September 19, 2025 • 46 mins
The fragile architecture of family—our first community and foundation for identity—is crumbling at an alarming rate. This episode delves into the heart-wrenching reality of family estrangement through both statistical evidence and raw personal testimony.
I share my journey through the painful symmetry of karma: how I abandoned my own family as a young adult, only to experience my own children walking away decades later. The statistics are staggering—one million American children experience divorce annually, one in two adults is estranged from a close family member, and political differences now drive 20% of family separations. But beyond the numbers lies a deeper spiritual crisis.
What happens when we break the sacred bonds of family? How do unresolved childhood traumas perpetuate cycles of abandonment across generations? I explore how emotional neglect—often invisible and unacknowledged—creates wounds that echo through time, as children who felt unseen grow into parents who unconsciously replicate these patterns.
For parents and grandparents experiencing the excruciating pain of estrangement, I offer both compassion and challenge. The path forward isn't about forcing reconciliation but about doing the difficult inner work of "mind tracing"—confronting our past mistakes without shame, releasing guilt, and standing firm in love even when it's not reciprocated. Our healing journey isn't just personal; it's a powerful counter-force against the societal disintegration we're witnessing.
Whether you're the one who walked away or the one left behind, this episode invites you to see family division through a wider lens—one that acknowledges both karma and grace, personal responsibility and divine timing. The awakening journey accelerates when we face our pain with courage, transforming disintegration into resurrection.
Subscribe to continue this exploration of authentic freedom and learn how breaking generational patterns of trauma can restore not just our families, but our collective humanity.
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the basic unit of any society is the home, and when
the home begins to break,society is on the way to
complete disintegration.
And I want to welcome you backto this fantastical Friday of
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Free to Just Be, the podcastempowering humanity to
courageously step out of oldpatterns and matrix programming
and embrace a brand new way ofbeing programming and embrace a
brand new way of being, and Ihope this finds you in the
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greatest health today, withvibrant energy, because you have
chosen to accept the fullresponsibility for your body,
mind and soul.
Here on Free To Just Be, I'mgoing to attempt to inspire each
other to truly be who we camehere to be Authentic, free and
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aligned with our highestpotential.
Please hit the like button andshare it with somebody and join
us all on this transformativejourney to rewrite our
narratives and live lives ofpurpose and passion.
And today, today, it's a reallyhard episode for me and I'm
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going to try my best to hold ittogether and I want to dedicate
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this to all the and I understandin ways that I never wished I
did.
But I want to open today'sepisode regarding the family
with some statistics.
Do you know that today in oursociety, 1 million American
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children experience divorce eachyear.
31% of children under sixexperience divorce before
they're even fully emotionallydeveloped.
Let that sink in for a minute.
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Divorce brings in poor economicoutcomes and educational
outcomes, increased mentalhealth issues, and 3.2% of
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children are more likely toexperience anxiety and
depression because of it.
Only 42% of children age 14 to18 live in a first marriage
family.
Teen to 18 live in a firstmarriage family Today.
Statistically, politicalaffiliation is the most
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significant reason for familyestrangements.
One in two adults today isdivided from a close family
member.
One in five in today's societycite political views as a reason
.
These disconnects often involvesevering all communication,
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including through other familymembers, and blocking all social
media.
This has become most common inadults under 35, who now have
the tendency of prioritizingrelationships aligned with their
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beliefs above any ancestrallinks and to put their own
mental well-being and growthahead of any kind of family
objections.
Wow, I'm still just floored bythose statistics.
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And yet I am part of thosestatistics.
I am not one of those childrenthat experienced divorce ever.
My parents were married over 25years before my dad passed,
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before my dad passed, but I amone of those that was under 35
who decided that I didn't likethe way my family thought and so
I left.
So I am part of the statisticsas far as children go.
As far as children go Because Iliterally emotionally and
mentally checked out of myfamily when I was about 12.
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And after my dad passed, atabout 14, all I could think
about was getting away.
So I am definitely part ofthose statistics.
Now, if you would have told meback then that I would be a
statistic of one of the parentscompletely separated from some
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of their children, I wouldn'thave believed you.
Because you see, when I becamea parent, I was absolutely sure
and determined that I was notgoing to quote unquote, do what
I felt was done to me, which Ireiterate, and I've said many,
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many episodes prior that I knowthat my mom and dad love me, but
I did not realize that when Iwas growing up I was distanced
emotionally, I was emotionallyneglected.
I was the baby of six kids andwhatever the reasons, which I
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will never know, because I neverhad those conversations with my
mom and dad before they passed.
My dad was gone when I wasstill a child and my mom well, I
wasn't fully awakened to whatlife is really about before she
passed.
So I never had these questionsabout how they were raised and
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what caused them to beemotionally unavailable for me.
So I will never know theiractual reasons.
But if you look at the societalbreakdown and the attacks on the
family by those who are tryingto destroy us, especially here
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in America, and before I getinto the meat of this, I want to
highly suggest that if youdon't think that there is
actually a plan, a plot againstus that you can track, that you
can literally see through thecourse of history, then I highly
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suggest that you look up themovie, the documentary called
Beneath Sheep's Clothing, andyour mind will be blown.
Because when you see the factsand you see how much America is
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now literally playing out thepath of communism, oh you say
what?
What are you talking about?
We live in the freest nation inthe world?
Yes, we do currently, but, as Irefer many times to the
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proverbial pot of boiling frogs,we are reaching a critical mass
situation in our world and I'mnot here to push my own agenda.
I'm here to point out some factsand statistics, which I already
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did, but basically the reasonI'm here is to identify and
reach out to all the familymembers whose hearts are broken
because of this disintegration.
Broken doesn't even speak tothe pain of being separated from
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your family members.
It is a deep, deep anguish tobe abandoned by your own
children, to be abandoned byyour own children, because if
those of your own blood forsakeyou, you truly feel forsaken and
in recent days I was thinking,oh my God, I just how can my own
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creations, my own five childrenand then I have two beautiful
children from my husband thatI've known since they were four
and two, so I consider them mine.
How can my own creations notwant anything to do with me?
Is the question that manyparents ask, is the question
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that many parents ask.
And then I thought about my owncreator and how it just hit me
right in my heart how muchanguish God, our creator, must
truly feel when we turn our backon Him.
And in real time.
I can tell you that havingabout four of our seven children
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completely disconnect from usis absolutely heart-wrenching
and heartbreaking.
Disconnect from us isabsolutely heart-wrenching and
heartbreaking.
And what can we do about it?
We can try to keepcommunication going, but it
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becomes very, very difficultwhen our younger children as the
statistics stated, this is veryprevalent in adults 35 and
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younger.
And why is that?
Well, if you watch beneathsheep's clothing, you will
understand that, year after yearafter year, it's been coming
like a freight train that wejust didn't recognize, with the
introduction of two peoplehaving to work outside the home,
people having to work outsidethe home, with the introduction
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of school systems who sawthemselves as the bridge between
families, which was a huge lie,giving up our parental rights
to let our schools shape ourfamily, our children's minds.
And, little by little, here weare today with a family
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absolutely disintegrated.
What did Billy Graham say?
When family is destroyed,society will eventually
disintegrate, and we are in realtime witnessing that
disintegration.
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Now I want to also talk aboutkarma.
You know the easiest way todescribe it without going into
the Hindu or Buddhist belief ofkarma and reincarnation and how
you repeat and repeat I'm notgoing to go there today but
karma, the basic way to believeit, would be what goes around,
comes around, cause and effect.
What you sow is what you'regoing to reap.
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Very true concepts.
And then I take you to the oldadage, which is also incredibly
true, that hurt people hurtpeople, and often it's without
even consciously being awarethat you're doing it.
I certainly was not aware thatas my children were growing up,
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I was emotionally neglectingthem as well.
Oh, and then you know, thepeople who want to destroy
family would say well, that'swhy you don't have multiple
children, because you know youcan't give them the attention
they need.
And these are all lies, youknow.
And and then there's the wholesociety that has walked away
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from the concept of honor yourfather and mother so that it
will go well with you.
And the scriptures that talkabout the things that will
happen when you don't honor yourparents.
And honoring your parentsdoesn't necessarily mean
believing everything that theybelieve, but it certainly means
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having a continual relationshipwith them.
And yes, there are very, verytoxic families.
But where does thedisintegration cease?
Where does it end?
Well, we're given an incredibleopportunity in today's world
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because of what is occurring onour planet right now, and I want
to refer to an awesomescripture.
Today is the 19th, and God ledme to Psalm 19 today and I want
to read just a few verses todescribe for you, in the
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awakening arena, in thisevolution, the biggest evolution
and energetic shift the planethas ever undergone.
I want to align scripture withthat shift in Psalm 19.
And it says this, and it saysthis the heavens and before I go
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further, I want to remind usearth is not it, folks.
God, our creator, is so muchbigger than just the earth, and
if we think earth is it, thenwe're pretty dang arrogant,
because he created all ofcreation and there are many,
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many, many galaxies that wecan't even see.
So when he is referring to theheavens, he's speaking of all of
it.
Right so?
The heavens declare the gloryof God.
The skies proclaim the work ofhis hands.
Day after day, they, theheavens, pour forth speech.
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Night after night, they displayknowledge.
There is no speech or languagewhere their voice is not heard.
Their voice goes out into allthe earth, their words to the
ends of the world.
Now, I want to just give you alittle detail about that,
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because all around you and I, heis speaking to us when we look
up at the sky, when we look atthe trees, when we feel the wind
, when we hear the waves of theocean, when we walk barefoot on
the grass, when we hear thebirds, when we hear the laughter
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of our children.
He is speaking to us and we arenot listening.
He is giving us everyopportunity, every day, to
notice him.
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So I continue and read a littlebit more from the Bible to show
you how it aligns with thisawakening journey.
We're on In the heavens.
He has pitched a tent for thesun, the Eshuen, which is like a
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bridegroom, coming forth fromhis pavilion, like a champion
rejoicing to run his course.
It rises at one end of theheavens and makes its circuit to
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the other.
Nothing is hidden from its heat.
That is the point that we're athumanity.
He is in his pavilion, he is God, is our bridegroom, and
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Christendom will continue to saythat Jesus is coming back, and
I happen to believe that he'sright within us and it's not his
job to come back.
When he came, we killed him.
If he came again today, don'tyou think that we would do the
same thing again?
And, oh my gosh, I would soundlike a heretic to many
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Christians, but I happen tobelieve that we are called to
work out our freedom, oursalvation, from the inside out.
He is raining down light andlove on this planet and nobody,
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nothing, is hidden from thepower of his love and light.
So, as all the darkness isrising up and might I remind us
that we already know the outcomeDarkness goes to the pit of
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hell forever and ever.
The devil goes to the pit ofhell forever and ever.
He's cast out, never to be seenagain.
So ultimately, you and I,humanity, we do win, but it is
our job to get back to beingChrist-like.
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He came and lived three yearson this planet to show us how
we're supposed to live.
He resurrected from the deadand stayed for 40 days to show
us all the power that we havewithin us.
Yes, to even walk through walls, like he did, and to rise into
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other dimensions.
Oh, and there are those in theChristian world that would say
Are you saying you're like God?
Yes, we were made in his exactimage and that is who we need to
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get back to.
And so, as this evolutioncontinues and light continues to
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get brighter and brighter onthe planet, we have these
cataclysmic events.
To what to further divide us?
No, in his mercy and grace, heis giving us opportunity after
opportunity to turn towards him,to turn towards each other, to
rectify all the karma.
Let's go back to karma for aminute.
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Do you think for a minute thatTeresa Marie, an ambassador of
his chi chi, being his very HolySpirit, the intrinsic life
force, energy that createdeverything, and we are all
ambassadors.
We all hold that spark of Godand we're all asked to share it,
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and that's what I do every timeI get behind this mic, I try to
share a little bit more, alittle bit more of God's love
throughout the these episodes.
I want to refer to what SriPrambaba said, and I quote in
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order to truly fulfill thepurpose of life, which is to
become what Conscious of oneness, we, millenniums ago, go back
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to the Garden of Eden.
We were one with everything.
Everything was bliss.
Bliss is where God lives Love,light, freedom from all that
disturbs us.
There is no division, there isno color, there is no right or
wrong, there is no black andwhite, there's no duality.
We are all connected and we areall one.
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And so, in order to trulyfulfill the purpose of our lives
, to truly fulfill the purposeof our lives, which is to become
conscious of oneness, baba sayswe must eradicate violence from
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our system Now we're talkingour personal system here right,
our temples, our body, minds andsoul Violence toward ourselves,
towards all beings, of allrealms.
And he says I am speaking ofthe violence rooted where, in
traumas, in shocks of pain, inour humiliations, our rejections
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, our exclusion that we haveexperienced throughout our life.
We are responsible to eradicateall of those.
So now let's roll back to thekarma.
So when I felt like my parentsemotionally neglected me now I
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did not recognize it as thatHeck.
You can look back at an episodeI was in my 60s before I was
probably 60 years old when Ifound the works of Joanie's I
can't remember her last name nowand she wrote the book about
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CEN child emotional neglect.
I didn't know that when I wasfive and six.
I just know that I felt lessthan I felt unseen, unseen and
unheard.
These are my childhood traumas.
And then what ended up happening?
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I took my traumas and, insteadof dealing with them, I went on.
I was a child, having children,I might add, because when you
have trauma as a child and it'sunresolved, you are emotionally,
spiritually and mentallystunted, stunted.
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And what do you do until youfigure that crap out?
I replicated the same way thatI saw growing up and I
unconsciously emotionallyneglected my children.
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And now here I am.
Now, mind you, as I said earlierin the show, I checked out when
I was 12.
I left my family home when Iwas 18 years old, put my thumb
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out on the Brooklyn Bridge and Iwent back to my family home six
times in 50 plus years Six.
I'm ashamed of that now, butthere is no shame and there is
no condemnation in God, so Ierase that statement that I just
made.
However, the karma I left andas a mom now I am experiencing
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the pain of children who choseto leave our family unit.
Now they haven't left.
They're always going to be partof our blood pool, right, but
for various different reasons.
Several of our children havesaid nope, I am choosing to step
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away, just like I did.
Karma's a bitch, folks, but younever realize that your choices
are always it may be 40 yearslater are always.
It may be 40 years later, butyour choices are always going to
have an effect.
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The cause, your choice, theeffect, the result of that
choice.
It always catches up with you.
Do you understand that?
Now?
I understand the anguish andthe grief that I put my own mama
through exiting and not sayingwhere I was going, just leaving.
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All of a sudden I'm gone forthree or four months, no contact
.
I cannot imagine the grief Iput my mom through.
Oh, but yes, now I can, as youare blocked, as you are told
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that you don't want anyassociation because you don't
believe in XYZ, and you chooseto drop all contact.
I have one of my children,who's now a grown adult with
grown children, who'sexperiencing this and, as a mom,
watching my grandchildren gothrough the same things that I
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did and feeling powerless to doanything about it, it breaks
your heart.
It breaks your heart.
So all of the parents andgrandparents out there that have
watched their children andtheir grandchildren choose to
leave your family lineage, forwhatever reason, I feel you, I
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see you and I understand yourpain.
I see you and I understand yourpain.
Carolyn Myers said somethingthat I want to close on today,
and this is not meant to be abummer.
This is meant to be a wake-upcall.
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If you're a parent or agrandparent and have not begun
the process of working out yourown salvation, of sitting in
front of the mirror and workingon your own childhood traumas,
because they're not going awayuntil you deal with them.
You're not ever going to changeuntil you deal with them.
And then you know there's thisother piece.
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You begin to change, you beginto get healed, and what Carolyn
says is healing is, bydefinition, taking the process
of disintegration.
My life disintegrated when Ileft my family.
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Oh, there have been many upsand many mountaintop experiences
with God, but, honestly, mylife has been a struggle until
about 18 or 20 years ago when Ibegan down that path of
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realizing oh, it's me.
I need to figure out why I'munhappy, why I'm depressed, why
I'm angry, why I'm full ofanxiety.
And it's been a long, arduousjourney.
But now journey.
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But now people in today'ssociety have this wonderful
acceleration of love and light.
So, my 20-year process, which Iget freer and freer every day,
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you have the opportunity,humanityville, to step on that
process of disintegration.
And what does she say?
Healing is, by definition,taking the process of
disintegration of life andtransforming it into a process
of return to life.
That is our job.
And if you get on the train ofawakening, that train will take
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you back to life far quickerthan it did 20 years ago.
Mark my words.
How do I know that?
Because in the last two years,my awakening journey has been on
rocket fuel, my relationshipwith God Almighty on rocket fuel
, the healing of my traumas onrocket fuel.
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However, karma is still karmaand I'm still living in the pain
and anguish of watching andexperiencing some of my children
stepping away, just like I did,from my parents.
It doesn't matter to them thatI'm healed.
They don't even know how healedI am.
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They don't even know who I am.
Now I'm not the same mom thathurt them.
I'm not the same mom that theyknew two years ago.
I literally have children whodo not want to be around me
because I reconciled with myhusband, and I understand it,
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because my husband was acompletely different person two
years ago.
He was the person I didn't wantto be around.
But they don't want to evenenter into the arena of that
possibility, understandably,because they experienced a lot
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of hurt.
And so, as the light comes onand as we begin begin to change,
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and as we wake up and becomemore conscious and as our
energetic vibrational signaturebegins to rise, there are people
within our family that maybearen't there yet, and so we feel
even more of a division.
Well, how can you be so happyand you know it might be good
for you to, you know, do X, y, z, but I'm not feeling it.
And so what do we do?
We stand, we stand, and weremember that we are not victims
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.
We are victorious over all ofit.
We stand in the love and lightof God and we shine out.
And when we're triggered, welook at those triggers.
You know when somethingdisturbs your peace, when your
body gets tense, just like wetalked about in yesterday's
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episode, that's an indicator ofsomething that you need to deal
with.
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When I door dash and I drive into the very complex that one of
my children live in and cannotrun in and hug my youngest
grandbaby, it absolutely tearsme up and sometimes you might
see me on the road just cryingdown the road.
But you see, this mom knowsthat I have got to let that
adult child of mine figure itout on their own, just like I
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had to do.
Because, you see, just like I,I didn't want to hear anything
from my parents when I chose towalk away and I'm going to do my
own thing and I'm going to havemy own life.
And, oh, maybe every once in awhile I'll let you know what's
going on, but don't try toadvise me.
I'm a grown-ass adult.
I understand it, I completelyunderstand it, and now I
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understand fully how my mom anddad were saying.
You know, my mom used to sayTerry, you're just a bad picker
when it came to relationships.
And now, in retrospect, she'sgone, she's in heaven.
I can't even tell her.
You know what, mom, you wereright.
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And all that time I didn't havewith my family and my siblings
Because I chose to step away.
I chose my own way.
I chose to dishonor my mom fora lot of years, because to honor
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your father and mother means toat least have the respect to
keep them in your life.
My husband as well.
He left his family home inYakima, washington, and pretty
much never looked back.
He continued to visit his dad,but all of that support of his
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cousins and his siblings lost.
And now, in our late 50s andearly 60s, we recognize what
that did to our life trajectoryand we see the same thing that
our children and grandchildrenare choosing.
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And yet we know that we have tokeep our hands off and we pray
and we pray, and we pray forunity, and that they will
understand that this division isliterally by design, that the
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devil comes in to seek to divide, kill and destroy all life and
to resurrect life is up to us.
To come back to God is up to us.
It's a choice.
It's free will.
It's a choice, it's free will.
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Now, I happen to believe thatthere's going to be a huge split
.
There are going to be thosethat literally do go into the
fifth dimension and there aregoing to be those that decide
that they want to stay here induality, in the third dimension.
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This is what, like left behindis all about.
It's energetic folks, becausewhen it comes right down to it,
we are not this body, we are notthis mind, we're not the
emotion, we are pure energy, andthat's what we return to as
energy.
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How do you think people can beseen by others from the
afterlife?
It's because we literally willhave the ability to go from one
dimension to another, and I knowthat that's far-fetched for
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some other people, and I'm sorrythat you don't believe that yet
, but that's the truth.
And I'm sorry that you don'tbelieve that yet, but that's the
truth.
So, to all the parents out therethat are struggling today, I
want us to take heart and I wantus to take the reins of our
life back and if that is thecase and there are children that
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you gave birth to or raisedthat are alienating you right
now, know that your job is notto beg and plead.
Your job is to get on yourknees and pray for them and, yes
, reach out when you can.
But if they say I need thespace, then do them the honor
and respect of giving them thespace, even though your heart is
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breaking.
Let them evolve as well.
And in the meantime, you sit infront of that mirror and you,
if you, mind tracing is not fun,folks.
Mind tracing is not fun, folks,going back and looking at your
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life path and sitting with yourdecisions is painful.
I am very grateful that Ifinally shed the guilt and shame
that I carried most of my lifeabout my children, because I
know I made mistakes, but I amno longer under that shame and
guilt because there is thereforenow no condemnation for them
that are in Christ Jesus.
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Now I have been walking withthe Lord for well over 40 years,
but I still hung on to thatshame and guilt and I am
grateful that I was able, by thegrace of God, to release myself
from that, because if I wasn'table to detach from that shame
and guilt, right now, as mychildren are rising up and
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they're awakening and they'relooking at their childhood
traumas, they're doing exactlywhat I did.
They are looking right to me.
I'm the source, my husband'sthe source.
We're the source of the painand yes, we were.
And eventually they willrecognize that as they look
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through their life, theirchoices led them to where
they're at and they have to dealwith their childhood traumas.
And so I pray for the day andthe time where they come to us
and they say can we talk to youabout this particular situation
that happened when we were sixor when we were 12 or whatever,
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because all things can be workedout, but the society we live in
now, oh no, do your own thing,put your walls up.
People need to respect yourboundaries.
And what does that evoke?
It evokes the pain stayingwithin us, because you know
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folks, often you have to goright to the source and you have
to confront that pain.
And then you have to haveconversations that are awkward
and uncomfortable and wouldcause anger, and maybe you need
to take it in little bitty steps, but eventually you look at the
pain that was done to you andthe pain that you caused and you
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eradicated from your life.
That is where true life begins.
That is where true freedombegins.
So, to those of you that are inthe midst of the shame and guilt
of your parental mistakes, knowthat you had mistakes made to
you.
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Know that your children aregoing to make mistakes.
Know that your grandchildrenare going to make mistakes.
I have grandchildren that criedwhen I went into a church
service a church that they wereattending and said oh Grammy,
we're so glad to see you.
And in my spirit I'm breaking.
I'm thinking do you not evenknow who I am?
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Do you not know that I waspraying for you before you even
were in the womb of your moms,and that I've been walking with
God for longer than you've beenon the planet, been on the
planet?
But you see, they have quoteunquote divorced themselves from
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us.
They have no idea what goes onin the spirit realm of their
Grammy, and that isheartbreaking and I don't wish
it on anybody.
But yet this is what being humanis all about.
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God gave us the gift of comingdown in this duality and
experiencing every emotion, justlike he did.
It is our opportunity to actChrist-like in the midst of all
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the anguish, in the midst of allthe turmoil.
That is what we're called to do.
How about you?
How about you, humanity?
So pray for one another.
Seek love and light towardsanybody that you possibly can,
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especially if it's not beingreceived by your own children
and grandchildren.
Just keep on keeping on thatpath of awakening and coming
into full consciousness that weare all one, because if you
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don't do it, parents andgrandparents, how in the
freaking world are our childrenand grandchildren going to know
how to do it?
I love you, humanity, and Iknow you love your children and
grandchildren and they love you.
Just give them the space theyneed to work out their own
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salvation, need to work outtheir own salvation.
Have yourself a blessed weekendand love, love, love on
everybody you can.
Peace.
the basic unit of any society is the home, and when
the home begins to break,society is on the way to
complete disintegration.
And I want to welcome you backto this fantastical Friday of
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Free to Just Be, the podcastempowering humanity to
courageously step out of oldpatterns and matrix programming
and embrace a brand new way ofbeing programming and embrace a
brand new way of being, and Ihope this finds you in the
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greatest health today, withvibrant energy, because you have
chosen to accept the fullresponsibility for your body,
mind and soul.
Here on Free To Just Be, I'mgoing to attempt to inspire each
other to truly be who we camehere to be Authentic, free and
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aligned with our highestpotential.
Please hit the like button andshare it with somebody and join
us all on this transformativejourney to rewrite our
narratives and live lives ofpurpose and passion.
And today, today, it's a reallyhard episode for me and I'm
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going to try my best to hold ittogether and I want to dedicate
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this to all the and I understandin ways that I never wished I
did.
But I want to open today'sepisode regarding the family
with some statistics.
Do you know that today in oursociety, 1 million American
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children experience divorce eachyear.
31% of children under sixexperience divorce before
they're even fully emotionallydeveloped.
Let that sink in for a minute.
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Divorce brings in poor economicoutcomes and educational
outcomes, increased mentalhealth issues, and 3.2% of
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children are more likely toexperience anxiety and
depression because of it.
Only 42% of children age 14 to18 live in a first marriage
family.
Teen to 18 live in a firstmarriage family Today.
Statistically, politicalaffiliation is the most
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significant reason for familyestrangements.
One in two adults today isdivided from a close family
member.
One in five in today's societycite political views as a reason
.
These disconnects often involvesevering all communication,
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including through other familymembers, and blocking all social
media.
This has become most common inadults under 35, who now have
the tendency of prioritizingrelationships aligned with their
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beliefs above any ancestrallinks and to put their own
mental well-being and growthahead of any kind of family
objections.
Wow, I'm still just floored bythose statistics.
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And yet I am part of thosestatistics.
I am not one of those childrenthat experienced divorce ever.
My parents were married over 25years before my dad passed,
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before my dad passed, but I amone of those that was under 35
who decided that I didn't likethe way my family thought and so
I left.
So I am part of the statisticsas far as children go.
As far as children go Because Iliterally emotionally and
mentally checked out of myfamily when I was about 12.
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And after my dad passed, atabout 14, all I could think
about was getting away.
So I am definitely part ofthose statistics.
Now, if you would have told meback then that I would be a
statistic of one of the parentscompletely separated from some
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of their children, I wouldn'thave believed you.
Because you see, when I becamea parent, I was absolutely sure
and determined that I was notgoing to quote unquote, do what
I felt was done to me, which Ireiterate, and I've said many,
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many episodes prior that I knowthat my mom and dad love me, but
I did not realize that when Iwas growing up I was distanced
emotionally, I was emotionallyneglected.
I was the baby of six kids andwhatever the reasons, which I
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will never know, because I neverhad those conversations with my
mom and dad before they passed.
My dad was gone when I wasstill a child and my mom well, I
wasn't fully awakened to whatlife is really about before she
passed.
So I never had these questionsabout how they were raised and
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what caused them to beemotionally unavailable for me.
So I will never know theiractual reasons.
But if you look at the societalbreakdown and the attacks on the
family by those who are tryingto destroy us, especially here
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in America, and before I getinto the meat of this, I want to
highly suggest that if youdon't think that there is
actually a plan, a plot againstus that you can track, that you
can literally see through thecourse of history, then I highly
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suggest that you look up themovie, the documentary called
Beneath Sheep's Clothing, andyour mind will be blown.
Because when you see the factsand you see how much America is
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now literally playing out thepath of communism, oh you say
what?
What are you talking about?
We live in the freest nation inthe world?
Yes, we do currently, but, as Irefer many times to the
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proverbial pot of boiling frogs,we are reaching a critical mass
situation in our world and I'mnot here to push my own agenda.
I'm here to point out some factsand statistics, which I already
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did, but basically the reasonI'm here is to identify and
reach out to all the familymembers whose hearts are broken
because of this disintegration.
Broken doesn't even speak tothe pain of being separated from
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your family members.
It is a deep, deep anguish tobe abandoned by your own
children, to be abandoned byyour own children, because if
those of your own blood forsakeyou, you truly feel forsaken and
in recent days I was thinking,oh my God, I just how can my own
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creations, my own five childrenand then I have two beautiful
children from my husband thatI've known since they were four
and two, so I consider them mine.
How can my own creations notwant anything to do with me?
Is the question that manyparents ask, is the question
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that many parents ask.
And then I thought about my owncreator and how it just hit me
right in my heart how muchanguish God, our creator, must
truly feel when we turn our backon Him.
And in real time.
I can tell you that havingabout four of our seven children
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completely disconnect from usis absolutely heart-wrenching
and heartbreaking.
Disconnect from us isabsolutely heart-wrenching and
heartbreaking.
And what can we do about it?
We can try to keepcommunication going, but it
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becomes very, very difficultwhen our younger children as the
statistics stated, this is veryprevalent in adults 35 and
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younger.
And why is that?
Well, if you watch beneathsheep's clothing, you will
understand that, year after yearafter year, it's been coming
like a freight train that wejust didn't recognize, with the
introduction of two peoplehaving to work outside the home,
people having to work outsidethe home, with the introduction
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of school systems who sawthemselves as the bridge between
families, which was a huge lie,giving up our parental rights
to let our schools shape ourfamily, our children's minds.
And, little by little, here weare today with a family
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absolutely disintegrated.
What did Billy Graham say?
When family is destroyed,society will eventually
disintegrate, and we are in realtime witnessing that
disintegration.
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Now I want to also talk aboutkarma.
You know the easiest way todescribe it without going into
the Hindu or Buddhist belief ofkarma and reincarnation and how
you repeat and repeat I'm notgoing to go there today but
karma, the basic way to believeit, would be what goes around,
comes around, cause and effect.
What you sow is what you'regoing to reap.
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Very true concepts.
And then I take you to the oldadage, which is also incredibly
true, that hurt people hurtpeople, and often it's without
even consciously being awarethat you're doing it.
I certainly was not aware thatas my children were growing up,
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I was emotionally neglectingthem as well.
Oh, and then you know, thepeople who want to destroy
family would say well, that'swhy you don't have multiple
children, because you know youcan't give them the attention
they need.
And these are all lies, youknow.
And and then there's the wholesociety that has walked away
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from the concept of honor yourfather and mother so that it
will go well with you.
And the scriptures that talkabout the things that will
happen when you don't honor yourparents.
And honoring your parentsdoesn't necessarily mean
believing everything that theybelieve, but it certainly means
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having a continual relationshipwith them.
And yes, there are very, verytoxic families.
But where does thedisintegration cease?
Where does it end?
Well, we're given an incredibleopportunity in today's world
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because of what is occurring onour planet right now, and I want
to refer to an awesomescripture.
Today is the 19th, and God ledme to Psalm 19 today and I want
to read just a few verses todescribe for you, in the
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awakening arena, in thisevolution, the biggest evolution
and energetic shift the planethas ever undergone.
I want to align scripture withthat shift in Psalm 19.
And it says this, and it saysthis the heavens and before I go
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further, I want to remind usearth is not it, folks.
God, our creator, is so muchbigger than just the earth, and
if we think earth is it, thenwe're pretty dang arrogant,
because he created all ofcreation and there are many,
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many, many galaxies that wecan't even see.
So when he is referring to theheavens, he's speaking of all of
it.
Right so?
The heavens declare the gloryof God.
The skies proclaim the work ofhis hands.
Day after day, they, theheavens, pour forth speech.
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Night after night, they displayknowledge.
There is no speech or languagewhere their voice is not heard.
Their voice goes out into allthe earth, their words to the
ends of the world.
Now, I want to just give you alittle detail about that,
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because all around you and I, heis speaking to us when we look
up at the sky, when we look atthe trees, when we feel the wind
, when we hear the waves of theocean, when we walk barefoot on
the grass, when we hear thebirds, when we hear the laughter
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of our children.
He is speaking to us and we arenot listening.
He is giving us everyopportunity, every day, to
notice him.
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So I continue and read a littlebit more from the Bible to show
you how it aligns with thisawakening journey.
We're on In the heavens.
He has pitched a tent for thesun, the Eshuen, which is like a
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bridegroom, coming forth fromhis pavilion, like a champion
rejoicing to run his course.
It rises at one end of theheavens and makes its circuit to
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the other.
Nothing is hidden from its heat.
That is the point that we're athumanity.
He is in his pavilion, he is God, is our bridegroom, and
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Christendom will continue to saythat Jesus is coming back, and
I happen to believe that he'sright within us and it's not his
job to come back.
When he came, we killed him.
If he came again today, don'tyou think that we would do the
same thing again?
And, oh my gosh, I would soundlike a heretic to many
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Christians, but I happen tobelieve that we are called to
work out our freedom, oursalvation, from the inside out.
He is raining down light andlove on this planet and nobody,
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nothing, is hidden from thepower of his love and light.
So, as all the darkness isrising up and might I remind us
that we already know the outcomeDarkness goes to the pit of
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hell forever and ever.
The devil goes to the pit ofhell forever and ever.
He's cast out, never to be seenagain.
So ultimately, you and I,humanity, we do win, but it is
our job to get back to beingChrist-like.
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He came and lived three yearson this planet to show us how
we're supposed to live.
He resurrected from the deadand stayed for 40 days to show
us all the power that we havewithin us.
Yes, to even walk through walls, like he did, and to rise into
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other dimensions.
Oh, and there are those in theChristian world that would say
Are you saying you're like God?
Yes, we were made in his exactimage and that is who we need to
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get back to.
And so, as this evolutioncontinues and light continues to
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get brighter and brighter onthe planet, we have these
cataclysmic events.
To what to further divide us?
No, in his mercy and grace, heis giving us opportunity after
opportunity to turn towards him,to turn towards each other, to
rectify all the karma.
Let's go back to karma for aminute.
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Do you think for a minute thatTeresa Marie, an ambassador of
his chi chi, being his very HolySpirit, the intrinsic life
force, energy that createdeverything, and we are all
ambassadors.
We all hold that spark of Godand we're all asked to share it,
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and that's what I do every timeI get behind this mic, I try to
share a little bit more, alittle bit more of God's love
throughout the these episodes.
I want to refer to what SriPrambaba said, and I quote in
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order to truly fulfill thepurpose of life, which is to
become what Conscious of oneness, we, millenniums ago, go back
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to the Garden of Eden.
We were one with everything.
Everything was bliss.
Bliss is where God lives Love,light, freedom from all that
disturbs us.
There is no division, there isno color, there is no right or
wrong, there is no black andwhite, there's no duality.
We are all connected and we areall one.
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And so, in order to trulyfulfill the purpose of our lives
, to truly fulfill the purposeof our lives, which is to become
conscious of oneness, baba sayswe must eradicate violence from
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our system Now we're talkingour personal system here right,
our temples, our body, minds andsoul Violence toward ourselves,
towards all beings, of allrealms.
And he says I am speaking ofthe violence rooted where, in
traumas, in shocks of pain, inour humiliations, our rejections
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, our exclusion that we haveexperienced throughout our life.
We are responsible to eradicateall of those.
So now let's roll back to thekarma.
So when I felt like my parentsemotionally neglected me now I
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did not recognize it as thatHeck.
You can look back at an episodeI was in my 60s before I was
probably 60 years old when Ifound the works of Joanie's I
can't remember her last name nowand she wrote the book about
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CEN child emotional neglect.
I didn't know that when I wasfive and six.
I just know that I felt lessthan I felt unseen, unseen and
unheard.
These are my childhood traumas.
And then what ended up happening?
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I took my traumas and, insteadof dealing with them, I went on.
I was a child, having children,I might add, because when you
have trauma as a child and it'sunresolved, you are emotionally,
spiritually and mentallystunted, stunted.
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And what do you do until youfigure that crap out?
I replicated the same way thatI saw growing up and I
unconsciously emotionallyneglected my children.
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And now here I am.
Now, mind you, as I said earlierin the show, I checked out when
I was 12.
I left my family home when Iwas 18 years old, put my thumb
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out on the Brooklyn Bridge and Iwent back to my family home six
times in 50 plus years Six.
I'm ashamed of that now, butthere is no shame and there is
no condemnation in God, so Ierase that statement that I just
made.
However, the karma I left andas a mom now I am experiencing
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the pain of children who choseto leave our family unit.
Now they haven't left.
They're always going to be partof our blood pool, right, but
for various different reasons.
Several of our children havesaid nope, I am choosing to step
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away, just like I did.
Karma's a bitch, folks, but younever realize that your choices
are always it may be 40 yearslater are always.
It may be 40 years later, butyour choices are always going to
have an effect.
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The cause, your choice, theeffect, the result of that
choice.
It always catches up with you.
Do you understand that?
Now?
I understand the anguish andthe grief that I put my own mama
through exiting and not sayingwhere I was going, just leaving.
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All of a sudden I'm gone forthree or four months, no contact
.
I cannot imagine the grief Iput my mom through.
Oh, but yes, now I can, as youare blocked, as you are told
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that you don't want anyassociation because you don't
believe in XYZ, and you chooseto drop all contact.
I have one of my children,who's now a grown adult with
grown children, who'sexperiencing this and, as a mom,
watching my grandchildren gothrough the same things that I
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did and feeling powerless to doanything about it, it breaks
your heart.
It breaks your heart.
So all of the parents andgrandparents out there that have
watched their children andtheir grandchildren choose to
leave your family lineage, forwhatever reason, I feel you, I
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see you and I understand yourpain.
I see you and I understand yourpain.
Carolyn Myers said somethingthat I want to close on today,
and this is not meant to be abummer.
This is meant to be a wake-upcall.
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If you're a parent or agrandparent and have not begun
the process of working out yourown salvation, of sitting in
front of the mirror and workingon your own childhood traumas,
because they're not going awayuntil you deal with them.
You're not ever going to changeuntil you deal with them.
And then you know there's thisother piece.
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You begin to change, you beginto get healed, and what Carolyn
says is healing is, bydefinition, taking the process
of disintegration.
My life disintegrated when Ileft my family.
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Oh, there have been many upsand many mountaintop experiences
with God, but, honestly, mylife has been a struggle until
about 18 or 20 years ago when Ibegan down that path of
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realizing oh, it's me.
I need to figure out why I'munhappy, why I'm depressed, why
I'm angry, why I'm full ofanxiety.
And it's been a long, arduousjourney.
But now journey.
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But now people in today'ssociety have this wonderful
acceleration of love and light.
So, my 20-year process, which Iget freer and freer every day,
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you have the opportunity,humanityville, to step on that
process of disintegration.
And what does she say?
Healing is, by definition,taking the process of
disintegration of life andtransforming it into a process
of return to life.
That is our job.
And if you get on the train ofawakening, that train will take
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you back to life far quickerthan it did 20 years ago.
Mark my words.
How do I know that?
Because in the last two years,my awakening journey has been on
rocket fuel, my relationshipwith God Almighty on rocket fuel
, the healing of my traumas onrocket fuel.
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However, karma is still karmaand I'm still living in the pain
and anguish of watching andexperiencing some of my children
stepping away, just like I did,from my parents.
It doesn't matter to them thatI'm healed.
They don't even know how healedI am.
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They don't even know who I am.
Now I'm not the same mom thathurt them.
I'm not the same mom that theyknew two years ago.
I literally have children whodo not want to be around me
because I reconciled with myhusband, and I understand it,
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because my husband was acompletely different person two
years ago.
He was the person I didn't wantto be around.
But they don't want to evenenter into the arena of that
possibility, understandably,because they experienced a lot
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of hurt.
And so, as the light comes onand as we begin begin to change,
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and as we wake up and becomemore conscious and as our
energetic vibrational signaturebegins to rise, there are people
within our family that maybearen't there yet, and so we feel
even more of a division.
Well, how can you be so happyand you know it might be good
for you to, you know, do X, y, z, but I'm not feeling it.
And so what do we do?
We stand, we stand, and weremember that we are not victims
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.
We are victorious over all ofit.
We stand in the love and lightof God and we shine out.
And when we're triggered, welook at those triggers.
You know when somethingdisturbs your peace, when your
body gets tense, just like wetalked about in yesterday's
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episode, that's an indicator ofsomething that you need to deal
with.
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When I door dash and I drive into the very complex that one of
my children live in and cannotrun in and hug my youngest
grandbaby, it absolutely tearsme up and sometimes you might
see me on the road just cryingdown the road.
But you see, this mom knowsthat I have got to let that
adult child of mine figure itout on their own, just like I
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had to do.
Because, you see, just like I,I didn't want to hear anything
from my parents when I chose towalk away and I'm going to do my
own thing and I'm going to havemy own life.
And, oh, maybe every once in awhile I'll let you know what's
going on, but don't try toadvise me.
I'm a grown-ass adult.
I understand it, I completelyunderstand it, and now I
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understand fully how my mom anddad were saying.
You know, my mom used to sayTerry, you're just a bad picker
when it came to relationships.
And now, in retrospect, she'sgone, she's in heaven.
I can't even tell her.
You know what, mom, you wereright.
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And all that time I didn't havewith my family and my siblings
Because I chose to step away.
I chose my own way.
I chose to dishonor my mom fora lot of years, because to honor
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your father and mother means toat least have the respect to
keep them in your life.
My husband as well.
He left his family home inYakima, washington, and pretty
much never looked back.
He continued to visit his dad,but all of that support of his
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cousins and his siblings lost.
And now, in our late 50s andearly 60s, we recognize what
that did to our life trajectoryand we see the same thing that
our children and grandchildrenare choosing.
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And yet we know that we have tokeep our hands off and we pray
and we pray, and we pray forunity, and that they will
understand that this division isliterally by design, that the
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devil comes in to seek to divide, kill and destroy all life and
to resurrect life is up to us.
To come back to God is up to us.
It's a choice.
It's free will.
It's a choice, it's free will.
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Now, I happen to believe thatthere's going to be a huge split
.
There are going to be thosethat literally do go into the
fifth dimension and there aregoing to be those that decide
that they want to stay here induality, in the third dimension.
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This is what, like left behindis all about.
It's energetic folks, becausewhen it comes right down to it,
we are not this body, we are notthis mind, we're not the
emotion, we are pure energy, andthat's what we return to as
energy.
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How do you think people can beseen by others from the
afterlife?
It's because we literally willhave the ability to go from one
dimension to another, and I knowthat that's far-fetched for
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some other people, and I'm sorrythat you don't believe that yet
, but that's the truth.
And I'm sorry that you don'tbelieve that yet, but that's the
truth.
So, to all the parents out therethat are struggling today, I
want us to take heart and I wantus to take the reins of our
life back and if that is thecase and there are children that
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you gave birth to or raisedthat are alienating you right
now, know that your job is notto beg and plead.
Your job is to get on yourknees and pray for them and, yes
, reach out when you can.
But if they say I need thespace, then do them the honor
and respect of giving them thespace, even though your heart is
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breaking.
Let them evolve as well.
And in the meantime, you sit infront of that mirror and you,
if you, mind tracing is not fun,folks.
Mind tracing is not fun, folks,going back and looking at your
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life path and sitting with yourdecisions is painful.
I am very grateful that Ifinally shed the guilt and shame
that I carried most of my lifeabout my children, because I
know I made mistakes, but I amno longer under that shame and
guilt because there is thereforenow no condemnation for them
that are in Christ Jesus.
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Now I have been walking withthe Lord for well over 40 years,
but I still hung on to thatshame and guilt and I am
grateful that I was able, by thegrace of God, to release myself
from that, because if I wasn'table to detach from that shame
and guilt, right now, as mychildren are rising up and
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they're awakening and they'relooking at their childhood
traumas, they're doing exactlywhat I did.
They are looking right to me.
I'm the source, my husband'sthe source.
We're the source of the painand yes, we were.
And eventually they willrecognize that as they look
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through their life, theirchoices led them to where
they're at and they have to dealwith their childhood traumas.
And so I pray for the day andthe time where they come to us
and they say can we talk to youabout this particular situation
that happened when we were sixor when we were 12 or whatever,
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because all things can be workedout, but the society we live in
now, oh no, do your own thing,put your walls up.
People need to respect yourboundaries.
And what does that evoke?
It evokes the pain stayingwithin us, because you know
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folks, often you have to goright to the source and you have
to confront that pain.
And then you have to haveconversations that are awkward
and uncomfortable and wouldcause anger, and maybe you need
to take it in little bitty steps, but eventually you look at the
pain that was done to you andthe pain that you caused and you
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eradicated from your life.
That is where true life begins.
That is where true freedombegins.
So, to those of you that are inthe midst of the shame and guilt
of your parental mistakes, knowthat you had mistakes made to
you.
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Know that your children aregoing to make mistakes.
Know that your grandchildrenare going to make mistakes.
I have grandchildren that criedwhen I went into a church
service a church that they wereattending and said oh Grammy,
we're so glad to see you.
And in my spirit I'm breaking.
I'm thinking do you not evenknow who I am?
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Do you not know that I waspraying for you before you even
were in the womb of your moms,and that I've been walking with
God for longer than you've beenon the planet, been on the
planet?
But you see, they have quoteunquote divorced themselves from
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us.
They have no idea what goes onin the spirit realm of their
Grammy, and that isheartbreaking and I don't wish
it on anybody.
But yet this is what being humanis all about.
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God gave us the gift of comingdown in this duality and
experiencing every emotion, justlike he did.
It is our opportunity to actChrist-like in the midst of all
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the anguish, in the midst of allthe turmoil.
That is what we're called to do.
How about you?
How about you, humanity?
So pray for one another.
Seek love and light towardsanybody that you possibly can,
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especially if it's not beingreceived by your own children
and grandchildren.
Just keep on keeping on thatpath of awakening and coming
into full consciousness that weare all one, because if you
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don't do it, parents andgrandparents, how in the
freaking world are our childrenand grandchildren going to know
how to do it?
I love you, humanity, and Iknow you love your children and
grandchildren and they love you.
Just give them the space theyneed to work out their own
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salvation, need to work outtheir own salvation.
Have yourself a blessed weekendand love, love, love on
everybody you can.
Peace.
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