FreedHearts

We hear this question a lot lately: How do we Save America?

Whispered in grief and shouted in frustration.

From parents afraid for their trans kids, from exhausted teachers, from faith leaders trying to hold shattered communities together.

We hear it from the hearts of people who love this country—not so much for what it has been, but for what it could be.

Saving America is not about taking it...

Just Rob today - in time for Father’s Day - with a very special episode talking to Dads. But this is good for all parents, for LGBTQ+ kids, for allies. It helps us better understand and support.

So, Dads, your child is gay or bisexual or transgender. Your love for your child seems to somehow conflict with your faith - at least according to what you may hear from Christian friends.

Like it or not, you are on this ...

June is Pride Month—a time dedicated not just to parades and rainbow flags but to profound affirmation and resistance against discrimination.

The skewed Christian view of pride involves a self-centered attitude, placing oneself above others and, most critically, above God. But the LGBTQ+ community is not declaring themselves above anyone else.

Pride Month was born from a necessity to stand against oppression and c...

I know you feel it. So much fear. So much worry. We see it everywhere, we see it in our own family.

Many are considering whether to stay in their state, or even stay in the country. Or whether it is time to go.

We asked several people we respect in this community about the topic and their answers could not be more varied.

Beloved, what is the right thing to do for your own safety, for those you love, for ...

Your child says, “Mom, I’m Gay!”

You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can't. Your child is gay or bisexual or transgender. This goes against everything you've been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.

When you become a parent, you know to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can prepare them to hear ...

We heard from a Mom who loves her daughter but does not accept her being gay, understanding but not really understanding, embracing but letting her daughter know she does not approve.

And this Mom could not understand why that was wrong, and why her heart need to be set free.

She represents many on this journey of deconstruction who are in limbo – so overwhelmed by the voices coming from the church, Christian frie...

Today, a beautiful episode focused on Moms.

Mother’s Day will come and go. Maybe you’ll do brunch with family, get a call from the kids, maybe open a card or a present. Or not. 

If you get a card, it is quite likely that reading those words of appreciation will bring simultaneous joy and guilt! 

Seems to be the nature of motherhood.

Sit with me… I would like to talk with you today as a Mom.

Send u...

With all that has been going on to attack, condemn, and erase our precious transgender community, we thought it was the perfect time for this. 

In this very special, intimate episode, we share something that came from a mom of transgender daughter.

She wrote it for her pastor, for anyone, who is trying to sort out transgender, gender nonconforming, nonbinary—trying to understand what transgender people and their families go through.

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Today, we continue to focus on the transgender community with an encore broadcast of a very popular FreedHearts Podcast episode from January 2022. 

Our trans children, family members and friends are beautiful. And beloved. Living their authentic lives.

Oh my goodness, that is an amazing truth. Amazing stories. Amazing beauty. 

False teachings, binary thinking, denial can cause us to miss it all – and cause great harm to those we love.

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Christians mistakenly suggest that if you take the Bible seriously, you must stand against the existence – as well as the health and even humanity of transgender people.

Actually, the OPPOSITE is true!

In this episode, we talk about how the Bible AFFIRMS transgender and gender non-conforming people. And, how misinterpretations and binary thinking cause people to follow false teachings that are causing so much harm, especially today! 

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These past few months have resulted in some deep wounds – often from people that are, or used to be very close to us. We have been told that we should not hold a grudge, that we should let go of everything. But I think we are missing a bigger truth. Could it be that it’s good to hold a grudge?

We don’t want to walk around with resentment, or unforgiveness, because that only hurts us, as we know. So, how could holding a gru...

Jesus and Christianity and Church.  We link those three together but the truth is that to do so has no basis in history, no basis in theology, certainly no basis in today’s non-affirming, rules-based, behavior-focused, hyper-political religion.

Jesus is a great mascot. But Beloved, it’s a bait and switch!

Jesus would be considered unChristian by the Christian church. And the church would be considered unChristlike...

We get caught up in social media. Doomscrolling, fear scrolling, just scrolling to find a glimmer of hope and good news.
 
We all know the feeling: you see something infuriating and, before you can stop yourself, you’re pounding the keys, firing off a post that will change the world, or at least change someone’s mind.
 
Anyone else do that?

But, honestly, here’s the thing: posting on social media probabl...

On this deconstruction journey, we have unclobbered the Scripture that is falsely taught to condemn LGBTQ+ and same-sex relationships.

We have exposed false teachings that are used for religious manipulation.

And we recently addressed the big one: the myth and false teaching of hell!

It’s a lot, and it rattles the core of our theology – but in the most wonderful way. We opened the box we had God in and ...

Has the world gone crazy? Has this country gone crazy? Feels like it for sure.

Do you feel like maybe you’re crazy busy, stressed and overwhelmed? Yeah, me too.

We talked about everything that is happening – the news and developments we are being bombarded with.  Coming at us so fast it’s hard to process it all. Which we pointed out is by design.

And all the gaslighting when we confront things out and f...

Beloved, hear me: You are not imagining things!

When you see executive orders, policies, rollbacks, hate-filled rhetoric, & you feel that gut-punch of fear — it’s real. When your heart aches because you see rights stripped away, protections dismantled, & lives put at risk — it’s not in your head.

And yet, when we speak up, we are dismissed, laughed at, and told that we are overreacting. It’s a deliberate a...

We wake up to news, breaking stories happen throughout the day, the barrage of executive orders and developments seem never-ending.

It can easily be overwhelming. Anybody feel that way?

Beloved, that actually may be their goal.

Today, we talk about what is happening in our country right now, how it’s making us feel, and what we can do about all of this to not lose hope, to care for ourselves and to care ...

We recently came through the holidays. Has anyone ever been uninvited to a family gathering? We have.

Well, Spring is coming, maybe you have a wedding on the calendar?

So, today, we flip the script and talk about YOUR special events… a birthday celebration, wedding, family reunion, graduation.

And we ask the questions: Are there people we HAVE to invite?  How do we handle that and how do we balance it a...

How much do you have to listen to someone who wants to tell you how to live and what you’re doing wrong, and if you’d just follow their advice you’d be good? Not much!

Have you heard the phrase “iron sharpens iron” as a justification for someone telling you everything that is wrong with you?

Or have you ever been part of a religious “accountability” group? Same thing -- someone who feels that they have the duty t...