The Friendship That Withstood Having “Nothing in Common Anymore" (Sher)

After years of friendship, Shasta and Sher found themselves in two completely different places: Sher was a stay-at-home mom, whereas Shasta didn’t have kids and was more focused on her career. Sher was married to a pastor, while Shasta was questioning church. Sher was more conservative-leaning, and Shasta was more liberal. The question arose: “If we met today, would we have become friends?” It’s a familiar experience—someone’s no longer single, or has kids, or switches jobs, or you’re just in different life stages. And you wonder, was that the only thing holding your friendship together? In today’s episode, Shasta and Sher discuss how they saved their friendship when they realized they had nothing in common anymore, why it was worth it, and the unlikely key to their survival.

In this episode, Shasta and Sher answer the questions:

• How can you revitalize a friendship that’s lost its shared interests or commonalities?
• How can having “nothing in common” actually benefit your friendship?
• Is it worth staying friends with someone you have nothing in common with anymore? Why?

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Resource Links:

• David Brooks’ book on feeling seen & seeing others: How to Know a Person
• Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability Quiz
  • Learn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness
• More of Shasta’s books on belongingness and human connection:
  • Friendships Don’t Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends
  • The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time
• Learn more about Shasta’s CoachingCircles

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