February 28, 2024 • 27 mins
When the weight of the world feels like it's bearing down on your shoulders, finding the strength to set boundaries and heal from the past can feel like a battle you're facing alone. But it's a journey I know all too well. Join me, Shaniqua, as I share my own experiences with childhood adversity, the heartbreak of losing my great grandmother, and the trials of early motherhood. This episode isn't just about sharing stories; it's about equipping you with the faith that the best is still ahead and the tools to craft a vision of holistic well-being. Together, we'll navigate the impact of our histories on our current selves and begin charting a course toward not just coping, but thriving.
Let's take self-care beyond the buzzword. This episode zeros in on the transformative power of intentionally naming your journey and committing to self-care routines that resonate with your soul. Whether it's through the rhythm of music, the quiet of meditation, or the vitality of exercise, I'll be your partner in crafting moments of joy and peace post-payday and beyond. We'll tackle the importance of mental health, the need to disconnect from life's negativities, and the magic of embracing life's lessons in real-time. Consider this your personal invitation to an intimate space where transformation, healing, and self-care aren't just lofty ideals, but daily practices we'll embrace together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Free Concepts on Mask, where we
motivate, educate and elevate.
I am your host, shaniqua.
I want to thank you guys somuch for listening week after
week.
Oh, thank you so much for yoursupport, your love.
Thank you for sharing withothers this podcast.
It's been amazing, guys, thisjourney.
(00:22):
Oh my goodness, I can't thankyou enough.
Before we begin our topic,though, I wanted to go ahead and
start off with prayer.
But before I start off withprayer, I want you to do me a
favor and reflect for a moment,look back over your life and
realize what God has brought youthrough.
(00:42):
It was some times that yourback was against the wall.
It was times you didn't thinkyou would make it, but God
brought you through it, and youmight not be where you want to
be, but you're then going toshow me where you used to be.
Okay, the best is yet to come.
If I look at the name of Jesus,god, I come to you, lord, and I
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say thank you God.
Thank you God for all thatyou've done and all that you are
doing in our lives right now,today.
God, oh God, I ask for a freshanointing over our listeners,
god, a fresh anointing over thisworld, god, peace, peace and
unity right now.
In the name of Jesus, god, Ithank you for your mercy, your
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grace.
I thank you for yourforgiveness.
Most of all, I thank you foryour love, God, always loving us
.
God, no matter what it lookslike, no matter what it feels
like, god, that we know that youhave a plan is your will, god,
that you will be done.
Let it align up with your will,god, not mine and God.
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I ask on today that whoever islistening, that you touch them
in a mighty way, that youtransform them into what you
need them to be, so you can getthe glory, god, we ask for
restoration, transformation andhealing right now, in the name
of Jesus, god, god, I ask thatyou bless our listeners, that
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you also, god, have them to beable to receive the word,
whatever it is that you speakthrough me, god, that they have
an open heart, open minds, to beable to receive what it is that
you want to give to them, sothat they can move forward in
their purpose.
God, we love you, we adore youand we lift you up with the
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highest, highest praise.
Hallelujah, god, amen, amen.
Hey guys, thank you so much fortuning in.
Listen, we're going to go aheadand jump right on into this
because I want to hold you up,but let me tell you, this word
is going to be so good, okay.
So listen, I was thinking.
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I said I wanted to begin thisyear with new beginnings.
This is my last year in my 40s.
I'll be 50 in July.
You know.
I was thinking about what can Ido to make a change in my life
that's going to be for thebetter.
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I want to be healthy, not justphysically, but mentally,
emotionally, right.
So I was thinking aboutcreating this board and writing
down the things that I want todo for me.
So let me take you back for aminute and I want to just kind
of just just bear with me.
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So what I realized is that a lotof us are stuck in the past
where we were broken or where wewere once hurt or damaged.
Okay, as a child, or even inrelationships, a lot of people's
brokenness comes from when youwere children, whether your
parents got divorced, whetheryou were abused, whether someone
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mistreated you, hurt you,whatever the case may be.
So think about this for amoment that, as a child, you're
wounded, you're hurt, youdisappointed.
You're not seeing it.
You're starting out to trustanymore.
Because of what's going on, youfeel unworthy, you feel like
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you're not enough.
Okay, whenever that momenthappened for you as a child
generally, but if it happened toyou later in life, maybe in a
relationship, you got your heartbroken and they deceived you
and manipulated you and whatever.
Think back at that time.
And I believe, for me, the timethat I was broken and damaged,
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even though I had molestine,abuse as a child.
But when I turned 13 years oldand my great grandmother passed
away, when, I tell you, my heartwas broken, I felt like my
whole world crumbled.
Okay, so I think that was themoment for me where I felt like
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I was her baby.
You know, I could be a child,but when she was gone and I had
to, she raised me because my momwas on drugs.
So my mom came back to try tobe the mother that she wasn't,
you know to me, at all growingup and she ended up back on
drugs and that just messed upour relationship, the
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relationship that we were tryingto repair.
But there was no repairingafter, you know, of course, she
was ill on drugs.
So for me, that's my momentwhere I felt like I had to grow
up.
I felt like I couldn't trustpeople.
I felt like I was unlovedbecause nobody loved me like my
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great grandmother, and I feltlike I wasn't enough, I was
rejected, neglected.
All of those negative feelings.
And so, moving forward, you know, I had to basically become an
adult, or be grown at 13 andkind of fend for myself by 16,
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I'm pregnant, have my son at 17years old, graduated from high
school.
I had him just before Igraduated and I then moved and
jumped right in from adulthoodto motherhood.
All those years that I shouldhave been a child and joyful and
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free.
There was so much pressure onme and it really changed my life
in such a way that I felt likeI was all alone and I had to do
these things by myself.
So now here I'm, a motherhaven't even still a child
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myself that I'm a mother to thisbeautiful baby, that now I'm
responsible for a gift that Godhas given me and I have to do
right by this baby.
So all my childish ways had togo aside.
I had, as soon as you know, Istarted working and and
maintaining, getting anapartment, all those different
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life decisions, because now I'mtaking care of this child.
So for me that was my brokenplace and I really believe that
moving forward and otherrelationships I just said this
before, discussed this beforeromantic ships, relationships or
family ships or friendships weshow up as this little girl
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wounded or this little boywounded Now, even though our
body says grown into a woman ora man, is still this child that
we have to heal, we have tocomfort, we have to love.
But we were taught to keepgoing, work hard, get your
education, do what you got to do, and we don't take the time to
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heal and grieve sometimes and dowhat's necessary for our own
well being.
So we've moved on and then wecome to this pivotal moment in
our lives that we're waking andwe look back at all that we've
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been through.
We say unto ourselves like whydo I keep repeating the same
cycles and the same routines anddating kind of the same people,
even though we you know that'sour ex, but we still end up
sometimes finding someone that'ssimilar, if not worse than our
ex friendships same thing.
You know, we fall into thiscycle because we're still really
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that little girl, little boythat stuck in the past and we
connect with energies that arefamiliar to us.
So if I'm sad, depressed, Idon't feel like I'm enough, if I
feel unvalued or unworthy, thenthat's what I'm going to
attract, generally, okay.
So I said I want to work on me,I'm going through the spiritual
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journey, I want to do the innerwork so I don't keep repeating
the same cycles over and overand over, disappointing myself
and also disappointing God.
That's how I feel, okay.
So what can I do to change?
I need to make a decision andchoose me.
All my life I've been takingcare of you know people and my
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children and giving myself toeveryone, being a people pleaser
, because I want to see peoplesmile, I want them happy and I
want them to feel good andcomfortable, and you know.
But At times they'recomfortable and I'm
uncomfortable, you know.
And I said I'm gonna stop doingthat, I'm gonna start setting
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boundaries, saying no, making no, a complete sentence, if I
don't want to do something or ifI don't want to go somewhere,
sorry, nope, not going, nope,can't do it, because I'm
learning to set those boundariesfor me.
So I don't feel overwhelmed.
And I want to mention also withnew jobs, new careers, we want
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to prove something when we getinto those new Jobs and we work
hard and over time and we goabove and beyond, and then we
drain ourselves.
Now understanding why we'redrained Because at once, when we
first started, we were so happyand excited to start that new
job.
You know like, oh, here theypaying this, I'm getting some
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benefits.
And then all of a sudden we getback into uh, this, I don't
want to say imprisonment, but wegive everything to the job and
to the people and our familythat we don't have anything for
ourselves.
And then we get stressed out,we get depressed.
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Oh, I don't want to go intothis job because we're not
giving anything to ourselves,we're not Refilling ourselves up
.
So we have to fill ourselves upin order to be able to pour out
of our cup and, as in the biblesays, you can't pour from an
empty cup.
Okay, so you're going to haveto go ahead and fill yourself up
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.
So I said all of that to saythis it's time, guys, new
beginnings, new beginnings foryou, taking time for you I don't
care if it's 10 minutes to anhour just for you doing
something you enjoy doing.
So what I did was I created acalendar and I said, starting
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Monday, because I said thisbefore now.
I'm gonna stick to it this timeand y'all gonna have to, uh,
hold me accountable.
But starting Monday, well,sunday, I'm gonna do my church,
which is, you know, I watchsarah jakes, roberts, um, some
sermons, you know I somepositive videos To fill myself
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back up on sunday.
So Monday I'm going to walkafter work.
Tuesday I'm going to go in thegym before work, maybe 10, 15,
well, 15 minutes.
I'm gonna start out slowbecause I don't want, with eyes
hurting stuff hurting, you knowwhat I mean, I don't want to
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overdo it.
Wednesday it's going to bebible study, okay, um, time with
god, worship and meditating,all that good stuff, because I
got to stay grounded.
Thursday is going to be gymagain, then go to work, and then
Friday Is going to be myafternoon walk, like monday.
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Saturday is free, probably timeI spend with my little
grandbaby you know, my littlepudems and then on sunday, same
routine of worshiping, gettingthe word in me, filling back up,
okay.
So sundays and wednesday isgoing to be the times that I
fill back up, because I'm gonnaneed that, because generally On
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mondays and tuesdays, thursdaysand fridays I give, now I do my
meditation every day, at leastdo 10 minutes, 15 minutes, maybe
sometimes 30 minutes every day.
Anyway, I think I'm starting toget addicted to meditation.
But anyway, ride with me, y'allgo with me, okay, so what I'd
like for you to do?
I went on to google and I foundAnother word for new beginnings
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is what I looked up, okay.
So three words Jumped out at me, just so you know.
Okay, so One was calledRenaissance, which means a new
beginning or rebirth.
Okay, the next word that jumpedout at me was renaissance.
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The definition of renaissanceis a rebirth or revival,
especially of somethingPrelevant from the past.
A revival or rebirth, theperiod during which someone or
something flourishes or is attheir peak, a Revitalizing surge
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of energy that brings new life,vigor and a renewal sense of
enthusiasm.
I like that, guys.
That sounds more like what Iwant to call my calendar and
what I'm going through.
And then the last word that Ilooked up, which was reached out
as out at me as well, wasrestoration the act of restoring
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something to a former ororiginal condition, the
reinstatement of a previouspractice, right or situation,
the return of something,especially something lost or
stolen, to its proper owner.
Listen, guys, this is whatstood out to me.
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Think about this for a moment.
The return of something.
The return of something,especially something lost or
stolen, to its proper owner.
Now, the reason why this stoodout to me was because I feel
like I'm returning back to mycreator, what the world had
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started to change me into, and Ialways tell y'all I want to
change the world.
I don't want the world tochange me and make me to someone
that I'm not.
So for me, I feel like I'mreturning back to my creator.
The return of something,especially something lost.
I felt like I was lost.
Y'all.
I was lost out here in theworld.
You know how they say you waslost.
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Now you found I believe thatdefinitely that's something I'm
going through or stolen.
I always feel like the deviland stole a lot of my life and
me living in my flesh and notdoing right that I felt like you
know, things were stolen fromme.
But two is proper owner.
The proper owner is God, ourcreator.
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So that's why that stood out tome, guys, the return of
something especially.
I think I might just call mycalendar and this whole
spiritual journey restoration,because I believe this is a
season of healing andrestoration.
I really do, but I'm gonnathink about it, because I don't
know which one I'm gonna name.
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It's between restoration andrenaissance, definitely.
But listen, let me say this Iwould like for you guys to do me
a favor and look up anotherword for new beginnings for
yourself.
And there's a lot of words inhere, believe it or not.
I was surprised, actually, that, like reconstruction,
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rebuilding, redevelopment,repairing, make a makeover,
revamp it was so many words.
So what I'd like for you to dois look up another word for new
beginnings and think about yourlife and what you've been
through, making a decision andchoice to be the best version of
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you.
You can be the new you and nameit, name your journey, whatever
you feel like it matches or yourelate to or whatever resonates
with you.
That's what you do.
Choose that name.
That's a start.
And then I would like for you totake whatever time you can for
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yourself as a routine.
Take that time just for you.
I don't care, you know, if youmeditate, if you praying, if you
singing some music songs orsomething, or dancing for 10
minutes, working out, taking awalk, whatever it is, whatever
brings your heart joy.
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That's what you do.
Write it down on the calendar.
This is what I'm doing andstick to that schedule.
Okay, cause that's somethingfor you.
You give to the job.
You give it to everybody else.
It's time for you to givesomething to you.
Then, when you get paid, I wouldlike for you to go out and do
something special for yourself,or buy yourself something
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special, now, nothing expensive,just something small, something
you really enjoy doing.
Whatever feels you're a littlehard, okay, go out there and you
can take yourself out to dinner.
You can take yourself to amovie, netflix and chill, get
your snacks, you know, just sometime just for you, whatever it
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is, just treat yourself on theweekend when you get paid,
whatever it is, it doesn't haveto be the whole weekend, but I
believe that it's reallyimportant for us to go back to
the root of that thing thatfirst infected us.
We go back and heal it, forgive, let it go, cause when you
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forgive people for what they'vedone, it's for you, it's really
for you.
You're forgiving them so thatyou don't hold on to it.
Cause, remember, this ease isgoing to cause disease in your
body.
If you hold grudges and if youhold in all that mess and that
anger and bitterness, it'sfilling your, your, your spirit
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up with poison which is going toturn into disease or heart
attack, a stroke, aneurysm, um,cancer, okay.
So get rid of all of that mess.
Heal If you have to go totherapy, if you got to pray more
and go to therapy, whatever itis you have to do.
Mental health is so important.
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I want to stress, I can'tstress that enough.
I want to stress that to you,mental health is so important.
To take care of you.
Self love, self care.
Set boundaries, even if youhave to disconnect yourself from
negative people, toxic people.
You don't owe nobody nothing.
You owe yourself first.
So I want you to take care ofyou.
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Make a decision, make a choice.
Get that calendar out.
Write down each day that you dosomething for yourself.
When you get paid, takeyourself out to dinner, date
yourself, do something just foryou.
Buy yourself something nice Idon't care if it's a fragrance,
a candle, something.
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Take a hot bubble bath duringthe week, in the middle of the
week, one day, just whatever.
It is, something just for youand love on you for a change.
Know that you are important,know that you are of love, know
that you are of value.
You are worthy.
Stop going along just to getalong.
Do for once what's best for you, so that you're not drained and
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tired of going to the job andyou're getting upset with the
kids and you're getting mad withthe coworkers or you're getting
mad with the family and you'drather do tell somebody off and
go away.
Tell somebody off and go off onpeople.
Fill yourself up, because ninetimes out of 10 you're empty and
you can't give from an emptycup.
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It's going to frustrate you,it's going to stress you out,
you're going to be pissed off,you're going to have a bad
attitude.
So have the attitude ofgratitude.
Yesterday is gone, tomorrow isnot promised.
Live for today, in the moment.
Stop rushing the week andhurrying up to get to Friday.
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Can't wait till it's Friday.
Can't wait till the weekend.
You're missing whatever thelesson is.
The lessons are in the lessons,but you got to get the lessons
and Realize and understand whatGod is trying to teach you in
these moments.
Even the times where it doesn'tfeel good.
Usually those are the timesthat he's teaching us most.
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He's teaching us in thosemoments that we feel
uncomfortable, and sometimes wefeel uncomfortable.
He pushes us and tries to moveus because we'll stay, you know,
comfortable.
We don't want to Change.
We don't like change.
You know we used to a certainroutine or the norm.
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Receive it, submit to theprocess of it all.
Stop fighting the process, stopgetting mad every time you know
God does something you don'tlike or something in your life
happens where you feel like, oh,it's the devil.
Sometimes it's not the devil.
Sometimes is God trying toPropel you, he's trying to
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graduate you and have you moveon to the next level of life,
because the old person you usedto be won't be able to handle
the position when he'spositioning you in the future,
where he needs to take you to,because I know I ain't the same
person I used to be ten yearsago, but the person I am now,
what he's transforming into, I'mready for, or Whatever it is
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he's gonna give me in this, inthis season.
I'm ready right now.
I'm ready for that promotion,I'm ready for his favor, I'm
ready for whatever the reward is.
I'm ready for ten years.
Nope, now, After everythingI've been through in the last
five, ten years, definitelybecause my mindset is different,
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I move different.
So I would like for you guys tojust just take he, you know,
listen to what God is speakingthrough me right now to you
Because it's gonna transformyour life.
It's gonna make you feel somuch better because you have to
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balance out work life.
It's so important to love onyou so you can be better and
other healthier and have ahealthy relationship.
Move forward into your purpose.
I Know right now that a lot ofyou guys are so passionate about
Something and you don't knowwhat to do, where to go, where
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God is taking you.
You feel confused because yougot to work and take care of the
kids but you don't have enoughtime to really work on your
project or work on your businessor work on wherever it is that
you're most passionate aboutdoing it.
Sometimes we're scared to leaveour jobs, to step out on faith,
you know, and try somethingdifferent.
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If God is pushing you andyou're so miserable at one place
and you just tired of beingsick and tired, generally that's
when God is trying to move you.
But you got to have faithenough to know that you may fall
but you may land.
Okay, so Just believe, havefaith, trust in God, trust in
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the process.
Just know that you might begoing through something today,
but tomorrow the sun will shineagain.
The storm might be today, buttomorrow the sun is gonna shine.
You just don't know when thatmoment is.
For me, it took about a year anda half to two years For God to
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teach me patience, for me to sitstill and really trust in him
and give it all up to him.
Now, understand, it's kind oflike somebody driving and you
blindfolded.
Well, god is driving, I'mblindfolded, I don't know where
this journey gonna go will takeme, but I know that he's not
gonna.
He brought me this far to leaveme all.
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He hasn't brought you this farto leave you and let you down.
Okay, so trust in the process,make that calendar name Whatever
your spiritual journey is rightnow by going and Google looking
up another word for newbeginnings Title that I Love you
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guys so much.
Thank you.
If you have anything that youwant to respond with where
there's a comment or questionsor anything at all, definitely
email me at pot.
I'm gonna say podcast Jesus,help me.
Free concepts podcast atgmailcom.
Thank you so much for listeningto.
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Free concepts unmasked.
That's what we're doing.
We're trying to unmask, speakour truth and Get out of this
bondage that we're in.
Shackles broken.
Generational curses are broken.
Bondage is broken.
I claim it right now, in thename of Jesus, over your lives,
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over your children's lives, yourgrandbaby's lives.
I Cancel it out, I cancel thedevil out, in the name of Jesus,
that no weapon formed againstyou shall prosper.
You're gonna get through this,but you have to love you first.
Heal those old wounds, hug thelittle girl, a little boy inside
of you.
Let them know that you got them.
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You got this.
I got confidence in you.
I know you can do this.
Okay, all right now.
So I'm gonna see you next week,tune in and we're gonna see
what God has, what word he hasto give through me to you.
Thank you guys, so much forlistening and thanks again for
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your support.
Have a wonderful, wonderfulweek and I'll see you back here
next week.
Welcome to Free Concepts on Mask, where we
motivate, educate and elevate.
I am your host, shaniqua.
I want to thank you guys somuch for listening week after
week.
Oh, thank you so much for yoursupport, your love.
Thank you for sharing withothers this podcast.
It's been amazing, guys, thisjourney.
(00:22):
Oh my goodness, I can't thankyou enough.
Before we begin our topic,though, I wanted to go ahead and
start off with prayer.
But before I start off withprayer, I want you to do me a
favor and reflect for a moment,look back over your life and
realize what God has brought youthrough.
(00:42):
It was some times that yourback was against the wall.
It was times you didn't thinkyou would make it, but God
brought you through it, and youmight not be where you want to
be, but you're then going toshow me where you used to be.
Okay, the best is yet to come.
If I look at the name of Jesus,god, I come to you, lord, and I
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say thank you God.
Thank you God for all thatyou've done and all that you are
doing in our lives right now,today.
God, oh God, I ask for a freshanointing over our listeners,
god, a fresh anointing over thisworld, god, peace, peace and
unity right now.
In the name of Jesus, god, Ithank you for your mercy, your
(01:24):
grace.
I thank you for yourforgiveness.
Most of all, I thank you foryour love, God, always loving us
.
God, no matter what it lookslike, no matter what it feels
like, god, that we know that youhave a plan is your will, god,
that you will be done.
Let it align up with your will,god, not mine and God.
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I ask on today that whoever islistening, that you touch them
in a mighty way, that youtransform them into what you
need them to be, so you can getthe glory, god, we ask for
restoration, transformation andhealing right now, in the name
of Jesus, god, god, I ask thatyou bless our listeners, that
(02:07):
you also, god, have them to beable to receive the word,
whatever it is that you speakthrough me, god, that they have
an open heart, open minds, to beable to receive what it is that
you want to give to them, sothat they can move forward in
their purpose.
God, we love you, we adore youand we lift you up with the
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highest, highest praise.
Hallelujah, god, amen, amen.
Hey guys, thank you so much fortuning in.
Listen, we're going to go aheadand jump right on into this
because I want to hold you up,but let me tell you, this word
is going to be so good, okay.
So listen, I was thinking.
(02:48):
I said I wanted to begin thisyear with new beginnings.
This is my last year in my 40s.
I'll be 50 in July.
You know.
I was thinking about what can Ido to make a change in my life
that's going to be for thebetter.
(03:09):
I want to be healthy, not justphysically, but mentally,
emotionally, right.
So I was thinking aboutcreating this board and writing
down the things that I want todo for me.
So let me take you back for aminute and I want to just kind
of just just bear with me.
(03:31):
So what I realized is that a lotof us are stuck in the past
where we were broken or where wewere once hurt or damaged.
Okay, as a child, or even inrelationships, a lot of people's
brokenness comes from when youwere children, whether your
parents got divorced, whetheryou were abused, whether someone
(03:55):
mistreated you, hurt you,whatever the case may be.
So think about this for amoment that, as a child, you're
wounded, you're hurt, youdisappointed.
You're not seeing it.
You're starting out to trustanymore.
Because of what's going on, youfeel unworthy, you feel like
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you're not enough.
Okay, whenever that momenthappened for you as a child
generally, but if it happened toyou later in life, maybe in a
relationship, you got your heartbroken and they deceived you
and manipulated you and whatever.
Think back at that time.
And I believe, for me, the timethat I was broken and damaged,
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even though I had molestine,abuse as a child.
But when I turned 13 years oldand my great grandmother passed
away, when, I tell you, my heartwas broken, I felt like my
whole world crumbled.
Okay, so I think that was themoment for me where I felt like
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I was her baby.
You know, I could be a child,but when she was gone and I had
to, she raised me because my momwas on drugs.
So my mom came back to try tobe the mother that she wasn't,
you know to me, at all growingup and she ended up back on
drugs and that just messed upour relationship, the
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relationship that we were tryingto repair.
But there was no repairingafter, you know, of course, she
was ill on drugs.
So for me, that's my momentwhere I felt like I had to grow
up.
I felt like I couldn't trustpeople.
I felt like I was unlovedbecause nobody loved me like my
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great grandmother, and I feltlike I wasn't enough, I was
rejected, neglected.
All of those negative feelings.
And so, moving forward, you know, I had to basically become an
adult, or be grown at 13 andkind of fend for myself by 16,
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I'm pregnant, have my son at 17years old, graduated from high
school.
I had him just before Igraduated and I then moved and
jumped right in from adulthoodto motherhood.
All those years that I shouldhave been a child and joyful and
(06:30):
free.
There was so much pressure onme and it really changed my life
in such a way that I felt likeI was all alone and I had to do
these things by myself.
So now here I'm, a motherhaven't even still a child
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myself that I'm a mother to thisbeautiful baby, that now I'm
responsible for a gift that Godhas given me and I have to do
right by this baby.
So all my childish ways had togo aside.
I had, as soon as you know, Istarted working and and
maintaining, getting anapartment, all those different
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life decisions, because now I'mtaking care of this child.
So for me that was my brokenplace and I really believe that
moving forward and otherrelationships I just said this
before, discussed this beforeromantic ships, relationships or
family ships or friendships weshow up as this little girl
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wounded or this little boywounded Now, even though our
body says grown into a woman ora man, is still this child that
we have to heal, we have tocomfort, we have to love.
But we were taught to keepgoing, work hard, get your
education, do what you got to do, and we don't take the time to
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heal and grieve sometimes and dowhat's necessary for our own
well being.
So we've moved on and then wecome to this pivotal moment in
our lives that we're waking andwe look back at all that we've
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been through.
We say unto ourselves like whydo I keep repeating the same
cycles and the same routines anddating kind of the same people,
even though we you know that'sour ex, but we still end up
sometimes finding someone that'ssimilar, if not worse than our
ex friendships same thing.
You know, we fall into thiscycle because we're still really
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that little girl, little boythat stuck in the past and we
connect with energies that arefamiliar to us.
So if I'm sad, depressed, Idon't feel like I'm enough, if I
feel unvalued or unworthy, thenthat's what I'm going to
attract, generally, okay.
So I said I want to work on me,I'm going through the spiritual
(09:10):
journey, I want to do the innerwork so I don't keep repeating
the same cycles over and overand over, disappointing myself
and also disappointing God.
That's how I feel, okay.
So what can I do to change?
I need to make a decision andchoose me.
All my life I've been takingcare of you know people and my
(09:34):
children and giving myself toeveryone, being a people pleaser
, because I want to see peoplesmile, I want them happy and I
want them to feel good andcomfortable, and you know.
But At times they'recomfortable and I'm
uncomfortable, you know.
And I said I'm gonna stop doingthat, I'm gonna start setting
(09:56):
boundaries, saying no, making no, a complete sentence, if I
don't want to do something or ifI don't want to go somewhere,
sorry, nope, not going, nope,can't do it, because I'm
learning to set those boundariesfor me.
So I don't feel overwhelmed.
And I want to mention also withnew jobs, new careers, we want
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to prove something when we getinto those new Jobs and we work
hard and over time and we goabove and beyond, and then we
drain ourselves.
Now understanding why we'redrained Because at once, when we
first started, we were so happyand excited to start that new
job.
You know like, oh, here theypaying this, I'm getting some
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benefits.
And then all of a sudden we getback into uh, this, I don't
want to say imprisonment, but wegive everything to the job and
to the people and our familythat we don't have anything for
ourselves.
And then we get stressed out,we get depressed.
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Oh, I don't want to go intothis job because we're not
giving anything to ourselves,we're not Refilling ourselves up
.
So we have to fill ourselves upin order to be able to pour out
of our cup and, as in the biblesays, you can't pour from an
empty cup.
Okay, so you're going to haveto go ahead and fill yourself up
(11:23):
.
So I said all of that to saythis it's time, guys, new
beginnings, new beginnings foryou, taking time for you I don't
care if it's 10 minutes to anhour just for you doing
something you enjoy doing.
So what I did was I created acalendar and I said, starting
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Monday, because I said thisbefore now.
I'm gonna stick to it this timeand y'all gonna have to, uh,
hold me accountable.
But starting Monday, well,sunday, I'm gonna do my church,
which is, you know, I watchsarah jakes, roberts, um, some
sermons, you know I somepositive videos To fill myself
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back up on sunday.
So Monday I'm going to walkafter work.
Tuesday I'm going to go in thegym before work, maybe 10, 15,
well, 15 minutes.
I'm gonna start out slowbecause I don't want, with eyes
hurting stuff hurting, you knowwhat I mean, I don't want to
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overdo it.
Wednesday it's going to bebible study, okay, um, time with
god, worship and meditating,all that good stuff, because I
got to stay grounded.
Thursday is going to be gymagain, then go to work, and then
Friday Is going to be myafternoon walk, like monday.
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Saturday is free, probably timeI spend with my little
grandbaby you know, my littlepudems and then on sunday, same
routine of worshiping, gettingthe word in me, filling back up,
okay.
So sundays and wednesday isgoing to be the times that I
fill back up, because I'm gonnaneed that, because generally On
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mondays and tuesdays, thursdaysand fridays I give, now I do my
meditation every day, at leastdo 10 minutes, 15 minutes, maybe
sometimes 30 minutes every day.
Anyway, I think I'm starting toget addicted to meditation.
But anyway, ride with me, y'allgo with me, okay, so what I'd
like for you to do?
I went on to google and I foundAnother word for new beginnings
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is what I looked up, okay.
So three words Jumped out at me, just so you know.
Okay, so One was calledRenaissance, which means a new
beginning or rebirth.
Okay, the next word that jumpedout at me was renaissance.
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The definition of renaissanceis a rebirth or revival,
especially of somethingPrelevant from the past.
A revival or rebirth, theperiod during which someone or
something flourishes or is attheir peak, a Revitalizing surge
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of energy that brings new life,vigor and a renewal sense of
enthusiasm.
I like that, guys.
That sounds more like what Iwant to call my calendar and
what I'm going through.
And then the last word that Ilooked up, which was reached out
as out at me as well, wasrestoration the act of restoring
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something to a former ororiginal condition, the
reinstatement of a previouspractice, right or situation,
the return of something,especially something lost or
stolen, to its proper owner.
Listen, guys, this is whatstood out to me.
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Think about this for a moment.
The return of something.
The return of something,especially something lost or
stolen, to its proper owner.
Now, the reason why this stoodout to me was because I feel
like I'm returning back to mycreator, what the world had
(15:32):
started to change me into, and Ialways tell y'all I want to
change the world.
I don't want the world tochange me and make me to someone
that I'm not.
So for me, I feel like I'mreturning back to my creator.
The return of something,especially something lost.
I felt like I was lost.
Y'all.
I was lost out here in theworld.
You know how they say you waslost.
(15:54):
Now you found I believe thatdefinitely that's something I'm
going through or stolen.
I always feel like the deviland stole a lot of my life and
me living in my flesh and notdoing right that I felt like you
know, things were stolen fromme.
But two is proper owner.
The proper owner is God, ourcreator.
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So that's why that stood out tome, guys, the return of
something especially.
I think I might just call mycalendar and this whole
spiritual journey restoration,because I believe this is a
season of healing andrestoration.
I really do, but I'm gonnathink about it, because I don't
know which one I'm gonna name.
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It's between restoration andrenaissance, definitely.
But listen, let me say this Iwould like for you guys to do me
a favor and look up anotherword for new beginnings for
yourself.
And there's a lot of words inhere, believe it or not.
I was surprised, actually, that, like reconstruction,
(16:58):
rebuilding, redevelopment,repairing, make a makeover,
revamp it was so many words.
So what I'd like for you to dois look up another word for new
beginnings and think about yourlife and what you've been
through, making a decision andchoice to be the best version of
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you.
You can be the new you and nameit, name your journey, whatever
you feel like it matches or yourelate to or whatever resonates
with you.
That's what you do.
Choose that name.
That's a start.
And then I would like for you totake whatever time you can for
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yourself as a routine.
Take that time just for you.
I don't care, you know, if youmeditate, if you praying, if you
singing some music songs orsomething, or dancing for 10
minutes, working out, taking awalk, whatever it is, whatever
brings your heart joy.
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That's what you do.
Write it down on the calendar.
This is what I'm doing andstick to that schedule.
Okay, cause that's somethingfor you.
You give to the job.
You give it to everybody else.
It's time for you to givesomething to you.
Then, when you get paid, I wouldlike for you to go out and do
something special for yourself,or buy yourself something
(18:24):
special, now, nothing expensive,just something small, something
you really enjoy doing.
Whatever feels you're a littlehard, okay, go out there and you
can take yourself out to dinner.
You can take yourself to amovie, netflix and chill, get
your snacks, you know, just sometime just for you, whatever it
(18:46):
is, just treat yourself on theweekend when you get paid,
whatever it is, it doesn't haveto be the whole weekend, but I
believe that it's reallyimportant for us to go back to
the root of that thing thatfirst infected us.
We go back and heal it, forgive, let it go, cause when you
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forgive people for what they'vedone, it's for you, it's really
for you.
You're forgiving them so thatyou don't hold on to it.
Cause, remember, this ease isgoing to cause disease in your
body.
If you hold grudges and if youhold in all that mess and that
anger and bitterness, it'sfilling your, your, your spirit
(19:29):
up with poison which is going toturn into disease or heart
attack, a stroke, aneurysm, um,cancer, okay.
So get rid of all of that mess.
Heal If you have to go totherapy, if you got to pray more
and go to therapy, whatever itis you have to do.
Mental health is so important.
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I want to stress, I can'tstress that enough.
I want to stress that to you,mental health is so important.
To take care of you.
Self love, self care.
Set boundaries, even if youhave to disconnect yourself from
negative people, toxic people.
You don't owe nobody nothing.
You owe yourself first.
So I want you to take care ofyou.
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Make a decision, make a choice.
Get that calendar out.
Write down each day that you dosomething for yourself.
When you get paid, takeyourself out to dinner, date
yourself, do something just foryou.
Buy yourself something nice Idon't care if it's a fragrance,
a candle, something.
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Take a hot bubble bath duringthe week, in the middle of the
week, one day, just whatever.
It is, something just for youand love on you for a change.
Know that you are important,know that you are of love, know
that you are of value.
You are worthy.
Stop going along just to getalong.
Do for once what's best for you, so that you're not drained and
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tired of going to the job andyou're getting upset with the
kids and you're getting mad withthe coworkers or you're getting
mad with the family and you'drather do tell somebody off and
go away.
Tell somebody off and go off onpeople.
Fill yourself up, because ninetimes out of 10 you're empty and
you can't give from an emptycup.
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It's going to frustrate you,it's going to stress you out,
you're going to be pissed off,you're going to have a bad
attitude.
So have the attitude ofgratitude.
Yesterday is gone, tomorrow isnot promised.
Live for today, in the moment.
Stop rushing the week andhurrying up to get to Friday.
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Can't wait till it's Friday.
Can't wait till the weekend.
You're missing whatever thelesson is.
The lessons are in the lessons,but you got to get the lessons
and Realize and understand whatGod is trying to teach you in
these moments.
Even the times where it doesn'tfeel good.
Usually those are the timesthat he's teaching us most.
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He's teaching us in thosemoments that we feel
uncomfortable, and sometimes wefeel uncomfortable.
He pushes us and tries to moveus because we'll stay, you know,
comfortable.
We don't want to Change.
We don't like change.
You know we used to a certainroutine or the norm.
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Receive it, submit to theprocess of it all.
Stop fighting the process, stopgetting mad every time you know
God does something you don'tlike or something in your life
happens where you feel like, oh,it's the devil.
Sometimes it's not the devil.
Sometimes is God trying toPropel you, he's trying to
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graduate you and have you moveon to the next level of life,
because the old person you usedto be won't be able to handle
the position when he'spositioning you in the future,
where he needs to take you to,because I know I ain't the same
person I used to be ten yearsago, but the person I am now,
what he's transforming into, I'mready for, or Whatever it is
(23:15):
he's gonna give me in this, inthis season.
I'm ready right now.
I'm ready for that promotion,I'm ready for his favor, I'm
ready for whatever the reward is.
I'm ready for ten years.
Nope, now, After everythingI've been through in the last
five, ten years, definitelybecause my mindset is different,
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I move different.
So I would like for you guys tojust just take he, you know,
listen to what God is speakingthrough me right now to you
Because it's gonna transformyour life.
It's gonna make you feel somuch better because you have to
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balance out work life.
It's so important to love onyou so you can be better and
other healthier and have ahealthy relationship.
Move forward into your purpose.
I Know right now that a lot ofyou guys are so passionate about
Something and you don't knowwhat to do, where to go, where
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God is taking you.
You feel confused because yougot to work and take care of the
kids but you don't have enoughtime to really work on your
project or work on your businessor work on wherever it is that
you're most passionate aboutdoing it.
Sometimes we're scared to leaveour jobs, to step out on faith,
you know, and try somethingdifferent.
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If God is pushing you andyou're so miserable at one place
and you just tired of beingsick and tired, generally that's
when God is trying to move you.
But you got to have faithenough to know that you may fall
but you may land.
Okay, so Just believe, havefaith, trust in God, trust in
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the process.
Just know that you might begoing through something today,
but tomorrow the sun will shineagain.
The storm might be today, buttomorrow the sun is gonna shine.
You just don't know when thatmoment is.
For me, it took about a year anda half to two years For God to
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teach me patience, for me to sitstill and really trust in him
and give it all up to him.
Now, understand, it's kind oflike somebody driving and you
blindfolded.
Well, god is driving, I'mblindfolded, I don't know where
this journey gonna go will takeme, but I know that he's not
gonna.
He brought me this far to leaveme all.
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He hasn't brought you this farto leave you and let you down.
Okay, so trust in the process,make that calendar name Whatever
your spiritual journey is rightnow by going and Google looking
up another word for newbeginnings Title that I Love you
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guys so much.
Thank you.
If you have anything that youwant to respond with where
there's a comment or questionsor anything at all, definitely
email me at pot.
I'm gonna say podcast Jesus,help me.
Free concepts podcast atgmailcom.
Thank you so much for listeningto.
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Free concepts unmasked.
That's what we're doing.
We're trying to unmask, speakour truth and Get out of this
bondage that we're in.
Shackles broken.
Generational curses are broken.
Bondage is broken.
I claim it right now, in thename of Jesus, over your lives,
(26:55):
over your children's lives, yourgrandbaby's lives.
I Cancel it out, I cancel thedevil out, in the name of Jesus,
that no weapon formed againstyou shall prosper.
You're gonna get through this,but you have to love you first.
Heal those old wounds, hug thelittle girl, a little boy inside
of you.
Let them know that you got them.
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You got this.
I got confidence in you.
I know you can do this.
Okay, all right now.
So I'm gonna see you next week,tune in and we're gonna see
what God has, what word he hasto give through me to you.
Thank you guys, so much forlistening and thanks again for
(27:39):
your support.
Have a wonderful, wonderfulweek and I'll see you back here
next week.
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