January 18, 2025 • 16 mins
What happens when you let play guide your journey to success?
Join us as we sit with the inspiring Estrella, who shares how embracing spontaneity and joy can lead to profound personal and professional growth. With heartfelt stories, Estrella takes us through her experiences with the Go Abroad Foundation's impactful work in Zambia and the Philippines, and how a serendipitous opportunity helped her fulfill a personal dream. This episode is a testament to the magic of organic opportunities and the power of supporting grassroots initiatives that bring about meaningful change.
Estrella Quiroz
- Email: estrella@lastfarewells.com
- Website: http://www.lastfarewells.com/
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How often do we let expectations cloud our happiness? Reflect on this and more as Estrella reveals how a transformative journey with a somatic coach taught her to embrace the process over the outcome, alleviating stress and nurturing joy. From asking whether current struggles will matter in five years to celebrating a sunrise birthday in pure tranquility, Estrella's insights offer a fresh perspective on decision-making. Discover the liberating concept that "you get to decide" and learn to cultivate a mindset of non-attachment—one that encourages living in the moment and making conscious choices amidst life's chaos.
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Voiceover (00:03):
Tales from the wild, stories from the heart.
A journey into the mind andsoul of fired up business
professionals, where they sharetheir vision for the future and
hear from a different non-profitorganization every month as
they create awareness of theirgoals and their needs.
Dive into a world of untamedpassion as we join our host,
(00:27):
Shireen Botha, for this month'sepisode of Friends from Wild
Places.
Estrella Quiroz (00:38):
It's that I'm sure.
Tanya, you've done so much workwith the program here in
Miami-Dade and you've constantlynavigated transitions.
How are you?
Are you making room for joy?
Tanya Scotece (00:48):
Oh, every day, every day, yes, yes, yes.
So my verb is I would say Iinspire, I aspire to inspire,
and even on my LinkedIn post,it's always, like you know,
chasing glitter, inspirationalleadership.
Those are my, those are my hubvery close to me, where I stay
very close in sparking joy and,you know, really trying to hone
(01:11):
in on everyone's talents right,everyone has them, everyone has
gifts and really trying toutilize the gifts to fuel what
they want to do.
So I think, when we go back toand I think you know it's funny
as, as you know, we evolve inage and maturity any type of
workshop professional workshop,women's workshop they always
(01:33):
default to play.
Right, that's the key thing todefault to play.
And I think we need to spendmore time in play and really
manifesting that magic yeah, Ilove it.
Estrella Quiroz (01:45):
Yeah, I'm tired .
You know, like I say, like I Ican, I can be independent.
I've traveled the world alonebut to be honest, I'm tired I
just want to have fun, I want tobe taken care of.
I want, and in my personal life.
But in professional life I wantit to be too like.
I want these opportunities tojust come to me.
I don't want to go out and askin a cold email and ask that's a
(02:06):
lot of energy.
Shireen Botha (02:09):
Yeah, I love that .
Thank you so much, ladies,should we go into the nonprofit?
Let's chat about our nonprofitwe're going to support for the
month.
So, as you know, friends fromall places, listeners, we
absolutely love to support anonprofit for the entire month,
month of this series, which is aseries of three episodes.
(02:29):
Uh, so this month we're goingto be doing go abroadorg.
That's go abroadorg.
Uh, the go abroad foundationwas created to support
grassroots organizations.
I'm going.
This is a organization thatEstrella has brought to our
attention.
So please, estrella, share withus a little bit about what this
(02:54):
nonprofit does and how we canhelp this nonprofit.
Estrella Quiroz (02:58):
Yeah, of course .
So the Go Abroad Foundation isactually my co-founder is the
owner of goabroadcom, but healso created a foundation called
the Go Broad Foundation, whichI used to do some work for a few
years ago.
But.
I want to side note on who myco-founder is.
He looks like Santa Claus.
He's like this 59-year-old man,but the first time I ever had
(03:21):
lunch with him, he was my CEOand I was an intern and he took
me out to lunch.
That's where I told him aboutmy dad and I told him my dream
was to go back to Nicaragua andget my dad a gravestone made,
because when he died there wasno name.
You wouldn't know it was him.
You didn't know this was wherehe was buried.
And I told him that was mydream.
(03:49):
He does like I said.
He does things when he doesn'thave to do things.
The amount of people he'simpacted around the world.
He's truly one of the mostincredible businessmen, but also
like philanthropists in general.
So he created the Go AbroadFoundation and so when I was
kicking things off with AsparWells, we were using our
Filipino developers.
So I went to go live in thePhilippines for the first summer
(04:09):
and there I was able to also goin to see the work that the Go
Abroad Foundation is doing with,with just the for water, for
educating women, so that a lotof their programs I can't even
put it into like it's onespecific thing they're doing,
but they create programs inplaces of need in Zambia, in a
(04:35):
lot of places in Africa andespecially in the Philippines,
where I saw it firsthand on howthey were helping with the
families and I was with the kidsand we were doing dances, and
so, yeah, the Go AbroadFoundation I just think they
like to fill the gaps where theysee them and they do things, to
do things not because they haveto, because they want to make
an impact.
So it's always been a specialplace in my heart because it's
(04:55):
one.
It's tied to my own co-founderwho completely changed my life
with the opportunities he'sgiven me to go back to my dad,
but even to trust me with LastFarewells, which is he had this
idea back in the 80s, back whenhe's like let's hold on to
people's letters and keep it ina vault.
This is something he's beenwanting to see now for 40 years
(05:15):
and he's entrusted me with it,with this legacy project.
So, yeah, I would say the GoBroad Foundation is not just
special because of the projectsthat they do, but because of the
people who run it, and they runit with so much heart and yeah,
that's all I have to say aboutit Amazing, amazing.
Shireen Botha (05:34):
How can we support them?
Is there ways Can we donate, oris there other ways we can?
Estrella Quiroz (05:40):
help.
Yeah, there's ways to donate onthe button on goabroadorg slash
projects, but honestly, I thinkeven just following them on the
Instagram account, I think itjust helps so people can just be
more aware of the projects thatare being done.
That way, they couldpotentially even be considered
to, you know, make donations,like if you know someone who
makes donations in the future.
(06:00):
So they're GA underscorefoundation on Instagram and,
yeah, they, just like I said,they partner with a lot of small
grassroots organizations aroundthe world in the Philippines,
zambia, uganda and I believethey're a 501c3 nonprofit.
Shireen Botha (06:14):
So yeah, Well, thank you very much, Estrella.
We have come to almost the endof the podcast.
We're going to do something alittle bit more light-hearted
just to end it off, uh.
But thank you, ladies.
You are both being such awonderful light today and I
(06:35):
appreciate both of you andaustralia for being our guest.
But let's just, as I said,something lighthearted.
Let's share what is one of thebest advice that we've ever
gotten.
What is one of the best piecesof advice that we've ever gotten
?
Tanya, you want to start, sure,so?
Tanya Scotece (07:00):
I think one of the, the one that resonates the
most is, whatever struggle weare facing, when you I've heard
the phrase saying, will thismatter to you in five years?
Right, like as much as we'refeeling emotion about that topic
, maybe in the moment or today,or, you know, ruminating on it,
you know like it's stressing usout, ruminating on it, you know
(07:25):
like it's stressing us out, andif you just really ask yourself,
you know, will this matter infive years?
It was very powerful.
So I think that, for me, is themost telltale yeah wow, how
about you, estrella?
Estrella Quiroz (07:37):
um, mine is.
I had a somatic coach therapist.
She changed my life, but mybiggest takeaway from her was
practicing that we shouldpractice non-attachment, which
is hard for someone who feelsattached to everything
experiences, people, memories,photos on my phone but creating
(07:57):
a state of mind where we don'tcling on to anything.
And I think that can be said inrelationships and in jobs and in
outcomes or desires, becausewhen we stop clinging on, we're
able to kind of enjoy thatprocess more.
And that has been so true inentrepreneurship millionaire or
they could put me somewhereright, I don't cling onto that,
uh, but I'm.
(08:17):
It causes me more now to bemore in the process of creating
um and how in my day-to-day Ican elicit more joy, um, through
this non-attachment practice,but also like in my personal
relationships as well, um, Ithink that's.
That's definitely beensomething that is really hard to
(08:40):
do, uh, but it's.
It's a really good practicewhen you can start practicing it
and, like I said, you justdon't expect anything, which is
like we should have standardsthough boundaries, not not the
point, but like still, like it'sjust yeah, I think more things,
more beautiful things can comeout when we have our the least
expectations.
Tanya Scotece (08:59):
I, you know, it's so funny history.
I love the phrase where theysay or I don't know, I heard it,
or maybe I don't know, I don'tthink I made it up, but it's
like expectation is the root ofall evil.
Right, expectation is the rootof all evil.
And it's true.
Because we set our.
We can set ourselves up forsuch disappointment if we have
an attachment to an outcome oran expectation of what's
supposed to happen, or adisappointment.
(09:20):
So when it's conditional and Iknow there's a lot of different
modalities out there the onethat you're describing that you
worked with, you know, with yourperson was it a specific method
or was it something collectivethat this person had created?
Estrella Quiroz (09:34):
It was.
It was collective.
So, yeah, so somatic therapy inthe sense of we just worked a
lot on like the body's traumaand releasing and screaming.
But non-attachment was just thetheory that she wanted me to
apply more and journal about andsee the areas where I was, you
know, very like, especially inrelationships.
I was very attached to oneperson and that really affected
me everywhere else.
(09:54):
But, yeah, yeah, last month Itold you guys my sunrise
birthday party.
I literally said if I'm goingto stress about this, it's
canceled.
There's a zero stress policy onmy end and on my guest end.
If people are going to comewith not good energy because
it's six in the morning, thenplease don't come.
I even said it's a zero stresspolicy.
If this is not for you, do notforce it.
And I came with the expectationthat I don't care if it's just
(10:16):
me dancing by myself, I'm goingto have the most fun I've ever
had.
And from that 70, 70 peoplecame 65 people, but no
expectations.
I was ready for just one person, which is me, and I knew I was
going to have a good time andthat that mindset shift and also
like not trying to stress forother people and plan things for
other people to have fun.
I've always done that inbirthdays and I made it very
(10:37):
clear this year that I'm if it's, if it's stressful to plan this
for other people, then it's notfun anymore.
I can only create this if I'mhaving fun for myself, because
then it defeats the purpose oftrying to create a special
moment, right, and then you'rejust worried about everybody
else having fun.
It doesn't make sense.
Tanya Scotece (10:51):
Yeah, it reminds me of like.
One of my favorite books is theBody Keeps the Score.
I don't know if any, if eitherof you heard of it.
The Body Keeps the Score, whereit's like lock trauma and it's
just amazing.
And then there's another methodthat I was recently introduced
to, actually by PatriciaEspinosa, which was the Sedona
method, and the Sedona method isvery, very powerful where it's
(11:12):
having that non-attachment, andI don't, like Abraham Hicks
other modalities do it, but Ithink that is the goal is not to
have attachment to outcome, toto be able to live in the moment
, create joy and not be affectedof somebody's mood or how
they're going to respond or youknow what, what the, what the
disappointment may look like.
So, with no attachment, it'sfabulous, you know.
(11:34):
And how about you screen?
What about you?
You?
Shireen Botha (11:38):
know over over my entire life.
I think there's been a coupleof different, really good pieces
of advice, but I think let's dothe one most recent that is
currently sticking in my headand what I'm living by right now
.
It's you get to decide.
Right, shireen?
What the hell?
What does that mean?
Right, you get to decide.
(11:59):
So life is full of decisions,right, we all know it.
Small decisions, big decisions,hard decisions, and I think when
we are covered with all thesedecisions that we need to make
wherever we turn, we get very,really, really overwhelmed and
we reach out to different folkfamily members great on, tessie,
(12:24):
um friends, best friends,pastors, our mentors.
We reach out to me, ask foradvice.
What should I do?
Where should I go?
I have no clue what to you knowwhat to decide in this decision
, and I think that you get todecide is ultimately what you
(12:45):
should be reverting back to.
After you've heard all yourpieces of advice from all your
mentors, you come back and youactually have to ask yourself
well, shireen, you get to decide.
This is your life, this is yourblank canvas.
You can splash it with whatevercolor comes out of.
(13:06):
You know the can of paints, andif you want to start painting
with blue and change halfwayinto a shocking green, and then
later purple and pink.
And you, it's your life.
You get to decide, and if lateryou change your mind and
realize, no, actually I want todo this, rather Do that, then
(13:27):
Change it.
You didn't waste your time.
There's no such thing as you'vemade the wrong choice.
There's no such thing as you'vewasted two years on a journey
that you started and you'drealize, no, I'm actually not
for this anymore.
That's not a waste of two years.
You've learned, you've grown,you've formed decisions about
yourself, you've made um leapsand bounds and and now you move
(13:52):
on to the next phase in lifethat will take you down a
different uh road.
So that's what that means to meis you get to decide right.
Okay, cool, I like that shireenyeah, I guess.
So I think.
Ladies, unfortunately I'm sosorry to tell you, but we've
(14:13):
come to the end of the podcast,so let's just take a few moments
and share with the listenerswhere they can find you, if they
were inspired by your story orthey have any questions, uh,
where they can actually reachout and get a hold of you.
Estrella Quiroz (14:26):
So we'll start with astrea yeah, so
lastworldscom, if you want totry last four walls.
But if you want to reach mepersonally, astrea, at last four
wallscom.
Um, I'm also, we're also oninstagram.
Um, I'm, I'm posting parts ofthe founder journey, parts of my
personal life fun on Instagram,just to have a good mix up.
(14:48):
But it's astrayq95 and then ourInstagram for Last Farewells is
lastfarewellsapp.
So, yeah, reach out please.
I would love to hear from y'all.
Shireen Botha (14:57):
Yes, Tanya where can we find?
Tanya Scotece (15:00):
you, yeah, so I live on LinkedIn.
It's my house.
You can find me on LinkedIn.
I.
I live on LinkedIn.
It's my house.
You can find me on LinkedIn.
I'm always on LinkedIn.
I love posting, sharing.
You know most most people knowme as the program coordinator
for Miami Dade College mortuaryprogram, so if anybody's
interested in a career change,learning more about the program
(15:20):
becoming a licensed funeraldirector in Balmer in Florida
feel free to definitely reachout to me.
So LinkedIn is my hub, love it,love it.
Shireen Botha (15:30):
Okay, so, shireen .
Well, shireen, you can find meon Shireen Botha, on most social
media handles and especially inthe business side of things,
it's LinkedIn.
Shireen's bookkeeping servicesis also there.
But you know, most importantly,friends from Wild Places does
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It's friendsfromwildplaces.
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(15:51):
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(16:13):
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Thanks so much for listeningand we'll see you next time.
(16:36):
And you got this.
Stay wild.
Bye, guys.
Voiceover (16:40):
You've been listening to Friends from Wild Places
with Shireen Botha.
Be sure to subscribe to thepodcast from the links to catch
every episode and unleash yourpassion.
Tales from the wild, stories from the heart.
A journey into the mind andsoul of fired up business
professionals, where they sharetheir vision for the future and
hear from a different non-profitorganization every month as
they create awareness of theirgoals and their needs.
Dive into a world of untamedpassion as we join our host,
(00:27):
Shireen Botha, for this month'sepisode of Friends from Wild
Places.
Estrella Quiroz (00:38):
It's that I'm sure.
Tanya, you've done so much workwith the program here in
Miami-Dade and you've constantlynavigated transitions.
How are you?
Are you making room for joy?
Tanya Scotece (00:48):
Oh, every day, every day, yes, yes, yes.
So my verb is I would say Iinspire, I aspire to inspire,
and even on my LinkedIn post,it's always, like you know,
chasing glitter, inspirationalleadership.
Those are my, those are my hubvery close to me, where I stay
very close in sparking joy and,you know, really trying to hone
(01:11):
in on everyone's talents right,everyone has them, everyone has
gifts and really trying toutilize the gifts to fuel what
they want to do.
So I think, when we go back toand I think you know it's funny
as, as you know, we evolve inage and maturity any type of
workshop professional workshop,women's workshop they always
(01:33):
default to play.
Right, that's the key thing todefault to play.
And I think we need to spendmore time in play and really
manifesting that magic yeah, Ilove it.
Estrella Quiroz (01:45):
Yeah, I'm tired .
You know, like I say, like I Ican, I can be independent.
I've traveled the world alonebut to be honest, I'm tired I
just want to have fun, I want tobe taken care of.
I want, and in my personal life.
But in professional life I wantit to be too like.
I want these opportunities tojust come to me.
I don't want to go out and askin a cold email and ask that's a
(02:06):
lot of energy.
Shireen Botha (02:09):
Yeah, I love that .
Thank you so much, ladies,should we go into the nonprofit?
Let's chat about our nonprofitwe're going to support for the
month.
So, as you know, friends fromall places, listeners, we
absolutely love to support anonprofit for the entire month,
month of this series, which is aseries of three episodes.
(02:29):
Uh, so this month we're goingto be doing go abroadorg.
That's go abroadorg.
Uh, the go abroad foundationwas created to support
grassroots organizations.
I'm going.
This is a organization thatEstrella has brought to our
attention.
So please, estrella, share withus a little bit about what this
(02:54):
nonprofit does and how we canhelp this nonprofit.
Estrella Quiroz (02:58):
Yeah, of course .
So the Go Abroad Foundation isactually my co-founder is the
owner of goabroadcom, but healso created a foundation called
the Go Broad Foundation, whichI used to do some work for a few
years ago.
But.
I want to side note on who myco-founder is.
He looks like Santa Claus.
He's like this 59-year-old man,but the first time I ever had
(03:21):
lunch with him, he was my CEOand I was an intern and he took
me out to lunch.
That's where I told him aboutmy dad and I told him my dream
was to go back to Nicaragua andget my dad a gravestone made,
because when he died there wasno name.
You wouldn't know it was him.
You didn't know this was wherehe was buried.
And I told him that was mydream.
(03:49):
He does like I said.
He does things when he doesn'thave to do things.
The amount of people he'simpacted around the world.
He's truly one of the mostincredible businessmen, but also
like philanthropists in general.
So he created the Go AbroadFoundation and so when I was
kicking things off with AsparWells, we were using our
Filipino developers.
So I went to go live in thePhilippines for the first summer
(04:09):
and there I was able to also goin to see the work that the Go
Abroad Foundation is doing with,with just the for water, for
educating women, so that a lotof their programs I can't even
put it into like it's onespecific thing they're doing,
but they create programs inplaces of need in Zambia, in a
(04:35):
lot of places in Africa andespecially in the Philippines,
where I saw it firsthand on howthey were helping with the
families and I was with the kidsand we were doing dances, and
so, yeah, the Go AbroadFoundation I just think they
like to fill the gaps where theysee them and they do things, to
do things not because they haveto, because they want to make
an impact.
So it's always been a specialplace in my heart because it's
(04:55):
one.
It's tied to my own co-founderwho completely changed my life
with the opportunities he'sgiven me to go back to my dad,
but even to trust me with LastFarewells, which is he had this
idea back in the 80s, back whenhe's like let's hold on to
people's letters and keep it ina vault.
This is something he's beenwanting to see now for 40 years
(05:15):
and he's entrusted me with it,with this legacy project.
So, yeah, I would say the GoBroad Foundation is not just
special because of the projectsthat they do, but because of the
people who run it, and they runit with so much heart and yeah,
that's all I have to say aboutit Amazing, amazing.
Shireen Botha (05:34):
How can we support them?
Is there ways Can we donate, oris there other ways we can?
Estrella Quiroz (05:40):
help.
Yeah, there's ways to donate onthe button on goabroadorg slash
projects, but honestly, I thinkeven just following them on the
Instagram account, I think itjust helps so people can just be
more aware of the projects thatare being done.
That way, they couldpotentially even be considered
to, you know, make donations,like if you know someone who
makes donations in the future.
(06:00):
So they're GA underscorefoundation on Instagram and,
yeah, they, just like I said,they partner with a lot of small
grassroots organizations aroundthe world in the Philippines,
zambia, uganda and I believethey're a 501c3 nonprofit.
Shireen Botha (06:14):
So yeah, Well, thank you very much, Estrella.
We have come to almost the endof the podcast.
We're going to do something alittle bit more light-hearted
just to end it off, uh.
But thank you, ladies.
You are both being such awonderful light today and I
(06:35):
appreciate both of you andaustralia for being our guest.
But let's just, as I said,something lighthearted.
Let's share what is one of thebest advice that we've ever
gotten.
What is one of the best piecesof advice that we've ever gotten
?
Tanya, you want to start, sure,so?
Tanya Scotece (07:00):
I think one of the, the one that resonates the
most is, whatever struggle weare facing, when you I've heard
the phrase saying, will thismatter to you in five years?
Right, like as much as we'refeeling emotion about that topic
, maybe in the moment or today,or, you know, ruminating on it,
you know like it's stressing usout, ruminating on it, you know
(07:25):
like it's stressing us out, andif you just really ask yourself,
you know, will this matter infive years?
It was very powerful.
So I think that, for me, is themost telltale yeah wow, how
about you, estrella?
Estrella Quiroz (07:37):
um, mine is.
I had a somatic coach therapist.
She changed my life, but mybiggest takeaway from her was
practicing that we shouldpractice non-attachment, which
is hard for someone who feelsattached to everything
experiences, people, memories,photos on my phone but creating
(07:57):
a state of mind where we don'tcling on to anything.
And I think that can be said inrelationships and in jobs and in
outcomes or desires, becausewhen we stop clinging on, we're
able to kind of enjoy thatprocess more.
And that has been so true inentrepreneurship millionaire or
they could put me somewhereright, I don't cling onto that,
uh, but I'm.
(08:17):
It causes me more now to bemore in the process of creating
um and how in my day-to-day Ican elicit more joy, um, through
this non-attachment practice,but also like in my personal
relationships as well, um, Ithink that's.
That's definitely beensomething that is really hard to
(08:40):
do, uh, but it's.
It's a really good practicewhen you can start practicing it
and, like I said, you justdon't expect anything, which is
like we should have standardsthough boundaries, not not the
point, but like still, like it'sjust yeah, I think more things,
more beautiful things can comeout when we have our the least
expectations.
Tanya Scotece (08:59):
I, you know, it's so funny history.
I love the phrase where theysay or I don't know, I heard it,
or maybe I don't know, I don'tthink I made it up, but it's
like expectation is the root ofall evil.
Right, expectation is the rootof all evil.
And it's true.
Because we set our.
We can set ourselves up forsuch disappointment if we have
an attachment to an outcome oran expectation of what's
supposed to happen, or adisappointment.
(09:20):
So when it's conditional and Iknow there's a lot of different
modalities out there the onethat you're describing that you
worked with, you know, with yourperson was it a specific method
or was it something collectivethat this person had created?
Estrella Quiroz (09:34):
It was.
It was collective.
So, yeah, so somatic therapy inthe sense of we just worked a
lot on like the body's traumaand releasing and screaming.
But non-attachment was just thetheory that she wanted me to
apply more and journal about andsee the areas where I was, you
know, very like, especially inrelationships.
I was very attached to oneperson and that really affected
me everywhere else.
(09:54):
But, yeah, yeah, last month Itold you guys my sunrise
birthday party.
I literally said if I'm goingto stress about this, it's
canceled.
There's a zero stress policy onmy end and on my guest end.
If people are going to comewith not good energy because
it's six in the morning, thenplease don't come.
I even said it's a zero stresspolicy.
If this is not for you, do notforce it.
And I came with the expectationthat I don't care if it's just
(10:16):
me dancing by myself, I'm goingto have the most fun I've ever
had.
And from that 70, 70 peoplecame 65 people, but no
expectations.
I was ready for just one person, which is me, and I knew I was
going to have a good time andthat that mindset shift and also
like not trying to stress forother people and plan things for
other people to have fun.
I've always done that inbirthdays and I made it very
(10:37):
clear this year that I'm if it's, if it's stressful to plan this
for other people, then it's notfun anymore.
I can only create this if I'mhaving fun for myself, because
then it defeats the purpose oftrying to create a special
moment, right, and then you'rejust worried about everybody
else having fun.
It doesn't make sense.
Tanya Scotece (10:51):
Yeah, it reminds me of like.
One of my favorite books is theBody Keeps the Score.
I don't know if any, if eitherof you heard of it.
The Body Keeps the Score, whereit's like lock trauma and it's
just amazing.
And then there's another methodthat I was recently introduced
to, actually by PatriciaEspinosa, which was the Sedona
method, and the Sedona method isvery, very powerful where it's
(11:12):
having that non-attachment, andI don't, like Abraham Hicks
other modalities do it, but Ithink that is the goal is not to
have attachment to outcome, toto be able to live in the moment
, create joy and not be affectedof somebody's mood or how
they're going to respond or youknow what, what the, what the
disappointment may look like.
So, with no attachment, it'sfabulous, you know.
(11:34):
And how about you screen?
What about you?
You?
Shireen Botha (11:38):
know over over my entire life.
I think there's been a coupleof different, really good pieces
of advice, but I think let's dothe one most recent that is
currently sticking in my headand what I'm living by right now
.
It's you get to decide.
Right, shireen?
What the hell?
What does that mean?
Right, you get to decide.
(11:59):
So life is full of decisions,right, we all know it.
Small decisions, big decisions,hard decisions, and I think when
we are covered with all thesedecisions that we need to make
wherever we turn, we get very,really, really overwhelmed and
we reach out to different folkfamily members great on, tessie,
(12:24):
um friends, best friends,pastors, our mentors.
We reach out to me, ask foradvice.
What should I do?
Where should I go?
I have no clue what to you knowwhat to decide in this decision
, and I think that you get todecide is ultimately what you
(12:45):
should be reverting back to.
After you've heard all yourpieces of advice from all your
mentors, you come back and youactually have to ask yourself
well, shireen, you get to decide.
This is your life, this is yourblank canvas.
You can splash it with whatevercolor comes out of.
(13:06):
You know the can of paints, andif you want to start painting
with blue and change halfwayinto a shocking green, and then
later purple and pink.
And you, it's your life.
You get to decide, and if lateryou change your mind and
realize, no, actually I want todo this, rather Do that, then
(13:27):
Change it.
You didn't waste your time.
There's no such thing as you'vemade the wrong choice.
There's no such thing as you'vewasted two years on a journey
that you started and you'drealize, no, I'm actually not
for this anymore.
That's not a waste of two years.
You've learned, you've grown,you've formed decisions about
yourself, you've made um leapsand bounds and and now you move
(13:52):
on to the next phase in lifethat will take you down a
different uh road.
So that's what that means to meis you get to decide right.
Okay, cool, I like that shireenyeah, I guess.
So I think.
Ladies, unfortunately I'm sosorry to tell you, but we've
(14:13):
come to the end of the podcast,so let's just take a few moments
and share with the listenerswhere they can find you, if they
were inspired by your story orthey have any questions, uh,
where they can actually reachout and get a hold of you.
Estrella Quiroz (14:26):
So we'll start with astrea yeah, so
lastworldscom, if you want totry last four walls.
But if you want to reach mepersonally, astrea, at last four
wallscom.
Um, I'm also, we're also oninstagram.
Um, I'm, I'm posting parts ofthe founder journey, parts of my
personal life fun on Instagram,just to have a good mix up.
(14:48):
But it's astrayq95 and then ourInstagram for Last Farewells is
lastfarewellsapp.
So, yeah, reach out please.
I would love to hear from y'all.
Shireen Botha (14:57):
Yes, Tanya where can we find?
Tanya Scotece (15:00):
you, yeah, so I live on LinkedIn.
It's my house.
You can find me on LinkedIn.
I.
I live on LinkedIn.
It's my house.
You can find me on LinkedIn.
I'm always on LinkedIn.
I love posting, sharing.
You know most most people knowme as the program coordinator
for Miami Dade College mortuaryprogram, so if anybody's
interested in a career change,learning more about the program
(15:20):
becoming a licensed funeraldirector in Balmer in Florida
feel free to definitely reachout to me.
So LinkedIn is my hub, love it,love it.
Shireen Botha (15:30):
Okay, so, shireen .
Well, shireen, you can find meon Shireen Botha, on most social
media handles and especially inthe business side of things,
it's LinkedIn.
Shireen's bookkeeping servicesis also there.
But you know, most importantly,friends from Wild Places does
have their own website.
It's friendsfromwildplaces.
buzzsprout.
com.
(15:51):
Once again, it's only $5 amonth subscription to hear all
the extra bonus content, thejuicy conversation that Tanya
and I go into.
So if you don't mind supportingus, we really enjoy what we're
doing and we're not making anymoney on this.
So it would be great.
(16:13):
If you guys feel in your heartsthat you would like to do that,
then please go ahead and dothat.
If not, that's also okay,because here we are creating a
safe space for entrepreneurs andbusiness owners anyway.
So leave a comment, subscribe,tell us what you think and
remember.
Thanks so much for listeningand we'll see you next time.
(16:36):
And you got this.
Stay wild.
Bye, guys.
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