back to
school the next day and shecalled the school, told the
principal that this little boywas giving me money.
Like you would have thought,that dollar was like $10,000.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I can't get no ice cream,grandma.
Like gosh, you know, she wantme to sell them.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
She's latched them out, huh.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, and then the principal called him in the
office and gave him a spanking.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Oh no.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
With the paddle.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
He was in that era where y'all got spanked.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I think that missed my mind.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
He got a paddle.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I don't remember recall From giving me a dollar.
I was in the office.
We grew up in the era ofstitches.
I mean snitches, get stitches.
So nowadays, nowadays, peoplesnitching on everybody.
I'm like where's your integrity, Where's the loyalty, Where's
the you know?
Like they just snitching,Telling lies.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
This is the society that we in.
It's all about self selfpreservation and selling,
selling.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
It's all about the money.
You know they don't tellanything for a book.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Right.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I ain't selling my soul to the.
I ain't doing that.
I ain't got me either.
But anyway, going back to thedating rooms and school, Loose
lip-shaking ships.
Oh, definitely, but I feel likeI don't know.
I had a lot of boyfriendsgrowing up.
They only lasted for a few days.
A week, a few weeks, how?
Speaker 1 (15:25):
many did you have?
They had no more.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Did you have?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
I didn't have no boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
I mean girlfriends.
You already made that clear, soI don't know I had a couple.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
but not like that, I'm not like, like, like you.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Because you know what , back in the day, though it
probably, you probably didn'twant to have one publicly
because of the judgments.
You think like maybe say fifth,say if you, you know, say sixth
grade.
You just not like you, were youwalking around with a girl
holding hands.
I don't think you could do thatback in the day.
I mean you could, but I mean Idid I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
everybody knew I was a lesbian.
They knew I was gay and itwasn't you know, nobody never
said nothing to my face.
But my friends would come andtell me oh, somebody said you
were sick and so and so said youcouldn't help them and all this
stuff.
But nobody never came to myface because I was the person
that beat up the bullies.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
So they were scared to say it to my face.
You would have beat them up.
Yeah, but I didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Once after, like elementary, I really didn't have
no date, nobody.
And then when I was, what aboutprom In junior high?
I mean in high school, injunior high I was I dated older
women.
They weren't in school, no more.
I liked older women.
I didn't date with people myage.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
You were women, you were a high school and you dated
older women.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
In junior high I started dating older women.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Like okay, so you were in junior high school a
junior Eight ninth grade.
Eight, ninth grade yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no.
9th grade is high school, no7th and 8th.
7th and 8th 7th, and that'smiddle school.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
One of the school I went to was 7th and it by itself
.
And then, yeah, 8th and 9thgrade and then when I went to
the 10th because I was inFlorida, then Wait, no, hold,
don't keep talking, Wait back up.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
You said on 8th grade .
You said 8th grade is middleschool, 7th, yeah that's what I
said In middle school.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
in 8th grade I was dating an older woman.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
How much older, if you don't mind me asking.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Well, she was like 20 .
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Wait a minute, jesus.
Okay.
So 7th, 8th grade is like whatage?
That's like 12, right?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
13 and 12, yeah 11, 12, 13.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Yeah, cause I was 13 and the 9th.
Okay, so 12,.
You were 12 in 8th grade andyou were talking to a 20 year
old.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah, I like older women.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Okay, now that I'm older, I know that didn't sit
well right, but then yeah,that's kind of like yeah, but no
, you know what?
And there's no judgments here,cause let me tell you I did the
same thing.
I did not that old thoughthat's old, that's too old.
Mine was a little more like 16dating someone.
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No, cause, little, I ain'tgonna mention the name.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Okay, let me Please don't say nobody's name.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
They don't wanna get nobody to discover.
He was a dancer of a rapper andhe later came out with, you
know, his own album or song.
But he was Now think about it Ithink I was like 14 or 15 maybe
in New York and he was had tobe like 20.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
So you're exactly.
It's the same difference.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
No, no, no, it's not because yours was like 1112.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
No, I was 1213.
I was getting ready to go inthe ninth grade.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
I was 15 now, that's a big difference.
It's like I'm almost wrong.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
No, no, no, you weren't.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Okay, okay, moving right along yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Right, that was just yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay, so name at least three of the states that
you actually lived in and thatyou remember Well.
Besides and that's not a state,but I'm just saying I think
it's good to know that you livedin Germany.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Yeah, Germany.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Yes, you will round it yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
And Cali Vegas.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
Those are a few.
So you did mostly West Coastbasically.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
What'd you say?
I lived in Chicago for a littlebit.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
And Georgia, unfortunately for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Okay, we are not.
We might have some Georgialisteners.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
I'm just playing, as this is not my type of height,
but no.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
I don't like Georgia either when I first moved here,
so I think this is just from myexperience and my perception A
lot of people seem like theywere just I want to say fake
that's not the word I want touse but kind of like you know
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how you'll befriend people, justso that you can get ahead and
you know.
It's more like they only wantto be around.
People that they know this lookkind of like doing something in
a sense, and some of them eventell tales about doing stuff as
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far as like production or theyare in theater or you know they
have their own businesses andthings like that Superficial.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
There it is.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Yeah, that's the word , and it's and I'm not saying
that's like the George, theGeorgia, the people that are
basically raised here in Georgiaor, you know, were born here.
I think it's maybe a lot ofpeople from other states that
have migrated here in Georgia.
Yeah, that might be it, butwhat was your thoughts when you
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first moved to Georgia?
Oh, you know why didn't you?
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I just didn't like it .
I just didn't like it.
A lot of people in and likegoing to the restaurant.
They would be rude.
Oh yeah, Like the service.
Yeah, so uh, yeah, I just had alot of bad experiences there,
but I did have a good experiencethere.
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I should say I did.
Yeah change my life.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I met my you better go.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Hey girl, oh my gosh my wife ex-wife there.
Oh, wow, do tell.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
No, no, don't tell yeah, we're gonna Okay, so it
was a good experience and it wasa bad.
Yeah, I had some good.
You know it's not all bad, itwas just not my cup of tea.
I love the West best.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
I think, because you had something else to compare it
to and for me, because I'velived in, you know, eight, nine
other states, that I hadsomething to compare it to as
well.
And I really enjoyed living inBaltimore, maryland, because I
moved from Baltimore to Atlantaand I experienced the same thing
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.
People were really rude.
That's kind of why I got awayfrom New York, you know, because
a lot of people were rude, theydidn't really speak and I had
moved to North Carolina when Iwas younger, so I really enjoyed
their hospitality and they justmade you feel like family.
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You know, they were very downto earth and I enjoyed those
experiences there.
And I'm growing up there inNorth Carolina because I moved
there from New York when I wasfive and then my grandmother and
I went home every summer andChristmas to New York and so it
was basically just to have me inschool there so I could gain,
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you know, values, morals,respect those type of things and
but so what were your threefavorite?
Speaker 1 (23:37):
so Baltimore was on.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Yes, definitely.
I was always very successful inBaltimore with apartments or
homes and jobs, employment.
But I would say, besidesBaltimore, north Carolina, that
feels more like home to me, Ithink, than anywhere else.
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I think that's where I go toget my peace of mind when I'm
going through it.
And then our family, you know,like their graves are there.
I'm the ones that have passedaway, so I'll go to the grave
site and I'll sit and talk to mygrandmother, excuse me.
So I think that that's one ofthem.
And let me see, I reallyenjoyed Florida as well.
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It was small.
I didn't like their ways, youknow, so to speak, it was more
white than blacks and it wasn'tenough diversity for me.
I think that's the only thing Ididn't like, but the weather.
We met some really cool people,decent experiences.
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But I don't know if I wouldchoose that one as my next one,
though, like I don't know, Ithink it's really North Carolina
and Baltimore.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
So just two out of the ten.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Yeah, I really think so.
I hate to say that, um, atlanta, I mean it's, it's good because
they have some really nicepeople here as well.
But I think a lot of people areon edge and they're mad and
upset and angry about a lot ofthings that has been going on
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and which is understandable.
The world has changed so muchin the last five years, I would
say, you know, maybe more so alot of people on edge and
they're getting snappy and I'mtrying to hold my composure and
not let the bees come out, don'tpoke the bees out of
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hibernation.
Don't poke the bees out ofhibernation because people don't
understand that I am healing.
I am not healed because youknow, I mean it takes time and I
might just, you know, revertback and I don't want to do that
.
So I treat people with respectand I expect to be treated.
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You know the same.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
But that should be a given.
You know people should you knowbe respectful of others, and I
think that's what's added on toall this war and craziness in
the world.
It's like people don't respectother people.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
No it's about power and money, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
And in the root of all the ball yes.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
It's about power, money.
They don't care about people.
People there's.
There's not a love for peopleanymore, and unity and peace.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
It's just so much.
Destruction.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
It's like the world is headed for self destruction.
You know like that.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
You know it's sad, you know.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
It's sad that we can Walk over someone that's
homeless, you know, and act likethey don't exist.
It's sad when we just cannotcommunicate and Agree to
disagree.
You know it shouldn't be anyhate, it shouldn't be any racism
.
You know we're all different.
(27:19):
Every individual is different.
You can't even put people in agroup and say all white people
do this, so all black people arelike this.
Or all Gays, you know, are likethis, you know, or whatever.
You can't put people in a box.
Everyone is different.
We're all men and all women arelike.
You know.
We can't keep putting people ona box, you know.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because God made us all
different back to the to thehandprint.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
We all have different , but at the same time we're all
connected.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
So if one person hurts somebody like we said
before having a bad day, andthen that person goes and does
it to someone else, it's adomino effect and we're all
connected.
So if we spread love and joyand more peace and happiness,
then it can be, you know,abundance of the world of love,
peace and happiness, instead ofthat anger and raw.
You know what I mean and justyou know.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yes, a lot going on right now, everything since
since COVID-2 and All of theinjustice has been going on.
But with COVID, when it came, Ithink people really had to
start living with people thatthey didn't they didn't want to
live with like oh yeah, that's abig topic right there, that's.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
To talk about that's a whole nother Destroyed a lot
of marriages.
That wasn't Because you knowpeople were working, and when
you start working in the housetogether, who?
Who is this person like?
Speaker 2 (28:48):
So, you're with them then 24 hours a day, literally,
you know, and then it and thenit made some.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
At the same time it made some marriages better
because people to get timetogether and they missed each
other.
So when they got to spend thattime and even thought about,
because a lot of people wereafraid they were gonna die, so
it made them, you know, love ontheir loved ones more, you know.
So at the same time is kind ofa catch, and you know, it's like
kind of in that, yeah, catch 22in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
But that's a good topic.
We need to.
We need to definitely discussthat because I think you know it
changed our lives and it scareda lot of people and it put
people in positions that theydidn't want to be in as far as
jobs and so forth to.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
And it also blessed a lot of people to be
entrepreneurs and work for that.
Oh yeah definitely that's.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
I believe the guy really had us sit down for
reasons, so that we could gowithin and find out what our
gifts and passions were, and totap into that and taking some so
here, I'm self-care, yes, but alot of people, of course,
didn't Do that.
They want to still be aroundothers, and you know, because
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they can be by themselves.
And that goes back to you know,a lot of people when you, they
don't love themselves, theydon't want to be with themselves
.
You know they always want tohave people around all the time,
and so you know, we definitelythat's a good topic to discuss,
but this was our random thoughts, random thoughts.
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Yes, podcast.
So if you have any questions orif you want to write in and
tell your story or yourtestimonies, please email us at
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I am your host again, shaniqua,and our co-host is Dean.
(30:42):
Is anything you would like toend with before we leave
Everybody's for listening.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
We appreciate it and just stay best.
Be blessed and spread love andnot hate.
Be best.
I Said be blessed.
Okay, I may have slipped up mybad.
Thank you for the correction.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
You're more than welcome.
But yeah, I, um, yeah, I wantto thank everyone too.
It's been really fun.
I'm enjoying the ride andsharing our stories and we're
gonna get deeper into ourstories and our lives.
So definitely continue tolisten and it's not just telling
about ourselves, but for youguys to be able to relate and
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see a lot of our stories, kindof you know, to change the what,
the narrative of their livessometimes.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Absolutely just a helping uplift, you know.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
I think when we share our story, we went through
stuff it may help somebodythat's going through it right
now you know like when we shareour stories.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
They may be going through what we've been through.
Exactly for help, so that's allwe want?
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, and just let you know that you're not alone.
We all go through stuff.
We all make mistakes, and it'sokay to make mistakes because
that's how we learn.
We have to learn these lessonsin life and they're gonna be
many more tests to come, but youcan do it.
You know, if we can do it, youcan do it, and we've been going
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through this.
What for years, dubs the downs,you know just life's journey,
the roller coaster of life.
So Thank you again so much.
Hang in there, know that yourbreakthrough is right around the
corner, but just Submitsurrender to the process and
(32:40):
know that you'll come out on theother side.
So put some smiles on your face, be kind to someone and Love
yourself.
Give yourself a hug.
You deserve it.
Okay, you got anything else?
What are we doing?
Are you done?
Hello, are you done?
(33:00):
Okay, blessings have a blast oney'all bye.
All right, have a sound.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You're better, it's fine.
Welcome to free conceptseveryone.
We are goofing off right now,so, and that's okay, it's always
good to laugh, because laughteris good for the soul.
I am your host, shaniqua.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
And I am the hello everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I should introduce my co host huh.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Okay, this is a goof off session.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Yeah, this is a goof off session, I guess, listen.
So I'm going to pray because Ineed it, lord knows.
I need it right now and I'mtelling you, the enemy will try
to attack you and attack you andget you off your game and
distract you.
And I'm telling you, he beenwearing me out ever since this
podcast started.
(00:50):
The enemy has really beenfighting me, but I won't give up
.
Still, I rise Right.
Who said that?
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Amen, amen, my Angelo .
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Yes, okay, we're going to start off with prayer,
father God, in the name of Jesus, god, we come to you, lord, and
we say thank you, god.
Thank you, god, for all thatyou've done and all that you're
about to do, lord, and I'm alsograteful, father God, for this
podcast to be able to have aplatform to share more of you
and to heal and get ourbreakthrough.
(01:23):
God.
We thank you, god, foreverything.
There's nothing that we takefor granted.
We love you, we adore you.
We lift you up with the highestpraise, thanking you for your
grace and your mercy and yourforgiveness, always and forever.
In Jesus name, we pray Amen,amen.
So how are you?
Let me ask you a question,because I know a lot of our
(01:46):
audience has been asking.
You know you're kind ofmysterious.
I share my introduction, so Iwould like to ask how old are
you?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That's funny, I am 45 .
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, are you experiencing any type of
menopause or change of life?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Yes, I am.
Menopause is a mother.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So, okay, well, for me, I'm 49.
And I've been going through thechange of life as well.
I like to say it that way.
Menopause is just, I like tosay, the change of life.
The hot flashes are reallykicking my butt, more than
anything, because I feel likeI'm an oven at 450 degrees.
(02:41):
Just all of a sudden, the waterthat you know sweat starts just
kind of pouring off my face andI look crazy out here in these
streets and it's like every hour.
I heard there was somethingthat you could take and I forgot
what it is.
I think it's called blackcohosh.
But the only thing about that,they have those little plastic
(03:06):
containers, you know the pills,and that's not good for my
stomach.
So, and then you have a wholelot of ailments as well besides
menopause, the menopause.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Really, he's just going all the way left.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Menopause yeah, they pause because of that menopause,
they go this is crazy.
Exactly.
They see it from a mile away.
They see the sweat, like wait aminute, because it's hot in
here.
She's going through the changeof life.
Lord, have mercy, I don't know,because my moves they're up and
(03:49):
down and all around and I'mjust.
I don't know what to do withmyself Because everything is.
You know, this is.
It's unbalanced.
What about you?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
It's chemically unbalanced.
That's what it is.
Your hormones is decreasing andrage is increasing.
That's why it's good that youhave an outlet to let it all out
.
Yes, talk about it, speak aboutit, because all different kinds
of some people, you know, lose,you know train that thought or
they might get that's me too, Iswear I'm going through dementia
(04:24):
.
Like you forget things.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
It's not just dementia, this is menopause, I
promise you.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
I promise you it feels like to mention.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
No, I'm telling you when I say I got out the shower,
got dressed, put my clothes on,was ready to get ready to go
out, had to go back in thebathroom for something.
I'm texting and I'm forgetting,so I take my clothes back all,
get ready to get back in theshower.
And this is only like maybe 20minutes later, and the only
(04:57):
reason I didn't get all the wayback in the shower I turned the
water on and everything isbecause I touched the mat.
The mat was wet and I was likewait a minute.
She's not here anymore, she's incollege.
So Wait a minute.
Did I take a shower, like do Ileave my-?
(05:18):
Should I talk?
What, what, oh Lord?
And then I was just like whatis going on with my mind.
I don't know if we smoke toomuch back in the day, you know,
or if it is the menopause, or ifit's from COVID, because they
said you would have foggy Iguess foggy brain, whatever fog
(05:43):
brain that too.
See, exactly, I can't.
Yeah, it could be.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It could be, all together, it could be a
combination Wester things youknow.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, Okay.
Well, let me ask you this whereare you from?
I know where you're from.
The audience wants to know.
I'm from.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'm from everywhere.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You can only be from one place.
No.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I'm from a military grad, so I'm from everywhere.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Where were you born?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I'm.
The longest place I lived is inCali.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Where were you born?
Speaker 1 (06:25):
I was born in the wild, wild west.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I can't, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Where were you born?
No, I'm look, I was talking, Iwas asking you Jamaica Queens,
new York.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yes, yes, yes, new York.
Of course, ll Cool J Maudu, 56,you know Queens, but I've lived
in 10 different states, I thinkhow many did you live in?
Because you've lived overseastoo.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, I lived everywhere.
I've been around the world.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
No, yeah, yeah yeah.
I can't find my.
Okay, stop.
Okay, we can't be clowning toomuch because I don't know if
they're continuing to listen ornot.
But listen, yeah, out of allthe place it is after, okay,
after you've lived in all thosedifferent places, which one did
you like the best?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
I love Cali the best because everybody's just was at
that time and I was standingthere, everybody was just chill.
It was no, you know, no trip,no, you know prejudice, none of
that.
Just chill, just live, laugh,love, let everybody else live,
let everybody breathe, you knowBe themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was no judgment, you know.
Yeah, I can see that.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Like in my community, the LBG CTRF.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
It's all you know, wait a minute, hold on, it's
LGBTQ.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Plus.
We'll just say plus Okay,they've added a lot of more
alphabets to it, so I can't.
I can't either Shout out to allmy community.
Yeah.
So I didn't have no problemwith that, and and but.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
when I lived in other states, then you know, you
would judge more.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah On the, on the.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
South South is special.
Well, you know, that's likeusually, ignorance, you know
it's.
And I'm not saying the South isignorant, ignorant, is just not
knowing.
All right, but, yeah, I had, Ihad, yeah, my, my, my disclosure
, my disclaimer is it disclosure, disclaimer?
(08:51):
See, it's the ball.
I'm telling you, it's the brainfog, it's the cement of all.
Okay, it's that one.
So we don't offend anyonebecause we love everyone, and
that's really the God honesttruth we love everyone.
Yeah, we ain't here to judge,but listen.
So when did you know that youwere different?
(09:17):
When did you know?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I was different Like.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I was a student.
Not a student.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Listen, listen I know that I was a lesbian.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
In the second grade I had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
I had a girlfriend in the second grade.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
This is interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Okay, please go on, do tell, do tell.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
No, seriously, I did.
I had a girlfriend in secondgrade.
That's how far back I couldremember when I knew I liked
girls.
There was nothing there fordudes, just homies.
It was like homies Okay.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Yeah.
Okay, so basically my wholelife is.
You know, the whole life iswhat.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah.
No I was saying basically mywhole life, Like I've been this
way, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I feel like I was born this way.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
That's how I feel, you know, because since second
grade you know yeah, first firstgrade, you know that's pretty
early on I remember back, butyes, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I remember back in the day, you know, I was so
strange about myself.
Is that maybe I might have beenby back in the day Only because
?
No, because this is the thing Inever looked at anyone sexually
, you know, but I just I don'tknow if it's just loving.
You know people's stylesbecause I used to look at the
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ladies in the church.
I know this.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
That's sitting out loud.
Oh Lord.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
That's not what I meant, Listen listen, I know
what you meant Okay, but theladies in the church, you know
they would be dressed up intheir nice dress suits and you
know they would have the nicehat on matching.
You know they might have on awhole turquoise outfit with the
hat with a little pink featherand the stockings, and they
would even glitter a little bit,you know.
(11:31):
And nice.
Yeah, you know, beautiful womensmell good and men.
You know, when I'm in I didn'tlook at men, boys.
It's really weird.
I don't look at the women but Idon't look at the boys.
I mean men, I look at boys andI liked boys also.
I was boy crazy back in the day, so it just had to add that I
(11:57):
was just like, oh he, cute.
You know, or actually you knowwhat a lot of them weren't cute.
I just liked.
I found some that I liked aboutthem and I just went with it you
know, like if they had nicenice smile disclaimer, thank you
or a nice eyes, thick eyelashessometimes, or eyebrows or I
(12:22):
don't know, built, maybe itdepends.
I guess what day it was, Iguess it depended.
But if you like me, I liked youtoo.
Like I didn't have boundaries,I didn't know to not.
Just they would say will you bemy girlfriend?
Check yes or no.
And I was just flattered to getit.
(12:44):
So I'm like oh, you know, isn'tthat sweet?
And I check yes with sucker.
Sucker, yeah, it'll last a weekmaybe, or something, cause I had
a little boyfriend that I gotin trouble with and that was
because he would give me money.
He gave me a dollar for lunchand I brought it back to home
(13:10):
and I think I had a little beartoo.
It gave me and my grandma waslike, where'd you get that
dollar from?
And I was like a friend atschool and then somebody said I
don't know if it was Fay orwhoever it was like her
boyfriend, and I was like huh,huh, huh, I don't have a
boyfriend.
She was like no man wantsanything.
(13:31):
What?
Anything for free or something,I don't know.
He's gonna want something,basically, and I'm like we don't
need a full grade, like a fullI think it was full grade.
I'm like what can?
he want grandma, exactly Likeit's for my lunch, you know, to
get an ice cream if I like, youknow.
(13:51):
But she wasn't having it.
She told me to give him hisdollar back when I go back to
school the next day and shecalled the school, told the
principal that this little boywas giving me money.
Like you would have thought,that dollar was like $10,000.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I can't get no ice cream,grandma.
Like gosh, you know, she wantme to sell them.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
She's latched them out, huh.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, and then the principal called him in the
office and gave him a spanking.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Oh no.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
With the paddle.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
He was in that era where y'all got spanked.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I think that missed my mind.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
He got a paddle.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I don't remember recall From giving me a dollar.
I was in the office.
We grew up in the era ofstitches.
I mean snitches, get stitches.
So nowadays, nowadays, peoplesnitching on everybody.
I'm like where's your integrity, Where's the loyalty, Where's
the you know?
Like they just snitching,Telling lies.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
This is the society that we in.
It's all about self selfpreservation and selling,
selling.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
It's all about the money.
You know they don't tellanything for a book.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Right.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I ain't selling my soul to the.
I ain't doing that.
I ain't got me either.
But anyway, going back to thedating rooms and school, Loose
lip-shaking ships.
Oh, definitely, but I feel likeI don't know.
I had a lot of boyfriendsgrowing up.
They only lasted for a few days.
A week, a few weeks, how?
Speaker 1 (15:25):
many did you have?
They had no more.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Did you have?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
I didn't have no boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
I mean girlfriends.
You already made that clear, soI don't know I had a couple.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
but not like that, I'm not like, like, like you.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Because you know what , back in the day, though it
probably, you probably didn'twant to have one publicly
because of the judgments.
You think like maybe say fifth,say if you, you know, say sixth
grade.
You just not like you, were youwalking around with a girl
holding hands.
I don't think you could do thatback in the day.
I mean you could, but I mean Idid I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
everybody knew I was a lesbian.
They knew I was gay and itwasn't you know, nobody never
said nothing to my face.
But my friends would come andtell me oh, somebody said you
were sick and so and so said youcouldn't help them and all this
stuff.
But nobody never came to myface because I was the person
that beat up the bullies.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
So they were scared to say it to my face.
You would have beat them up.
Yeah, but I didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Once after, like elementary, I really didn't have
no date, nobody.
And then when I was, what aboutprom In junior high?
I mean in high school, injunior high I was I dated older
women.
They weren't in school, no more.
I liked older women.
I didn't date with people myage.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
You were women, you were a high school and you dated
older women.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
In junior high I started dating older women.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Like okay, so you were in junior high school a
junior Eight ninth grade.
Eight, ninth grade yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no.
9th grade is high school, no7th and 8th.
7th and 8th 7th, and that'smiddle school.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
One of the school I went to was 7th and it by itself
.
And then, yeah, 8th and 9thgrade and then when I went to
the 10th because I was inFlorida, then Wait, no, hold,
don't keep talking, Wait back up.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
You said on 8th grade .
You said 8th grade is middleschool, 7th, yeah that's what I
said In middle school.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
in 8th grade I was dating an older woman.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
How much older, if you don't mind me asking.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Well, she was like 20 .
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Wait a minute, jesus.
Okay.
So 7th, 8th grade is like whatage?
That's like 12, right?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
13 and 12, yeah 11, 12, 13.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Yeah, cause I was 13 and the 9th.
Okay, so 12,.
You were 12 in 8th grade andyou were talking to a 20 year
old.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah, I like older women.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Okay, now that I'm older, I know that didn't sit
well right, but then yeah,that's kind of like yeah, but no
, you know what?
And there's no judgments here,cause let me tell you I did the
same thing.
I did not that old thoughthat's old, that's too old.
Mine was a little more like 16dating someone.
(18:23):
No, cause, little, I ain'tgonna mention the name.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Okay, let me Please don't say nobody's name.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
They don't wanna get nobody to discover.
He was a dancer of a rapper andhe later came out with, you
know, his own album or song.
But he was Now think about it Ithink I was like 14 or 15 maybe
in New York and he was had tobe like 20.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
So you're exactly.
It's the same difference.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
No, no, no, it's not because yours was like 1112.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
No, I was 1213.
I was getting ready to go inthe ninth grade.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
I was 15 now, that's a big difference.
It's like I'm almost wrong.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
No, no, no, you weren't.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Okay, okay, moving right along yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Right, that was just yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay, so name at least three of the states that
you actually lived in and thatyou remember Well.
Besides and that's not a state,but I'm just saying I think
it's good to know that you livedin Germany.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Yeah, Germany.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Yes, you will round it yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
And Cali Vegas.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
Those are a few.
So you did mostly West Coastbasically.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
What'd you say?
I lived in Chicago for a littlebit.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
And Georgia, unfortunately for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Okay, we are not.
We might have some Georgialisteners.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
I'm just playing, as this is not my type of height,
but no.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
I don't like Georgia either when I first moved here,
so I think this is just from myexperience and my perception A
lot of people seem like theywere just I want to say fake
that's not the word I want touse but kind of like you know
(20:27):
how you'll befriend people, justso that you can get ahead and
you know.
It's more like they only wantto be around.
People that they know this lookkind of like doing something in
a sense, and some of them eventell tales about doing stuff as
(20:48):
far as like production or theyare in theater or you know they
have their own businesses andthings like that Superficial.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
There it is.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Yeah, that's the word , and it's and I'm not saying
that's like the George, theGeorgia, the people that are
basically raised here in Georgiaor, you know, were born here.
I think it's maybe a lot ofpeople from other states that
have migrated here in Georgia.
Yeah, that might be it, butwhat was your thoughts when you
(21:23):
first moved to Georgia?
Oh, you know why didn't you?
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I just didn't like it .
I just didn't like it.
A lot of people in and likegoing to the restaurant.
They would be rude.
Oh yeah, Like the service.
Yeah, so uh, yeah, I just had alot of bad experiences there,
but I did have a good experiencethere.
(21:48):
I should say I did.
Yeah change my life.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I met my you better go.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Hey girl, oh my gosh my wife ex-wife there.
Oh, wow, do tell.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
No, no, don't tell yeah, we're gonna Okay, so it
was a good experience and it wasa bad.
Yeah, I had some good.
You know it's not all bad, itwas just not my cup of tea.
I love the West best.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
I think, because you had something else to compare it
to and for me, because I'velived in, you know, eight, nine
other states, that I hadsomething to compare it to as
well.
And I really enjoyed living inBaltimore, maryland, because I
moved from Baltimore to Atlantaand I experienced the same thing
(22:46):
.
People were really rude.
That's kind of why I got awayfrom New York, you know, because
a lot of people were rude, theydidn't really speak and I had
moved to North Carolina when Iwas younger, so I really enjoyed
their hospitality and they justmade you feel like family.
(23:06):
You know, they were very downto earth and I enjoyed those
experiences there.
And I'm growing up there inNorth Carolina because I moved
there from New York when I wasfive and then my grandmother and
I went home every summer andChristmas to New York and so it
was basically just to have me inschool there so I could gain,
(23:30):
you know, values, morals,respect those type of things and
but so what were your threefavorite?
Speaker 1 (23:37):
so Baltimore was on.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Yes, definitely.
I was always very successful inBaltimore with apartments or
homes and jobs, employment.
But I would say, besidesBaltimore, north Carolina, that
feels more like home to me, Ithink, than anywhere else.
(24:01):
I think that's where I go toget my peace of mind when I'm
going through it.
And then our family, you know,like their graves are there.
I'm the ones that have passedaway, so I'll go to the grave
site and I'll sit and talk to mygrandmother, excuse me.
So I think that that's one ofthem.
And let me see, I reallyenjoyed Florida as well.
(24:26):
It was small.
I didn't like their ways, youknow, so to speak, it was more
white than blacks and it wasn'tenough diversity for me.
I think that's the only thing Ididn't like, but the weather.
We met some really cool people,decent experiences.
(24:54):
But I don't know if I wouldchoose that one as my next one,
though, like I don't know, Ithink it's really North Carolina
and Baltimore.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
So just two out of the ten.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Yeah, I really think so.
I hate to say that, um, atlanta, I mean it's, it's good because
they have some really nicepeople here as well.
But I think a lot of people areon edge and they're mad and
upset and angry about a lot ofthings that has been going on
(25:28):
and which is understandable.
The world has changed so muchin the last five years, I would
say, you know, maybe more so alot of people on edge and
they're getting snappy and I'mtrying to hold my composure and
not let the bees come out, don'tpoke the bees out of
(25:49):
hibernation.
Don't poke the bees out ofhibernation because people don't
understand that I am healing.
I am not healed because youknow, I mean it takes time and I
might just, you know, revertback and I don't want to do that
.
So I treat people with respectand I expect to be treated.
(26:10):
You know the same.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
But that should be a given.
You know people should you knowbe respectful of others, and I
think that's what's added on toall this war and craziness in
the world.
It's like people don't respectother people.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
No it's about power and money, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
And in the root of all the ball yes.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
It's about power, money.
They don't care about people.
People there's.
There's not a love for peopleanymore, and unity and peace.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
It's just so much.
Destruction.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
It's like the world is headed for self destruction.
You know like that.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
You know it's sad, you know.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
It's sad that we can Walk over someone that's
homeless, you know, and act likethey don't exist.
It's sad when we just cannotcommunicate and Agree to
disagree.
You know it shouldn't be anyhate, it shouldn't be any racism
.
You know we're all different.
(27:19):
Every individual is different.
You can't even put people in agroup and say all white people
do this, so all black people arelike this.
Or all Gays, you know, are likethis, you know, or whatever.
You can't put people in a box.
Everyone is different.
We're all men and all women arelike.
You know.
We can't keep putting people ona box, you know.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because God made us all
different back to the to thehandprint.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
We all have different , but at the same time we're all
connected.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
So if one person hurts somebody like we said
before having a bad day, andthen that person goes and does
it to someone else, it's adomino effect and we're all
connected.
So if we spread love and joyand more peace and happiness,
then it can be, you know,abundance of the world of love,
peace and happiness, instead ofthat anger and raw.
You know what I mean and justyou know.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yes, a lot going on right now, everything since
since COVID-2 and All of theinjustice has been going on.
But with COVID, when it came, Ithink people really had to
start living with people thatthey didn't they didn't want to
live with like oh yeah, that's abig topic right there, that's.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
To talk about that's a whole nother Destroyed a lot
of marriages.
That wasn't Because you knowpeople were working, and when
you start working in the housetogether, who?
Who is this person like?
Speaker 2 (28:48):
So, you're with them then 24 hours a day, literally,
you know, and then it and thenit made some.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
At the same time it made some marriages better
because people to get timetogether and they missed each
other.
So when they got to spend thattime and even thought about,
because a lot of people wereafraid they were gonna die, so
it made them, you know, love ontheir loved ones more, you know.
So at the same time is kind ofa catch, and you know, it's like
kind of in that, yeah, catch 22in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
But that's a good topic.
We need to.
We need to definitely discussthat because I think you know it
changed our lives and it scareda lot of people and it put
people in positions that theydidn't want to be in as far as
jobs and so forth to.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
And it also blessed a lot of people to be
entrepreneurs and work for that.
Oh yeah definitely that's.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
I believe the guy really had us sit down for
reasons, so that we could gowithin and find out what our
gifts and passions were, and totap into that and taking some so
here, I'm self-care, yes, but alot of people, of course,
didn't Do that.
They want to still be aroundothers, and you know, because
(30:00):
they can be by themselves.
And that goes back to you know,a lot of people when you, they
don't love themselves, theydon't want to be with themselves
.
You know they always want tohave people around all the time,
and so you know, we definitelythat's a good topic to discuss,
but this was our random thoughts, random thoughts.
(30:21):
Yes, podcast.
So if you have any questions orif you want to write in and
tell your story or yourtestimonies, please email us at
free concepts with an s podcastand gmailcom.
I am your host again, shaniqua,and our co-host is Dean.
(30:42):
Is anything you would like toend with before we leave
Everybody's for listening.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
We appreciate it and just stay best.
Be blessed and spread love andnot hate.
Be best.
I Said be blessed.
Okay, I may have slipped up mybad.
Thank you for the correction.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
You're more than welcome.
But yeah, I, um, yeah, I wantto thank everyone too.
It's been really fun.
I'm enjoying the ride andsharing our stories and we're
gonna get deeper into ourstories and our lives.
So definitely continue tolisten and it's not just telling
about ourselves, but for youguys to be able to relate and
(31:26):
see a lot of our stories, kindof you know, to change the what,
the narrative of their livessometimes.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Absolutely just a helping uplift, you know.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
I think when we share our story, we went through
stuff it may help somebodythat's going through it right
now you know like when we shareour stories.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
They may be going through what we've been through.
Exactly for help, so that's allwe want?
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, and just let you know that you're not alone.
We all go through stuff.
We all make mistakes, and it'sokay to make mistakes because
that's how we learn.
We have to learn these lessonsin life and they're gonna be
many more tests to come, but youcan do it.
You know, if we can do it, youcan do it, and we've been going
(32:16):
through this.
What for years, dubs the downs,you know just life's journey,
the roller coaster of life.
So Thank you again so much.
Hang in there, know that yourbreakthrough is right around the
corner, but just Submitsurrender to the process and
(32:40):
know that you'll come out on theother side.
So put some smiles on your face, be kind to someone and Love
yourself.
Give yourself a hug.
You deserve it.
Okay, you got anything else?
What are we doing?
Are you done?
Hello, are you done?
(33:00):
Okay, blessings have a blast oney'all bye.
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